Kamsije: Recent Episodes
'Kemjika
Welcome to Kamsije with your host, 'Kemjika. 'Kemjika is a Nigerian who moved to Canada 10 years ago. One of her favourite things is talking, and she talks about everything! Her conversations can sometimes go from zero to 100 in seconds, and she can be caught rambling on and voicing out half-processed thoughts. This podcast is about those random thoughts and conversations. Episodes will be released bi-weekly. Enjoy!'Kemjika is available via email - kamsije@gmail.com.
This is the episode where I talk about passive aggression and why it truly sucks! Have a listen and hopefully learn a thing or two. If the relationships in your life are valuable to you, work out a healthier way of communicating to preserve them.
Some resources:
The social media post my sister sent to me
My favourite description!
Bonus resource
On this episode I share my thoughts on pornography. It is also a topic that I changed my opinion on. Experiences can change us in profound ways. This particular one is not a big deal, but sometimes, one experience acts as the catalyst that causes to shift our beliefs. The catalyst that makes us question what we considered truth etc. And seeing as change is a constant thing in life, we should buckle up and embrace it when it comes.
Resources
Dr Peterson Talks about Pornography https://utm.io/ueSFn
Eli Nash https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbYWKVAeu6Y
Pornography addiction: A neuroscience perspective
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3050060/
The episode where I talk about having difficult conversations. As usual there is a bit of rambling on and on... but enjoy!
Welcome back everyone!
On this episode, I chat with about love that endures. Love that gives chance after chance. Love that is something special. Hope you enjoy!
'Kemjika
xoxo
This is the episode where I chat with Nathan about the experience of 2021. It's always great to have him on, I hope you enjoy our chat!
This is the final part of this 3 part episode. If you haven't listened to the other two episodes, please do so before you listen to this one.
Now that this is out of the way, I am looking forward to bringing more content your way this 2023!
Xoxo
Here is the second part of the episode. If you haven't listened to part 1, please go back and listen to part 1 before listening to this.
This is the episode where I talk about unblocking my road block. The road block that kept me away from podcasting and impacted my life hugely! Thanks for sticking with me!
This is part 1 of a multipart episode, so be sure to check back for part 2!
The diagnosis. I was the 1 in 100,000.
https://www.health.com/condition/infectious-diseases/coronavirus/rare-blood-disorder-covid-vaccine-thrombocytopenia
The Psalm 23:4 sermon
https://coastalchurch.org/message-archives/?sapurl=Lys2YzgzL2xiL21pLysybm4yZ2Q4P2JyYW5kaW5nPXRydWUmZW1iZWQ9dHJ1ZSZyZWNlbnRSb3V0ZT1hcHAud2ViLWFwcC5saWJyYXJ5Lmxpc3QmcmVjZW50Um91dGVTbHVnPSUyQjYzNTFiNjk=
This is the episode where I talk about memories. It was recorded Christmas 2021, but is just airing.
I am a collection of thoughts and memories and likes and dislikes. I am the things that have happened to me and the sum of everything I've ever done. I am the clothes I wear on my back. I am every place and every person and every object I have ever come across. I am a bag of bones stuck to a very large rock spinning a thousand miles an hour.
Macaulay Culkin
Thank you to all my listeners who have been patiently waiting for new content. Real life has a way of taking over our best intentions.
On this episode, I share my thoughts on a few of my listener's comments following the last episode. And I have a special guest on at the end too!
Please don't forget to like, share and subscribe. You can also email me at kamsije@gmail.com with your comments.
Until next time...
On this episode, I offer my thoughts/suggestions on things to consider in 2022, for those who are not voluntarily single and who are hoping to find a special someone this year.
I initially was going to tag it finding love, but love sometimes seems so abstract, especially when you can't put a face to it, so let's focus on finding a special someone, and see how those feelings evolve.
All the best in life & love...
'Kemjika
Hello dear listeners! Feels so good to be back here after my long hiatus.
This is the episode where I talk about boundaries. I hope you enjoy it and it triggers some thought and meaningful conversations.
Useful resources
Henry Cloud talking about Boundaries
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zjcPkKHZRCg
Henry Cloud's book
https://www.amazon.ca/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Boundaries%3A+When+to+Say+Yes%2C+How+to+Say+No+to+Take+Control+of+Your+Life&qid=1638467308&sr=8-1
And workbook:
https://www.amazon.ca/Boundaries-Workbook-When-Take-Control/dp/0310352770/ref=pd_bxgy_img_1/146-8194900-5217626?pd_rd_w=EMj3S&pf_rd_p=8c482a45-7c0f-409b-937c-741a67b11a67&pf_rd_r=51H9RF4PQ8TY63BY6GN5&pd_rd_r=b1cbe1e1-c76b-4b7c-a31e-fdaec808db2e&pd_rd_wg=9VFk1&pd_rd_i=0310352770&psc=1
This is the conversation where we talk about parenting vis-à-vis shame & guilt. The episode is much longer than any other I've posted so far, but I couldn't bring myself to cut it short. You're listening to 3 sister-friends talk openly, unscripted & vulnerably about our real life parenting journeys. I hope you enjoy listening to the episode as much as we enjoyed recording it!
Resources:
The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read And Your Children Will Be Glad You Did by Philippa Perry
If you only buy one parenting book (whether as a parent or a child), please make it this one
https://www.npr.org/sections/13.7/2017/10/02/552860553/when-children-begin-to-lie-theres-actually-a-positive-takeaway
TED TALK: Little Liars: Insights from Children’s Lies by Kang Lee
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TN8eK24e7KQ
Age by Age Guide to Lying
https://www.parents.com/kids/development/behavioral/age-by-age-guide-to-lying/
Children’s Proneness to Shame and Guilt Predict Risky and Illegal Behaviors in Young Adulthood
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4239200/
This is the episode where I share a very vulnerable subject. You can probably tell from my voice that I was overcome with emotion and I recorded at night! Note my night and day voice!
Epilepsy is a neurological disorder in which brain activity becomes abnormal, causing seizures or periods of unusual behavior, sensations, and sometimes loss of awareness.
70% of people with epilepsy can gain seizure freedom with medication alone.
30% of people have drug-resistant epilepsy.
1 in 10 people will have a seizure in their lifetime.
Click here to donate to the Epilepsy Foundation of Nigeria. The founder Seyi Aragbada is doing amazing work in Nigeria.
https://epilepsynigeria.org/donate-now/ re
On today's episode of the podcast, I have with me, Erin, my very first guest!!! We will be inviting you into a conversation that we bonded over. Our first phone call was supposed to revolve around genealogy and true crime (our shared loves!), but we ended up chatting for almost two hours about grief & loss! It was truly emotional and I'm very honoured to have her share so openly and vulnerably with me. I wish you all had been flies on the wall for our first conversation which wasn't recorded. Well, you weren't, so this is what you get!
Enjoy and don't forget to like, share and subscribe (in no particular order!).
Recommendation
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown
https://www.amazon.ca/Dare-Lead-Brave-Conversations-Hearts/dp/0399592520
This is the episode where I go on and on about why I think women waiting for marriage proposals are antithetical to feminism & partnership. On this episode, I am not taking on women who are okay with this... that is their prerogative!
My partner & editor pops on to share his thoughts as well!
Enjoy!
This is the episode where I try to share my frustration, anger and exhaustion at the violence against black people in the United States. Words fail me...
Show mentions:
"Them" - Amazon Prime
The Murder of Daunte Wright
https://www.nytimes.com/article/daunte-wright-death-minnesota.html
Harassment of US Army officer 2nd Lt. Caron Nazario
https://www.cnn.com/videos/us/2021/04/11/army-officer-pepper-sprayed-by-police-during-traffic-stop-lawsuit-chen-dnt-ndwknd-vpx.cnn
Man who threatens to shoot police
https://www.dispatch.com/story/news/local/2021/04/15/charges-against-man-who-refused-police-orders-ohio-traffic-stop/7235943002/
Driving while black
https://metro.co.uk/2020/02/17/white-cop-pulls-black-driver-going-65mph-70mph-zone-12257359/
This is the episode where I go on a rant about how we all need to be sensible about the virus & the vaccine. Covid could kill you. The vaccine won't!
This is the episode where I ramble on about being rooted. About the feeling of being settled.
This is the episode where I talk about why I think you shouldn't bother with porn. My suggestion is that you research, have honest & open conversations with sensible people and then practice, practice, practice!
This is the episode where I start off talking about why I think Sex Ed is important. I end up going off on a few different tangents, but I am sure you'll get the gist of it!
Listener discretion is advised.
Editing - Nathan Gaul @fatnatg
Sound Editing - BTB Audio @btbaudio
This is the episode where I talk about how I altered my default setting in the area of friendship and gratitude.
This is the episode where I try to sound wise and tell you what to talk about before you decide to get married. Please note that I did not intentionally have all these conversations myself. The ones I did have, happened by chance! Listen, like, share, subscribe.
References
Khalil Gibran, The Prophet
XOXO
This is the episode where I talk about how we all need to pay more attention to the end of non-romantic relationships.
Welcome to the very first episode of Kamsije. This is the one where I attempt to tell you the reason I started the podcast. In typical fashion, I derail here and there, but I promise, you'll get the gist!
This is the episode where I start off not intending to overshare, then overshare, then try to back pedal. I don't even remember what the episode is about anymore!