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In this episode of Chai Beauty, I share my reflections on Session Seven of the When You Pray Bible study, which focuses on unity—or oneness—in prayer. Unity is one of the hardest lessons to live out because it often requires sacrifice, pain, and patience. Drawing from scripture and personal experiences, I explore what it means to practice oneness with those around us, even when relationships feel complicated or strained.
I talk about the privilege of walking alongside others in their struggles, why forgiveness and feedback are so essential, and how God calls us to repair, restore, and live in harmony whenever possible.
We’ll explore:
Why unity requires sacrifice and even pain
The privilege of restoring and walking with others
Forgiveness, reconciliation, and harmony in relationships
Why friendships and family require slower, more careful conversations
How to balance strong boundaries with unconditional love
Redefining community and oneness in different seasons
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How are you actively participating with God to bring unity and oneness into your relationships?
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In this episode of Chai Beauty, I reflect on Session Six of the When You Pray Bible study, which focuses on interceding for others in prayer. While it’s easy to pray for friends, intercession often challenges us most when it involves those who are difficult to love or those we’ve been separated from.
I share how scriptures like 1 Peter 5:8–11 and Romans remind us that suffering is universal—and that God calls us to stand firm in faith by lifting others up, even in our own trials. Through personal stories and lessons, I explore the tension between selfishness and obedience, what it means to truly love with patience, and why forgiveness and reconciliation matter in God’s eyes.
We’ll explore:
Why interceding can feel harder than personal prayer
Learning to pray for those who challenge us
The privilege of caring for others as God cares for us
Why forgiveness is for you, and reconciliation is for us
Living out patient, protective, and unconditional Christian love
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Who is God asking you to intercede for in this season—and how can you pray blessings over their life?
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In this episode, I share my journey of learning how to lament through Session Five of When You Pray. Unlike other forms of prayer, lament pushed me to stop running from my feelings and instead bring my sorrow, rejection, and despair honestly before God. I talk about why lament is difficult, how it reveals our love for control and comfort, and how God uses even our tears to build faith, endurance, and trust in His
We’ll explore:
• Why lament is often the hardest form of prayer
• Learning to name feelings beyond “sad” or “angry”
• How lament creates safe space for grief and honesty with God
• The privilege of hearing God’s confirmation through others
• Wrestling with provision, money, and stability in faith
• How lament deepens trust in God’s will and timing
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How do you bring your sorrow to God—do you find it easy to lament, or is it still a struggle?
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In this episode of Chai Beauty, I reflect on how the When You Pray Bible study reshaped the way I approach prayer. Instead of only petitioning God for what I need, I’ve learned the importance of admiration—confessing who God is: provisional, personal, a giver, and good. Through scriptures like Psalm 139 and Philippians 4, I share how worship, gratitude, and reverence have deepened my prayer life and helped me see God’s goodness even in sorrow.
We’ll explore:
The difference between petition, thanksgiving, and admiration in prayer
The four truths about who God is
Why worship and reverence matter in building faith
How the Holy Spirit quietly guides us with truth
Learning to see problems as bumps, not endings
Using the spiritual tools God has already given us
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When was the last time you prayed without asking for anything—just to admire God for who He is?
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Season 4: Episode 4 – Petition and Thanksgiving: Trusting the Sovereign God
In this episode, we dive into Session Three of When You Pray with Jackie Hill Perry, focusing on petition and thanksgiving in prayer. I share what it means to bring formal requests before God, why gratitude is essential, and how trusting His sovereignty changes how we wait. You’ll hear how the Holy Spirit intercedes for us, why “micro-movements” matter in faith, and how the Lord of Hosts fights on our behalf.
💬 Question for You:
What are you petitioning God for this season, and how are you giving Him thanks in the process?
Episode Chapters – Season 4, Episode 4: Petition and Thanksgiving
00:00 – Welcome to Chai Beauty
00:23 – Session Three Overview: Jackie Hill Perry on Petition & Thanksgiving
02:10 – What Petition Really Means
04:02 – Petitioning God with the Holy Spirit’s Help
05:40 – Defining Thanksgiving in Prayer
07:08 – Asking the Right Questions in Your Petition
08:42 – Letting Petitions Glorify God, Not Just Bring Convenience
10:15 – Seeking the Seven Spirits of God: Wisdom, Counsel, Power
12:00 – God’s Sovereignty & Limitless Nature
14:18 – The Lord of Hosts: God Who Fights for You
16:10 – Free Will, Guidance, and Micro-Movements That Lead to Big Results
18:45 – Trusting God’s Plans for Every Path You Could Take
21:10 – Remembering Moments of God’s Goodness
22:28 – Final Encouragement & Community Invitation
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In this episode of Chai Beauty, I reflect on Session Two of the When You Pray Bible study, where we dive into the Lord’s Prayer and what it means for God to truly be the Alpha and Omega. I share how this study challenged me to see God’s goodness in every season, examine my faith in His promises, and ask deeper questions about obedience, provision, and trust.
We’ll explore:
- Four ways Scripture describes who God is
- What Psalm 119:33–40 teaches about obedience and joy
- Why fearing God matters in our daily lives
- The role of the Holy Spirit as our guide
- How to live a quiet life, mind your business, and work with your hands
- Seeing God’s goodness even when life feels off track
💬 Question for You:
How have you seen God’s goodness in your own life? Share in the comments—I’d love to hear your story.
Episode Chapters – Season 4, Episode 3: God Is a Good God
00:00 – Welcome to Chai Beauty
00:26 – Session Two & the Lord’s Prayer
01:08 – Four Ways Scripture Describes Who God Is
03:10 – Do I Really Believe His Promises?
04:32 – Reading Psalm 119:33–40
06:25 – Questions for Reflection on Prayer & Obedience
08:04 – Why Fearing God Matters
09:22 – Listening to the Holy Spirit’s Guidance
12:00 – The Seven Spirits of God
13:45 – Is God Still Good When Life Feels Off Track?
15:40 – God as the Root, Word, and Fruit-Bearer
18:26 – Lessons from Hurt & Compassion for Others
20:14 – Living a Quiet Life, Minding Your Business, and Working with Your Hands
23:16 – Glorifying God in Modern Work
24:52 – Remembering God’s Goodness in All Seasons
26:18 – Invitation to Apply These Truths This Week
27:05 – Thank You & Community Invitation
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In this episode of Chai Beauty, I open up about what prayer really means to me, how my understanding has changed through the When You Pray Bible study, and why God is asking me to bring my private conversations with Him into a public space.
We’ll explore:
- How Luke 11 teaches us to pray
- Why prayer is more than just asking for what we want
- Learning to lay things at the altar and leave them there
- Vulnerability, frustration, and consistency in faith
- How God uses prayer to build endurance and trust
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What is prayer to you, and how has it changed your life? Share in the comments—I’d love to pray with you.
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Episode Chapters – Season 4: When You Pray
00:00 – Welcome to Chai Beauty
00:20 – Introduction to When You Pray
01:06 – Deep Dive into the Book
02:27 – Personal Reflections and Insights
03:48 – Toxic Traits & Growth Moves
06:14 – Applying Lessons from the Book
09:14 – Final Thoughts & Encouragement
11:56 – Thank You & Future Plans
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This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
his season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
This season, we are talking about boundaries with two good books. They are Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback – October 3, 2017by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author) and Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Paperback – February 27, 2018 by Henry Cloud (Author), John Townsend (Author). Calls-to-action: - Join my Patreon account: - https://www.patreon.com/user?u=37581529- Join my Instagram account: - https://www.instagram.com/chai_beauty/?hl=en- Join my YouTube account: - https://www.youtube.com/@chai_beauty4762/about
Hi! I'm so happy you're here. Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future, and guess what? You get to be along for this journey because we are in this together.
So, I'm going to be honest, I don't know what I'm going to get from this new season. Um, this new season is called Boundaries. I've purchased the book and then I've purchased the handbook because I wanted more thought-provoking questions, but some things I'm super excited about and I come up with these questions and some things...
It takes time. So, when I did boundaries, the first chapter is a day, what is it called again? Sorry, y'all. I'm flipping through the book. cause it is, what are boundaries is the part like, so it's broken up in parts. So, you have several parts. So, the first part is what is a boundary? The second. Then the second part is the chapter A Day and a boundary, A Boundaries.
And then you have the chapter book that goes with it. And the high level is, we're reading about a character, and she goes through her life and from 6am to the next day. And the questions basically are getting you to look at someone else's life. And see, like, how would you change this? What would you say to this person?
Like, really getting you to truly think and process, like, how this person has said certain things.such as like their mom coming over and their mom telling them like they're lonely and they're not trying to like the mom saying like I'm not intruding or anything and then the child says no of course you're not even though she has other responsibilities towards her family she still allows her mom toum come into her life and disrupt the things that she has to do and she justifies it by saying like My mom is lonely.
Um, I need to save her and what does saving her look like? Um, and, but the story goes on to say that when her mom left, she still talked about her loneliness. So that child did not save her mom from the loneliness. If her mom was still talking about it when she left. And so that was a lack of boundaries.
And how would we have given that advice to that character and said, hey, you still have other priorities.So, you should tell your mom you have other priorities, right? I think the question we have to ask ourselves is how do we justify lack of boundaries and letting somebody flourish but yet cause us chaos?
Getting us ready for that character, it asks us in the handbook several questions, but I decided the one I wanted to talk about is the questions list in the introduction and below reflects some of the confusion Christians may have about boundaries. So, the questions are, can I set limits and still be a loving person?
What are legit boundaries? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer some with my love, time, energy, or money? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? How do boundaries relate to mutual submission in marriage? Aren't boundaries selfish? Is it difficult for me to hear no from other people?
Do I tend to control other people when I get, when I don't get what I want? And so, when it came to those questions, they really, um, had me thinking because can I set boundaries and still be a loving person? Absolutely. I think yes you can. It's just harder to do and I think it's easier to set boundaries with strangers and friends than it is with your family.
Um, so that's what I think about that question. What are legit boundaries? Um, it depends on the situation, I can't, I'm not everyone and everything, but depending on how people respond to what I'm saying, and how, what I'm saying, and then if they respond in a way that isn't appropriate or just for me, I then have to come in and say it.
Thank you. Hey, the reason, the way you did this made me feel this and so it caused me to now say this to you in my processing. Um, I do think some people get hurt and upset but that isn't your responsibility if you know, like, you're not being malicious and trying to manipulate me. Um, I do think setting boundaries are very frightful and sometimes you feel guilty, especially with family members, because this is the way you've operated for a very long time.
So, like when you start setting boundaries or start learning about yourself, um, people got to get accustomed to the new you. And so that's when you see a lot of relationships change, you get new friends, like a whole bunch of things happen. Um, and I've been in transition for a couple of years. So, um, that transition of setting new boundaries, because I'm learning who I am, I'm learning what I need, not what I want, and needing requires a lot more from you.
I don't think boundaries are selfish, if you're coming into it with that intent, that good intent. Um, and I do, for me, it is difficult to hear no. I take not as rejection, and I've, I'm currently in still. I'm in progress with saying like, just because somebody says no does not mean they're not loving you, it does not mean that they don't care about you, it doesn't even mean that, um, that they're selfish and they're mean and they're out to get you, it just means they don't hold the capacity to help you in this time, and just like sometimes you don't hold the capacity for others, it is okay to say like, I know you need this from me, but I can't help you, but I can, I can give you another resources, I can give you another friend, um, it's just, like, today is not a good day.
And when you truly respect somebody and you want to support them, I, I think you both can come to an agreement to say, okay, I understand that today is not a good day, but somewhere later in the week will be good. Or, like, you may not want to hear this at all because, like, this person has complained over and over and it's just not good for your mental health.
Cause there, it's like, they're doing insanity, right? They're trying to do the same thing, get different results, and you're like, it's just not working in my, and I want to put my energy somewhere else. Um, do I tend to want control other people when I don't get what I want? Absolutely. I'm sorry. I, I am completely honest.
Yes, I do try to get control. Um, I think that's where my independence comes from, where I'm like, oh, if you're not goanna do what I want, how I want it, when I want it, then.I'm going to do my own thing. Like, I'm going to figure it out. I'm going to rely on myself more. Because again, it goes with that fear of rejection.
That I'm like, I don't want to be rejected. So, if I count on myself, I'm not going to reject myself. I love myself. So, I'm going to work hard for myself. And so, with those questions, so the other Handbook then leads us to say, with these questions, have you, what have you wondered about? What questions do you, um, especially want answered?
Um, I want all of them answered. I think that's why this book is being picked up by so many readers. I think it's why it's important. Um, and then it just says, as you process through this study and work towards the goals you have set for yourself, remember this book is aimed to help you.See the deep uh, deeply the deeply biblical nature of boundaries.
Um, but going back to the character in the book, she has she has many dilemmas. Like, she feels isolated, she feels hopeless, she feels confused, she has guilt over what she does. But overall, she feels like her life is not hers and it's out of control. And I think... At some point, we all feel like that, and when people come to our problems, we're like, we can help them.
But, um, as we go, I want to encourage you and ask you, have you really looked in the mirror with yourself and figure out what's in your life out of control? Because whatever you feel is out of control in your life, um, get back in control. Because you have the power to change everything in your, in your life.
Like you're like, what? Yes, you have the power to change everything that's happening in your life. You just need the tools and the resources to do them. Um, we are in an age where it's like theology and God. We're in an age of Google. We're in an age of, of knowledge. Instant knowledge. Um, but I think a lot of us Want to do these things, but what really stuck out to me in this chapter, and it wasn't even like Huge in this chapter.
It was just like a small sentence, and They said that her son was out of control because he couldn’t understand delayed gratification and my life has been Sometimes out of control because I can't wait for that delayed gratification. There are boundaries I've allowed to happen because I want instant gratification.
And so, I have justified a lot of things in my life. Um, as if I can't have it now. What can I do, such as allowing somebody that I probably wouldn't allow to come in my life and dictate things, such as a parental unit, um, anything. Like, when I'm in need and I know somebody has it, I will allow you to do whatever you want in my life.
Because I'm like, you have it and I need it. Um, and that's manipulation. I think the entire world works out with manipulations. Like, I'm sorry. It is what it is. Bud. It's going to cost you something and what is that cost? I, I believe you have to figure out the pros and cons to life. What do you value the most?
What are your beliefs? Where are your values? For me, I've learned like what is my love language? My love language is I value words of affirmation is probably like my top three, but my, my ultimate one is acts of service. Like, if you love me, show me. And because I valued that when people are just talking to me, I have stricter boundaries with these people because I'm like, that's fluff.
I don't really care for fluff. You have to show me. And when someone in my life does acts of service and they don't even ask for anything back, they just do it. It caused me to like to be a hedgehog and just pop up from the ground and be like, Ooh, what are you doing? How are you doing that? Well, thank you.
Amazing. And so that speaks to me, um, on a different level that our boundary is more open. And I'm in a season of like, is that a good thing? Is that a bad thing for us? Like, how do we know what a boundary is? How do I keep boundaries consistently? Um, consistency has been an issue for me for a very long time.
I'm working on it, y'all. I'm working on it. But overall, like... What does a boundaries life look like and how can I get control of that? And what's the best advice I can give to myself? Cause in this season we're talking about self-love, we're talking about resources, but at the end of the day you also have to have that growth mindset and be honest with yourself.
Cause the only person that's having this conversation is you, yourself, and whatever your religious belief is. Or if you count on yourself, you're still having this conversation with self. So, I encourage everyone to take a moment and look at what in your life is out of control.
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Hi! I'm so happy you're here. Welcome to Chai Beauty. Where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what? You get to be along for this journey. Because we are in this together.
I'm going to be honest; touch is kind of hard for me. Cause I'm not a touchy-feely person. But I had to sit back and think about the feeling of touch. And one of the things I can remember is, in my college days, I was really stressed. Mental health wasn't popular. Um, but I just got overwhelmed and I cried. Like, cried.
And I went to a school that had a chaplain. And I remember crying, feeling overwhelmed, and walking into her, um, her space where she had office hours, not saying a word, continuing to boohoo. And she didn't touch me at first, and she finally said, can I touch you? And I said, yes. While hiccupping, and, and stress, and feeling like my life is over, I'm not equipped to even do the things that I'm doing.
And she hugged me, and for the first time, I got safety from someone outside of my house. So, when I think about touch, I think about not my mom and my dad, but like people that genuinely got to know me, and over time we created space that they would touch me, as in giving a hug, patting me on the knee, saying like it's going to be okay, to just looking at me, and making very good eye contact, and saying, hey.
And so that was important to me in that season because I didn't need words of affirmation. I didn't even need quality time. I needed somebody to touch me and give me comfort in a way I never got comfort before. And as I thought, I thought of touch as comfort. A way to connect.And... To experience something that you can't put in words.
Because if I try to communicate, touch, it's like somebody empathizes and sympathizes with me. And that feeling and that touch resonated so deeply in my soul that I can remember this moment. Five or ten years later, because I was just safe. And as I continue to learn about touch, and how it works, I hope that.
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Hi! I'm so happy you're here. Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what? You get to be along for this journey. Because we are in this together.
Please don't cry. I would say that it gets better with time. But I'll be lying to you. It actually just gets easier, but not better. And you're probably asking me, what does that mean? I mean, the pain you're feeling right now, it becomes like a scratch. Like you see the mark, you see the scar that's left, and you sometimes get a sharp pain, And you’re, In your heart.
And you feel like you can't breathe. You feel the tears coming. And sadness just overtakes you. But what I want to remind you is just like all the other five love languages be encouraged that you will get through this, and it doesn't matter that it potentially can take your entire life. For it to pass, it can take 30 days, 60 days, but all you need to know is that you are so strong.
You got through it, whether it was barely, or you exceeded. Your community, your support system, they’re there, just turn around. Have you opened your mouth and say, I'm injured, I'm hurt, I don't know if I even want to be here tomorrow. I don't even know if I care to be here tomorrow, because they can help, they can pour into you, they can make tomorrow the best day ever, or they can show right then and there and make that minute the best day, you just have to give them an opportunity.
To pour life into you. Just say that you are worthy of all things. You are the prayers, the answers to somebody's dream. You are right where you need to be. And even though it doesn't feel like it, and your world seems a lot grayer, and maybe you can't pick up that phone to talk to that person because they're not here anymore, but there is someone that is there for you.
That will be right there to say, I got you. Don't sniff your tears. Your tears are welcome here. And it's going to be okay. So, let's just sit here in quietness. And let me remind you of all the ways you've done your very best. Because your best is good enough.
So, we all love you.
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Hi! I'm so happy you're here. Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what? You get to be along for this journey because we are in this together.
So, we're back.Quality time has been the most rewarding. time with myself. I can honestly say my favorite color is pastels. I don't like horror movies or any gory things at all. Sorry, no thank you, do not pass go or collect your 200. I, I enjoy like Wondering, but like, I'm not the type of person, like when you say let's go for a walk, I'm not that.
If you say let's go for an adventure, and like we just happen to go to a park and spend like three hours walking around, cool. But if you like say we're going for a walk, I'm probably going to be like, nah. Or like, let's go for a hike. I'll be like, how far is this hike? Is it a mile? Is it two miles? Is it three miles?
cause if it's three miles, that means three miles back. That's six miles. No, can do. But I wouldn't have known these things if I hadn't taken time out. Just like with giving myself gifts and just enjoying life, um, and like serving myself, um, so putting me first in some areas, I could not articulate what I needed to.
And I've had the play of rich, ha, privilege, I couldn't speak, privilege of being able to answer those questions. And realizing what I said Tuesday, I might not feel the same way on Thursday, uh, due to just life experiences, reading. Other people who respect it and be like, oh, I didn't think like that.
That's true. That could happen. Um, and lastly just Enjoying Me I Don't know how many people can honestly say they don't have to be around people just to enjoy themselves just to Say I am in love with myself, because I am quirky, I am kind, I am caring, I am compassionate, I am intelligent, I am teachable, and I am a good friend to others.
And whether I'm being a great friend to others or being a great friend to myself, I love myself. So, my question goes back to, have you given yourself time? To learn who you are, and what you like, and how you show up for you, in those quiet moments when you're just by yourself, do you love yourself?
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Hi! I'm so happy you're here. Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future, and guess what? You get to be along for this journey because we are in this together.
So, we have finished five love languages.
I think I just want to sit and, um, talk to you about.
them as an altogether component for the last five episodes, um, simply because individually I, I know they work great, and we've talked about receiving and giving the five love languages. However, have you gone on dates with yourself and treated yourself with the utmost respect in these categories? I
known for me it took me a while to Understand or even comprehend the components of taking yourself out on dates, uh, enjoying your quality time with yourself, uh, and just being a good friend to yourself. So, my question is today, have you thought?How you have loved yourself in the sense of acts of service.
Have you loved yourself?And you're going to keep peeing how many times you going to say I love yourself. I think it's very important and you must love yourself. And so, you're going to hear it a bunch of times like a bunch of times. Um, so love yourself, love yourself, love yourself.Love yourself in the way of acts of service and you're probably like chai, chai.
What do you mean by loving yourself in a component of acts of service? Simple, have you given yourself a break? It is okay to say, I have a laundry list of things to do. But they don't have to get done today. Today is my sabbath. Today is the day of rest. Today is the day that I do not want to go or do anything and that is a service to myself because we all have all lights that come on at some point in our lives that says, hey, have you loved yourself today?
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Hi! I'm so happy you're here. Welcome to Chai Beauty, where I get to share my thoughts, my dreams, my aspirations, my visions for the future. And guess what? You get to be along for this journey. Because we are in this together.
So, we have talked about acts of service. We're now moving on to gifts. And I think we have... sort of taking gifts out of context. In some ways. We just expect that if you love someone, um, you should give gifts and extravagant gifts that potentially could put someone in a financial bind, make them sacrifice a lot of and.
Again, going back to what I said prior, gifts are great, and they can make a lot of statements when you deliver a gift. And when you think about those statements that people give you, I want you to check to see have you declared love for yourself? Have you declared that I am special, I am kind, I am caring, I am, I am the cream of the cream.
I am the icing on the cake.For me, I like cookies, oh well, chocolate chip to be exact, but I think what I have done is each year. I, I love gadgets, so like I have a lot of knickknacks, paddywhacks, all in my house, so there's always a gadget and so throughout the years I've always just bought myself a gadget that I've spied for like three to six months, I've watched YouTube videos on it sometimes or I've just been around someone that had the gadget for a while and I buy at least one gadget a year and that's how I give, give a gift to myself and as I've gotten older and continue the theme of like learning how to dance in the rain.
Um, I started going to farmers markets or to the grocery store just to purchase flowers to put in my house for those days when I like to wake up and I'm sad or like I just woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I just want to tell myself. I love you; I see you, and we may not be where we are today, but just like this flower, the seasons will change, and we will be where we need to be.
So just hold on and love yourself, cause we're almost there. So, have you loved yourself today? Have you taken a moment to gift yourself with something? To say I'm here? Thanks for watching! Be sure to subscribe for more videos like this Winter is coming!
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