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Dana Massat

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life.

Be ready to face yourself, your shadow, self-reflection, self-love, healing, awareness and more!

A journey of ascension is a journey of self discovery and self-work; I am on this journey for eternity, we are all in this together and I will take your hand and help you with yours.

Mindfulness & Mental Health Awareness for ALL AGES. We have been in this mental health epidemic way too long, we need to expand the conversations about mental health to a bigger format and stage, and in our families. I can help you start these conversation, attune to yourself, attune to others and be more present and mindful in your life, to help you be aware of when you are out of alignment and your loved ones are out of alignment.

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Resentment rarely begins with one big event—it grows quietly through unspoken hurts, unmet needs, emotional distance, and the busyness of everyday life. In this powerful episode, we explore how resentment develops beneath the surface, why avoiding difficult conversations only strengthens it, and how your nervous system often mistakes silence for peace.

You'll learn how to recognize the earliest warning signs before resentment takes root, communicate your needs without blame or criticism, repair emotional wounds, and cultivate the habits that keep love, trust, and connection alive. We also discuss how neglecting your relationship—even unintentionally—creates fertile ground for resentment and leaves your marriage vulnerable to disconnection.

Whether you're trying to prevent resentment from developing or heal years of emotional distance, this episode offers practical tools, therapeutic insights, and hope for rebuilding intimacy and strengthening your relationship.

In This Episode You'll Learn:

Why resentment is one of the biggest predictors of relationship breakdown.
The subtle warning signs that resentment is beginning to brew.
How avoidance and emotional suppression silently damage intimacy.
Why being "too busy" can slowly erode even strong marriages.
Healthy ways to communicate hurt before it becomes bitterness.
The importance of repair, appreciation, and emotional safety.
How to protect your marriage through intentional connection, curiosity, and weekly relationship check-ins.
Practical strategies to stop keeping score, rebuild trust, and create a relationship that continues to grow through every season of life.

Because great marriages aren't built by chance—they're built by two people who choose each other every single day.

Conflict is an inevitable part of every relationship—but it doesn't have to create distance. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind communication during conflict and why our biggest arguments are often about much more than what's happening on the surface. Learn how your nervous system influences the way you respond under stress, discover the different conflict styles people develop, and understand how childhood experiences, attachment patterns, and emotional triggers shape the conversations you have today. We'll also dive into practical communication tools, common relationship pitfalls, and evidence-based strategies to help you move from reacting defensively to responding with empathy, curiosity, and connection. Whether you're navigating conflict with a partner, family member, friend, or coworker, this episode will help you communicate more effectively and build healthier, stronger relationships.

The goal isn't to avoid conflict—it's to learn how to communicate through it in a way that creates understanding, trust, and lasting connection.

Today we're diving into one of my favorite therapeutic models because once you understand it, you'll never look at yourself the same way again.

Have you ever caught yourself saying...

"Part of me wants to leave my relationship... but another part of me is terrified."

"I know I should go to the gym, but I just can't make myself do it."

"Part of me wants to trust people... but another part pushes everyone away."

"I know what I need to do, but something inside keeps sabotaging me."

If you've ever said something like that...

Congratulations.

You're already speaking the language of Parts Work.

Today we're talking about Internal Family Systems—also known as IFS—a therapeutic approach developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz that has completely transformed how therapists understand trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction, shame, perfectionism, relationships, and healing.

And here's the beautiful part...

IFS starts with one incredibly compassionate assumption.

There are no bad parts of you.

Have you ever felt like you're not good enough or that someone is going to "find out" you don't belong? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore imposter syndrome, why nearly everyone experiences it, and how your brain often mistakes new experiences for danger. Learn why discomfort doesn't mean you're incapable—it simply means you're growing.

Discover how to shift your inner dialogue from "I'm not good enough" to "I'm feeling uncomfortable because this is new." You'll walk away with practical mindset shifts to stop letting fear and self-doubt control your decisions, become the observer instead of the reactor, and begin creating the story you want to live.

Growth begins the moment you stop believing every thought you think.

Is your gut trying to protect you, or is your anxiety telling the story? In this episode, we explore one of the most common questions in relationships: How do I know if I'm experiencing intuition or fear? Learn how trauma, attachment wounds, and nervous system dysregulation can make anxiety feel like intuition, while discovering the subtle qualities that set true intuition apart. We'll discuss practical ways to regulate your nervous system, recognize relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and respond from clarity instead of fear. If you've ever questioned your instincts or found yourself caught between overthinking and inner knowing, this episode will help you reconnect with your authentic wisdom and create healthier, more secure relationships.

Do you keep finding yourself attracted to people who are distant, inconsistent, or unable to fully commit? In this episode, we explore the deeper reasons emotionally unavailable partners can feel so irresistible. From attachment wounds and childhood conditioning to nervous system patterns and trauma bonds, we'll uncover why love can sometimes feel more familiar when it's complicated.

You'll learn how anxiety can be mistaken for chemistry, why secure love may feel "boring" after trauma, and how to recognize the difference between genuine connection and chasing potential. Whether you're tired of attracting the same type of partner or simply curious about your relationship patterns, this episode offers practical insights and healing tools to help you break the cycle and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Because the goal isn't to stop attracting emotionally unavailable people—it's to stop choosing them.

Have you ever found yourself missing someone who was bad for you, feeling bored in a healthy relationship, or creating problems when life is finally peaceful? You may not be craving drama—you may be craving familiarity.

In this episode, we explore the surprising connection between trauma, nervous system conditioning, and the addiction to chaos. Learn why secure love can feel "boring," how your brain can confuse anxiety with chemistry, and why calm may initially feel uncomfortable after years of emotional highs and lows. We'll dive into the science of attachment, nervous system regulation, and the healing journey of learning to feel safe, connected, and fulfilled without the roller coaster.

If you've ever wondered why peace feels strange, why healthy relationships don't always give you butterflies, or why you keep attracting emotional intensity, this episode is for you.

Do you have an energetic vampire in your life—or could you unknowingly be one yourself?

We've all experienced it. You leave a conversation feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, irritated, or completely depleted. Some people seem to drain the life out of a room, while others leave us feeling inspired and energized. But is this really about energy, or is something deeper happening?

In this episode, we explore the fascinating intersection of spirituality, psychology, and nervous system science. We'll unpack what energetic vampires really are, why certain relationships feel so draining, how trauma bonds and codependency create powerful energetic cords, and why traditional cord-cutting rituals don't always work. You'll learn the difference between empathy and emotional enmeshment, how your nervous system responds to difficult people, and the boundaries that actually protect your energy.

Whether you're struggling to let go of someone, feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions, or wondering why you keep attracting emotionally draining relationships, this episode will help you reclaim your energy, strengthen your boundaries, and stop carrying what was never yours to begin with.

Sorry so of the podcast got cut off at the end!!

Have you ever felt like your friendships, habits, or even your old self no longer fit—but you can’t explain why? Sometimes growth doesn’t feel exciting; sometimes it feels lonely, uncomfortable, and confusing. In this episode, we explore the signs you’ve outgrown a timeline, friendship, or version of yourself—and why healing often requires grieving what no longer aligns so you can become who you’re meant to be. ✨

🎙️ New Podcast Episode: Signs You’ve Outgrown a Timeline, Friendship, or Version of Yourself

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Your thoughts are not just thoughts—they become chemistry, nervous system patterns, beliefs, and energetic imprints. The words you repeatedly speak to yourself shape your body, your energy, and ultimately your reality. What if healing begins with changing the conversation happening inside of you?

There has been a massive shift in parenting over the last generation.

Many parents today are trying to heal the wounds they experienced growing up.

They don’t want to scream at their children.

They don’t want fear-based parenting.

They don’t want shame, emotional neglect, harsh punishments, or disconnection.

And that intention is beautiful.

But somewhere along the way, many families misunderstood what healthy parenting actually is.

Because gentle parenting was never supposed to mean:

No boundaries.

No consequences.

No discomfort.

No accountability.

No authority.

In this episode, we explore the difference between reacting from fight-or-flight versus responding from a regulated nervous system. Learn how anger often begins in the body before the mind, why triggers are connected to old wounds and survival patterns, and how practices like breathwork, mindfulness, somatic awareness, and grounding can help us pause before reacting. This conversation is about learning to stay present with emotion instead of being controlled by it—because true healing is feeling anger without becoming anger.

How do we slowly lose sight of who we are? This episode explores the subtle ways people abandon themselves through people-pleasing, over-flexibility, codependency, lack of boundaries, and fear of having needs. Often rooted in childhood wounds, emotional neglect, or emotionally unsafe relationships, many people learn that staying small feels safer than being authentic. Over time, this can lead to burnout, anxiety, resentment, and waking up in a life that no longer feels like your own. This is a deep conversation about nervous system survival patterns, self-abandonment, emotional healing, and the slow process of reconnecting with your authentic self again.

Healthy femininity is not about weakness or traditional roles—it’s about being connected to your body, emotions, intuition, and inner sense of safety. It allows a woman to feel, receive, rest, and move through life with both softness and strength.

However, modern culture often works against this. Society rewards hustle, independence, and constant productivity, pushing many women into chronic stress and survival mode. In this state, the nervous system is dysregulated, making it difficult to access true feminine energy, which thrives in safety, presence, and connection.

As a result, femininity can become distorted—showing up as burnout, anxiety, people-pleasing, or emotional disconnection.

Reclaiming healthy femininity isn’t about becoming someone new, but returning to your natural state. This includes slowing down, reconnecting with your body, setting boundaries, trusting your intuition, and learning to receive.

Ultimately, healthy femininity is a form of grounded, embodied power—one that our culture is still learning how to support.

This episode explores the powerful mindset of releasing what no longer aligns—without needing to know what comes next. Inspired by the bold, intuitive energy of Aries, it dives into the deep inner “knowing” that signals when a chapter is complete, and the courage it takes to honor that ending without hesitation.

Rather than viewing this as impulsive, the episode reframes it as profound self-trust—trust in life, in timing, and in one’s own resilience and ability to navigate whatever comes next. It highlights the idea that endings and beginnings happen simultaneously, and that releasing something creates immediate space for new opportunities to emerge.

At its core, this conversation is about refusing to operate from lack or fear, and instead choosing expansion, alignment, and trust. It’s a reminder that you don’t need the full roadmap—just the clarity that something is complete. From there, life meets you in motion.

When you feel triggered, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns, it’s often not about the present moment—it’s a younger part of you asking to be seen. Instead of reacting automatically, pause and turn inward. Get curious about what you’re feeling and where it’s coming from. Beneath the reaction is your inner child—holding unmet needs, emotions, and experiences that are ready to be acknowledged.

True healing happens when you shift from judgment to compassion, creating safety within yourself. When you tune into your inner child, you stop repeating patterns and start responding with awareness, connection, and a stronger sense of self.

Toxic empathy occurs when your ability to understand and care for others leads you to ignore your own needs, boundaries, and well-being. Instead of balanced compassion, it becomes self-abandonment—excusing harmful behavior, over-giving, and avoiding conflict to keep others comfortable.

It often stems from trauma, people-pleasing tendencies, or fear of rejection, and is linked to the nervous system’s “fawn” response. While it feels like kindness, it can lead to burnout, resentment, and one-sided relationships.

Healthy empathy, in contrast, allows you to care for others while still honoring yourself. This includes setting boundaries, expressing when something hurts, and recognizing that understanding someone does not mean tolerating disrespect.

👉 Key takeaway: Empathy without boundaries is self-abandonment.

Parallel parenting is a structured co-parenting approach used when communication between parents is high-conflict, emotionally unsafe, or consistently unproductive. Instead of trying to “work together” in the traditional sense, each parent operates independently within clearly defined boundaries—reducing interaction while still supporting the child’s needs.

Are you being “too much”… or are you finally being honest?

This episode explores the fear of bringing up hard conversations in relationships and how avoiding them keeps you stuck. Growth doesn’t come from staying quiet or keeping the peace—it comes from speaking your truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. The real question is: are you being difficult, or are you finally choosing authenticity?

Getting out of the “shitty simulation” starts with awareness—recognizing that what you’re thinking, consuming, and believing is shaping your experience. From there, it’s about intentionally choosing new thoughts, new beliefs, and new emotional patterns that align with the life you actually want. This requires daily practice, accountability, and letting go of inputs that keep you stuck—whether that’s negative self-talk, limiting beliefs, or other people’s chaos.

You don’t have to control everything around you, but you do have control over your focus, your environment, and your internal state. Protect your energy, celebrate small wins, and consistently reinforce the version of reality you want to live in. Over time, your internal world shifts—and your external experience begins to follow.

Your purpose and your career don’t always have to be the same—and sometimes, it’s actually better when they’re not. When we turn something we’re passionate about into our work, we can lose boundaries, overgive, and eventually burn out, causing what once brought us joy to feel heavy. There is freedom in allowing your career to simply support your life, while keeping your passions sacred—giving you space to create, explore, and reconnect with what truly lights you up without pressure or expectation.

In this episode of Where Psychology Meets Spirituality, we explore the truth behind “chemistry” in dating—and why what feels like a spark isn’t always a sign of compatibility. Often, our nervous system is drawn to what is familiar, not what is healthy. This means we can feel intense attraction toward partners who mirror old attachment wounds, creating a dynamic of chasing, inconsistency, and emotional highs and lows.

We unpack how “chemistry” can sometimes be wounds activating each other, and why these connections feel so powerful. At the same time, we explore why dating someone emotionally healthy can initially feel calm, slow, or even “boring”—because it lacks the chaos the body is used to.

This episode offers a new perspective on attraction, helping listeners understand the difference between intensity and safety, and guiding them toward relationships that feel grounded, consistent, and truly secure.

If you’ve ever questioned why you’re drawn to certain people—or why healthy love feels unfamiliar—this conversation will help you begin to date with awareness, intention, and a regulated nervous system.

Radical acceptance is the practice of fully accepting reality as it is without judgment, resistance, or blame. Instead of wasting energy trying to change or process what cannot be controlled, it allows us to clearly see where people and situations truly are. From that place of acceptance, we become more empowered to make intentional choices, set boundaries, and move forward with clarity and peace.

Attachment styles shape how we connect, communicate, and feel safe in relationships, and they often develop from our earliest experiences with caregivers in childhood. These early relational patterns influence how we respond to closeness, conflict, and emotional needs in adulthood. By understanding our attachment style and those of our partners, we can create greater awareness, compassion, and healthier, more secure relationships.

This episode explores the intersection of psychology and spirituality and how true healing often happens when both are integrated. While traditional therapy helps us understand our thoughts, behaviors, and emotional patterns, deeper healing also involves the body, nervous system, and our search for meaning and connection. By combining psychological insight with spiritual awareness, people can move beyond simply managing symptoms and begin to experience deeper transformation, self-understanding, and a renewed sense of wholeness.

In this episode, we explore the power of not taking the bait in arguments and toxic dynamics. When someone provokes, criticizes, or tries to pull you into chaos, your nervous system naturally wants to react. But reacting keeps old patterns alive. Staying calm? That’s the real flex.

This conversation breaks down why emotional regulation is strength—not weakness—and how stepping into the observer role disrupts toxic cycles. You’ll learn how to recognize when your body is hooked, how to pause before escalating, and why choosing peace over proving a point is a powerful act of self-trust.

Being calm in the storm doesn’t mean you’re passive. It means you’re grounded. And when you refuse to attend every argument you’re invited to, you shift the dynamic entirely.

This episode is about nervous system mastery, emotional maturity, and embodying power without raising your voice.

In this episode, we explore the quiet pressure so many mothers carry — the expectation to do everything perfectly while holding it all together. From maintaining a spotless home to being endlessly patient and emotionally available, the internal standard can become overwhelming and exhausting.

We unpack how perfectionism in motherhood often shifts the nervous system into survival mode, leading to irritability, over-functioning, or emotional shutdown. When motherhood becomes performance, presence disappears.

This conversation invites you to step out of pressure and back into regulation. You’ll learn how peace begins in the body — not in a finished to-do list — and why children don’t need a perfect mother, they need a regulated one. Through simple, grounding practices and gentle reframes, we explore how returning to the present moment opens the door to calm, connection, and authentic happiness.

This episode is a reminder that you are allowed to soften.

You are allowed to release perfection.

And you are allowed to mother from peace — even in the mess.

Letting your child grow into independence doesn’t happen all at once — and when it does, it can feel shocking, painful, or even grief-filled. In this episode, we explore how healthy separation is meant to happen gradually, through thousands of small moments that build autonomy, confidence, and secure attachment over time.

This conversation is for parents navigating the tender balance between closeness and letting go — whether your child is still young, entering adolescence, heading off to college, or building a life with a partner. We talk about why independence can feel threatening to the nervous system, how parenting identities can get tangled with being needed, and how to shift from control to trust without losing connection.

You’ll learn how autonomy is built in everyday moments, why secure attachment actually allows children to return — not disappear — and how parents can prepare emotionally so major life transitions don’t feel like an abrupt loss. Instead, they can feel like evolution.

This episode invites you to reframe letting go as an act of love, trust, and deep connection — one that supports your child in becoming a whole, capable adult while allowing your relationship to grow into something new and meaningful.

In relationships, many conflicts aren’t really about the issue being discussed — they’re about the need to feel heard, understood, and emotionally safe. Too often, couples find themselves fighting to be right, have the last word, or prove their perspective instead of listening with curiosity and compassion.

In this episode, we explore why couples get stuck in defensive communication cycles and how the nervous system, attachment patterns, and emotional triggers influence how partners show up during conflict. We break down how the drive to “win” arguments can unintentionally create distance, disconnection, and repeated relationship patterns.

Listeners will learn how shifting from certainty to curiosity can dramatically change the emotional safety, trust, and connection within their relationship. This episode offers insight into how slowing down conversations, regulating emotional responses, and listening with genuine interest can transform conflict into opportunities for deeper understanding and growth.

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why do we keep having the same argument?” or “Why does it feel so hard to be heard?” — this conversation will provide practical tools and compassionate perspective to help couples move from reactive communication toward intentional, connected partnership.

Because healthy relationships are not built by winning arguments — they are built by learning how to understand each other.

Let’s talk about the word “narcissist.”

It’s everywhere right now.

On social media. In therapy spaces. In conversations about exes, bosses, parents, partners.

And while narcissism is real, the overuse of the label is quietly creating confusion, fear, and self-doubt.

Here’s the truth most people aren’t talking about:

✨ We all have narcissistic tendencies.

✨ Very few people meet criteria for true Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

✨ Not every painful, avoidant, or emotionally unavailable relationship equals narcissism.

Recovering from people-pleasing isn’t about becoming less kind—it’s about becoming more honest with yourself. In this episode, we explore how people-pleasing begins as a survival strategy rooted in early relationships, emotional safety, and the nervous system. You’ll learn why over-giving, avoiding conflict, and prioritizing others’ needs can feel automatic—and how to begin shifting from external validation to internal safety. This conversation is an invitation to reconnect with your body, your truth, and relationships that don’t require self-abandonment.

In many relationships, we focus on behaviors—more affection, more respect, more intimacy—without first looking at the foundation underneath them. For many women in their feminine energy, emotional safety is the foundation. And when that foundation is laid, the masculine often finds that his needs are met naturally, without force or demand.”

“Today we’re talking about something that gets confused a lot in healing and mental health spaces—avoidance versus radical acceptance.

Both can look calm on the outside. Both can sound like ‘I’m fine.’

But one keeps us stuck… and the other sets us free.”

Mastering your wholeness is your foundation that you bring forward to help you achieve the goals you desire.

If you are leaving yourself open to be triggered or manipulated, you are not playing the game of life to it's highest potential.

We are all getting scammed to hit it hard in January, to reset! To be our best selves and to change everything! It's not sustainable. Instead, spread out your goals throughout the entire year allowing you time to master one or two at a time. Then step into a new year feeling proud and accomplished, instead of stepping into a new year feeling "dang I need to get my shit together!"

Depersonalization is just soul recognition and yes that means your soul is using this Human form as an avatar.

Why do we shame or judge people for not sharing or processing their life and emotions with others?

So sorry for the sound disturbance in the beginning.

We are so used to pointing the finger at others. They are my problem, it's not me, if they would change this or that, my life would be better. Let go of that idea and just focus on you. Focus on your peace and joy. This will help you grow and then give you the clarity that you need for your path.

Once narrative I have been hearing lately is I am choosing to not have children because the world is so unhealthy and unstable. And I have to chuckle; really? This time in history, this present moment is considered the dark ages to you? It almost makes what our ancestors went through, barbaric times, or times when our ancestors had to move to a new village or land because an invader stole their land, insignificant. Yet they were still having children. Our ancestors are badass, and if you are prescribing to narratives that are limiting you, what does that make you?

Whether you are trying to heal or shift your mental state of being or have a health goal to achieve, there is no easy button. Most likely you know what you need to do, but you want an easy solution. Yet the easy solution is not truly changing your habits or mentality.

The growth mindset is open, optimistic, realistic, and ready to grow and learn from their lessons. Victim mindset is always placing blame on others, close minded, and resistant.

We have a society that favors the victim mentality, and teaches us to become our trauma, not heal from it, or become resilient.

Sometimes we make achieving our goals too hard from the start. We are over planning, seeking perfection or even so afraid of failure that letting go of the goal is less of a risk.

Anything that is happening outside of us as the collective, good, bad, ugly, beautiful, etc., is a reflection and manifestation of the collective shadow.

Guess what? Those Happy people you admire, can be you! You just have to drop the victim consciousness and step into acceptance of the journey and show up!

What is success? What is holding you back? Sometimes its our own beliefs and thought patterns that keep us stuck or small in our life.

Many times subconsciously and just through survival, the victim turns into an abuser, to themselves and others.

The drama triangle is a model of human interaction comprised of three roles: victim, perpetrator, rescuer. The victim is passive and helpless to the perpetrator, the perpetrator is pressuring, manipulating or persecuting the victim, and the rescuer intervenes to “save” the victim and stop the perpetrator.

Through sickness and in health... doesn't mean that sitting in a relationship long term only giving 30% is okay. Yes sometimes we hit rough patches, sometimes we have a long term illness. But what I have noticed is many over functioning partners leaving the under functioning partners. Why? Because they no longer feel joy in the relationship and they are finally choosing themselves.

It's wonderful to get professional support and guidance when you are healing, but the most important and hardest part of healing, is the work you do on your own.

Healing your shadow can should daunting and also confusing. What is the shadow? The shadow is basically everything you have been sweeping under the rug and sometimes that includes what your family has been sweeping under the rug.

Lustful love is filled with fantasy, lives on the surface; Mature love has deep tree roots, yet can fade. What is better? Can lustful love turn into Mature love?

Rumination is indulging in your pain; some therapists will also indulge in your trauma and pain. This weaves it into your personality instead of creating resilience. The path to healing is accepting your trauma, not focusing on the why or who, because must likely those variables have been removed. What you do have control of after a trauma is how you move through it. Some people want to say they don’t have control over their life or emotions, but that’s just not true. It requires effort to shift from rumination to freedom. It takes effort to change the narrative. Trauma is 💯 going to happen. The darkness is the teacher. No one is going to leave Earth without some type of trauma. We have to accept that darkness is here, we need to be aware of it, and learn from it. But as soon as the focus becomes the trauma, you have stopping living. You have stopped living in the present.

. “At the end of this journey, what matters is how you felt during your journey, not what you did or accomplished. The Earthly chaos is perfect, yet we keep getting distracted, trying to change it. The goal is to cultivate more inner peace and joy in the midst of the chaos. The chaos will always be.”

We spend so much time worried, am I with the right person? Even before we make the commitment, we are obsessed with that question. What if I told you, there is no right person.

Everything is pretty clear, right in front of us, yet we are choosing to not see clearly. What do I mean by this? Sometimes we are attached to a fantasy or outcome; therefore we are cancelling out the red flags and giving more weight to pretty words.

Some of our narratives are holding us back, keeping us from reaching our goals. Sometimes we believe these beliefs are ours, when maybe they are not?

Love is based on freedom or fear. Fear and love cannot exist at the same time, you can only be in one at each moment, When does love become obligation and when does love become freedom?

I promise you, you will go through periods of your life where you completely loose yourself to a relationship, career, trauma, or even your children. We are supposed to loose ourselves, to find our new selves.

Dana Massat + Dana Bartolotta come back to spill the tea on spiritually, religion+energy healing, growing pains, the goddess Kali and More!!!

Dana is Founder of Wholistic Wellness in Frankfort IL & Ascend Your Soul. She is a Cranial Sacral Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Healer, Teacher and Shaman with 15 years of Shamanic Integrative Healing and Holistic Modalities. Dana is the Owner of Sacred Journey Institute, one of the elite schools of CranioSacral Therapy & Miasm Release. Dana journeys beyond ordinary to work with the multi-dimensional trauma and it's effects on human behavior.

Dana Bartolotta Founder of R &R Integrative Wellness is a Licensed Massage Therapist. Co-Owner at Main Street Wellness & Skincare. Graduate of CSMT in 2002. Active member in the AMTA. Specialized in deep tissue, lymphatic drainage, Swedish, Tai table massage, along with Nationally cert. in pregnancy massage. As Reiki Master. Certifications in Transformational Health and Life Coaching. Always eager to learn more to help as many people with their Health and Wellness journey.

Dana host of the Mindful Momma Podcast chats with Mark the Midwest Medium on topics of Victim Consciousness, the importance of our connection to Mother Earth, Trendy Spirituality, Twin Flames, Emotional IQ, Mental Health & More!

Mark is a Chicago native that provides Spiritual guidance to many around the world in the form of readings or teaching on topics such as Healing, Psychic, Mediumship and Astrology. Mark has made appearances on television and radio, most recently returning to the television show VH1's "Black Ink Crew: Chicago," demonstrating his Mediumship gifts. Mark is also on most social media outlets, as he believes passing down the knowledge to the next generation of Spiritual seekers is important to help them on their spiritual journey. Mark believes that it is the Lightworkers of today that will be instrumental in restoring peace and harmony on earth once again for generations to come.

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Dana Massat

Shaman + Licensed Psychotherapist

MA. LCPC. CST. SJT. MRT.

Dana is Co-Founder of Wholistic Wellness in Frankfort IL & Ascend Your Soul. She is a Cranial Sacral Therapist, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Healer, Teacher and Shaman with 15 years of Shamanic Integrative Healing and Holistic Modalities. Dana is the Owner of Sacred Journey Institute, one of the elite schools of CranioSacral Therapy & Miasm Release. Dana journeys beyond ordinary to work with the multi-dimensional trauma and it's effects on human behavior.

www.danamassat.com

We are the ones that created the division in our mind of the Conscious & Subconscious by creating preferences (good/bad). We push out the negative into the subconscious, instead of just being open to experiencing life on life's terms and not our own.

Your brain is more easily trained/programmed to the negative. Following a trauma or negative incident, the brain is programmed to the negative in a way to protect you and keep you safe

A trigger is an alarm system notifying us that an unhealed wound is being activated. In this moment we usually go into fight, flight, defense or another protective motion to protect. What we really should be doing is being the observing of the moment and go inward.

Sometimes we mistake love and support, as not bringing up uncomfortable or confronting topics in a relationship. Or not bringing awareness to our partners struggles or unhealthy patterns. But part of love and support is accountability and growth

Knowing our parts, the different aspects of ourselves, helps us react differently to situations and people

The Holiday season can be such a fun time! Yet the dark side is it can bring up heavy emotions and be very triggering. Guess what? You have some control to ensure this season is mostly light by setting boundaries, tending to your inner child and putting yourself first

Our bodies are meant to move; as a species we are meant to create and challenge ourselves.

People that have a positive mindset or resilience are not special, they are most likely going through some of the same things, challenges, drama, etc that the rest of the world are going through. They choose to react differently in these moments; they choose to not be controlled by fear and they understand that discomfort is a sign of growth. To grow, to achieve, you have to feel come pain or discomfort to get the pot of gold.

There is a theory that coddling society can create a weak society. That too many accommodations can make us weak. What do you think?

Resistance and the Ego pops up whenever life doesn't go our way; but what if we can reframe that, soften and see life as mirrors reflecting back to us on how we need to grow or heal?

The tides always change. Until recent our identities have been defined by intangible items like purpose, community, morals and how can I give make to the community. Even asking questions like, "why am I here on Earth, to do what?"

Our focus on our identity has now become narcissistic, focusing to much on the self, not able to be uncomfortable. The identity has now become the obsession with gender, sexual orientation and even pronouns. Again, all focused on the self.

To reach wholeness and contentment the identity has to be anchored in intangible items, otherwise it's superficial and narcissistic.

What roles and masks have you picked up along the way, that maybe you want to put down? Sometimes we are afraid to change the game because of how others will react.

The path is unknown, we have made the mistake of assuming we have control or forgetting that our soul has chosen lessons to obtain.

Josephine & I are chatting about victim mentality, second gains from certain behaviors, Akashic Records, and healing during the pandemic.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Josephine Hardman, PhD is a certified intuitive healer and Akashic Records teacher. She spent 10 years teaching Shakespeare and writing at the college level before transitioning into full-time spiritual work. Josephine's soul purpose is to help her clients and students fully awaken the healer within. She hosts a weekly podcast, Inner Work: A Spiritual Growth Podcast, and teaches a self-paced Akashic Records Level 1 Course as well as a comprehensive Akashic Records Certification Program.

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Petra & I are chatting about TwinFlames, Love, Relationships, Love Bombing, Love-bombing and how some of the instincts and pulls towards another person may not be a Divine Partnership, but old trauma and familiar patterns.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Petra Hui- the Founder and Divine Channel of Ethos Experiences.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ I am a Transformational Healer, Coach and Facilitator with years of experience in Women’s Work, Theta Healing, Neurolingustic Programming (NLP), Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Akashic Records & Intuitive Readings, Channelling, Authentic Relating and Family Constellation.

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A new wave of healing is taking over the world...

By now you have most likely heard of the Ayahuasca, psychedelic mushrooms and other plant medicine. Sacred plants have been used in ceremonies throughout the ages, and by many different cultures and even religions. A medicine ceremony usually includes a spiritual ceremony in which a healing plant is being ingested or smoked. Those who participate are there with the intentions of spiritual growth or healing. Ceremonies are performed by a competent and experienced shaman who has long experience with the power medicine plant that they work with.

Carole & I are chatting about Victim Mentality, finding your purpose, the Unknown, and how to heal during the unique time of the pandemic.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Carole Blackburn is a Certified Life & Wellness Coach, Motivational Speaker and upcoming author who specializes in empowering women to reclaim their life’s passion and purpose. Through transformational coaching practices, Carole has helped many women break free from feeling stuck and unfulfilled in their lives. Her passion is to continue to reach women who need the support, motivation, and accountability to step into their greatness. Carole’s Coaching skills not only help to identify limiting beliefs and work through personal challenges but to take actionable steps towards consistently living a fulfilled and joyful life, offered through her 1-on-1 coaching program, group coaching program as well as customized workshops and seminars.

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It's funny how we were taught/programmed to find someone else to then become whole. Yet we are whole, right now, in this moment.

What is attunement? How do I reach my child? When the parent child relationship has been fractured, the path to healing is attunement and connection. Creating positive experiences and coming down to their level. Sometimes we want children to rise to our level and follow our lead, but what about getting to know their uniqueness and needs?

Disorders and Diagnosis can feel like a death sentence or as if you have lost control over your emotions and mind. When we feel those waves of anxiety, panic or depression; we may get lost, pushed down or knocked out. What if you got to know those emotions and energies and could start to shift it on your own?

Sometimes a label/diagnosis can help us understand ourselves or even get on the right healing path to balance our mental health and begin to feel better. Yet, there is a dark side to labels; they can limit us, trigger fear, or become our full identity. What if you had some control to bring your mental health challenge into balance?

Lynn & I are chatting about Connect. Flow. Grow, disconnection in families, healing our own SHIT, stress response, and how to help children heal.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Lynn Jimenezis a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who's niche is stress response system activation, which includes daily stress, anxiety, depression, and trauma responses. She is also certified as an EFT (tapping) practitioner and Yoga Instructor. Her favorite tools to help neutralize the stress response system are 1) tapping 2)nurturing relationships and 3) mindfulness. Lynn founded Connect Flow Grow to help people access the skills and tools she uses to manage her own stress and anxiety, which are the same skills she teaches to her 3 boys and her clients.

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Diana & I are chatting about Mental Health Awareness Month (May), the amazing efforts that California is making for Mental Health; Each Mind Matters / Promise to Talk & Raising Healthy Teens / Strength in Numbers, PTSD from COVID-19, and tools to help with anxiety and depression.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Diana Linn, PsyD, is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California. She is the Manager of Community Behavioral Health at Mission Hospital in Orange County, and supports a Team of therapists and case managers at two Family Resource Centers. Diana helps to direct the Each Mind Matters / Promise to Talk mental health stigma reduction campaign in Orange County; and a youth substance use prevention program: Raising Healthy Teens / Strength in Numbers. Previously, Diana offered psychotherapy services in children’s mental health agencies, schools, a university clinic, and private practice.

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Malorine & I are chatting about clairvoyant, clairsentient and clairaudient skills; astrology, karma, past lives, and what is the spiritual meaning of all the chaos of 2020!

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Malorine Mathurin is an Intuitive Astrologer who uses her clairvoyant, clairsentient and clairaudient skills in her Tarot, Numerology and Divination readings to help her clients. Malorine has studied various forms of Divination and spirituality through her Caribbean roots and ancestry and is a self-taught Astrologer and Cartomancer with over 25 years experience. She has a strong passion for helping and nurturing people while they work through karma from previous lives. She uses her Cancer Moon in the 10th house to provide nurturing to her clients in a practical, supportive and grounded way. Malorine’s primary objective is to discharge the karmic issues that are blocking your mental, emotional, spiritual and psychological happiness. In every session and encounter, she aims to offer her client clarity, calm, kindness and understanding in addition to a proactive plan to get to the root of the trauma (s) and develop their dharma or life purpose. Malorine is also a Usui Reiki Master, an IET (Integrated Energy Therapy) Master Teacher, an experienced Tarot reader/Cartomancer with over 20 years’ experience, Numerologist, Akashic Records channeler (trained through Cristina Cross at Maha Rose) and focuses on past life work and mediumship within all her sessions, workshops and classes. She hosts monthly regular moon and community circles through various online healing spaces such as Minka Brooklyn, Maha Rose, Heatwise Yoga, Heal Haus and Catland Bookstore in addition to as running Beginner to Professional Astrology courses a few times each year. Malorine has been featured in Mind Body Green as one of the ‘40+ Black spiritual thought leaders to follow and learn from’ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/black-spiritual-leaders-and-organizations-to-follow

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Sabrina & I are chatting about Dark Night of the Soul, Mystery Schools, Archetypes, stepping away from our programming and finding our authentic truths & gifts.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Founder of ReWilding for Women, ReWilding for Men and now ReUnion,Sabrina Lynnhas spent over a decade revolutionizing spirituality. Her work is constantly evolving, but has maintained the same guiding star: removing barriers so each person can find and follow their own direct line to radical transformation and evolution. Sabrina is known in particular for raw and evocative workshops that guide people beyond the limitations of the mind, into the body and subconscious where true transformation lies. These workshops, in-person and virtual, utilize practices Sabrina designed and developed herself, diving into ancient energetic wisdom using modern modalities that are more accessible to people today, and are thus able to create lasting emotional, mental, physical and spiritual change. Sabrina has 14 years of experience studying, practicing, and teaching archetypal psychology, neuroscience, corporate leadership, shamanism, energetic healing, meditation, somatic experiencing, physiology and mind-body connection.

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Cori & I are chatting about EDMR, healing trauma, racial trauma, Sex therapy, tearing down the stigmas and barriers surrounding mental health in the Black community & the Brunch and Boundaries Podcast.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Cori Hill is a licensed therapist specializing in trauma, identity, relationships, and anxiety. She is the owner of Chill Counseling, co-owner and co-founder of Kinnect Wellness Network, and co-host of the Brunch and Boundaries podcast. Cori’s work centers mental and spiritual health at the individual and community level.

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Attunement in parenting is so important, because it helps us understand that what we go through as parents (our emotions), also energetically get passed through the children (without words). Therefore, sometimes when our children act out, they are a mirror to us as parents, that something is going on with us that we need to address.

Chasing a career, person or relationship is sometimes a buffer (a distraction) to ourselves. We focus on this, so we don't have to focus on what's brewing inside of ourselves.

Spiritual Bypass is when we are living our wise spiritual self in one arena of our life, but leaving it at the door when we enter another aspect of our life.

Repairing the relationship with mother/father, isn't about getting them to parent you the way you desire. It's you learning to parent yourself and to be in an adult relationship with your parent.

Christina & I are chatting about women's fertility, work-mom-life balance, over use of birth control, Chinese Medicine.

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Christina Dwyer graduated from Pacific College of Oriental Medicine as Valedictorian with a Masters of Science in Traditional Oriental Medicine. She received her Bachelors Degree in Biomedical Science from Marquette University. She is board certified by the National Certification Commission for Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine in Chinese herbology and acupuncture. Her four-year masters program included over 3,000 hours of study and over 1,000 hours of clinical internship. She treated a number of health ailments ranging from women’s health, musculoskeletal disorders, pain management, digestive issues, weight management, and psychological disorders. Additionally, she studied as an intern under experts, specializing in women’s health, fertility and pregnancy. Christina has a passion for treating women’s health, fertility, and pregnancy with the more natural approach of Chinese medicine. She is actively engaged in continuing her education to specialize in these areas. She believes that with a foundation of Chinese Medicine, addressing diet, lifestyle, exercise, and emotional well-being, these key components can achieve optimum health and balance.

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Kat & I are chatting about the dark night of the soul, Starseeds, Crystals, Healing energy, Divine Homesickness, and the mantra "I do not consent".

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life. www.ascendyoursoul.com

Kathleen (Kat) is a Crystal Healer, Intuitive and designer. Following the flow that led her to create Crystal Rising. Activated with crystalline energy from Shamans and gurus from all walks of life she serves this higher purpose of connecting the Crystalline Grid and being a container of light. Kat is a Native New Mexican and comes from a line of healers. Her designs flow with a southwest vibe. She wears her grandmother's turquoise during each healing bringing in the powerful New Mexico earth energy into all she creates. Kat is currently in Sacramento, California where she holds weekly ceremonies, workshops and healings.

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Christina & I are chatting about the dark night of the soul, how to be unapologetic and live your most authentic life!

Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life.

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Christina Sutra self taught artist, feminine embodiment and lifestyle transformation coach. She is married and has 3 small children. Christina works from home, running an art business and also loves coaching women to live their most embodied and unapologetic lives. She loves assisting women in finding their most expansive and expressive self so that they can manifest their dreams into reality. She is passionate about what she does and she brings this magnetic energy into all that she does.

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Mark & I discussed some HOT TOPICS for the spiritual realm: shadow work, TwinFlames, Soulmates, mediumship & reincarnation. ENJOY!

Mark Troy known as the Midwest Medium. Mark provides guidance to people all over the world using his psychic mediumship ability. Utilizing his ability has allowed him to provide 10's of thousands of people since 2002. Today, Mark also mentors people around the world, helping them unfold their psychic and mediumship ability, as well as teach them the field of Astrology. Mark believes that this ability is something that can be and aide and of some guidance, but it is not perfect nor meant to solve all of our problems. Mark has professional experience in Clinical Psychology as well as his many years as a professional psychic medium, astrologer and mentor.

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Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life.

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My next guest on Mindful Souls is Shelly Burton is an internationally acclaimed Energy Medicine Woman.

We cover:

Life altering incidents that help align you with your purpose.
Drawing out the healer in you.
Covid as evolutionary pressure. Learning to sit with and heal uncomfortable feelings.
Questioning reality and creating a new society.
Energy medicine and trauma healing as self-love.
Finding your unique gifts as a healer and learning to trust yourself. How this creates freedom.
Empath life hacks. Clearing overstimulation to hear your intuition. Not taking on other’s feelings or trying to “fix” them for them. Holding the vision for others as being capable of healing their own wounds.
Boundaries: the importance of being able to say no and how this helps you trust yourself. Understanding and healing co-dependency.
What to do if you feel bad for not taking on others emotions.
Empathy as love.
Empaths and addiction. The core of addiction being a lack of emotional connection.
How are you living? Doing the work to feel better rather than dissociating.
Applying love to our deepest wounds as self-love.
Healing childhood wounds. Why exploring these doesn’t mean mom and dad are “bad”.
Feel to heal. Transmuting the emotional body through the application of love.

AND MORE!!!

After enduring a life-altering concussion, Shelly Burton found her true calling as a facilitator of knowledge and inner-connectivity. Her ability to form bonds and connections with others, and various aspects of nature led her to excel in healing dances, horse training, drumming, and hands-on healing practices. Shelly interprets the world through a comprehensive lens that combines her academic proficiency in both biomedicine, and medical anthropology, along with her deep-rooted understanding of spiritual and emotional healing. In fact, her innovative approach to self-improvement practices has garnered the attention of large media outlets including the BBC World Service, The Toronto Star and the Huffington Post.

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Dana Massat, Founder of Ascend Your Soul, a Shamanic Holistic Practitioner, Healer & Teacher for over 15 years and Psychotherapist is the Mindful Momma. Author of The Shaman's Daughter. We are talking about Mental Health, self-work, awareness, spirituality, kids, relationships, wounds, childhood, parenting, & life.

KRISTEN INGRAM is an award-winning CEO & Executive Producer at PLUS ONE society – a black-owned event production and marketing agency focused on social justice and racial equity servicing the sports, entertainment and media industries. Prior to launching PLUS ONE, Kristen was the Head of Affiliate Marketing for NFL NETWORK.

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Sometimes our story of our trauma or childhood because our identity... HOW? Because we allowed our trauma or story to overtake ourselves; we told the story so much, got stuck in it and never found our path to healing out of it. No worries, there is still time. We can always change the power of the story/trauma, we can always step into a new story of our choice. Our story and trauma doesn't have to define us or create us, it can change or evolve us into something we desire.

Surprise Surprise! We assume that if the symptoms are different, the wounds are different in siblings. Yet the wound is the same, the symptoms and personality can look different. When we are wounded in childhood, some of us externalize our pain and some of us internalize our pain. Most of the time, the one externalizing the pain, gets the scapegoat label and the one internalizing the pain, gets the healthy label.

Discomfort and blockages are information of where more healing is needed. When we resist, we can't see or hear the lesson or wisdom. We become stuck. Repair your relationship with discomfort and blockages.

Sometimes we don't know if we are experiencing depression or if our mind/body is asking for rest (to slow down).

Reframing your past doesn't mean minimizing it or skipping over the pain, it means taking control over what you learn from it and how you carry it through life.

In what ways are you taking up emotional, physical, & mental space? Do you claim your energy? Your emotions? Have you claimed your right to be here and your worth?

We assume closure has to be done with two people, or more; yet that is disempowering. If we need another person to heal us, to help us move forward, what does that mean? Maybe our idea of closure has been limited this whole time?

Typically we cling to control and the Ego convinces us we will get that control we seek, yet ...there is no end. We never get the control we desire. Why. Because the unknown will always exist and it always changes, so getting control is impossible. A battle you wont ever win

Is speaking your truth seen as confrontation? Is confrontation negative? Speaking your truth can be done with firmness, strength and compassion; so why don't we feel encouraged always to do so? What is holding us back?

We attach to our external world, and we internalize suffering. Yet suffering starts from within, it doesn't come from outside of us, unless we have it already within. Is suffering a choice or state of mind? Do we have a choice to suffer or not, or does it just happen?

Is your external world motivating you or accumulating negative emotions? Sometimes our external world we receive as a way to tell us how to feel and react. When we evolve and mature, we begin to understand that we are incharge of our emotions and reactions; and no matter what is going on outside of us, we can choose what we attach too.

Neither! When people are responding and reacting from their wounds, insecurities or inner child; you are stuck in an unhealthy pattern. This can be changed through mindfulness and choosing to respond from your healthy adult-self, and nurturing your inner child and wounds.

Sometimes we say yes when we want to say no. Sometimes we hold back our true feeling or opinions, because we don't want to hurt another person; this all can turn into people pleasing. I wonder if we are all adults and can handle the truth?

Evolving as a couple is not done by avoiding sensitive topics or keeping things at status quo... evolving as a couple takes effort, action and intention.

Attachment is always from our own Human-ness or Ego, detachment is from the Spirit, knowing that the world is not happening to us, we are creating our reality.

Victim mentality is usually a pattern that is taught and passed down, generation to generation. Or a trauma happens, and healing never happens.

Dana time with Divine talking about Spirituality, ascension and Dana's new memoir "the shaman's daughter" that will be release this month

Releasing old negative patterns is quite easy and very difficult. The steps are easy, but fighting the old pattern can be hard, because it feels good and familiar in the moment; yet the regret and shame always seem to follow.

We attract what we are and sometimes that means a partner that is just a lesson and meant to help us grow, or maybe grow together? Instead of Why me? Shift to "What am I here to learn now?"

You can be free from triggers, it's a process of the energy behind it lessening, having less and less power over you, until you notice one day "Wow this doesn't affect me like it used too." It takes awareness, discipline and mental strength to reprogram the trigger and to FREE yourself!

Make space in your life for something, more, bigger and better; let go of what doesn't serve you and open up to something of a higher vibration

During this time, of hard truths and realities coming to the surface, it can be confusing and emotional. We might want to run away, but you can't, it's time to face the truths and evolve, starting with ourselves.

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Join "the Dana's" as they discuss topics from spirituality, family-life, awakening, healing, and facing their own shadows.

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Dana Bartolotta is a married mom of two. Always finding beauty in all things. Empath and lightworker. Seeking her life purpose to help others heal and find their passion. Graduate of Chicago School Massage Therapy in 2003. Reiki Master and doTerra essential oil distributor. Dana did a lot of self mastery and deep dive into her spirituality. Answering the divine calling to learn more to help others beyond physical. From that she has become a Health/Life Coach and a Meditation Leader. Connecting people to their true self and balance of life.Mission to empower and inspire.Helping them revive their inner beauty and heal throughout. This has lead her to find many like minded souls. Pairing with a couple of entrepreneurs in Health and Beauty to expand her vision and collaborate in a studio.

Dana Massat, is a Licensed Psychotherapist (MA in Clinical Psychology), a Graduate and Instructor at Sacred Journey Institute, is a Holistic Practitioner, Energy Healer, Intuitive & Divine Channel. Dana has studied Shamanism for the past 15 years and continues to be a pioneer in the field of energy medicine using a shamanic and Intuitive approach to healing bringing her clients health (mind-body-soul) back into perfect balance. She can psychically ‘see’ blockages and aliments in the client's body by intuitive means in person and remotely. Dana Massat's work has been endorsed by many well-known health professionals, authors, artists, psychologists and peers. Dana see's clients in-person at her Chicagoland office. Dana journeys beyond ordinary to work with the multi-dimensional trauma and it's effects on human behavior. My passion is helping each client become the expert of their life by changing their beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, patterns, & behaviors. I work with children, adolescents, teenagers, adults in individual, couples, and families. I hold space for you by meeting you right where you are & I gently guide you back to your inner wisdom as you reclaim all the parts of yourself that you may have lost or have not trusted.

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Manifesting is a mix of setting intentions, taking action and letting go and trusting in Divine.

Patterns are operating in our conscious mind and subconscious mind, which means you may not even realize you are repeating family patterns, that you may have said years before, "I will not be like that."

Making an altar is fun! But also it raises the vibration of your home and you! It keeps the energy flowing, transmuting and the vibes high.

Stress can impact our relationships because we loose our sense of safety and grounding. When we are flowing in our routines and all is well, the relationship can feel well, even if there are issues. When everything stops, you have no choice but to examine yourself and your relationships

We tend to seek validation and confidence outside ourselves, which means our gauge of confidence and self-esteem will move up and down, depending on our external world. What if your gauge didn't move because Self-esteem and Confidence was within you?

Your purpose is how you move through life, not what you do.

Desire to attract your Divine partner, soul tribe or ignite new energies and emotions in your current relationship? This is a great tool to shift your current reality.

Crystals have healing abilities because they contain frequencies from Mother Earth, some vibrations that clear anxiety and some that can help you awaken your spiritual gifts.

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Trust is a beautiful and important aspect of a relationship, yet if you don't trust yourself, how can you build authentic trust with others?

Emotional Freedom Technique (Tapping)

The Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, is the psychological acupressure technique based on the same energy meridians used in traditional acupuncture to treat physical and emotional ailments for over five thousand years, but without the evasiveness of needles. Instead, simple tapping with the fingertips is used to input kinetic energy onto specific meridians on the head and chest while you think about your specific problem – whether it is a traumatic event, an addiction, pain, etc. — and voice positive affirmations. EFT is a form of counseling intervention that draws on various theories of alternative medicine including acupuncture, neuro-linguistic programming, energy medicine, and Thought Field Therapy. This combination of tapping the energy meridians and voicing positive affirmation works to clear the “short-circuit” – the emotional block — from your body’s bioenergy system, thus restoring your mind and body’s balance, which is essential for optimal health and the healing of physical disease.

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It's easy to have a situation or story consume us that eventually it becomes our identity unknowingly. But what if you could be in the story long enough to heal it and then release it, and choose what you want?

Sometimes we give first to others or more to others, then even thinking we have needs, or maybe I should say No and take care of myself. We think as parents, giving, over giving to our children and not taking care of ourselves is noble, but how do you feel? Are you giving enough to you?

Depression can be triggered by trauma, stress, and generational patterns; but it can also be triggered by hormones and nutritional deficiencies.

There are many tools and techniques that can reprogram your anxiety. Just stepping out of the anxiety for a moment, creates a change in your pattern.

Being in a relationship doesn't mean you should lose the focus on yourself or your goals, and just focus on the new "us". In a relationship maintaining a healthy detachment is key to staying healthy as a "you" and "us".

Feeling stagnate, confused, and stuck? This feeling is so annoying! Yet sometimes its telling you to rest or listen. When you feel stuck, tune inside, see what you find and then do something different. Lift yourself out of the pattern of being stuck and change up your energy!

When your children see Mommy taking special time for her, it helps them honor their wife or partner later in life. If we don’t show our children that we have needs now, they actually create a programming later that women don’t have needs and they are here to just serve us and the family.

What are these strong soul connections? Sometimes they raise our vibration, sometimes they break us. What is the meaning?

Surrender is not about giving up or avoidance, but integration, maturation and embodiment.Surrender is recognition "I accept my journey and the path in front of me, because I trust in a higher plan".

It is easy to get swept up into the panic, fear and anxiety when you are experiencing a pandemic. Anytime the next moment is unknown and you are given new rules and regulations to be safe, it is scary. Yet we do have a choice to go into fear or be realistic, safe and proactive. I am choosing to be proactive, safe and choosing to use this time to be productive and take care of my mental and physical health. As things are so called being taken away from, I am asking myself how do I want to fill this time? How can I focus on self-care during this time of stress?

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We mistake infatuation for chemistry, true-love and finding our soul-mate. We are taught that Infatuation is the journey to happiness and finding our life partner. But if you are open to Infatuation, you are lacking wholeness, because Infatuation is "you have something I don't have". Let's dive deeper.

Awakening wholeness within you can feel strange and not familiar, because we are accustomed to fill ourselves with things and people from the outside. Distract, accomplish, entertain, and find "the one" to become whole. It's all a false truth, that is hard to wake up to when we get older (wiser) and have to find the real truth, that everything we have been searching for is within us, we have to unearth it.

Projection is a natural pattern for a human, yet awareness and slowing down can help us be healthier reactors to our environment and in our relationships. Just breathing and slowing down, can create enough space to get to know the voice of the Ego and the voice of the heart.

Empathy can get confused with Codependency, setting boundaries or speaking your truth can trigger a fear of rejection and abandonment. Empathy, is I feel and understand you, but I have boundaries and I feel free to speak my opinion. Codependency is I feel and understand you and now I am confused of how I feel and I don't feel confident to speak my truth.

Sometimes we feel we have to accept everything our family does, even when it falls into disrespectful realms and realms of abuse. That if we set a boundary, share our true feelings or say no; we may loose us (our identity) and support system. That we may be rejected and left alone if choose to not accept unhealthy behavior and treatment from others. The truth is, your family is what you create. It can be your biological family, your friends and more! Find your tribe!

New year, new goals, and shortly who returns... YOUR OLDSELF. Not this time, learn how to make goals that become patterns, that actually create positive change in your life.

We have choices, to have expectations or to go with the flow. This season set the intention to "go with the flow", instead of holding expectations or disappointment.

Many times we bring our kid parts to our relationships unknowingly. When really we should be focusing on reparenting/healing our inner child, thus increasing our awareness of our adult self and child self and bringing only our adult self to our relationships.

What is your meaning of success, is it all external things? When success is achieved from the inside, it can't be taken away, because your heart and energy is creating this feeling.

There are stages to change which starts with awareness. Awareness gives us the organic energy and desire to want to change. Then what?

Do you seek external validation or internal validation?

Trauma is dynamic and layered, therefore sometimes just talking about trauma or reliving the trauma, doesn't fully heal the wound. You have to address the trauma subconsciously to heal the various layers that are triggering your nervous system response (fight, flight, freeze).

There are many different types of boundaries: physical, conversational, social media, time, personal, etc. How good are you at setting boundaries? How attune to your needs are you, that you know when you have given too much?

Are you able to celebrate others even if you feel stagnate? Do you fall into jealously and comparison? Let's explore what is the difference between the Discourager to Encourager and how to make the shift.

Check out what energies are at play this month!

Mindfulness and detachment doesn't mean disconnection or lack of empathy, it means self preservation & evolution. Being able to feel an emotion or think a thought and not react to it or feed it is a sense of maturity.

Boundaries are about self-preserving and self-respect, not shutting a door, or putting up a wall or disconnecting. Boundaries can be kind and compassionate, and doesn't mean we should feel guilty or shameful for not over-giving.

Intuition is our guide in this life, paired with our wisdom from our life experiences. Intuition is typically felt in the heart or gut, relaxed if it is a YES and tight if it is a NO. The Ego, though, likes to be in control and thinks controlling equals more joy and peace; false. Letting go and surrendering equals more fulfillment, joy and peace.

Communication is an Art form, which we can evolve and get better at with time. Choosing to communicate at a higher level means feeling your emotion, but not allowing yourself to react from that place. Letting go of resistance and defenses and choosing to move towards understanding.

What is limiting your experience, what hinders the experience of joy and peace in your life? Sometimes it's us chasing the goal that we forget to enjoy the moment.

Conflict and confrontation can bring about uncomfortable feelings, that make us want to avoid and run away from the situation or person. But the truth is conflict can awaken more healing and strength in the relationship, as you move through it. Nothing can be avoided and discomfort means an opportunity to grow.

What you can talk about, what you can't. Every family has the topics you don't talk about, which creates an unhealthy foundation and patterns that each individual will recreate in their new relationships. Your safe should be a safe place to speak about anything should start with your family, therefore talking about the uncomfortable topics should be acceptable and welcomes. When did that stop or should I say why hasn't that been the norm?

We think by managing everything and everyone, we will receive more (more peace, love & joy), yet the truth is just the opposite. All we have to manage is ourselves and in the letting go of the rest, we actually allow space for creation. For healing, love, joy, abundance & more!

Let's continue the conversation at home, at work, everywhere "about the realness of anxiety, depression & suicide". It may be uncomfortable to start the talk, but the discomfort will allow expansion and healing! Healthy coping skills can be taught in childhood, which children can talk into adult-hood and flow through adulthood with less stress, anxiety & depression.

Are you showing up for YOU in your life? Are you showing up in your friendships, being supportive, joyful, empowering or are you a downer? Are you dumping on your tribe, bringing down the vibration or are you rising up, showing up and being your best self?

If you child is bullying another child, yes parents it is your responsibility. We are guides for our children in this lifetimes thus, we need to check in, know whats happening in our child's life and emotionally be attuned to our children to know when something is "off" or they are not telling us the full story.

What is bullying? Bullying is when children: tease other children over and over again, ignore other children or leave them out of games or activities, say mean things or call other children names, spread nasty stories about other children hit and push other children, take other childrens things. Physical signs: bruises, cuts and scratches, torn clothes missing property, poor eating or sleeping, bedwetting complaints about headaches or tummy aches. Your child might: not want to go to school, stay close to teachers during breaks, start sitting alone, have difficulty asking or answering questions in class, or have trouble with schoolwork or homework, stop taking part in school activities.

Social changes: being excluded at lunch and recess losing contact with classmates after school, being chosen last for teams and games.

Emotional changes Your child might seem unusually anxious, nervous, upset, unhappy, down, teary, angry, withdrawn and secretive. These changes might be more obvious at the end of weekends or holidays, when your child has to go back to school.

https://raisingchildren.net.au/school-age/behaviour/bullying/bullying-signs

A strong mind is a sound mind. We assume if a thought or feeling enters our awareness, we need to process it (feed it) in order to release it and feel good again. That is actually not true because thoughts and feelings are energy, we are energy, therefore we are constantly crossing each other paths and we get to choose what we want to focus on and what we need to ignore.

We naturally want to seek Light and other feelings outside ourselves; eat to feel happy, drink to avoid, or call a friend to give them the responsibility to lift you back up in a codependent manner. YOU ARE THE LIGHT. It is easy to forget the LIGHT is within us and we can go inward to shine it once again.

There are many events that happen on our journey that are unexpected but if we can own them, be open and try to stay in our vulnerability, these difficult moments that push us past our comfort zone can evolve us and make us become limitless beings.

Remember when your parents used to say, "You are who you hang out with", THEY WERE RIGHT!! This mantra, that Shannon Chada, a magnificent Teacher & Healer shared with me "Are you comfortable with the company you keep" had two meanings for me. Are you comfortable with YOU and what's existing in your inner world & are you comfortable with the tribe you engage with.

Believe it or not, I struggle to tell my story or share intimate stories about my journey that include my family. One aspect is I lack childhood memories, so sometimes I'm not sure, what is my story? How was my childhood? Secondly, I feel naturally we feel protective of our family and we don't want our story to hurt others or cause discomfort. The truth is, we are all adults and sharing our story can be healing to ourselves and to others; giving others permission to feel worthy enough to share their story and motivate others to reflect back on their journey to heal those aspects we have abandon or lost. Our story is our story, and you have permission to share it and those that love you and SEE YOU, will hold that loving sacred space for you. Trust in the process and share your story with your heart.

It is so easy to feel that "cheating" is a personal attack or a reflection of us, instead of a reflection of the person who is cheating. Cheating is an escape, an unhealthy coping mechanism, thus it is always a reflection of the person doing it, never a personal attack of the person having to endure it.

Voodoo, Black Magic, Curses, & Spells are VERY REAL for those that carry the belief systems that they can be harmful and are real. How does this happen? Typically this belief system is strong in their conscious mind meaning passed down from their lineage, or trapped deep in their subconscious.

Finding your purpose and living your purpose is as simple as living authentically in all areas of your life. Letting go of the masks, and flowing your authentic self in everything (every role) you do.

EVERYONE IS A BUSINESS COACH, how can you be 20 years old & be an expert in Business already? What are you an expert in? Be careful when hiring a business coach and ask them for their resume, be sure you are hiring an expert that can really help you grow your business.

Small changes, take you out of the stagnate energy and connect you with new energies, opportunities and more!

As we leave a year, we want to gracefully and with gratitude close the previous year. As we obtained our lessons and evolved from moving through them, we grew and became more whole and courageous! If we are so ready to close the door on 2018, maybe you are resisting the lessons that your soul has called forth.

If you feel you haven't found your people, it means your expression in this world is not balanced. Maybe you are giving too much or taking too much? When you feel you are not existing and surrounded by your TRIBE, it means its time to shift your VIBE.

Some people are ready and excited for the Holiday season and for some, they dread or get triggered by the Holiday season. Let's talk about it.

Wholeness is the gift we can give our children that will feed them for the rest of their lives. Wholeness is what can heal mental illness and stop it before it starts.

It is so easy to take life personal, to take the things people say or do into us, instead of stepping outside of ourselves and seeing the illusion that we are creating.

How to be fearless, authentic, truth-teller, trouble-maker with love, firmness and compassion. This world needs truth, truth heals!

Feeling blocked, loss of purpose, hopeless, confused. etc? Most likely something is not in alignment with your purpose, your soul or Higher-self.

Podcast with Dana Massat "Mindfulness & Mental Health Awareness" I created a new podcast channel to focus just on Mindfulness & Mental Health Awareness for ALL AGES. We have been in this mental health epidemic way too long, we need to expand the conversations about mental health to a bigger format and stage, and in our families. I can help you start these conversation, attune to yourself, attune to others and be more present and mindful in your life, to help you be aware of when you are out of alignment and your loved ones are out of alignment.

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Self work can be a beautiful journey if you release the focus that you have to have a destination in life.

How to release the temptation to fall into the drama of life and detach and not react. Triggers can be exhausting and create unhealthy life patterns, being present in the moment and knowing when to detach is essential to living a peaceful life.

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