Truly Unruly with Marcus & Jessica Trufant: Recent Episodes
Marcus Trufant
Marcus Trufant, a former NFL star, and his wife Jessica Trufant present an unfiltered, funny, and thoughtful take on marriage, parenting, and relationships. With a solid 14 years of marriage, the young parents of 5 kids deliver a fresh perspective on the challenges, pitfalls, and joys of marriage and parenthood. Through love and laughter, this husband and wife duo share hilarious and entertaining stories while giving the best advice to married couples, newlyweds, new parents, new moms, girl dads, busy moms, working parents, and everyone in between. Follow us on Instagram: @marcus_trufant @fabvmom
Marcus and Jess unpack a listener's email about a wife who did a 180 after saying "I do." Is it perimenopause or unspoken resentment? The crew gets into why marriage is a daily choice, how long couples should tolerate walking on eggshells, and what it really means to commit.
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A 23andMe test turns one listener's world upside down — she discovers the man who raised her isn't her biological father. Marcus and Jessica unpack the betrayal, the secrets moms keep, and what it really means to "close the loop." Plus: a wild detour into divorce history, second families, and growing up Catholic with a one-way ticket to hell.
Truly Unruly with Marcus & Jessica Trufant — real talk, unfiltered.
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Marcus and Jessica respond to a listener whose high-earning wife was laid off — and blew through her entire severance without changing her spending habits. Is this a shopping addiction? A power struggle? Or the end of the marriage? The crew breaks down financial transparency, accountability in relationships, and why money is one of the top reasons couples divorce.
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A woman writes in saying her future mother-in-law has taken over her wedding — picking venues, guest lists, and colors — while her fiancé just freezes up. On top of that, his sister doesn't like her for no reason. Marcus and Jessica break it all down: why the son is really to blame, how to set boundaries without blowing things up, and what happens when parents can't let go of their kids. The talk goes deep into controlling parents, family loyalty, and knowing your place.
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This week, Marcus and Jessica dive into a listener email from a remarried dad whose ex-wife can't stand his new wife — despite her being an incredibly loving stepmother to the kids. What started as cold looks and sarcastic comments has escalated to near-brawls at their daughter's high school graduation. They break down the jealousy, unhealed trauma, and co-parenting chaos behind it all, and ask the real question: is she upset about the new wife, or just upset that he moved on and she hasn't?
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Can the wrong relationship actually hurt your body? Marcus and Jessica talk about new research showing that toxic people — partners, friends, even family — put your body under constant stress. When you never feel safe around someone, it messes with your sleep, skin, and energy. They also get into why cutting people off can make you feel better fast, how sharing too much drains you, and why your body sends warning signs before your brain does. Listen to your body — it never lies.
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Over the last three years, Jessica has gone through what she describes as more than a spiritual awakening — a full excavation of who she is at her core. She talks candidly about the unraveling, the work she put in on herself, and the moment things finally clicked into place. The clarity she gained didn't just change how she sees the world — it changed how she moves through it.
That shift has been most profound in her role as a mother. Jessica opens up about how her new mental clarity has made her a more present, intentional parent. She's sharper, more grounded, and now parents with purpose instead of autopilot — actively breaking generational cycles so her children can grow into their own identities without the weight she carried. She's not just raising kids; she's guiding them with eyes wide open.
The conversation also gets into the loneliness of real clarity, shifting relationships, the rebalancing of her bond with her mother, and a deep dive into how being raised Black and Catholic in Seattle shaped their sense of self in ways most people can't fully grasp.
This episode is honest, layered, and deeply human.
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Marcus and Jessica break down a viral relationship advice post that's sparking heated debates online. A therapist claims women need to accept "tradeoffs" when dating—want a successful man? Expect long hours. Want ambition? Accept tunnel vision. But is this advice actually helpful, or just basic clickbait?
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Marcus and Jessica tackle the controversial claim that Gen Z is the first generation to score lower on IQ tests than millennials. Are they really less intelligent, or are we measuring the wrong things?
We break down Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath's research on cognitive decline and screen time, debate whether Gen Z is overconfident or just differently skilled, and explore how AI is reshaping the job market. Spoiler: trades are about to thrive while white-collar jobs vanish.
Plus, we discuss the real culprits behind declining literacy—hint: it's not the kids' fault.
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In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica dive into a viral post about "what men actually want women to bring to the table" – and let's just say, we have THOUGHTS.
We break down why generic relationship advice often misses the mark, discuss the dangers of social media "playbooks," and explore what a real partnership actually looks like beyond surface-level expectations. From emotional maturity to supporting your partner's vision, we challenge the basic narratives that dominate relationship discourse online.
This conversation gets real about gender roles, conditioning, authenticity, and why people are so desperate for quick answers in our modern world. Plus, we touch on America's addiction to distraction, the dollar, and why we're all just trying to survive out here.
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In this episode, we dive deep into what we love (and don't love) about 18 years of marriage. From vulnerability and commitment to the reality that marriage isn't always a fairytale, we keep it 100% real.
We also explore a Morgan Stanley study predicting that by 2030, nearly half of US women ages 25-44 will be single and child-free. Is this progress or a challenge to tradition? We discuss why younger generations are making different choices, the origins of marriage as an institution, and why personal choice should always come first.
Plus: arranged marriages, the pressure to conform, and why it's okay to "swipe till you die" if that's your choice. Marriage isn't for everyone—and that's perfectly fine.
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In this episode, we dive deep into a controversial topic that sparked some heated debate between us: "Signs A Woman Couldn't Keep A Good Man If She Had One."
What We Discuss:
- Confusing disrespect with honesty and communication styles
- Double standards in relationships and how we speak to our partners
- The difference between stability and drama in relationships
- Using vulnerability as a weapon during arguments
- Self-sabotage and why some people are uncomfortable with healthy relationships
- The importance of accountability and self-awareness
- Breaking generational patterns and healing from past trauma
- Learning to love yourself before loving someone else
Key Takeaways:
This isn't just about women or men—it's about recognizing toxic patterns that prevent us from maintaining healthy relationships. We explore how childhood experiences, modeling behavior, and unhealed trauma can create cycles that sabotage good relationships. The conversation gets real about the hard work required to change patterns, the fear of vulnerability, and why being alone with yourself is essential before being with someone else.
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In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica reflect on aging and celebrate Marcus's milestone birthday, turning 45. They discuss how fashion, technology, and social media shape our lives and relationships across generations. Join the conversation for honest takes, laughs, and real talk about growing older and staying true to yourself.
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In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica dive into the shifting attitudes of Gen Z and Gen Alpha toward marriage, relationships, and growing up in a tech-driven world. From viral news clips to personal parenting stories, the crew unpacks why today’s teens are less interested in tying the knot, how technology and COVID have changed social lives, and what the future of love and family might look like—including the rise of AI relationships!
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Ever wondered why some women find taken men more attractive? In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica dive into a fascinating study on attraction psychology, exploring why women might be drawn to men who are already in relationships. They unpack the science, share personal stories, and debate the roles of stability, competition, and social proof in modern dating.
From the impact of family dynamics to the evolution of side pieces, this candid conversation covers it all—with plenty of laughs and real talk along the way. Whether you agree or disagree, you’ll find something to think about!
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In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica Truant dive into the surprising topic of whether couples should sleep in separate rooms. Inspired by a Japanese study showing lower divorce rates among couples who sleep in separate rooms. They debate Western romantic norms, the impact of sleep quality on relationships, and the cultural pressures that shape our expectations of marriage. With humor and honesty, they share personal stories, challenge societal myths, and explore how prioritizing rest and individuality might actually strengthen a partnership. Tune in for a lively, insightful conversation that might change the way you think about love, sleep, and what it means to be truly connected.
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In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica discuss a survey claiming that couples who communicate everything divorce three times faster than those who strategically keep some things to themselves. They delve into the dynamics of honesty, oversharing, and strategic communication in relationships. They examine the impact of both transparency and discretion on long-term marital success, touching on topics such as personal experiences, societal expectations, and the evolving landscape of male vulnerability and mental health. They explore whether keeping some secrets might actually be essential for a healthy relationship.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a viral post of a man who went on a solo vacation because his girlfriend couldn’t afford it. Was he in the wrong for leaving her behind? Check out this latest episode of TrulyUnruly.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss the emotional journey of sending their oldest daughter off to college, reflecting on their roles as parents and the transitions that come with it. They share the challenges and joys of parenting, the evolution of their identities as their kids grow older, and the unique perspectives of millennial parents. The conversation also touches on fashion choices and societal expectations as they navigate aging and self-expression. Ultimately, the episode highlights the importance of embracing change and the beauty of personal growth.
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In this episode of Truly Unruly, hosts Marcus and Jessica have a lively discussion about relationships, attraction, and the complexities of human interaction. They explore the idea of 'reckless eyeballing' and its implications in romantic relationships, the dynamics of attraction, and how ego plays a role in perceptions of loyalty and commitment. The conversation also touches on the perspectives of infidelity and the controversial statements made by Paul Pierce regarding his marriage.
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A woman goes viral for saying that she divorced her husband because she didn’t agree to stay if he went broke. Marcus and Jessica delve into this story to discuss what some refer to as the “transactional marriage.” Do you think she’s wrong for leaving him?
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a viral video of a woman who is upset that her ex won't buy shoes for all her kids. She's upset that her son came home with new shoes but none for the other kids. Does she have a right to feel this way? Also, we touch on the ever-so-controversial P. Diddy trial.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a guy traveling outside the United States for work. He notices the stark differences between dating American women and foreign women. He claims that American women are more surface-level compared to their foreign counterparts. Do you agree? Listen now for this intriguing conversation.
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The age-old question; is age nothing but a number? This week Marcus and Jessica discuss that timeless question. Is it ok to date someone half your age? Should it be normalized? Or is someone older and wiser taking advantage of someone young and naive? Marcus and Jessica answer all those questions on this episode of Truly Unruly.
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Are diets racist, too? That’s what some say in a new viral video making its way around the Internet. Marcus and Jessica dive in on the controversial video. Plus, the couple shares their thoughts on celebrating 17 years of Marriage.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a topic that has gone viral! Ayesha Curry, the wife of NBA Star Steph Curry, said she puts her husband before her kids. The Trufants discuss Ayesha’s comments and give their perspective in this week's episode.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica tackle the viral topic sweeping the internet: how social media creates unrealistic relationship expectations. This is a good one you don't want to miss out on. Tune in now!
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Can you fall in love with someone else while in a good relationship? Surprisingly enough this is a very common question! Marcus and Jessica dive deep into this topic and give their perspective. Marcus believes this is a real thing while Jess on the other hand thinks it’s nonsense. Tune in now!
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It's been a while but the Trufants are back! In this episode, they give a life update on everything with the family. Also, they share the news about their oldest daughter going to college. Do you think Marcus and Jessica are ready for the oldest to leave the nest? Listen in now!
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss how they raise their kids not to be people pleasers. Jessica talks about her journey and how she had to break her bad habit of being a people pleaser as an adult.
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Do you believe what your partner says about their ex? Did they tell you what part they took in the breakup? In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a viral video of Martha Stewart (yes, you read that correctly) about only hearing one side of the story regarding cheating.
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What would you do if you thought the house you were renting was owned and paid off by your boyfriend, but you have been paying rent the entire time? A mother confronts her son’s girlfriend’s dad for putting his hands on her son. Guess what the dad caught the son in bed with his daughter! Check out this latest episode of Truly Unruly.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica answer a listener’s question about dealing with her kids' father. She says she wishes he showed her the same respect he shows his girlfriend. Tune in now for the whole conversation!
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica respond to a messy email from a listener. She caught her man cheating and in an act of anger, she went out and cheated on him. Now she wants to know if their relationship can survive. This is a wild conversation you don’t want to miss out on!
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In this episode, a listener finds herself at a crossroads. After 12 years with her boyfriend, including a five-year stint he spent in prison, she's now facing immense pressure from her family to end the relationship. Her family doubts he’s truly changed and fears she’s making a huge mistake by staying with him. Torn between her love for her boyfriend and her family's unwavering disapproval.
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In this episode, a 30-year-old woman shares her dating experiences and thoughts. Marcus and Jessica explore why many women struggle to meet the right person. Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship, this episode has something for you.
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A new study says that 50% of women have a "backup man" if their marriage fails.
Marcus believes the study is very eye-opening. While on the other hand, Jessica thinks the study is a reach and far from the truth. Dive into this new episode of Truly Unruly.
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The Trufants receive an email from a mom whose daughter is dealing with her first breakup. She needs advice on how to help her daughter get through this hard time. The Trufants give her advice and share their own stories of heartbreak.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss the importance of choosing the right partner to have kids with. But it’s not as easy as it sounds. Tune in now for this interesting discussion.
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We asked the internet what the most disrespectful thing they’ve done in their relationship is. The responses are off the hook! Tune in now to hear all the drama!
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Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a listener who is suspicious about her boyfriend and his cell phone. She says he keeps his phone face down and when she asked to use it once he awkwardly stood next to her while she used it. Should she be concerned?
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Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a listener who believes her man is cheating on her, while he plays sports overseas. She looks to Jessica for advice since she is the wife of a former NFL player.
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This week the Trufants answer an email from a listener who says she just found out her man has been paying another woman's rent. To make matters worse, she knows who the woman is and is beyond furious!
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a wild situation where a woman discovers her husband's work wife at a company barbecue. The work wife makes inappropriate comments and gestures towards the husband, upsetting the wife.
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Marcus and Jessica celebrate their daughter Karmen's high school graduation in this episode. They reflect on their journey as a family, from the early days to this significant milestone. The couple also discuss an email from a listener struggling with her rude mother-in-law.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica Trufant discuss a listener's dilemma of their 13-year-old daughter walking in on them during intimacy. They share their thoughts on the situation, debating whether embarrassment is justified and offering advice on how to approach the awkward encounter.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a hilarious viral story about a husband calling his wife a POS for eating their 8-year-old's dinner. They debate whether the husband was wrong or not in his reaction.
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In this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica discuss a viral story about a family on vacation in Miami, where a woman in a bikini interrupted a father and son building a sandcastle, and the wife is upset about it. She thinks the woman was being too flirty. Tune in for the whole story it's a good one!
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica Trufant discuss an email from a woman who discovered she had an STI despite being married and faithful. The woman's husband had been cheating on her with a side chick who didn't show symptoms, leading to a shocking revelation.
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In this episode Marcus and Jessica discuss an email from a listener whose Fiancé has developed feelings for a friend and proposed an open relationship, causing tension.
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On this episode the Trufants are joined by special guests Dr. Carol Ann Trotman and Dr. Kia James from Relationship Boosters. These licensed therapists help individuals and couples improve communication, intimacy, and connection to boost their sex life. With 18 years of experience, they have successfully guided thousands to healthier relationships by breaking toxic communication patterns and implementing strategies for a better quality of life.
For more information on Dr. Carol Ann and Dr. Kia visit their website here.
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On this episode of Truly Unruly, Marcus and Jessica discuss an email from a woman concerned about her boyfriend traveling on vacation to the city where his ex lives. She noticed a few red flags lately and wants to know if she’s overthinking.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a listener email from a white guy dating a black woman who is nervous about meeting her family for the first time. He’s afraid her family may not accept their relationship. Marcus and Jessica offer tips on how to prepare for the big introduction.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica dive into an email from a listener struggling with distractions during intimacy with his wife. Despite a healthy sex life, he finds himself mentally drifting off during intimate moments, causing concern for both himself and his wife.
In this episode, a listener opens up about a rough start to her year after her ex-fiancé of five years called off their wedding and left her for someone she claims is “younger and prettier.” Marcus and Jessica then dive into self-worth and starting over after heartbreak.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss the reasons why some black individuals may not pursue certain interests or activities that are perceived as traditionally "white." They explore the idea of certain hobbies associated with specific racial groups and how societal perceptions can impact a person's choices.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss the question that has been circulating online: Should a man who is dating a single mother be responsible for paying for childcare when going out with her?
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss the topic of black men with money dating outside of their race. They share an Instagram clip from a podcast that sparked the conversation and discuss potential reasons behind this, including geographical factors and social circles.
Marcus and Jessica discuss a viral video about a dad's parenting style in this episode. The dad believes in forcing his child to do things he doesn't want to do in order to develop discipline and healthy habits. Marcus and Jessica share their thoughts on this approach and delve into their own experiences with being forced to do things as children.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica dive into the topic of emotions, specifically focusing on male emotions. They explore why women want to see some level of emotion from men, even if it may not be as intense as their own.
Marcus and Jessica share their holiday vacation experience, including family bonding and an unexpected encounter with jellyfish in Jamaica. A friend reaches out to Kel for advice with a shocking story that sounds straight out of a drama film.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica Trufant address a listener's email about her boyfriend ending their 24-year relationship. The listener suspects that her boyfriend is going through a midlife crisis. They discuss the impact on their children, ages 8 to 20, and the financial implications of selling their recently built house.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica are joined by special guest Alli Williams, founder and CEO of FinanciALLI Focus. They discuss relationships and money, particularly during the holiday when people spend a lot. Allie, who has helped many individuals with their finances, shares insights on creating a flexible financial plan and feeling confident in managing money.
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In this episode, Marcus and Jessica welcome Sex Therapist Nikquan Lewis. She is the founder of Intimate Connections in Katy, Texas. Nikquan is a licensed marriage and family therapist, licensed professional counselor, and relationship and sex therapist. They dive into questions about relationships, marriage, and the importance of intimacy in maintaining a strong connection. Listen now for a candid conversation about love, relationships, and everything in between.
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Marcus and Jessica tackle a listener's question about how to handle kids who are always asking for things, even after being told no. They share their own experience with their children's constant asking and suggest giving the kids tasks or chores to do in order to teach them the value of earning what they want. They also hilariously admit that they often feel overwhelmed and "walked on" by their own children.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica Trufant discuss a viral list of places where women refuse to go on a first date. They question the pressure on men to take women to expensive places and argue that it's unnecessary and unfair.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica get an email from a woman who is pregnant and feeling unworthy of marriage because her partner of 10 years has not proposed to her. They discuss the possible reasons behind her man's hesitation, including any traumas he may have experienced in the past.
In this episode, @marcus_trufant and @jessica_trufant discuss "eggshell parenting" and share their thoughts on what it means to be one. They question the validity of a trending TikTok term and argue that parenting is hard for everyone.
In this episode, @marcus_trufant and @jessica_trufant discuss a listener's concern about her children growing up privileged and potentially becoming ungrateful. They emphasize the importance of communication, sharing stories of hardship, and teaching gratitude to help children understand and appreciate their privileged upbringing.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a listener seeking advice regarding her 16-year-old daughter's relationship with her boyfriend and the father's overprotective and aggressive behavior. While the father may be trying to protect his daughter, his actions are damaging their relationship.
In this podcast episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss the issue of privacy boundaries with their kids. They believe in giving their kids some freedom and trust rather than tightly monitoring their online activities. They emphasize the importance of open communication and instilling values and self-love in their children to navigate the challenges of social media and the internet.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss a listener's question about his wife calling them unattractive behind his back. And he wonders if his marriage is fake.
Marcus and Jessica celebrate Jessica's birthday in this special 100th episode. They also discuss a listener's email about his girlfriend having slept with some of his friends before they started dating. He wonders if he should tell his girlfriend about his discomfort.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a man who believes his wife has lost all respect for him after 16 years of marriage. They discuss the issues of imbalance in the relationship, lack of intimacy, and the potential impact on the man's self-esteem.
Marcus and Jessica address a complaint from a listener regarding a comment made about single moms in a previous episode. The listener believes that the comment reinforces negative stereotypes about single moms being desperate. They discuss the dating experiences of single moms and the challenges they face in finding partners willing to accept their children.
00:01:22 Single moms face dating challenges.
00:11:05 Preference for dating single mothers.
00:12:43 Dating single moms requires maturity.
00:20:22 Dating someone with kids is preferred
Marcus and Jessica receive an email from a wife who is worried about her marriage. They have been together for 11 years and have two small kids. Both work full-time and receive no help from family. The wife is exhausted and doesn't feel like actively working on the marriage. Meanwhile, the husband wants more intimacy and feels unappreciated. The wife feels forced and is less attracted to him. She wonders if she should force herself and if their marriage can be saved.
00:01:47 Intimacy issues in long-term marriages.
00:09:04 Marriage requires effort and communication.
00:11:10 Possible postpartum mental health issues.
00:19:17 Relationship struggles can lead to unhappiness.
00:22:17 Dating single moms can be challenging.
00:31:43 Age gaps in relationships have consequences.
00:33:01 Relationships require mutual effort.
Marcus and Jessica share their thoughts on a listener's email about a relationship issue. The listener, a black man, is facing a dilemma as his fiancée, who is not black, wants to set a wedding date. He's hesitant because he had always imagined marrying a black woman. Marcus encourages him to accept the situation and not be influenced by societal pressures, while Jessica urges him to consider his own happiness and avoid potential regret in the future.
00:02:10 Love is not defined by race.
00:08:48 Interracial dating requires understanding and patience.
00:12:03 Racial preferences in relationships matter.
00:19:08 Consider honesty in relationships.
00:24:19 Importance of cultural understanding.
In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss an email from a husband who is struggling with his wife venting to her family about every disagreement. It’s made his relationship with her family awkward, and he wants advice on how to handle the situation.
00:03:18 Lack of respect breeds negativity.
00:09:14 Lack of communication breeds insecurity.
00:17:51 Lack of communication breeds mistrust.
00:19:57 Accountability in relationships is crucial.
00:27:31 Communication and therapy are important.
00:29:34 Importance of hearing both sides.
00:35:30 Toxic relationships are unhealthy.
The podcast hosts question whether beauty standards have gotten out of hand and discuss how men have played a role in perpetuating them. They also talk about their own experiences with body image and the pressure to conform to societal expectations. They explore the origins of these standards, which they attribute to men's objectification of women and the media's portrayal of unrealistic body ideals. The hosts also lament the harsh judgment women often face from other women and offer insights into how men can support their partners in feeling comfortable in their own skin.
Since Jessica is out this week, we brought on special guest Nate Jackson, a comedian, and actor to have some guy talk and the ladies in our life (and in our past.) Nate, Marcus, and Kel answer questions from women that were submitted anonymously on social media. These are the questions that every lady has but is too afraid to ask the guys in their life. Well, these guys are answering that kind of question - unfiltered and raw.
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What would you do if you got married, moved into a house your husband owns...and, he charges you rent? That's the predicament that one listener is in right now. She wrote into the podcast to get relationship advice from the Trufants to help navigate this sticky situation. Here is her question, "I’ve been married to my husband for a little over a year. We decided before we got married that I would move into his house and rent my place. What’s bothering me is since we’ve been living together he charges me rent. So half of his mortgage. I also contribute to other bills and groceries which is totally fine. My friends and family think it’s strange that he would charge me for rent and I’m his wife. Also, my name isn’t on the mortgage. Am I overthinking or are my feelings valid?"
Parenthood is hard. Marriage is hard. Sometimes both feel overwhelming. And, oftentimes, one person carries more of the load. How much is too much? How little is too little?
A listener wrote into the show looking for marriage advice. The listener says that her husband works all day and then immediately comes home and plays video games. The wife, on the other hand, handles all the cooking, cleaning, child care, and domestic tasks on top of working as a nurse. She is at a loss and doesn't know what to do next.
Is there such a thing as "weaponizing sex?" In this episode, the Trufants discuss another question submitted by a loyal listener. The listener's wife allegedly withholds sex when she doesn't get what she wants, claims the listener. We have a few serious questions about this topic - Is it ever OK to withhold sex? What would happen if the husband withholds sex? Is withholding sex a form of emotional abuse? Listen up as the Trufants discuss this topic and offer their best relationship advice.
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In today's episode, we're answering another listener's question about marriage and relationship advice. A listener DM'd us about her very attractive husband who gets a lot of attention from both men and women. This attention makes her feel insecure. She feels annoyed, frustrated, and insecure when people approach her husband even though he always politely declines their advances and tells them he has a wife. The listener's confidence is affected, and she sometimes wishes she was with someone who didn't attract as much attention. The listener is asking for advice on how to get over these negative feelings.
Listen up as the Trufants weigh in on this question and offer the best advice.
We have another juicy question from a listen on today's podcast. A listener wrote in because he is feeling insecure in his relationship because his fiancé rambled about how attractive she thinks the next-door neighbor is. She later tried to backtrack and say that she's not really attracted to him and that she only thinks about her husband. Things get even more complicated when her fiancé notices that she follows the neighbor on Instagram. He is wondering if he should approach her, or if he's being paranoid. Listen up as the Trufants discuss this situation and help the listener move forward.
In this episode, The Trufants get into the topic of sexual frequency in marriage - is there such thing as TOO much sex in a relationship?
The hosts discuss the now-viral clip of Larsa Pippin saying that she and Scottie Pippin has sex FOUR times every night of their 20+ year marriage. The episode also provides practical advice and tips for couples to create a healthy and fulfilling sex life in their marriage.
We got another juicy question from a listener who needs advice about their former spicy career and how to go about dating. The listener wrote, "I'm falling in love with my boyfriend of 6 months, but I haven't told him I used to work in the sex/adult industry as a spicy accountant aka escort. I'm terrified that this will ruin a good thing. He's also my coworker. I want to be honest with him and don't want to hurt him. Should I tell him? and if so, how?"
In this episode, Jessica finally got some alone time with her son while Marcus took the girls on a father/daughter date. Kash wasn't feelin' it! Later, the Trufants respond to a listener question from a woman who is thinking of leaving her toxic husband who is emotionally controlling and negative. The woman wonders if she should leave or take another approach before making such a permanent decision for herself and her child.
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A listener is stuck at a crossroads. Her Husband has put on weight and she's losing attraction. She says she even offered help to start his weight loss journey. But turns her down and continues his unhealthy lifestyle. Besides aesthetics, she’s concerned about his health.
What would you do if you were this guy? You listen to a podcast your so-called fiance was on only to hear her admit to only dating NBA players and high-income men...until she met you. She also talked about your sexual "issues" and insinuated that you don't have a big "member." While she didn't say your name, she described you as the "good-looking nerdy" guy. Would you stay with her or break off the engagement?
Divorce brings up the question of last names - some women change their last names while others keep their ex-husband's surname. Ok, cool. But, what would you do if your new wife wanted to keep her ex-husband's last name and not take your last name? Would you feel disrespected or is it no big deal? In this episode, we're talking about when (and if) it's ok to keep your ex-husband's last name.
Is it ok to date before a divorce is final? Does public perception matter? Also, when is it ok to introduce your new relationship to your kids? All that and more on this episode of Truly Unruly.
Obviously, no one likes getting rejected - whether it be for a romantic relationship, a job interview and or any other form of rejection. Does one sex handle rejection "better" or "worse"? In this episode, the Trufants discuss the different ways that they handle rejection while Kel backs up their claims with the research.
Happy New Year! In this episode, the Trufants look back at 2022 and ask some important questions about their relationships and individuals. Get your notes ready so you can ask the same questions about your relationship!
What's the biggest mistake of the year, and the lesson learned as a result?
What did you learn about your friends this year?
What would you say were some highlights of this year when it came to your marriage?
What was my biggest relationship accomplishment?
What do you think you can work on in your relationship in the upcoming year?
If I could travel back to the beginning of the year, what advice would you give me?
What's the status of the goals I set last year and what goals do I want to set for the year going forward?
"I'm not one of your little friends" - if you were raised by a Black mom, you've definitely heard that one! If you're now a Black mom, you've probably said all of these phrases. In this episode, The Trufants laugh about all the things their moms said growing up and if they say the same things now to their kids. Get ready to laugh!
How happy or unhappy you are in your marriage certainly affects you and your spouse's emotional state and feelings of happiness, but does it affect your children? Do children pick up on the vibes of a stressful, emotionally draining marriage? Do they pick up on the vibes of a happy, respectful loving marriage? In this episode, the Trufants dive in.
We call this episode "our freestyle" episode, we're talking crazy about dating, marriage, and everything in between. Get ready to laugh because we have some funny stories ready to dish up.
Fighting and arguing in relationships feel uncomfortable and can really hurt the relationship if both parties are trying to hurt each other. But, fighting is normal in relationships. Learning to fight fairly, however, takes some time and practice to learn. If you want a healthy, long-lasting relationship it's important to take key steps to fight fair and to grow from the fight. Instead of hurting your relationship, a "fair" fight might actually help the relationship.
In this episode, the Trufants, discuss their "fighting style" - if they fight fair and how they (and you) might improve your communication during a fight - and actually grow from the fight.
Talking with a good friend can easily turn into a vent session all about your relationship. Sometimes it just feels good to get it out and to get someone else's take on the situation. But, is venting to your friends about your relationship healthy? Listen to what the Trufants say about this topic in their marriage.
Has your spouse fallen asleep during sex? Do they fall asleep immediately after sex? Or, maybe YOU are the one falling asleep. One of the Trufants fell asleep during sex...can you guess who? Find out how the Trufants reacted in this episode.
Disagreements in relationships are normal. But, constant bickering can cause havoc even in the most healthy relationships. There comes a point when it's important to learn how to choose which fights are worth fighting and which ones are easier to just let go of. In this episode, The Trufants discuss the art of picking your battles wisely in a relationship.
Do you have a favorite R&B song to listen to during sex? Or are you a rap person? Do you like it better silent? Maybe you like the TV on in the background? In this hilarious episode, the Trufants share their favorite bedroom sounds (or not).
Jessica had her birth chart done recently and was in for a few major life surprises. In this episode, the Trufants share some of Jessica's astrological secrets and how it has changed her life.
One day you wake up and your kid is not so kid-like anymore and they're wanting to start dating. You knew this day would come. Maybe you've prepared for it. Chances are, you're not. The Trufants have 5 kids, a few of them are teenagers and their preteens are quickly reaching that age. In this episode, Marcus and Jessica share how they approach dating and relationships with their kids and how to talk to your teen about those complicated years.
Don't sacrifice and compromise essentially mean the same thing? Short answer, no. Sacrifice and compromise are totally different actions. So, what do they even mean? Is it important to practice BOTH sacrifice and compromise to have a healthy relationship?
Relationships get more complicated when words like compromise and sacrifice are just thrown around all the time.
In this episode, The Trufants dive into the questions that plague all of us in relationships when it comes to making sacrifices or learning to compromise.
26 of the Trufant's closest friends met up in the Dominican Republic for Jessica's 40th birthday party. It was a wild, kid-free vacation! Hear all the tea in this episode.
Jessica is turning the big 4-0! Listen to how she feels about hitting the milestone birthday and what their plans are for the big day (hint: it's a tropical vacation with NO kids)
Good looks can fade. Money comes and goes. Personalities can change. So, what's the MOST important when it comes to dating and relationships? A lot of money, good looks, or a great personality? Everyone could have their own answer to that question depending on their preferences. Here's what the Trufants say matters most to them.
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to rush into sex without thinking about the consequences of unprotected sex. Sometimes it seems like people are more concerned with pregnancy than with STDs. Until YOU catch something. With an estimated 80% of sexually active adults being infected with HPV, sexual health is something that needs to be talked about more often. In this episode, the Trufants discuss safe sex, how long to wait before sex, when it's ok to have unprotected sex, and how to go about having the STD talk with a new partner.
Is Father's Day less important? Dads Marcus and Kel say that sometimes Father's Day feels less important. While Jessica debates the reasons why such a huge emphasis is placed on Mother's Day. And, is it OK for single mothers to hijack Father's Day? Do dads deserve better gifts?
Breakups suck. They're hard and they hurt. It's just part of life - relationships don't always work out. Maybe you're just not compatible or you mutually decide to call it quits. But, there comes a point where you not being able to "keep a man" might be more about YOU and you're own unresolved issues. It's a tough pill to swallow and even harder to admit that maybe, just maybe, you are not "perfect" and that you have faults as well.
A strong, lasting, healthy relationship is made up of two whole individuals who are ready for a long-term commitment. Sometimes, before you are able to reach that level of commitment you need to do some self-care and get work on yourself. It's not always easy, but it's worth it in the long run.
In this episode, the Trufants get real about the 3 main reasons why some women can't keep a man and the steps they can take to make sure they find "Mr. Right"...instead of "Mr. Right Now" or "Mr. WRONG"
Do you do everything for your boyfriend that you think a wife does? Sex, cook, clean, grocery shop, laundry...blah, blah, blah? Basically, giving him all the privileges of being a husband without the commitment? Then you wonder why he hasn't married you yet after all this time. Now, if you're in a relationship where you have both decided that marriage is not your thing, this episode is probably NOT for you. For everyone else - your boyfriend is NOT your husband and it's time to stop treating him as such, especially if you want to get married and he doesn't. Period. And all those things you "think" you're doing for him that a wife should do - any woman could do that. Maybe he's stringing you along. Maybe he doesn't want to "fix something that's not broken"...
Whatever the case may be, in this episode the Trufants get real about relationships where the couple is not married, but (usually) the woman goes above and beyond to act like a wife in an attempt to possibly prove herself as worthy wife. Listen up, this one is going to ruffle a few feathers.
Nearly 70% of divorces in the US are initiated by women. So, why do more women than men call it quits on marriage? Maybe, just maybe, it's because they do not benefit from marriage in the same way that men do. Gender roles traditionally teach women to prepare to be a "good wife" their entire lives whereas men are taught to build careers. Ultimately, as times have changed, married women might get fed up with this narrative and decide that marriage cannot benefit them in the way they need.
In this episode, the Trufants discuss who usually benefits more from marriage - men or women? And, what can be done to make it feel more equal on both sides to have a lasting marriage.
The "honeymoon" phase of relationships inevitably wanes and you're left to deal with REAL love. Real love is not always easy and it takes a lot of work. From feelings of loneliness to one person chasing the other to toxic partners - there are some very brutal truths that are often learned the hard way, by living (and learning) through them. Ask anyone you know who's been together a long time and they'll probably agree that these 5 things are true in most successful relationships. Or, they learned them in previous relationships. In this episode, the Trufants discuss these harsh truths and how they made it through.
From "liking" someone's old pics to sliding in their DMs - what is considered flirting and what is considered just being friendly? In this episode, the Trufants discuss what is going too far on Instagram, when to steer clear of an "admirer" (or stalker) or when to get your flirt on (if you're single, that is)
Are you jealous AF over the pettiest things? Maybe they're not "petty" to YOU, but they feel silly to your spouse...in this episode, the Trufants talk about the top 6 things that make partners jealous in a relationship and if it's even appropriate to feel jealous in those situations.
After 14 years of marriage, we’ve made it through so much together. On our anniversary we like to reflect on our lives together and celebrate all that we have accomplished. In the episode, we let you in on some of the funny moments, personal stories, and best advice we’ve learned over the years.
Disney with kids is supposed to be a magical experience! LOL! Disneyland is the happiest place on earth, but let's be real it can get overwhelming fast. Hear all about The Trufant's trip to Disneyland with 5 kids and two grandmas. Will they ever make that trip again? Listen to find out.
True or false: all women can orgasm from penetration? Pounding equals more pleasure, right? WRONG! For your safety and sexual satisfaction, Sexologist Tiffynee Terry-Thomas debunks some of the most common sex myths. She joins the Trufants in a hilarious, candid discussion about sex myths that you probably believe to be true and drops some sex-truth bombs for you to use tonight (wink wink)
Marriage ain't easy! Here are the 5 "hot button" issues plaguing couples today and what to do about it.
If you've ever lived with someone of the opposite sex you've probably noticed that men and women react totally differently to "colds" or the flu. Usually, men are DOWN FOR THE COUNT with any little ache or sniffle. Women, on the other hand, will suck that shit up and go about their life. Where's the lie? In this episode, the Trufants discuss the "Man Flu" phenomenon. Do the stereotypes ring true in their household or is it all a myth?
s your spouse super selfish? Or, maybe you're the selfish one in the relationship? If so, it's time to nip that sh*t in the bud! Do you know "someone" who ALWAYS has to be right?! Who is QUICK to react? Who always takes control of the conversation. When it comes to healthy, happy relationships, it's important to be selfLESS, understanding, and flexible. In this episode, the Trufants discuss what it means to be selfish, who is the selfish one in their marriage, and how to overcome your selfish ways.
Welcome to episode 50! If you're looking for a way to reconnect, laugh, and get to know your significant other even deeper here are 8 questions you must ask - tonight! Take notes, because Marcus and Jessica get real deep and funny with these questions.
Maybe you convinced yourself that your partner would never find out about your side-piece. Of course, your partner DID find out and now you're about to lose your family over some fling. Do marriages survive infidelity? Short answer - yes. But, if you're the cheater, you have to realize that you made the decision to RISK. IT. ALL. Now you have to do absolutely everything you can to rebuild your partner's trust, to make your partner feel safe with you again, to convince your partner that you are not only reliable but that you are also credible. In this episode, the Trufants discuss the emotional journey toward healing that takes place after infidelity. Cheating doesn't always lead to divorce. But, cheating does 100% lead to some uncomfortable moments that, if you overcome them, can help you rebuild a strong, trusting, loving marriage.
From stepping outside your marriage to intense arguments and just pure exhaustion - if you're thinking about calling it quits and are considering divorce this episode is for you. Sure, relationships are hard and go through ups and downs, but how do you know when it's definitely time to divorce? Let's talk about how to know when it's for sure time to get out.
If you're having money problems in your marriage, you're not alone. At some point, most marriages encounter financial stress. From student loans to overspending and financial secrets - money issues can kill a happy marriage. In this episode, the Trufants discuss the top money issues that impact marriages (according to experts). We dive into questions like,
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How do you resolve money issues in a marriage?
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Can a marriage survive money problems?
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Should you put your spouse on an allowance?
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How to deal with debt in marriage?
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Do you get mad that your significant other has friends of the opposite sex? Or, is it no-big-deal? What’s appropriate and what’s inappropriate when you have friends of the opposite sex and are married or in a committed relationship? When could these relationships be seen as a threat to your marriage? What are some things you should NEVER do with a friend of the opposite sex? In this episode, we talk about what relationship experts say and how Marcus and Jessica feel about these relationships.
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Do you tell your friends and family about your relationship problems? You probably are (and you don't even know it). There are times when you might feel like you're venting, but the experts say that oversharing is toxic. It can break your partner's trust, cause your friends/family to think differently about your partner, and cause a ton of other problems in your marriage.
In this episode, we reveal 5 ways you're oversharing and how to stop.
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We asked sex expert Tiffynee Terry-Thomas all the juicy questions to keep a relationship fresh, sexy, and exciting. We talked about experimenting and trying new things between the sheets, the idea of "open relationships" (and if it can really work), and what GOOD sex even is. If you're ready to have the best sex of your life this year, listen on!
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**As 2021 closes out, it's important to reflect on your relationship together and ask some important questions to make the next year, the best year. In this episode, the Trufants open up about 2021 and share answers to some questions - like, Jessica buying a puppy (without Marcus).
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Life can get hard when a man has a wife and also a baby mama. From insecurities, disrespect, attention, personalities, and taking responsibility - it's a lot to juggle. Sometimes there are issues between all parties involved. So, where do you draw the line? Can wives and baby-mamas ever get along? What exactly is a baby mama? In this episode, we dive into the nitty-gritty of this sometimes complicated family dynamic.
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Times have changed - in the past, men have usually been the breadwinners while in today's marriages more wives are out-earning husbands. Women are doing it all - raising careers and babies! And, we're HERE FOR IT. But, does this shift in dynamics affect a marriage? What does science say? And, more importantly, what do Marcus and Jessica have to say about it? Find out in this episode.
BODY SHAMING IN A RELATIONSHIP: is it ever OK to comment on your spouse's insecurities? What to do if you feel fat-shamed by your partner
We came across a video on Instagram of a husband fat-shaming his wife after having their children. We all agree that this man was doing his wife dirty on so many levels. This video sparked a much deeper conversation on fat-shaming (or body shaming) in relationships and what to do about it. Plus, how partners can support their significant others who are going through body changes.
It's hard to look yourself in the mirror and ask, "am I the toxic one in the relationship?" The truth hurts sometimes and it's so much easier to place the blame on someone else. In this episode, the Trufants discuss some behavior and patterns that lead to a toxic relationship and how to determine if you are the toxic one. From gaslighting to manipulation and being judgemental. Try not to feel too bad if you identify with some of these characteristics - the first step to change is accepting ourselves for who we are and getting the help we need.
Get ready for your mind to be blown with the most real sex advice you've ever heard from Sexologist Tiffynee. If you've been in a relationship for a long time chances are you've experienced a natural ebb and flow in libido. That's ok. But, forget what you've heard about sex after marriage being less exciting. Sexologist Tiffynee has been married for 10 years and is here to tell you that married folks might actually be having better sex (and more of it.) She's on the Truly Unruly podcast today to set the record straight about sex in marriage (or long-term relationships) while dropping the gems to having BETTER sex. From amazing foreplay to the importance of self intimacy and how to introduce new things in the bedroom - get ready to take notes because this episode is life-changing for your sex life.
Divorce is messy. There's no doubt about that - especially when it comes to finances, assets, child, and spousal support. What happens when one spouse makes a lot more money than the other spouse? What if one parent stayed home to raise the children while the other parent built their career? Is spousal support fair or it is just a part of reality? Should one parent pay child support?
In this episode, The Trufants (and Kel) discuss how they feel about spousal and child support. Plus, they dive into some shocking amounts that celebrity Fathers (and ex-husbands) pay to their ex-wives.
Marcus and Jessica finally get a well-deserved child-free vacation! The Trufants embark on a trip to New Orleans and enjoy great food, hospitality, and of course family. They get a first-hand Superdome experience and try a local favorite beverage called “The Bow Wow”. This episode is packed with laughter and a few food recommendations for the next time you’re in the Big Easy.
The Trufant's play a game of "tell your truth." Kel asks them questions and they HAVE to tell the absolute truth. Get the popcorn ready because they're spilling all the tea.
Most parents teach their kids NOT to hit, even when they're mad. It's always "go tell the Teacher!" But, is that always the best thing to do? What should your kid do if another kid hits them first or if they are being bullied? Should they actually hit back and learn to defend themselves. In this episode, the Trufants (and Kel) talk about a recent incident in Kindergarten with pushing and what they have taught their kids.
The Trufants get real with Nurse Alice about conspiracy theories, misinformation, fear-mongering, and Black health in general. Nurse Alice works in the ICU in Los Angeles where she has treated COVID patients on the frontlines throughout the pandemic. She answers questions like,
"Are you seeing more vaccinated or unvaccinated patients in the ICU with severe COVID?"
"What would you say to Black people who are wary of the vaccine due to historical racism and mistreatment of our people?"
“We see memes and social media posts all the time making all sorts of crazy claims about the vaccines and the pandemic. What advice do you have for people who see these posts and freak out? What would you say to the people who post such things and spread misinformation?”
“Should pregnant women getting vaccinated?”
“Should we vaccinate children even though they are the age group least affected by Covid? Would you vaccinate your young child? Why?”
“How long are you immune after recovering from Covid? Do Covid survivors need the vaccine since they have natural immunity?”
"When it comes to the black experience - what factors have contributed to the mistrust between the black community and the United States healthcare system?"
About Nurse Alice:
Alice Benjamin, MSN, APRN, ACNS-BC, FNP-C, CCRN, CEN, CV-BC, also known as 'Nurse Alice' ("America's Favorite Nurse"), is a cardiac clinical nurse specialist and family nurse practitioner with over 23 years of healthcare experience. When she's not busy saving lives, Alice works as a TV/media health expert. She is a regular contributor on NBC Los Angeles and has been featured on Dr. Oz, The Doctors, Dr. Drew, CNN, HLN, TVOne, and BBC, and in December 2020, she interviewed Dr. Anthony Fauci for Nurse.org. Alice is Nurse.org's Chief Nursing Officer and Correspondent and hosts the popular 'Ask Nurse Alice' podcast that reached #9 on Apple Podcasts medical category.
After taking a few weeks off, the Trufant's are back and Jessica is 1 year older! Plus, the kids are back in school. Listen in as we get caught up on everything going on in the Trufant household.
Obviously, betrayal from infidelity hurts. But, other types of betrayal can be just as bad (or more) damaging to a relationship. Can a relationship be saved after betrayal? Save yourself the heartbreak from ever having to answer that question by listening to this episode and learning what types of relationship betrayal to look out for. Before it's too late
From the little things to the big things, fights in relationships are inevitable. No one likes to fight with their significant other. But, sometimes we pick fights. The Trufants open up about some of their fights and the real reason why they might get started in the first place.
The Trufants took a 6 day trip to Las Vegas for a dance competition, with all 5 kids. Did they STILL go to the strip club? You bet they did (and they recommend more couples to do the same.) Listen for all the hilarious stories.
Corporal punishment reinforces racist stereotypes in the Black community and has no place in the Trufant household. They don't hit their kids, ever. In this episode, Marcus and Jessica reveal the most effective and emotionally mature ways to punish their kids that don't include spanking, whooping, beat-downs, or whatever you call it these days. Spanking might feel like an effective punishment for unruly kids. But, if you stop and think about the long-term consequences - it's just not worth it. They also talk about how they were disciplined growing up and the differences in disciplining girls vs. boys.
If you've been together a long time, you know that relationships change and evolve. From the honeymoon phase to a long-term relationship, engagement, newlywed, marriage, pregnancy, children, and all the conflicts, challenges, and joys in between. One thing is for certain - as life evolves so do expectations within the marriage. For a marriage to survive all these changes it's important to accept the fact that changes in marriage are imminent. In this episode, Marcus and Jessica discuss how they learn to accept reasonable expectations and continue to build a healthy marriage through all their life changes.
No relationship is perfect - we all come with baggage. But, there comes a tipping point when feelings of insecurity, trust issues, jealousy, unwarranted accusations, snooping, and self-doubt pose a real threat to marriage. But what exactly is insecurity in marriage? How can you stop feeling insecure if you already have trust issues? How to deal with an insecure wife or husband? What are the signs of insecurity?
In this episode, the Trufants open up about their own insecurities (past and present) in their marriage. They discuss expert advice on how to tackle those feelings to make sure that both spouses feel trust and unconditional love in a healthy relationship. Marriage is hard and feelings of insecurity are common, but you can build a more secure marriage - if you really want to out in the work.
Getting to know your spouse on the deepest level takes a life-long commitment. In all honesty, how well do we really know our spouses, especially when you're a newlywed? Like, really really really know them. From their deepest regrets, major traumas, ultimate passions, to greatest desires? If you're hoping to strengthen your bond or feel like you're drifting apart, this episode is for you. Jessica and Marcus reveal the top 5 best questions you should ask your partner. These questions can get heavy but they are also a lot of fun and will bring you together on a much deeper level of mutual understanding, improved trust, and compassion.
When you don't want to have sex, but you do it anyways because you feel like it's your "job" to keep your partner happy- that's maintenance sex. Should people in long term relationships or marriages be having sex, just to have it? Will it strengthen the marriage? Or, is it putting unrealistic expectations and pressure on the relationship? In this episode the Trufants get real about this controversial subject.
Nothing can prepare you for the millions of annoying things kids do DAY IN and DAY OUT. Do kids ever stop being annoying? (if you're asking that question you must not have a teenager yet!) As parents of 5 kids the Trufants have been through every stage of parenthood - from infancy to toddlerhood, adolescence, preteen, and now teenagehood. Kids are annoying at EVERY stage. If you know, you know! And while they love their children, they are not afraid to admit that parenthood is hard. Join Marcus and Jessica in a hilarious and REAL discussion on kids being annoying AF and how, despite it all, they wouldn't change a thing because nothing compares to the love for their children.
Marcus and Jessica annoy their kids in a million ways - from what they say to what they do, these kids are fed up with mom and dad. In this hilarious episode, the Trufant kids join their parents to tell us about all the things their parents do that annoy them. So, if you're a parent - and you irritate your kids - know that you're not alone.
Truth is, there's no set way to raise kids. But, helping their kids to be MENTALLY STRONG has been a foundation of Marcus and Jessica's family. In this episode, they discuss what science says about helping kids mentally to grow into the most successful versions of their adult self.
Spoiler, it's not SEX or love. Let's keep in one-hundred here, it doesn't matter how funny, sweet or perfect your partner is...sometimes, they might just drive you crazy. Great relationships aren't born out of thin air - they take work. YEARS of work. Relationships are always evolving. Marcus and Jessica's relationship is no different. In this episode, they explore advice from the experts on the 5 most important things in a relationship and how to make it even better. Find out what the Trufants think are the most important things in a relationship and if they are doing those things!
Relationships are full of emotions and even the best relationships can feel exhausting at times. The good news is that you can make it through those challenges. But, how do you know if you're in an emotionally draining relationship? What do you do if you feel drained in your relationship? Or, maybe you feel that you ARE the one emotionally draining your partner. We tapped into advice from clinical psychologists to dive deep into this issue. Marcus and Jessica talk about times in their relationship when they have faced similar feelings and how they made it through to build an even stronger bond.
Marcus and Jessica have learned that communication is the foundation to a happy marriage. In this episode, they ask each other 10 questions that all married couples should ask each other on a regular basis... just to check in, reconnect and open-up more to each other.
We’ve had a lot of sex in our 16 years together and sex has definitely changed over the years. Intimacy is about a lot more than sex and it’s natural for the frequency of sex to ebb and flow. In this episode, we dive deep into our sex life, how we make sex a priority even with 5 kids, and our best advice to keep it sexy in long-term relationships.
Here are some questions you’ll hear us talk about in this episode,
How much sex is enough in a healthy relationship?
How does sex change after marriage?
How has sex in your relationship changed for your 20s, 30s, and now Marcus’s 40s?
What advice do you have for couples that feel disconnected and think they’re not having enough sex?
Do you think sex once per month is a sexless marriage?
Jess never thought that her breast implants were the cause of her mysterious pain. She had been suffering from chronic pain and other symptoms for a long time and after 10 years with the same implants, Jess was worried that she might have breast implant illness. Once she saw a doctor she had some major decisions to make about the future of her breast implants - she considered full removal, fat transfer to the breast, and replacement. She discusses her reasons for getting implants after breastfeeding 3 children, why she chose to have a second surgery, and what that was like. Jess opens up about her breast implants and encourages all women to do research before getting implants and, if they already have implants and are experiencing symptoms, to see a doctor ASAP. Later, she discusses her recovery and how she feels now 1 week after surgery. Marcus, being the kind, supportive husband that he is stood by Jessica through her entire journey and recovery.
From homeschooling to mental health struggles, Marcus and Jessica open up about how the lock downs and pandemic are affecting their family a year into it. Later, we answer some spicy questions from our listeners.
Our listeners want all the tea! In this episode, Marcus and Jessica answer some of the most frequently asked questions from their listeners. Whose idea was it to do the podcast? Is it hard opening up on a public forum like a podcast? What has it been like around Jessica's mom since the sex episode? Later on, we try drinks from San Juan Seltzer and Elysian Brewing. Special thanks to Black Coffee NW, the first black-owned coffee house in Shoreline Wa for sending us goodies!
The Trufants oldest daughter just turned 15, and as she gets older, Jessica is starting to get nervous. In this episode, they get real about how they're preparing for the day that she will leave the nest. Or, maybe she won't (if Jessica has her way). Later, the Trufant's gave it to the Peloton craze - is it worth it? Does it live up to the hype? Find out in episode 14.
Relationships are not always "rainbows and puppies." They are hard work. And, sometimes it can feel like you come from different planets. Probably why here's a lot of hype around the book, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." People have literally said it saved their marriage. In this episode, the Trufants, are joined by Jessica's best friend Rimah to discuss some key topics from the book. Does it give good relationship advice? Could it save a marriage on the rocks? Or, is it packed full of over-generalistic, chauvinistic, eye-rolling statements? Here's what The Trufants have to say about it.
The Trufant family swapped the Seattle rain for sunshine in Hawaii for the holidays. Turns out, even paradise is weird in the middle of a pandemic - add 5 kids and 44 people on top of that and they were in for quite the experience. From meeting all the requirements to travel, getting the kids COVID tested and even the hassle of eating at a resort, this was not your typical vacation. Later on, the Trufants share some of their plans for 2021
Marcus turned the big 4-0 and Jessica threw him a surprise birthday party! We revisit the sex talk - from favorite positions to PDA to birthday nookie. Things get a little awkward with Jessica's mom in the live audience of their closest friends and family (who have all been COVID-tested.)
The Trufants talk about S-E-X. Jessica (a self-proclaimed reformed Catholic) breaks out of her comfort zone and Marcus goes all-in about sex after 12 years of marriage (and 5 kids later.) Jess shares advice about talking to kids about sex. And, the couple answers some really personal questions about their sex life.
Jessica and Marcus get real about the struggles they've faced and how they have persevered for over 16 years. From dealing with jealousy and haters to breakups, to how they feel about prenuptial agreements and how having 5 kids changed things. They really open up about it all while dropping some truth bombs and heartfelt advice for making relationships last - struggles and all.
The Trufants spill the tea about their big wedding day. Talk about drama - Marcus was hammered, Jessica was pregnant (and maybe a little bit of a bridezilla) and their wedding was bat shit crazy in the most off-the-hook way! Jessica reveals her biggest wedding planning regrets. The DREAM Trufant wedding might have turned into pure comedy gold but, in the end, "it's all love and light," says Marcus.
Marcus reveals how he proposed to Jessica 12 years ago. Speaking to the fellas, Marcus talks about the time leading up to the proposal, how he knew what ring to pick out and her ring size. Jessica shares her hilarious viewpoint on the proposal and her feelings about the ring. Can you guess who said "I love you first," you'll have to listen to find out! And, we played a game of "how well do you know your spouse" - get ready to laugh!
Marcus and Jessica keep it one-hundred about the ways COVID has changed their family dynamic and how they've adapted to the "new normal." From homeschooling 5 kids who are involved in lots of extracurricular activities, to finding time for intimacy with a house full of other people, to the news of a new COVID vaccine and if they would give it to their kids. Get ready to laugh when Marcus talks about his "drink of choice" at a fancy restaurant and Jessica talks about the lock on their bedroom door.
The Trufants open up about their normal life as a not-so-normal NFL family. They talk about how they are treated different when people realize that Marcus is an NFL player. Jessica shares about real friends vs fake friends. And, how their kids handle being the children of an NFL player.
The Trufants get real about the early years of their relationship. Together, they discuss their circumstance of having a baby early in their relationship, but not getting married until several years later. Marcus talks about when he knew it was the right time to propose. Jessica shares advice for single women who are dealing with “thirsty” guys while looking for the “perfect” man. As with most newlyweds, the first year of marriage was a challenge. In this episode, Marcus and Jessica share unfiltered advice for couples in long term relationships and newlyweds.
Jessica took a detox from social media and the reason why might surprise you.Social media can be a powerful tool for business and networking but, it also has it's toxic side - in this episode Marcus and Jessica talk about the their own experiences with social media from blogging to business to parenting.
In this episode, the Trufants reveal some harsh truths and share hilarious (and real) advice for new parents. They talk about the early days of their relationship from pregnancy to having a new baby all while juggling Marcus’ new NFL career. Spoiler alert: 5 kids were not in “the plan.”
In episode 1, Marcus and Jessica reveal how they met when Marcus was still a Rookie in the NFL. They also discuss some of the challenges they overcame in the beginning of their relationship. And, they speak about some of the trials that come along with being young parents while sharing uplifting advice for new relationships, new parents and newlyweds.