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The Relationship Revivalists
Jon & Jess McCaw, or as they are better known, The Relationship Revivalists, have taken a magnifying glass to their own unique loving and understanding relationship and share all of their guiding principles and insights so that you can infuse explosive love into your relationship, not just with the love of your life, but with yourself as well.
If you're like most, you already know that relationships are tough and it takes a bit of know-how to become successful in your relationship. That's why it's very important that you get on the same page with each other. Jon and Jess teach the biblical way to do this very strategy, God's way.
In today's episode, Jon discusses some of the memories from his past that could have the ability to do destruction in his life. He's done a few things to deter this from happening.
If you're like most, you already know that relationships are tough and it takes a bit of know-how to become successful in your relationship. That's why it's very important that you get on the same page with each other.
Jon and Jess teach the biblical way to do this very strategy, God's way
With all the different opinions out there regarding the honeymoon, it's no wonder that more couples are opting to stay in a non-committed relationship. But the reality is quite the opposite according to the Word of God.
For those that want a better relationship, communication is a focal point that needs attention.
Here are 3 Communication Tips To Enrich Your Relationship
Show notes Listen To Understand I've heard so many people, now that we are in the holidays interrupt and speak what THEY wanted to get across instead of just listening to get understanding.
We have to remember that when we are communicating its a two-way street and if you're not allowing the other person to do his/her fair share of talking or listening, then you're not communicating. Instead, this is a type of communication that goes against every fiber of great communication. In the IT world, we would call that a DDoS attack. Translated this stands for Denial of service attack or the ping of death.
The point of this type of communication is to overwhelm and cause harm to the listening party.
When you allow the other party to respond and you're listening to understand, you make them feel worthy, appreciated and more willing to talk to you again in the same manner.
In the podcast, we mention Episode #2; where we talk about building each other up.
Don't Let The Sun Go Down On Your Anger There's a bible verse that backs this one up.
25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 “In your anger do not sin”[a]: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold.
Ephesians 4:25-27
So why would we want to avoid anger before we go to sleep?
One train of thought is that when we are sleeping, our subconscious mind is not sleeping. In fact, our subconscious mind never sleeps.
if we are to be vigilant about improving our lives and relationships, we need to be thinking on things that are good.
8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
Phillipians 4:8
Talk To Each Other During The Day Many times we get wrapped up in our day and forget that we have a partner working hard as well to bring in the finances we need to live and enjoy our lives.
What would it mean to your spouse if you were to just send a simple text to them?
Do you ever think to call on a break or at lunchtime?
Now, these are just a couple of simple little things that can really turn around a day for your spouse. Use your imagination and be creative on how you can improve your partner's day.
If you are looking for solid strategies that will get your relationship to the next level, we encourage you to download our free ebook:
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Adversity can make or break a couple – if they let it.
You’ve heard stories and seen movies about couples that go through adversity like caring for a sick family member over a long period of time or financial struggles and other seemingly insurmountable odds. The struggle was too much and they split up.
We’ve also heard opposite stories of couples banding together and becoming stronger as they weather the storm together.
What is the difference? What is their secret?
- Relationship with God – When we rely on God, we don’t have to shoulder the burden alone and feel the intense weight of it. It is important that we look to the One greater than ourselves.
- Look outward – When we go through struggle it’s tempting to look inward and think about how difficult times are and what we don’t have. In those times, we need to remember to look outward and see that others are going through a hard time, too. God will often ask us to help someone else when we are going through something difficult because he knows there is healing in it for us.
- Treat each other with kindness – Pain and discomfort often bring out the worst in our attitudes. It’s during times like this that we need to take a step back and have more patience with our loved ones, particularly or partners. It can be tempting to lash out with our words in a space that feels safe, but we need to remember that our significant other is most likely hurting as well and treat them with patience and kindness.
- Communication – We need to talk with our partners regularly to maintain an understanding of what we are feeling and what we need. Reach out and ask for help when necessary. Communication helps squelch added struggles that arise from lack of talking to each other.
- Equally yoked – Shoulder the burdens of the struggle together. Better yet, throw the burden on God’s shoulders and follow him together with your partner. God has the perfect plan for your life.
What are some strategies you have used that have helped you and your partner stick together during a struggle? Please leave a note in the comments below. Your message could help another couple in need.
Jon and Jess the Relationship Revivalists uncover the
missing ingredient to happiness.
So often we look for happiness in our significant other, but
that doesn’t work for the long-term.
We need to find our happiness in God first.
Jon and Jess look back to Adam and Eve in Genesis.
Some notes about God’s character:
- He loves to take what we trust him with and work it out.
- He watches over us closely.
- He protects us.
- He is uncontainable.
- He is love, peace, and joy. He doesn’t just give these, he is.
- He is the author of relationship. We learn how to have good relationships from our relationship with him.
- He is our source.
Jon and Jess conclude with a reminder that “the joy of the
Lord is our strength” (Nehemiah 8:10). Joy is an important must-have to carry
on.
Scriptures mentioned in this podcast:
- Genesis 2:24
- Genesis 3:8
- Nehemiah 8:10
Jon and Jess allude to an exciting project they have been
working on so look for more news to come.
In the meantime, download our eBook at therelationshiprevivalists.com/7secrets.
Show Notes Take time out to schedule vacations. It doesn't matter how short in the beginning. It's a win to get away but to get at least a days drive away is an even bigger win.
Start with weekend short trips to get out of the house and detox from the hustle of the day/week.
You need to have downtime for your own sanity. Getting downtime together is the best downtime. So set your goals for alone time with your mate.
Structure your priorities to get your relaxation time when you need it. That means lining up sitters for pets and children. Ask Family if available but do not expect them to watch your children and/or pets.
Plan on spending money on supervision and then whatever you plan on for vacation expenses.
Something we did not cover in this episode is should you be putting your kids first when it comes to your downtime and relaxation? Let us know in the comments what your take is on this subject.
How Being United Brings
Peace To Your Life
Today we are delving into how to set yourself up for peace to rule in your household. It's a key element to becoming a power couple in today's world. Join us for todays episode #3. United together in Peace.
Does God have control over all the details? There are 2 trains of thought that we hear all the time about what God does for us. Most of the time if it fits into our way of doing things that is the story we believe.
So in todays podcast, we decided to talk about these 2 sides of the story and how only one of them makes the most sense.
The story that says God isn't in control of the details Just like the title says above, we hear all the time that God isn't in control of our destiny. The defense that is offered is that God created us with free will.
That's true to a point.
But when you know the character of God, you also know that that very free will has to do with our decisions to walk away from what God has done for us already - making things much more difficult to live a prosperous life as stated in the new testament by Jesus.
The scripture to back up the story of God having control over your destiny. Now if you're looking to have a relationship that gives glory to God, you know that there are at least one verse in the bible that will support God having control over the relationships you have.
Jeremiah 29:11 says...
This very verse states that He already knows the plans He has for you. Meaning he loves you so much that He's taken a vested interest in your future.
So, does he have control over the details in your life?
I'd say an emphatic, YES!
Show Notes Talking about being equally yoked in relationship means so much.
What if God had someone else in mind for me but I'm already married?
Show Notes Tips to make your relationship great - episode 36 * We have personally made a conscious decision to value ourselves and each other to live this way * Not at each others throats * Lift each other up every day * Happy for each others accomplishments and improvements (abundance mindset) * Live to make each others lives better each day * We started out with boundaries and we keep them * Trust each other * Create a safe space / safe haven to be vulnerable with each other. * Don't use our faults against each other. * We don't say "never" and "always" * Our arguments short - never past sundown / bedtime * Think about other persons point of view and ask clarifying questions.
Having a relationship is all good but is it fulfilling your need to be loved or are you just experiencing a fear based love?
The secret to changing your partners ways is hidden in the text of the bible where Jesus talks about planks. It's not a very long passage but it is there in Matthew.
Through the relationships that we have there is a heartbreak that we experience when things don't work out like we expected them to work out. When that happens there's a chance that brokenhearted emotions set in.
So in today's post we are going to talk about the love notes for brokenhearted people. Hopefully, we can encourage you to get through the hard times and know that you will see better times ahead.
After all, you have never seen a person down in the dumps all of their lives, right?
Show Notes For Episode 33 Love Notes For The BrokenHearted Jeremiah 31:3 3 The Lord appeared to us in the past,[a] saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.
Jessica shared with us how, when she was a 4 year old, she went to a meeting with her mom and the pastor called up the children to the stage and Jessica went on her own accord.
After all the talking was done to the parents and adults, the pastor spoke to the children and then to Jess. He told her a word from the Lord and quoted Jeremiah 31:3.
Clothing In The Spirit Clothing yourself with love is what we all desire in the physical, but everything starts in the spiritual. So start clothing yourself in LOVE from the start - in the spirit.
That's just the start of things when it comes to clothing yourself in the spirit.
There's Jeremiah 29:11 where we are able to cloth ourselves with hope for the future
In Isaiah 61:10, clothing ourselves with joy, salvation, along with the robe of righteousness.
As we cloth ourselves in the fruits of the spirit, we realize that there are times that might make us a little nervous and that's when we are able to know that we can be right under his wing. The name of the lord is our strong tower!
How exciting is this to know we have at our disposal the power, might and clothing to do God's work in our lives. Relationships are what we are created to learn here on Earth.
Give yourself a head start by getting dressed in the spirit and then keeping those clothes perfect by hiding under Gods wing.
Romans 8:38-39 states that we cannot be separated from God's love.
Knowing these verses inside and out without having to consult the bible is how you'll see them come alive in your life.
David Asks For Mercy According to your UNFAILING LOVE is how he knows he is still loved even after committing adultery and murder.
Love keeps no records of wrong (Corinthians)
Final Thoughts Through our knowing who God is in our life, we are able to apply these things to our relationship. Jess states in the podcast that typically the problems exist when we are believing something about us that isn't true.
It's never really truly us that is the problem when we have relationship problems... or is it?!
Relationship problems directly affect us but that doesn't mean that it's our fault. That has to be analyzed and almost all the time, you'll find the tif you start going into a mode of improving yourself, you'll start seeing your partner reflect what you've done to improve yourself.
Making you better is the best answer for solving relationship issues. Which is why we tell you of God's love towards you. It should be encouraging to know you can be loved no matter what state you're in right now.
We hope you get answers and encouragement in this episode of love for the brokenhearted.
Remember to download our free ebook, "7 Simple Secrets To Sustaining A Long, Lasting, Loving Relationship"
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Today we live in a world full of social media that encourages us to take selfies, do videos to help others get to know one another. That's great but when does it go too far? That's when we need to know how to deal with and heal narcissism.
Part 2 of our discussion is going to be finishing up what we started :) Below are the show notes that you can use to follow along in our podcast.
Common Traits Of A Narcissist * Sense of entitlement / superior * Lack of empathy * manipulative * need for admiration (strong) * selfish more than giving * more aggression than usual
Let's be clear here. We all, at times, have at least one of these in our lives. It's up to us to realize that which shouldn't belong and improve ourselves day by day.
It's the person that has a majority of these traits that crosses the line which then the narcissist label is applied.
Difficulty Taking Feedback Practice Mindfulness Be Realistic With Yourself. * The devil drives someone to action (check out episode 3) * God leads through compassion and love (check out episode 30) * Perfection is never expected by God. Where the spirit of the lord is there is liberty. (check out episode 24) * Being perfect in the bible means to be spiritually mature (check out episode 7)
Be Honest With Yourself. A Quick Side Note It's quite interesting that God would put scriptures about love and relationship in the same area of the bible. What ORGANIZATION!
Getting back to how to deal with and heal narcissism. You have to believe the truth, and in truth. If you have no solid and firm beliefs, the question has to be asked.
What do you believe in and how easily will it be to take you down a road that was meant for your destruction?
We believe that the best way to get narcissism out of your life is to start working on improving yourself first and then watch the change happen in your mate.
A narcissist would make you believe that whatever he/she says is ultimate truth and you’re there to serve and make their way a priority.
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Narcissism is a thing that people don't like to talk about until they get into a relationship with one. That's when they want to figure out how to deal with and heal narcissism for their partner.
This is exactly what we are going to talk about in this episode.
Show Notes 1. Listen To Yourself Speak Proverbs 3:5-6 - 5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths
- Self Inventory Proverbs 1:10-14 My son, if sinful men entice you, do not give in to them. 11 If they say, “Come along with us; let’s lie in wait for innocent blood, let’s ambush some harmless soul; 12 let’s swallow them alive, like the grave, and whole, like those who go down to the pit; 13 we will get all sorts of valuable things and fill our houses with plunder; 14 cast lots with us; we will all share the loot”
One really good question to ask yourself after reading this verse is: "Do you think you’re getting more out of the relationship than what is healthy??
- Reinforce Positive Behavior Most don't realize that a relationships can be more than just satisfactory. God made relationship and he wanted you to have the best relationship EVER!
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God has been very clear as to how we can have a relationship with him as well with each other that is so fulfilling that we would choose to have no other way to have this relationship.
Today, we are discussing God's way to have a successful relationship that exudes explosive love from every angle you look at it.
Show Notes 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Ephesians 4:32
32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
Ephesians 5:21
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
DOWNLOAD 7 SECRETS EBOOK These are just a few of the verses that God shows us how to have an explosive love type of relationship.
Additional Thoughts We know that God's way to have a successful relationship works because that's how we live to the best we know how to live.
There are other ways that have been tried but they always end up in disarray when it comes down to it.
Keep things going with God and make him FIRST in EVERYTHING, including your relationship.
We posted not so long ago about the main things that keep a relationship together and if you don't follow this one rule, the relationship can go south really quick.
So be sure to love your partner with all your heart and soul. And do it God's way to have a successful relationship. THere's so much in love and relationship that God wants for us if we just follow His lead.
Be good to each other and things will grow like you want them to grow.
Today we are going to talk about the balances that you must think about when thinking about whether or not to move on from your current relationship and into another.
When you think about all the relationships that you have had over the course of your lifetime, what is the one constant that you can think of off the top of your head? Some people will say that they loved with abandon. Others, would say they wish they had done things differently and perhaps that's […]
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In today's podcast, we are continuing our conversation with Erica Gilbert. SHe's been on the skeptical side and now is on the proponent side of using our minds to get what we want out of life. It's just like when Jesus said we will do far greater than He and this all comes down to […]
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Today is a special day because we are introducing our first guest to you. Erica has been in the coaching business now for right around 10 years. We have seen the work that she does for people in the relationship realm as well as helping them reach entrepreneurial success. This is going to be a […]
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One of the best strategies to nurturing the love that you want is to have a positive mindset. A mindset that allows you to have the courage to go on loving your partner through thick and thin. In this podcast, we are discussing how to get past those times when you think there are no […]
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It happens in every relationship that is doing great. There's a thought of “I don't feel like I'm #1 in his/her life”. Why do these thoughts come in to our mind and what can we do about them to either eliminate or drastically diminish them? In today's post, we are going to talk about why […]
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Every relationship has those times where you just don't feel like you're invigorated with love for your spouse. If you just don't see eye to eye and you find yourself saying my relationship does not fulfill my needs anymore...
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This episode will go through the best ways to resolve important family conflicts every time with success. When a couple gets together and are madly in love, it seems like the ability to make important decisions tend to slip away because of the love struck mindset we all tend to have in the beginning. Show […]
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The power of our words nobody knows. But one thing is for sure, and that is that this power is much greater than we have ever known. There's no question that we can change lives with our words by speaking life or death to others and even yourself. And yet, we seem to have forgotten […]
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So often we are looking at what love is. Love says so many things and if it's not defined correctly, you're not going to be able to know the best feeling in the world. In this post we are going to be talking about what love says and more importantly, what love says it isn't. […]
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Life is a series of different patterns that seem to happen on autopilot. But it doesn't have to be like that if you approach your family with a mindset of training to get the best from the very start. Train them up in the way they should go means that if you have children, your […]
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As we continue our discussion on using your kingly authority in part 2 of our Podcast, Jon and Jess dig in and find out what it takes to bring a marriage back to a healthy relationship that it once was.
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This week we are practicing what we teach. Time to spend time with each other and celebrate our relationship. There is always room for more time for love. Love is a decision. When you make the decision to love one another it will turn out great for you. Sure, love can hurt. Love can give […]
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We have been looking forward to this talk about valentines for quite a while. It's a time for love and to show each other what and how we think of them. Jess and I decided to give you a bit of information coming from the guy and girl side of things. So if you're interested […]
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It doesn't take much to notice that marriage has been under attack for years and nothing seems to budge. So in our state of the marriage address, we tackle the strategies to get marriage back on track.
Goal: Marriage rate as close to 100% as possible with no chance of divorce.
We are going to build the wall around our marriage so that the ugly threat of divorce has got to get through much stronger defenses than just a suggestion in our head.
Marriage is not a cookie cutter relationship. So bringing your marriage back from the dead will take some thought but here's what we know. In order to get your marriage to show signs of life, you're going to need to immerse yourself into making yourself a better person first. It's never the other guy or […]
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This episode has got to be one of the most important things in a marriage. Jon and Jess discuss the importance of being equal in the spirit and in God's eyes. God says we are, so it must be true refers directly to when God created us equal, yet different. This has been taken to […]
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Love Conquers All – Even Fear Have you ever been in a relationship that you don't feel free to be who you are? This has become an actual segment in today's society. If you were to google this subject you'd get all sorts of answers to conquer the fear that has been holding you at […]
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This podcast is definitely a must listen as we discuss why we all should have relationship goals that define our marriage. We discuss how you can start to implement these goals into your marriage and guide you to the relationship you so desire. They're called marriage goals and they should be a basic part of […]
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Are you ready to get along already? Holiday's can be stressful for families getting together. In this episode we talk about how to treat your spouse, family and beyond during these times so that these times will excite you. After listening to this podcast, you'll be able to start chipping away at those dreaded moments […]
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All too often we get to a point where you're done with Christmas festivities and then you move on to New Years. Almost blindly, going to the celebrations on the eve of New Years Day not knowing when to cut off what's been happening throughout life. The best time is to do it now. In […]
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It's been said that relationships are a dime a dozen by some. And on the flip side, you have people telling you to do this and that or your relationship just won't work out. Jon and Jess discuss a few different things that remove barriers to a true flourishing relationship. And it's all about the […]
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Are in a place that your relationships from the past are haunting you? Are you taking things done to you in the past out on your current marriage? The relationship ghosts of Christmas past can be haunting you ever being in a rewarding relationship with meaning. In today's Podcast, we are going to discuss what to […]
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Have you experienced the holiday stress that takes you well into the summer to really get over? That, my friend, is what we are talking about and how to avoid it in the first place. Very important relationships alert that needs to be dealt with every holiday. That's why we are calling this the holiday […]
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Today we will start diving into how to have a relationship that infuses explosive love into your relationships. In this episode, we are talking about building each other up and why it's necessary to do this all the time. This is probably one of the most critical episodes that will really help you in your […]
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