The Vegas Therapist - Ryan Wynder: Recent Episodes
Ryan Wynder
What happens in Vegas is not staying in Vegas! I am here to share with knowledge about relationships, addiction, parenting, depression, anxiety, self esteem, and life, based on my experience as a therapist for the past 17 years in Las Vegas. I will also be having guests come on to talk about real life issues and their healing and recovery!
In this episode I give you the break down of what I learned from running my third marathon. This was to Utah Valley Marathon that started in Provo Canyon. The Race was a challenge to say the least! I wanted to share a few the things I learned and the takeaways for life. Things around preparation, expectations, embracing obstacles, setting goals and accountability, people, and one final lesson you will have to listen for! Be sure to check out my website www.ryanwynder.com for more information about me. Also the link to my 14 Day Marriage Challenge is there.
The most powerful human need is to be seen and heard. We want to be know that matter. In this episode I explore the impact of not being seen or heard in our lives. The lack of having that type of acknowledgment in our life comes with a variety of consequences, including losing trust in our inclinations and our intuitive needs. I discuss a variety a ways that we try and compensate for this in our lives. Finally, I talk about the ways we can heal this wound in our livesFor more info on me visit my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
This episode is a result of the thought I had while watching the documentary called Dynasty. It’s about the New England Patriots and in particular the focus on Bill Belichick and Tom Brady and how he came to be the Patriots quarterback. As Fate would have hit a huge hit on the starter at the time, Drew Bledsoe opened the door for Brady to get his opportunity! An opportunity he did not let go of and turned into 7 Super Bowls! It got me thinking about fate and the role it plays in our life. I share some experiences of how fate brought me to the place I am in my career. My challenge is for you to look at how fate has shown up in your life. More about me can be found on my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I tackle the topic of relationships. It’s Valentines Day so I assume everyone is thinking about their relationships and how they want them to improve! With 20 years of experience in the field and seeing thousands of couples I thought to myself, I should know what are essential components to a successful relationship. Sit back, take notes and enjoy my relationship essentials and see where you can be better with your partner. From Trust to Connection I have you covered and as a special bonus I leave you with the 777 challenge. For more on me go to my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I break down the concept of mental load. It refers to the invisible burden that is associated with the effort involved in managing your work, relationships, family and household. This is typically associated with woman in a relationship. There are 4 parts to the mental load: anticipate, identify, decide, and monitor. Education and awareness are key to helping to alleviate the burden of the mental load that exists in the relationship. I also share details about my own experiment of helping to alleviate the mental load in my own relationship. For more about me go to my website www.ryanwynder.com and following me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I update everyone on what I have been up to and what things have been going on in my life since the last episode.My focus is on the value of time. As we approach this new year how do we want to utilize our time for effectively. Time is the stuff life is made of and our use of it determines many things things in our life.I leave you with 3 questions - 1. What do you want to do with this one wild and precious life. 2. How do you want to show up as a friend, partner, worker, etc. 3. What is important to you and what may be missing in your life?For more about me visit my webpage www.ryanwynder.com or following me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode Ryan dives into part 2 of 2. This episode will focus more on the Defense Mechanisms we use to keep us "safe" or to keep us feeling more hurt or pain in our lives. "Most of us do not reenact the experience of the trauma itself. Instead we act out the coping strategy (or defense mechanism) we evolved to deal with the trauma.
Ryan will discuss a number of different defense mechanisms we utilize, including Terrance Real's adaptive child defense, self-abandonment, disconnection, self blame and shame, victim mentality, and the inability to receive. From this episode you will gain a better understanding of your own defense mechanisms and find out ways you can begin to move away from them and start healing.
To follow Ryan on Instagram go to @thevegastherapist or visit his website www.ryanwynder.com
Don't forget about his 14 Day Relationship Challenge, the link is available on his website!
In this episode Ryan breaks down the first of a two part episode. The focus for the first episode will be on Triggers. The word trigger itself has become a hot topic and according to MaryCatherine McDonald and her new book Unbroken, it has become a catchall for any occasion in which we have an emotion that is remotely unpleasant or unwanted. This misconception also leads to a misunderstanding of how we deal with triggers when they happen. We have learned to block and avoid instead of adapting and healing!
There are three things to be mindful of when it comes to triggers: 1. We are always conscious of our triggers, 2. Triggers are something to be avoided at all costs, 3. Not feeling anything is a realistic goal. Ultimately when it comes to triggers they are a sign that there things that we have not yet processed. Because of that we need to pay attention to them, acknowledge them, and honor ourselves by doing the work to reduce the impact they have on us.
You can follow Ryan on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to his website www.ryanwynder.com
Check out my 14 Day Relationship Challenge - link on website
Just in time for Father's Day! In this episode I sit down with David Frey, who is currently a marriage researcher and coach for men who want to be better husbands in their relationships. David himself has been married for 33 years to Ingrid Frey. They met as missionaries in Bolivia and started dating in college. They adopted two children at birth. Their names are Sterling, who is 26 and Alina, who is 21. David has worked as an executive in the business world and as a solo entrepreneur for over 23 years. David has had a genetic disease that has no cure and so he decided to set aside his business career to help men become better husbands. He’s the author of the book titled, “301 Ways to Become a High Value Husband.” Currently he is working on a new book titled - The #1 Rule for High Value Husbands.
Our episode will focus on his most recent book and the number 1 rule, which is Taking Ownership - David will define what that looks like in our lives, as well as discuss what happens when men do not take ownership in their relationships.
Finally, we discuss the 9 Aspects of creating an Ownership Lifestyle that will produce a more fulfilling and connected relationship with our partner and those around us.
To connect with David you can find him on Facebook or Instagram @davidfrey.highvaluehusbands
You can find me on my website www.ryanwynder.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
Check out my 14 Day Relationship Challenge as well, the link for that is on my website.
In this episode, I welcome in Kathy Moffat, who currently is a Relationship Coach. For this show though, she is hear to share her story about raising a child that has severe Mental Health issues. Kathy and I have been intertwined for 16 years now as we have worked together in helping her son. This was a very real and vulnerable conversation about the challenges that come with having a child that experiences these things. Kathy digs into some of the more difficult topics such as fear, disappointment, and dealing with the potential of suicide with your child. She shares her process of moving from "fixing them" to an acceptance of this being a life long journey. Kathy gives some great insight and advice for parents who may be dealing with similar issues, things she wish she had known, what she has learned from her experiences, and the importance of self-care.
A critical part of the conversation was how Kathy dealt with the shame of having a child with mental health issues. Shame has kept most of us from being open about the challenges around mental health. Kathy shares some great advice about managing the shame.
This is mental health awareness month and I feel this episode is great for spreading the message about dealing with mental health. We still have room for growth and awareness in the area of mental health.
You can follow Kathy on Instagram @kathymoffat.co
Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com
I am honored to celebrate my 100th episode with my special guest MaryCatherine McDonald, PhD. She is the author of the book Unbroken: The Trauma Response is Never Wrong. MC (as she goes by), is a research professor and life coach who has been researching, lecturing, and publishing on the neuroscience, psychology, and lived experience of trauma since beginning her PhD in 2009. For more, visit alchemycoaching.life or follow her on Instagram @mc.phdThis episode is like a Trauma 101 of sorts. Through her research MC has come to define trauma as a unbearable emotional experience that lack a relational home. Trauma also has three core parts 1. A narrative event 2. Emotional content 3. A set tags or labels Each part is discussed and we talk about how each part impacts our outlook and how each of these parts can be integrated for healing. We discuss some key components to trauma which include reconstructing the world view that can be shattered as a result of experiencing trauma. Taking our power back from the labels that have been given to us through others or our trauma is critical to healing as well. The role of shame in our trauma and how we manage triggers among other important aspects of trauma are discussed as well. Such a great conversation on trauma with an amazing guest!You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.comYou can also check out my 14 Day Relationship Challenge at https://14daybettermarriagechallenge.com/home
In this episode I discuss the process of taking power back in our lives. There are a number of things in life that can take our power from us: trauma, people, and especially negative labels. When these things have taken us down and put us in a cage or we find ourselves feeling powerless or helpless to them, its time to take a stand and take our power back. In order to take back the reins we may need to understand what we are fighting in the first place, or that the way we have been fighting is not working or backfiring on us. Each time we come face to face with the things that have power over us we have the opportunity to stand up for ourselves, not doing so can leave us feeling like we have betrayed ourselves. which only adds more layers of shame and labels to the existing pile.
After discussing this process I share a number of ways we can begin to take our power back and reclaim our lives and create and identity for ourselves that we want!
You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I sit down with my fellow colleague Lauren Schloss. Lauren is a Licensed Drug and Alcohol Counselor and CPC Intern. She has been practicing as a therapist for 10+ years. As a therapist Lauren has great perspective and specializes in working with individuals who struggle with addiction, trauma, low self-esteem, and depression. Over the course of the last year, Lauren lost both of her parents, and as an only child the caregiver role fell solely on her. All of this while having a family of her own and trying to work as well. During the episode Lauren offers great insight into working through these difficult live events. We discuss the role of trauma and how it impacted her and how she is committed to finding herself after these difficult losses. You can find me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com. My 14 Day Relationship challenge is available to purchase on my website.
In this episode, I discuss the details of a new book I have been reading by Terrance Real, called "US." It was a great follow up to my previous episode with my wife Sonia as we shared secrets to our successful 25 year marriage. In Real's Book he identifies a rhythm in relationship - Harmony, Disharmony, and Repair. This rhythm is cyclical and we move through it multiple times within the term of our relationships. An important realization for many in relationships is that their will be disharmony and that does not equal a bad relationship it simply just is what it is. We all have it in our relationships, but the key is how we repair the disharmony. There can be a number of benefits we gain from repair in building a stronger relationship.
You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website for more info about me or to sign up for my 14 Day Marriage Challenge - www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode, I welcome a special guest to the show! My wife Sonia joins me, as we recently celebrated our "Silver" anniversary. I wanted share with you what has worked for us in our relationship and the things that we feel can lead to a successful marriage. In the episode, we share our story of how we met and then delve into some of the keys to marriage. Topics include: Love & commitment, time together, chemistry & compatibility, growth, interests, communication and of course SEX! I hope you enjoy what we have to share. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I sit down with Dr. Randall Bell, who recently came out with the book Post-Traumatic Thriving. Dr. Bell has specialized in disaster recovery and has been involved in such events as the World Trade Center, Flight 93, Sandy Hook, Hurricane Katrina, OJ Simpson and Heavens gate to name a few. In his book he lays out the academic research about trauma as well as discusses his own PTSD as a child.
In the episode we dive into the 3 phases of Trauma outlined in his book: The Dive Stage, Survive Stage, and finally the Thrive Stage. Each stage has its core components and importance for moving through and healing. The ultimate end goal for everyone is to find a way to utilize the energy from their trauma to thrive fully in life. To set goals and achieve success. Not letting the trauma define us but using it's impact as a way to build resilience along the way to healing and thriving.
To follow me on Instagram check out @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com you can also reach out to me via email - ryanwynder@gmail.com
Dr. Anna Lembke received her undergraduate degree in Humanities from Yale University and her medical degree from Stanford University. She is currently Professor and Medical Director of Addiction Medicine, Stanford University School of Medicine. She is also Program Director of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Fellowship, and Chief of the Stanford Addiction Medicine Dual Diagnosis Clinic. She is a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, and a diplomate of the American Board of Addiction Medicine.
Dr. Lembke was one of the first in the medical community to sound the alarm regarding opioid overprescribing and the opioid epidemic. In 2016, she published her best-selling book on the prescription drug epidemic, "Drug Dealer, MD – How Doctors Were Duped, Patients Got Hooked, and Why It’s So Hard to Stop" (Johns Hopkins University Press, 2016). Her book was highlighted in the New York Times as one of the top five books to read to understand the opioid epidemic (Zuger, 2018).
Her latest book, "Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence" (Dutton/Penguin Random House, August 2021), was an instant New York Times and Los Angeles Times bestseller, and explores how to moderate compulsive overconsumption in a dopamine-overloaded world.
In this episode we talk about the elements surrounding our "Dopamine Nation" This includes the Pleasure- Pain Balance, The Broken Balance, our society that is running from pain, the solution of pressing on the pain side of things, and finally the concept of Radical Honesty. It is a packed filled episode with something for us all. Dr. Lembke has a great understanding of all of these elements and shares them in a very real way.
You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
Check out my 14 Day Better Relationship Challenge by going to my website and clicking on the link.
In this episode I welcome in my guest September Frogley, she is the founder of Connection is the Cure. The goals of this foundation include: 1. Normalize and encourage ongoing conversations about mental health and suicide prevention, 2. Equip people with prevention strategies, 3. Connect people to resources in the community and each other! September shares her personal story with losing her brother to suicide and how that experience sent her down this path to create this foundation to raise awareness for others. Healing the shame for those suffering and those impacted is hugely tied to our ability to connect and to share. In addition to her story we tackle some of the myths around suicide, ways to help those struggling, and much more. You can learn more about this foundation by following on Instagram @connection_isthe_cure or the website https://www.connectionisthecureidaho.org/ The event is January 17th, doors open at 5pm @ The Ford Idaho Center - Smith Alley, Max Hall , and Brock Bevell will be speaking, Ben Fuller with be performing.For more info on myself follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.comYou can also access my 14 Day Better Marriage Challenge by going to my website
In this episode I tackle the topic of goal setting! There are a few key parts for a new way to set goals that I address in the episode. First, there are two types of motivation, "Want-to" and "Have-to" Motivation, the type you have will influence your overall success with achieving your goals! The main part of the episode is dedicated to having goals that are centered in our values. Goals that are value based have lasting power and generates enduring motivation. A value is not something to be achieved, but is something you can only manifest by acting in accordance with it. Being "aligned" in the way we live and want to live helps to reduce pain in life. I draw from 2 articles by Mark Travers and Steven Hayes in Feb. 2023 Psychology Today as well as Steven Hayes book "A Liberated Mind"
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Rate your Domains - Scale 1-10 (Family, Marriage/couples/intimate relations, Parenting, Friends/social life, Work, Education, Recreation/Fun, Spirituality, Physical self-care, & Art/creative expression
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Rate your consistency in the areas above - how consistent have your actions been with your values
3.What do I care about in this area? What do I want to do in this area that reflects that caring? What can I do to manifest this value more in my life?
Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com
Check out my website as well for a link to my 14 Day Better Marriage Challenge!
In this episode I approach the topic of Emotional Maturity. I really have connected with this concept because I think we can all use work in this area. Each of us have areas we can improve on when it comes to our emotional maturity. An emotional immature person will find it hard to communicate or process their emotions and can appear selfish or aloof, it also is the lack of ability to regulate our emotions or to sit in emotional discomfort. Emotional immaturity comes from how our developmental needs were not met as children and the modeling we saw from our parental figures. I focus on 4 ways to become more Emotionally Mature: 1. Self - Aware, 2. Take responsibility for your feelings, 3. Work on Empathy, 4. Nurturing Inner Child. This episode has something for everyone.
You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.ryanwynder.com You can find my 14 Day Better Marriage Challenge on the website.
In this episode I continue the to discuss working with The Shadow. In particular I focus on the most common manifestation of the Shadow, the inferior shadow. I reference the book The Tools, by Stutz and Michels. Discussion includes why its so important to understand your shadow, how we become dependent on outside sources for approval and validation, and the hiding place for our garbage becomes our inner self. Ultimately we turn something beautiful (inner self) into something we despise (the shadow).
The Force of Self Expression is the tool I outline, which drives us to reveal ourselves in a truthful, and genuine way without caring how other people will react. When we are connected to this force a part of you speaks that usually is silent.
In Addition to discussing the shadow, I turn to the topic of shame and working on identifying and stopping the shame cycle. I believe that working on our shame opens us up to really work on and with our Shadow. The two go hand in hand for much greater results!
You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com to contact me or find my 14 Day Relationship Challenge!
In this episode I tackle the topic of the Shadow Self. This concept was introduced early in Psychotherapy history by Carl Jung. The Shadow Self is the part of us we want to hide from the world. For some it is our dark side, others it may be a hurt or trauma they have experienced, it can also be a feeling of unworthiness or less than, or evan a behavior. According to Jung, "there could be no light without shadow, no psychic wholeness without imperfection." The Shadow is everything which one has no wish to be, therefor we must confront it! The acceptance and integration of our shadow is very healing work. The topic for this episode came from the new movie on Netflix, with Jonah Hill and his therapist Stutz. In the movie they discuss the shadow self of Jonah Hill and record an exercise with him doing Shadow work. In the episode, I get vulnerable and reveal what came out for me when I replicated the exercise with myself. Steps for the exercise: 1. Identify a part of yourself or a time when you felt inferior, hurt, ashamed, inadequate, etc. 2. Think of the former version of you and invite it to have a conversation. 3. Begin a dialogue with it - try to understand the Shadow and what it needs from you. Validate the shadow 5. Integrate it: go back through that event and see yourself going through it in the way you would like... Journal your thoughts.You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com My 14 Day Marriage Challenge is available at www.14daybettermarriagechallenge.com/home
In this episode I explore the concept of self-gaslighting. I found this to be a very interesting concept and wanted to do a show specifically about it. One reason I did this show was that I feel we all can relate in someway to having done this to ourselves. In the episode I break down 5 ways we may be self gaslighting. I also help identify people who may struggle more with the specific types. In addition to what self gaslighting can look like, I also provide things we can do to prevent it. Finally, I provide some affirmations to help solidify how we feel. You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist. Visit my website at www.ryanwynder.com. Finally for my 14 Day Marriage challenge go to http://www.14daybettermarriagechallenge.com/home
In this episode I tackle the topic of comfort zones. Much of the episode is based on the book by Jordan Tarver, You Deserve This Shit. Our comfort zone can be both safe and toxic at the same time. Our evaluation of where we sit in that is needed constantly. Complacency is the obvious way we get stuck in our comfort zone, but even complacency has numerous forms we need to be aware of. Breaking free involves building trust in ourselves, giving ourselves permission to be a beginner, and changing our lens about failure. Remember everything in life begins to flourish outside our comfort zone, that is where the magic happens! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode my guest Anita Monodu shares with us her 5 step process for helping clients live a shame free life! Those steps include sharing your story, manifesting who you want to be in life without shame and embodying and living a shameless life. A key component to letting go of shame through sharing our story first and foremost with ourselves. Many people stay in denial of their story because they fear the shame that comes with that. Anita also share her “Be, Do, Have” model which a huge mindset shift for all of us if we want to take action and live the life we desire. Anita is a fellow therapist and you can find her on her website www.udomom.com or follow her on Instagram @udomomhw. Anita Momodu is an International Women’s Reproduction Coach. She travels the world gathering communities, demolishing shame, and uplifting experiences. During the day Anita is a Clinical Professional Counselor Intern, she helps birthing individuals and their families take back their power from shame in their journey to and through parenthood. She is also a 3x Author, military spouse, mother of 4, full-spectrum doula (birth, postpartum, bereavement), childbirth educator, doula educator, and international non-profit President. You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website, www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I welcome Tony Overbay to the show. Tony is a fellow therapist and podcaster, he host the Virtual Couch and Waking up to Narcissism podcasts. In addition he offers his Magnetic Marriage course to couples. We discuss pitfalls couples fall into and Tony talks about his 4 pillars of communication. While discussing his pillars we also break down how self protection and a lack of vulnerability get in the way of our utilization of these pillars. At times we follow the “script” and other times we are just engaged in freestyle as we discuss valuable components for a better relationship! Find Tony at www.tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his marriage course. You can follow me at www.ryanwynder.com also check out my 14 Day Relationship Challenge at www.14daybettermarriagechallenge.com/home or on Instagram @thevegastherapist
This episode is taken from a presentation I gave to a group of couples at church. I was invited to speak on strengthening our marriages/relationships. I talk about 5 things we can do to improve our relationships. Topics include: Intimacy, Goals, Caring, Expressing Love, and Expectations. I hope you enjoy! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or www.ryanwynder.com
In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month. In this episode I will discuss 5 things we can do to improve or maintain our mental health. Treat yourself with kindness, surround yourself with good people, learn how to deal with stress, set realistic goals, and get help when you need it. These will all be discussed, including the need to embrace our humanness with grace and kindness. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website www.ryanwynder.com
This is a tutorial video to help youth develop a more positive mindset in connection with sport performance. Things like dealing with failure and disappointment, positive mindset tools, understanding expectations and identity, and the development of your why will all be discussed. The principals and ideas shared can be utilized in a number of different ways. Sports, school, and life all require a positive mindset as well our ability to work through failure. If you or your teen is struggling there are some helpful tools presented in this podcast. To learn more about me you can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I discuss what trauma responses can look like, some of which may surprise you! In an article written by Dr. Melissa DeBose Hankins she talks about the correlation between Will Smiths reactive response at the Academy Awards and his personal trauma, making the connection that what we saw ultimately was a trauma response. She makes a compelling argument in sharing some of Will’s childhood trauma and how it was connected to what happened that night. In addition I discuss trauma responses that I see in my practice and the importance of getting help for the trauma we have, whether it be Big T stuff or little T. If it is impacting our life or dictating our responses to things we need to seek help for the trauma in our lives. You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I look at the benefits of seeing our survivor/story. There is a story in all of us and we need to honor that. Each of us had to overcome obstacles in our life, those challenges have given us strength and skill. Maintaining a victim mindset with our story keeps us stuck in our problems. Positive change is more likely to occur when we are able to do 3 things I discuss in the episode. Not allowing negative occurrences in our life to define us is key to our writing our hero story. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I “geek out” a bit over the topic of shame! Shame is a battle for each of us in some way! We all have our triggers for it and it tends to come from old core negative beliefs we have about ourselves. My hope for this episode is that we can all be better at managing our shame, rather than it control us. I discuss what our shame leveraging us looks like and 5 downsides to shame being in charge! I also share how we can improve our shame awareness and resilience as Brene Brown talks about. I also share 6 benefits we can have when we are able to leverage our shame. I hope you enjoy! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I share with you my presentation I gave at the Hope and Healing Workshop. The workshop was dedicated to mental health and addiction recovery. It was a great event with many wonderful presenters. The first part of the presentation contains some overlap from the last episode, the difference being I share more case examples. Then I talk about how Radical Honesty helps to break down shame! That part of the presentation is all new and very powerful. This was an amazing event! Follow me @thevegastherapist on Instagram or my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I tackle the topic of Radical Honesty. It is the practice of telling the truth about things both large and small, especially when doing so exposes our flaws and entails consequences. The first part of the episode is spent discussing the consequences of lying and what it does to our psyche and self esteem. Then I talk about the 3 Benefits of Radical Honesty. 1. Promotes Awareness of our Actions 2. Fosters intimate connections 3.Leads to a truthful autobiography. The episode finishes with a personal challenge that you don’t want to miss! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist join my Facebook Group page or go to my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I share an interview I did for another podcast called Nunn Talks. There was so many great things we talked about I wanted makes sure as many people as possible heard the content. Topics include how anxiety can create apathy, and why apathy can be a dangerous state for teens. We also talk about building resilience and personal competence. What parents can do to help their kids in these areas. Finally we discuss working through self doubt, and I provide 4 things teens can do to work through self doubt. You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I discuss a topic that is applicable to us all! Life Transitions, some are natural and some are thrust upon us. Either way we have to deal with them as they come. I personally have had several transitions this year: Moving, loss of a parent, 2 kids left home, and work transition. I discuss several ways we can improve our ability to have Life Transitions be a positive thing for us. Enjoy! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website www.thevegastherapist.com.
In this episode I pay tribute to one of my favorite shows, Ted Lasso. I do so by breaking down a important episode on mental health. Season 2 focuses a great deal on mental health and the idea we all have stuff and the importance of working through our pain so that it does not control us! I focus on three things from the episode; Our stuff and the importance of working through it, Secrets, in particular secrets that carry toxic shame, and choices. All of these things play a vital role in our mental health and well-being and are worth an evaluation within ourselves. Enjoy! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I sit down with Mequell Buck, she is an author, speaker, suicide survivor, and hosts a Podcast with her husband Adam. The podcast is called Thriving with Mental Illness. Mequell shares her story of dealing her mental illness (bipolar II diagnosis). We talk about the process for her to get healthy, what was helpful and not helpful for her. She opens up about her suicide attempt and what that meant to her. Mequell shares how her life is better because of this (mental illness) and how it forced her to trim the unimportant things out of her life. She discusses the importance of redefining our view of successes in life and mental health. She gives some great advice to those struggling with mental illness as well as their spouses. Don’t miss this one! Follow Miquell on Instagram @thrivingwithmentalillness. You can follow me on Instagram as well @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I tackle the topic of gaslighting. This tactic is something we have most likely all experienced whether we have recognized it as that or not. Gaslighting can occur in all types of relationships (parent/child, Boss/employee, and romantic). I discuss the signs to look for as well as the stages of Gaslighting in a relationship. The GasLight Tango, why people go along with the gaslighter and the power of fantasy will all be discussed. Finally, I will talk about turning off the gas and how to decide to stay or go in this type of relationship. You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist.com or my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I welcome back Theo Fleury. Theo is perhaps best known for his time on the ice. But off the rink, his life once carried the markings of a troubled childhood, abuse and coping with emotional pain through addictive and self-destructive behaviours.
Today, Theo defines himself as a victor over trauma and addiction, and a facilitator to those still trying to find their way. His best-selling books, Playing with Fire and Conversations with a Rattlesnake, encourage open sharing and provide practical tools that people seeking help can personally use. These tools are also useful to those who want to lead a productive conversation, called “Real Conversations”, with anybody else experiencing trauma. Theo and I talk about the state of mental health, the impact of Covid, and how our trauma has been triggered by the current state. We then tackle the topic of healing our trauma, the gifts of our pain, and the importance of connection. To know more about Theo check out his website www.theofleury.life You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I talk about Loss. I recently lost my mom, who battled cancer for 2.5 years. I just wanted to share my experiences I have had over the last few weeks about grief and loss. I know I am only in the early stages of grief but there are some important things that I learned that I think will benefit anyone else going through this. As a bonus track I also include the talk I gave at my mom’s funeral. Follow me at www.thevegastherapist.com or on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I tackle the topic of self doubt! This is something we all can relate to and have had to deal with at some level in our lives. Self doubt is the mental habit of questioning your own judgement and worth. There are different types of self doubt, including indecisiveness and the Imposter Syndrome that will be discussed. Self Doubt impacts our mental health and can keep us from living our full potential. In the episode I provide 4 tools for helping you break the chains of self doubt. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com or www.ryanwynder.com
In this episode I welcome my guest Rachel Wherley to the show. She is better known and famous on Instagram as @thatlittlemom Rachel has mission to promote inclusion in her social media platform. She had to work towards inclusion most of her life and wants others to know not only her story, but how we can be more open as a society and help others feel more included. She attributes her sense of worth and her courage to a great family who never made her feel different or excluded. That gave her the courage to try many things and put herself out there in ways many of us never would. She has not shied away from the spotlight and has even been a stand up comic. Rachel is married and a mother, soon to be mother of 2! Her story is inspiring and a lesson for all of us to be more mindful of inclusion for others. In my part of the podcast I share some of the affects exclusion has on individuals, which include low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety. When it comes to change for this topic we all play a role! You can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website is www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I discuss of the question of Am I good Enough (especially in the eyes of others) can consume our entire way of living. This question is unmatched in its capacity to both motivate and shame the human spirit. The source of the good enough dilemma is scarcity. Scarcity as Brene Brown describes is the never enough problem. Scarcity thrives in a culture where everyone is hyper aware of “lack.” Scarcity has 3 components: Shame, Comparison, and Disengagement. I also discuss our way out of the Good Enough Crisis! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In today’s episode I welcome in Heather Quisel to the show to talk about her life. Heather has been in the mindset and personal development space coaching business owners and entrepreneurs how to maximize their talents and increase profits through belief, focus, and disciplined actions.
In one unexpected turn of events, her whole life changed...and so did her focus.
The sudden loss of her husband, Larry, in 2018 left Heather to write a new About Me page: one she never wanted to write. But rather than lean into the pain and suffering of widowhood, she chose a story of resilience and overcoming adversity for her and her 3 children, and set out to create a life of love, happiness, and new memories despite their greatest tragedy.
Today, Heather shares her grief journey and life after loss perspective and stories on Instagram, helping widows and people experiencing all forms of grief to heal their hearts, bodies, and minds and embrace their whole new world. In the episode Heather shares here story as well as 5 tools for healing from loss and other challenges in our life. This has something for everyone, we all have challenges and thus this episode has something for you! You can follow Heather on Instagram ( @heatherquisel ) and Facebook. You can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist and also visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I sit down with entrepreneur and business owner Jared Fisher (Las Vegas Cyclery & Escape Adventures). He is an avid cyclist himself and recently finished biking coast to coast, San Diego to Saint Augustine Florida. Jared shares his adventure for life and desire to live in the moment. He takes us through his 5 reasons for going on these adventures. From accomplishing goals to facing your demons, Jared shares a number of great life lessons that we all can learn from. He takes us through some of his most darkest moments along the way and shares how he mustered the strength to push through some extreme difficulties. He is an example of Resilience and Life on Purpose with Purpose. Come along for the ride! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I sit down with the owner of Friendly Giant Films and Co Author of Million Dollar Story Nic Fitzgerald. Nic is an entrepreneur who has a business that helps other entrepreneurs tell their story to help sell their products and business. He is a master at bringing out the power of our story. Nic shares his own powerful story of following what your passion is despite the challenges that can come with that. In some of his scariest moments, he has to face his fear and bet on himself. This episode will teach you that in life there are a number of things we have to be willing to do to create the life you want. 1. It may require a “shift” in your thinking! 2. Must be willing to invest in yourself and not feel guilty for doing so. 3. If you are not happy with where things are in life you “can” change it! 4. You have to take ownership of your situation and 5. Take Action! If you want to know more about Nic’s work you can go to his website www.friendlygiantfilms.com or follow him on Instagram @weemanfitz You can see the video he helped me create for my business on my website www.thevegastherapist.com and follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I discuss how couples can take seemingly insignificant moments and turn them into powerful connecting opportunities! Due to the daily pressures of life time is a precious thing. Taking dull and mindless routines and transforming them into a source of connection and fun takes intentionality that we often lack in our approach with our partner. The 2 biggest connection killers couples face are a) how we spend our time and b) how we use technology. I will outline in this episode 5 moments couples can create rituals for and thus transform them into powerful connecting opportunities! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I take on the topic of resilience. I will draw from Eric Greitens book called Resilience. This is the key to a well loved life. Without some sense of meaningful struggle in our lives, something inside of us begins to breakdown, a part of us begins to die. Resilience requires us to take responsibility for our response to life. Failure is another important component to resilience, we have to rework our relationship with failure, it’s not something that defines us but is simply a part of the process. I will discuss how shielding our youth from struggle and difficulties are hindering their development of resilience. Resilience is not something that can be gained vicariously, we can’t give it to our children, they have to face their own struggles to develop it. I will touch on how self respect is not only a part of mental Heath but resilience as well. We are meant to have worthy work to do and without it, without the struggle we will never experience complete happiness. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
My guest Justin Su’a is the Mental Performance Coach for the Tampa Bay Rays. He has also worked for the Boston Red Sox and the Cleveland Browns. He is the author of Mentally Tough Teens and Parent Pep Talks, and is the host of the Increase Your Impact Podcast. In this episode we dive into the topic of mental toughness and flexibility. Justin talks about the importance of self awareness and living life on purpose with purpose. We discuss how to help teens who are struggling with the 3 C’s and the development of resilience. The importance of feelings in the topic of mental toughness is also discussed. There is so many great things to utilize in this episode. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or my website is www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I sit down with Dr. Spencer Holt, a friend and former Southern Albertan! Spencer is the head of commercial learning at AstraZeneca, he hosts his own Podcast; Small Things Make a Big Difference, and is a leadership coach. We discuss his recent article Journey to Awesome and how you can develop your own awesome. Principals such as purpose, emotional intelligence, people, and focus are apart of the process and journey to awesome! This was a fun episode and has lot of take aways. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I will look at two metaphors and how they relate to us and our overall well-being. This episode is about taking an inventory of your current state. Are you content with your current life? Do accept your “ceiling” or do you want to break through and make this the year for change! What’s in your “closet” that might be keeping you from achieving your goals. It’s not just old clothes! It can be old “stuff” things we may have never took the time to address properly. Let this be the year of change and achievement for you! Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I welcome in my guest Janise Loveridge. Janise is one of the founders of Inspiring Intimacy Games Stuff. Their goal is to help married couples reconnect, unite, and have FUN! Their hope is that they can help other couples reconnect and enjoy being together. They have created Inspiring Intimacy Games such as: Better Intimacy/12 Sex Challenges in 12 Months, Twelve Days of Flirty Foreplay, 52 Weeks of I Love You, and Inspiring Intimacy Card Game. Listen in as we discuss the importance of intimacy in your marriage, how to improve your connection and sex life. We discuss ways to work through negative beliefs about sex as well as the need for positivity and communication in creating an atmosphere for improved intimacy. You can find Janise on Instagram @inspiring.intimacy or her products at www.inspiringintimacy.com. Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I welcome in Dr. Robb Kelly a renowned addiction consultant who believes in treating the problem of addiction, not the symptoms. He has worked for many years helping addicts and alcoholics to RECOVER their lives from the disease of addiction. Based on his own experiences working with addicts and alcoholics over the last 20 years. Dr. Kelly was the CEO of a thriving telecommunications company when the walls came crashing down on him due to alcoholism. He ended up homeless and broken on the streets of Manchester, England until he found the courage to save himself. Since recovering, Dr. Kelly has made it his life’s mission to assist other hopeless, chronic alcoholics and addicts. He has lectured at many high-profile universities and hospitals about addiction and is recognized as a leading authority on addiction recovery methods that are changing lives. Dr. Kelly is currently the CEO of the Robb Kelly Recovery Group, an addiction recovery coaching company he created based on extensive research and behaviour studies that he conducted over the last 20 years. Dr. Kelly’s methods may seem unconventional and unorthodox leading some people to refer to him as "The Gordon Ramsay of the Addiction World" because of his direct, no-nonsense, and candid approach to treating addiction. Dr. Kelly works to "make the road of recovery less of a mystery tour." Today, Dr. Kelly inspires, educates, and changes lives with his amazing gripping story of success to failure to success…. November 2019 Robb Kelly published “Daddy, Daddy Please Stop Drinking” which chronicles his story. Inspiring and sad at times, but it stands as a testament to the power of recovery. Dr. Robb Kelly Robb Kelly Recovery Group 20770 US Hwy 281 N, Ste 108 214-600-0210/214-649-5427 robb@robbkelly.com www.robbkelly.com www.facebook.com/drrobbkelly www.twitter.com/RobbKellyGroup www.linkedin.com/in/dr-robb-kelly-07718133 Support the show (https://www.theofleury.life/contact-us). This is an amazing episode filled with so many good things for everyone. To contact me visit www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I delve into the psychology of gratitude. I have always thought gratitude was a good thing to practice but I have never really looked further into the full benefits it can have on us. Gratitude has a huge impact on the brain and positivity, it helps us feel less pain, have healthier relationships, and numerous other benefits! I will also discuss ways to actively practice gratitude in our lives. Find me at www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I will discuss how we manage the discomfort in our lives. In many cases we manage it by finding ways to avoid it! Some of those ways may be healthy and some unhealthy. However, avoidance only makes the discomfort worse. I will discuss consequences to avoidance and the benefits of facing our discomfort sooner. As Brene Brown says we need to “lean into discomfort.” I will share a variety of examples both personally and from clients. For more about me visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I discuss a recent podcast episode titled “Day 7.” Dax Shepard, the host of the Armchair Expert shares about his addiction relapse and now has seven days of sobriety! My question to the audience is what is your Day 7 issue? What is something in your life that you are not sharing or holding a secret about that is weighing you down? What would that be like for you to be honest about it, to share it with someone.... In the episode I talk about how shame works on us to keep us from feeling like we can be more open. I also discuss things we need to stop feeling shame about in particular our dreams, our emotions, and most of all failure. I also talk about the things that can help us feel better about being more open and of course I share my own “Day 7” secret. For more on me go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist.
In this episode I will continue with the theme for suicide awareness month. I will be discussing 5 myths associated with suicide. Also what we can do to help prevent the possibility of suicide. This includes things like knowing the signs and talking about suicide in a proactive manner. I also give suggestions for ways we can help those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Finally, I talk about loss and how those who have lost loved ones to Suicide can heal. For more info on me go to my website www.thevegastherapist.com. You can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I welcome in my guests Ben Olsen, Dakota Lotus, and Sophie Pecora. They are all singer, song writers and actors! They are 3 teens who recently released a song written by Ben called Choose to Stay. The song is being promoted in connection with Suicide Prevention Month. The song wonderful, inspiring, and has a great message for those who may be contemplating ending their life. I talk to them about the song and what it means to them and also I get their perspective on the challenges teens face and how they handle those struggles themselves. They were great guests and have such an important message to share. The song Choi’s to Stay is available on ITunes or you can watch the video on YouTube. You can follow them on Instagram @benolsenmusic @dakotalotus @sophiapecora Also look for me on my website at www.thevegastherapist.com or you can follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
Had the pleasure of having Dr. Benjamin Hardy on the podcast. He is the author of Personality Isn’t Permanent. We had a great discussion about personality development, the impact of trauma on personality, rewriting your story, and the development of your future self. You won’t want to miss. We also discussed how meaning is shaped during emotional experiences which then gets tied to our identity. For more information about Dr. Hardy please visit his website where you can find his free 30 Day Future Self Program. You can also visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist I also have my Facebook Group page as well.
In this episode I welcome in my guest Pam Heggie. Pam is married, and is a mom to 7 children, she is a High Fitness Instructor and most importantly an advocate for mental health and therapy. Pam has experienced significant loss in her life, first with her brother, then she lost her twin boys who were born premature, and most recently she lost her dad to cancer. So to say she is an expert in grief and loss is an understatement! We talk about her journey through grief and what brought her to therapy. We also discuss her healing journey with treatments such as EMDR and ultimately what she has learned about herself through this process. She is an amazing person and has lots of great insight for everyone. You can follow her @pamelacollen on Instagram. For more on me, go to www.thevegastherapist.com and you can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or join my Facebook group page The Vegas Therapist Podcat - Ryan Wynder
In this episode I will tackle the topic of low grade depression. Earlier this week Michelle Obama acknowledged she had been dealing with what she called “low grade depression.” She also spoke about the things that she felt were contributing to her depression. I will define low grade depression or what I often refer to as situational depression and talk about ways we can cope. Treatment can be simple but like with any form of depression finding the motivation to do the things will help is often the challenge. Other factors contributing to depression are stress and loss. I also briefly touch on the topic of sex trafficking as a prelude to my upcoming episode and guest. For more info visit my website www.thevegastherapist.com you can also follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist or join my Facebook Group The Vegas Therapist Podcast - Ryan Wynder.
In this episode I will be discussing 3 components of Trauma. 1. The science of trauma, which includes understanding how the brain is impacted by trauma. In reference to the book The Body Keeps the Score areas impacted include the amygdala, the frontal lobe, and thalamus areas. The result of damage to the brain is we misinterpret dangerous situation, have a lack of control over emotions and impulses, and experience sensory overload! 2. Help in identifying patterns in our life that are connected to our trauma. We organize our life as if the trauma is continuing, thus creating patterns that are not good for our well being. I give various examples of what that looks like in real life. 3. I will discuss what treatment should look like and how you begin the process of healing. That includes modality such as EMDR as well as dealing with the shame that is attached to our trauma. In healing our trauma it is also important to have an “empathetic witness” and be taught to live in the present. This episode is packed full of great information in regards to understanding and transforming our trauma. You can find me at www.thevegastherapist.com or follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist, I also have a Facebook group The Vegas Therapist Podcast - Ryan Wynder
In this episode NHL Legend Theo Fleury joins the podcast. Theo’s resume includes a World Junior Championship, a Stanley Cup Champion, and he helped Canada win a Gold Medal at the 2002 Olympic Games. He is also an author, his books include “Playing with Fire” and “Conversations with Rattlesnakes”. He is a speaker and a relational trauma expert. You can find him at www.theofleury.life You can also follow him on Instagram @theofleury14. In this episode our focus is on trauma and how to heal our trauma. Theo experienced a great deal of trauma in his early life that led to addiction or as he calls it, emotional pain management! He felt trapped in his pain and did not feel safe in order to release it. His healing process has been amazing and now he helps others in their journey to heal. He is the real deal and has a genuine desire to help others. He is also very aware of the fact that healing is a life long journey and it’s something we have to be continually working on. I hope you enjoy all he has to offer! Check out my website at www.thevegastherapist.com or my Follow me on Instagram @thevegastherapist
In this episode I will be discussing the development of mental toughness with young athletes. My guest, former 1st round draft pick, Chad Hermansen weighs in on the topic. Chad has developed a program for young athletes called Mental Edge Training (www.mentaledge.training). You can also find him on YouTube as he interviews and number of coaches and players. We talk about his experiences in the Major leagues and how he dealt with the pressure of being a first round pick and the mental toughness/belief system that caused him some struggles. We discuss the development of young athletes today and of course we touch and the importance of being vulnerable and open when dealing with your performance struggles.
In this episode I will be taking on the coping strategy of avoidance. This age old strategy is problematic on so many levels. Avoidance is provoked when our emotions move beyond our comfort zone and our mind tells it’s the easy way to avoid pain! Long term avoidance compounds our difficulties and restricts our capacity to feel... www.thevegastherapist.com. Instagram - @thevegastherapist
In this episode myself and my guest, fellow therapist Tyler Rich, discuss the emotional obstacles men face. We try and debunk the Guy Code, where sharing our emotions is considered weak. We discuss the beliefs and stories we have about our emotions and why sharing them requires us to break down these stories.. Toxic shame is another hot topic we tackle, how men can identify shame and begin the process of working through it. We also discuss obstacles to communicating/connecting in relationships. This is a must listen for both men and women! Check out www.richerlifecounseling.com Also check out the Disney Therapist Podcast
In this episode I will be discussing why what we are feeling right now is most likely grief! Each of us have experienced a number of loses during this pandemic, whether it’s the loss of freedom, a job, a long awaited moment, or even an actual person. The losses are many and the grief is real. I will discuss David Kesslers book Finding Meaning and how we can move through grief in a more effective way. I will also share some of the do’s and dont’s for people that may be needing their grief witnessed. Instagram - @thevegastherapist. Website: thevegastherapist.com
In this episode I pay tribute to mothers! I talk about the psychology and importance of a mothers love. I also have my mom as a guest. She will share her story of raising 5 boys, her passion for running, and how she has battled cancer twice! Her determination and perseverance is an example to many. She has inspired many along her path of life and I hope you will enjoy what she has to share!
In this episode I interview Ayelet Shipley, podcast host of Get Out of Bed, Out of your Head. She is a therapist, a coach, and entrepreneur. She is also wise beyond her years. In the episode she will be sharing her struggle with anxiety as well as tips for those who may be struggling as well. We discuss overcoming feelings of brokenness, being honest in our feelings and many more wonderful things. You won’t want to miss. Www.anxietysecretstoolbox.com. Facebook group - Thrive Beyond Anxiety
People are starting to feel the stress of being locked away! In this episode I will be sharing a variety thoughts about feelings, coping, priorities, and a choice or decision we will have when the quarantine comes to an end. A short but sweet episode! @thevegastherapist
In this episode I will discuss the impact that social distancing can have on our mental health. We are vulnerable to mental health issues without the benefits social connection gives us. I will also provide things to look for in family members, in particular young people that may suggest they are having a more difficult time than we think. Those in the 16-24 age range are the most vulnerable age group to the psychological impact of social distancing. I provide 8 strategies to cope with social distance and help mitigate the psychological impact of what we are all experiencing!
In this episode I will be talking to Ava Devine, she has been in the adult entertainment industry for many years now. We will be discussing her story, how she grew up, challenges she faced in her upbringing and addictions she has conquered. She has worked 12 step programs which has helped her with healing and amends for hurt she dealt with in her life. She is a source of strength for many others in her life. Warning this episode does have language and sexual content that some may find offensive. Instagram @theava_devine Twitter @1avadevine
In this episode I will discuss the impact the virus is having on our mental health and well being. It is taking control from us and we are being forced into accepting a number of things that we are not wanting to accept. In spite of all this we have an opportunity for growth and to teach valuable life lessons to our kids and those around us. In essence we can decide what impact this will have on us emotionally.
In this episode my guest will discuss her experience of being at the 1 October Mass Shooting in Las Vegas. She details her resulting trauma and the process of healing from such a horrific situation. Anyone who has experienced trauma will benefit from hearing this story and seeing that there is hope for healing.
In this episode I will discuss a framework for moving through life and the obstacles we experience in a more effective way. Our ability to turn adversity into advantage is a defining skill we can all learn. The framework includes the following principles: Decide, Let Go, Doing the Time, Pivoting, and Being Open. Each of these can be applied to any situation or obstacle we face in order to make the most out of it! www.thevegastherapist.com. Instagram: @thevegastherapist. Facebook page: Ryan Wynder- The Vegas Therapist Podcast
In this episode my guests Collette Brunson and Amber Coppieters will share their experiences of being married to entrepreneurs. They will share about the ups the downs and how they keep their relationships strong! There is a number of life and relationship lessons to take away from these two amazing women. Follow Collette’s podcast: Sharing Her Journey. Instagram @sharingherjourney
In this episode Mark Perry will be sharing his compelling story where he and his wife endured her 3 year battle with colon cancer. This battle was characterized by his wife’s optimism and refusal to allow this disease to define her. Mark and Stacey turned their struggle into a mission that inspired so many people. Listen as Mark shares many life lessons and things we can do to live life to the fullest.
As individuals we have 6 Basic needs that we look to have met in our lives.. Certain needs mean more to us than others and can motivate us in a variety of ways. Improvement of our relationships can happen when we look to meet these needs for each other. If our needs are being met primarily from external sources are relationship may be in danger!
This episode is a summary of my conference I attended this last week in Nashville. Great speakers including Tony Robbins and Garrett White. Russell Brunson the cofounder Of Click Funnels gave us a challenge to overdeliver in 2020. I am passing that challenge on to you!
In this episode my guest couple will share their story of dealing with the husbands addiction to pornography. They will share the struggle of recovery and the hope for healing that came through a dedication to a program. They will discuss how they have rebuilt trust in area that is most difficult to do so..
In this episode my guest, fellow therapist Kara Urie-Lott gives couples four keys to improving their relationship. She outlines how she utilizes her Four C’s to help couples build a better relationship. Both of us share stories and insights about our work with couples and things that get in the way of implantation of the Four C’s. This episode does not disappoint!
In this episode I will discuss the victim mentality or mindset that impacts so many people. You will learn or understand how the victim mentality is created and what drives people to take on this mindset. You will also discover how victims are robbing themselves of a meaningful life! How to deal with a victim and how someone can get out of their victim mindset will be discussed.
In this episode my guest Dan will share his work with shame, dealing with a victim mindset and depression. He shares his insights and realizations along the path of therapy and life.. His open and raw discussion of the battle with shame is very enlightening.
In this episode I will discuss what the characteristics of a target are in abusive relationship. Also I will highlight the signs of an abuser, and the things they often do to control and manipulate their victims. If you are in an abusive relationship there is help out there and there is hope for happiness on the other side.
In this episode Allison will share her story of escape from a toxic relationship. She will talk about her magical thinking early on and how her determination to “make him happy” kept her in it. She discusses her journey of healing and finding happiness!
In this episode you will hear the story of three brothers that grew up with a father who was an addict. The episode will discuss the impact of addiction on a family as well as the brothers ability to bond together to cope with the challenges associated with this problem. They discuss overcoming shame associated with addiction and what they have done to better their lives.
In this episode I discuss shame and it’s destructive nature. Also how it shows up in our lives. Healing shame through sharing our story with others is how achieve freedom from this awful prison.
This episode will focus on our struggle with uncertainty. How uncertainty effects us negatively and what we can do to manage it better in our lives! I will share the number one factor that research has shown to help us with uncertainty in our lives.
In this episode we will discuss the challenges we face with being vulnerable in society. How fear drives our lack of vulnerability. Also the emphasis will be on Foreboding Joy, why we do it and what to do about it! Discussion will involve the work of Brene Brown.
This episode has no real theme. I just wanted to share some stories of a day in the life of a therapist! Enjoy!
In this episode I will discuss healing from relationships that have a partner who is an addict or abusive. Sorting through ones pain can be overwhelming. I will map out the process of healing that includes claiming your reality, relinquishing magical thinking and grieving the losses suffered in these relationships.
This is episode will discuss the dynamics of male depression. Symptoms and behaviors that are common in male depression.. Cultural norms that keep men stuck in their depression. Also a discussion about suicide and ultimately healing!
In this episode my guest Mark Jimenez talks about his achievement of running for 1000 consecutive days! What drove to this.. how running is connected to his mental health and the importance seeking help when we need to.
This is the second part of sex and relationships. This episode will focus on ways to improve our sexual relationships. Episode is based on questions emailed In after initial episode. As a part of the episode listeners will be asked to participate in a challenge!!
What is your story? What narrative do you tell about who you are and your life? Do you play the role of a victim, survivor, or hero?
In this episode I will discuss the benefits to taking about sex in our relationships. Research shows that simply talking about sex with our partners improves frequency and satisfaction. Also I will present 4 things to consider when communicating about sex in our relationships.
This episode will cover what we can do to cope with unexpected loss in our lives. This can be a very emotionally challenging process for those impacted. What to look for an expect from those grieving is also covered.
This episode deals with the issues of social anxiety. Social anxiety runs along a spectrum of minor to extreme! The episode offers some understanding behind social anxiety as well some tools to work through it.
What role do u feel like you play in life are you the person everyone counts on in moments of crisis or would you rather be in the role of a supporting cast?
In this episode I will discuss what we can do to strengthen our families by developing a strong family narrative.
This episode will focus on the porn side of the problem. How porn is impacting our young men both sexually and non sexually. Also what the ripple effect is on young men. Finally what we can do as parents to help!
Discuss the alarming pattens happening with young boys and men. What the impact of too much gaming can be and how it is creating long term problems in society as a whole. Part 1 focuses primarily on Video Games.
This episode you will get to hear about the challenges of having an addiction in Las Vegas. But also that recovery is possible here and of course anywhere you are at. There 3 Questions you must ask yourself in relation to your recovery that will learn about in this episode.
In this episode I will discuss how to be Happier In our lives. 3 elements to living a happier life are discussed.
How are family roles and dynamics influence who we are. The challenges of breaking away of from unhealthy roles and moving into a healthier way of living.
Discuss how Trauma has been more prevalent in our society. Avoidance of Trauma memories makes it worse and have more control in our lives.. Working through trauma gives us the opportunity to work through and reconstruct the memories in a more positive way
Facing certain realities in our relationships can be challenging. Sometimes we resort to suppressing or alternating our reality in order to accept or be in our relationship, this can be a dangerous coping strategy that is often met with more problems later on!
How social media is creating life comparison, this is connected to greater anxiety and depression in teens. I will also explore the connection to depression in men with social media.
I wanted to share with you my background and how I became the Vegas Therapist and what to expect in future episodes.