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In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect with their true selves. Christine shares insights on what real healing can look like, why getting unstuck doesn’t have to mean reliving old pain, and how she helps people move forward with clarity and purpose. This one’s for anyone who feels like they’ve been spinning their wheels and wants to understand what’s really in the way.

Three Takeaways:

You don’t always have to talk something to death to heal it.
Feeling stuck is often a sign that something deeper wants attention.
The right support can help you move through what’s hard—without carrying it forever.

Getting unstuck isn’t

about trying harder -

It’s about finding what’s

really in the way.

-Christine Roslund

To contact Christine:

https://beingtrue2you.substack.com/

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being “helpful,” “productive,” or “strong.” Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others’ emotions, or numbing out with distractions, these patterns are not bad habits - they’re survival strategies we picked up when it wasn’t safe to feel or express ourselves. We look at where these behaviors come from, why they served a purpose, and what they’re costing us now.

We discuss gentle, practical ways to begin recognizing and shifting these patterns. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of why it’s hard to stay with yourself emotionally and how beginning to do so—even for a few seconds at a time—is a powerful act of healing.

We don’t always notice

when we’re

abandoning ourselves –

it can look like overdoing,

over giving, or overcommitting.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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Today, we kick off the month’s theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it’s not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protection may have once helped us survive, but now they’re keeping us from living a grounded, authentic life.

You’ll learn how disconnection often hides behind busyness, anxiety, or over-responsibility, and how the journey back to yourself starts with small, intentional moments of presence. We also talk about how this month, we will be talking about practices like EMDR and mindfulness can support this healing process by helping us gently return to our bodies, emotions, and inner truth—without shame or overwhelm.

Three Takeaways

Disconnection is a survival response—not a personal failure. Many of us learned to tune out from our emotions and bodies because it didn’t feel safe to stay connected.
Busyness, people-pleasing, and overthinking are often symptoms of deeper emotional avoidance. These patterns are how we manage discomfort—but they keep us from our truth.
The path back to yourself starts with presence. A single breath, a named feeling, or a brief moment of stillness can begin to rebuild trust with your inner world.

When stillness feels unsafe,

we don’t slow down –

we stay busy, reactive, or numb.

Not because we want to –

but because it feels safer

than what we’d have to feel.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you’re not alone. Emotional honesty isn’t something we magically access. It’s something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in real time—and why you can’t build connection in relationships where conversations feel like landmines.

We’ll talk about the difference between environments where your truth is welcomed, and the ones where it’s quietly shut down. You’ll learn what to look for when testing emotional safety, how to practice small moments of truth-telling without overwhelm, and why the healthiest people in your life don’t just put up with your emotions—they make space for them. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of performing and ready to start showing up more fully and honestly.

Three Takeaways

You can’t be emotionally honest in relationships where you’re always bracing for impact.
Emotional safety isn’t about being coddled - it’s about knowing your truth won’t cost you connection.
Practicing honesty in safe relationships rewires your nervous system and helps you reclaim your voice.

That’s what safe belonging does.

When honesty feels

like a risk,

what you’re in

isn’t connection—

it’s survival mode.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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We’re often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that’s not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We’re more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. In this episode, we’re exploring how safe belonging, not just fitting in, but being truly accepted becomes the foundation for real change.

We’ll dig into how the nervous system responds to connection, why we’re more likely to take risks when we feel emotionally secure, and what happens when that belonging is missing or conditional. You’ll also hear how to tell the difference between false belonging (where you shrink to fit in) and true belonging (where you expand to be yourself). If you’ve ever wondered why change feels impossible in certain relationships - or why you suddenly feel more capable in others - this episode is for you.

Three Takeaways

The body needs to feel safe before the brain can take a risk. Belonging calms fear and unlocks courage.
You can’t be brave in environments where you’re trying to survive. Safety isn’t optional, it’s foundational.
True belonging allows you to make choices that reflect who you are, not just who others expect you to be.

That’s what safe belonging does.

It doesn’t just hold you-it helps you

come back to yourself

and move forward as the

version of you who

finally feels free to grow.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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So many of us believe we should be able to be brave on our own. That courage is something we’re supposed to summon from within—without asking for help, without needing anyone. But what if that idea is quietly keeping us stuck? In this episode, we look at what really fuels courage, and how our early experiences with connection—or the lack of it—shape whether we can move forward when life gets hard.

We’ll explore how some of the ways you “get in your own way” might actually be protective patterns rooted in past disconnection. And we’ll talk about why courage is so much easier to access when we feel truly supported, seen, and safe. You don’t have to hustle harder to find your courage. You might just need the right kind of connection.

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🔑 Three Takeaways:

Courage requires co-regulation. You’re wired to feel safer when you're connected to others—and this helps you face fear.
Early relational wounds create protective behaviors. What looks like self-sabotage might actually be an old survival strategy.
Belonging fuels belief. When we feel truly supported and seen, we’re more likely to believe in ourselves and take the next brave step.

Feeling truly connected

doesn’t just comfort us,

it literally rewires us to be braver.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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In this episode, we’re exploring the invisible ways boundary issues show up in our everyday routines - especially in how we manage time, energy, and expectations. Most of us think of boundaries as things we set with other people, but what about the quiet, internal boundaries we often ignore? Like the ones that involve being realistic about what we can actually get done, or giving ourselves time to rest, think, and reset?

You’ll hear a fresh take on how things like over-planning, skipping buffer time, and pushing through exhaustion aren’t just bad habits - they’re symptoms of boundary blind spots. We’ll dig into what’s really going on when you feel behind, overwhelmed, or frustrated with yourself—and how small mindset shifts around time and planning can make a big difference in how you feel and function.

Three Takeaways

Boundaries aren’t just for relationships, they also show up in how you treat your time, your schedule, and your capacity.
There’s often a gap between what we expect of ourselves and what’s actually humanly possible - and ignoring that gap creates daily stress.
Confidence and calm don’t come from doing more, they come from creating space for what matters most.

Overloading yourself

isn’t strength –

it’s

self-abandonment.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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In this episode, I sit down with confidence coach Sue Reid for an honest and empowering conversation about what it really means to have self-confidence. We talk about the moments in life that can shake our belief in ourselves, how old patterns keep us playing small, and why building confidence is often less about doing more—and more about how we see and value ourselves.

Sue shares thoughtful insight on how to recognize if you might be struggling with confidence, and what it actually takes to begin shifting that. From emotional resilience to the power of community, we explore what it means to grow confidence from the inside out—and why even small steps can change everything.

Three Takeaways:

Confidence isn’t just about what you can do, it’s about how you see yourself.
The way we treat ourselves quietly shapes everything, especially our ability to grow.
Who you spend time with matters more than you think when it comes to personal change.

Self-confidence isn’t about

what you can do –

it’s about how you see yourself

and what you believe

you’re worth.

Confidence Matters by Sue Reid. https://suereid.substack.com/

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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When life feels overwhelming, whether due to personal stress or world events, it can be incredibly hard to stay grounded and connected to yourself. In this episode, we’re normalizing just how real that struggle is. We explore what’s actually happening in the brain and body during chaotic times and why staying centered isn't about perfection - it’s about small, compassionate returns to yourself.

We’ll also look at how healthy boundaries, detachment, values, and even grief play a role in helping you feel more rooted in your own life. If you’ve been feeling off-track or disconnected, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a few small, gentle ways to begin again.

Three Takeaways:

Why your nervous system may be driving the chaos more than you realize
The real reason peace feels uncomfortable after living in survival mode
How to reclaim your sense of self—five seconds at a time

You’re not failing –

you’re in the middle

of something hard.

And your nervous system

is doing its best

to protect you

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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We all have patterns we wish we could break—procrastination, people-pleasing, perfectionism—but what if the real reason we stay stuck isn’t what we think? In this episode, we’re exploring the quiet, powerful force behind so many of these cycles: shame. Not the kind that shouts, but the kind that whispers just enough to keep us second-guessing ourselves, over-functioning for others, or avoiding things we care about.

This conversation is about shining light on the loops that keep us stuck and offering a more compassionate lens to understand them. Instead of pushing through with more pressure or self-blame, what if the key was curiosity, awareness, and a new way of relating to yourself in those hard moments? If you’ve ever wondered why you keep doing the thing you said you’d stop, this one’s for you.

Three Key Takeaways

Some of our most frustrating habits are actually protective responses we’ve learned to survive discomfort.
Lasting change doesn’t come from pressure—it comes from self-awareness and a shift in how we talk to ourselves.
You’re not doing it wrong. You’re learning to recognize what’s really going on beneath the surface.

Shame doesn’t motivate

it paralyzes.

It keeps you stuck

in the very patterns

you want to break.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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There are patterns we carry that don’t always make sense at first—like why we feel guilty for saying no, why success makes us uncomfortable, or why we shrink ourselves in moments when we should feel proud. In this episode, we’re exploring one of the most overlooked but powerful forces behind those reactions. It’s something that shows up quietly, influences how we speak, what we believe we deserve, and how much space we allow ourselves to take up.

We’ll talk about where this internal pattern comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and most importantly, how to recognize it when it’s happening. This episode is about awareness, self-compassion, and learning how to let go of what no longer needs to protect us. If you've ever wondered why certain moments trigger deep discomfort, this is the conversation for you.

Three Key Takeaways

1️. Some of our strongest emotional reactions today are rooted in protective patterns from the past.

2️. The way we talk to ourselves is often shaped by old beliefs we didn't choose—but we can change that.

3️. The first step to freedom is recognizing what we’re feeling and asking: Is this true, or is this familiar?

You’re not broken—

you’ve just learned

to feel shame in moments

where you were once

made to feel unsafe.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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Growth isn’t just about changing yourself—it’s about changing the way you engage with the world around you. And as you evolve, it’s natural to find that some relationships no longer align with where you’re headed. This isn’t a sign that something is wrong; it’s proof that you’re making real progress. While it can be difficult to navigate the tension, grief, or even resistance from others, staying true to your growth is the most important commitment you can make to yourself.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the hardest but least talked-about side effects of personal growth: outgrowing relationships. We’ll explore why this happens, how to navigate the discomfort, and what to do when you realize that some people in your life may not be able to grow with you.

Three Key Takeaways:

1️. Personal growth naturally shifts how you relate to others, and not everyone will grow with you.

2️. The tension you feel in certain relationships isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong—it’s a sign that you’re evolving.

3️. You don’t have to force change in others or explain your growth—staying true to yourself is enough.

Growth doesn’t just change you—

it changes what you allow,

what you tolerate,

and what you need

from the people

around you.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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Have you ever found yourself holding onto the hope that someone will change—believing in their potential more than the reality right in front of you? It’s easy to get caught up in what could be, especially when we care deeply. But at what point does patience and grace turn into self-denial? In this episode, we’re diving into the subtle but powerful ways we convince ourselves to wait for growth that may never come, why this pattern is so hard to break, and what it really takes to see people as they are—not just as we wish they would be.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of hope, frustration, and disappointment, this conversation will help you take a step back and reassess. We’ll explore the deeper reasons behind this pattern, how to recognize when it’s keeping you stuck, and the shift in perspective that can bring clarity, peace, and healthier relationships.

Three Key Takeaways:

The difference between seeing potential and accepting reality. 2. How to recognize when your belief in someone’s growth is keeping you stuck. 3. The first steps to shifting your focus back to what’s true today.

There’s a difference between

supporting someone

through growth

and sacrificing ourselves

to keep believing in them.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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What really makes a relationship feel safe? Many of us believe that deep connection means merging emotions, fixing each other’s problems, or intuitively knowing what the other person needs. But what if the very things we think create closeness are actually keeping us stuck in unhealthy dynamics? In this episode, we explore how to recognize what belongs to you in a relationship—your emotions, thoughts, choices, behaviors, and beliefs—and why understanding this is the foundation for trust, emotional safety, and true intimacy.

We’ll also dive into how blurred boundaries often get mistaken for love and why setting clear, healthy boundaries doesn’t push people away—it actually makes relationships stronger. Whether you struggle with taking on too much emotional responsibility or feel frustrated when others try to control your choices, this conversation will help you see relationships through a new lens. Real connection doesn’t come from losing yourself—it comes from knowing where you stand.

Three Key Takeaways for Listeners:

1️. Real love isn’t about absorbing each other’s feelings—it’s about respecting each other’s autonomy while staying connected. 2. The strongest relationships aren’t ones without boundaries—they’re ones where both people feel safe being fully themselves. 3. You can’t trust someone who won’t let you be responsible for your own emotions, choices, and beliefs—and vice versa.

People don’t change

because we demand it.

They change because

they decide to.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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Have you ever found yourself making excuses for someone’s behavior, downplaying red flags, or convincing yourself that things aren’t that bad? SO many of us do it—because facing the full truth about a relationship can feel overwhelming. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or partner, acknowledging reality often means we might have to set boundaries, make hard choices, or grieve what we wished the relationship could be. Instead, we protect ourselves through denial, rationalization, and hope that things will somehow change on their own.

In this episode, we’ll explore why we avoid seeing the truth in relationships and how our nervous system works to keep us in our comfort zone, even when that comfort is costing us. We’ll break down the subtle ways we resist reality, how this keeps us stuck, and why small moments of honesty—no matter how uncomfortable—are the key to real clarity, peace, and self-trust. If you've ever struggled to see a relationship for what it truly is, this episode is for you.

Three Key Takeaways:

Why we resist the truth – The real reason our brain works to protect us from facing reality in relationships, and how to recognize when it’s happening.
The subtle ways we avoid seeing what’s right in front of us – From justifying bad behavior to clinging to hope, we’ll break down the common patterns that keep us from accepting reality.
How to start seeing clearly—without fear or overwhelm – Practical steps to gently shift from avoidance to awareness so you can make choices that truly honor your well-being.

.

The hardest truths to see

are the ones that would

require us to change.

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Many of us think of boundaries as something we set with other people, but what about the boundaries we fail to set with ourselves? In this episode, we’re uncovering the often-missed ways we mismanage our time, over-accommodate, and fall into patterns of fawning—where people-pleasing overrides our own needs. These habits can look like overcommitting, struggling to say no, avoiding conflict, or constantly putting others' comfort ahead of our own well-being. And while they might seem harmless on the surface, they slowly chip away at our confidence, energy, and self-trust.

If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting boundaries, caught yourself over-explaining decisions, or found it hard to stop people-pleasing, this conversation is for you. We’re diving into the subtle ways we cross our own boundaries, why fawning keeps us stuck in these patterns, and how to start shifting toward healthier, more balanced relationships—without guilt or fear.

Three Key Takeaways

1 You might be crossing your own boundaries without realizing it. Some of the biggest ways we sabotage our time, energy, and relationships aren’t the obvious ones—but the ones we justify as ‘being nice’ or ‘helpful.’

2 Fawning isn’t just about people-pleasing—it’s a survival strategy. If you’ve ever felt anxious when saying no or setting a limit, there’s a deeper reason why. Recognizing this can help you start changing the pattern.

3 Breaking free from these habits doesn’t mean being harsh or selfish. There’s a way to honor your needs and set boundaries without guilt, over-explaining, or fearing conflict—and it might look different than you expect.

When you constantly prioritize avoiding conflict, you end up creating an internal one instead.

You weren’t born afraid to say no.

Somewhere along the way,

you learned that pleasing

others was safer

than honoring yourself.

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Being good at boundaries in communication isn’t just about protecting yourself—it’s about respecting the space between you and others. We all like to think we communicate with healthy boundaries, but are we really as good at it as we believe? Often, the biggest challenges in communication aren’t the obvious boundary violations but the subtle ones—the ways we respond, the space we give (or don’t give), and how much we allow others to fully own their emotions and choices. In this episode, we’ll explore how to take an honest look at our communication habits and recognize the small shifts that can make a big difference.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated when someone didn’t take your advice, struggled to hold back from fixing, or found yourself pulled into someone else’s emotional world, this conversation is for you. We’ll break down what it truly means to have strong communication boundaries, where we might be unknowingly crossing the line, and how to show up in a way that fosters deeper, healthier connections.

Three Takeaways:

Why some of the most overlooked habits in communication may be impacting your relationships more than you realize.
The key mindset shift that can help you stay present in conversations without overstepping or taking on too much.
How to recognize when your response is strengthening a connection—or subtly breaking a boundary.

Fixing, convincing,

and controlling

aren’t connection.

Listening, acknowledging,

and allowing are.

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Making decisions is one of the most powerful tools we have for shaping our lives, but it can also be one of the most intimidating. This episode explores how decision-making strengthens self-trust by engaging the brain’s natural reward systems and rewiring it for resilience. You’ll learn how even small choices help clarify what you think, believe, feel, and need, ultimately building confidence and a stronger connection to your inner voice.

We also discuss how early shame and trauma can complicate the decision-making process, leading to self-doubt and avoidance. By reconnecting with your "why"—your core values and passions—and reframing mistakes as opportunities for growth, you can break free from these patterns. This episode is packed with actionable steps and insights to help you make decisions that align with your true self and move toward the life you want.

Three Key Takeaways

Discover how small, proactive decisions can rewire your brain to trust yourself more deeply over time.
Learn why connecting with your "why" makes decision-making less overwhelming and more fulfilling.
Explore practical strategies to reframe mistakes and keep moving forward with self-compassion.

Choosing action

over avoidance

builds new neural pathways

for confidence.

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This episode explores the powerful connection between what we allow in our lives and our level of self-trust and confidence. Often, we don’t realize how tolerating disrespect, poor communication, or neglecting our own needs undermines our sense of worth and leaves us feeling ungrounded. The discussion highlights how both external boundaries—such as speaking up and setting limits—and internal boundaries, like practicing self-discipline and saying no to distractions, are essential for cultivating a calm and confident mindset.

We also dive into how failing to set these boundaries keeps us stuck in a low-level but constant state of fight, flight, or freeze, making it harder to feel in control. By taking small steps to identify what we’re tolerating and practicing new patterns of behavior, we can rebuild self-trust, strengthen our confidence, and move from survival mode to thriving in a more grounded and intentional way.

Three Takeaways

What we tolerate—whether from others or ourselves—has a profound impact on our confidence and emotional well-being.
Internal boundaries, such as self-discipline, are just as important as external boundaries for feeling calm and in control.
Small, consistent changes in what we allow can have a ripple effect, helping us shift from survival mode to living with more confidence and peace.

Boundaries aren’t about control—

they’re about protecting your peace

and reinforcing your worth.

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Ever feel like you’re losing touch with what you truly think, feel, and need? In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with your authentic self, even in the chaos of daily life. We’ll talk about the small, intentional moments that can bring you back to center—like noticing your feelings, identifying what truly matters, and practicing gratitude. By slowing down and tuning in, you can start to break free from patterns of disconnection and rediscover what makes you you.

We’ll also dive into why it’s so easy to lose this connection in the first place, especially if you grew up in environments where your feelings weren’t validated or learned to focus on others to survive. You’ll learn how those survival skills can linger into adulthood, keeping you task-focused and outwardly driven, but disconnected from your inner truth. Most importantly, this episode will show you practical ways to start shifting that narrative, one small, powerful moment at a time.

3 Key Takeaways

Small acts of awareness, like naming your feelings or pausing to reflect, can create profound changes in how you connect with yourself over time.
Practicing gratitude not only shifts your perspective during tough times but also rewires your brain to focus on positivity and possibility.
Understanding how childhood patterns of disconnecting from your emotions show up in adulthood can help you reclaim your authentic self and start honoring your needs.

Every small moment

of awareness

is a step toward showing up

for yourself and building

trust in who you are.

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In this episode, we’ll explore why these moments hit so hard and the impact they can have on our confidence and self-worth. Whether it’s the sting of rejection or the echo of old insecurities, these experiences often shape our inner dialogue, influencing how we show up in the world.

But setbacks don’t have to define us. Together, we’ll unpack how to shift the narrative, rebuild self-confidence, and find strength in adversity. Through actionable insights and relatable stories, this episode offers guidance for those ready to take their first steps toward reclaiming their sense of worth and moving forward with resilience.

Key Takeaways

Why setbacks feel so personal: Understand the deeper reasons why rejection or loss affects our self-image and how it connects to unresolved insecurities.

The power of inner dialogue: Learn how to identify and challenge the critical thoughts that arise after a setback to avoid distorted self-beliefs.

Small steps to rebuild confidence: Discover practical ways to move forward, reconnect with your worth, and grow stronger through challenges.

When life knocks you down,

acknowledging the pain

isn’t giving up—it’s how you

stand back up stronger.

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Have you ever wondered how your life might change if you truly believed you were worthy of love, success, and respect? In this episode, we explore the transformative power of embracing your self-worth. We’ll discuss how feelings of not deserving shape your relationships, career, and even your ability to prioritize your own well-being. This episode paints a vivid picture of what life can look like when you break free from these limiting beliefs.

By examining the impact of self-worth on everyday decisions, this episode offers hope and inspiration for anyone who feels stuck in patterns of self-doubt. You’ll hear examples of how shifts in mindset can open the door to healthier relationships, greater opportunities, and personal empowerment. If you’ve ever felt like you’re holding yourself back, this conversation is your invitation to imagine something better.

Three Key Takeaways:

Signs of Self-Doubt: Learn subtle ways feelings of unworthiness show up in your daily life, from avoiding opportunities to overcompensating in relationships.
The Ripple Effect of Self-Worth: Understand how valuing yourself impacts everything—from the people you attract to the choices you make for your future.
Steps Toward Change: Discover the first steps to shifting your mindset and unlocking a more fulfilling, empowered life.

The first step

to breaking free

is believing you

deserve more.

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EP270 Spotting People Pleasing Moments:

A 3 Step Process to Break the Habit

In this episode, we dive into how to recognize and manage “people-pleasing moments” so you can start living more authentically and confidently. Through a simple, three-step process, we’ll explore how to identify people-pleasing behaviors, uncover the fears behind them, and practice healthier responses. We’ll also discuss the importance of support systems, like coaching or a group, to help you break free from these patterns and sustain your progress.

Key Takeaways:

Identify People-Pleasing Behaviors: Recognizing your own people-pleasing actions—like avoiding disagreement or overcommitting—is the first step. These behaviors often stem from a desire to avoid conflict or rejection.
Understand the Fear Driving People-Pleasing: Often, people-pleasing is driven by underlying fears, such as a fear of conflict, rejection, or judgment. Acknowledging these fears helps you understand why you might struggle to assert yourself.
Practice Alternative Responses and Seek Support: To overcome people-pleasing habits, practice simple, kind responses that honor your boundaries. Consider seeking coaching or joining a group for accountability, encouragement, and feedback on this journey.

People-pleasing hides in plain sight—

pay attention to when you’re saying yes

just to avoid discomfort,

not because you truly want to.

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In this episode, we’re tackling a form of anxiety that many of us experience but often don’t recognize: invisible anxiety. It’s that subtle, lingering feeling of stress that you can’t quite explain, but it’s always there. We’ll discuss how this form of anxiety might be connected to subtle behaviors from the people around you, behaviors that can quietly undermine your peace without you even realizing it.

Through thoughtful exploration, we’ll look at how this anxiety shows up, especially during big transitions or important moments in life. You’ll learn why it’s so important to listen to this inner tension and how identifying these subtle cues can lead to clearer decision-making and healthier boundaries.

Key Takeaways:

Invisible anxiety can be a signal that subtle boundary-crossing behaviors are at play.
This anxiety can have a ripple effect, impacting your ability to make clear decisions and stay grounded.
Tuning into these subtle stressors can help you regain control, set boundaries, and restore peace of mind.

Invisible anxiety can make you

feel crazy on the inside,

but it’s a sign that

the behaviors around you

aren’t as innocent

as they seem.

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In this episode, we explore the complex emotion of guilt and how it can interfere with our ability to maintain healthy boundaries and practice self-care. We dive into the crucial difference between earned and unearned guilt—understanding when guilt is a natural response to our actions and when it is misplaced, often stemming from external pressures or unrealistic expectations.

We also discuss practical strategies for distinguishing between what we can control—our own reactions, decisions, and behaviors—and what we cannot control, such as the actions and decisions of others. Through real-life examples, we illustrate the importance of setting clear boundaries and embracing healthy detachment, allowing us to focus on self-responsibility and personal growth.

Three Key Takeaways:

Understand the Difference Between Earned and Unearned Guilt: Learn to recognize when guilt is a result of your actions and when it’s misplaced or coming from external pressures, and how to address each appropriately.
Identify Boundaries and Responsibilities: Understand the importance of distinguishing between what choices are yours to make and what belongs to others, helping to prevent taking on unnecessary guilt and fostering healthier relationships.
Embrace Detachment for Growth and Well-Being: Practice letting go of control over others’ choices, focusing instead on self-responsibility and self-care, which supports both personal growth and healthier, more balanced relationships.

Real self-care means creating

boundaries that preserve our peace,

rather than exhausting ourselves

to solve others' problems.

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If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

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Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

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In this episode, we explore the complexities of detachment, especially when it involves letting go of outcomes that feel crucial to our sense of security and well-being. Letting go can feel incredibly challenging, particularly for those with a history of trauma, as it often triggers a deep-seated fear of losing control.

We also delve into the concept of the bargaining stage of grief, where we negotiate mentally and emotionally to escape the discomfort of uncertainty. This bargaining mindset can be a major barrier to healthy detachment, as it prevents us from accepting reality and moving forward.

Three Key Takeaways:

Detachment is Challenging, Especially for Those with Trauma Histories: Fear of losing control is a natural response, particularly for those who have experienced trauma.
The Bargaining Stage of Grief Can Hinder Detachment: When we fear letting go, we often engage in emotional bargaining, trying to negotiate our way out of uncertainty.
Letting Go Means Accepting What We Cannot Control: Healthy detachment involves recognizing the limits of our control and focusing our energy on what we can influence—our own emotions and choices.

Detachment doesn’t

mean we don’t care.

It means we’re wise enough

to recognize what

we cannot change.

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Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

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In this episode, we explore the crucial role that trust plays in forming and maintaining meaningful relationships. Trust is the bedrock of any healthy connection, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect necessary for a relationship to thrive. We discuss how to identify trustworthy individuals by looking for key signs such as honesty, reliability, and consistency between words and actions.

We discuss how to recognize subtle red flags that may indicate a person is not trustworthy, as well as the importance of self-awareness in breaking the cycle of choosing untrustworthy partners or friends. By understanding the underlying reasons for these patterns and learning to trust our intuition, we can make more conscious decisions about the people we allow into our lives, ultimately fostering relationships that are built on a solid foundation of trust and mutual respect.

3 Takeaways:

Trust is the foundation of all healthy relationships, providing the emotional safety and mutual respect needed for meaningful connections to flourish.
Consistency between words and actions, along with honesty and reliability, are key indicators of a trustworthy person.
Recognizing and addressing underlying factors can cause us to place our trust in people who cannot be trustworthy.

Trustworthy people

don’t make excuses;

they make things right.

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If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

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Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

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In this episode, we delve into the insidious nature of manipulation and its profound impact on self-perception and self-worth. Manipulation, particularly in close relationships, often goes unnoticed as it subtly undermines confidence, distorts reality, and erodes a person’s sense of identity over time. We explore how tactics like gaslighting, blame-shifting, and subtle undermining can make individuals doubt their own experiences, leading them to question their value and place within the relationship. As these manipulative behaviors become patterns, the victim’s self-esteem gradually diminishes, trapping them in a cycle of dependency and emotional confusion.

You will gain insights into how to recognize these patterns of manipulation and the long-term effects they can have on mental health and personal growth. By understanding the deep-seated impact of manipulation, you can take the first steps towards healing and fostering healthier, more authentic relationships.

3 Key Takeaways:

Recognizing Patterns: Manipulation often manifests as a pattern of subtle behaviors that erode self-confidence and self-worth over time. Identifying these patterns is crucial to breaking free from their grip.
The Impact on Perception: Manipulative tactics like gaslighting and blame-shifting can cause individuals to doubt their own reality and experiences, leading to confusion, dependency, and a loss of self-identity.
Reclaiming Self-Worth: Understanding the long-term effects of manipulation is the first step in rebuilding confidence and self-worth. By setting boundaries and seeking support, individuals can begin to reclaim their identity and foster healthier relationships.

Manipulation is a slow poison that erodes

your self-worth and distorts your reality,

leaving you questioning your own

mind, feelings, and boundaries.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

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In this episode, we explore the crucial role boundaries play in maintaining emotional well-being and reducing stress. We delve into common scenarios where boundaries might be lacking, such as overcommitting to tasks, neglecting self-care, and engaging in people-pleasing behaviors.

By identifying these boundary issues, we can better understand the sources of our frustration, resentment, and anxiety. Through practical advice and real-life examples, this episode provides you with strategies to recognize and address missing boundaries, both in your personal and professional life.

Key Takeaways

Identify the Signs of Missing Boundaries: Recognize when feelings of stress, resentment, or anxiety indicate that boundaries are being overstepped or ignored, either by yourself or others.
Set and Communicate Boundaries Clearly: Learn to assertively communicate your boundaries to others and practice self-discipline to respect your own limits, ensuring you prioritize self-care and personal well-being.
Understand the Role of Self-Boundaries: Realize that setting boundaries isn't just about managing others' behavior but also involves regulating your own actions and reactions to maintain a healthy balance in life.

Self-sabotage is the

invisible force

that separates you

from the life

you envision.

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In this episode we explore the concept of embedded boundaries – the subtle yet powerful limits we set in our interactions to protect our mental and emotional well-being. These invisible boundaries are crucial for maintaining balance and respect in our relationships, allowing us to manage our responses and protect our energy without imposing on others. We explore various examples of embedded boundaries, such as setting limits on sensitive topics, avoiding interruptions, and managing emotional labor

Embedded boundaries emphasize self-responsibility and the importance of keeping the focus on our own actions and reactions. By practicing these boundaries consistently, we can navigate daily interactions with confidence and grace, avoiding defensiveness and conflict. This episode provides listeners with actionable strategies and real-life scenarios to help them implement embedded boundaries effectively, ultimately enhancing their mental and emotional well-being and improving their relationships.

Key Takeaways 1. Self-Focused Boundaries: Embedded boundaries are about managing our own responses and behaviors to protect our well-being without imposing on others. This approach helps maintain control over our emotional health and fosters mutual respect in relationships.

Practical Techniques: Learn practical strategies for setting embedded boundaries, such as steering conversations away from sensitive topics, politely preventing interruptions, and managing emotional labor. These techniques enable you to assert your needs subtly and effectively.
Consistent Practice: Consistency in practicing embedded boundaries is key to making them a natural part of your behavior. By regularly implementing these boundaries, you can navigate interactions with confidence, avoiding defensiveness and ensuring your mental and emotional needs are met.

Effective boundaries are set

with confidence and clarity,

focusing on mutual respect

and understanding.

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In this episode, we delve into the crucial role that setting boundaries plays in protecting your time and energy, allowing you to stay focused on your personal goals. We explore how establishing clear limits helps minimize interruptions and avoid unnecessary commitments, which can otherwise derail your progress and lead to burnout. By creating dedicated work times, saying no to non-essential requests, and prioritizing tasks that align with your aspirations, you can maintain a clear path toward achieving your objectives.

Boundaries Minimize Interruptions:

Setting boundaries around work time and creating a conducive environment help ensure uninterrupted periods to focus on your goals, enhancing productivity and progress.

Avoiding Unnecessary Commitments:

Boundaries enable you to evaluate and decline requests that do not align with your priorities, preventing overcommitment and allowing you to dedicate time to what truly matters.

Personal and Professional Success:

Maintaining strong boundaries is essential for achieving both personal and professional goals, as it helps manage stress, prevent burnout, and ensure consistent progress towards your objectives.

Boundaries protect

your time and energy,

allowing you to focus on

what truly matters.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

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Resources:

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In this episode, we explore the often-intimidating journey towards self-love, self-care, and prioritizing our own needs. Many people struggle with these concepts due to deeply ingrained beliefs and fears, often stemming from childhood experiences of emotional neglect or invalidation. We delve into how these early experiences shape our adult behaviors and perceptions, making it challenging to establish genuine boundaries around our well-being. By understanding the roots of these fears, we can begin to challenge and reframe our negative beliefs, paving the way for healthier self-care practices and a stronger sense of self-worth.

We also discuss practical strategies for recognizing and addressing these deep-seated issues. Listeners will learn how to identify and confront the fears and insecurities that hinder their ability to care for themselves. The episode provides actionable steps for setting and maintaining boundaries, reframing negative self-talk, and seeking the support needed to embark on this transformative journey. Through self-compassion, consistent practice, and a supportive network, anyone can begin to build a foundation of genuine self-love and care.

Key Takeaways

Understanding the Roots of Self-Care Challenges:

Childhood experiences of emotional neglect or invalidation can significantly impact our ability to prioritize self-care and self-love as adults.

Practical Strategies for Change:

Implementing small, consistent self-care practices, challenging negative beliefs, and setting clear, firm boundaries are crucial steps towards building self-worth and well-being.

Importance of Support and Self-Compassion:

Seeking professional help, building a supportive network, and practicing self-compassion are essential components in the journey to genuine self-love and self-care.

Our ability to care for ourselves

is shaped by our childhood.

Emotional neglect or invalidation

can leave lasting scars that hurt our

self-worth and boundaries.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

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Resources:

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Our core values play a vital role in shaping our daily interactions and communication, acting as a guiding force that influences our behavior, decisions, and relationships. Values like honesty, respect, and empathy are essential in building trust and fostering meaningful connections. When we consistently align our actions with our values, we create a foundation of reliability and authenticity, which strengthens our relationships and enhances our ability to connect deeply with others. For example, valuing honesty encourages open and transparent communication, fostering trust and reducing misunderstandings, while empathy leads to compassionate interactions that show genuine concern and support for others.

Three Key Takeaways 1. Values as a Guiding Force: Our core values influence our behavior, decisions, and interactions, shaping the way we communicate and relate to others. Living in alignment with these values fosters authenticity and strengthens our relationships.

Everyday Moments Matter: It's in the small, daily interactions where we have the opportunity to live out our values and truly show up in our relationships. Being present and authentic in these moments builds trust and deepens connections.
Impact of Core Values: Values like honesty, respect, and empathy are crucial in fostering meaningful and supportive relationships. Consistently practicing these values enhances our ability to connect, understand, and support others effectively.

Authenticity shines

in how

we handle

everyday situations.

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In this episode, we explore the concept of emotional honesty and its profound impact on our lives and relationships. Emotional honesty involves being truthful about our feelings, thoughts, and needs, regardless of the situation or the people we are with. We delve into the common reasons why many of us struggle with emotional honesty, such as the fear of conflict, judgment, and vulnerability. These fears often lead to behaviors like constantly agreeing with others or suppressing our true opinions to maintain harmony or gain approval. By understanding these underlying fears and their consequences, we can begin to address them and embrace a more authentic way of living.

Throughout the episode, we provide practical strategies for recognizing and overcoming emotional dishonesty. We discuss the importance of self-reflection, open communication, and setting boundaries. Listeners are encouraged to practice vulnerability, seek support, and develop healthier coping mechanisms to express their true selves more confidently. By embracing emotional honesty, we can foster deeper connections, enhance our self-awareness, and ultimately lead more fulfilling lives.

Three Takeaways

Fear of Conflict and Judgment:
- Many of us hide our true feelings and opinions to avoid conflict or being judged. Understanding this fear is the first step towards embracing emotional honesty and building more authentic relationships.
Loss of Authenticity:
- Constantly changing our behavior to fit in or gain approval leads to a loss of authenticity and emotional exhaustion. Embracing our true selves allows for genuine connections and a stronger sense of self-worth.
Practical Strategies for Emotional Honesty:
- Implementing self-reflection, open communication, and setting boundaries are crucial for overcoming emotional dishonesty. Practicing vulnerability and seeking support from trusted individuals can help us express our true feelings confidently and authentically.

We often hide our true feelings

to keep harmony in our relationships,

but this can lead to resentment

and emotional exhaustion

over time.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

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Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

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Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com

Resources:

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In this episode, we delve into how childhood experiences shape avoidance behaviors in adulthood, particularly focusing on the roles of trauma and neglect. These early life experiences often teach individuals to avoid conflict, difficult emotions, and challenging situations as a means of coping and ensuring safety. Unfortunately, these avoidance behaviors can persist into adulthood, manifesting as people-pleasing tendencies, emotional dishonesty, and the suppression of true feelings. This can lead to significant emotional distress and strained relationships, as suppressed emotions eventually surface in unhealthy ways, such as lashing out.

We explore the psychological mechanisms behind these behaviors and offer practical strategies to overcome them. By understanding the roots of avoidance, we can begin to unravel these patterns and adopt healthier coping mechanisms. The episode provides insights into building self-awareness, developing emotional resilience, and the need for support to do this work.

Three Takeaways: 1. Childhood Trauma and Neglect Influence Adult Behaviors:

Early traumatic experiences and neglect can teach children to avoid difficult situations and emotions as a survival mechanism. These avoidance behaviors often continue into adulthood, leading to challenges such as people-pleasing, emotional dishonesty, and the suppression of feelings.

Avoidance Reinforces Fear and Anxiety:

Avoiding feared situations provides temporary relief but ultimately reinforces and perpetuates fear and anxiety. This cycle of avoidance can be broken through gradual exposure and facing fears in a controlled and safe manner, which helps reduce the power of these fears over time.

Strategies for Overcoming Avoidance:

Developing self-awareness, practicing mindfulness, and seeking professional support are crucial steps in overcoming avoidance behaviors. By building emotional resilience and learning healthy coping mechanisms, we can face their fears more effectively and lead more authentic and fulfilling lives.

The only way to conquer your fears is to face them, step by step. Each small victory builds the courage to tackle the next, until what once seemed insurmountable becomes a testament to your strength and resilience.

You can do this.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

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Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

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Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

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Today we introduce this month’s topic: all the ways we avoid sitting with our feelings and facing truths that seem too overwhelming to confront. We'll explore the psychological mechanisms behind our avoidance behaviors, such as staying task-focused, fixating on others' needs, and using distractions to numb our emotions. By examining these patterns, we can better understand how avoidance often stems from a fear of facing our own shame and guilt, which can lead to chronic anxiety and a sense of disconnection from ourselves and those around us.

We also discuss the significant impact of avoidance on our mental and emotional well-being, highlighting the emotional toll of unresolved feelings and suppressed emotions. This episode provides practical strategies for breaking the cycle of avoidance and encourages listeners to embrace vulnerability and emotional honesty. By facing our feelings head-on, we can begin the journey towards self-awareness, healing, and stronger, more authentic relationships. Stay tuned in the coming weeks as we take some time – to face ourselves.

Key Takeaways:

Avoidance Fuels Anxiety: By consistently avoiding uncomfortable emotions and truths, we create a cycle of unresolved issues that leads to chronic anxiety and increased stress. Facing these feelings, though challenging, is essential for reducing anxiety and fostering emotional health.
Impact on Relationships: Avoidance behaviors can create barriers to genuine connections with others, leading to superficial relationships and emotional disconnect. Embracing our emotions allows for deeper intimacy and understanding in our relationships.
Emotional Toll of Suppression: Suppressed emotions can lead to a range of psychological and physical issues, including chronic stress, anxiety, and depression. Addressing and processing these feelings is crucial for maintaining overall well-being and preventing emotional burnout.

Avoiding our own emotions

makes it harder to be there

for others because we're too

wrapped up in our own struggles.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

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Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

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Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

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In this episode we talk about the importance of maintaining your sense of self in relationships and avoiding the pitfalls of getting lost in crises created by others. We introduce a daily checklist designed to help you stay grounded and prioritize your well-being. Additionally, we explore how high cortisol levels, resulting from chronic stress, can impair your ability to stay in tune with your emotions and bodily needs. By recognizing these critical moments, or PINPOINTs, when you first fail to honor yourself, you can prevent a cascade of negative events and foster healthier relationships.

We tackle strategies for setting and enforcing personal boundaries, overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, and navigating conflicts without avoidance. We also discuss the significance of surrounding yourself with supportive individuals who respect your limits and encourage personal growth. By the end of the episode, you’ll have actionable insights and tools to help you maintain your identity and well-being in any relationship or situation.

Key Takeaways

Daily Checklist for Self-Care: Implementing a daily checklist that includes setting intentions, reviewing boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and reflecting on your interactions can help you stay grounded and maintain your sense of self in relationships.
Impact of High Cortisol Levels: Chronic stress and high cortisol levels can impair your emotional awareness and decision-making abilities. Recognizing and managing stress is crucial for maintaining your well-being and staying connected to your needs and emotions.
Identifying and Acting on PINPOINT Moments: Recognizing critical moments when you fail to honor yourself—PINPOINTs—allows you to prevent a cascade of negative events. By practicing mindfulness and self-awareness, you can better manage these moments and foster healthier, more balanced relationships.

Spot the pinpoints—

those moments when

you first neglect yourself.

Recognizing these moments

is the key to preventing

a cascade of events

that lead to losing your

identity.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

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In this episode we talk about the importance of being mindful about who we allow into our lives:

It’s crucial to be mindful about who we allow into our lives because the people around us significantly influence our thoughts, behaviors, and overall well-being. Positive, supportive individuals can inspire growth, boost confidence, and encourage healthy habits, while negative, toxic people can drain energy, foster self-doubt, and hinder personal development. We need people who are strong enough to lean on, love us enough to tell us the truth, but also have the ability to detach and let us sit in our own truth, and have our own process.

Encouragement to Assess Relationships:

Take the time to assess your relationships and make conscious choices about the company you keep. Reflect on whether the people in your life support your growth, respect your boundaries, and contribute positively to your well-being. If you find that certain relationships are holding you back or causing harm, consider setting boundaries or seeking healthier connections.

By surrounding ourselves with people who inspire courage, positivity, and personal growth, we can create a supportive environment that fosters our well-being and helps us achieve our full potential.

Choose Your Company Wisely:

· The people you surround yourself with significantly impact your personal growth and well-being. Seek out individuals who are emotionally mature, supportive of your goals, and inspire you to be your best self.

Set and Respect Boundaries:

· Establishing and maintaining personal boundaries is crucial for healthy relationships. Clear boundaries protect your emotional health, prevent burnout, and ensure mutual respect and understanding.

Embrace People Who Are Open-Minded and Courageous:

· Look for those who foster a mindset of open-mindedness and courage. Being open to new ideas and perspectives, and overcoming fear-based behaviors, creates a positive and dynamic environment where both you and your relationships can thrive.

Growth-minded friends

are the catalysts that ignite

our journey towards

becoming our best selves.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com

Resources:

Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

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In this episode, we sit down with Emily Cleghorn, an award-winning Trauma Recovery Coach, author, podcaster, and inspirational speaker. Emily is dedicated to helping trauma-surviving mothers navigate the challenges of parenting while healing from their own childhood traumas. With a deep passion for creating positive, lasting impacts for future generations, Emily shares her personal journey of overcoming the shadows cast by her trauma. Her inspiring story and practical insights empower mothers to break free from their past and become the nurturing parents they aspire to be.

Emily, a mother of two young children, understands firsthand the complexities of parenting while managing trauma triggers. She has channeled her experiences into her latest book, "Rising from the Ashes," which offers valuable guidance and support to mothers on a similar path. Throughout this episode, Emily discusses her approach to trauma recovery, the importance of self-care, and strategies for managing triggers and tantrums in daily life. To learn more about Emily's work and how to connect with her, visit Mended Mama Life.

Key Takeaways:

Healing is Possible: Emily emphasizes that it is possible to heal from childhood trauma while being an effective and loving parent. Her own journey serves as a powerful example of this transformation.

Managing Triggers: Emily provides practical advice on how to recognize and manage triggers that arise in the context of parenting, helping mothers create a calmer and more nurturing environment for their children.

Self-Care is Essential: Emily highlights the importance of self-care for trauma-surviving mothers, emphasizing that taking care of oneself is crucial for being able to care for one's children effectively.

Self-care isn't a luxury for

trauma-surviving mothers; it's essential.

Taking time for yourself enables you

to be the best parent you can be.

Emily Cleghorn: https://home.mendedmamalife.ca/

Check out her podcast there too!

https://home.mendedmamalife.ca/blog

Her new book Rising From the Ashes: Reclaiming your Life After a Traumatic Childhood is on Amazon: https://a.co/d/ftNFliz

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If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

Need coaching? Just contact me here to set up a free consult! mbaker@soarwithmarybaker.com

Resources:

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In this episode, I am thrilled to have Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and group facilitator, share his invaluable insights into the transformative power of men's groups. With over two decades of experience, Jason has worked alongside leaders like John Wineland and Dr. Robert Glover, honing his approach to helping men find clarity in their life's purpose and relationships. He advocates strongly for men’s participation in men’s groups, emphasizing their role in fostering personal growth, enhancing intimate relationships, and contributing positively to family and community dynamics. During our conversation, Jason discusses the profound impact these groups have had on his life and why he believes every man should join one to experience similar transformative benefits.

Jason's perspective is particularly compelling as he addresses the common emotional voids many men face, including unresolved father wounds and a general lack of supportive spaces for emotional expression and healing. Throughout the interview, he offers wisdom on what men truly need to thrive and how men's groups can serve as crucial platforms for learning, growth, and healing. This discussion is not just for men but is also vital for women to understand the struggles men often face in silence. Be sure to pass this episode along to help spread Jason's powerful message. Also, check out Jason's podcast, Evolutionary Men, for more insights into men's personal development.

Key Takeaways:

Supportive Networks: Jason Lange highlights the importance of men's groups in providing a support network that allows men to explore and heal emotional wounds, particularly those related to paternal relationships.
Empowerment Through Community: Men’s groups empower participants by promoting healthier expressions of emotions, which leads to more vital intimate partnerships and a greater ability to serve family and community.
Inclusivity in Understanding: This episode is essential not just for men, but also for women, to foster a deeper understanding of the unique challenges men face and the potential pathways to addressing these issues through community support.

Groups are

a place to grow,

a sanctuary where we are

seen, heard, and supported

in our deepest vulnerabilities.

Jason Lange: https://evolutionary.men/

Check out his podcast there too!

https://evolutionary.men/podcast-evolutionary-men-lead-in-life-and-love/

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

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Welcome to episode 252 where we look at the power of how our boundaries and integrity are symbiotic…and so important for our self-concept.

In this episode we explore the vital role of boundaries, self-discipline, and integrity in cultivating self-trust and confidence. By setting and honoring boundaries with others, we protect our integrity and maintain healthy connections, fostering a sense of authenticity and coherence in our lives. Additionally, developing self-discipline allows us to regulate our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in alignment with our values, reinforcing our integrity and building self-trust over time.

Takeaways:

Boundaries are essential for self-trust: Establishing clear boundaries with others is crucial for protecting one's integrity and fostering healthy relationships. By communicating and enforcing boundaries, individuals assert their needs and values, strengthening their self-trust and confidence in navigating social interactions.
Self-discipline reinforces integrity: Practicing self-discipline involves consistently aligning one's actions with their values and goals. By developing habits of self-control and accountability, individuals build a foundation of integrity that enhances their self-trust and confidence in their ability to uphold their principles.
Integrity is the cornerstone of self-confidence: Living with integrity means acting in accordance with one's values and beliefs, even in challenging circumstances. By prioritizing authenticity and coherence in their actions, individuals cultivate a deep sense of self-trust and confidence, empowering them to navigate life with resilience and purpose.

Our integrity is more visible

than we realize.

It reflects the depth of our

self-trust when our

actions align with

our words.

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Welcome to episode 251 where we look for the safe people – and how to recognize them!

In this episode we explore the essential role of healthy boundaries and self-awareness in fostering trust and safety within relationships. We discuss how individuals with healthy boundaries maintain a sense of separateness while still fostering connection, emphasizing the importance of understanding these traits for building fulfilling and supportive relationships. Through clear communication, respect for autonomy, and emotional regulation, the safe people can strike a balance between independence and connection, creating an environment of mutual trust, respect, and emotional safety.

Key Takeaways:

Clear Communication: Healthy boundaries are established through open and assertive communication. Individuals should feel empowered to express their needs, preferences, and limits in order to foster mutual understanding and respect within relationships.
Respect for Autonomy: It's essential to respect the autonomy and independence of both oneself and others. Recognizing that each person is responsible for their own thoughts, feelings, and actions helps maintain a healthy balance between individuality and connection.
Emotional Regulation: Mastering emotional regulation is key to maintaining a sense of separateness while fostering connection. Individuals with healthy boundaries can manage their emotions independently, without relying on others to meet their emotional needs, thereby fostering a sense of emotional independence within relationships.

If you want to find a safe person,

make sure they communicate openly,

with good boundaries…

and can let you be who

and where you are.

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Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

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Welcome to episode 250 where we look at the behaviors that put “eggshells on the floor” in our relationships.

In this episode, we talk about the intricate dynamics of relationships impacted by "eggshell creators" – individuals whose behaviors consistently force others to tiptoe around them to avoid conflict or upset. We explore the various manifestations of such behavior, where it comes from, and how these patterns can erode trust and emotional well-being in relationships. By shedding light on the role of these "troublemakers," we can gain insight into recognizing and navigating toxic dynamics, empowering them to establish boundaries and cultivate healthier connections.

Key Takeaways:

Recognize the Signs: Pay attention to patterns of behavior in your relationships, such as feeling anxious or constantly on edge around certain individuals. Recognizing the signs of "eggshell creators" can empower you to address toxic dynamics and prioritize your emotional well-being.

Establish Boundaries: Set clear boundaries to protect yourself from the emotional toll of walking on eggshells. Asserting your needs and limits in relationships is crucial for maintaining your autonomy and fostering healthier interactions.

Seek Support: Don't hesitate to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or professionals if you find yourself navigating challenging dynamics with "eggshell creators." Building a support network can provide validation, perspective, and guidance as you work towards creating healthier relationships.

Walking on eggshells isn't

just about avoiding conflict;

it's about sacrificing your own

emotional authenticity

to maintain a fragile

sense of stability.

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Welcome to episode 249 where we look at how interactions in childhood can create fear in our adult relationships.

In this episode, we delve into the intricate ways childhood emotional survival strategies shape our adult relationships. From observing parental behavior to adapting to avoid conflict, these learned behaviors often lead us to walk on eggshells in our interactions. The "eggshells on the floor" phenomenon reflects the cautious, tiptoeing approach we adopt to prevent discomfort or conflict, often at the expense of authentic communication. Additionally, we explore how rescuing behaviors further enable avoidance, hindering genuine growth and understanding in relationships.

As we examine these patterns, a recurring theme emerges: the importance of allowing ourselves and others to "sit in the uncomfortable." This involves stating the truth, setting boundaries, and relinquishing the need to rescue. By embracing discomfort, we create space for authentic conversations, fostering trust, respect, and genuine connection.

Key Takeaways:

Recognizing Childhood Influences: Childhood experiences deeply shape our relationship dynamics, leading to subconscious behaviors like walking on eggshells. Understanding these early patterns is crucial for breaking free from old cycles.

Letting Go of Rescuing Behaviors: Rescuing someone in conversations, though well-intentioned, often hinders honest communication. Letting them "sit in the uncomfortable" while stating the truth and maintaining boundaries empowers both parties to engage authentically.

Embracing Discomfort for Growth: Discomfort in conversations is an opportunity for growth and understanding. By challenging the urge to rescue and allowing space for vulnerability, we pave the way for deeper connections and resilient relationships.

To find the real issues, just work

backward from the conflict,

finding the 'eggshells'—those places of fear,

avoidance, and unresolved things.

That’ll show you exactly what happened.

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Welcome to episode 248 where we explore how our brains impact our ability to set boundaries in the moment.

In this episode, we explore the impact of childhood coping mechanisms—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—on adult boundary-setting behaviors. The limbic system, our emotional brain, often guides our immediate reactions in boundary-setting situations, stemming from survival strategies developed in childhood. These automatic responses can lead to patterns of behavior that might not always align with our best interests as adults.

However, by understanding these childhood coping mechanisms, we can begin to navigate boundary-setting with greater awareness and intentionality. Engaging our prefrontal cortex—the thinking brain—allows us to pause, reflect, and make conscious decisions about our boundaries. Through reflection, self-compassion, and aligning boundaries with our values, we can move away from automatic survival strategies and toward healthier, more assertive ways of setting boundaries.

Key Takeaways:

Pause and Reflect: When faced with a boundary-setting situation, take a moment to pause and breathe. This allows you to disengage from automatic reactions and engage your thinking brain for more intentional responses.

Align with Values: Consider your values and well-being when setting boundaries. Aligning your boundaries with what matters most to you gives you clarity and purpose in your decisions.

Practice Self-Compassion: Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially when breaking old patterns. Remember to be gentle with yourself and acknowledge that growth takes time. Self-compassion encourages learning and growth in your boundary-setting journey.

When you react with fear,

you're handing over power to others.

It's time to take back control

and finally own your strength.

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If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

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Welcome to episode 247 where we explore how boundaries in relationships make it safe to be open and connecting.

In this episode, we describe the delicate balance of vulnerability within boundaries. We explore how sharing our vulnerabilities can deepen connections, but also discuss the importance of discerning when it's safe to do so. By setting clear boundaries, we create a safe space where authentic communication and emotional intimacy can flourish. We emphasize the significance of starting small, being clear about our needs, and observing the responses of others to determine if they are emotionally healthy enough to trust with our vulnerabilities.

By understanding the role of boundaries in vulnerability, we empower ourselves to cultivate meaningful connections built on trust, empathy, and mutual respect. Remember, vulnerability is a strength, and when shared within healthy boundaries, it can lead to meaningful relationships that help us grow and enrich our life.

KeyTakeaways:

Start Small and Gauge Responses: Begin by sharing small vulnerabilities to test the waters and observe how the other person responds. This allows you to assess their empathy and understanding before diving deeper.

Communicate Boundaries Clearly: Before sharing vulnerable information, be clear about your boundaries and needs. This sets the stage for respectful and balanced interactions.

Trust Your Instincts: Pay attention to red flags and trust your instincts. If something feels off or uncomfortable, it's okay to hold back and reassess the relationship.

Vulnerability is the cornerstone

of trust in relationships.

When we reveal our truth

to another person,

we are essentially saying,

"I trust you with

my innermost self."

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If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

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Welcome to episode 245 where we get into the magic of detachment that allows us to have boundaries, and to grieve instead of trying to control.

In this episode, we delve into the transformative journey of setting boundaries through the lens of detachment and grieving. We explore how detaching from others' emotions, behaviors, and choices is not about indifference, but rather creating the emotional space necessary for healthy boundaries to flourish. By honoring the process of grieving losses associated with setting boundaries, such as the end of familiar dynamics or relationships, we pave the way for deeper self-awareness and growth.

We discuss practical strategies for practicing detachment, including mindfulness, setting emotional boundaries, and letting go of the need to control outcomes. Navigating the grieving process involves allowing ourselves to feel the range of emotions that come with change, expressing ourselves creatively, and seeking support when needed.

Key Takeaways:

Create Emotional Space: Detachment allows for the creation of emotional space, providing clarity to recognize when boundaries are being crossed and respond from a place of strength.

Honor the Grieving Process: Acknowledge and honor the feelings of loss and change that come with setting boundaries. This process is essential for healing and moving forward.

Practice Self-Compassion: Throughout the journey of setting boundaries, remember to be gentle with yourself. Self-compassion allows for growth, resilience, and the ability to navigate relationships with authenticity.

Detachment is about creating space

between ourselves and the

swirling whirlpool of other people's stuff.

Their drama, their opinions,

their actions—they're not ours to carry.

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If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

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Welcome to episode 246 where we focus on the fears that can keep us from setting healthy limits.

In this episode, we dive into the journey – and often a bumpy ride - of navigating discomfort and fear when setting boundaries. We explore the common fears that arise, such as fear of rejection, conflict, or disapproval, and how these fears can be deeply rooted in past experiences. From enmeshed family dynamics to conditional love, our upbringing plays a significant role in shaping our relationship with boundaries.

However, setting boundaries is not about erasing these fears, but rather about developing practical strategies to manage and overcome them. We discuss actionable steps to empower you in asserting your needs and desires authentically. From reframing fear as a sign of growth to practicing self-compassion, this episode offers valuable insights to navigate the sometimes challenging waters of boundary setting.

Key Takeaways:

Reframe Fear as Growth: Understand that discomfort and fear when setting boundaries are often signs of growth. Instead of seeing them as obstacles, view them as opportunities for personal development and empowerment.

Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself throughout the process. Setting boundaries can be challenging, and it's okay to feel uncomfortable. Offer yourself kindness and understanding as you navigate this journey.

Develop Practical Strategies: Equip yourself with practical tools to manage discomfort and fear. This includes techniques such as visualization, scripting conversations, setting small boundaries first, and seeking support from trusted friends or professionals.

Setting the boundary is just the beginning…

The real challenge lies in maintaining it.

Stay true to your boundaries,

even when it's tough.

Your consistency speaks volumes.

Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

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Welcome to episode 244 where we talk about how boundaries and control are two very different things, even if they are often confused.

In this episode, we talk about the power of boundaries and the misconceptions that often cloak them as tools of control. We explore how boundaries are not about dictating others' actions but about taking responsibility for our own well-being, choices, and values. By setting boundaries, we create a space of empowerment, allowing us to define how we want to be treated and what aligns with our true selves. We discuss the dangers of reactive boundaries that focus on changing others, highlighting the importance of shifting the focus back to ourselves and our needs. Through examples and discussions, we uncover the true essence of boundaries as allies in self-discovery, self-respect, and healthy relationships.

Three Key Takeaways:

Boundaries Empower Self-Responsibility: Setting boundaries is an act of self-respect and empowerment. It means recognizing our needs, values, and limits, and communicating them clearly to others. Boundaries empower us to take ownership of our choices and responses in various situations.

Reactive Boundaries and Control: Reactive boundaries, when aimed at changing or manipulating others, can easily slip into controlling behaviors. It's crucial to shift the focus back to ourselves, ensuring that our boundaries are centered on our well-being and values rather than trying to control external circumstances.

Healthy Boundaries Foster Authentic Connections: When we set and uphold healthy boundaries, we create space for genuine, respectful, and fulfilling relationships. Boundaries serve as the framework for open communication, mutual understanding, and the freedom to be our authentic selves in our interactions with others.

Boundaries aren't about control;

they're about letting go of what

will happen when we say no.

To honor our truth regardless.

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Welcome to episode 243 where we look at ways fear can rob us of having the life we deserve.

In this episode, we confront the insidious nature of fear, which often masquerades as a protector while robbing us of our dreams and aspirations. Fear whispers lies of inadequacy and failure, creating barriers that keep us small and confined within our comfort zones. We explore the personal costs of living under fear's shadow, from missed opportunities to the toll on our mental and emotional well-being. Through stories and insights, we uncover the courage to break free from fear's grip, embracing a life guided by passion, values, and aspirations.

Key Takeaways:

Recognize Fear's Disguise:

Fear often presents itself as a protective force, but it's essential to recognize when it's holding us back. By identifying the subtle ways fear manifests—such as self-doubt, hesitation, or avoidance—we can begin to challenge its grip on our lives.

Break Free Through Action:

Taking small, consistent steps outside our comfort zones is key to breaking free from fear. Whether it's pursuing a passion project, learning a new skill, or seeking out growth opportunities, action helps build confidence and resilience.

Live Authentically and Courageously:

Embracing a life guided by passion, values, and aspirations requires courage. It means daring to envision the life we truly desire, challenging limiting beliefs, and surrounding ourselves with supportive communities. By cultivating mindfulness, self-compassion, and a growth mindset, we empower ourselves to step boldly into the unknown and create a life rich with meaning and fulfillment.

The longer

you listen to your fear,

the smaller your life

will become.

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Welcome to episode 242 where we talk about how to tap into your inner wisdom when you need it most.

In this episode, we talk about anxiety and how it's not always a bad thing. Sometimes, it's like our inner GPS, trying to tell us something important. When we feel anxious, it could mean there's a conflict between what we think we should do and what our gut feeling is telling us. Our higher self knows what's up, even when our rational mind is trying to convince us otherwise. So, instead of seeing anxiety as a problem, we can view it as a guide, nudging us towards what's best for us. We then discuss how to practice truly stopping and listening to ourselves and processing our genuine feelings with safe people.

Key Takeaways:

Listen to Your Gut: Pay attention to how you're feeling, even if it's uncomfortable. Your intuition often knows what's right for you.

Slow Down and Reflect: Take time to pause, breathe, and check in with yourself. Creating space for introspection can help you decipher your emotions and gain clarity.

Trust Yourself: Honor the messages your emotions are trying to convey, and trust that you have the wisdom within you to navigate life's challenges.

Trust yourself.

Honor the messages your

emotions are trying to convey,

even if they don't make logical sense at first.

Your intuition is a powerful guide,

leading you towards what's best

for your well-being.

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Welcome to episode 241 where we look at the longstanding impacts unhealthy behavior has on our emotional safety.

In this episode, we explore the profound impact of acknowledging and addressing unsafe moments in our lives. We look at the multifaceted nature of these moments, especially the emotional, physical, and psychological harm, and discussed the importance of validating these experiences to promote healing and empowerment. Moreover, we emphasize the significance of setting boundaries and advocating for ourselves in future interactions as crucial steps towards reclaiming personal agency, creating healthy relationships, and nurturing self-respect.

Key Takeaways:

Validation and Acknowledgment: Acknowledging and validating experiences of unsafe moments is essential for promoting healing, empowerment, and resilience. By affirming the reality and legitimacy of these experiences, individuals can begin to process and navigate their emotions in a supportive and validating environment.

Setting Boundaries: Setting boundaries and advocating for ourselves in future interactions is crucial for protecting our well-being, maintaining healthy relationships, and fostering self-respect. Clear communication about personal boundaries fosters mutual understanding, trust, and respect, leading to stronger and more harmonious connections.

Embracing Healthier: Focusing on bringing our “in the moment” wounding to safe people who are the only ones who can help us heal and have a very different, vulnerable yet safe experience to heal what we didn’t get before.

The Moment

Is

Where we need to feel safe and secure…

to deal with conflict effectively, to negotiate needs,

to be heard, to connect.

Everything happens in that moment.

It’s Everything.

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Welcome to episode 240 where we explore the true costs of not owning a very important emotion.

In this episode, we discuss the intricate relationship between disowned anger, negative self-image, and the belief in one's powerlessness. Expanding from the psychological dynamics within unhealthy family setups to the impact on personal well-being, we explored how suppressed anger can lead to a distorted self-concept, fostering feelings of passivity and powerlessness. Additionally, we discuss the importance of acknowledging anger in the grieving process, emphasizing that skipping this essential phase may hinder true self-honor and impede the complete healing journey.

Key Takeaways:

Understanding the Anger-Identity Connection: The episode highlighted the interconnectedness of anger expression with personal identity and well-being. Recognizing and addressing disowned anger is a crucial step in fostering a healthier self-concept and breaking free from patterns of negative self-image.

Navigating Unhealthy Family Dynamics: The discussion underscored the impact of unhealthy family dynamics on anger expression and personal empowerment. By exploring these dynamics, listeners gained insights into how familial patterns contribute to the development of disowned anger and learned strategies for breaking free from these cycles.

Honoring Anger in Grief: A key takeaway emphasized the importance of acknowledging and expressing anger as an integral part of the grief process. Listeners were encouraged to embrace the full spectrum of emotions associated with loss, recognizing that genuine healing involves authentically navigating through the anger phase toward a more complete self-integration.

Worrying about what others think

holds back your real self.

Speak up, be you,

and don't let fear water down your truth.

It takes guts to be genuine,

but it's worth it!

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Welcome to episode 239 where we focus on the process of gaining the most important approval: from ourselves.

In this episode, we explored the concept of gaining self-approval as opposed to relying on external validation to feel good about ourselves. We began by discussing common ways we can outsource our sense of approval, examining the roots of this behavior in childhood experiences, and delving into the impact of perfectionism. We then talk about practical steps for listeners to cultivate self-approval, including self-reflection exercises to identify core values and goals, mindfulness practices, and the importance of setting boundaries.

We focus on the significance of breaking free from the cycle of seeking external validation, encouraging listeners to develop self-compassion, set realistic goals, and prioritize their well-being. By understanding the origins of approval-seeking behaviors and implementing actionable strategies, we can toward a more authentic and self-affirming life.

Key Takeaways:

Cultivate Self-Reflection for Core Values:

Encourage listeners to engage in self-reflection exercises to identify their core values and goals. This process serves as a foundation for understanding personal motivations, making decisions aligned with authentic values, and fostering self-approval.

Establish Healthy Boundaries:

Highlight the role of boundaries in maintaining a healthy sense of self. Emphasize the importance of setting limits, preserving individuality, and protecting emotional well-being. Healthy boundaries contribute to balanced relationships and prevent the erosion of self-esteem.

Break Free from Perfectionism:

Address the connection between perfectionism and seeking approval. Encourage listeners to recognize and challenge perfectionistic tendencies, understanding that self-worth is not solely tied to external achievements. By embracing imperfections and fostering self-compassion, we can break free from the cycle of perfectionism and seek approval from within.

Anytime we go against what we say matters,

and we look out there to be ok, we're in trouble.

Seeking external validation cannot coexist

with authentic self-worth.

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Welcome to episode 238 where we explore what is kept quiet, yet at the core of so much emotional pain.

This episode focuses on the exploration of shame as a complex and pervasive emotion takes center stage. We shed light on the impact of shame, revealing its ability to thrive in silence and secrecy. Then we got into the huge emotional, psychological, and physical toll of shame on individuals. Looking at the common signs of shame, we emphasize the tendency for this emotion to isolate and hinder genuine connections. To combat shame, we need self-compassion, open communication, and seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals. It's so important to break the cycle of silence and fostering environments that encourage vulnerability, authenticity, and understanding.

Key Takeaways:

Silent Struggles of Shame: We highlight the silent struggles associated with shame, ranging from avoidance behaviors and withdrawal to negative self-talk and fear of judgment. By bringing these struggles to the forefront, it encourages viewers to recognize and empathize with the hidden emotional battles that individuals may be facing.

Impact Across Dimensions: The exploration of shame underscores its impact across emotional, psychological, and physical dimensions. Understanding how shame manifests in various aspects of life provides insights into its pervasive nature and the need for holistic approaches to address and overcome this complex emotion.

Combat Shame Through Connection: The episode emphasizes the power of self-compassion, open communication, and seeking support as key tools in combatting shame. By breaking the silence surrounding shame and fostering authentic connections, individuals can navigate the path towards healing and self-acceptance.

You need a lot of love, support, and acceptance...

right where you are, in order to do the work.

We HAVE to feel safe first.

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Welcome to episode 237 where we explore the impacts of avoidance on our relationships – with others and ourselves.

In today's episode, Today, we explore the pervasive nature of avoidance in our lives, focusing on its impact in both relationships and social situations. We delve into the consequences of evading difficult conversations, highlighting how it leads to communication breakdown, unresolved issues, and a gradual erosion of trust in personal and professional relationships. We also examine avoidance in social contexts, showcasing examples such as skipping social events, avoiding networking opportunities, and sidestepping conversations with strangers. By shedding light on these patterns, we emphasize the importance of recognizing avoidance in various aspects of life and understanding the long-term implications it can have on our well-being and connections with others.

Key Takeaways:

Communication is Crucial: Avoidance of difficult conversations can result in a breakdown of communication, leading to unresolved issues and a strained emotional connection. Recognizing the importance of open communication is key to building and maintaining healthy relationships.

Embrace Discomfort for Growth: Avoiding social situations or challenges may provide short-term relief, but it hinders personal and relational growth in the long run. Embracing discomfort, whether in conversations or new experiences, is essential for personal development and the enrichment of connections.

Proactive Steps for Change: Understanding the consequences of avoidance is the first step toward positive change. Proactively addressing avoidance in both relationships and social settings can lead to improved mental well-being, stronger connections, and a more fulfilling life overall.

The more we face,

and address,

and clean up,

own, and express,

the more confident,

grounded, and

happier we are.

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EP236 Don’t Make It Yours: How to Detach from Others’ Reactions

Welcome to episode 236 where we focus on not making the feelings and behaviors of others about us.

In today's episode, we talk about emotional detachment, specifically focusing on understanding and responding to others' acted-out emotions. We explore the importance of approaching and interpreting behaviors with empathy, active listening, and open communication. Recognizing that others' actions are not a personal reflection is crucial for maintaining emotional well-being. Setting healthy boundaries ensures that we engage with empathy without absorbing the intensity of their emotions. To navigate intense situations, staying calm, expressing empathy, and knowing when to step back are essential communication strategies. Fostering emotional connections involves a delicate balance of understanding, self-awareness, and effective communication.

Takeaways:

Empathy Without Absorption:

Cultivate empathy for others' emotions without internalizing their behaviors.

Recognize that understanding does not necessitate taking their actions personally.

Setting Healthy Boundaries:

Establish clear emotional boundaries to protect your mental well-being.

Acknowledge your right to prioritize your emotional health without feeling responsible for others' reactions.

Communication Strategies:

Stay calm and grounded in intense emotional situations.

Use "I" statements, express empathy, and offer solutions or suggestions when appropriate.

Know when it's necessary to take a step back, giving both parties space to cool down and revisit the conversation later.

Emotional detachment isn't disconnecting

from feelings; it's about a healthy

boundary between

showing empathy

and absorbing their feelings

and making them

about YOU.

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Welcome to episode 235 where we get ready for a fresh start by first looking at what needs to go.

In this episode, we dive into the transformative theme of emotional reset as we bid farewell to the past and welcome the new year. We explore the common emotional burdens people carry, such as grudges, self-doubt, fear, and unhealthy relationships, and discussed practical strategies for letting go. From acknowledging feelings to setting boundaries, our conversation provides actionable insights to facilitate a positive and intentional emotional reset. We also emphasize the importance of reflection, self-compassion, and seeking support in this journey towards personal growth.

Key Takeaways:

Letting Go Is Liberating:

The act of letting go is a liberating experience that creates space for personal growth. Whether it's releasing grudges, self-doubt, or unhealthy relationships, shedding emotional baggage opens the door to new possibilities.

Boundaries Are Empowering:

Establishing clear boundaries is an empowering act of self-care. It allows you to define your limits, protect your well-being, and build healthier relationships. Setting boundaries is a key component of the emotional reset process.

Embrace the Journey of Renewal:

The journey of emotional reset is ongoing. It involves self-reflection, forgiveness, and a commitment to positive change. As we step into the new year, let's carry forward the lessons learned, cultivate resilience, and embrace the joy of new beginnings.

Maybe you…

Allowed things people situations in your life that you regret since they brought so much chaos, anxiety and maybe pain.

Didn’t listen to your gut when you needed to.

Didn’t take enough time for yourself to even NOTICE the boundary blurs.

Overstepped and tried to rescue fix others or situations not in your lane to protect yourself from the ultimate reality.

But just because...

you DID these things, doesn’t mean it can’t be a VERY different story going forward.

Are you ready?

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Welcome to episode 234 where it’s all about looking at what you tolerate…especially the invisible things!

In this episode, we look at one of the aspects of life that often go unnoticed—what are you tolerating? Unveiling the hidden elements we endure, whether in personal relationships, work environments, or within ourselves, becomes the catalyst for personal growth and positive change. We discuss the impact on mental health, relationships, and overall happiness. The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives, prompting a self-discovery journey to identify and confront the tolerations that may be hindering their true potential.

Key Takeaways:

Self-Reflection and Awareness:

The episode underscores the importance of self-reflection and heightened awareness in recognizing the areas of life where individuals may be tolerating negativity. Listeners are encouraged to engage in introspective practices, fostering a deeper understanding of their own thoughts, emotions, and the dynamics of their relationships and environments.

Empowerment through Action:

Listeners learn that acknowledging tolerations is just the first step; the transformative journey involves setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and actively pursuing positive change. By embracing agency over their lives, individuals can break free from the chains of complacency and compromise, fostering personal growth and resilience.

Cultivating a Life of Fulfillment:

The podcast emphasizes that addressing tolerations is not merely about eliminating negativity but about creating a life of fulfillment. Listeners gain insights into how shedding tolerations can lead to improved mental health, enhanced relationships, and an overall sense of happiness. By cultivating authenticity and making choices aligned with their values, we can build towards a more purposeful and satisfying life.

Shame is what we hide

in the back of the drawer

and under the bed.

We don’t want to look at it

and we pretend it isn’t there.

Yet we can’t feel clean

until we yank it out

and get rid of it…by sharing it

and healing it.

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Welcome to episode 233 where we continue the conversation about how your childhood shaped your understanding of healthy boundaries.

In today's episode, we discuss the profound impact of challenging family dynamics, particularly those marked by addiction, mental health issues, and emotional chaos. Our discussion focuses on how these factors create an environment where healthy boundaries are often absent, making it challenging for individuals, especially children, to feel safe, respected, and equipped with effective problem-solving skills.

From the experience of being parentified to role reversal, we explore the stressors that children in such families face, often leading to the development of survival mechanisms rather than healthy boundary work. The conversation highlights the intricate web of ramifications these dynamics weave within the family structure, shaping you and influencing your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

Impact on Boundaries: Challenging family dynamics, including addiction and mental health issues, can severely hinder the development of healthy boundaries. Children growing up in such environments often face difficulties in understanding and establishing boundaries due to the emotional chaos and instability around them.

Survival Mechanisms vs. Boundary Work: In families where survival becomes a learned behavior, the focus on establishing and respecting boundaries may take a back seat. Children may prioritize navigating the challenges of their environment, leading to the development of survival mechanisms that can persist into adulthood.

Long-Term Ramifications: The repercussions of these dynamics extend beyond childhood, influencing individuals in their adult lives and affecting their relationships. Recognizing and addressing the impact of early experiences is crucial for breaking patterns and fostering healthier approaches to boundary-setting and interpersonal connections.

Growing up in emotional chaos made it tough to feel safe,

respected, and learn about boundaries and problem-solving.

Even you super high achievers didn’t get out unscathed.

You have wounds.

And those wounds need to be healed.

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Welcome to episode 232 where we begin the conversation about how your childhood shaped your understanding of healthy boundaries.

In this episode, we explore the myriad factors within family dynamics that can contribute to a lack of clear understanding of healthy boundaries for children as they grow up. By dissecting these, we uncover the struggles families can create when there aren’t clear teaching and modeling of boundaries. We will continue the conversation in the next episode!

Key Takeaways:

Family Dynamics' Role:

Your family dynamics played a pivotal role in shaping your understanding of boundaries. This includes communication patterns, parental behavior, and what was normalized for you.

Understanding of What Was Yours

Your family was supposed to show you what belonged to you vs what belonged to others, and what to expect from behaviors. Many families struggle to do this well.

Poor Boundaries Create Anxiety

When kids don’t know what to expect from one day to the next, in terms of discipline, parental emotional engagement or what to trust, it puts eggshells on the floor, and makes is emotionally unsafe.

Our families are first classrooms, where we learn:

How to say no

How to hear no

How to accept no.

How to know what’s ours and what isn’t.

Our parents taught us that – or didn’t.

And our families modeled that – or didn’t.

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Welcome to episode 231 where we explore the intricate ways in which unmet childhood needs can shape our self-esteem and identity.

From emotional neglect to a lack of validation, we delve into the lasting impact these experiences can have on our perceptions of self. By recognizing these patterns, listeners are empowered to begin or continue their journey of self-awareness and intentional healing, laying the foundation for a more positive and authentic sense of self.

Key Takeaways:

The Roots of Self-Perception: Unpacking the origins of our self-concept, rooted in early experiences, provides a valuable roadmap for understanding and addressing the impact of unmet needs on our emotional well-being.

Empowerment through Recognition: Identifying and acknowledging these patterns is a powerful step toward self-empowerment. It opens the door to intentional steps and transformative practices that lead to healing and personal growth.

Building an Authentic Self: The episode emphasizes the importance of intentional self-work as a means of building a more positive and authentic sense of self. By recognizing the influence of unmet needs, listeners are encouraged to embrace self-awareness as a catalyst for positive change.

Every time you tell yourself "I Need..."

I need a break, a nap, a hug, or some more money...

You're telling yourself that you matter,

and that your needs matter.

And that's ALL that matters.

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Welcome to episode 230 where we talk about ways to take care of yourself this Thanksgiving holiday.

In today's discussion on setting boundaries during the holiday season, we explore the importance of self-discipline in maintaining a healthy balance between family commitments and personal well-being. We discuss strategies for saying 'no' to family requests with clarity and kindness, carving out essential time for self-care, and managing the often-unavoidable feelings of guilt. Recognizing the distinction between earned and unearned guilt is crucial, and we emphasized the need to overcome unearned guilt, empowering individuals to prioritize their mental health.

Additionally, we delve into the role of self-discipline in fostering effective communication, building resilience, and ensuring consistency in self-care practices. As we navigate the holidays, let's carry forward the understanding that setting boundaries is not only an act of self-preservation but also a pathway to creating more meaningful and enjoyable experiences.

Takeaways:

Self-Discipline Empowers Boundary-Setting: Developing and maintaining self-discipline is key to assertively setting and upholding boundaries during the holiday season. It provides the strength to resist external pressures and prioritize what truly matters to our well-being.

Guilt Can Be a Teacher: Distinguishing between earned and unearned guilt is essential. Embrace guilt as a teacher, guiding you toward self-awareness and prompting intentional actions. Working toward overcoming unearned guilt requires boundary and detachment work, so you can focus on what’s healthy and let go of what is going on for others.

Consistent Self-Care is Sustainable: Self-discipline ensures that self-care becomes a consistent part of our routine rather than a sporadic activity. By balancing responsibilities with intentional self-care practices, we build resilience and maintain well-being throughout the holiday season and beyond.

Permission to Say No…

We often feel that we need a LOT of in the beginning.

We need to know it’s ok to say no to family.

To know WHY it’s ok to say no to them.

To now it’s STILL ok 5 days later,

when we start getting anxious again…

We need that information: that mirroring, that

encouragement and all the reasons we are not bad

people – for simply taking care of ourselves.

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Welcome to episode 229 where we look at how expressing needs requires healthy boundaries.

In this episode, we look at the complex terrain of expressing needs and setting boundaries in our relationships. We discuss the everyday challenges we often face when navigating these conversations, exploring the fears of sounding needy, the dance with vulnerability, and the assumptions that hinder open communication. We shed light on the transformative power of "I" language, illustrating how framing requests based on personal experiences can foster understanding and collaboration.

We emphasize the interconnected nature of expressing needs and setting boundaries, emphasizing their pivotal role in building mutual respect, effective communication, personal empowerment, trust, and conflict resolution. We conclude with practical tips to empower listeners in navigating the nuanced art of communication and boundary-setting in their own lives.

Key Takeaways:

The Power of "I" Language: Framing requests using "I" language can transform communication by focusing on personal experiences without placing blame. This technique fosters understanding and collaboration, creating a space for open dialogue.

Interconnected Nature of Needs and Boundaries: Expressing needs and setting boundaries are deeply interwoven aspects of healthy communication. They contribute to building mutual respect, effective communication, personal empowerment, trust, and navigating conflicts within relationships.

Practical Tips for Empowerment: Insights into navigating the delicate balance of expressing needs and setting boundaries. From overcoming fears to embracing vulnerability, the episode provides actionable tips for you to navigate these crucial aspects of your relationships and personal growth.

Trust is built

when people can consistently

respect and support

each other’s boundaries.

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Welcome to episode 228 where we get into how to identify what we need and work on getting them met.

In this episode, we explore the art of recognizing and addressing your emotional and psychological needs. Many of us struggle with understanding what we truly need, which can have a profound impact on our overall well-being. We discuss the common signs of unmet needs, such as stress, anxiety, and emotional triggers, and why people often become disconnected from their own needs. Through a range of mindfulness exercises, we offer practical tools to help you become more aware of your present emotions and thoughts, paving the way for a more fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

Self-Awareness Is the First Step: Recognizing your emotional and psychological needs starts with self-awareness. Pay attention to your emotions and thoughts, and don't judge them. Self-reflection is the gateway to understanding your needs.

Mindfulness is a Powerful Tool: Mindfulness exercises can help you connect with your inner world. Whether it's through breath awareness, body scanning, or loving-kindness meditation, these practices can enhance your ability to identify and address your needs.

Normalize Your Needs: Understand that everyone has emotional and psychological needs. It's okay to take time for self-care, seek support, and set boundaries. By normalizing these needs, you empower yourself to live a healthier and more balanced life.

JUST BY

Checking in with

what you need

is giving yourself an

important message.

That you matter,

and what you need matters,

and you’re not crazy…

and that you can

trust yourself.

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Welcome to episode 227 where we process the importance of vulnerability in asking for what we need.

In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of vulnerability and its role in meeting our needs in healthy ways. We explore how embracing authenticity and openly expressing our desires, fears, and insecurities can create deeper connections in our relationships, both personally and professionally. We discuss the significance of recognizing and fulfilling healthy needs, emphasizing that vulnerability is the key to unlocking self-acceptance, personal growth, and emotional resilience.

Key Takeaways:

Vulnerability is a Path to Deeper Connection: Embracing vulnerability and openly sharing our authentic selves can lead to deeper and more meaningful connections in our relationships. When we express our needs, emotions, and insecurities honestly, it creates a safe space for open communication and understanding, fostering trust and intimacy.

Healthy Needs Are Essential for Well-Being: Recognizing and fulfilling our healthy needs is vital for personal growth and well-being. These needs, when met in a healthy way, contribute to emotional well-being, personal development, and resilience in the face of life's challenges. By acknowledging and expressing our needs, we pave the way for a more fulfilling and balanced life.

Effective Communication is Key: Practicing effective communication is a fundamental skill for expressing needs in a healthy way. Using "I" statements, being clear and specific, and actively listening to others are all essential components of effective communication. By honing these skills and maintaining empathy and patience, we can build stronger relationships and create a more inclusive and supportive environment, both in our personal and professional lives.

Anytime you process tender childhood things

it can make you feel very exposed.

As hard as it is to do, the level of healing

that can come from this can be profound.

To finally be seen, to be heard and to be validated.

That no, you’re not crazy or needy or ridiculous.

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Welcome to episode 226 where we explore how important it is to make sure we are getting needs met in healthy ways.

In this episode, we explore the intricate dance of balancing our individual emotional and psychological needs with the needs of our personal and professional relationships. Navigating this delicate equilibrium is essential for building and maintaining healthy connections. We discuss the challenges that arise when personal desires intersect with the needs of a relationship, the importance of clear communication and boundaries, and the significance of compromise and self-care. By recognizing the intricate interplay of individual and collective needs, listeners gained insights into fostering more fulfilling and harmonious relationships.

We also delve into the role of self-awareness in recognizing and understanding our own needs, providing practical techniques for becoming more attuned to our emotional and psychological well-being. Acknowledging and addressing our needs is essential for personal growth, self-compassion, and maintaining emotional balance. I encourage listeners to start their journey toward a deeper understanding of their needs, paving the way for more enriching personal and professional relationships while prioritizing their own well-being.

Key Takeaways:

Balancing Act of Relationships: Balancing personal needs with the needs of others in relationships is an ongoing journey that requires open communication, empathy, and compromise. Understanding the distinction between individual and relationship needs is crucial for maintaining healthy, harmonious connections.

Self-Awareness Matters: Self-awareness plays a pivotal role in recognizing and understanding your emotional and psychological needs. By being in tune with your emotions and triggers, you can better navigate the challenges of balancing self-care with supporting others in your personal and professional relationships.

Prioritize Self-Care: Don't neglect the importance of self-care. Honoring your own needs is not selfish; it's an essential part of maintaining your emotional well-being and contributing positively to your relationships. Prioritize self-care to ensure you have the energy and capacity to meet the needs of both yourself and those you care about.

We WILL get needs met…

In healthy ways, or unhealthy ways.

There’s no third option.

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Welcome to episode 225 where talk about how to know when it’s time to make a big change in our life.

In this episode, we dive into the essential topic of recognizing when it's time for a significant life change. We discuss common signs and indicators that might be telling you it's time to take a bold step towards personal growth and a more fulfilling life. From feeling unfulfilled and trapped in your current situation to persistent stress, our conversation shed light on these crucial cues that often go unnoticed. We share inspiring real-life stories of individuals who recognized these signs and successfully navigated transformative journeys. Throughout the episode, we emphasize the importance of self-reflection, goal-setting, and creating a plan for change. We also explore strategies to overcome common fears and hesitations that often hold people back from embracing change. By the end of this episode, you'll be better equipped to assess your own life and take the first steps toward a positive and meaningful transformation.

Key Takeaways:

Shame's Internal Struggle: Shame is an internal battle, leading to low self-esteem and an unrelenting self-critical voice that can be emotionally draining.

The Anxiety Connection: Shame often fuels anxiety, both social and generalized, as individuals fear judgment and rejection from others.

Perfectionism as a Double-Edged Sword: While perfectionism can mask shame temporarily, it can also lead to immense stress and hinder genuine self-acceptance and personal growth.

Life changes are a journey, not a race.

With determination, patience,

and the right support,

you'll create a more fulfilling life,

one step at a time.

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Welcome to episode 224 where get into a profound topic: shame.

In this episode, we delve into the profound emotional consequences of shame, exploring its impact on individuals' self-esteem, self-criticism, anxiety, and overall mental health. We discuss how shame can lead to a perpetual cycle of self-doubt and social withdrawal, making it challenging for individuals to form meaningful connections and fully embrace their authentic selves. Moreover, we shed light on the link between shame and depression, as well as the development of perfectionism as a coping mechanism to avoid shame.

Key Takeaways:

Shame's Internal Struggle: Shame is an internal battle, leading to low self-esteem and an unrelenting self-critical voice that can be emotionally draining.

The Anxiety Connection: Shame often fuels anxiety, both social and generalized, as individuals fear judgment and rejection from others.

Perfectionism as a Double-Edged Sword: While perfectionism can mask shame temporarily, it can also lead to immense stress and hinder genuine self-acceptance and personal growth.

When we carry around shame inside us,

it tends to make us feel like we’re just not good enough,

and constantly doubting ourselves.

This can make it pretty tough

to be themselves and have good,

healthy relationships.

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Resources:

John Bradshaw: Healing the Shame That Binds You

https://a.co/d/4iAgKeW

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Welcome to episode 223 where start the month with a brand-new episode all about confidence!

In this episode we dove into the profound connection between self-doubt and the establishment of healthy boundaries. Self-doubt can be a pervasive force that affects personal and professional life, often leaving individuals questioning their abilities and self-worth. Today we explored how boundaries play a crucial role in breaking free from the grip of self-doubt and nurturing self-assurance.

Understanding Self-Doubt:

First, let's dissect self-doubt. It's more than just a fleeting moment of uncertainty; it's a persistent internal voice that can chip away at one's confidence. We discussed the common signs and consequences of self-doubt, and how recognizing and acknowledging it is the first step towards transformation.

The Role of Boundaries:

But what do boundaries have to do with self-doubt? Boundaries are the invisible lines that define our personal space, emotional limits, and what's acceptable in our interactions. We explained how failing to set clear boundaries can contribute to feelings of overwhelm, overcommitment, and burnout, all of which can fuel self-doubt.

How Establishing Boundaries Boosts Confidence:

Now, let's shift our focus to how establishing and maintaining boundaries can be a powerful tool for boosting self-assurance. By respecting your own needs and limits, you send a message to yourself and others that your feelings and well-being matter. This newfound self-respect fosters self-assurance and a belief in your capabilities.

Towards the end of our episode, I introduced our "Find Your Voice" course, which is designed to help individuals embrace their authentic selves, build self-esteem, and establish healthier boundaries. Plus, I have a special offer exclusively for our podcast listeners.

Takeaway 1: Break Free from Self-Doubt: Recognize the signs of self-doubt and discover practical steps to break free from its grip, allowing your confidence to flourish.

Takeaway 2: Empowerment Through Boundaries: Learn how setting and maintaining boundaries empowers you to respect your own needs and limits, fostering greater self-assurance.

Takeaway 3: Your Journey to Self-Discovery: It’s so important to embrace your authentic self, overcome self-doubt, and embark on a journey of self-discovery that leads to a more confident and fulfilling life.

Self-doubt can manifest as hesitation, fear, or uncertainty.

It's that moment of pause before you speak up in a meeting,

apply for a new job or pursue a personal goal.

It can make you question your worth, your competence,

and your place in the world.

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Welcome to episode 222 where we pull another one forward…an episode all about how being real is necessary if we want to be assertive.

In episode 98, we discuss how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. The ability to do these things is crucial if we want to have healthy relationships. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefore emotionally honest. It’s the best way but not always the easiest nor is it always well received, mostly by people who themselves are afraid to be open. But we know we can’t be truly confident without it. We know we can’t negotiate needs and create trust without it. And we know we can’t grow unless we get real. With ourselves, and with others.

Key Elements:

· Discuss how fear is at the core of avoiding honesty.

· Look at four key areas we need to work on that comprise emotional honesty.

· Describe ways you want to come across, contrasted with how we hope no one describes us.

Being emotionally honest takes

commitment, practice, screwing it up,

getting better at it and

incorporating it into who you are.

Eventually it will be HOW you operate,

and being anything else

but will feel awkward

and dishonest.

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Welcome to episode 221 where we go back to the vault and dive into what living in a self-created box looks like and feels like, and how it can truly limit our potential. We explore how our box gets created, and how to climb out.

In this episode we get into how our “box” (the symbolic one) can determine how we live our lives, how we see ourselves, and the world. We talk about how courage means looking at how your past has shaped who you have become, and how facing the possible Box you have created to be your comfort zone can come at a high price. Join as we delve into how this happened, and what you can do about it.

Key Elements:

· Describe how our limiting beliefs make up the box that keeps us safe…and stuck.

· Identify how these beliefs are formed from early negative messaging.

· Look at ways we can begin breaking down our box and expanding the possibilities.

You Have Permission

To be FREE. To choose. To walk away from toxic relationships and bosses that are holding you back. To decide to upend everything and start FRESH and finally honor yourself. To Trash, Burn, and Bury those old LIES you KNOW have been holding you back. To be SCARED yet excited to have a second and a third chance to really live your life. To take risks, change your mind, screw it up as part of the learning and keep it moving. To trust your gut, your heart and the yearning you’ve had for so long.

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Welcome to Episode 220 where we grab another one from the vault that focuses on the importance of creating agreements to have trust in our relationships.

In this episode we talk about how healthy negotiating requires us to work on letting go of control and allow others to choose for themselves, while we just keep our stuff about us. That’s the magic of boundaries and detachment. That allows us to hold onto our truth and allow others to do the same. It can also mean not trying to change things, change them, or other fear-based behaviors that keep us from being vulnerable. To build emotional trust, have mature and loving relationships, and to be great parents, letting go and negotiating is crucial.

Key Elements:

· Revisit the concepts of boundaries and detachment as crucial to negotiating needs.

· Explore how agreements can make or break trust in your relationships.

· Discuss typical scenarios where we might need to put our skills to the test.

When you first work on detachment

you won’t like it. Because it means letting

go of outcomes, which can feel so scary.

It means trusting that even if

YOU aren’t in charge, things will be ok.

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Welcome to Episode 219 where we grab another one from the vault that’s all about how to negotiate what we need.

In this episode we explore how important it is to know how to negotiate needs in healthy ways, so that we can enjoy strong connections with those we care about, problem-solve and resolve conflict without hurting the trust in the relationship.

We identified how our families were our first classrooms where we either learned how to ask for what we need in healthy ways – or not, since they taught us what they knew, and modeled how to handle conflict – and life. From witnessing passive-aggressive behavior, emotional immaturity and maybe even violence, to the other end where nothing was confronted or dealt with in front of the kids, so they never learned how.

Being able to negotiate is so much more than asking for a lower price on a car. It requires having good boundaries, the ability to detach and grieve, and decent self-esteem. That’s why when work on this, we work on so much more.

Key Elements:

· Identify unhealthy coping mechanisms families can pass on to their children.

· Look at what a healthy enough family was supposed to provide for you.

· Address ways you can begin looking at your own struggles around boundaries, grief work and self-esteem.

Working on boundaries, grieving and self-esteem

reap huge benefits in so many areas of our lives,

from relationships to career to parenting - to simply

feeling and being more confident and happier.

What price would you pay for all that?

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Welcome to Episode 218 where we grab another episode from the vault that focuses on how all the little things really do add up.

In this episode we look into how even though we may not see it yet, it’s all the tiny choices we have made every day that have brought us to where we are today, for better or worse. Therefore, it is the intentional healthy choices we can begin to make TODAY that will add up over time, to help us reach our goals. Tiny choices create big changes if we are diligent and determined!

Key Elements:

· Address how we can be unconscious to how our daily choices shape our future.

· Look at ways to begin creating a plan to reach your goals.

· Identify what we need to focus on if we want our daily choices to be healthier ones.

If we want to make a real

difference in our lives, we need to step up,

take control of our actions,

and focus on what we can change.

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Welcome to Episode 217 where we grab another episode from the vault – one that looks at what it means to keep yourself, and the other person, in a place of choice when communicating.

In this episode we explore what it means to keep choice in our connections with others. To demonstrate healthy boundaries, detachment, and therefore personal ownership of what belongs to us, and allowing the other to always be choosing. To not be passive-aggressive via indirect requests or other manipulations. To not take on the victim role that says: “Because of you…I”. Being clear, owning our thoughts and feelings, and practicing detachment makes us better communicators and safer to be around.

Key Elements:

Look at how we can avoid choosing and instead present with a victim-based mindset.
Identify how blurred boundaries create emotional hostage-taking.
Practice “being in choice” in your communication, creating emotional safety and the atmosphere for deeper connection.

When we're not direct,

when we don't own our truth,

when we don't speak with emotional honesty,

we make it unsafe for them to be vulnerable as well.

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EP216 Podcast Rewind: EP119 The Essence of Assertiveness is Integrity

Welcome to Episode 216 where we grab episode 119 from the archives and spend some time talking about a big aspect of being assertive and standing in our truth: integrity.

In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become more honest and open. To know how we want to behave. How we want to treat other people and what kind of life we essentially want to have. Being assertive requires that we are first proud of who we are, and more certain of our truth before we can put that out into the world.

However, the true test of integrity lies in living it out consistently, which is HARD!!!! especially when confronted with challenging circumstances that may tempt us to compromise our principles. In those moments of trial, our integrity acts as a moral compass, guiding us towards the path of righteousness and virtue. The strength of our character shines through when we hold on to our principles, even when it’s hard. I also think that when we live this out the best we can, we have a lot less internal conflict and thus less anxiety and greater confidence.

Key Elements:

· Explore how what you value and believe helps define integrity for you.

· Look at how emotional honesty and healthy boundaries play a big part.

· Utilize visualization to help us define where we would like to be.

Truly caring means focusing on what is

for another’s highest good,

and check ourselves that we aren’t

making it all about US. About what WE want for them.

So that WE can feel needed.

Because WE think we know what’s best.

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Welcome to Episode 215 where we grab episode 163 from the archives and spend some time talking about one of the core concepts of the show, and that is Personal Empowerment. We started out the podcast defining this, yet it’s been a while and time for a great refresher. This month as you get ready for this current season to wind down and the new one to begin, let’s take some time to focus in on what it truly takes to feel, look and be empowered to be the person you were always meant to be.

In this episode we explore all the pieces we will talk about this month, including how empowered people have certain qualities that enable them to feel confident and to be authentic. Each week we will talk more about just how important these are, and how to work on them.

Key Elements:

Describe the necessary pieces of empowerment.
Define what personal empowerment truly is.
Talk about what empowered people do.

Being empowered means that

our personal power comes from within,

not outsourced to others’ appreciation

or valuation of us.

We take responsibility for our own path,

our choices and thus our happiness.

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In this episode we pulled from the vault, we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment. We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out. When we do these things, we aren’t vulnerable, and we especially aren’t being emotionally honest with ourselves or others. This hurts our connections and hurts our self-esteem.

Key Elements:

· Identify how self-abandonment begins in childhood, and why.

· Address issues of rescuing, enabling and losing sight of our own needs.

· Discuss ways to prevent and address losing yourself in relationships.

Self-Abandonment is a Sneaky Slippery Slope.

Slipping back into old survival behavior of looking

to others to meet all your needs

and lose yourself in the process…

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EP213 From the Vault: EP101 We Want to Hear You! Putting Your Voice Out There Vulnerably

In this episode we pulled from the vault, we get into what it looks like when we’re afraid to use our voice, why that happens and how to work on it. As we usually talk about on the show, vulnerable emotionally honest conversation IS assertive and healthy, and what creates genuine connection in conversation. We talk about how rediscovering your confident inner four-year-old and beginning to use your voice to express your truth. With kindness, firmness, and the vibe that you are straight with YOU. It’s about making your insides match your outsides. It’s about allowing yourself to be heard. You believe in you, and now it’s time to put that truth out there.

Key Elements:

· Discuss examples of what it looks like to NOT use your voice.

· Identify times when it is healthy and necessary to speak up, and how to do it.

· Look at why a good understanding of boundaries and detachment are crucial for assertiveness.

Don’t hide who you are just because

certain people can’t handle it.

Anyone healthy WANTS you

to be authentic out loud.

In fact, they require it.

Honesty and openness are

the best ways

to show the world

who you are.

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In this episode we pulled from the vault, I discuss the importance of healthy communication in relationships. I emphasize the need for clarity, directness, and emotional honesty to establish trust and safety. I then highlight the detrimental effects of emotional dishonesty, such as hiding feelings and desires, which can create distance and anxiety. Owning one's truth is crucial for building trust, both with others and oneself.

In this episode we explore the reasons why people struggle to own their truth. I explain how societal pressures and early experiences of being discouraged from expressing thoughts and emotions can lead to disowning oneself. This disowning process can contribute to issues like anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and unhealthy relationships. It becomes vital to reclaim ownership of various aspects, including thoughts, beliefs, passions, feelings, behaviors, grief, fears, struggles, dreams, and mistakes.

However, I acknowledge that owning it can be challenging, especially when it involves conflicts, manipulation, or letting go of people and things that no longer align with one's true self. Despite the difficulties, I note the many benefits of owning one's truth. It fosters a sense of grounding, confidence, self-trust, and safety for both yourself and others.

Key Elements:

· Talk about the importance of owning your truth for self-confidence, emotional trust, and safety in relationships.

· Participate in an experiential exercise to get you thinking.

· Explore how It is the key to developing healthy relationships, being proud of who you are, discovering and utilizing your gifts, and truly living in the present moment.

WHEN YOU SPEAK YOUR TRUTH

You will feel more grounded and confident.

You will trust yourself more.

Others will trust you and feel safe with you.

It’s the only way to have healthy relationships with yourself and others.

It’s the only way to be proud of who you are.

It’s the only way to find and use your gifts. Maybe your purpose.

The only way to BE IN The moment and truly live.

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In this episode we open the vault to get into episode 103 which opens the conversation about damaging manipulation can be to a relationship.

In this episode, look back at an important topic: manipulation and other passive-aggressive behaviors that can destroy the emotional trust in a relationship, and even the receiver’s ability to trust their own reality after awhile!

Key Elements:

· Talk about the different types of manipulative and passive behavior we are most familiar with.

· Identify ways to take care of yourself and return to center.

· Look at the realities when dealing with this behavior over time.

Manipulation is:

Trying to get you to think,

feel or do something.

Avoiding responsibility and the truth.

Destroying emotional trust

in relationships.

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In this episode we open the vault to get into episode 143 which is all about a big part of assertiveness, and that is emotional honesty.

In this episode, we explore the importance of emotional honesty as a key component of assertiveness. We emphasize the significance of expressing what we truly think, feel, and need, and being transparent about our boundaries. By owning our truth, we instill trust and create a safe environment for meaningful connections to flourish. We then compare and contrast healthy connecting versus passive-aggressive and avoidant ways to talk to someone.

Key Elements:

· Look at how we can lose touch with our vulnerability early on in life.

· Explore how fear of conflict and rejection can make it hard to be emotionally honest.

· Discuss how assertiveness requires emotional honesty and good boundaries.

What You Need to Own:

Your Thoughts and Beliefs

Your Passions

Your Feelings

Your Behavior

Your Grief

Your FEAR:

Your Struggle…TO accept.

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In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 170 which is all about what it means to get really honest with ourselves if we want to feel confident.

On the show we dive into the topic of confidence and how it stems from being honest with ourselves. We then emphasize the importance of taking accountability for our communication and behavior in our relationships to boost confidence. We also highlight the significance of assessing our beliefs, communication patterns, and behavior to initiate positive change.

To grow, we need to include seeking guidance from a coach, joining supportive communities with like-minded individuals, and documenting our observations and discoveries. By implementing these actions, we can proactively embark on a journey towards improved confidence.

Key Elements:

· Talk about effective strategies to facilitate personal growth and enhance relationship dynamics.

· Look at the need to allow others to assist us in the process of self-improvement.

· Explore the need for being able to come to terms with facts about ourselves.

Tune in, own up,

and choose your interactions.

Listen to your inner voice and

monitor your outer one to

feel grounded and authentic.

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In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 145 which is all about what assertiveness truly is.

In episode EP179 of the Own It Powercast, I get into the topic of assertiveness and emphasizes the significance of detachment and setting boundaries. Assertiveness, is about making choices and maintaining clear boundaries without seeking control. I highlight the importance of distinguishing between one's own thoughts, feelings, choices, and behaviors versus those of others. Detachment becomes necessary when we become overly preoccupied with someone else's issues, experience heightened anxiety, or find ourselves making excuses for their behavior. By practicing detachment, we can refocus on what is within our control, establish healthier relationships, and prioritize our physical and mental well-being.

Setting boundaries involves staying in our own lane, expressing our needs and feelings assertively, and allowing others to face the consequences of their actions. The episode concludes with a reminder of the importance of self-care, personal responsibility, and the transformative power of detachment and boundaries in fostering confidence and authentic communication.

Key Elements:

· Explore the essence of assertiveness: Both parties are in a place of choice and there are no blurred boundaries or control.

· Look at the importance of detachment and boundaries in assertiveness and healthy communication.

· Discuss pointers for effective boundary-setting: being specific, keeping it about yourself, knowing your why, etc.

Stay in your lane.

This means not questioning, not giving unsolicited advice,

offering too much help…CHECK YOUR AGENDA for helping.

If there is any FEAR involved around them

helping themselves then don’t.

It will just become a rescue effort.

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In this episode we open the vault and grab one of your favorites: 145 which is all about what assertiveness truly is.

On the show we talk about how true assertiveness is an integration of different elements that allow us to stand firmly in our convictions, speak up for what we believe in, and advocate for ourselves and others. Assertiveness is not about dominance or aggression but finding a balance between asserting our rights and respecting the rights of others. The goal is to maintain open and honest communication, foster healthy relationships, and create an environment of mutual understanding and respect. Assertiveness empowers us to express our thoughts and beliefs effectively, live authentically, and align our actions with our values and principles.

Over the next few months, the show will further explore the topic of assertiveness, and weekly Facebook Live sessions every Wednesday at 7 PM EST will be dedicated to discussing assertiveness.

Join the community to participate in the live sessions, access recordings, and other resources.

Key Elements:

· Explore what some of the aspects of assertiveness are.

· Look at how much healthier it is to have self/other perspective.

· Talk about how being assertive means having good boundaries.

If you're feeling trapped, overwhelmed, or

manipulated in your relationships,

it's time to set some boundaries…and speak them.

Resources:

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In this episode we explore the topic of self-sabotage and its connection to anxiety. We delve into the various patterns and behaviors that constitute self-sabotage, such as procrastination, negative self-talk, self-isolation, comfort zone preservation, self-handicapping, self-sabotaging relationships, substance abuse, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and avoidance. We emphasize the importance of recognizing these patterns as the first step towards breaking free from self-sabotage and fostering positive change.

We then look at the childhood origins that can contribute to self-sabotage in adulthood. Critical parenting, trauma and neglect, lack of emotional validation, high expectations and pressure, inconsistent or unpredictable parenting, enmeshment or overprotection, and learned helplessness are all factors that can shape self-sabotaging behaviors. While childhood experiences can influence self-sabotage, it is not a predetermined outcome, and with self-awareness, coaching, support, and healing, you can overcome these patterns!

Key Elements:

· Look at how self-sabotage reinforces anxiety in several ways and perpetuates the avoidance of discomfort.

· Process how each means of sabotage serves a protective purpose – then creates it’s own issues!

· Discuss practical advice for starting the process of overcoming self-sabotage.

Don’t shame yourself more by

being mad at your self-sabotage.

Realize it was there to protect you…

and now you’re brave enough

to stop doing it.

Resources:

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Welcome back to this month's episode focused on one of the biggest issues in people's lives: Anxiety. Last week, we delved into social anxiety and its connection to shame and perfectionism. Today, we'll be discussing Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), which can range from mild irritations to debilitating struggles. No matter where you fall on that spectrum, anxiety has the potential to limit your life and impact your well-being, both mentally and physically.

In this episode, we explore the symptoms and impact of GAD, including excessive worry, physical symptoms, negative self-evaluation, avoidance behaviors, and its effects on daily functioning. We uncover the connection between GAD and early trauma, where experiences such as childhood trauma, loss or bereavement, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), chronic stress, or medical trauma can contribute to the development of GAD over time.

Then, we dive into the relationship between anxiety and anger, which is often overlooked. So many people with anxiety have learned to suppress or avoid anger due to early experiences or unresolved trauma. The suppression of anger can lead to difficulties with boundaries and create a cycle of hidden anger. We explore surprising signs of hidden anger and its impact on daily life.

Key Elements:

· Highlight the importance of authenticity in overcoming generalized anxiety.

· Process the ways outsourcing who we are fuels the anxiety fire.

· Address how healing emotional trauma and setting boundaries is vital in managing anxiety effectively.

You can't love and be proud of yourself

and have confidence if you are

NOT connected

to who you are and

showing THAT to the world.

Resources:

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Welcome episode 204 where we explore the origins and the aspects of social anxiety.

In this episode we get into a form of anxiety that is so misunderstood and often hidden from others, because of the vicious cycle of shame and embarrassment and that is social anxiety. I have worked many years with clients around this issue, and I have learned a lot. I find it is so important if we want to have a fulfilling life – or maybe just actually LIVING one, that I’m designing an entire learning experience to help more people heal. We talk about social anxiety and how it is not just being socially anxious in a vacuum but rather an interplay of shame, perfectionism, and early emotional trauma. We explore the different facets of this struggle, from avoiding social situations, conflict and being rejected and how this can profoundly impact your life. Social anxiety keeps you from using your voice, asking for what you need or even relaxing enough to enjoy engagements and have new adventures.

Key Elements:

· Look at what causes social anxiety and how it is created early on.

· Process the ways it shows up and keeps us from creating healthy relationships.

· Explore how it is so connected to/caused by perfectionism, shame and lack of confidence.

It's never just "social anxiety.”

It's a tangle of fear, shame,

and perfectionism, with each

reinforcing the other in a vicious cycle.

Resources:

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Welcome episode 203 where we look at the origins of anxiety and how it affects us in adulthood.

In this episode we talk about how early childhood trauma, lack of family boundaries, and bad experiences with unhealthy people can all contribute to anxiety in different ways. Childhood trauma can lead to anxiety by disrupting healthy development, causing dysregulation of emotions, and impairing cognitive functioning. Lack of family boundaries can contribute to anxiety by leading to unclear expectations, parentification, and inconsistent parenting. Bad experiences with unhealthy people can distort our view of what's possible in relationships, causing negative beliefs, trust issues with self and others, difficulty setting boundaries, and lots of unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Key Elements:

· Look at aspects of families that can contribute to longstanding anxiety.

· Describe how boundaries – and lack thereof – in families can create problems for the child with their self-esteem and their relationships.

· Explore how different levels of early emotional trauma cause varying degrees of anxiety and other struggles later on.

No one gets out of an emotionally dysfunctional

family unscathed. At the very least there

will be a wee bit of perfectionism

and that constant low hum of anxiety.

Resources:

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EP202 The Faces of Anxiety: Conquering Your Inner Turmoil

Welcome episode 202 where we open a new month dedicated to understanding fear and anxiety, and how they can greatly impact on your life.

In this episode we introduce the concepts of fear and anxiety, specifically general anxiety and social anxiety and how they can play out in our life. This can lead into self-sabotaging behaviors – some we may not even be conscious of – and can have huge impacts. We will look at where it comes from, how it shows up in our life, and ways we can sabotage and thus keep ourselves stuck and missing out on some of the best things in life. We then talk about how someone can begin working on their anxiety and make some lasting changes. Healing old wounds about our lives and ourselves can help us create a way of being that is more authentic, courageous and in the moment.

Key Elements:

· Defining the most common types of anxiety.

· Process how fear and anxiety can cause us to self-sabotage.

· Look at a case study of social anxiety.

To tackle your anxiety,

you must heal on the inside,

while you’re changing things

on the outside.

Resources:

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Welcome episode 201 where we finish out the month digging deep about what makes it hard to just…make a choice.

In this episode we talk about some of the reasons why we may struggle to own and make choices that could actually make our life better. We discuss the costs of missed opportunities, connection with others and our sense of self. From procrastination, perfectionism and resistance to change, we explore the reasons we struggle to climb out of the box of safety, and ways we can begin to get out there and take some healthy risks. We finish up the month by looking at why it can be hard to not only own but make choices that are good for our life. Since our choices can literally make our life what it is, I think this is an important topic. Why are we holding back? Sitting on the fence? Putting off the decisions we know we need to make?

Key Elements:

· Process the core issue behind our struggle to trust our choices.

· Discuss the concepts of perfectionism, procrastination and resistance.

· Look at ways you can begin to chip away at these old patterns and get started making changes.

Your real self wants better,

knows there is better and

knows that they can BE better,

but fear keeps you stuck.

Resources:

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Welcome to WOOHOO! Episode 200! where we look at what we pick to focus on – the solution, the person, ourselves etc. and how our choices really do reflect who we are. In other words, folks looking in on your life from the outside – what would they see your choices are?

In this episode we talk about how if people were looking at your life, they could tell that you take responsibility for your choices. This means, by looking at the quality of your relationship with yourself and others, and how much you are open, humble and teachable. Your boundaries, both external and internal, reveal a great deal about how you live your life, as well as your ability to manage conflict and problem-solve. We also did an experiential exercise to get you digging deeper into your choice-making process.

Key Elements:

· Look at how your choices show how healthy your boundaries are.

· Describe the ways our choices affect our relationships.

· Explore how you see your choices and how they are impacting your life.

You must make a “Choice”

To take a “Chance”

or your life will never

“Change”.

-Author Unknown

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 199 where we talk about one of my favorite topics, and that is how we choose our environments, and how we need to be very intentional about what and WHAT and WHO have around us because they can have a tremendous impact on the quality of our life, and maybe even the length of it. We absorb what is around us, no matter what we tell ourselves!

In this episode we look at an important area where we are making choices for our self-confidence and well-being, and one that has a huge impact on us, and that is our environments. The people, places and things that surround us either create a healthy, supportive atmosphere for us to grow and thrive, or one that is either just unsupportive or downright toxic and will do harm over time. Taking stock of our situations and how we actually look and feel will tell us the truth we need to know.

Key Elements:

· Describe how where we work and live impact our mental health.

· Explore the difference between safe and unsafe people to have around.

· Look at ways people can influence our decision making.

“Be careful the environment you choose

for it will shape you;

be careful the friends you choose

for you will become like them.”

–W. Clement Stone

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 198 where we start out the new month talking about how owning your choices is foundational for self-esteem, and how confidence and ownership of your choices are intertwined.

In this episode we start out a new month all about owning our choices and how that is so important if we want to feel confident, have trust in ourselves, and create the kind of life that truly reflects all of who we are. When we don’t own our choices, we often feel victimized by life and ironically end up with a life we aren’t happy with or proud of, because we used excuses and denial to keep us from seeing what we needed to change in or der to thrive. We then introduce some ways you can begin to create awareness around the choices you make, and how to take responsibility for the ones you make going forward.

Key Elements:

· Talk about what it looks like when we don’t own what we choose.

· Look at steps to take to build accountability around your choices.

· Explore ways we can build confidence around making good decisions.

“Life is a matter of choices,

and every choice you

make makes you.”

— John C. Maxwell

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 197 where we look at when we don't take responsibility for our behavior, we can act out in a variety of ways. These behaviors can be harmful to ourselves and those around us and can create a cycle of blame and defensiveness that makes it difficult to move forward and grow.

In this episode we talk about such an important part of self-confidence, and that is owning our behavior, regardless of how we feel or what others may be saying or doing. Our behavior is so interconnected with our communication, so we look at some pretty unhealthy ways we can act in an emotionally immature way, from deflecting responsibility by being defensive to the nasty gaslighting and everything in between. Being an emotionally safe, trustworthy, and honest human is the best way to not only feel better about ourselves, but to create healthier connections with others.

Key Elements:

· Identify unhealthy behaviors and how they hurt our relationships.

· Explore aspects of healthy ownership of how we act.

· Process steps we can begin taking toward connection and greater self-confidence.

Just because your pain

is understandable,

doesn't mean your

behavior is acceptable.

Steve Maraboli

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 196 where get into how taking responsibility for getting our needs met is an essential part of personal growth and self-care.

In this episode, we talk about our emotional and psychological needs, identifying where we may have started to disown them, ways we may have been ignoring our needs, and steps to take to begin owning, validating and getting them met in healthier ways. We talk about what happens when we don't and ways we can begin to take care of ourselves while honoring others in the process.

A big part of self-ownership is to recognize that we have control over how we communicate our needs and how we prioritize them. By acknowledging our needs and finding healthy ways to express them, we can create stronger relationships and live more fulfilling lives.

Key Elements:

· Discuss how and why we may disown our needs.

· Identify ways we can act on our unmet needs in relationships.

· Talk about beginning to really listen to ourselves is the answer.

“It is only when you take

responsibility for your life

that you discover how

powerful you truly are.”

Allanah Hunt

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 195 where we get serious about a very important part of taking responsibility: and that is owning your feelings and taking responsibility for honoring them and not leaking them out on others. It involves acknowledging and accepting your emotions without letting them control your behavior or manipulate others.

In this episode, we will explore the importance of emotional ownership in healthy relationships and communication. We will discuss the negative consequences of leaking feelings, manipulating, gaslighting, blaming, and acting out, and how these behaviors can harm our relationships and our own well-being. You can’t be emotionally immature and feel good about yourself, nor can you have healthy relationships or success in life. Learning to own, and honor what you feel is creating self-trust and lowering your anxiety. Not acting out immaturely means you can connect in healthier, more meaningful ways with others, which can help you feel heard, loved and known.

Key Elements:

· Look at different ways we can leak out our feelings.

· Explore the toxicity of manipulation, blaming and gaslighting.

· Discuss what it means to take full ownership of your feelings.

“You are always responsible

for how you act,

no matter how you feel.

Remember that.”

-Anonymous

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Welcome to Episode 193 where my good friend Michelle Buckingham joins us again with her magic of simplifying wellness. Confusing nutrition and wellness information can make feeding yourself properly seem like an overwhelming task. Michelle reminds us that it shouldn't be that hard. You may know what to do, but not how to do it. Today is part II of my conversation with Michelle Buckingham, MA,RD,LDN registered dietitian and wellness coach. She specializes in simplifying this information and making it easy to apply in the real world - your own life. She helps everyone, from people with diabetes and high cholesterol to folks who simply want to stay well. As a registered, licensed dietitian/nutritionist with over 23 years’ experience, she loves helping folks regain the joy of eating and wellness in the context of their everyday lives.

Over the many years I’ve known her and seeing the success she has had helping people get healthier, lose weight, and begin to feel so much better about themselves, I am so excited to FINALLY have her here on the show!

We had so much to talk about and I wanted to make sure you got as much good stuff from her that you could, so we’ve actually split this into two parts, so make sure you listen in to last week’s episode as well! Today we get into the truth about supplements and how to know you are getting the correct nutrients in your diet.

Here are some the things Michelle’s’ clients love to have her help with.

Personalized meal planning
One-on-one counseling
Wellness resources & referrals
Lifestyle management
Medical nutrition therapy

“Pause for a moment.

Pay attention to what your body is telling you.

Listen to your needs and your boundaries.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself, too.”

— TWLOHA

Resources:

Simple Steps Wellness: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057582874519

Michelle Buckingham:

https://www.healthprofs.com/us/nutritionists-dietitians/michelle-buckingham-severna-park-md/1070654

Facebook Page:

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057582874519

How to eat well and choose portion sizes:

https://www.myplate.gov

Research and information about complementary health products and practices:

https://www.nccih.nih.gov

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Welcome to Episode 192 where my good friend Michelle Buckingham shares with us some wonderful wisdom that simplifies the process of eating healthier and taking better care of our bodies.

Confusing nutrition and wellness information can make feeding yourself properly seem like an overwhelming task. It shouldn't be that hard. You may know what to do, but not how to do it. Today I have Michelle Buckingham, MA,RD,LDN registered dietitian and wellness coach. She specializes in simplifying this information and making it easy to apply in the real world - your own life. She helps everyone, from people with diabetes and high cholesterol to folks who simply want to stay well. As a registered, licensed dietitian/nutritionist with over 23 years’ experience, she loves helping folks regain the joy of eating and wellness in the context of their everyday lives.

Over the many years I’ve known her and seeing the success she has had helping people get healthier, lose weight, and begin to feel so much better about themselves, I am so excited to FINALLY have her here on the show!

We had so much to talk about and I wanted to make sure you got as much good stuff from her that you could, so we’ve actually split this into two parts, so make sure you also tune in next week for the second half!

Here are some the things Michelle’s’ clients love to have her help with.

Personalized meal planning
One-on-one counseling
Wellness resources & referrals
Lifestyle management
Medical nutrition therapy

"It's never too late or

never too early to

work towards

being the healthiest you.”

Anonymous

Resources:

Simple Steps Wellness: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100057582874519

Michelle Buckingham:

https://www.healthprofs.com/us/nutritionists-dietitians/michelle-buckingham-severna-park-md/1070654

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Welcome to Episode 191 where we dig into how real self-care means following through on what we need to do to take care of ourselves.

In this episode we dive deeper into the idea that TRUE self-care is when we make it real. When we follow through on both holding the line on our boundaries, and taking responsibility for what we have promised ourselves we would take care of. Self-care involves following through with actions that nourish your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. We talked last week about some of the good things and not so good things to have in our life. If you haven’t had a chance to listen to that yet you might want to do that first…and come join us back here when you’re done so this episode will make more sense.

When you commit to taking care of yourself, it means setting boundaries, saying no to things that drain you, prioritizing rest and relaxation, and making time for activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Following through with these actions not only benefits your own well-being, but also supports your ability to be assertive and advocate for yourself in all areas of your life.

Key Elements:

· Explore the some of the consequences of not following through on self-care

· Identify how taking care of ourselves is the best way to feel more confident.

· Identify ways to make it easier to commit and follow through.

“Part of courage

is simple consistency.”

— Peggy Noonan

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Welcome to Episode 190 where begin the month all about how self-care means caring about your boundaries. The ones you set with others and yourself.

In this episode we start the month focusing on self-care: taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Caring about our boundaries is an important aspect of self-care because it helps us protect our well-being and maintain a healthy balance in our relationships – especially our interactions with others. Having clear boundaries means that we are able to set limits on what we are willing to accept or tolerate in our personal and professional relationships. This helps us avoid becoming overwhelmed or taken advantage of, and protects our mental and emotional health. We are focusing on the boundary aspects of saying no to what is NOT supporting us, taking quiet time to listen to our inner wisdom, saying yes to planning and then of course acting, with baby steps to begin the journey.

Key Elements:

Talk about how self-care means setting limits on doing too much.
Focus on ways to tune into and honor your inner voice.
Process how planning and being proactive can bring in the calm.

“Be patient with yourself.

Self-growth is tender;

it’s holy ground.

There’s no greater investment.”

— Stephen Covey

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Welcome to Episode 189 where we listen in clips from the top five most listened to episodes about connection.

In this episode we finish out the month with probably the best topic, because it can be a culmination of all the work we talked about in the previous episodes: connection. We need healthy separateness, boundaries, direct communication and to own our needs. Connecting in the healthiest, most authentic ways requires work in all of those, and other areas. It is also what we all crave to feel known, loved, cared about and that we make sense. I think healthy connection is a way to feel that we both belong to ourselves and feel that belongingness with others. Connection is so much more than just healthy communication. It’s about vulnerability, being transparent, sharing joys and sorrows as well as things we are ashamed of, afraid of or embarrassed about. Connection is also about shared experiences that bond us to others and give life meaning.

Key Elements:

Explore how connection is more than just healthy communication.
Talk about how authentic, vulnerable communication is the key to connection
Look at how we can work on creating emotional trust and safety in our communication.

Sometimes if you expose your vulnerability,

someone else will feel comforted.

It's like we're all in this boat together.

-Tavi Gevinson

Resources:

EP054 Growing Great Relationships

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 054)

EP137 Building Connection: What is Emotional Intimacy

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 137)

EP143 Healthier Communication: Building Trust with Emotional Honesty

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 143)

EP133 Connection We Crave: Why We Need It and Why We May Not Have It

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 133)

EP157 Don’t Be Vulnerable: Men and Passive-Aggressive Behavior https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 157)

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Welcome to Episode 188 where we listen in to bits of top five most listened to episodes about assertiveness.

In this episode we will be getting on my absolute soapbox – and that is the concept of assertiveness. Over many years of studying, teaching, learning, and doing my own work around personal growth, I believe we cannot have good self-esteem if we cannot own our voice. We cannot feel empowered unless we are standing and living our truth. We cannot have healthy relationships without being in a place of choice. This is why I am building a course on this because I believe in it so much. More on that to come! This week we will listen on some of the most popular episodes about the different components of being more assertive.

Key Elements:

Define what assertiveness truly is, and what it isn’t
Talk about the core issues we must work on to speak our truth in healthy ways.
Look at how we must know, love and trust ourselves first.

Without the confidence to act,

few will venture down a new path,

no matter how clear the road map.

-W. Chan Kim

Resources:

EP023 Defining Assertiveness: What it Is and What it Isn’t

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 023)

EP024 What Assertiveness Looks Like:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 024)

EP099 Stop the People-Pleasing…Please

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 099)

EP145 Healthy Communication: Assertiveness is More than Just a Skill: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 145)

EP178 Being Assertive Means Having Inner Strength: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 178)

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Welcome to Episode 187 where we will be getting into one of the more popular categories of boundaries and listening in on the five most downloaded episodes.

In this episode we listen in on the top five boundaries episodes and how important boundaries are for confidence, healthy separateness in relationships, and for creating change. Know that boundaries is a huge concept with so many layers and flavors that we could probably never fully finish talking about it. What matters most is to keep learning, owning and practicing healthier boundaries…within and without, so your life can feel better and better.

Key Elements:

Discuss what boundaries are and how they show up for us.
Process how boundaries require letting go of outcomes.
Explore what it means to verbalize healthy boundaries and why staying in choice is so necessary.

“Having boundaries means

that you have a voice

and you’re not afraid to

use it.”

– Unknown

Resources:

EP010 Defining Needs

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-010/

EP018 Setting and Maintaining Boundaries:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-018/

EP148 Creating Change Means Starting with Boundaries:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 148)

EP165 Empowerment Means Having Good Boundaries: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 165)

EP179 Being Assertive Means Detachment and Boundaries: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 179)

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Welcome to Episode 186 where we highlight the top four favorite episodes about getting needs met.

In this episode we talk about how we can certainly underestimate the importance of getting our needs met in healthy ways, especially the emotional and psychological ones. We talk about why it matters to define them, own them and figure out healthier ways to get them met, because not taking ownership usually leads to some form of acting out and self-neglect.

Key Elements:

Discuss how it’s important to define just what our needs are beyond food, water, and shelter.
Look at the costs of unmet needs growing up, and how we can continue to deny them in adulthood.
Explore what it looks like to own our needs and take responsibility for getting them met in healthy ways.

Either you got healthy, accurate mirroring

of who you truly are - or unhealthy toxic mirroring

like the mirrors in a carnival funhouse.

Healing requires searching carefully

for true reflections.

Resources:

EP006 Defining Needs

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-006/

EP007 Unmet Needs and Why They Matter:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-007/

EP009 Taking Responsibility for Getting Needs Met:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-009/

EP101 Putting Your Voice Out There…Vulnerably:

https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 101)

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Welcome to Episode 185 where we highlight the top five most-listened to episodes about self-confidence.

In this episode we focus on what YOU the listeners have voted as the most popular episodes that have focused on self-confidence, which is such a big part of empowerment. I realize that some of these episodes are the earlier ones and have been left off of some of the listening platforms. Know that you can always go to ownitopowercast.com to grab any episode you want, and I intend to keep as many there as possible for you to reference as needed.

Key Elements:

Explore how self confidence is either created or wounded in our early relationships.
Revisit episodes that discuss the importance of owning our choices, and how the healing journey works.
Process how confidence is conveyed in our communication – or not.

"Trust yourself—

you know more than

you think you do."

Benjamin Spock

Resources:

EP002 Defining True Self Confidence: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-002/

EP019 Confidence and the Big Setup: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast-019/

EP055 Self-Confidence Is: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 055)

EP062 The Hero’s Journey: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 062)

EP164 Empowerment Means Owning our Choices: https://www.soarwithmarybaker.com/ownitpowercast/ (use search in player for 164)

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Welcome to Episode 184 where we finish out the month and the year wrapping up some big areas of change we have been talking about.

In this episode we finish out the year talking about radical self-care, where we identify a few things in the areas of boundaries, healing, in daily self-care that can help us take charge of our life and really start changing things. We explore how owning our choices is so important if we want to feel empowered and hopeful, rather than anxious or depressed. Or perhaps resentful of others and events in our life that we feel wield so much power.

Key Elements:

Assess progress and next steps in setting healthy boundaries.
Discuss the importance of owning our choices, even our small part in things.
Process how healing and grief work are necessary for having hope in the future.

"The time is now.

Stop hitting the snooze button

on your life."

Mel Robbins.

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 183 where we talk about how trauma comes in different forms and levels of severity, and how important it is to work toward healing so that we can feel more grounded, glued together and have more peace in our lives.

In this episode we define the different types of trauma, its effects on us, and ways to begin healing. As many people either think about or engage with more family this holiday season, it may be a triggering time of year where many people struggle. Others may just have anxiety and not know why. Either way, finding ways to heal and reclaim your life is the way to peace…and hope that things actually can be better!

Key Elements:

Discuss the different types of trauma, and what many of the symptoms are.
Process the need for understanding the less obvious traumas.
Talk about ways to begin the grief work and healing journey, and some of the great benefits from doing so.

Suppression

leads to momentary relief and permanent pain.

Feeling

leads to momentary pain and permanent relief.

-Chinese Proverb

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 182 where we focus on the interconnected Boundary/Detachment/Grief work we either are doing or need to do so we can heal and come to acceptance of the realities of our life.

In this episode process the concepts of how griefwork, detachment and boundaries work together like three legs of a stool to help us sit with, face, and feel what is and has been true for us, and what we need to come to acceptance around. We focus on the many types of losses we may not be familiar with and thus may not realize what we need to grieve. This is such important vulnerable work, and opens the door to more healing, more hope, and more peace.

Key Elements:

Explore the stages of grief and the challenges we face when walking through it.
Talk about how boundary work is the crucial first step in healing.
Ask ourselves how we have done this year when it comes to making peace with what is.

"It is always our own self

that we find at the end

of the journey.

The sooner we face that self,

the better."

Ella Maillart

Resources:

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EP181 Finding Hope and Peace Where You Can

Welcome to Episode 181 where we focus on ways you can find some hope and peace no matter what is going on or where we are. It is also a great time of year to look back on all that’s happened and all you have accomplished in your work, as well as where you want to go next year.

In this episode we SO today we start a new month all about self-focus, reflection, and self-care. The different areas we will look at is healing old wounds, boundary work, and what we need to do to take care of ourselves, and our life. To look at what this year has been like for us, and to thoughtfully consider what we would like to carry forward into the next year. Perhaps some new loving habits we would like to continue or create, and what needs to change in order for us to truly live intentionally. Knowing things can change brings hope. Changing some important things can bring peace.

Key Elements:

Look at how we will assess what the past year has meant for you.
Talk about how healing old wounds, boundary work and self-care are what bring about hope – and maybe even peace.
Process ways you can begin assessing right away if you’ve been loving yourself enough.

"In moments of quiet reflection

our minds embrace

the sea that we

have crossed."

Holmes.

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 180 where we wrap up the month about assertiveness by getting down to what it takes to actually practice!

In this episode we finish up the month talking all about the necessary components for assertiveness and examples of what this looks like, from setting boundaries, to shushing your inner critic and looking at how NOT to react emotionally. Just by making clear goal statements about how you want to change in the coming months – is empowering because you are choosing. You are owning, and you are becoming, you are transforming. How powerful is that!

Key Elements:

Note the work you need to do on boundaries and healing.
Discuss examples of how to begin making real changes in your communication.
Explore how reigning in your emotions is everything when it comes to communicating your boundaries in a healthy, respectful way.

"The only way

to find your voice

is to use it."

-Jen Mueller

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 179 where we talk about the importance of making friends with healthy boundaries, and not be in a space where are secretly trying to get an outcome to happen.

In this episode talk about how to be assertive and have healthy communication in our relationships, we MUST do work on boundaries and loving detachment. If not, we end up rescuing, controlling, and enmeshing, and avoiding the healthy risk of just asking for what we need and letting go of the outcome. Practicing staying in our lane and being courageous and emotionally honest is the best thing we can do for ourselves, and our relationships.

Key Elements:

Identify how you know it’s time to detach!
Process steps of detachment and boundary work.
Talk about how each of us has personal rights in every relationship.

“Speak boldly and with intellect.

Never hush your voice

for someone’s comfort.

Speak your mind.”

— Unknown

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 178 where we look at just how you can build or continue to work on gaining your INNER strength so you can have a confident, strong voice on the OUTSIDE.

In this episode we discuss how in order to feel strong enough on the outside, we might first need to do some work on the inside to build our confidence around the things that are private and personal. We get into what it means to work on building a strong inner core of self-trust, healthy boundaries and standing in your truth with emotional honesty. Being assertive can be risky business, or at least feel that way at first, and ironically it requires a lot of courage to be this vulnerable. This inner muscle work will certainly pay off over time as our insides match our outsides more.

Key Elements:

Discuss healthy vs unhealthy ways to get needs met and deal with feelings.
Look at how boundaries play a big part in self-confidence.
Explore how allowing ourselves to do some healthy accepting of reality keeps us grounded and strong.

“If you want to

improve your self-worth,

stop giving other people

the calculator.”

– Tim Fargo

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 177 where we get honest about how we need to heal on the inside before we present our authentic self confidently on the outside.

In this episode we process the idea that in order to present our outside selves to the world in a confident manner and be able to speak assertively and with emotional honesty, we might need to do some inside work first to make sure we make peace with all of who we are… first. To then be able to advocate for ourselves, negotiate lovingly in our relationships, with emotional honesty and emotional maturity. Eventually our insides match our outsides more, and we can relax into who we really are.

Key Elements:

Contrast healthy and unhealthy emotional childhood environments and their impact on our self-esteem.
Look at how shame and guilt can make being assertive difficult.
Note the need for inner healing first before we can be assertive out there.

Don’t measure how

valuable you are

by the way

you are treated.”

– Charlie Mackesy

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 176 where we start the new month describing how important our self-esteem is to our ability to be assertive.

In this episode start to take a look at how important our self-concept is to our ability to be assertive and communicate to others in emotionally mature and healthy ways. We assess some common beliefs and behaviors that point to self-concept struggles we may have. This month we will break all this down and explore some of the most important aspects if this, including looking at old wounds to our self-esteem, practicing healthy boundaries and creating a plan for what we need to work on.

Key Elements:

Assess how you do with being assertive and confident.
Define some of the important aspects of self-esteem.
Describe how we will unpack boundary work, healing old wounds and making a plan to get working on it.

“The worst loneliness

is to not be comfortable

with yourself.”

― Mark Twain

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 175 and my conversation with Steven Rudolph, CEO of Multiple Natures International and creator of Feed Your Tigers. He helps people discover and align their tigers (innate talents) so they can thrive.

In this episode we talk about how Steven has created an assessment process that helps you identify your unique talents, and to also help you explore life’s work and other ventures where you can feel fulfilled and find purpose and success.

In 1989, while pursuing a career in music in New York, Steven Rudolph took up a part-time teaching job to make ends meet. In his first class he had an epiphany: that he had an innate capacity to teach. Though he had no formal training, it was as if he already knew how to do it—as if he were a fish in water.

The realization led him on a 21-year quest to India, where he uncovered 5,000-year-old secrets to self-understanding and achieving one's potential. Steven has taken those principles and crafted them into an easy-to-use, enjoyable program--Feed Your Tigers. Steven lives in Cambodia where he serves as CEO of MNI, and explores how ancient Eastern wisdom can help people (and their tigers) become more aligned.

Key Elements:

Describe how you can identify your ‘Big” and “little” tigers.
Process how our talents and passions are formed at an early age.
Talk about how to tap into your superhighways of talent to be both happy and successful.

Remember that

wherever

your heart is,

there you will

find your treasure.

– Paulo Coelho

Resources:

Take the free assessment to get started at:

https://www.multiplenatures.com/mntest-free

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Welcome to Episode 174 where we talk about how what is going on in your life today is directly affecting your future.

In this episode we are going to get into how the things you do today DO and WILL impact your tomorrow, and good planning and living intentionally and on purpose means we take responsibility for all the big and the little things we do each day, each week, each month each year. We may not realize how they add up over time. Are all or at least most of these things in alignment with where we want to be five years from now? How do we know? Are we being up front and honest with ourselves or are afraid to be because of what we would have to admit?

Key Elements:

Assess the different ways we either are building steps to our goals or sabotaging them.
Look at some of the more “invisible” ways we can get in our own way.
Talk about how to take better ownership of all the little things that matter.

Inspiration in life is born

when we have a purpose.

-Daniel Longwe

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 173 where we explore how to identify our gifts and passions.

In this episode we explore how early experiences help shape how well we can identify and embrace our gifts and passions. We talk about how we early in life many things can happen that made it hard for us to believe in what is special and important about us. We talked about how to take steps to not only identify what our unique qualities are, but also how to begin honoring them in our life by making changes so that we begin living them more.

Key Elements:

Describe how early experiences have direct impacts on our authenticity.
Get into ways to begin uncovering your unique talents and what you are passionate about.
Identify ways to begin today to start putting more of your truth out into the world.

There is no greater gift

you can give or receive

than to honor your calling.

It’s why you were born.

And how you become

most truly alive.

– Oprah Winfrey

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 172 where we focus on using your gifts and your passions to find fulfilment.

In this episode we begin talking about how this month’s episodes will be all about discovering, or maybe rediscovering our talents and passions, why it matters for us to really own them and utilize them in order to feel confident and fulfilled, and how to go about this process. So many of my clients over the years seem to organically turn toward their desire to find their purpose, and for the life to have greater meaning. The research is there to back this up as well. Being authentic and bravely putting ourselves out there becomes a natural desire I think, because we yearn for alignment with who we really are, and why we are here. Risking rejection to put our truth out there actually increases our self-confidence, feelings of belongingness and having meaning in our lives.

Key Elements:

Discuss how using our gifts and passions can help create a fulfilling life.
Talk about the costs of not honoring our talents and passions.
Using an experiential exercise to dive a bit deeper into where you are in this process.

Life is never made unbearable

by circumstances,

but only by lack of

meaning and purpose.

– Viktor Frankl

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 171 where I interview results coach James Heppner and explore how he helps clients get clear about their life and where they want to be.

In this episode we talk to James, who is a results coach and founder of Weekly Wins and Losses podcast and weekly global community call. He helps people in their journey to embrace all of life - both wins and losses equally. James helps you firmly establish the mental and physical courage needed to do difficult things while guiding you to activate your ability to leverage the good news that lies at the heart of both a win…. AND A LOSS.

People from around the world find James when their way of handling losses just no longer works, and when leaving 50% of life on the table is no longer an option. James’ current client list ranges from well-known professionals and executives to average ordinary humans - both of which are deeply hungry and curious towards the worthy work of breaking into and establishing a brand-new dimension of life.

Key Elements:

Define what James means about using the Pause to get clear.
Explore how we often run from ourselves and our feelings.
Discuss how coming to acceptance of our reality today will help us get to where we want to be tomorrow.

When you quiet your mind,

you can enter a world of clarity,

peace and understanding.

-Alice Coltrane

Resources:

https://www.jamesheppner.com/

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Welcome to Episode 170 where we get into how to get honest about how we use our voice and our behavior. Do they speak confidence…or not?

In this episode we talk about how one of the aspects of feeling and being confident is being gut-level honest with ourselves about who we are, what we are choosing and where we are going. In essence, it’s about making friends with reality as I say, because denial, rationalization and avoidance will ONLY serve to harm our self-esteem - not bolster it. We discuss the need to grab accountability for our communication and our behavior in our relationships. We focus on ways to assess how healthy you are today, around your beliefs, your communication, and your behavior. By getting a coach, joining a likeminded group, and writing down your findings, you can begin immediately to make things better in this area.

Key Elements:

Define the main areas where we need accountability.
Talk about ways you can check in with yourself around healthy behaviors.
Discuss the need for a coach or group support to “keep us hones.”

“Honesty

is telling the truth

to ourselves and others.

Integrity

is living that truth. ”

- Kenneth H. Blanchard.

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 169 where we talk about how our inner voice is what dictates our outer one, and if we really want to feel grounded and authentic, we need to become better listeners to what is going on inside of us.

In this episode we talk about how to be more confident and use our voice out there to ask for what we need, to express our thoughts opinions and feelings, and to assert ourselves, we need to listen and maybe heed the quiet voice on the inside that is trying to tell us something. Whether it’s an excited nudge to try something new or cool, or a stomach twist when something looks fine on the surface but isn’t going to be a good thing, our inner voice is there to guide us to the good stuff, and hopefully help steer us away from what isn’t.

Key Elements:

Describe some important aspects of our inner voice.
Explore ways our voice speaks to us, and what about.
Talk about ways we can practice listening to our truth.

“Clarity within

leads to clarity without.”

– David Dillard-Wright

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 168 where we begin a new month dedicated to creating confidence, and/or regaining it if that’s what we need to do.

In this episode we focus on how you can take this month and really get back to yourself, to get clear, and to make healthy decisions from there. To me, it’s really boundary work…setting limits out there with what is no longer serving us (or ahem maybe never did!) as well as within, where we take some much-needed time to just STOP, rest, practice self-care so the answers we are yearning to have can actually come to us. From what is draining our energy to all the things that might be keeping us distracted and therefore disconnected from ourselves, we focus on ways to detach from what isn’t serving us and take time to get quiet so we can get clear. Self-care is a big part of this, especially downtime so our brains and our intuition have a chance to gather all the necessary information we need to take better care of ourselves and to figure out in where we want to go from here.

Key Elements:

Discuss how our day-to-day life can get in the way of getting clear.
Talk about the ways we will look at gaining clarity this month.
Focus on how self-care takes many forms and factors into our self-confidence.

Fearless means trusting

your instincts

and clarity of thought.

Once you have made up your mind,

don't be scared of

what if.

-Ravi Shastri

Resources:

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EP167 Letting Go of Your Need to Control Your Teenager is the Greatest Gift You Can Give Them

Welcome to Episode 167 where we finish out our month about empowerment with my interview with Jim White, author and coach.

This episode is my interview with Jim White. Jim is an author, coach, and founder of The Family Enrichment Academy. He has spent the last 40 years studying the topics of personal development, marriage, and parenting. More importantly, he has also spent those 40 years applying these lessons and living my life as a husband, a father to 6 children and a grandfather … Papa Jim. His great new book: How To Be The Parent Your Teenager Needs You To Be: Without All Of The Fighting, Frustration, Or Fear Of Doing It Wrong is available on Amazon.

As he moved along the first journey as a husband and father, doing all of the stuff that a father of 6 children has to do. He experienced an amazing internal transformation as well. Through his passion for personal development and family enrichment, he was discovering and putting into practice the principles, values and beliefs that make a life full of peace, joy, purpose and love possible. Twenty years ago I wrote this definition of a “successful family”:

A successful family is one whose members speak with respect, honor difference, provide a nurturing environment, empower each other, and truly enjoy being together. They have a knack for really enjoying and appreciating the good times, while at the same time, they can effectively deal with any difficult issues that come their way. There is a sense of peace, joy, warmth, and love within their home.

The mission of The Family Enrichment Academy is to share 40 years of lessons and hard-earned wisdom. To empower parents to be the hero within their families. To teach the principles, values and beliefs that will lead to a life and a family full of peace, joy, warmth, and love.

Key Elements:

Identify ways to be emotionally present and safe for your teen to talk.
Find ways to let go of control and instead learn how to empower them.
Be open to learning how to find a healthier mindset during tough moments.

“Behind every young child

who believes in himself

is a parent who

believed first.”

–Matthew Jacobson

Resources:

FREE Resource from Jim:

One of the biggest challenges parents face is getting their teens to open up and talk. This PDF provides 10 Questions to never ask because they are conversation killers. Also included, are 10 great questions... conversation starters.

https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/opt-in-10-questions-rev-1

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Welcome to Episode 166 where we discuss how there are three ways we all communicate, according to Jim Rohn. We will be passive-aggressive, aggressive, or assertive.

In this episode we talked about how to be empowered we must be assertive, which means standing in our truth while being calm, grounded and respectful of others at the same time. We discussed what assertiveness looks like and what is definitely is not, such as aggressive or passive-aggressive behavior. Assertiveness is all about finding and using your voice in healthy ways to make your insides match your outsides, so you can feel confident and trust yourself more.

Key Elements:

Identify what assertiveness looks like in action.
Compare assertive communication with passive-aggressive behavior.
Talk about the ways boundaries and choice are a big part of being confident.

You may not control

all the events that happen to you,

but you can decide

not to be reduced by them.

-Maya Angelou

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 165 where we talk about a foundational piece to empowerment: having healthy boundaries with ourselves and with others.

In this episode we focus on how being empowered means understanding and practicing setting limits, as well as being able to set them with ourselves. We explore the different facets of boundary setting, where we first learn to have them (or not), and ways they are either respected or when and how they are violated. We also get into a big part of boundary work and that is healthy detachment, where we learn how to let go of control. Being empowered also means owning your gifts and being open to taking healthy risks and letting go of the outcomes.

Key Elements:

Identify what healthy boundaries look like, and how to tell where yours are.
Discuss what it feels like when you experience various boundary violations.
Process how important loving detachment is to boundary work.

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“If someone throws a fit

because you set boundaries,

it’s just more evidence

the boundary is needed.”

– Unknown

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Welcome to Episode 164 where we focus on one of the biggest aspects of empowerment: owning our choices and thus owning our life.

In this episode we focus on how being empowered means complete ownership of the self, especially keeping ourselves and others in a place of choice and taking full ownership of our choices. We explore the pieces of that ownership from our feelings to our behaviors, to our decisions, resulting in more confidence and emotional maturity. Our relationships become healthier as we create more emotional safety. Going a little deeper, we look at where we are right now in our life in terms of taking our power back.

Key Elements:

Break down what does owning our choices look like.
Focus on where we are today around owning our power.
Process how this affects our relationships.

"Holding back your feelings

doesn’t keep them hidden,

it just makes your behavior

incoherent."

- Vickie Gray

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 163 where we are going to spend some time talking about one of the core concepts of the show, and that is Personal Empowerment. We started out the podcast defining this, yet it’s been awhile and time for a great refresher. This month as you get ready for this current season to wind down and the new one to begin, let’s take some time to focus in on what it truly takes to feel, look and be empowered to be the person you were always meant to be.

In this episode we explore all the pieces we will talk about this month, including how empowered people have certain qualities that enable them to feel confident and to be authentic. Each week we will talk more about just how important these are, and how to work on them.

Key Elements:

Describe the necessary pieces of empowerment.
Define what personal empowerment truly is.
Talk about what empowered people do.

It took a long time

to develop a voice,

and now that I have it,

I’m not going to be

silent.

-Madeleine Albright

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 162 where we explore wrap up the month about attachment, and how to learn to let go.

In this episode we finish out this month which has been all about attachments we have to people, places, and things, and how the deeper we connect ourselves, and allow that person, thing or situation we are attached to influence our daily life, the unhealthier our relationships and we ourselves become. We look at what really needs to happen if we want to begin letting go of what has actually been controlling us and making us anxious and crazy on the inside if we got honest. Then we explore how the components of detachment and grief work are key to letting go of control and refocusing on ourselves.

Key Elements:

Talk about how detachment and grief work are necessary.
Look at how to practice healthy detachment to become better at it.
Dig deep into the stages of grief work necessary if we want to let go.

"No one ever told me

that grief felt

so much like fear."

-C.S Lewis

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 161 where we explore what your personal attachments might be, and how to begin the process of letting go.

In this episode we look at areas of attachment and ask you to think about some you may be caught up in trying to control lately…around people, events or the process. We explore how most attachments are fear-based, as we are afraid of negative outcomes if we let go and stop trying to influence what happens. Grief work is the answer as we work on letting go and coming to acceptance of what is, giving us perspective on how detachment can help us bring the focus back to ourselves and stay grounded.

Key Elements:

Identify some possible attachments you may have in your life.
Explore some of the driving fears and wishes for these.
Describe how grief work can help us begin to let go of control.

“There are things that we don't

want to happen but have to accept,

things we don't want to know

but have to learn,

people we can't live without

but have to let go.”

― Nancy Stephan

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 160 where we focus on the book The Five Levels of Attachment by Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr.

In this episode we focus on Don Miguel Ruiz Jr's book, The Five Levels of attachment and we look at how the more attached we become to something or someone outside of ourselves, the more we lose touch with who we really are. We discuss some of the many costs to our health, our relationships, and even our communities the more enveloped and entrenched we get into the nouns outside of ourselves. Taking this concept of attachment and looking at the cost to our mental health and our relationships was our focus today and will be next week as well. As we look at what freedom can truly look and feel like...

Key Elements:

Learn what the Five Levels of Attachment are.
Look at some of the costs to our well-being and relationships.
Focus on ways to prevent becoming too attached to outcomes.

“When we let go of our reactions

and detach from other people’s

moods, actions, and words,

we take back our power.”

– Darlene Lancer

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 159 where we begin a new month all about freedom that comes from being able to let go.

In this episode we talk about how freedom is what we are seeking from anxiety, feeling depressed, stuck, disappointed in ourselves and overwhelmed. We need a Way Out. We want to feel better, and for our lives to BE better. True freedom means being able to let go, detach in love and to learn how to grieve what is instead of through to persuade twist and contort reality into what we want it to be. We will explore this month some of the concepts that Don Miguel Ruiz, Jr. describes in his book about the Five Levels of Attachment. Then we will take a look at your specific attachments, and what to do about them.

Key Elements:

Discuss how letting go is all about letting go of control.
Explore the overview of the months’ episodes about attachment.
Look at where the difficulty in letting go comes from.

Detachment doesn't mean not caring.

It's taking care of yourself first

and letting others take responsibility

for their actions without trying

to save or punish them.

-Mari Rodríguez Y.

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 158 where I have a conversation with Dr. Eddie Capparucci, a PhD and certified addiction counselor, about men who struggle with sexual addiction and lack of emotional agility.

Eddie is an author and therapist who specializes in the treatment of sexual and pornography addiction. He is the creator of the Inner Child Model, which has been endorsed by many leaders in the sex addiction field.

This therapy focuses on identifying childhood pain points that still haunt those who struggle with addiction. By helping individuals understand "why" sex has had a stronghold on their lives, the Inner Child Model empowers them to make real changes.

This treatment differs from other in that it seeks to change an individual's heart instead of simply trying to remove a destructive behavior.

You can learn more about the Inner Child Model and his book at www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com

This is the book that Eddie will be talking about on the show today. It was such a great opportunity to connect with someone who is doing so much to help men. Not just with addiction issues but healing old wounds and finding ways to live better. I’m looking forward to having him on again to discuss his new book so stay tuned.

Key Elements:

Identify how origins of sexual addiction can often be found in childhood pain.
Discuss the origins of his work building the Inner Child Model and why it works.
Note how men struggle to identify and express feelings and empathy in their relationships.

“Every man has his secret sorrows

which the world knows not;

and often times we call a man

when he is only sad.”

― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Resources:

https://www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com

https://www.strugglingmen.org

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Welcome to Episode 157 where we focus on some of the qualities seen in a confident, loving man that feels good about who he is, and can be open and connect with others and with life.

In this episode we focus on the confident man, one who is strong yet allows himself to be vulnerable and therefore genuine. He can connect with others, share his feelings in healthy ways and be emotionally present for others when they do the same. He is one who has done the work of healing whatever pain has created low self-esteem and defensiveness, and instead becomes so much more approachable and enjoyable to be around. I think confident men have their insides match their outsides, and can create huge changes within themselves, in their relationships and in their communities.

Key Elements:

Identify some of the qualities evident in a confident man.
Talk about some of the work it takes to get there, including healing old pain.
Process how the essence of confidence is taking complete responsibility for his life.

“I believe the first test

of a truly great man

is in his humility.”

— John Ruskin

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 156 where focus on how men can struggle to be open and assertive in their relationships. In this episode we focus on how men’s childhoods can set them up to avoid vulnerability and instead to cope via passive aggressive behavior in order to stay away judgment and conflict. Of course, that is exactly what they end up embroiled in because they are not stepping up confidently and being strong dads and partners. They are letting themselves down with their inauthenticity and therefore the inability to experience great relationships. We talk about how they often pair up with partners who have a penchant for rescuing rather than risking loss via setting firm boundaries and detaching, setting up a futile parent vs child dynamic instead of loving partners.

Society teaches boys not to cry

or show their feelings,

then act surprised when

some men act heartless.

- Unknown

Key Elements:

Explore some of the reasons men struggle with vulnerability.
Look at how passive-aggressive behavior hurts men’s ability to partner.
Look at how men can begin to work on healing and connect better.

Resources:

What kind of Woman Marries the Passive-Aggressive Man by Cathy Meyer.

https://www.liveabout.com/what-kind-of-woman-marries-the-passive-aggressive-man-1102897#:~:text=The%20passive%20aggressive%20man%20or,aggressive%20man%20will%20do%20both

The Good Men Project:

https://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/the-subtle-shaming-of-men-and-vulnerability-dg/

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Welcome to Episode 155 where we talk about how this month we will be focusing on men and how they struggle in relationships.

In this episode we get into the topics that will be helpful for men to focus on such as owning feelings, looking at how early experiences have shaped them, and finding healthier coping skills. We also explore how society and families can greatly impact a man’s ability to have healthy self-confidence and connection with others.

Key Elements:

Look at how society and childhood have impacted men's sense of self.
Discuss topics to cover this month.
Assess what fathering you recieved growing up and how it may still be impacting you.

If society didn't label a man as 'weak' for communicating his feelings and showing his emotions, more relationships would last.

- Sonya Parker

Resources:

David Wexler:

https://www.psychotherapynetworker.org/magazine/article/405/shame-o-phobia

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Welcome to Episode 154 where we finish up the month by focusing on how when we STOP looking out there for who we are, to feel ok about ourselves or to feel accepted, and we BEGIN to create more balance in our lives and get rid of some of the chaos.

In this episode we So today we wrap up the month focusing on the larger concept of looking out there for who we are instead of going within to find that persona and honor them as best we can by making sure our insides match our outsides. Balance is more than just scheduling downtime. Besides, if we are disconnected from who we are we won’t do it anyway. It’s about healing, it’s about focusing on our values, our beliefs, and our truth. It’s also about risking saying no and going within to sit with ourselves a bit to see what needs to go, what needs to change, and what direction we need to move in. All month we contrast stress and chaos with calm and clarity and processed how the biggest culprit is NOT being in our truth. Instead, we may have been too busy doing too much, people pleasing and running from ourselves. We talk about how things like perfectionism and binary beliefs keep us stick and don’t allow us to just be our incredible quirky authentic selves.

Key Elements:

Identify the costs of not creating balance for ourselves.
Look at how we can outsource who we are and why we do that.
Wrap up the month focusing on how to have more serenity in our life.

We cannot be who we truly are

unless we define who we are,

and boundaries help us do that.

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EP153 Stopping the All or Nothing: How Our Binary Beliefs Create Stress

Welcome to Episode 153 where we talk about how we can add a lot of stress to our life by staying in black and white thinking, as well as being rigid to play it safe and not take risks.

In this episode we explore how we can create a lot of stress for ourselves by staying in the rigid all or nothing, perfect or horrible thinking, which keeps us from taking healthy risks in our life and seeing possibilities. It often goes hand in hand with feeling anxious and depressed and it’s not hard to see why. We then looked into ways of being open to reframing situations, allowing for other possibilities and allowing more for ourselves.

Key Elements:

Note some of the origins of building binary beliefs.
Look at some of the costs to our relationships and our life.
Identify ways to begin the process of changing your paradigm.

“The greatest weapon

against stress

is our ability to choose

one thought

over another.”

– William James

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 152 where we add on to the idea of how doing TOO much can be an easy distraction from feeling and facing things we don’t want to contend with.

In this episode we talk about how for so many of us, piling on too much to do, keeping too many things going on at one time not only creates chaos and stress, but can also conveniently keep us from sitting in feelings we are avoiding. We explore where this coping skill may come from, ways to begin sitting in the truth, and the richness our life can have when we grab the courage to do so.

Key Elements:

Talk about some reasons why we may deny our feelings in order to cope.
Discuss some of the ways we can “run” from things we don’t want to face.
Look at how staying too busy creates its own chaos.

“Our anxiety does not come

from thinking about the future,

but from wanting to

control it.”

– Kahlil Gibran

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Welcome to Episode 151 where we talk about how one of the biggest ways we can create chaos in our life is if we struggle with people-pleasing.

In this episode we talk about a common and insidious struggle that so many people have – people pleasing behavior. At its core it is fear-based impression management, that has some hidden costs that are important to look at and can certainly create lots of imbalance in our lives. It is a longstanding coping skill learned in childhood, and yet can be changed if with some deeper work around boundaries, self-esteem and building the courage to say no.

Key Elements:

Identify how people pleasing starts in childhood.
Discuss some of the hidden costs of this behavior to our relationships and our health.
Explore how to identify what people-pleasing looks like.

“Stress, anxiety and depression

are caused when we are

living to please others.”

– Paulo Coelho

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Welcome to Episode 150 where we explore how the stress in our lives can cause longstanding problems, and how this month we will explore the causes and the cures.

In this episode it’s all about how to figure out what is crazy in your life right now, some of the typical culprits, and how to get grounded and create and maintain some much-needed balance. Sometimes it’s obvious to us why life seems like it’s spinning, such as a crisis or huge change. Yet more often we can become slowly accustomed to it being too much, since we acclimated slowly down the slippery slope.

Key Elements:

Identify if the crazy in your life is starting to take its toll.
Discuss the ways we will explore common origins of letting it get the best of us.
Look at how boundaries can play an important role in managing stress.

“If you feel “burnout” setting in,

if you feel demoralized and exhausted,

it is best, for the sake of everyone,

to withdraw and restore yourself.”

– Dalai Lama

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 149 where we look finish out this month about change by talking about the need to let go of what no longer works for us. In this episode we finish out the month all about change, by focusing on what we need to let go of in order to move forward. From old, limiting beliefs to old habits and fears, we explored how we may be holding onto things without realizing it. Until we are truly ready to let go, we won’t be able to embrace the new and sustain those changes we so badly want. Again, change does take courage, and it takes big ones to let go and trust the process, the universe and yourself that you can have it better and different.

Key Elements:

Talk about the ways we can hold onto what no longer works for us.
Discuss the difference between earned and unearned guilt.
Process what old beliefs we may be holding onto that can get in our way.

Leave who you were.

Love who you are.

Look forward to

who you will become.

- Unknown

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Welcome to Episode 148 where we look at how important boundaries are if we want to change things in our life, especially our self-discipline.

In this episode we focus on an important aspect of self-love, and that is self-discipline. Loving ourselves enough to say no to what isn’t working in our life and saying no to hurting our health, draining our energy, and sabotaging good things for ourselves. Learning to practice boundaries and following through even on one change can be empowering and life changing. Change takes courage and it means commitment to taking actual steps to say no to ourselves.

Key Elements:

Identify the ways we can get clear and committed about our self-discipline.
Discuss why we may struggle to be more disciplined.
Process what some of the consequences might be if we don’t grab some structure for ourselves.

"The fact is discipline is only

punishment when imposed

on you by someone else.

When you discipline yourself,

it's not punishment but

empowerment."

– Les Brown.

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Welcome to Episode 147 where we take a hard look at how no matter what we SAY we want to do, we can sabotage the very steps we need to take to move forward, and there are valid reasons why we may do this.

In this episode we get real about the ways we can hold ourselves back from what we say we want…the healthier habits and the steps toward our big goals that are just waiting for us to begin and maintain. We talk about how old, limiting beliefs, lack of boundaries and lack of healthy support can wreak havoc on the best-laid plans. But we also get into some time-tested ways you can counteract those gremlins and get moving toward your goals.

Key Elements:

Look at how fear is main driver for keeping ourselves stuck.
Process the different ways fear plays out and helps sabotage.
Look at how our beliefs and our inner critic may still be in charge.

"I have one life

and one chance

to make it count

for something..."

- Jimmy Carter

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Welcome to Episode 146 where we interview Life Coach Tabatha Perry, MSW all about her strategies for helping you make small edits that can change your life.

In this episode we are talking to Tabatha Perry, who is a life coach who helps you change your life, one small “edit” at a time. With her background in social work, Tabatha is all about the logistics of how to empower others to make important life changes. She loves to give practical advice and will offer simple ways for you to edit your life so that you no longer feel stressed, burned out, or unorganized. She has a lot of life experience that connects her to most of your everyday issues and so you will feel encouraged that you’re not alone in your struggles, inspired to take action in your life, and learn simple ways to edit your life so they thrive personally and professionally!

Key Elements:

Discuss how when we make small tweaks to our daily choices, we actually change who we are.
Identify ways we can get back on track when we can’t get off the couch.
Process how being in touch with who we are matters when it comes to changing.

Success is the sum

of small efforts –

repeated day in

and day out.

- Robert Collier

Resources:

Tabatha Perry’s Website

https://tabathaperry.coach/

https://www.instagram.com/tabathaperrylifecoach/

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Welcome to Episode 145 where we talk about how assertiveness is actually made up of several aspects that all work together.

In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is actually a package of things that all work together so we can stand in our truth, speak our truth, and live our truth all while being calm, considerate and consistent. Assertiveness is not just a skill, and it’s not just one thing either. It’s multi-layered and multifaceted, and I believe all the parts are necessary and work together so our insides can match our outsider, and we can connect with others in healthy ways, with boundaries, with self-worth for each, and with compassion. Assertiveness is built and made stronger over time. It may feel scary and awkward at first, but eventually you will incorporate it as part of who you are…someone is emotionally honest, direct, caring and emotionally safe.

Key Elements:

Look at all the parts that help us be more assertive.
Process why deeper healing and boundary work may be necessary.
Discuss the many benefits of speaking clearly and directly.

I think the reward for conformity

is that everyone likes you

except yourself

- Rita Mae Brown

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Welcome to Episode 144 where we look at one of the most important aspects of healthy communication: owning your truth in the moment.

In this episode we talk about what it means to really own your truth: which means everything about you from your feelings, thoughts and needs to your dreams and everything in between. Owning our truth when we communicate creates self-confidence and helps to create emotional trust and safety with others. We explore why we may struggle to do this naturally, and note some the great benefits we can experiences as we get better and better at it.

Key Elements:

Look at why getting things straight with ourselves may not be easy.
Explore what owning it really means, down to the details.
Utilize an experiential exercise to raise our awareness about taking responsibility.

“Daring to set boundaries

is about having the

courage to love ourselves

even when we risk

disappointing others.”

- Brene Brown

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Welcome to Episode 143 where we talk about how important emotional honesty and assertiveness is to building trust in our relationships.

In this episode we explore what it means to begin getting emotionally honest, being brave by being assertive, and why it helps create trust and allows for more meaningful connection in our relationships. We contrasted healthy connecting with passive-aggressive and avoidant ways to talk to someone, and how taking risks and being vulnerable in our communication actually increases self-confidence.

Key Elements:

Look at ways we can communicate in unhealthy ways and why we do it.
Discuss ways to be more clear, direct and specific.
Process how being assertive involves emotional detachment and good boundaries.

You do realize that

passive-aggressive behavior is

aggressive behavior

for cowards,

right?

— Carolyn McCray

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 142 where we explore the importance of learning how to practice healthy detachment and expressing empathy.

In this episode we focus on a very important part of creating safe communication and that is practicing detachment and empathy. We explore how we may struggle to let go, to refocus on ourselves and to allow them to be wherever they are, or the outcomes to simply unfold as they would anyway. Then we discuss ways to practice empathy and understanding in our communication, using some simple examples to get you started.

Key Elements:

Identify ways you can tell if you struggle to detach in relationships.
Look at ways to practice expressing empathy.
Process ways we can practice detachment in the moment.

Empathy is about

finding echoes of another

person in

yourself.

-Mohsin Hamid

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 141 where we open up the new month and zone in on what healthy communication looks like, and how to do it.

In this episode we discuss how this month we will be focusing on ways to clean up our communication so it’s more emotionally honest, positive, and connecting, and healthier for both of you to experience. To do this, so much of this work as many of you already know via experience begins with your thinking and your sorting through. Then your choice of how you want to convey your thoughts feelings and needs to others in an emotionally honest, meaningful way. From empathy to good eye contact and everything in between, it’s all about owning your communication, and thus owning yourself.

Key Elements:

Focus on the different aspect of healthy communication.
Look at what unhealthy communication looks like.
Why having healthy communication skills is crucial if we want healthy relationships.

“Don’t try to win over the haters;

you are not a jackass whisperer.”

- Brene Brown

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary.

In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries. I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what they think of it or do with it on their end. This means risking. If we cannot do this, then the communication isn’t safe, because then we resort to more passive-aggressive ways of getting our needs met.

Key Elements:

Compare and contrast healthy and unhealthy behaviors in communication.
Process what assertiveness isn’t, to better understand what it is.
Focus on how being assertive is all about taking responsibility.

Your ability to stand up

for your truth is a muscle,

and the more you exercise it

the stronger it gets.

- Dan Palotta

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary.

In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries. I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what they think of it or do with it on their end. This means risking. If we cannot do this, then the communication isn’t safe, because then we resort to more passive-aggressive ways of getting our needs met.

Key Elements:

Compare and contrast healthy and unhealthy behaviors in communication.
Process what assertiveness isn’t, to better understand what it is.
Focus on how being assertive is all about taking responsibility.

Your ability to stand up

for your truth is a muscle,

and the more you exercise it

the stronger it gets.

- Dan Palotta

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 140 where explore an important part of healthy connection: the ability to be assertive when necessary.

In this episode we take a quick dip into why being assertive means being honest, keeping the focus on ourselves, while taking care of our own needs and boundaries. I think being assertive is integral to our self-esteem, where we reveal our truth to others, letting go of what they think of it or do with it on their end. This means risking. If we cannot do this, then the communication isn’t safe, because then we resort to more passive-aggressive ways of getting our needs met.

Key Elements:

Compare and contrast healthy and unhealthy behaviors in communication.
Process what assertiveness isn’t, to better understand what it is.
Focus on how being assertive is all about taking responsibility.

Your ability to stand up

for your truth is a muscle,

and the more you exercise it

the stronger it gets.

- Dan Palotta

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 139 where we talk about how taking the emotional risks in the moment is the only way to create genuine connection.

In this episode we take it a step braver. We are actually going to go a little more in depth about connection, and how important emotional intimacy is to our relationships. Why we NEED to bare our souls and be there when others bear theirs…to heal, to connect to belong and to feel alive. We need this to experience the richness of life.

Key Elements:

Understand the common obstacles to taking risks.
Look at the benefits of genuine connection.
Examine ways to start practicing new skills right away.

“Maybe we are not here

to see each other

but to see

each other through.”

– Anonymous

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 138 where we explore what to work on if we want to become more grounded and confident when we connect with others.

In this episode we talk about making the connection real…in the moment, and how so many of us struggle to feel confident and grounded enough to connect genuinely and take relational and emotional risks in real time. We talk about how confidence is built by doing some core work on our boundaries and self-trust, then by practicing healthier communication in the moment. By looking at some examples of how to show up more grounded, we also contrast this with ways NOT to. I then give some guidance to what to expect, what’s normal, and what to focus on when you are practicing.

Key Elements:

Understand the core concepts behind great self-confidence.
Look at what boundary work we may need to do get started.
Described real-time examples of how to show up and connect in healthier ways.

As soon as you trust yourself,

you will know how to live.

-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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Welcome to Episode 137 where we give an overview of emotional connection, and ways this month we will dive into how to get better at it.

In this episode we do an overview of how this month we will be going a bit deeper on emotional connection, specifically ways to actually put it into practice. We defined it and talked about why it matters so much to our well-being and determines not only the quality of our relationships but the success and longevity of them. We then take a few moments to look within at what our beliefs and experiences of emotional intimacy are, and maybe where we want to start growing.

Key Elements:

Identify the benefits of healthy emotional connection in our relationships.
Describe the way boundaries, assertiveness and emotional maturity can create emotional trust.
Look within at our own narrative around emotional intimacy.

"What happens

when people open

their hearts?

They get better."

- Haruki Murakami

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 136 where we define aspects of a truly trustworthy, emotionally safe person.

In this episode we discuss how trustworthy people are those who have SHOWN that they can be trusted. With our money, our time, our friendship, and our vulnerability. Clients who get themselves out of toxic relationships then ask me well Mar “Now What? I don’t want to pick another unsafe person!” This episode is where we explore what characteristics trustworthy people have or are at least diligently working on.

Key Elements:

Identify how each characteristic works with all the others, and how we really can’t leave any of them out.
Define the basic components and behaviors of a trustworthy person.
Look at how we ourselves to see how trustworthy we are.

"We're never so vulnerable

than when we trust someone –

but paradoxically,

if we cannot trust,

neither can we find

love or joy."

- Walter Anderson

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Welcome to Episode 135 where we get honest about ways we can try to control outcomes rather than get close to people.

In this episode we get honest. Honest about some of the ways we can hide in our relationships, and even to the extent that we lose who we are and create enmeshment which just leads to resentment. We talk about self-abandonment, and the different ways we can play that out. When we do these things, we aren’t being vulnerable, and we especially aren’t being emotionally honest with ourselves or others. This hurts our connections and hurts our self-esteem.

Key Elements:

Identify how self-abandonment begins in childhood, and why.
Address issues of rescuing, enabling and losing sight of our own needs.
Discuss ways to prevent and address losing yourself in relationships.

Get naked with your truth,

offering the world

your greatest gift:

your authentic self.”

- Gabby Bernstein

Resources:

https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/self-abandonment-what-it-is-and-how-to-stop/

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Welcome to Episode 134 where we explore why our early experiences with boundary violations can imprint us to not let people in later.

In this episode we talk about an important aspect of the ability to be vulnerable, and that is all about our first experiences. The boundary issues that happened meant that our sense of self was threatened, our sense of emotional safety and trust and our ability to have a close, connected adult relationship…not to mention being healthier parents ourselves.

Key Elements:

Identify early boundary blurs, including the physical, emotional and psychological ones and what they do.
Explore the concepts and impacts of emotional abuse and emotional incest.
Describe how lack of emotional safety early on sets us up to fear true closeness in our adult relationships.

We need to feel trust

to be vulnerable

and we need to be

vulnerable in order

to trust."

- Brené Brown

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Welcome to Episode 133 where we start the new year exploring why healthy connection with others is a core need, and how it isn't easy for everyone to establish.

In this episode we talk about how this month’s focus will be on connection, why we need it, what healthy looks like and what is doesn’t, and why even though it’s so important, many of us are not that great at it. So, all month we’re going to dive into this concept, and bring along many of the truths we’ve been talking about on the show, but I really don’t think we can talk about them enough. We will be exploring the concept of healthy, vulnerable connections, why we may struggle to make and keep them, and how to work on having more meaningful ones every day.

Key Elements:

Identify the many benefits of meaningful connection with others.
Explore overview of why it may be hard to just do so organically.
Talk about how connection is a core human need…not a want.

“Communication is merely

an exchange of information,

but connection is an exchange

of our humanity.”

- Sean Stephenson

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Welcome to Episode 132 where we look ahead to what we want our life to look like in the coming year or so.

In this episode we identify what we want to either begin working on or continue to work on so we can reach our goal of becoming the best version of ourselves. Then we do the hard part: evaluating how ready we are to truly do this, as well as ways to get back on the horse if we fall off. This isn’t a lofty idealistic episode about New Year’s resolutions. It’s about Let’s get down to it realty about what you want and what is really possible.

Key Elements:

Look ahead to what you want your life to look like.
Evaluate your readiness, and the consequences of NOT making changes.
Envision your plan for monkey wrenches and mishaps.

“One part at a time,

one day at a time,

we can accomplish any goal

we set for ourselves.”

— Karen Casey

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 131 where we take a moment to do a year-end retrospective of our life.

In this episode we take a moment and look back on how your year has been…from things you are proud of, to the difficult things and all the learning, practicing, realizing and coming to terms with as you walk along. We benefit from the self-care of reflection, validation, and honesty as we evaluate what’s happened and how far we’ve come.

Key Elements:

Identify areas of your life this past year – what you've experienced.
Note your progress in each area, and ways to dig deeper.
Validate feelings, hard work and accomplishments.

“Almost everything will

work again if you unplug it

for a few minutes,

including you.”

- Anne Lamott

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Welcome to Episode 130 where we explore what it means to actually practice self-care during the holidays.

In this episode we talk about different ways to take care of ourselves as we are now in the holiday season and the coming to the end of another year. We focus on how you can create a set of intentions for your self-care, along with ways to have an ongoing assessment of how that’s going – to keep you focused, centered and grounded within yourself.

Key Elements:

Look at the different areas of self-care during the holidays.
Do an honest assessment of how you are doing in each area.
Process ways to create a plan you can actually follow.

“Self-care is how

you take your

power back.”

- Lalah Delia

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Welcome to Episode 129 where we talk to Joseph Corella, Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher.

Joseph Corella is a Choreographer, Broadway performer, dance teacher, and fitness instructor, but at his core, Joseph is a teacher.

Using his dance, theatre, and fitness background, he has traveled the globe, spreading this love and understanding of the importance of movement. Joseph’s connection to movement started in his early childhood with extensive training in jazz, tap, contemporary, and ballet. At thirteen, he became a member of famed choreographer Marguerite Derricks’ prestigious dance company, Tremaine Teen Company, and shortly thereafter appeared in Disney’s Geppetto alongside pop superstar Usher.

Joseph then moved to New York City where he debuted on Broadway in All Shook Up and subsequently toured the US with productions of Grease (Dance Captain) and West Side Story. Other theatrical credits include: Surf: The Musical, CATS, Altar Boyz, Guys and Dolls, and much more. Building on his dance and vocal talent, Joseph studied at the Lee Strasberg Theater and Film Institute in New York City and honed his comedic skills with Upright Citizens Brigade.

As a choreographer, Joseph has been asked to choreograph on a number of high-profile projects ranging from the hit Lifetime reality show Dance Moms, the HBO special A Quinceañera Story, MTV Video Music Awards, CW's Hart of Dixie & much more! Joseph has also choreographed for numerous recording artists including Neon Trees & 98 Degrees!

Joseph's proudest accomplishment to date is creating 567BROADWAY! an all-levels dance fitness class. This idea was born out of Joseph’s desire to create, encourage, and provide an inclusive sense of community where EVERYONE could have a safe space to dance and start their fitness journeys. 567BROADWAY! is a fun dance fitness experience that fuses the magic of Broadway with cardio and strength training to give you a full-body workout! Featuring hit songs such as “One” (A Chorus Line), “Born to Hand Jive” (Grease), “Bend and Snap” (Legally Blonde), “You Can’t Stop The Beat” (Hairspray), and more, ALL LEVELS WELCOME!

What I have found is that joseph creative, warm, perceptive with the heart of a teacher. The proof of this is how It’s hard to not feel welcome, accepted and challenged all at the same time. Definitely one of his gifts.

In this episode Joseph shares his journey to authenticity, and how dance was so therapeutic and healing along the way. We discuss what self-care is all about risking rejection and detaching from toxicity to be who you were always meant to be, yet the alternative to NOT honoring who we truly are is much worse. Finding who we are and using our gifts is how we organically become a person who can help others do the same. Using dance for expression and healing is one of the best ways to do this.

Key Elements:

Joseph describes his journey of finding and expressing his authentic self.
Talk about how setting limits and letting go of those who cannot support us.
Discuss how “dance magic” is so therapeutic and possible for all of us to experience.

“When you dance,

you can enjoy the

luxury of being you.”

— Paulo Coelho

Resources:

You can find everything you need to know about Joseph’s work and how to connect with him at https://www.567broadway.com/

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Welcome to Episode 128 where we explore how being intentional helps us to feel grounded and empowered.

In this episode we talk about being focused on who you want to be and what you intend for yourself this holiday season. Being prepared and getting back to yourself, means taking your power back from maybe years of being compliant, of being enmeshed with family or others and losing who you are over time. Maybe its about people pleasing you want to stop and refocusing on yourself can feel scary invigorating or simply peaceful. Join us as we wrap up this month and prepare for the holidays!

Key Elements:

Defining your intentions for the holidays, especially for yourself.
Talk about finding the moments to live out these intentions.
Discuss how preparing and rehearsing how we want to interact makes it more plausible that we can honor ourselves in the moment.

When your intention is clear,

so is the way.

-Alan Cohen

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Welcome to Episode 127 where we talk about going home for the upcoming holidays well…different.

In this episode we talk about how this is the time of year we may be “going home” in a sense – seeing family and old friends perhaps after a long time. With Covid, that may well be most people’s reality and so this may be a big adjustment. I have many clients who have felt secretly relieved that they couldn’t go home last year due to the pandemic because it gave them a reprieve. This year more people plan to get together, so here we go. If you’ve been working on yourself this year – maybe last - you just might be Going back DIFFERENT and that can be an interesting situation. We talked about how you may be changing, and how to operate in a now unfamiliar territory.

Key Elements:

Look at how you might be changing, and how you can tell.
Explore ways that you changing may be challenging for your family.
Focus on ways to take care of yourself and metabolize this new reality.

There is a kind of "magicness"

about going far away and

then coming back all changed.

- Kate Douglas Wiggin

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Welcome to Episode 126 where we explore how to embrace the letting go that’s necessary when we outgrow relationships.

In this episode we talk about one of the “side effects” of growing and changing, and taking our lives in a different direction. When we heal, we want better, and so we begin to need better in our environments to support this new information. Our bar gets raised in terms of how we want to be treated, and how we value personal responsibility and whatever other new values we are now living out. We therefore may outgrow those we love; working through this process is what we cover in this episode.

Key Elements:

Discuss signs you may already be outgrowing loved ones.
Address the process of letting go of control of others.
Talk about how to do this with family members around the holidays.

Some people are

only compatible with

an expired version

of you.

– Corey Jordan

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Welcome to Episode 125 where we talk about how to set boundaries with family and friends around the holidays.

In this episode we explored some things to consider about setting healthy boundaries for yourself this holiday season with the people you care about. Holidays can be wrought with expectations, perfectionism and guilt. We explored honoring what you need, how to detach with love and allow others to have their process as well. Finally, we talked about your Holiday Bill of Rights to get you focused on self-care and honor the rights of those you love the most.

Key Elements:

Look at aspects of healthy limit setting that make it easier and healthier.
Explore the concepts of loving detachment and grief work as a part of this.
Discuss the Holiday Bill of Rights as guidance in case you struggle to honor yourself.

Family is supposed to be

our safe haven. Very often, it’s the place
where we find the deepest heartache.

– Iyanla Vanzant

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Welcome to Episode 124 where we explore the concept of mentally preparing for your self-care around the holidays.

In this episode we focus on the upcoming holidays and how it can bring us face to face with some great relationships where we can practice our new behaviors, and not so great situations where we definitely will need to practice new behaviors. We start the month off with an overview of how to manage expectations, normalize feelings and behaviors, and make better choices for the upcoming holiday season with all its requisite wishes and expectations. We do an assessment of where you might be this year and some things to think about and work through as you either approach family gatherings or mourn the loss of even having that.

Key Elements:

Discuss how the holidays can be a time of stress or joy, or both.
Assess where you are – what you are currently dealing with around your family relationships.
Give an overview of what we will be diving in a bit deeper about this month.

Call it a clan,

call it a network, call it a tribe,

call it a family:

Whatever you call it,

whoever you are,

you need one.

- Jane Howard

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Welcome to Episode 123 where wrap up the month focusing on what changes you can begin making right away.

In this episode we explore the how and the why behind the basic foundational pieces we must look at if we want to create sustained change. We identify specific tasks we need to complete in order to make it happen, and we need patience and perseverance to keep working it through. I would not do this work if I was not able to see the proof in my clients. Watching them heal and grow, change their thinking, owning their feelings and taking charge of their happiness. There are better boundaries, greater connections and wonderful self-confidence after doing this work.

Key Elements:

Identify four key areas that need to be addressed to become healthier.
Talk about what it actually looks like to make changes in each area
Explore a case study of a coaching client who has done this work with great success!

“Courage is the power

To let go

of the familiar.”

- Raymond Lindquist

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Welcome to Episode 122 where we have an important conversation with Donna Tashjian, Life Mastery and Health Coach about how to turn your life around.

In this episode we get to talk to Donna, who is a down-to-earth inspirational speaker. She has been speaking and coaching for over 20 years. She is the founder of Vibrant Living International, author and host/founder of the “You Were Designed for Greatness” podcast.

She has been married to her wonderful husband for over 36 years, mother to three, and grandmother. She loves flowers, time in nature and you will always see her with a cup of tea. She has a passion to help you reach your full potential. I loved having Donna on the show. She shared so much great wisdom about how to get unstuck!

Key Elements:

Identify why sometimes how we define our past influences change.
Discuss how we can easily normalize discomfort.
Explore how Donna’s proven program have helped so many women.

"We all have big changes

in our lives

that are more or less

a second chance."

- Harrison Ford

Resources:

CONNECT WITH DONNA:

https://www.ivibrantliving.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drtashjian/

https://www.instagram.com/drtashjian/

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Welcome to Episode 121 where we explore the areas we most need to look at when we are focusing on changing for the better.

In this episode we get down into identifying some important areas to look at so we can see if we need to work on some things to become healthier. These areas I believe hold the components for a confident, healthy self. They are also crucial if we want to have healthy relationships. Know that when you start in one area, you will eventually get to all the others because growth begets growth. When we get healthier in one area it makes us look at the others. This is a great thing and can help guide you through the process. All you have to do is show up with an earnest heart and willingness to do the work.

Key Elements:

Identify key problem areas that hold our core issues.
Recognize the impacts of making changes in each area.
Normalize some of our fears about changing.

“It’s actually far more exhausting

to not work than it is to work.

It takes far more energy to sit

with internal conflict
than it does to get to work.”

-Benjamin P. Hardy

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Welcome to Episode 120 where we begin this month by exploring what it means to be truly ready to make big changes in your life.

In this episode we talk about when we reach that point in our adult life when we get serious about needing things to be different. Maybe we are hitting an age milestone, a big change or loss, or we simply can no longer ignore the symptoms that show us things aren’t ok. All month we’re diving into this topic to give you a chance to take a moment and reflect upon where you might be today, and where you’d rather be instead.

Key Elements:

Normalize the times we usually face upheaval in our lives.
Explore some of the areas we might want to change.
Look at some of the telltale symptoms that tell us it’s time…

“Change is painful,

but nothing is as painful

as staying stuck somewhere

you don’t belong.”

- Mandy Hale

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 119 where we wrap up this month focusing in on the biggest confidence builder of all: Integrity.

In this episode we get into what some of the most important aspects of our integrity are, from defining our values to identifying several ways we can become more honest and open. Being assertive requires that we are first proud of who we are, and more certain of our truth before we can put that out into the world.

Key Elements:

Explore how what you value and believe help you define integrity for you.
Look at how emotional honesty and healthy boundaries play a big part.
Utilize visualization to help us define where we would like to be.

Have the courage to say no.

Have the courage to face the truth.

Do the right thing because it is right.

These are the magic keys

to living your life

with integrity.

— W. Clement Stone

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 118 where we look at how commitment and follow through create congruence and self-confidence.

In this episode we talk about a very important aspect of assertiveness and self-confidence, and that is the concept of congruence. Risking commitment to what matters and following through on those commitments to raise self-esteem and bring a greater level of trust in your relationships is life-changing. Join us as we walk through how to build self-confidence by putting more of your truth out there.

Key Elements:

Look at ways to work on risking commitment to what matters to you.
Explore how commitment is asserting your truth out into the world.
Discover via experiential exercise about what congruence means to you.

“Everything

you’ve ever wanted

is on the other side of

fear.”

- George Addair

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 117 where we explore how motivation is connected to holding onto who you are, and not losing yourself in your relationships.

In this episode we talk about how motivation and is a big part of assertiveness, and how confidence is built – or broken by how much we can stay focused regardless of what life throws at us. We explore the typical motivation killers that can creep into our life and take over before we know it. Then we talk about how to get back to you and what you want for your life.

Key Elements:

Look at how motivation is easier to hold onto when we are clear with our why.
Discuss the typical ways we can get lost in our life and in others and then lose our mojo for what we want for us.
Look at ways to get back on the horse and get moving again.

“One of the lessons that I

grew up with was to always

stay true to yourself and never

let what somebody else says

distract you from your goals.”

– Michelle Obama

Resources:

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Welcome to Episode 116 where we introduce the concepts of motivation and commitment as integral parts of healthy assertiveness.

In this episode we talk about how assertiveness is an expression of confidence, which in turn is built on commitment and motivation. We dive into the conversation about how assertiveness is not just about speaking up, but also about owning our motivation and our commitments. This way we can state our truth, stand in our truth, and live out our truth. Not only does this help us trust ourselves and to feel grounded and confident, but it also allows others to have faith and trust in us.

Key Elements:

Address the concepts of motivation and commitment to be explored this month.
Look at the rights we each have when it comes to assertiveness.
Assess your comfort level with your own expression.

Each time we face our fear,

we gain strength, courage,

and confidence

in the doing.”

– Theodore Roosevelt

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 115 where we focus on how asking for what we need in the moment and honoring agreements creates emotional safety in our relationships.

In this episode we get into just what it takes to negotiate needs in the moment – when the thing is happening – when we least want to – because we may fear conflict. But learning how to practice healthy boundaries and detachment go a long way to feeling comfortable doing so. The ability to resolve things as they are happening can help keep resentments from building up. We also explore how honoring agreements can build trust in a relationship, as not honoring them can break it.

Key Elements:

Revisit the concepts of boundaries and detachment as crucial to negotiating needs.
Explore how agreements can make or break trust in your relationships.
Discuss typical scenarios where we might need to put our skills to the test.

Your life works

to the degree

you keep

your agreements.”

-Werner Erhardt

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Welcome to episode 114 where we identify the communication skills necessary to be able to negotiate in our relationships.

In this episode we talk about how important it is to be able to detach, have good boundaries, and be able to connect assertively and with emotional honesty and genuine caring – about yourself and them. Good communication means no manipulation, no emotional immaturity and focusing on a mutually beneficial interaction. It’s about what you’re willing and not willing to do, and NOT about them anymore.

Key Elements:

Identify the key ingredients in healthy communication that make negotiating and problem solving more possible.
Discuss how assertiveness and vulnerability are so important to connection.
Focus on ways to keep the focus on you, where it belongs.

“Assertiveness is your ability

to act in harmony

with your self-esteem

without hurting others.”

– Author Unknown

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 113 where we explore how our childhoods helped to shape our ability to negotiate or not, via how they managed conflict themselves, as well as how they tried to teach us to do so.

In this episode we talk about how your family, your first friends and your community both taught you and modeled for you how to handle conflict, how to ask for what you needed, and how to problem-solve. Since families can struggle to have these skills much less pass them along, many adults have ongoing issues in their own relationships that they don’t know how to resolve.

Key Elements:

Explore how parents modeled, as well as taught you about expressing feelings, problem-solving and managing conflict.
Talk about some of the common issues dysfunctional families deal with.
Contrast this with healthier families and how they operate.

“Not everything that is faced

can be changed.

But nothing can be changed

until it is faced.”

– James Baldwin

Resources:

The Cost of Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family:

https://clinmedjournals.org/articles/jfmdp/journal-of-family-medicine-and-disease-prevention-jfmdp-3-059.php?jid=jfmdp

Stuffing It: The Culture of Not Speaking:

https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/stuffing-it-the-culture-of-not-speaking-v2/

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Welcome to episode 112 where we dive into some of the biggest obstacles to being able to negotiate needs in our relationships.

In this episode we talk about some of the struggles that can get in the way of being able to negotiate in our relationships. We explore the idea that grieving and detaching, setting healthy limits and honoring other’s boundaries and health self-esteem wounds are at the crux of being able to collaborate and problem solve.

Key Elements:

Discuss how boundaries and detachment work are necessary to problem solve.
Delve into how our self-concept plays into our ability to be assertive.
Look at ways the ability to grieve can also play a big part.

“It's not harsh to be assertive,

its harsher when people

take advantage of you”

― Janna Cachola

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 111 where we spell out how we will be talking about a very important part of relationships: learning how to negotiate to solve problems and forge a strong friendship.

In this episode we introduce the topic we will focusing on all month – healthy negotiating needs in our relationships. We outline what gets in the way, how we may have never learned how to do it, and why it’s so important to practice it with those we care about. Negotiating embodies assertiveness, self-confidence, boundaries and owning our choices. I think it’s the best way to problem solve and keep trust alive in our relationships.

Key Elements:

Identify why we may struggle to negotiate in loving ways.
Look at important components of being able to ask for what you need.
Assess how well you know how to negotiate, and what might be difficult.

All broken relationships

can be traced back

to broken agreements

-Stephen Covey

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 110 where we finish out the month talking about how we underestimate the power of daily choices that can greatly impact our life.

In this episode we look into how even though we may not see it yet, it’s all the tiny choices we have made every day that have brought us to where we are today, for better or worse. Therefore it is the intentional healthy choices we can begin to make TODAY that will add up over time, to help us reach our goals. Tiny choices create big changes if we are diligent and determined!

Key Elements:

Address how we can be unconscious to how our daily choices shape our future.
Look at ways to begin creating a plan to reach your goals.
Identify what we need to focus on if we want our daily choices to be healthier ones.

The choices you make now,

the people you surround yourself with,

they all have the potential to affect your life,

even who you are, forever.

- Sarah Dessen

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Welcome to episode 109 where we look at what it means to keep yourself, and the other person, in a place of choice when communicating.

In this episode we explore what it means to keep choice in our connections with others. To demonstrate healthy boundaries, detachment, and therefore personal ownership of what belongs to us, and allowing the other to always be choosing.

Key Elements:

Look at how we can avoid choosing and instead present with a victim-based mindset.
Identify how blurred boundaries create emotional hostage-taking.
Practice “being in choice” in your communication, creating emotional safety and the atmosphere for deeper connection.

Whatever you decide,

don't let it be because

you don't think

you have a choice.

- Hannah Harrington

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 108 where we focus on what it really means to be in a place of choice, so we can take full ownership of our life, and feel empowered.

In this episode we describe the essence of Choice Theory by William Glasser, and talk about how taking ownership what we can control can help us create healthy relationships with ourselves and others.

Key Elements:

Learn about the basic tenants of Being in Choice and the benefits.
Look at how you may be other-focused, and how that can hurt your relationships.
Practice recognizing and taking more ownership in your life.

It's only when we are

able to see our own behavior

that we are able to wake up

and start making

conscious choices.

- Debbie Ford.

Resources:

https://wglasser.com/what-is-choice-theory/

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Welcome to episode 107 where begin the month exploring how owning our choices is the essence of empowerment, and what may make it difficult for you to just Own your Choices.

In this episode we talk about how owning your choices is at the core of this podcast. It’s owning your choices so you can own or maybe re-own your power and your life. We explore how early relationships and experiences helped shape your ability to focus on being choice-based vs victim based.

Key Elements:

Look at the wonderful benefits of operating within the choice mindset.
Address how early experiences influenced your ability to be choice-based.
Practice opening your awareness to how you think and feel about choice making.

Everyone has choices to make;

no one has the right

to take those choices

away from us.

Not even out of love.

- Cassandra Clare

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Welcome to episode 106 where we finish out this month’s focus on healthy relationships by talking about how commitment to growth is so important.

In this episode we talk about how in order to have and maintain a healthy relationship, be it a friendship or with your partner, there must be a desire and a commitment to ongoing growth and change. Otherwise, it will become a mess, and eventually implode upon itself. Or you will outgrow them, or them you. Or one of you will step out….

Key Elements:

Look at how both partners must value and demonstrate this commitment.
Explore what a healthy commitment looks like in a relationship.
Focus on the tools necessary to maintain and sustain the good growth you have now!

Love in such a way

that the person

you love

feels free.

- Thich Nhat Hanh

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Welcome to episode 105 where we look at something we crave the most in all of our relationships: genuine, vulnerable connection. To have a bond with someone where we feel safe, seen and heard. Accepted.

In this episode we explore the many facets of what comprises a healthy emotional connection, from compatibility to boundaries and how the healthiest of our close relationships provide a deep, meaningful connection that is built over time with love and intention. It means each of you being safe, healthy, and respectful with genuine caring and like mindedness, and good commitment to the relationship. All the work you’ve been doing on yourself will naturally bring you to this place of wanting and needing good, strong substantive connection with others.

Key Elements:

Define what healthy connection really means – and it’s not just chemistry.
Look at what might be getting in the way of bonding in your relationships.
Explore how you can begin to practice being a better connector!

We all long to be seen, heard, loved,

and understood. It’s what we all need.

~ Luminita D. Saviuc

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Welcome to episode 105 where we look at something we crave the most in all of our relationships: genuine, vulnerable connection. To have a bond with someone where we feel safe, seen and heard. Accepted.

In this episode we explore the many facets of what comprises a healthy emotional connection, from compatibility to boundaries and how the healthiest of our close relationships provide a deep, meaningful connection that is built over time with love and intention. It means each of you being safe, healthy, and respectful with genuine caring and like mindedness, and good commitment to the relationship. All the work you’ve been doing on yourself will naturally bring you to this place of wanting and needing good, strong substantive connection with others.

Key Elements:

Define what healthy connection really means – and it’s not just chemistry.
Look at what might be getting in the way of bonding in your relationships.
Explore how you can begin to practice being a better connector!

We all long to be seen, heard, loved,

and understood. It’s what we all need.

~ Luminita D. Saviuc

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 104 where we look at perhaps the most foundational piece to have trust and closeness in a relationship: Boundaries.

In this episode we take some time to reflect and look at our relationships and look for the boundary issues, because they aren’t always immediately visible. In fact, we can mistake someone’ s chaos for bad luck, codependent behavior for their caring and rescuing us, and our own struggle to face reality as “doing the best we can.” If we want trust in our relationships, then we must have boundaries. With ourselves…and with them.

Key Elements:

Do a mini-assessment of your relational boundaries.
Look at examples of healthy physical, emotional and time boundaries.
Examine the internal boundaries we need for good self-care.

Daring to set boundaries

is about having the courage

to love ourselves even when

we risk disappointing others.

-Brene Brown

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 103 where we dive into all things manipulative and passive-aggressive in our relationships, and why they can be so toxic.

In this episode we take another look at how these behaviors make it emotionally unsafe in relationships, and how the toxicity can impact us on many levels. We also explore how destructive passive aggressive, manipulative and toxic behavior can affect our relationships. Perhaps these behaviors are familiar to you, and maybe even see some in yourself.

Key Elements:

Talk about the different types of manipulative and passive behavior we are most familiar with.
Identify ways to take care of yourself and return to center.
Look at the realities when dealing with this behavior over time.

“We accept

the love

we think

we deserve.”

- Stephen Chbosky

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Welcome to episode 102! This month we are going to be looking at what makes a relationship relatively healthy and viable, and how to assess the ones you’re in. Each week we will look at different aspects of this, since each one is so important and a discussion in and of themselves.

In this episode we talk about how sometimes we cannot see the unhealthy in our relationships until others point it out or something awful happens. The conflict gets worse and/or the consequences become too big to rationalize or ignore anymore. That’s why it’s so important to keep learning and keep assessing where you are, and where others are in terms of personal growth.

Key Elements:

Identify some of the key areas we should look at to see how healthy things are.
Explore some of the basic tenants of a healthy relationship.
Bonus download: taking a moment to look within.

“I know my worth.

Never again will I condemn

myself to the prison

of a bad relationship.”

— Steve Maraboli

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Welcome to episode 101 where we finish up the month on assertiveness by exploring the concept of using your voice, and making your inside and outside voices match.

In this episode we talk about how rediscovering your confident inner four year old, and beginning to use your voice to express your truth. With kindness, firmness, and the vibe that you are straight with YOU. It’s about making your insides match your outsides. It’s about allowing yourself to be heard. You believe in you, and now it’s time to put that truth out there.

Key Elements:

Discuss examples of what it looks like to NOT use your voice.
Identify times when it is healthy and necessary to speak up, and how to do it.
Look at why a good understanding of boundaries and detachment are crucial for assertiveness.

“The most courageous act

is still to think

for yourself.

Aloud.”

– Coco Chanel

Resources:

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Wow Episode 100! We are celebrating this milestone with my guest Sonya Thompsen-Halsey, Marriage and Family Therapist and Life Coach, and we get into some wonderful conversation about assertiveness, answering your questions and hopefully provoking some thought and insights along the way.

In this episode, we discuss some of the most common questions we have heard over the years regarding the concept of assertiveness, dispelling some old myths out there and challenging you to think about what being confident and connecting is all about.

Key Elements:

Uncovering some different angles on the idea of being assertive.
Understanding how change can look in our relationships when we begin speaking our truth.
Look at ways we can soften our delivery while standing our ground.

"To be passive is to let others decide for you.

To be aggressive is to decide for others.

To be assertive is to decide for yourself.

And to trust that there is enough,

that you are enough."

― Edith Eva Eger

Resources:

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Book Recommendations:

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Daring Greatly by Brene Brown

Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Why Won’t You Just Apologize? Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life by Marshall B Rosenburg

The Art of War by Sun Tzu (Author), Ralph D. Sawyer (Translator)

The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) by Damon Zahariades

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Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) (The Art Of Living Well)

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)

Why Won't You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

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Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior. It’s a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don’t miss this one.

In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard habit to break yet can be done if you are committed to changing.

Key Elements:

Describe the different people-pleasing behaviors and their purpose.
Look at the most common origins of these behaviors that start in childhood.
Define different tools you can begin to use to stop the behavior and start being more honest and direct.

“‘No’ might make them angry,

but it will make you free.

If no one has ever told you,

your freedom is more

important than their anger.”

-Nayyirah Waheed

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior. It’s a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don’t miss this one.

In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard habit to break yet can be done if you are committed to changing.

Key Elements:

Describe the different people-pleasing behaviors and their purpose.
Look at the most common origins of these behaviors that start in childhood.
Define different tools you can begin to use to stop the behavior and start being more honest and direct.

“‘No’ might make them angry,

but it will make you free.

If no one has ever told you,

your freedom is more

important than their anger.”

-Nayyirah Waheed

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 99 where we continue the conversation about assertiveness, and especially one of the biggest obstacles we can face: People pleasing behavior. It’s a huge paradigm shift from being compliant to being assertive. Don’t miss this one.

In this episode, we explore people-pleasing behavior and how destructive it can be both for our self-confidence and our relationships. It is a hard habit to break yet can be done if you are committed to changing.

Key Elements:

Describe the different people-pleasing behaviors and their purpose.
Look at the most common origins of these behaviors that start in childhood.
Define different tools you can begin to use to stop the behavior and start being more honest and direct.

“‘No’ might make them angry,

but it will make you free.

If no one has ever told you,

your freedom is more

important than their anger.”

-Nayyirah Waheed

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 98 where we start out the month focusing on the concept of assertiveness and how emotional honesty is such a big part of that ability to speak calmly yet firmly.

In this episode, we talk about how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefore emotionally honest. It’s the best way but not always the easiest nor is it always well received, mostly by people who themselves are afraid to be open. But we know we can’t be truly confident without it.

Key Elements:

Discuss how fear is at the core of avoiding honesty.
Look at four key areas we need to work on that comprise emotional honesty.
Describe ways you want to come across, contrasted with how we hope no one describes us.

“Authenticity starts in the heart.”

- Brian D’Angelo

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 98 where we start out the month focusing on the concept of assertiveness and how emotional honesty is such a big part of that ability to speak calmly yet firmly.

In this episode, we talk about how being brave means risking being open, being honest, confronting, setting limits with others and asking for what we need. We explore how to be assertive means to be genuine and therefore emotionally honest. It’s the best way but not always the easiest nor is it always well received, mostly by people who themselves are afraid to be open. But we know we can’t be truly confident without it.

Key Elements:

Discuss how fear is at the core of avoiding honesty.
Look at four key areas we need to work on that comprise emotional honesty.
Describe ways you want to come across, contrasted with how we hope no one describes us.

“Authenticity starts in the heart.”

- Brian D’Angelo

Resources:

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 97 where we take a moment to evaluate all the work and muddling through you’ve already done to get to where you are today. Even if you feel like you’ve just started, or maybe frustrated by your progress or lack thereof…

In this episode, we look at all the areas where we usually need to grow, from having healthy boundaries, self-esteem and our relationships. It’s a great episode to listen to so you can gauge just where you are, where you came from and where you want to be headed next. It’s important to take stock and be proud of all you have walked through and worked on to get here. Because – if you can get here, then you can get there.

Key Elements:

Look at all the areas of growth necessary to have a healthy, fulfilling life.
Contrast healthy vs unhealthy behaviors in each area.
Take stock of what you have already become aware of, are learning now or have accomplished. You go!

Opportunities to find

deeper powers

within ourselves come

when life seems most challenging.

-Joseph Campbell

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 96 where we explore the magic of envisioning what you want your life to look like, and what a powerful change-making tool it can be.

In this episode, we talk about how powerful envisioning can be in helping you move toward the future that you want. We explore how part of you knows what you want and knows you can have it, while the other part might be afraid and stuck in the past. We practice creating the vision of what you want for your life: goals, ways you want to change, and things you want to add to your life.

Key Elements:

Look at the benefits of using visualization to help you get there.
Learn how when we “keep it vague” we can keep ourselves stuck.
Practice getting unstuck and committing to what you want your life to be like.

One day or day one.

You decide.

-Unknown

Resources:

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Episode 095 Let Go of the How and Let It Happen

Welcome to episode 95 we talk about the hardest part: Letting go of the How…how we will make it happen, how it will all work out…how we will be able to reach our goals.

In this episode, we focus on how we can easily fall into the trap of wanting to have control when we are making some big changes in our life, because it feels so vulnerable. We explore the HOW and how hard it can be to let go of just HOW you are going to do the things you really want to do…to have a mindset that is wide open to possibilities…to magic, and for the universe to somehow make it possible…

Key Elements:

Look at why you might struggle to let go of control and let things happen.
Learn a few “tricks” to help you let go of the How and still move forward.
Discuss how getting back in touch with your Why changes everything.

Passion is the bridge

that takes you from

pain to change.

-Frida Kahlo

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 94 we explore this month’s topic of how important your thinking is to your well-being, and how you approach life.

In this episode, we are going to get into a topic I bring up often: looking at how your self-talk and how you speak about yourself and life is shaping how you live your life, and whether or not it becomes the life you actually enjoy living.

Key Elements:

Assess your thinking today: are you more negative or hopeful?
Explore how destructive having an harsh inner critic can be.
Focus on how taking ownership of your thoughts and your intentions is empowering.

“Don’t Let

Fear

make your

decisions for you.”

-Annette White

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 93 where we finish up this month on courage by talking about what no one talks about: How to maintain your courage and motivation when you’ve been at it awhile, when you hit a wall, or when you hit the boring “middle” of the process.

In this episode, we look at how it’s inevitable to hit roadblocks that include actual obstacles, perceived ones, and just old self-doubt that tends to creep in when we are trying to stay strong. In other words, we’re going to continue the movie AFTER the credits roll and the main character then has to go live real life. When it feels like no one is there cheering you on anymore.

Key Elements:

Describe the ways we can come up against obstacles on our journey to better.
Explore ways to stay strong and focused all through the process.
Look at reasons we can easily allow disappointed and fear take over.

“I’m not telling you

it’s going to be easy,

I’m telling you it’s

going to be worth it.”

-Anonymous

Resources:

The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1781251495/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_DS303CE5H46M86AWXXRK?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

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The Obstacle is the Way: The Ancient Art of Turning Adversity to Advantage

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Welcome to episode 92 where the focus is on actually taking steps to change. This is where it gets real, and when the anxiety usually hits. It’s also when life begins to truly be amazing.

In this episode, we explore how hard it can be, even after such careful planning and a great deal of anticipation, to actually pull the trigger and take steps to do something different. It isn’t real until it happens, and this realization can feel like standing at the edge of the cliff before we take that leap. But it doesn’t have to be that traumatic, as we can take small steps each day to create big changes down the road.

Key Elements:

Look at how our perceptions about obstacles shape our view of changing.
Explore the different ways we create our own obstacles to making it happen.
Focus on how we can use discipline of perception and choice to finally get moving.

“If it doesn’t challenge you,

it doesn’t change you.”

-Anonymous Quote

The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1781251495/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_DS303CE5H46M86AWXXRK?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Get Motivated by Learning the Importance of Taking Action

https://www.jackcanfield.com/blog/how-to-take-action/

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Welcome to episode 91 where we dive into what living in a self-created box looks like and feels like, and how it can truly limit our potential. We explore how our box gets created, and how to climb out.

In this episode, we talk about how courage means looking at how your past has shaped who you have become, and how facing the possible Box you have created to be your comfort zone can come at a high price. Join as we delve into how this happened, and what you can do about it.

Key Elements:

Describe how our limiting beliefs make up the box that keeps us safe…and stuck.
Identify how these beliefs are formed from early negative messaging.
Look at ways we can begin breaking down our box and expanding the possibilities.

“Don't get too comfortable

in your comfort zone!

By giving in to the situations,

you clamp your own wings!”

― Somya Kedia

The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1781251495/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_DS303CE5H46M86AWXXRK?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

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Welcome to episode 90 where we look at the high cost of not being yourself. Not allowing yourself to be genuine, open and honest with yourself and others. Courage means putting your truth out there and letting go of what happens.

In this episode, we talk about how courage is all about getting and being real with ourselves and others, risking being vulnerable by setting limits, being more emotionally honest and putting our talents, passions and ideas out there. The price of not doing so can include anxiety, depression and physical ailments. It takes so much energy to be what others need when it doesn’t line up with who you really are, but are afraid to show them.

Key Elements:

Talk about the origins of creating a false self to please others.
Explore how you can discover ways you might not be transparent.
Process the benefits of being more genuine, and how this is a process you can begin today.

"Courage means choosing

that something is more

important than people's approval...

like your values...your integrity,

and your purpose.

The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1781251495/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_DS303CE5H46M86AWXXRK?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

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Welcome to episode 89 where we start the month out delving into the concept of how fear can cost you opportunities and ways to live up to your greatest potential, and how courage is the only way through the fear.

In this episode, we talk about the concept of holding yourself back in life, withdrawing and avoiding risk, vs grabbing the courage and fortitude to push ahead THROUGH the fear and do it anyway. Stay with us all month as we flesh out how to grab some more courage as we assess the real risks of NOT honoring who we really are.

Key Elements:

Discuss the origins of how fear is processed in the brain as a protective function.
Explore how you may have a greater fear sensitivity – and why.
Participate in an experiential exercise to get you moving forward courageously.

“Fear defeats

more people

than any other one

thing in the world.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Resources:

Article: What Happens in the Brain When We Feel Fear

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/what-happens-brain-feel-fear-180966992/

The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1781251495/ref=cm_sw_r_em_apa_i_DS303CE5H46M86AWXXRK?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

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Welcome to episode 88 where we finish out the month by exploring how you can love your life again, by putting in place a few simple things. Loving yourself means showing up and truly living.

In this episode, we look at how easy it is to run from, ignore or otherwise completely miss being in the moment and therefore even noticing all the good stuff that passes us by. Truly living means being more present, both with your internal reality, and the wonderful moments with those you love, or finding joy in your relationships.

Key Elements:

Look at how easy it is to become distracted and miss the precious moments that bring meaning.
Process ways you can focus on the life you love now and the dreams you are creating.
Discuss ways to begin practicing finding the good and enjoying life more.

You are NOT your mistakes,

you are NOT your struggles,

and you are here NOW

with the power to shape

your day and your future.

– Steve Maraboli

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 87 where we dive into Real Self-Love, why it matters so much, what makes us not take good care of ourselves, and the benefits of good self-care.

In this episode, we describe the many ways we can abandon ourselves, from denying our feelings to neglecting our physical bodies as well. The costs of such self-denial are explored, along with ways for you to quickly get back on track if you’ve lost that connection to yourself.

Key Elements:

Look at some of the reasons many of us can fall prey to self-abandonment.
Discuss some of the consequences when we put ourselves last, and why it’s more selfish to do so!
Explore ways to begin loving YOU more, little by little, until you can feel grounded again..

How you love yourself

is how you teach

others to love you.

-RUPI KAUR

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 86 where we continue our conversation about how important it is to discern the difference between genuine love and what is actually control in relationships.

In this episode, look at how to spot the control issues either in yourself or in your partner, and control is all about fear. Real love is about healthy separateness, boundaries and freedom of choice. This is not just about our romantic relationships, but our friendships and family connections too.

Key Elements:

Point out some of ways you can tell if you’re in a toxic relationship.
Note some of the more subtle forms of control you may mistake for something else.
Explore aspects of genuine love and friendship that is not based on fear.

A healthy relationship

will never require you

to sacrifice your friends,

your dream,

or your dignity.

- Amindfullife.com

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 86 where we continue our conversation about how important it is to discern the difference between genuine love and what is actually control in relationships.

In this episode, look at how to spot the control issues either in yourself or in your partner, and control is all about fear. Real love is about healthy separateness, boundaries and freedom of choice. This is not just about our romantic relationships, but our friendships and family connections too.

Key Elements:

Point out some of ways you can tell if you’re in a toxic relationship.
Note some of the more subtle forms of control you may mistake for something else.
Explore aspects of genuine love and friendship that is not based on fear.

A healthy relationship

will never require you

to sacrifice your friends,

your dream,

or your dignity.

- Amindfullife.com

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 85 where we start the new month talking about all of the different types of love, and how we can experience them in healthy and unhealthy ways.

In this episode, we explore several different types of love, from romantic to family and others, while focusing on the ways healthy love is expressed. This show introduces the topics to be covered this month including healthy love between us and others, and us and ourselves.

Key Elements:

Give thought to the types of love you have in your life.
Look at the different aspects of romantic love.
Discern how healthy your connections are.

"Being deeply loved

by someone gives you strength,

while loving someone deeply

gives you courage."

—Lao Tzu

Resources:

https://allad201314.medium.com/the-8-types-of-love-accoding-to-the-ancient-greeks-97bff653bbfd

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Color_wheel_theory_of_love

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Welcome to episode 84 where we finish up the month by taking a look at your driving force, or your WHY for your life. What you are passionate about, and what you value.

In this episode, we get into how we need to get clear about WHY we want to create changes in our lives, and what matters so much it’s what gets us out of bed in the morning. We look back on what has shaped us, via experiences and defining moments.

Key Elements:

Identify ways to discover what drives you by paying close attention.
Sit with your sense of purpose and create a meaningful statement.
Look at ways to create new neural pathways to create lasting change.

“He who has a why to live

can bear

almost any how”.

- Friedrich Nietzsche

Resources:

Check out previous episodes 036-040 about Beliefs and Values for a refresher.

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Welcome to episode 83 where we take a moment to focus on “gathering the good” that you have been creating lately. On just how far you’ve come, and what you are striving for today.

In this episode, we talk stop and focus a bit on the good things. The hard work you’ve been doing. The courage you have shown over the years to face difficult things. The wonderful things in your heart that continue to motivate you to be the best human you can be.

Key Elements:

Look at how you can change your brain by focusing on new thinking and new habits.
Revel in the things you are proud of to boost motivation and lend credibility to the work ahead.
Explore how you can take stock of what’s working and expand on it.

“Maybe the hardest part

of my life is just

having

the courage

to try.”

— Rachel Hollis

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 82 where we bring in the new year by focusing on taking action on the Plan we created last month. Now it’s all about making it real by getting seriously committed to your goals.

In this episode, we talk about how Discipline is the vessel that carries us forward. It makes what we want a reality by helping us to get serious and get started. We explore how our struggles to stay disciplined may be due to old beliefs we have formed.

Key Elements:

Look at how our perceptions of discipline influence how we either embrace it or run from it.
Explore how getting disciplined is about boundaries.
Discuss how keeping it simple is the best way to stay focused.

Ask yourself

if what you’re doing today

is getting you closer to where

you want to be tomorrow.”

— Anonymous

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 81 where start the new year right by exploring the concept of Just getting started – executing your plan you laid out last month. Your plan for growth and change.

In this episode, we discuss how sometimes the hardest part is just getting going – why this is hard and how jumping right in is the best way to cure the anxiety around doing it! When we take the first step, we change the game, as we build confidence and change the way we see the task.

Key Elements:

Look at how our perceptions of tasks shape our motivation.
Owning choices as the way out of self-sabotage.
Discuss how just “doing it” is a better way toward reaching our goals.

“A year from now

you will wish

you had started today.”

— Unknown

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 80 where we wrap up the month on Hope – and the year – focusing on your Plan for the next one. Defining your why for each area of your life will get you and keep you motivated.

In this episode, we look at what matters most to you, and how you can focus on bringing each area of your life into alignment with your beliefs, values, and passions. We utilize a guided exercise to help you step into the plan before you even start it…

Key Elements:

Explore the benefits of getting things into alignment.
Focus on each area of your life and define the why you want to make changes.
Get specific about change you would like to bring about.

“Your life is your message to the world.

Make sure it is inspiring.”

― sady ali khan

Resources:

If you need a refresher, check out episodes 036-040 on Values.

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Welcome to episode 80 where we wrap up the month on Hope – and the year – focusing on your Plan for the next one. Defining your why for each area of your life will get you and keep you motivated.

In this episode, we look at what matters most to you, and how you can focus on bringing each area of your life into alignment with your beliefs, values, and passions. We utilize a guided exercise to help you step into the plan before you even start it…

Key Elements:

Explore the benefits of getting things into alignment.
Focus on each area of your life and define the why you want to make changes.
Get specific about change you would like to bring about.

“Your life is your message to the world.

Make sure it is inspiring.”

― sady ali khan

Resources:

If you need a refresher, check out episodes 036-040 on Values.

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Welcome to episode 79 where coach Margaret Williams and I answer some of the many questions we have received from listeners and coaching clients.

In this episode, we offer some solutions to questions and problems you have sent in, along with some of the more common ones we hear from clients around motivation, setting boundaries and building confidence.

Key Elements:

Find out why focusing on your strengths is so important for confidence.
Learn ways to begin working on your control issues.
Look at how to get and stay! motivated.

“Change will not come if we wait for some

other person or some other time.

We are the ones we’ve been waiting for.

We are the change that we seek.”

– Barak Obama

Resources:

Margaret Williams at Intuitive Professional Coaching, LLC

https://iprofessionalcoaching.com/

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Welcome to episode 78, where we talk about how finding peace in difficult times is about quietly going within and returning to ourselves, doing the work to let go, and to stay in choice.

In this episode, we talk about how the Power of Possible lies in our ability to both own our feelings and therefore the grief work we need to do, and then own our power: by getting and staying in a place of choice. So today I want to concentrate on what we CAN choose, CAN control, CAN make different in our world. To turn within for the answers, to the possibilities, and therefore the hope!

Key Elements:

Think about what’s hurting, and what is in the way of finding acceptance and peace.
Explore the steps toward getting to acceptance and owning our power.
Focus on owning your choices as the pathway to letting go.

"When things change inside you,

things change around you."

—Unknown

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 77, where we talk about the actual work you want to focus on in the coming year. What areas need to be looked at? Where do you want to start making some real changes?

In this episode, we touch on some of the most common areas of work that need to happen in order for our lives to feel less chaotic, more on-purpose and fulfilling. From healthy boundaries to better self-confidence, we articulate where we are hurting and why. This is somewhat of a review of previous episodes that explore each area more detail.

Key Elements:

Look at how having healthy boundaries, communication and self-care influence our lives,
Take stock of what areas you are struggling in, and what changes you want to make.
Identify where you may want to start changing and why.

“The power

to change your life

lies in

the simplest of steps.”

― Steve Maraboli.

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 76 where we open up the concept of cultivating hope - especially in difficult times. It’s about the benefits of having hope, and why we can find it in the work we do on ourselves.

In this episode, we talk about how all month we will be digging into ways to cultivate hope in our lives, even if we are struggling…and most of us are right now. We examine the benefits to having hope both physically and psychologically, and break down how we will get more specific in the month’s episodes.

Key Elements:

Look at how taking stock this month, and doing the work will create possibility.
Examine how being hopeful can increase our motivation and boost our self-esteem.
Explore how to dig into the work and identify things that need to change.

“Let your hopes, not your hurts,

shape your future.

” – Robert H. Schuller

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 76 where we open up the concept of cultivating hope - especially in difficult times. It’s about the benefits of having hope, and why we can find it in the work we do on ourselves.

In this episode, we talk about how all month we will be digging into ways to cultivate hope in our lives, even if we are struggling…and most of us are right now. We examine the benefits to having hope both physically and psychologically, and break down how we will get more specific in the month’s episodes.

Key Elements:

Look at how taking stock this month, and doing the work will create possibility.
Examine how being hopeful can increase our motivation and boost our self-esteem.
Explore how to dig into the work and identify things that need to change.

“Let your hopes, not your hurts,

shape your future.

” – Robert H. Schuller

Resources:

I would love to hear your questions about empowerment and personal growth, as I put together Q & A episodes for the near future. Just send me an email or message me on Instagram or Facebook. I look forward to hearing from you!

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Welcome to episode 75 where we explore the concepts of giving grace to others and ourselves, and daily gratitude practices that can lower our stress and help us be in the moment more.

In this episode, we look at what means to receive grace, both in life and from others and how healing this can be. We also look at ways to show ourselves grace, as well as making sure we are mindful of showing grace and kindness to others via loving detachment. Then we get into some fun ways to incorporate the practice of gratitude in our daily lives, even when things are difficult.

Key Elements:

Identify how grace and forgiveness allow second chances and heal relationships.
Look at ways you can practice giving a grace and kindness to those around you.
Explore practicing gratitude helps us to stop and be more emotionally present.

“If I’m not showing grace…

have I forgotten the grace

I’ve been shown.”

– John F. Macarthur Jr.

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 74 where we focus on the concepts of learning to look for and learn from the gentle life lessons that keep “showing up” for us, along with finding the good amongst the difficult we are walking through. Being more mindful and purposeful can actually help us feel more centered and empowered when we are going through it.

In this episode, we talk first about how if we look deeply, we can find the lesson or lessons that keep showing up in our life via conflict, disappointment and other consequences. Then we process how finding the good points when we are facing difficulty builds resilience and is also more reality based.

Key Elements:

Discuss how to find the underlying life lessons in your circumstances.
Process the different life lessons that can show up for us and what they mean.
Examine why we need to look for the silver linings to have perspective.

Gratitude and attitude

are not challenges;

they are choices.

– Robert Braathe

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 73 where we explore the concept of control, about letting go and focusing on what is actually within our power.

In this episode, we look at how letting go can actually be a challenge, and yet so empowering as we refocus on the many things that we can have control over. We note that when we get grounded and intentional, we can start to feel so much better.

Key Elements:

Discuss how allowing yourself to feel is an important part of letting go.
Talk about how to take new ownership of what you think, feel, do and believe.
Explore the benefits of daily practice that can lead to lasting change.

“Incredible change happens in your life

when you decide to take control of what you

do have power over instead of craving

control over what you don't.”

― Steve Maraboli

Resources:

https://tinybuddha.com/blog/50-things-you-can-control-right-now/

Check out episode 09 on Self Care for a refresher.

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Welcome to episode 72 where we lay out a framework for getting grounded: focusing on gratitude and letting go of outcomes we cannot control.

In this episode, we explore some of the benefits of what we will be focusing on this month – looking at some of the good in our life we are thankful for, while processing letting go of things we have zero control over.

Key Elements:

Discuss some of the benefits of practicing gratitude
Describe why we may actually have some resistance to being thankful.
Explore the practice of letting go of outcomes, and how this too can be good for our health.

Gratitude is not ignoring

what’s not working in your life,

it’s giving thanks for what is.

- Lynn Hord

Resources:

https://positivepsychology.com/benefits-gratitude-research-questions/

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Welcome to episode 71 where we finish out this month’s focus on empathy, and specifically allowing ourselves to receive empathy from another. We explore how beneficial empathy is to our well-being and personal growth.

In this episode, we describe how for some of us, receiving wonderful empathy can actually raise anxiety, and we can block our receiving it out of fear. We then process ways you can begin working toward being more open and welcoming to it in the future.

Key Elements:

Process the ways we need empathy to heal and grow, and yet can still push it away..
Describe the origins of having anxiety around receiving empathy from another.
Walk through ways you can begin healing that and becoming more open to the healing.

'If we can share our story

with someone who responds

with empathy and understanding,

shame can't survive.'

― Brené Brown

Resources:

If you need a refresher on manipulation, check out episode 51.

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Welcome to episode 70 where we explore how detachment plays a big part in being able to feel and express genuine empathy to others.

In this episode, we take a look at how allowing ourselves to grieve and let go of desired outcomes, we can then detach and allow others to have their own experience. Without detachment, it can often be difficult to express true understanding, since our own thoughts and feelings are mixed up in it.

Key Elements:

Discuss the meaning of loving detachment, and why it matters in relationships.
Process ways allowing feelings is an important part of learning to let go.
Explore some steps to take to begin the process of loving detachment.

There are two ways to be.

One is at war with reality

and the other is

at peace.

- Byron Katie

Resources:

If you need a refresher on boundaries and detachment, check out episodes 10-18.

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Welcome to episode 69 where we dive into the concept of how to give empathy for ourselves, how powerful it is in creating lasting change, and the foundation of being able to express empathy to others. Genuinely.

In this episode, we look into the idea of how combining empathy for self and adding in some self-compassion, how we can help ourselves heal old wounds, find grace while still taking responsibility for our lives, and why this can be hard sometimes to open up to.

Key Elements:

Describe how combining understanding yourself with loving compassion can help you heal.
Talk about how integral this is to feeling grounded and confident.
Walk through two simple yet powerful practices you can begin using right away.

"Powerful is our need to be known,

really known by ourselves and others,

even if only for a moment."

― Carl Rogers

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 68 where we start the month focusing on the true meaning of empathy, and why it’s the magic in creating and maintaining healthy relationships.

In this episode, we explore what empathy truly is, what it isn’t, and why so many of us may feel it for others yet cannot communicate it out loud.

Key Elements:

Discuss how empathy is often confused with sympathy.
Describe the different obstacles that we see in the way of expressing empathy.
Talk about how empathy takes introspection, healing on the inside first, and practice.

“Empathy is connection;

it’s a ladder out of the shame hole”

– Brené Brown

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 67 where we look at how anxiety can actually keep us from feeling difficult things we don’t want to explore.

In this episode, we look at how being “up in our head” can be a way of avoidance…of feeling feelings, expressing feelings, and doing necessary grief work. Using experiential exercises to get you started with awareness, Mary helps you begin to focus on how emotionally connected with you are with yourself.

Key Elements:

Discuss the reasons why some people trend more toward anxiety.
Explore how early experiences and trauma itself impact our ability to grieve.
Discover how taking small steps right now can begin the journey back to feeling whole.

“We destroy ourselves when we stop feeling.

If you bury your feelings within you,

you become a graveyard.”

– Bernie S. Siegel

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 66 where we explore the connection to having poor boundaries and having anxiety and stress.

In this episode, we identify why when we struggle with saying no, asking for what we need, confronting reality and risking rejection, we may end up anxious and angry, not being able to take care of what we need to get done, or take care of what we want.

Key Elements:

Discuss external vs internal boundaries, and why both are important to reduce anxiety.
Explore how not having boundaries can cause you to lose yourself in others.
Talk about the impacts on our stress level, our relationships and our health.

“Nothing diminishes anxiety

faster than action.”

—Walter Anderson

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 66 where we explore the connection to having poor boundaries and having anxiety and stress.

In this episode, we identify why when we struggle with saying no, asking for what we need, confronting reality and risking rejection, we may end up anxious and angry, not being able to take care of what we need to get done, or take care of what we want.

Key Elements:

Discuss external vs internal boundaries, and why both are important to reduce anxiety.
Explore how not having boundaries can cause you to lose yourself in others.
Talk about the impacts on our stress level, our relationships and our health.

“Nothing diminishes anxiety

faster than action.”

—Walter Anderson

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 65 where we take a look at the most common types of anxiety, and then explore ways to begin healing.

In this episode, we identify what it means to suffer from different kinds of anxiety, how we can often deal with more than one, and then dive into some behavioral remedies, including visualization.

Key Elements:

Take a look at the most common forms of anxiety, and how they impact your life.
Process behavioral changes you can begin to make right away to start feeling better.
Explore the awful ways anxiety can cost you opportunities, impact your relationships and your health.

“It’s OKAY to be scared.

Being scared means

you’re about to do

something

really, really brave.”

– Mandy Hale

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 64 where we start our monthly focus on anxiety and stress and take a look at some of the common origins of anxiety.

In this episode, we explore some of the common roots of anxiety, from biochemical to behavioral sources, and focus in on the emotional roots we all carry around about how we cope when under stress. The rest of the month we will look at different forms of anxiety, and some great tools to use to get it under control and thrive.

Key Elements:

Look at symptoms of anxiety and how to identify which ones you may struggle with.
Explore possible early origins of anxiety, from early trauma to recent stressors.
Discuss how getting back to the authentic you and getting grounded is the answer.

“Our anxiety does not come

from thinking about the future,

but from wanting to

control it.”

– Kahlil Gibran

Resources:

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Welcome to episode 63, a special episode where we talk all about the journey to finding your true self, and where there be actual joy in the discovery!

We finish out the month where we’ve been talking all about the Journey, with a special conversation with my dear friend and colleague Sonya Thompsen Halsey, a fellow therapist and life coach. She shares her own journey with us, and we get into how to find the joy in returning to your true self, no matter when in life that happens to be.

Key Elements:

Address the concept of the journey to find the real you, and how it is never too late.
Explore how important it is to find a safe coach to guide you through the process.
Discuss how the joy in the journey is the process itself – how profound it can feel.

“Follow your bliss

and the universe will

open doors for you where there

were only walls.”

-Joseph Campbell

Resources:

Sonya Thompsen Halsey is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Coach and the Founder and Clinical Director of Findings Therapy Center in Newtown Square, Pennsylvania. Using the gift of one’s “inner knowing,” Sonya supports her clients as they listen deeply to their own inner voice, gaining clarity, direction, and hopefully, more peace and joy in their lives. She is intuitive and dynamic, helping her clients unlock their true desires while having respect for and clarity about their values and their life purpose. Allowing her clients to trust that while they may feel lost, they can always be found if they meet their lives with presence and awareness. One of her favorite quotes is from William Shakespeare, “We know what we are but know not what we may be”. Sonya believes it is an honor and a privilege to be a steady guide on your own personal journey toward becoming.

Find out more about Sonya on her website https://www.findingstherapycenter.com/

Here are the links to the two articles Sonya referenced in the episode:

Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development:

https://www.verywellmind.com/erik-eriksons-stages-of-psychosocial-development-2795740

The Paradox of Aging: the Happiness U-Curve

https://www.margithenderson.com/the-paradox-of-aging-the-happiness-u-curve/#:~:text=Referred%20to%20as%20the%20Happiness,termed%20the%20paradox%20of%20aging.

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Welcome to episode 62 where we explore concept behind every epic story: The hero’s journey as described by the late author Joseph Campbell.

In this episode we look at Campbell’s twelve steps in the journey – a journey of self-discovery and self-mastery. Each step has a special purpose, and by assessing our own we can look at our own personal growth paths.

Key Elements:

Discuss the twelve steps the Hero must go through to reach the end goal.
Explore how meaningful each step is, and how they contribute the meaning to our adventure.
Look at how you can assess perhaps paths you detoured from in the past, and where you might be today.

“The big question is

whether you are going

to be able to say a hearty

yes to your adventure.”

- Joseph Campbell

Resources

http://www.movieoutline.com/articles/the-hero-journey-mythic-structure-of-joseph-campbell-monomyth.html

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Welcome to episode 61 where we talk about how to stop living life for everyone else, and start living your own.

In this episode we get into just how easy it is to let go, stuff, deny or subvert who we really are, what we always wanted to go after, and focus instead on what others need, and what others need us to be. It can happen quickly but most usually slowly over time, and before you know it years have gone by.

Key Elements:

Discuss the early setup in your childhood that makes it easier to lose yourself in relationships.
Explore some of the signals you might not be living the life that you were meant to.
Focus on ways to get back to you!

Don't you dare put your life in a box!

Don't you dare decide to settle for mediocrity!

Don't you dare give up on your dreams!

Don't you dare give up on your life!"

-Dani Johnson

Resources

Previous Episodes to reference:

Episode 032 Why Environments Matter

Episode 021 Defining Your Truth

Episode 038 Identifying Your Values

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Welcome to episode 60 where we get into how your early experiences, as you walked through developmental stages, helped to form your identity.

In this episode we explore the stages of psychosocial development we all walk through, and how early experiences can shape whether we successfully “completed” each stage, and the effects on our identity and self-esteem.

Key Elements:

Delve into the concept of how our self-concept is formed early in life.
Explain each stage of psychosocial development and how each stage builds upon the one(s) before it.
Explore the impacts of ways your early experiences shaped you.

Where you are

is a result of who you were,

but where you go

depends

entirely on who you choose to be.

Hal Elrod

Resources

Previous Episodes to reference:

Episode 019 Self-Concept and the Big Setup

Episode 020 Early Messages Drive the Self-Concept Bus

Episode 051 Manipulation in Action

https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html

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Welcome to episode 60 where we get into how your early experiences, as you walked through developmental stages, helped to form your identity.

In this episode we explore the stages of psychosocial development we all walk through, and how early experiences can shape whether we successfully “completed” each stage, and the effects on our identity and self-esteem.

Key Elements:

Delve into the concept of how our self-concept is formed early in life.
Explain each stage of psychosocial development and how each stage builds upon the one(s) before it.
Explore the impacts of ways your early experiences shaped you.

Where you are

is a result of who you were,

but where you go

depends

entirely on who you choose to be.

Hal Elrod

Resources

Previous Episodes to reference:

Episode 019 Self-Concept and the Big Setup

Episode 020 Early Messages Drive the Self-Concept Bus

Episode 051 Manipulation in Action

https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html

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Welcome to episode 59 where we explore the concept of reinventing (or maybe just rediscovering) yourself at any age.

In this episode we are starting out the month talking about embracing change, finding our authentic self, or recreating who and what we are – from very small changes like better habits all the way to the big triggers we can pull in our life. Join us to find out what matters most when we begin this journey!

Key Elements:

Explore what to identify first before we make any changes.
Identify areas to work on to ensure success.
Look at why healthy support matters so much when we step out.

“It is never too late

to be

what you might have been.”

– George Eliot

Resources

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Welcome to episode 58, and join me in a conversation with Margaret Williams, a life and career coach who specializes in helping clients get out of their own way, and create the life they’ve always wanted yet perhaps were afraid to go after.

In this episode we are wrapping up the month where we’ve been focusing on building self-confidence which is at the core of everything (!) that matters when it comes to personal growth. Margaret and I delve into some of the ways she helps clients get there, by taking a courageous, values-based approach. She’s so intuitive, and great coach who lovingly challenges her clients…with great success.

Key Elements:

Explore some of the obstacles of fear and self-doubt that get on our way.
Look at ways we can lose who we are in relationships.
Discuss the real reason why we may sabotage.

“Create the highest grandest

Vision possible for your life,

because you become

what you believe.”

– Oprah Winfrey

Resources

Margaret Williams at Intuitive Professional Coaching, LLC

https://iprofessionalcoaching.com/

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Welcome to episode 57, where we explore some of the “art” of becoming more confident and assertive, as these pieces will help you move toward becoming more assertive over time.

In this episode we are identify the more nuanced attitude and behavioral changes that need to happen along with the deeper work on self-confidence, in order to make your insides match your outsides! Old habits die hard, but they are changeable, so join us for some great tips that you can start using right away.

Key Elements:

Discuss how the way you carry yourself and how you speak impacts your sense of self.
Look at how using visualization as a powerful tool to create belief in yourself.
Look how practicing building new habits is the key to re-training your brain for a brand new mindset.

Assertiveness is not

what you do,

it's who you are!

Shakti Gawain

Resources

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Welcome to episode 56 where we take a deep dive into actually doing the things you promised yourself you would do, and breaking it all down into two user-friendly and manageable processes to get you started!

In this episode we are diving into what it really means to make things real for you. The goals you’ve had but haven’t taken steps toward, which is hurting your confidence. Getting things right with ourselves is what matters most, and yet sometimes we can feel overwhelmed and not know how or where to start. Join us as we look at just what we might need to move the needle.

Key Elements:

Discuss two methods for starting out on your journey to meet your goals.
Look at how utilizing the way our brain works can help us set powerful intentions.
Look how emotional support and accountability are key to success.

Just believe in yourself.

Even if you don’t,

pretend that you do and,

at some point, you will.

– Venus Williams

Resources

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 55 where we get back into a favorite focus of mine: Self-confidence. Although often mislabeled and misunderstood, I think true self-confidence is at the core of everything and when we get it together, our lives change dramatically. Join us for a look at what self-confidence is really all about.

In this episode we are talking all about healthy self-confidence, a topic very dear to my heart, and really at the core of what this podcast is all about. I’ve touched on it in different ways this past year, and really from boundaries to grief work and everything in between. I believe all roads lead back to self-confidence when it comes to really living authentically and in the moment.

Key Elements:

Explore what “owning it” has to do with being more confident.
Look at how believing and trusting yourself is foundational.
Discuss just how much it matters to be intentional and follow-through.

When You Start Seeing Your Worth,

You'll Find it Harder to Stay

Around People Who Don't

Anonymous

Resources

For a deeper dive into personal responsibility, check out Episode 22!

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Welcome to episode 55 where we get back into a favorite focus of mine: Self-confidence. Although often mislabeled and misunderstood, I think true self-confidence is at the core of everything and when we get it together, our lives change dramatically. Join us for a look at what self-confidence is really all about.

In this episode we are talking all about healthy self-confidence, a topic very dear to my heart, and really at the core of what this podcast is all about. I’ve touched on it in different ways this past year, and really from boundaries to grief work and everything in between. I believe all roads lead back to self-confidence when it comes to really living authentically and in the moment.

Key Elements:

Explore what “owning it” has to do with being more confident.
Look at how believing and trusting yourself is foundational.
Discuss just how much it matters to be intentional and follow-through.

When You Start Seeing Your Worth,

You'll Find it Harder to Stay

Around People Who Don't

Anonymous

Resources

For a deeper dive into personal responsibility, check out Episode 22!

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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Welcome to episode 55 where we get back into a favorite focus of mine: Self-confidence. Although often mislabeled and misunderstood, I think true self-confidence is at the core of everything and when we get it together, our lives change dramatically. Join us for a look at what self-confidence is really all about.

In this episode we are talking all about healthy self-confidence, a topic very dear to my heart, and really at the core of what this podcast is all about. I’ve touched on it in different ways this past year, and really from boundaries to grief work and everything in between. I believe all roads lead back to self-confidence when it comes to really living authentically and in the moment.

Key Elements:

Explore what “owning it” has to do with being more confident.
Look at how believing and trusting yourself is foundational.
Discuss just how much it matters to be intentional and follow-through.

When You Start Seeing Your Worth,

You'll Find it Harder to Stay

Around People Who Don't

Anonymous

Resources

For a deeper dive into personal responsibility, check out Episode 22!

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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Welcome to episode 55 where we get back into a favorite focus of mine: Self-confidence. Although often mislabeled and misunderstood, I think true self-confidence is at the core of everything and when we get it together, our lives change dramatically. Join us for a look at what self-confidence is really all about.

In this episode we are talking all about healthy self-confidence, a topic very dear to my heart, and really at the core of what this podcast is all about. I’ve touched on it in different ways this past year, and really from boundaries to grief work and everything in between. I believe all roads lead back to self-confidence when it comes to really living authentically and in the moment.

Key Elements:

Explore what “owning it” has to do with being more confident.
Look at how believing and trusting yourself is foundational.
Discuss just how much it matters to be intentional and follow-through.

When You Start Seeing Your Worth,

You'll Find it Harder to Stay

Around People Who Don't

Anonymous

Resources

For a deeper dive into personal responsibility, check out Episode 22!

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!

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Welcome to episode 54 where we wrap up the month all about great communication, with the culmination of what we are trying to cultivate: great, connected and bonding relationships with those we care about.

In this episode we explore and revisit several facets of great connection, since it is not merely communication. Connecting requires us to work on boundaries, showing concern and interest and most of all, working on the most important relationship of all: the one we have with ourselves. We cannot treat another any differently (at least not genuinely) than we deep down treat ourselves. So join us for this comprehensive episode all about the tools we use to turn toward others and create meaning.

Key Elements:

Learn what it takes to really be open and in the moment.
Discuss how our values really come into play when it comes to others feeling safe with us.
Talk about how boundaries and intention create structure and safety.

The quality of your life

is the quality of your relationships.

-Anthony Robbins

Resources

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 53 where we look at some of the subtle and nuanced ways we can be controlling in our communication, and ways to change that. You might be surprised by the many common ways we interact and the impact on the emotional safety of our connection with others.

In this episode we get honest about all the little ways we can be fear-based and thus controlling in our communication, and how bringing fear into our conversations makes it difficult to have healthy, vulnerable connections.

Key Elements:

Contrast the subtle ways we can control, versus vulnerable connection.
Explore ways we can create a sense of “not feeling emotionally safe” and the cost of doing so.
Talk about how bringing just a little self-awareness and self-discipline can bring about big changes.

Never speak out of anger,

Never act out of fear,

Never choose from impatience,

But wait... and peace will appear.

Guy Finley

Resources

Make sure you sign up for the bonus downloads at www.ownitpowercast.com. Tribe members will receive them in their email each week.

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Welcome to episode 52 where we explore what it looks like to connect with others in meaningful and heartfelt ways and avoid the pitfalls of passive-aggressive behaviors we talked about in the previous episode.

In this episode we spell out what being vulnerable and open actually looks like, as we break down the different components of communication, as they all add up to help us connect with others.

Key Elements:

Look at examples of how to communicate with emotional honesty and vulnerability.
Walk through examples of how to express ourselves in more heartfelt ways.
Process several different components of connection from body language to actual words used.

“Communication is merely

an exchange of information,

but connection is an exchange

of our humanity.”

~ Sean Stephenson,

Resources

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

https://smile.amazon.com/dp/006095616X/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_NNb6EbR21Y03Q/

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Welcome to episode 51 where we take a deeper dive into what manipulation looks like in our communication, and how it can be so destructive to emotional trust in a relationship.

In this episode we look at the two types of manipulation: dysfunctional fear-based which is more commonplace, and that which is malice based – where there is little care for others, lack of conscious and ability to feel and show empathy. They suck you and everyone else in by seeming so thoughtful, sweet, attentive and they use flattery to get you to let down your guard. That is why manipulation is usually not detected until you’ve got both feet in the relationship.

Key Elements:

Look at examples of manipulation on conversation.
Explain why someone will choose to manipulate rather than be emotionally honest.
Discuss ways to work on your own manipulative behaviors.

Pay attention when people

react with anger and hostility

to your boundaries.

You have found the edge

where their respect for you ends.

Sweatpants & Coffee

Resources

https://liveboldandbloom.com/02/relationships/emotional-manipulation

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201406/how-spot-and-stop-manipulators

https://exploringyourmind.com/9-signs-of-psychological-manipulation-through-our-words/

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