Safe Place For Men Podcast: Recent Episodes
Thomas Edward
Why do so many survivors long for connection yet pull away when people get close?
In this episode of Things Nobody Ever Told Male Survivors, Coach T explores one of the most confusing effects of childhood sexual trauma: the fear of intimacy.
Through the story of Miguel, a man engaged to his long-term partner, Daniel, we examine why healthy love can sometimes trigger anxiety, distance, and self-protection. You'll learn how childhood sexual abuse can blur the lines between love, vulnerability, trust, and danger, leaving survivors caught between wanting connection and fearing it at the same time.
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Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
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Why is asking for help so difficult?
In this episode of Things Nobody Ever Told Male Survivors, Coach T explores one of the most common yet overlooked effects of childhood sexual trauma: hyper-independence.
Through the story of Mark, a successful man who built his life around self-reliance, we examine how abuse can teach survivors that depending on others is risky, vulnerability is dangerous, and the safest person to trust is themselves.
You'll learn how childhood survival strategies often evolve into adult isolation, why accepting support can feel uncomfortable, and how the nervous system continues to favor self-reliance long after the original danger has passed.
If you've ever struggled to ask for help, felt uncomfortable depending on others, or believed you should be able to handle everything alone, this episode may help you understand why.
Because sometimes independence isn't freedom.
It's protection.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
Coach Thomas Edward
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Why are so many male survivors exhausted all the time?
In this first episode of Things Nobody Ever Told Male Survivors, Coach T explores one of the most common yet misunderstood symptoms of childhood sexual trauma: chronic exhaustion.
Through the story of David, a successful husband, father, and grandfather who can't understand why life feels so hard, we examine how childhood sexual abuse trains the nervous system to remain vigilant long after the danger has passed.
You'll learn why exhaustion is often more than stress, age, or a busy schedule. It may be the accumulated cost of years spent monitoring, anticipating, protecting, and surviving.
If you've ever wondered why vacations don't fully recharge you, why you feel drained by everyday life, or why you're constantly running on fumes despite doing everything "right," this episode may help you see your exhaustion in a completely different light.
Because sometimes exhaustion isn't the problem.
It's the clue.
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Carry Less. Live Free!
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- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
In “Faith Under Fire,” we explore what happens when childhood sexual abuse occurs inside religious settings or “godly homes,” where authority, obedience, and shame are spiritualized. This episode breaks down how trauma merges faith cues with threat cues, why prayer can trigger panic, and how meaning-making pathways in the brain get distorted by spiritual betrayal. You’ll learn a practical strategy to gently reframe unsafe beliefs, rebuild internal safety, and reclaim spirituality without forcing theology.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Why do male survivors destroy things when life starts going well?
Coach T moves into part two of self-sabotaging loop:
- The self-fulfilling prophecy identity loop
- How shame becomes destiny
- A second collapse arc for Shamus
- The moment childhood trauma connects to adult sabotage
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
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- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Why do male survivors destroy things when life starts going well?
In this episode, Coach T introduces the self-sabotage loop as a nervous system response — not a character flaw.
Through the story of Shamus — a composite of real survivor experiences — this episode walks you step-by-step through the internal loop that leads from stability… to collapse. From calm… to chaos. From progress… back to shame.
You’ll hear:
- Why self-sabotage doesn’t start with destruction — it starts with discomfort
- How childhood sexual trauma wires the body to fear safety, closeness, and success
- The steps self-sabotage loop most men don’t even realize they’re running
- How ADHD and trauma together can accelerate impulsive collapse
- What’s actually happening in the nervous system when someone says, “I just lost control”
This episode is essential listening for:
- Male survivors trying to understand their own patterns
- Practitioners, coaches, and professionals working with men in recovery
- Anyone who has ever asked, “Why do I keep doing this when things start going well?”
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep doing this?” — this is where it starts.
Because once you see the loop… you can interrupt it.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Something feels off… but you don’t know how to address it.
This segment explores the fear of secrecy, acting out, or disconnection—and how trauma, shame, and coping behaviors can show up in ways that are hard to name.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
So you're living with or interacting with a loved one who is a male survivor. You start noticing:
You start adjusting your tone, your timing… yourself. You're changing in the relationship. You inadvertently start to experience some of the same things.
This segment explores how unpredictability creates hyper-awareness in partners—and how slowly losing your natural way of being can happen without you even realizing it.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
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- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Living with a male survivor. Closeness shows up—and then disappears.
This segment breaks down the confusing moment where connection turns into distance, and why a male survivor’s nervous system can’t always stay in intimacy—even when he wants to.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
This episode unpacks the silent, explosive, misunderstood anger that male survivors carry for decades. Through Andrew’s story, we explore how childhood sexual abuse traps emotional energy, disrupts identity, and creates adult anger patterns that feel unpredictable and shame-inducing.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Jamal grew up believing isolation was strength. After being abused by a respected male figure and repeatedly misunderstood in therapy, trust became a threat rather than a human need. In this episode, we explore how childhood sexual abuse rewires the brain to equate closeness with danger—especially in Black men raised to be silent, self-sufficient, and unbreakable. We unpack why independence can be a trauma response, not maturity, and how healing begins with safe proximity, cultural resonance, and nervous system recalibration—not forced vulnerability.
This isn't a conversation about “opening up.”
It's about learning to exist around people without preparing for harm.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Darren spent decades sculpting a nearly perfect body, but no amount of muscle erased the shame imprinted during childhood sexual abuse. In this episode, we explore how trauma rewires the brain’s interoception system, how gym culture can reinforce unresolved wounds, and how healing requires inhabiting the body rather than managing it.
This is not a story of fitness.
It’s a story of finally coming home to your body.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
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Break My Abuse Code™
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Nighttime wasn’t rest for Diego—it was danger. As a child, he was sexually abused during overnight stays with family, and his body learned that darkness meant vulnerability. Decades later, he couldn’t sleep, woke with panic attacks, kept lights on, and stayed awake until sunrise “just in case.”
In this episode, we explore how nighttime trauma rewires the brain, suppresses REM sleep, reverses cortisol cycles, and creates lifelong insomnia. We walk through how Diego reclaimed safety in the dark—not by forcing sleep, but by teaching his nervous system that night no longer equals danger.
If nighttime is where your past returns, this episode is for you.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
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Every man carries a story about his father — what he gave, what he withheld, and what that silence taught us about manhood.
For male survivors of childhood sexual abuse, that silence often becomes a second trauma — the one that keeps the first wound from ever healing. What happens when the man you needed most couldn’t see you?
In this episode, Jack shares his journey from silence and performance to presence and healing.
Discover how childhood sexual abuse and father hunger intertwine — and how one man rewired the story of manhood by becoming the father he never had.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit send I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
For some male survivors, the mask isn’t anger or success — it’s immaturity. They stay in perpetual adolescence, avoiding responsibility, dodging commitment, and joking their way through life. To the outside world, they look carefree. But inside, they’re stuck.
In this episode, Antonne shares how childhood sexual abuse froze his development, leaving him a grown man still living like a teenager. He opens up about sabotaging relationships, struggling as a father, and fearing that he could never step into real manhood.
We explore how trauma wires the brain to chase novelty and escape, why responsibility feels like danger, and the coaching steps that helped Antonne move from avoidance to accountability.
This is the raw truth about Peter Pan Syndrome — and the reminder that growing up doesn’t mean losing joy, it means finding freedom.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Luis thought sex was survival — but in adulthood, performance left him anxious and disconnected. Discover how trauma rewires intimacy, and how he reclaimed the bedroom as a place of safety and connection.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, hit the send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Zeke looked like the picture of success — a corporate VP, sharp suit, life of the party. But behind the mask was a man carrying brutal abuse from his father, risky behaviors, and suicidal thoughts. To protect his career, he couldn’t risk traditional therapy. Instead, he turned to coaching — and discovered how to unmask without losing everything he’d built.
In this raw episode, we explore how high-functioning survivors hide in plain sight, the neuroscience behind perfectionism and risky escapes, and the steps Zeke took to break free from his double life.
f you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Grief feels dangerous for male survivors — but avoiding it comes at a cost. In this episode, Tariq’s story reveals how burying grief turns into anger and exhaustion, and how permission to grieve can unlock real freedom.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read every message — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Denial looks like safety, but it’s really a trap. William’s story shows how denial numbs the pain of childhood abuse — and how it quietly wrecks work, relationships, and health. Discover why the brain clings to denial, and one simple way to start breaking free.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Carry Less. Live Free!
- Life By Your Design
- YouTube Channel:
- BlueSky
- Substack
- BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Coach Thomas Edward
Break My Abuse Code™
Shame doesn’t just show up — it moves in, uninvited, the moment a boy is abused. In this first episode, Xander shares how silence and secrecy buried his voice, and how shame followed him into every corner of adult life: work, relationships, even his own body. We’ll break down where that shame really comes from, the neuroscience behind why it sticks, and one simple strategy you can use today to start pushing shame back out the door.
If you’ve ever felt like shame defines you, this episode will show you the truth: shame is not your identity.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send me an email. I read my messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
Survival mode doesn’t always look like fear — sometimes it looks like procrastination, perfectionism, or endless busyness. In this episode, Alejandro’s story reveals how the nervous system keeps survivors stuck, and how you can spot the signs in your own life.
If you have questions, or you just want to share what you’re dealing with, send email. I read my email messages — your thoughts and your story matter here.
With you in this,
Coach Thomas
Break My Abuse Code™ | www.BetterMaleSurvivors.com
In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Walking Time Bombs: Childhood Trauma in Adult Men, we explore how unresolved childhood abuse and emotional neglect can silently shape a man’s adult life—impacting his work, relationships, and sense of self. Through storytelling, expert insights, and real voices, we uncover how trauma often hides behind success, control, anger, and burnout. This episode invites men—and those who care about them—to begin seeing past the symptoms and into the deeper roots of emotional pain. Because healing starts with recognition, and survival isn’t the same as truly living.
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In this episode, Coach Thomas continues the journey of recovery, guiding you through the challenges of disclosure. Sharing your story can be terrifying—who do you tell? What fears hold you back? Tonight, we explore the barriers to disclosure and how opening up can be a powerful step toward healing. Tune in and discover another path to freedom.
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After taking a year-long sabbatical at the end of 2023 to focus on personal growth and reflection, Coach T is back and ready to dive into the hard conversations that matter most. In tonight’s much-anticipated live show, Coach T makes a slight shift in plans but delivers an impactful session on how the guilt from childhood sexual trauma keeps many survivors trapped in silence. Tune in as he shares a powerful word technique to help you start breaking free from guilt and begin reclaiming your voice. This is the start of a journey toward healing and transformation—don’t miss it!
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Today's podcast Coach T is interviewed by Katie. Katie Koestner – First woman in history to speak out nationally as the victim of “date” rape. Cover of TIME magazine at age 18. Subject of movies on HBO and Lifetime. Outspoken activist and entrepreneur.
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Coach T works through emotional resonance and losses due to sexual trauma.
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Coach T ends the year discussion disruption with sexual satisfaction challenges from the CSA.
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Today Coach Thomas discusses a prevalent issue that came up in several male survivor coaching sessions last week. You are not alone!
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It's that time of year when organizations as for interviews to help survivors as they struggle to make it through the holidays. Hope you enjoy the interview. Remember that until you take the steps to heal you stay in the same place.
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Coach Thomas discuss C-PTSD and workshop in Fiji on Sept 21-24, 2023.
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Coach T shares some raw live moments of his trip back home last week where the sexual abuse occurred, encounter with family perpetrator, and pain of protecting family member. It's real and raw. Safeplace digital magazine launch on Sept 2, planning workshop in Canada.
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Today's podcast: Some of us look grown up but aren't. We walk around with suits and briefcases and car keys and annuities. But inside, we are five. Ten. Twelve. Sixteen. This morning Coach T discusses arrested development where sexual trauma disrupted certain emotional development stages and we get stuck.
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This morning Coach T shares working with a client and turning chronic stress into optimal stress. He discusses a bit of neuroscience of riding the wave of adaptive stress to rest and recovery. He introduces Raj, the new digital magazine coming, and building more resources for male survivors.
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This morning Coach T pays a little tribute to two military survivors who have transitioned, rest in power. Men who were part of the Safe Place workshop and coaching crew recently passed. How sharing pieces of their story and working on the issues brought more freedom and sense of justice.
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This morning Coach T picks up on the second part of What It Takes! He shares signs and milestones to measure your healing from the trauma of the sexual abuse. He also talks about the the "Toddler's Credo" to help you as you work through issues. Also the possibility of doing live podcasts for insider members, where can call in and ask questions live.
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How long have you been procrastinating really working through the abuse issue? It Takes What I Takes to Heal: As a result of emotional trauma, we begin to feel numb, disconnected and lose our trust in others. It can take a lot of time for this pain to go away, and for us to feel safe again. If the trauma we’ve experienced is psychological, we may suffer from troubling memories, anxiety and emotions. Coach T starts with 5 steps to begin.
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Coach T asked by an insider about random sexual encounters he’s facing and what's possibly going on in the brain. Coach T will be heading over to the Insider’s Podcast to share on links between sexual addictions and our sexual abuse. Subscribe if you haven't. Also he shared more about the in-person July 7-9 workshop
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Without any caffeine, Coach T energetically discusses the next in-person workshop coming up in July 7-9, being interviewed by an actor for role portrayal as survivor, and the psychological aftermath of betrayal trauma that can follow years later after the abuse.
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Yes, it's Tuesday! This is A 1-off episode where Coach Thomas shares the reaction backlash to the previous episode. He shares the insider's topic of survivors unknowingly become the abuser during the healing process. for this Friday.
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Today's podcast coach Thomas receives email concerning a survivor who disclosed to his partner who loves him. However, the partner just cannot support him on this journey at this level any longer. He gives a few tips on disclosure and dealing with this situation.
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Happy New Year. This session Coach T shares a recent client session where the survivor suffered the cognitive dissonance of having empathy and attachment to the individual who sexually abused him. He shares 3 things to consider in experiencing challenging process.
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In his last podcast for 2021, Coach Thomas shares common survivor issues he's experienced on his road trip the past month in hypnotherapy sessions with clients. They experience major phenomenal breakthroughs, but similar to overcoming physical maladies, feel a bit worse after being on cloud nine.
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Coach Thomas awakes early this morning to share a few things on his mind for survivors in making it through the holidays.
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Coach T shares the next stages and Patreon-like platform where the program is moving. He shares how Insiders will be for those survivors that are now ready to get their feet wet. He will not totally disappear from this podcast platform, and occasionally drop in from time to time.
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Coach T needs a chill pill this morning. He returned from the conference on fire. He shares meeting with survivors in Dallas, TX and the almost mini-workshop he did on the fly. Also the Be Seen, Be Heard Workshop he's going to do November 18-20, 2021 in Sacramento, limited to 8 participants who really want to be there to work some abuse challenges. Contact him and register. #safeplaceformen www.safeplaceformen.com
Coach T starts with a hectic morning, his Hollywood survivor guest is no show, a family member experiencing COVID on a ventilator, and a survivor stressed because he cannot remember all the details of the childhood sexual abuse. Coach T does a quick refresher on fragmented memory. He invites survivors in the Dallas, TX area to meet Oct. 1-3 during his speaking engagement.
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This morning Coach T shares a letter from the partner of his client. The partner shares the devastating havoc the porn and sexual abuse created in their relationship. Coach T shares the strategies he used to get results with this client where others could not. The next cohort for the program starts next week. www.safeplaceformen.com/program
Coach T us up with his latest exploits and the launching of Safe Corner on Instagram. Smoke from the surrounding fires. How the online coaching course is accelerating recovery time. Then he drops a little knowledge on understanding your inner critic. Find the link to the video for Safe Corner on his instagram page. Cheers! https://www.instagram.com/safeplaceformen/
Thomas talks about the next online course & coaching program being launched. He shares his 20 recovery intentions. He encourages all survivors working through issues to have goals via intentions so they can determine if they are actually growing in the direction they desire.
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After walking the dog this morning, Thomas shares a coaching session where the survivors belief in being positive were actually hindering and prolonging his recover. Too much of a good thing!
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This morning Thomas discusses a coaching session from last night that had him frustrated for a bit as he worked with a survivor stuck in learned helplessness state. Listen to the outcome and takeaways.
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Thomas is all over the place with excitement as he gets ready for the next course and coaching on April 19th. He talks about several coaching sessions this week on language to define, feeling dirty, voices of the abuser, mental health labels, and trauma disconnecting survivors from self.
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Happy morning! Thomas shares an uplifting report from survivor Jeremy concerning the ecourse material and gives Jeremy a shout out of a few more points on being resilient and continuing to do the work.
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Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing.
Thomas shares as he chops it up with a group, WITMYS.com A group that focuses on overcoming the obstacles in life. He is asked the question, "What I'd Tell My Younger Self?" It's a simple candid conversation between three guys trying to put more positivity into the world of dealing with trauma and healing.
Thomas candidly shares a recent moment. He was asked by a national organization to participant in a PSA. When he could not contribute, hear the insight he learned about his childhood sexual abuse. When does it end?
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Thomas uncovers understanding the power of limiting beliefs by sharing the story of a Hollywood stuntman he coached, who feared walking into certain rooms in his home. He drops some knowledge from neuroscience on why limiting beliefs are so entrenched and powerful.
Thomas introduces via a life story about the developmental stages that many survivors are locked or arrested in CPTSD. He lists the developmental stages asking survivors to examine their current lives. He talks about a Masterclass he's putting together for this year.
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Thomas is asked the question, "Why do you talk so much about neuroscience in your coaching of male survivors?" Thomas breaks down his reasons and shares 4 crucial neuroscience points that may help male survivors or anybody work through issues. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Thomas shares coaching strategies to achieve progress in 2021. He discusses reenactment trauma and solutions while celebrating 2021 as his 20th year in working with male survivors. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Big Thank You 30 Days Our Story Project. Thomas drops his last bit of knowledge for 2020. The new year workshop, male gender socialization and abuse, and a plea to make that change. He's already working on another big project for 2021.
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Coach Thomas discussed the No. 2 issue that often keep male survivors from thriving, the inner critical voice. He shares a little psych 101 to explain getting stuck and provides a few strategies to use to overcome. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Coach Thomas drops some knowledge on thriving and starting to rebuild trust after the sexual abuse. If you're caught in the DEFCON high trust wall, he provides a few insights to navigate. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Thomas is asked to discuss working with male survivors whose sexual trauma and recovery has religious or spiritual undertones. Shout out to the Philippines podcast listeners growing numbers. www.safeplacemen.com
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Thomas celebrates the success of another survivor becoming a thriver. He shares pieces of the course this new thriver reported helped him most the "Message of emotions". www.safeplaceformen.com
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Spouse of male survivor uttered the words, "Shouldn't you be over that by now!" Thomas discusses a few common misconceptions about trauma to help those who love male survivors to better understand and cope with many of the issues that come with the territory. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Continuing the "Help Me Understand" series, Thomas is asked about porn addictions, and help to understand male survivors who are abused by females. He discusses his own experience and stigma male survivors might live with being abused by female perpetrators. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Asked the question from a listener, Thomas candidly talks to those spouses, partners, family, significant others who love and are part of a male survivor's life, but might be confused or can't understand some of the issues they face. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Thomas shares how he had to flex his emotional resilience muscle this weekend to confront some issues. He discusses steps that can help survivors of sexual abuse become more resilient. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Sometimes being quarantine brings out good and bad in others. Thomas discusses how our past sexual abuse history and trauma might make us more susceptible to unconscious patterns of building relationships with abusive individuals or groups. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Extra time on your hands? Are living close quarters starting to reveal dysfunctional habits you've avoided addressing? Thomas follows-up after the coronavirus "How You Doing?" call from last night. He provides a little advice for some issues survivors are experiencing. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Thomas discusses takeaways from a coaching session where the sexually abused survivor's family re-victimized and re-traumatized him. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Is people pleasing or compliance patterns manifesting from your sexual abuse history? They used to for Thomas and a client he worked with this week. Learn about "kaput power" and one coaching technique Thomas used to help this week's male survivor. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Part 2 -Thomas shares a blast from the past. Two of the youngest guys Thomas has coached share their experience how the sexual abuse affected their lives and the transformational workshop retreat. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Thomas and Mike share a candid, powerfully touching moment as they discuss the transformation that has occurred for Mike going through the Stage 4 New Imprint coaching program. Where do you want to be on your journey months from now? www.safeplaceformen.com
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Thomas shares a blast from the past. Two of the youngest guys Thomas has coached share their experience of the transformational workshop retreat. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Special SHOUT OUT! to my peps on this valentine's day. Hopefully a few words just let you know you are cared about. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Thomas candidly dives into a few reasons male survivors might be reluctant to disclose the sexual abuse. He opens up and shares a rare detail about his own sexual abuse and disclosure. www.safeplaceformen.com
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Healing in community. Two strangers meet. Thomas met Dave after speaking at the Courage Conference in Florida in October 2019. They asked each other one question "What does it look like for us to be a part of each others life and supporting each other?" It starts here. So, Dave shares part of the insights gained from his journey down the sexual abuse path.
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Thomas shares his vision of 19 million male survivors, stepping into their greatness and being who they were meant to be, and doing the work to get to that place. www.safeplaceformen.com
Thomas shares two recent coaching sessions with high-functioning survivors. One survivor deals with the aftermath by acting out and repeating abusive behaviors toward family and work teams. The other via coaching phenomenally changes his trajectory and redefines what success look like. www.safeplaceformen.com
Thomas talks about his coaching sessions over the holidays for survivors attempting to determine if they are in toxic families. www.safeplaceformen.com