Inthemidstofher: Recent Episodes
Toyin Adekola
In this episode, I answer a Dear Inthe question from a woman who says her spiritual father is sabotaging her relationship because he is in love with her.
Once upon a time, my hubby's biggest complaints about me was that I was rarely "in the present" with him. In this episode, I explain what this means and share how I learned to "Mary my Martha-ness" and deal with this common relationship killer.
In this episode, I discuss the gift of forgetting and why it is important to leave some relationships in the past.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe Question about my top tips for single women looking forward to starting a relationship.
In this episode, I come clean about the fallacy that I have a perfect marriage and why I believe perfect marriage do not exist.
In this episode I answer a #DearInthe Question from a lady scared God might force her to marry someone she does not want.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a woman in love with a man she knows she shouldn't be with. If she leaves him, how does she know she'll ever find a love like his?
In this episode, sharing from my own personal experience, I discuss a common mistake married women make of turning their husbands into idols.This is especially common if their husbands are "good men".
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a woman curious to know if dating a man 3 years her junior was taboo.
In this episode, I continue our discussion on what sex is and is not, within the Christian relationship.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a young lady afraid of committing to her boyfriend.
In this episode, I discuss popular misconceptions about the role sex plays in the Christian relationship.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a woman interested in sexual abstinence but, concerned it might destroy her relationship.
Have you ever wondered if you're in an actual relationship or a "situationship"? Have you ever wondered if the guy your dating sees the same future your planning for? In this episode, I discuss what a call the "Who Are You and What Are We Doing" conversation. This is a discussion that will help both parties define the relationship and avoid grey areas that cause heartache.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a girl who is worried that her boyfriend of three years is not showing signs of proposing any time soon. Can she make him propose? Should she stay or should she leave?
Have you guys heard of the 80/20 rule?
No? Let's talk about it. The 80/20 rule supposedly explains why some people cheat and leave very good partners for "not so good" ones. Understanding this rule has been transformative in helping me evaluate my motives and I believe it will help you guys as well.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a young lady in a relationship with a man her parents disapprove of. Should she stay or leave?
In this episode, I discuss the stigma attached to girls who've never been in relationships before and why this status is not necessarily a bad one.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a male reader who's fallen in love with a "Catholic girl" but is concerned about the difference in their beliefs.
In this episode, I discuss a revelation that changed my marriage; the fact that my husband does not need my love. Listen in to find out what husbands need more than love.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a woman who believes her husband is cheating on her. She is done with the marriage but needs clarity on leaving her marriage behind.
In this episode, I invite you into my marriage and discuss lessons I've learned so far and share personal tips that have helped my marriage bloom.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a woman who believes she's found the man of her dreams. The only problem is, he avoids her every chance he gets. What should she do?
What would you do if you found yourself attracted to someone who wasn't your husband? I've been there and in this episode, I share tips to dealing with the battlefield of attraction.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe Q from a woman who wants a second chance at a love lost.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a female reader who thinks sexual abstinence is an unrealistic option. Can one truly expect to be in love and not have sex?
Does the word "submission" make you cringe? With the way the word has been manipulated and used as a tool against women, I don't blame you. A large part of knowing what biblical submission is, comes from understanding what it is NOT. In this episode, I break down 5 popular myths about submission in marriage.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe Q from a woman concerned over the fact that she earns more money than her boyfriend. Her friends warn her this is a red flag, but is this true?
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe Q from a female reader who thinks she may not be good enough to attract a Christian guy.
In this episode, I share 5 new year resolutions all single Christian women should adopt.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a male follower who questions if women wearing pants is a sin.
Ps... I always knew this day was coming :-)
In this episode, I discuss the concept of soulmates and give my opinion on wether they truly exist.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a young lady insecure about the fact that she's never been in a relationship and tired of playing the "waiting game".
In this episode I discuss the difficulties some women have with accepting chivalry and allowing "men to be men". I also share my personal struggles with letting my husband do hard things - which includes taking care of me.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a woman who questions wether oral sex is a sin against God.
In this episode, I share a communication and relationship evaluation technique the hubster and I use to strengthen our marriage.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a self proclaimed "Good Guy", who wonders how he'll know if a girl loves him for him or because he is a "safe option".
In this episode, I encourage singles to understand that there is a cost to every season in life - even the married one.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a lady who after moving to another country for her boyfriend, finds out that he is not sure he still wants her.
In this episode, I talk about the long-held cultural myth that good women must be prepared to "suffer" in relationships.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a male listener who asked a lady out and is yet to receive an answer. He writes in to ask what is a reasonable amount of time to wait for a response before moving on.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question from a female listener who is frustrated by the fact that her boyfriend is not ready for marriage. Should she leave him?
In this episode, I discuss the uniqueness of every relationship and encourage couples to find what works for them,regardless of what culture or society might say.
In this episode, I answer a "Dear Inthe" question from a young lady eager to win her future MIL's approval and affection.
Affairs can be as emotional as they are physical. In this podcast episode I discuss emotional affairs, explaining what they are and sharing tips on how to safeguard your relationships from them.
In this episode, I answer a "Dear Inthe" question about dealing with men who pay mind games.
In this podcast episode, I offer 5 steps by which a single woman can celebrate singleness while waiting for marriage.
In this episode, I answer a "Dear Inthe" question from a reader whose long term boyfriend is fed up with their sexual abstinence and wants her to make a choice; he stays and they have sex or she holds on to her abstinence and he leaves. What is a girl to do?
In this episode, I discuss the phenomenon of soul ties and share biblical tips on preventing, recognizing and breaking them.
In this episode, I answer a "Dear Inthe..." question from a woman who keeps having dreams of the same man. What could these dreams possibly mean?
In this episode, I use the story of Ruth to show how a single woman can actively show her interest in a man without taking the responsibility of initiation away from him.
In this episode, I answer a Dear Inthe... question from a reader who finds herself falling for a married man. Could this really be God's choice for her?
In this episode, I discuss our cultural obsession with pregnancy and the negative aspects of pressuring women on their choices of if and when to have kids.
In this episode, I discuss the rampant acts of rape and molestation in the church and present 5 questions we need to stop asking victims.
In this episode, I answer a #DearInthe question on the bible's perspective on masturbation.