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Tonya Carter
This podcast is designed to provide tangible advice that will transform individuals who have experienced a divorce/breakup into rediscovering their voice, regaining their power and obtaining their freedom by healing in all areas of life that will allow them to be the best version of themselves.
This is a no fluff podcast where host Tonya Carter, your divorce coach is going to keep it real with you by providing open and transparent conversations to help you on this transformation of wholeness.
Over 6 million men suffer from depression per year, their suicide rate is four times higher than women and they're more likely to turn to substance abuse as a coping mechanism for mental health issues.
These statistics raises a question: "Are men misunderstood?"
The notion that men are exempt from pain, emotions, or empathy beyond themselves has shaped a distorted view and narrative about men, resulting in being overlooked and misunderstood.
This misconception extends from their closest relationships to societal and cultural norms, creating a narrative that often fails to recognize the depth of men's emotional lives and experiences.
On this week's podcast join me as I talk with Licensed Family & Marriage Therapist, Jonathan Gustave. Join us as he talks about being abandoned by both his parents, the challenges faced by the men he works with, and the barriers men encounter in expressing their emotions post-divorce.
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Summer is here, and the school year is coming to a close.
For dynamics where the parents are no longer together, children maybe spending more time with the non-custodial parent. During this time, there's a lot of mixed emotions for the custodial parent, including concerns for their children's well-being, the challenge of co-parenting, and feelings of loneliness while the kids are away.
While it isn't always easy to adjust, when parents prioritize their children, it leads to happier kids and smoother transitions.
Join me on this week's podcast as I share my experience when my children spent their first summer away and offer five tips to help ease the adjustment for both you and your kids during their summer stay with the other parent.
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Welcome to the newly updated "Divorce Your Story" podcast, named after my book! This title aligns perfectly with our podcast's mission: to help you break free from any limiting narratives in your mind and emotions in your heart that are holding you back from thriving in your next chapter.
Join me as I discuss the reasons behind the new name and share three universal lessons that can support your growth and healing after a divorce or breakup.
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When you find yourself consistently engaging with individuals who appear to be closed off, distant and emotionally disconnected, it's imperative to reflect and get clear on what this means for you.
While it may be much easier to label them as "emotionally unavailable" and move on to someone else, it's crucial to recognize that if this pattern persists, there's likely something deeper at play that needs exploration and understanding.
Join me on this week's podcast as we discuss the signs of someone who is emotionally unavailable, explore potential reasons behind it, and four key aspects to investigate for a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationship dynamics.
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The topic of "Dating" is widely discussed, with much advice on how, when, and whom to date.
Following divorce, you frequently get asked "When are you doing to date again?" that brings much pressure to just "put yourself back out there" however, is that the best approach?
It's important to recognized that re-entering the dating scene post divorce is different. This involves the people you meet, yourself and even your life experiences.
From being too vulnerable, dating similar people to even relationship bouncing can lead to more of an emotional setback and hinder your journey towards going forward.
On this week's podcast join me in a conversation with Sade Curry, a Dating Coach for Divorced Women as we discuss her divorce after two decades of marriage, her journey to meeting her husband over a two-year dating period, the importance of your healing journey, and green flags on when you're ready to date.
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Motherhood is a multifaceted journey that encompasses a variety of roles, experiences, and emotions. Striking a balance between family, work, and personal needs can be quite demanding.
So, what happens when divorce is added to the mix? For mothers facing this change, their children's well-being and their ability to parent effectively in this new situation become major concerns.
Worries about not doing enough, overextending themselves, and comparing themselves to other parents can lead to mom guilt, resulting in overwhelm, doubt, increased stress, fatigue, burnout, and exhaustion.
Oftentimes this area of motherhood goes unchallenged, causing us to not redefine what motherhood can be and look like. We adopt beliefs and outdated narratives that can keep us stuck in old patterns that may no longer serve us or our children. This can hinder our ability to grow as parents and individuals. By questioning these assumptions and embracing a new, more authentic approach to motherhood, we can better navigate this journey and create a nurturing environment that supports both our children and ourselves.
Tune in to this week's podcast as I share my top six insights on motherhood and tips for becoming the best you can be.
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Navigating the divorce process can significantly affect your mental health. The legal proceedings, financial changes, shifts in living situations, custody and co-parenting arrangements, lifestyle adjustments, and changes in social circles can all contribute to persistent stress and impact a person's quality of life for a period of time.
This can trigger anxiety, depression, and potentially harmful coping strategies, which can intensify mental health issues and hinder your progress.
In this week's podcast, join me as I talk about the potential mental health challenges during a divorce and explore four ways to protect your mental health during this time.
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It's natural to want something better for your life, but what happens when you're faced with the challenge of pursuing it?
Do you make excuses for why you can't achieve it?
Do you focus on what's wrong out of fear for yourself?
Do you convince yourself not to try?
Do you withdraw as a means of self-protection?Do you resist embracing change?
Do you revert to familiar patterns?
Following a divorce, self-sabotage can become a real concern. Making better choices, nurturing healthier relationships, forgiving yourself, embracing change, and seizing new opportunities can feel unattainable when your life takes an unexpected turn.
You may feel powerless and uncertain about the future, leading you to stay stuck in a past chapter of your life instead of embracing a new path forward.
How can someone break free from self-sabotage?
Join me on this week's podcast as I discuss ways you may be self-sabotaging your life after a divorce or breakup, along with four steps to help you move forward.
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"Moving On" can be much harder than it sounds, specifically when dissolving a partnership of 31 years. The process to disentangle yourself can be emotionally and logistically challenging, compounded by the weight of shared history and intertwined lives.
After spending the majority of your adult life with someone, picking up the pieces and creating a new one can seem dauting, overwhelming and uncertain.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from an email I received from someone in regards to her partner leaving after being together for 31 years. Throughout the episode, I address three pivotal questions essential for her journey forward, offering guidance to navigate the complexities of her situation and facilitate her path to healing and growth.
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When you hear things such as:
- You need to heal OR
- You need to do your inner work
You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does that look like for me?"
And when you're unsure on what it means, it becomes ignored due to the lack of understanding on why this is necessary and how it can enhance your quality of life.
Although everyone's journey of doing their own inner work looks different, there are similar activities that "inner work" involves for anyone.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss what "inner work" is, ways to identify if you need to start your inner work, as well as three main activities that apply to anyone.
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As women, no matter the role or position you're called to fill...we celebrate you!
From our mothers, our sisters, our leaders, our educators, those in healthcare, to entrepreneurship, athletics, politics, etc...your significance is acknowledged!
The month of March is dedicated to honoring the bravery and contributions of women, spanning from the past to the present, who have paved the way for today's generation of women.
Understanding the history of recognizing the contributions that women have made encourages our current and future generations to mirror that success in a way to blaze their own trails.
In this week's podcast episode, join me in a conversation about forging your own path and explore three crucial factors on how to initiate this journey.
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Women are known for wearing multiple hats. From motherhood, marriage, working, taking care of the home, and being there for others selflessly. However, what gets lost in all of those roles is herself.
When an life-altering event such as divorce takes place, the need to advocate for your well-being takes more of a back seat. The default setting shifts to autopilot, and survival mode becomes the new normal.
While conventional wisdom advises self-care, the question arises: How is that possible when managing so many roles in your life?
In this week's podcast episode, join me for a conversation with one of my past clients as we discuss the importance of advocating for herself after the dissolution of her marriage of 13 years, raising four children (one with autism), how to effectively manage a challenging custody battle, being a caregiver and working dual jobs.
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What often goes unnoticed is the significance of sharing core values when making the decision to get married. While people are frequently advised on various aspects, such as societal expectations, fear of loneliness, or the notion that one's identity is solely defined by relationship status, the crucial factor of alignment in values tends to be overlooked.
These misleading influences can lead individuals to engage in relationships that lack the essential foundation of shared values. Consequently, people may find themselves compromising their authentic selves and entering into marriages that feel forced or incompatible. Recognizing and addressing the importance of aligning values can help individuals make more informed and fulfilling decisions about their partnerships, fostering relationships built on mutual understanding, respect, and shared aspirations.
In this week's podcast episode, join me for a conversation with one of my past clients as we discuss the dissolution of her marriage of two years, marital misalignment, struggles with people-pleasing, and the impact of perfectionism.
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One of the most challenging yet essential pieces of wisdom when navigating life after a marriage or relationship is envisioning a brighter future for yourself and your children.
Divorces and breakups reshape the trajectory of your life, disrupting carefully laid plans. However, it is crucial to recognize that these changes, though difficult, offer opportunities for personal growth and the creation of new possibilities.
Join me on this week's podcast, as I discuss three key insights about the transformative effects of living beyond divorce and the positive impact it can have on your life.
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The perception of "being single" is frequently clouded by misconceptions, including judgment, pity, and the misguided belief that there must be something wrong with an individual in this status. Society commonly presents being in a relationship as the ultimate accomplishment to validate one's significance in the world. This is a poor representation of many individuals who are single however feels "less than" because they are. What often goes unnoticed is the importance of embracing the unique aspects of oneself and recognizing the sacredness of this phase of life.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss how to shift your perspective on being single. I'll be offering four pieces of advice to navigate and appreciate this unique season of life.
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Valentine's Day can pose challenges for those who have gone through a divorce or breakup. It can be a reminder of the memories you've shared, a shift in your relationship status, to even feelings of perceived failure accompanied by emotions of disappointment, sadness and loneliness.
In this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss five helpful tips on managing Valentine's Day after a divorce/breakup.
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Research reveals that a significant 70% of divorces are instigated by women. While common discussions often attribute this trend to notions of women not needing a partner or seeking independence, the underlying data suggests a more nuanced reality. The decision for women to end their marriages is complex and varies from person to person, yet there are shared reasons that resonate across the spectrum.
In this week's podcast episode, I'll discuss the top four reasons why women often take the lead in initiating divorces, going beyond surface-level explanations. Join me as we explore the multifaceted dynamics influencing women's decisions to dissolve their marriages more frequently than men.
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Contrary to what many may believe, your divorce is a big deal. It's not about dwelling in shame, guilt, or a sense of failure, but rather acknowledging the profound impact it can have on various aspects of your life. Some downplay its significance while other remain in so much criticism that there's no room to identify what steps can be taken next. It's pivotal to navigate this phase with self-awareness and openness to understand the path forward for personal growth and recovery.
On this week's podcast, join me as I present three questions to determine whether you need a strategy and a eye-opening exercise that can help you gain clarity on your situation.
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2024 is here and although January is known for new beginnings, it's also the closing of many marriages/relationships. Yet, what often goes unnoticed is the crucial importance of actively progressing forward and leaving the past behind. The dissolution of a marriage or relationship can significantly impact your psychological well-being, potentially influencing your self-perception, emotional state, and mental health.
Once the decision is made that it's in the best interest of both parties to part ways, the key is the intentional effort to move forward. Join me on this week's podcast episode as I provide three essential questions for you to contemplate, ensuring that you navigate the path forward after a divorce or breakup this year.
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The holiday season after divorce can bring much added stress and overwhelm for both parents and children. Moving away from established traditions towards new arrangements can trigger a range of emotions including loneliness, sadness and anxiety.
A primary concern for parents remains centered on safeguarding their children's welfare. Providing reassurance, emphasizing emotional stability, and preserving a sense of normalcy are paramount during this period of transition. Although it may seem unrealistic, it's crucial to remember that small steps can make a significant difference.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five essential tips for parents, guiding them through a smoother journey during the holiday season.
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The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in.
When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose.
Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the trade off shouldn't be to avoid what's going on around you and within you.
On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to cultivate authentic gratitude without emotional avoidance.
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Feeling worn out? Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually drained? Divorces or breakups often usher in a level of exhaustion that leaves you functioning on autopilot, unable to fully engage with life and struggling with hope for the future. You might experience a sense of emptiness, your thoughts and emotions scattered, grappling with uncertainty about what lies ahead.
This weariness can manifest as mental fatigue, emotional numbness, and spiritual depletion. Over time, it might evolve into depression, isolation, bitterness, cynicism, a negative outlook, and even regret.
In this week's podcast episode, Join me as I share three essential steps to transition out of this period of exhaustion and uncertainty.
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Experiencing a sense of failure and the belief that you've disappointed your loved ones is a common emotional response during a divorce. However, when these feelings become a lasting, permanent emotional state, it can develop a unhealthy self-perception about an individual resulting in self-sabotage, fear, a loss of trust, and even a pervasive pessimistic outlook.
Persisting in this state of perceived failure can drain your motivation and result in a feeling of defeat, making it challenging to move forward. It's crucial to acknowledge that while feeling like a failure is a natural initial response, allowing it to persist can harm your self-image and set you on a downward spiral of self-criticism, shame, guilt, and a victim mindset. On this weeks podcast, join me as I discuss three important reminders to move past this feeling of failure.
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Reentering the dating scene is a familiar concept for those going through the divorce process. Yet, putting yourself out there encompasses more than just meeting new people; it's fundamentally about your internal state.
The process of divorce inevitably transforms you but the key question is how it transforms you? Despite the societal and cultural emphasis on dating, when considering post-divorce dating, the focus should be on approaching it with intentionality rather than allowing pain to steer the course.
On this week's podcast, join me as I was interviewed with Sade Curry, host of Dating After Divorce Podcast as we discuss taking a pause on dating to discern, how your core values impact how you date, and the importance of how you internalied your singleness as it influences your dating decisions.
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There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your time, energy and other resources which overtime results in constant investing of a relationship.
It's important to be mindful and considerate of who gets that level of access to you because the person that you choose to entertain impacts the quality of your life.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five types of relationships that you should avoid entertaining!
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October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month which aims to raise awareness, support survivor's, break the silence and work towards the prevention and elimination of domestic violence in all its forms.
Domestic Violence can be physical, sexual, psychological, economical, and/or spiritual.
These patterns are designed to manipulate, isolate, frighten, terrorize and hurt someone in ways that will leave lasting scars, both visible and invisible. By the time, the victim has the courage to leave, the after effects such as depression, self-esteem, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress can continue to impact their lives.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a conversation with Janelle Hunt. She shares her personal journey of leaving an abusive relationship after seven years, discussing the importance of forgiveness, the cycle of generational abuse, and practical steps to break free from an abusive partnership.
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When divorces/breakups take place, being your "Best Self" is a common objective. However, what can get overlooked is the transformative steps required to make this happen.
In this week's podcast, join me for a conversation as I discuss essential elements for becoming the best version of yourself in the aftermath of a divorce or breakup.
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When someone you love hurts you, so much gets processed internally:
•The disbelief and shock of it all
•Your self-esteem gets compromised
•An overwhelm of shame, guilt, and/or self-blame
•Your perception on relationships and people
The impact of feeling betrayed can begin a wave of questions and emotions regarding themselves, the person who betrayed them, and the entire relationship.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give four things you need to do to get past hurt and betrayal
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Your beliefs about your body can determine whether you perceive yourself as deserving or undeserving of love and acceptance.
Influences from movies, media, magazines, and our families have embedded messages that can foster an unhealthy narrative, suggesting that bodies not conforming to societal standards are inadequate and lack appeal. Consequently, individuals may develop eating disorders, consider cosmetic surgery, experience suicidal thoughts, or engage in unhealthy dieting.
The mindset that there exists a single, universal body standard compels people to believe that their bodies are either lovable or unlovable.
In this week's podcast, join me for a conversation with Jasmyne Reynolds, a former bodybuilder and the founder of Black Fitness Mommy. She will share her personal journey towards body confidence after having three children, discuss why women often feel the need to "perfect" their bodies, the unhealthy need to lose weight for their relationships and provide insights on how to cultivate a love for your body starting today.
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What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't?
Even though the logical solution is to respect the other person's decision, it's not always the easiest conclusion to come to when you're the person who wants to work it out.
When you're in this cycle of wanting to make the relationship work while the other one doesn't, you're only keeping yourself in a space of denial, shock and the inability to accept that this has happened so you can continue to forward with your life.
In this episode, join me as I discuss what you need to do when you're the person who doesn't want the relationship to be over.
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When it comes to caring for yourself aka "self-care", its significance can easily diminish when it becomes a trendy buzzword and loses its authenticity. However, in its genuine form, self-care serves as a means to honor and demonstrate self-respect, ultimately enhancing your overall quality of life.
Frequently, self-care is reduced to a method of "treating oneself," where it causes a person to only indulge in occasional and often costly acts. Yet, the essence of self-care transcends these occasional indulgences. It is a daily practice, a lifestyle that encompasses various aspects of your well-being, from your mental and emotional health to your financial stability, physical wellness, relationships, spirituality, social life, and work or business endeavors.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who has developed a level of self-neglect due to an ongoing commitment to caring for others.. In this episode, I will discuss three essential insights regarding around self-care and 21 distinct perspectives on how to perceive self-care differently.
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This past weekend, I celebrated another birthday. Every year, I take a moment to contemplate the various factors that have played a role in my personal growth and development. One significant aspect of this reflection is the notion of celebrating life.
Life frequently presents us with disappointments that lie beyond our control. Often, when our carefully laid plans do not unfold as expected, it can limit our perspective concerning ourselves and our future.
As I've matured over the past eight years, my outlook on life has profoundly shaped my self-perception, which in turn has had a direct influence on my actions and choices.
On this week's podcast, I invite you to join me in exploring my birthday reflections and 10 strategies for celebrating life after experiencing a divorce or breakup.
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When it comes to dating, specifically after divorce, it involves much more than simply "re-entering the dating scene."
Contrary to what many believe, it takes a lot of courage to step back out in the dating arena when plans to spend the rest of your life with someone has changed.
One of the most complexed and complicated questions is "When will I be ready?". Now although no one can tell you a specific timeframe, a level of personal readiness is essential to approach the dating landscape with greater insight.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question from one of our podcast listeners who currently is 56 and wonders if she should embrace the idea of dating. In this episode, I will address three key aspects to provide clarity to the present challenges surrounding dating that will help assist her in navigating this area of her life.
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When the priority becomes pleasing others at the expense of your own well-being and quality of life, it's likely that you've ingrained a tendency toward being a "people pleaser."
This surpasses mere kindness; it has evolved into a pattern where you modify your true self for the sake of others.
Over time, this persistent need to satisfy others transforms into a self-sacrificial inclination, leading to consequences like compromising your core identity, harboring resentment, experiencing stress, facing burnout, and undermining relationships.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail and the major thing you need to do for gain clarity on where this behavior could stem from.
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When someone in a relationship decides to "step out" it violates the relationship's exclusivity as well as jeopardizes the overall well-being of the relationship.
While public conversations about infidelity often revolve around men, what unfolds when a woman finds herself entangled in such actions? Research indicates that approximately 13% to 15% of women engage in infidelity, driven by motivations distinct from those of men.
In this week podcast, I invite you for a listener's Q&A as we discuss a situation where infidelity was involved on the woman's part and how to move past the pain she cause herself and the person she was in a relationship with. Join me as I discuss 3 things that she must do to navigate the aftermath of this decision.
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There are many gray areas around entertaining "situationships" a term that is characterized around uncertainty and undefined boundaries. These types of connections can often have a significant impact on individuals both mentally and emotionally. The blurred lines and lack of clear commitment can lead to confusion and unease, potentially causing emotional turmoil.
Although there isn't one "relationship standard" for everyone, it's important to get clear on what works for you and your quality of life.
When you're someone who has difficulty around relational dynamics that lack commitment yet still find themselves entangled in such scenarios, it's important to acknowledge the potential pitfalls that comes with this territory.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss the misconceptions around these connections, why people may choose to participate in these relationships even though it leaves them unsettled, as well as four critical questions to ask yourself to help make informed decisions about your emotional well-being and the relationships you invest in.
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Expressions like "I don't trust anyone," "No one can be trusted," "Loyalty is scarce nowadays," and "Opening up will only lead to pain" may appear straightforward, but beneath their surface lies profound implications that hinder genuine connections, vulnerability, and living authentically. When an individual has experienced betrayal in the past, it can substantially affect their current and future relationships. Although you yearn for meaningful connections, you find it challenging to embrace authenticity. The desire for profound bonding contrasts with a tendency to withdraw from vulnerability.
Now, the question arises: How can someone rebuild trust after it has been shattered? In this episode, I will delve into three essential aspects that can help you begin the journey of regaining trust again.
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If you find yourself stuck in a repetitive cycle of mentally and emotionally questioning what you could have done to "save" your marriage, it's essential to ask yourself: Were you inadvertently seeking to play the role of the savior in the relationship?
While it is natural and beneficial to reflect on your past marriage, this introspection can become detrimental if it leads to excessive self-blame and self-criticism due to being overly accountable.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss the burden of assuming the role of a savior in a relationship, three common things that saviors attempt to do to hold the marriage together, and five thought provoking questions that will help you assess your beliefs about how you approach relationships
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Contrary to popular belief, your "ex" holds minimal relevance to your journey of moving forward.
Too much credit is given to someone who no longer holds the same level of significance in your life and when that's the case, the focus needs to change. When the decision has been made to dissolve, it's important to be mindful on how much you're giving "life" to this story.
While reflection is important, it is equally essential to avoid excessive rumination on this story, which can hinder your ability to process the experience. Striking a balance between introspection and allowing yourself to move forward is key to embracing personal growth and healing.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss their unimportance in shaping your next chapter, five ways on how this could delay your growth, as well as five thought provoking questions that will help you assess how much energy you may be unintentionally directing towards your ex.
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When we experience harm from others, it is common to expect an apology as a form of resolution. However, it is crucial to understand that while an apology holds power, it should not be a requirement for our own personal progress.
The reality is that some individuals may choose not to apologize, and this decision is often beyond our control. Nevertheless, we have the ability to seek our own closure independently of their apology.
By finding inner strength and embracing our personal healing journey, we can attain closure and move forward in our lives. Instead of depending on external validation through an apology, we empower ourselves to find resolution and growth from within.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about releasing the need for an apology, 10 reasons why someone may resist apologizing, as well as five questions to ask yourself, enabling personal reflection and growth in this area.
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One of the hardest things to understand, specifically when you were available in your relationship, is coming to terms when the other person wasn't. There are numerous reasons as to why this could be however, what gets many in a cycle of attempting to understand is that they the other person's lack of presence personal to their value.
When you continuously allow this to be the reasoning for someone else's behavior, you give away your ability to move forward as well as undermine your own worth. While it's necessary to seek understanding, it's equally important to recognize that another person's lack of presence does not define your worth or determine your ability to move forward. By continually attributing their behavior to your own value, you perpetuate a cycle of self-doubt and hinder your own progress. It's crucial to separate their actions from your sense of self and focus on your own growth and well-being. Remember that you have the power to define your own worth and create a fulfilling life independent of their presence.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about how to approach this from a different perspective as well as give seven empowering questions to ask yourself.
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According to fatherhood.gov, research studies indicate that children who have involved and loving fathers are more likely to achieve academic success, develop healthy self-esteem, display empathy and pro-social behavior, and avoid engaging in high-risk activities such as drug use, school absenteeism, and criminal behavior.
While there is extensive discussion surrounding uninvolved fathers, it is important to recognize that the assumption that absent or uninvolved fathers lack the desire to be present oversimplifies the complexity of their situations.
Various factors from their childhood contribute to the absence or limited involvement of fathers in their children's lives, including experiences of sexual abuse, upbringing circumstances, strained relationships with their biological mothers, and even growing up with absent fathers themselves. It is crucial to understand that acknowledging these factors does not condone or justify their absence but allows us to understand the complexities surrounding fatherhood and to effectively support fathers in becoming more engaged with their children.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a heartfelt conversation on fatherhood with Shon Hart, author, speaker, & executive director of InvolvedDad.org. Join us as Shon unpacks different types of trauma that men experience during their childhood and how it connects to fathering, the impact of their mother's partners on their lives, their personal relationships with their own fathers, the challenges fathers face in their relationships with the mothers of their children, and the process of reconnection between fathers and their children.
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When masculinity is often discussed, the focus on predefined characteristics and expectations overlooks the individuality and complexity of men's experiences.
By reducing masculinity to a narrow definition based on traditional ideals of strength, emotional suppression, dominance, and a reluctance to seek help or support, we limit the potential for men to fully express themselves and navigate their challenges in a healthy and authentic way. This can lead to feelings of isolation, internalized pressure to conform, and an inability to address mental health issues effectively.
It is crucial to recognize that men, like anyone else, are multifaceted beings with a wide range of emotions, vulnerabilities, and strengths. By embracing a more inclusive and expansive understanding of masculinity, we create space for men to explore their identities, seek support, and foster their overall well-being.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I engage in a conversation with Licensed Mental Health Professional James Harris to delve into the topic of masculinity. Together, we will explore the misconceptions surrounding masculinity and its profound impact on men. We will highlight the significance of liberating oneself from societal and cultural expectations tied to masculinity, encouraging a more authentic and holistic understanding of what it means to be a man.
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Studies indicate that second marriages have an even higher rate of divorce than first marriages. When you hear this statistical data, one why think "Why would I get married again if the chances of it ending in divorce are even greater?" However, it's important to consider various factors that contribute to this trend and understand that statistics don't necessarily dictate individual outcomes. While the higher divorce rate in second marriages may seem discouraging, there are several reasons why people choose to embark on this journey once more.
Join me in this week's podcast episode where I have a conversation with Marriage Coach, Quest Green. We will dive into his experience of his 1st marriage of two years, and explore how the absence of shared core values influenced his approach to relationships. He also discussed the personal growth and unlearning he had to undergo, as well as the key elements that have contributed to the success of his 2nd marriage of twelve years and counting.
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Contrary to popular belief, divorce poses challenges for both men and women. While it is commonly assumed that men handle it better, studies reveal that men actually face greater difficulties in coping with divorce.
Men encounter a range of obstacles, including internal conflicts, emotional pain, identity issues, and heartbreak. Gaining insight and perspective from men is crucial to understanding how the dissolution of their relationships impacts them.
In this week's podcast episode, I invite you to join me in a conversation with Joseph Wilson. We will delve into his personal journey of ending his seven-year marriage, explore the importance of seeking support from his inner circle, shed light on why many men suffer in silence, and discuss topics such as dating and remarriage.
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Research suggests that encountering any type of life challenge can affect an individual's mental well-being. Experiencing the loss or termination of a relationship can pose a challenge and potentially impact a person's mental health.
As a relationship dissolves, various aspects such as children, finances, families, friends, time, and memories undergo significant changes.
Neglecting and disregarding your current emotions and thoughts regarding this situation will only delay your healing process and neglect the importance of your mental well-being.
In our latest podcast episode, I invite you to join me for a discussion on the topic of "heartbreak" and its psychological effects.
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When couples split, the emotion of guilt can arise and have a significant impact on both individuals involved. It is natural for feelings of guilt to surface during such a challenging time, as people may question their actions, decisions, or the consequences of the separation. However, it is equally important to recognize that dwelling on guilt may hinder the healing process and prevent individuals from moving forward.
It is essential not to internalize what is known as "unhealthy guilt," where one becomes consumed with excessive blame and self-condemnation. Instead, it is beneficial to cultivate a healthy sense of remorse and focus on overcoming guilt.
On this week's podcast join me as we delve into the emotion of guilt. We will explore various types of guilt you may experience from the dissolution of relationships and five practical strategies to help overcome guilt and move in a better direction.
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Starting afresh after a divorce can be a time filled with emotional challenges and uncertainty. It's completely natural to experience feelings of being overwhelmed, confused, and unsure about what steps to take next. Amidst the complexities of thinking about your children, finances, co-parenting, and establishing a new sense of self, you are also navigating the emotional aftermath of the divorce.
However, within this difficulty lies an opportunity to embark on a new journey and shape a life that resonates with your values and aspirations. Embracing the process of starting over allows you to redefine your direction, rewrite the narrative of your life, and construct a future that brings you happiness, personal growth, and a profound sense of fulfillment.
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What gets misunderstood quite often is that it's easy to leave a marriage, however it's one of the most challenging decisions to make even when it was the safest option to choose.
When marriages dissolved all kinds of questions arise. You wonder what's next, you wonder if you made the right choice, and you wonder if you could have done more to save the relationship.
It's a difficult decision to make because it often involves letting go of a significant part of your life and accepting a new reality. In addition, social and cultural norms around marriage can induce feelings of shame or guilt, further complicating the decision to leave.
There's nothing casual about making the choice to leave, if anything it takes courage.
On this weeks podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with one of my previous clients on dissolving a 14-year marriage, navigating the abuse, forgiveness, redefining motherhood and trusting yourself to love again.
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"No one gets married to get a divorce"...that's hardly the plan. However, what happens when those plans change? What happens when your life is disrupted in ways that doesn't seem possible to move on?
My client Wendy and I worked together back in 2021 where she was 52 at the time and dissolving a 28 year marriage. The emotional turmoil of infidelity, betrayal and debt weighed heavily on her. She had to sell her home, move out of state, and leave her job to go move in with her sister.
Through hard work, determination, and perseverance, Wendy has been able to purchase a home, pay off her debt, find a better job with higher pay, and cultivate a stronger relationship with her kids. She is now dating again and has the tools and strategies to co-parent in a complicated dynamic.
Throughout the episode, Wendy shares her valuable insights and strategies for anyone facing a similar situation. She emphasizes the importance of taking things one step at a time, focusing on the positive, and having faith that things will work out in the end.
If you're looking for inspiration and practical advice on how to rebuild your life after a major setback, this episode is a must-listen. Wendy's story is a powerful testament to the human spirit and the power of resilience.
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In many cases, we are not taught how to intentionally move forward after a breakup, even though relationships commonly come to an end.
The way the dissolution of relationships is often viewed can be problematic, as it may not be recognized as a difficulty, setback, or hardship. This can result in negative consequences, such as being left to figure things out alone, using a rebound relationship as a coping mechanism, neglecting self-care, involving children in the conflict, or seeking revenge.
This podcast episode delves into the cheat code for breaking up and moving forward, highlighting the four key components that it requires.
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When you're always living in a state of believing that something external must take place in order to have joy, then you're merely going through the motions instead of living a fulfilled life.
Overtime this leads to a life that lacks meaning and purpose, missed opportunities to create memories and connections, and your mental/emotional wellbeing gets compromised.
When you become completely "dependent" on external circumstances to dictate how you always "feel".....you'll find yourself in a constant state of chasing fulfillment from external outlets.
On this week's podcast join me as I discuss the difference between joy and happiness and why choosing joy should be your new way of living and being.
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Forgiving your ex can be a difficult but important step in moving on from the past and finding peace within yourself.
Oftentimes, forgiveness can seem pressured, forced, or even rushed where a person doesn't make the choice themselves, they suppress their emotions to even minimizing and ignoring the hurt and pain.
Studies have shown that not forgiving can prevent you from moving forward, compromise other relationships, and be harmful to your mental and emotional wellbeing.
On this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss forgiveness, the perspectives that maybe holding your back as well as seven questions to challenge your thought process around forgiveness.
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Being "loyal" is often a word that many use to define an important quality that people should have however, when "loyalty" becomes the unconditional exchange at the expense of one's own detriment, has the word lost it's true meaning?
Has the expectation of this word become so misused and manipulated where "being loyal" should be at a fault regardless of treatment?
What happens when the quality of being loyal causes you to compromise your boundaries, values and self-respect?
What facts and flaws gets overlooked when blinded by being loyal to this extreme?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about loyalty, the exchange of being loyal to an extreme and three questions that a person should ask themselves in regards to their belief and behaviors around being loyal.
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When it comes to dissolving a relationship, a person can easily switch into a state of what looks as protection only be less receiving, less attentive to themselves, as well as the belief that they have to do it all! This approach is normally praised and glorified however, what does it do to a woman and her ability to just "be".
The word femininity in pertaining to womanhood has been a conversation that many have weighed their opinions and thoughts around online. Oftentimes if this attribute is misunderstood, misinterpreted or even misused, it can cause a woman to not step into this powerful quality that is authentic to her.
She often finds herself in what many would define as a "masculine" energy where it may cause her to display less understanding, patience and nurturing.
How can a woman embrace this side of herself that's authentic? How can she lead her home and be in this quality?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with author & speaker Adrianna Mason Onubogu as she discusses what femininity is, why it's important to embrace this quality for yourself first, how this attribute elevated her life as well as steps you can take to embody your own authentic femininity.
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The ability to "do it all" has been the expectation and standard for black women for generations. This unhealthy characteristic of attempting to "have it all together" is a bondage mechanism for women to look and appear to be perfect.
Underneath this covering of what many would perceive as strength, lies a woman who suppresses her emotions, neglects her self-care, unwilling to ask for help, and always feels obligated to help others.
This repeated behavior of sacrificing your well-being consistently will inevitably lead to multitude of stress related symptoms, strenuous relationships and a low quality of life.
Even though this a word that many are familiar with, what really matters is where do we draw the line? How can women begin to disrupt the generational pattern of perfection, take off the superwoman cape and step into her superpower of designing a healthier way to show up for herself unapologetically?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with psychotherapist & certified clinical trauma professional Cerita Yvonne, as she unpacks this trauma behind being superwoman, how it impacts the relationships you entertain and how to begin to dismantle this belief of having to do it all.
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Being a parent is one the most self-sacrificial jobs to have however, when it comes to the daily duties and obligations of single parents, the responsibilities are much different.
When it comes to being a single mom, there's a lot of conversation that holds a stigma that creates shame, negative stereotypes, and judgement around the structure and circumstances of kids being raised in a one parent home.
From paying the bills, planning the meals, signing the permission slips, checking homework, all while making sure the heat, lights, and water stays on....what often gets misunderstood is that these home are broken, chaotic, and that your kids lack the love and support that only a two parent home can provide.
Contrary to many believe to even what statistics say, there are many single mothers who has chosen to not accept this reality as theirs and decided to take their power back and become an authority over their lives so that they can thrive for themselves and their children.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Samantha Gregory, founder of richsinglemomma.com as we discuss her single mom hero story, the importance of healing as a single parent, being present for your kids, and tangible things you can do to unlock your potential to thrive as a single mom.
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The need to be accepted, approved and received can cause a person to dishonor themselves where they disregard their own worth.
It's often said that a woman should know and recognize her worth, however with the heavy influences on cultural expectations, being faultless and flawless in every role they play, to even being told a lie about the truth of who you are your entire life, how could anyone honor something that they never even knew existed?
These internalized harmful beliefs that we should not take care of ourselves, be boundary less, accept the unacceptable, always be selfless and sacrificial and live up to the beauty of societal expectations causes women to question anything and everything about themselves.
How can one unlearn these uncomfortable conditions and learn their worth?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about honoring your worth as well as three things you must unlearn to start.
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As women, no matter the role or position you're called to fill...we celebrate you!
From our mothers, our sisters, our leaders, our educators, those in healthcare, to entrepreneurship, athletics, politics, etc...your role matters!
The month of March is observed for acknowledging the courage and contributions that women (past to present) have made to pave the way for other women today.
Understanding the history of recognizing the contributions that women have made encourages our current and future generations to mirror that success in a way to blaze their own trails.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk about blazing your own trail and 3 key factors on how to start.
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One of the hardest challenges sometimes as a parent is seeing your child grow up.
They start to develop interests in things that as parents we may not always be prepared and ready for and one of those areas is dating.
Whether we want to accept this part of our teen or not, dating matters and it's important to them.
Dismissing it, minimizing it, and believing that because they're "too young to know what love is" doesn't take away those feelings and questions that they have.
Many of our teens are seeking information and attempting to navigate this process on their own, however, if we reflect back on how we managed relationships in our youth, would it have been better had we had the education, understanding and support from our family in a way that allowed us to feel safe in expressing our thoughts and feelings?
February is known for Teen Dating Violence Awareness month and according to the CDC, studies show that 1 in 12 teens experience physical and sexual violence. How we as parents get more involved? How can parents create a safe space for their teen to discuss dating and relationships?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Mother-Daughter Coach Saundra Golden as she shares her teen dating violence experience at the age of 17, what turned her life around when she became a mom, and how communicating with your teen effectively builds a trust and deeper bond.
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According to statistics, the likelihood of divorce increases in 2nd and 3rd time marriages.
When marriages dissolve, one thing that can shift is the conditioning of your heart. Based on the impact of what took place, it can fill a person's heart with pain, sadness, coldness, apathy and hurt with little to no courage to give marriage another chance.
They may wonder:
- "Is it worth the risk?"
- "Would it be better if I just shut down this part of my life to avoid getting hurt again?"
- "I don't want to take the chance and put my kids through this"....I feel like they've been through enough"
- "I don't want to experience or feel that type of failure again?"
These are real thoughts and feelings that a person has however, how can a person who desires this again have the courage and faith to open themselves up to fully embracing another experience of marriage?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with my guests Sheri A & Glenn P. Brooks Jr. as they discuss their previous marriages, the importance of healing after divorce, embracing your singleness as well as what they needed to do individually to establish a healthy marriage of 24 years.
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When it comes to "being single" it's often looked at in a lens to define a person's worth and existence.
From relationship experts, culture, religious organizations, to even family and friends, everyone has an opinion on why you're single as a way for you to question everything about yourself.
This unhealthy approach to a person's relationship status can often leave feelings of shame where it causes those to:
- Question their enoughness
- Believe that their life is totally incomplete
- Constantly looking for inadequacies within themselves to "fix" believing that this will be the ultimate solution to their "being single" status.
Companionship is a connection that many desire however, the equivalent of that is to not undermine your season of being single.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail as well as five questions to reflect on in regards to being single.
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Dissolving a marital or non marital relationship can leave an impact that influences you to make decisions that could not be in your best interest.
Moving forward must be "done on purpose" and in order to be intentional about the direction of our destination, it's important to clear on your current decisions and decide whether or not if these decisions are hurting you or helping you?
On this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss the process in more detail and 3 things that you must do to start the journey of making deliberate decisions.
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The experience of dissolving a marriage or a major relationship is the impact that it has on you in terms of:
- How you view yourself
- How you see others
- How you see the world
- How you live your life going forward.
A false perception can develop within that prevents you from making decisions due to a person's current belief that they don't have other options.
There's extreme power in knowing that you have the ability to decide who you to be, what you can obtain and who you can become however, when the ability to choose gets forgotten, you'll leave it up to others and your past to decide for you.
On this week’s podcast, join me for a 10 minute talk about making the decision to decide differently.
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When being in bondage due to past experiences, it makes a person a prisoner of moving forward.
Forgiveness is a topic that gets discuss often when it comes to others and their mistakes and shortcomings…however, while it’s freeing to fully forgive others, what quality of life can someone obtain if they fully forgave themselves?
- What new beliefs will they develop?
- What opportunities will they give themselves permission to pursue?
- What relationships could they have?
- What type of life could they live?
- Who could they become?
The options are endless when the limitations are lifted!
On this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss the skill of self-forgiveness and four things that you must do to start!
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Setting yourself up to win is not something that just happens by chance, it happens with intention!
When marriages dissolve, you need to rally an effective team that will be a huge asset to help you navigate this process in a way that saves you time, money, energy and stress.
On this week’s podcast, join me as I give my top four trusted advisors that will be helpful on your journey.
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One of the most popular things that takes place in January are divorces/breakups.
When the “New Year” comes around, the decision to exit out of a relationship is very common due to self-reflection of the overall dynamics and the refusal to enter another year encountering the same unhealthy cycle.
Even though the beginning of the year is often looked at as a “clean slate” to dissolve relationships and move forward, there are many underlying changes that are severely affected such as finances, co-parenting, your kids, and the mental and emotional impact that it brings.
On this week’s podcast, join me as I give four things that you must do to regain your voice and reclaim your narrative.
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When your thoughts and feelings about the pain you feel becomes minimized and ignored, it's often looked at as "strong" when in reality it turns into internal suffering.
Those unspoken words, the fear of being vulnerable, not wanting to be judged, and the pressure to always be "fine" turns into silent and secret battles that you feel left alone to fight.
No matter how "strong" a person appears to be, no one is exempt from pain neither should no one feel like they can't get the support they need.
On this week's podcast, join me for a 10 minute encouragement talk around the importance of seeking the support you need.
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The indecision to dissolve a marriage can take years (or even decades) for a person to decide no matter what the environment at home consists of.
From time invested, constant effort, honoring your vows, disrupting normalcy, financial comfort, and changing the family structure....one may struggle in having the confidence to believe that they made the right decision to dissolve the marriage.
Many may judge you for it while others commend you for it...however, what's important is to gain clarity on making a decision because when you're in a constant state of uncertainty, you don't move forward with dissolving or you don't re-commit fully into making your marriage work if you decide to stay.
On this week's podcast, join me as I give three questions to ask yourself to help in the discerning process when you have difficulty on whether you should dissolve your marriage.
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The attitude that a person should just be grateful even in difficult times can become burdensome due to the current conditions that they're in.
When a person is "forcing" themselves to just be grateful it strips away the genuineness of it's authentic purpose.
Does this indicate to not be grateful? of course not! However, in displaying gratitude even in seasons of difficulty, the trade off shouldn't be to avoid what's going on around you and within you.
On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to cultivate authentic gratitude without emotional avoidance.
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The holiday season is here and for many this time of year can bring emotions of sadness, loneliness, stress and even seasonal depression.
When relationships dissolves, so much gets altered such as finances, your time with the kids, to even the change of normal holiday traditions.
How can person manage this holiday season intelligently all while making the best of it?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail and four things you can do when managing your emotional triggers this holiday season.
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From feeling betrayed, embarrassed, humiliated, and angry ...these are feelings that occur when someone breaks a trust that was shared.
"Moving On" is more than just leaving physically, it's a move that must be made mentally and emotionally.
How does a person "move on" from someone who performed a act of stepping out on them?
On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must do to begin the journey of moving on.
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What's very challenging in many relational dynamics is maintaining your unique identity and personal integrity all while forming a interdependent relationship.
"Feeling Lost" is natural, common and valid once a relationship has dissolved. Your sense of self may have become distorted where it almost seems like you're going through an self-identity crisis.
Transitioning from being attached to now being detached from someone can easily form the question of "Who am I after this relationship?".
So what happens next? How does one "find" themselves? What can you do when you're having difficulty identifying who you are?
On this week's podcast, join me as I give three things you must create in your life to begin the journey of self-discovery post your relationship.
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Perimenopause/Menopause is a topic where many lack the understanding on the impact that this stage can have in a person's relationship/marriage and their livelihood.
Symptoms such as anxiety, depression, disrupted sleep, energy fatigue, and mood changes are different behaviors that could put a strain on your relationship where divorce and/or breakups becomes the next step.
On this week's podcast, join me and "Perry: Perimenopause Community" which is an exclusive community app for women that talks about all things perimenopause as we discuss divorce, relationship exits, breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, and how to navigate your relationship as you enter the perimenopause phase.
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Your ex isn't your competition.
What does this mean? It means that whatever they choose to do or don't do shouldn't determine what you need to do for yourself.
If they decided to jump into another relationship quickly does that mean you should? Because they choose to not take a designated season to work within does that mean you shouldn't?
Contrary to what many believe, your ex isn't and shouldn't be as relevant when moving forward. It's important to focus on who's relevant and that is yourself and what is required from you to live an intentional life going forward.
Join me this week as I discuss this is more detail as well as 3 things to keep in mind as you move forward.
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When it comes to celebrities, many from afar live vicariously through them in terms of their money, talent, beauty and social status.
This can easily create a perception that based on the curated view of what is being seen, that they have it all which also creates a false reality that their lives represents a life of perfection.
When celebrity couples split, it becomes "headline news" with many opinions in regards to their relationship life. And because many get attached, it's easy to be influenced by what's going on in their life, where you unconsciously inherit a level of fear to move in ways that robs you of the life you can have.
On this week's podcast, join me for a 10 minute conversation as I talk about an important lesson to learn from celebrities and their breakups.
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When you hear things such as:
- You need to heal OR
- You need to do your inner work
You could be left to wonder "What does that mean?", "What does that look like for me?"
And when you're unsure on what it means, it becomes ignored due to the lack of understanding on why this is necessary and how it can enhance your quality of life.
Although everyone's journey of doing their own inner work looks different, there are similar activities that "inner work" involves for anyone.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss what "inner work" is, ways to identify if you need to start your inner work, as well as three main activities that apply to anyone.
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When a relationship is considered to be "unhealthy" the misunderstanding is that once you depart:
- You fall out of love
- The emotions are gone
- Thoughts of them fade
When in fact the emotions and thoughts can become more intense. You can also find yourself feeling sorry for them which creates a since of guilt for leaving because when you're in dynamics such as these, you may actually feel responsible for their unhealthy behaviors.
It's one thing to exit out of a unhealthy relationship but what does a person need to do "on purpose" to overcome the feeling of guilt and responsibility over someone else's behaviors that is outside of their control.
On this week's podcast, join me as I talk why you're experiencing a level of guilt as well as four things you need to do to start moving on intelligently.
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When it comes to relationships, you're often told to "never give up" or "persevere" or "stay and fight" ....but is there a time where it may be in the best interest for both individuals to intelligently decide that continuing this relationship isn't the wise thing to do?
Ending relationships can get such a bad rap. Most importantly, it can create a narrative that you're a "failure" because you didn't stay. Is staying the equivalent for lasting? Does not leaving indicates that you've succeeded? What if dissolving the relationship is the success for everyone involved.
On this week's podcast, join me and Sadie Marie from "Sadie's Divorced & Happy Podcast" as she invited as a guest on her show to discuss the hardest part about quitting something that isn't good for you, tips on when to leave a relationship, and how to commit to yourself after your divorce/breakup.
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When it comes to "healing" from a previous relationship, questions such as:
- "How long will this take?"
- "Will I ever get through this?"
- "When will I feel better?"
Are asked, however the answer can also be complicated.
The truth is, everyone's process is unique and different, however, there are signs that can help you identify if you've made strides towards your journey.
On this week's podcast, join me as I talk about the misunderstanding of healing as well as five of my top signs that can help you determine if you're making progress.
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Breaking up can be so hard to do that attempting to maintain a friendship sounds civil to help lesson the pain. However, is it good for your quality of life when attempting to do this?
Oftentimes, people attempt to preserve a friendship because of support (physical, emotional, and/or financial), guilt, and/or hopes of rekindling. Whatever the reason is, it's essential to get clear on the underlying reason for wanting to keep the connection of the friendship.
On this week's podcast, join me as I talk about the challenges that many have with being friends with their ex as well as questions that you need to ask yourself so that you can gain more insight on how to manage this relationship intelligently now that you're no longer with this person.
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Welcome to our new updated podcast "Purposely Thriving".
We've decided to pivot in a direction that still focuses on divorce and relationship dissolution, however it's important that we give information and insight that speaks from a place of being intentional on thriving in your next chapter.
On this week's podcast, join me as I talk about why this change was needed and what to expect going forward.
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It's so easy to look at others that we know and love and be proud of them....however, when it comes to your own acknowledgements, do you carve out intentional time just to see that within you?
When you're in a challenging season, there's an urgency to put it behind, however, it's also important to develop an appreciation for your progress as well. Doing so increases your mental and emotional health and it develops an unconditional self-love for yourself.
On this week's podcast, join me for a 10 minute conversation as I talk about three reasons on why it's difficult to be proud of yourself as well as a game changer activity that you can start doing daily to develop a healthy habit of celebrating you!
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Acceptance is one of the most courageous but challenging stages of grief that a person can experience when dissolving a relationship. Acceptance takes self-awareness, vulnerability, honesty, and resiliency to release the life that we once had and hoped for and walking into a new life of the unknown.
How does one get to acceptance all while being hopeful for a better life ahead?
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer this question live from one my listener's in regards to this as well as three things you must take control over in order to move past this chapter with intentionality.
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When you're attempting to make sense of the dissolution of your relationship...one of the questions you could be asking yourself is "Why were they unable to see my value and efforts?"
That question will keep you in an endless loop to find an answer, question yourself, and believe that they're inability to see your worth makes you unworthy....
Before you know it, you're connecting the way you view yourself based on the success of the relationship..
We can come up a million reasons as to why someone is unable to recognize the value you have however, It's important to understand what you need to know for yourself when you're asking yourself this particular question.
On this week's podcast, join me this week as I go over 3 things you need to know when you find yourself in this mental and emotional space.
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When you keep asking yourself questions such as:
- Why do I keep getting hurt?
- Why is this always happening to me?
- How is it that I'm a good person but always get the short end?
Then the most important thing is to get into some conscious awareness.
Overtime, when place in non-mutual relationships, you risk repeating the same pattern to even compromising your self-confidence, self-worth and self-respect.
On this week's podcast, join me as I give five reasons on why you keep getting hurt in relationships.
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How loyal are you to your past?
The past is not always "left behind"...oftentimes, it can travel with you therefore developing inaccurate truths and narratives about who you are, whose you are, and how far you can go.
How freeing would it be to decommit yourself from what has taken place in your life and recommit yourself to a new one?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss why this is important, what holding on to your past can do to you emotionally, and the first thing you can do today to get started.
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Ending a relationship can have you questioning your self worth.
You may find yourself with questions and/or statements such as:
- What's wrong with me
- Why wasn't I enough?
- What could I have done differently?
- I gave everything into this relationship and it still wasn't enough
- What does the other person have that I don't
Which is turn results in feelings of
- Rejection
- Unworthiness
- Not thinking you're attractive
- Believing that you're not capable of being loved
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss three things to start reclaiming your self-worth.
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There's this misconception that when the relationship is over, all feelings are gone when that's hardly even the case. This can cause a person to believe that missing them is a sign to return back to a relationship that they may need to stay away from. The truth is you will miss them and you may still love them because that's a part of the healing process however that doesn't mean you should go back to them.
Join me this week to discuss 3 things to consider when you find yourself thinking that you should go back or your find yourself consumed with thoughts of missing them and you still being in love with them.
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Let's talk food...specifically your personal relationship with food & what does that relationship currently consists of.
And this is much deeper than just weight loss, counting calories, the numbers on the scale, eating healthier, what to eat/what not to eat, and working out. This is more about identifying and being aware of our behaviors, perceptions, triggers, emotions and mindsets around food.
From our upbringing, to our culture, to even our personal life experiences as well as our relationship trauma, these influences have made a massive impact on our current relationship with food.
And even though food is indeed a need in all of our lives what's most important is having a peaceful relationship around food that will enhance our wellbeing being and quality of life.
On this week’s episode, I invited Licensed Psychologist and Food Relationship Strategist, Dr. Ebony Butler to come and have a much needed discussion around our relationship with food. Join us as she discusses the impact that diet culture has on the body, relationship trauma and it’s connected with good, why “loving” yourself may still be challenging, as well as tangible steps that a person can do to improve their relationship with food and unlearn diet culture.
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Divorces/Breakups hurt, however, what perception has been developed from this experience? What story are you constantly rehearsing, rehashing and replaying in your head and heart?
One thing many overlook when relationships dissolve is developing a new plan. It's easy to become powerless after something doesn't work out and/or go as expected.
We're in the 2nd half of the year and you don't need a New Year to develop and strategize how you want your life to be and who you want to become.
On this week's podcast episode, join me for a 10 minute talk about the importance of having a plan.
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One of many challenges when dissolving a relationship is adjusting in ways that will help you heal forward…
I find that some people make themselves “too available” even though it’s over:
- They’re still “one phone” call away
- They still treat their ex like a husband and/or partner
- They still “check in” on them
And even though the reasons can sound “valid”...it actually confuses you rather than heal you!
Simply put...there are just certain things that you must stop doing when you want to move on with your life from a relationship...
Join me this week as I go over four things you need to stop doing when it comes to your ex and your past relationship.
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Here's a unpopular truth: No relationship is guaranteed however when you're not on the same page in terms of wanting commitment, then you must be mindful on giving that person your time.
When you tend to entertain people where you're not in alignment with, you can not only cause your own pain, but also spend countless years and/or even decades in something that should've been dissolved a long time ago.
Overlooking this brings resentment, regret, humiliation and even shame and it's important to be mindful on who you decided to invest in.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation about the importance of giving someone your time.
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When you're in a cycle of "break up to make up", not only does it bring relationship dissatisfaction but it also brings psychological distress such as depression and/or anxiety.
Chances are, there's a hope that it will change or that it will get better but the probability of this dynamic will never change!
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this relationship dynamic as well as three important things that you must do IF you want to exit out of this cycle for good.
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When you've displayed support, unconditional love, and a 110% effort in a relationship and it didn't work out, one of the most challenging things is not questioning your value.
When we become attached to the outcome and it didn't come out as expected, you may be in season of asking yourself questions such as: What did I do wrong? What's wrong with me? Why weren't they able to see my value? Only to develop a unhealthy belief system about yourself.
On this week's podcast episode, join me for a 10 minute talk about as I talk about this and what it's doing to you.
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There are many conversations around heartbreaks from others but what about the heartbreak that a person could be doing to themselves?
Could a person unconsciously be self-sabotaging themselves on who they can become, what they can have, and the kind of life they could design once the relationship has ended.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss three things on how you could be breaking your own heart after your relationship.
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Dissolving a relationship with someone who's a narcissist can leave a person feeling powerless, drained, emotionally intoxicated and mentally confused.
These relationship dynamics aren't your typical relationship structure. It's filled with control, disrespect, lack of empathy, and manipulation.
By the time someone exits out of relationships such as these, long term effects such as anxiety, depression, trust issues, self-hatred, low self-worth, to even physical symptoms has taken place.
Physically leaving is one aspect, but there's a recovery process that must take place.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question in regards to surviving a narcissistic relationship. This episode talks about the mental and emotional aspects as well as four things you can do to start reestablishing a better quality of life.
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According to the CDC, 2 out of every 3 caregivers in the U.S. are women, meaning that they provide daily or regular support to children, adults, or people with chronic illnesses or disabilities which can result in neglecting their #1 priority and that is their health.
Chronic diseases and conditions—such as heart disease, cancer and diabetes—are the leading causes of death for women not to mention common mental health issues such as depression and anxiety
This week is "National Women's Health Week" and its sole purpose to to encourage women and girls to make their health a priority.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Dr. Indie F. Jones, board certified physician and holistic wellness coach as we discuss the challenges women face in pertaining to their health, why your health starts with the mind, and tangible ways that you can improve your overall health starting today.
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Studies indicate that a person's mental health can be impacted when faced with any form of a challenge in life.
Losing/Ending a relationship can be a challenge and can have some level of impact on a person's mental health.
From the children, finances, families, friends, time, and memories, these are all things that will pivot differently once a relationship dissolves.
Discounting and being dismissive towards your current thoughts and feelings about this experience only postpones your healing and also disregards the wellness of your mental health.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation about "heartbreak" and what it can do to your mind.
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When relationships dissolve, "trust" is of the most fragile things that needs to strengthen.
From betrayal, manipulation, to even disregarding your needs for the relationship, this will compromise not only trust with others, but most importantly...trust within yourself.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss four things that you must honor to cultivate self-trust in your next chapter!
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This week I've decided to reair one of my most popular episodes!
Seeing your ex move on quickly after your relationship can leave questions. You may wonder:
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How could they move on so soon?
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Did they value the relationship?
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Were they already dealing with this person?
It may seem like them moving on so soon is an indicator that they didn't care when in fact that is merely the case.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss 3 reasons on why your ex moved on so quickly and what you need to do for yourself!
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When relationships end, finances get impacted in ways that can bring worry and uncertainty in reference to your financial future. From your daily bills to taking care of your household, having a peace of mind as to having enough is vital when it comes to financial security.
From the unhealthy myths of thinking that you have to "struggle" could bring forth a scarcity mindset believing that you will never have enough, you must settle, and/or work so hard just "get by".
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Dr. LaKisha Simmons, on how she walked away from her $2500 mortgage post her divorce, developed a net worth of $750,000 in four years as well as tangible ways on how you can start building financial freedom today!
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When you've been used in ways that your kindness has been mistaken for weakness, it can cause you to live in isolation and self-sabotage, therefore not experiencing the fullness of life and being open-minded to new relationships.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question in reference to overcoming the fear of being used again. This clips talks about where this fear could be coming from as well as three things to help ease this fear.
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Emotional abuse is one of those "hidden types" that maybe harder to notice. This form of abuse impacts many areas of your life as well as the overall quality of your life.
Emotional abuse magnifies overtime and develops long term effects such as emotional instability, fear, confusion, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem to even extreme codependency of the abuser.
On this week's podcast, join me as I answer a question in reference to leaving your emotionally abusive spouse. This clips talks about what emotional abuse does overtime and the impact it will have on the victim and children.
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When relationships end, your confidence has the impact of being compromised where you feel rejected, insecure, to even self-blame. If left unresolved, overtime it creates things such as depression, lack of trust within, internal unhealthy beliefs, and even constant self-criticism.
Confidence isn't a specific external look but more of an internal mindset that one must obtain in order to intelligently manage how they perceive themselves to be once a relationship dissolves.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Destiny Inspire on how she rebuilt her confidence post divorce, the difference between self-confidence & self-esteem, and tangible ways you start rebuilding back your confidence after your relationship.
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One of the biggest statements I hear from women is “I don’t know who I am”
And when you’re unsure of who you are, your voice (aka your personal power) is compromised where you:
- Accept what’s unacceptable
- Entertain relationships that don’t compliment you
- Never speak up for yourself
- Conform in order to be validated
And when you continuously downplay your needs and what you value, you discredit your existence and your freedom!
Setting boundaries is something that get's overlooked but in actuality, your boundaries are a necessity!
It’s a major part of your self-love foundation and when you are boundary less, you have no limits on how you allow others to treat you and most importantly, you haven’t valued your own boundaries with yourself.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with have a conversation with Chautè Thompson, a licensed psychotherapist who does extensive work with families of separation and divorce to discuss the importance of boundaries, why many have difficulty setting them, and how to start implementing them in a healthy way.
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Divorce is more than just the legal side of things. There are other sides that are important such as your mental state, emotional wellbeing, physical health, financial wellness, spiritual foundation, self-identity, navigating co-parenting dynamics etc....
There are many areas outside of the courtroom that requires a person to reflect on in order to intentionally design a purposeful life going forward!
Becoming your best self is indeed a journey after a relationship dissolves but a rewarding one managed deliberately!
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Catherine Shanahan and Karen Chellew of My Divorce Solution, as we have a brief discussion around this topic and why they’ve decided to host a summit to help women navigate purposely from “Mrs to Me”
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There's heavy awareness and conversations around relationships that involve things such as narcissism, trauma, toxicity to even different types of abuse. However, where does this lead us to think when it comes to healthy relationships? Does it exists? Are healthy relationships even "a thing"?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with my guest Dr. Patrice Berry, a licensed clinical psychologist with over 15 years of clinical experience to discuss what is a healthy relationship, the characteristics and signs of one, the misconception of healthy relationships, and advice on what to do when you're constantly engaging in the same patterns of unhealthy relationships.
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When relationships dissolve, one of the misinterpretations is to get involved in another relationship. However, what many fail to see are the different layers that a person encounters once a relationship ends and one of those layers is the courage to love again.
The conditioning of your heart after a heartbreak can alter where you shut the possibility of loving again out. You take a look at your past experience and wonder "Is it even worth it?"
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with my guests Kiesha & Marvin Richardson. After both experiencing divorce, they recognized the healing and transforming of their mindset necessary to enter marriage again. Join us as we discuss the importance of healing after heartbreak, dating, how to open up your heart again for love.
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This week I've decided to reair one of my most popular episodes!
Divorces and breakups can leave residue of inadequacy, lack and confidence and even the mindset of believing that your worth as a woman has diminished.
Tying your worth to a relationship will always leave you in limbo on your worth as an individual.
Your "Queen" isn't based upon past or current circumstances, it's based on the fact that as a woman, you were already given the gift of being a Queen. However, there are many women who has either forgotten this or never realized it.
This week, my guest Bishop RC Blakes of Blakes Ministries will be discussing his movement "Queenology" and why this is the prescription that is needed for a women to tap into her own inner queen despite of her history as well as principles that you can apply to start owning your crown.
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Does "Dating Yourself" seem like a weird concept?
Does "being single" make you feel left out?
From society, family, friends, to even relationship experts, there's much emphasis on "being in a relationship" where "being single" seems more of a disadvantage. However, if the relationship we have within ourselves impacts the relationships we bring into our lives then how important is "being single"?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with my guest A'Jos'Lyn Brailsford aka "The Date Thyself Coach" on the advantage of being single, what you need to do while you're single, and how to enjoy Valentine's Day as a single.
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What happens when you want a relationship to truly work however, it doesn't?
Remaining mentally and emotionally connected to a past relationship leaves you questioning yourself, wanting understanding and closure from the other person, to even staying present in the past.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give three things that you must challenge yourself to do in order to move past this
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Disappointments are inevitable, even in the area of relationships!
Even though this maybe logical to get, it may not always be understood mentally and emotionally.
How does someone deal with disappointment and make it a distant memory?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation about disappointment as well as three things you need give yourself to deal with it.
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What you believe about yourself, your life and others will be the influence on your direction!
When wanting to heal, the elevation of your thought process is mandatory to move forward.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation about understanding your most important asset to heal as well as three things you need to do in order to elevate your mindset.
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When breakups occur, there are times where you find yourself mentally and emotionally connected to your ex where it's occupying so much of your time and energy.
Lingering thoughts and strong emotional triggers become so intense that you believe that this is a cycle that you can't seem to escape from.
How can someone forget their ex and break this cycle? What will it take to move on?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation on the importance of forgetting your ex!
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In the area of relationships they're couples who chose not to continue their marriage or their relationship within the New Year!
This decision brings many changes to a person's life. It impacts them mentally, emotionally and even financially.
One of the worst decisions that can take place is overlooking the pain that often gets associated when a breakup takes place.
Ignoring it, masking it, suppressing and attempting to "push through" it are all unhealthy coping mechanisms that can keep you from making a substantial comeback!
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation on the importance of getting through your breakup for the New Year.
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Have you taken on the role of always being the “rescuer” for others?
Do you feel the need to save people?
Have you developed a strong tendency to seek people who need help, and do you think it’s your responsibility to assist them even when it means to always sacrifice your own needs?
Though this might appear to be the “noble” thing to do, what is it doing internally to the helper? How does this impact their wellbeing, overall quality of life as well as their relationships?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with Johnetta Middleton, a license hair care specialist, entrepreneur, and a previous client of The T.H.R.I.V.E program as we discuss the importance of avoiding being the savior, setting boundaries, and healing.
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We've all regretted something at one point in our lives. From mistakes we've made, mishaps that has taken place, to even making not so good choices. However, living in constant regret develops unhealthy judgments about yourself that can cause harm to your self-worth, health, spirit and any future possibilities and relationships.
When relationships dissolve, regret can begin. And if you're in that energy too long, it starts to impact how you think, how you feel as well as how you live.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss three ways to help you overcome regret.
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Women who are “high achievers” expect to excel in EVERY role they play in their lives. And with all the hats they normally wear, the hat of their self-care begins to decline such as their mental & emotional wellness, their health to even their relationships.
The unhealthy need of "always having it together" creates a mask which only causes a person to live in denial about what's going on around them as well as within them.
Overtime, this creates disconnection from who they are, unfulfillment, burnout, and even unhealthy relationships.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with Kay Smith, a former principal and previous client of The T.H.R.I.V.E program as we discuss her leaving her previous position, her health and how healing has create a new life for herself and relationships.
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Have you ever felt like displaying love is a waste of time when it goes unappreciated and/or taken advantage of?
Do you feel like because you're a loving person that you're always getting burned by others?
People who have the capacity to love hard often lead with their heart. When this happens, things such as lack of boundaries to even compromising their self-care takes place.
Does this mean that a person should stop loving hard? No, this means that there are things that a person must know and implement to still have the capacity to love others as well as themselves.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as discuss three reasons as to why loving hard is hurting you and what to do.
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"Mom Guilt" can be pervasive amongst mothers where you may feel like you're doing enough to even feeling like you may not be doing things "right".
Are these feelings normal? Yes, they are but overtime, constant mom guilt can lead to other issues such as anxiety, depression, to even being mentally and emotionally absent with your children.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Kim Williams of Single Black Motherhood on ways to overcome mom guilt and create the life you want for yourself and your children.
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The narrative you come up with about yourself and your life will become your reality.
Your thoughts becomes your belief that produces a result that comes from your behavior…
When the story that you create of yourself are chapters of failure, not enough and incapable then that will be the book of your entire life.
What does a person do to create a new story?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss three things you need to do to release yourself from an old story and reinvent yourself into a new chapter of your life.
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The holiday season is here and for many this time of year can bring emotions of sadness, loneliness, stress and even seasonal depression.
When relationships dissolves, so much gets altered such as finances, your time with the kids, to even the change of normal holiday traditions.
How can person manage this holiday season intelligently all while making the best of it?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail and four things you can do when managing your emotional triggers this holiday season.
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When attempting to please others takes precedence over your wellbeing and quality of life, then chances are you’ve developed a habit of being a “people pleaser”.
This goes beyond just simply being a “nice” person, this has now become a behavior that involves revising your authenticity for the sake of others.
Overtime, this constant need to please people becomes a self-sacrificing nature that results in things such as jeopardizing the deepest parts of yourself, resentment, stress, burnout, and damaging any relationships.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I discuss this topic in more detail and the major thing you need to do for gain clarity on where this behavior could stem from.
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Ghosting occurs when someone you're seeing all of sudden disappears without any form of communication. They won't respond to your texts, emails, or phone calls. This can bring a wave of emotions such as rejection, confusion, and constant questioning of oneself.
Ghosting can happen for many reasons and even though this is an uncomfortable situation to be in and hard to understand when you're the person who's being ghosted, there are things that you can do for yourself to move on from how it impacts you!
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give three things that you DON'T need to do when you've been ghosted.
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Domestic violence can often be mistaken as ONLY a physical encounter. However, it also includes emotional, economic, psychological, and sexual.
When a person has been a victim of abuse, it impacts how they think and interact within the world. It affects a person's mental stability, develops high anxiety, PTSD, to even symptoms of depression.
These dynamics are more common than we realized because and it's important to bring awareness to this subject matter to help those who are in these situations.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with RESET coach Dana Martin, as she shares her experience with domestic violence, mending her relationship with her dad, and advice on an exit strategy.
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There are just certain types of relationships that should be avoided at all costs! When you decide to "entertain" someone, you're giving them your time, energy and other resources which overtime results in constant investing of a relationship.
It's important to be mindful and considerate of who gets that level of access to you because the person that you choose to entertain impacts the quality of your life.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give five types of relationships that you should avoid entertaining!
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When someone you love hurts you, so much gets processed internally:
- The disbelief and shock of it all
- Your self-esteem gets compromised
- An overwhelm of shame, guilt, and/or self-blame
- Your perception on relationships and people
The impact of feeling betrayed can begin a wave of questions and emotions regarding themselves, the person who betrayed them, and the entire relationship.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give four things you need to do to get past hurt and betrayal.
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Are you exhausted? Not just physically but mentally, emotionally and spiritually?
Divorces/breakups can bring a level of tiredness where you find yourself on autopilot, not fully living and even developing a lost of hope on what's ahead.
You feel empty, your thoughts and emotions are scattered, and you find yourself questioning and feeling very uncertain about your future.
Tiredness can bring mental exhaustion, emotional numbness, and spiritual fatigue and overtime it can develop depression, isolation, anger/bitterness, a cynical attitude, a negative mindset, and even regret.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give 3 things you need to do to transition out of this season of tiredness.
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The emotional overwhelm of going through a divorce can be very taxing on a person. There are many areas to consider when the dissolution of a marriage takes place and one of those areas is a person's finances.
When you're unclear of your numbers, your decisions moving forward are unclear, the divorce process becomes more stressful than necessary and both parties involved aren't on the same financial page.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Catherine Shanahan of My Divorce Solution, as we discuss the severity of knowing your numbers and the impact it has on everyone involved.
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Can one person's effort eventually be enough for a relationship to sustain even when it's clear that the other person's patterns is displaying something different?
Do you think that your love can transfer into them showing a level of mutualism?
Do you think that if you love them enough, then they would be the person that you want them to be for you?
Do you think that because you work hard in everything you do, the same results will apply relationally?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I give three questions that you need to ask yourself when you're in relationship dynamics like these.
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"Giving Your All" can sound so honorable and normalized where it can also send the wrong message of what it means when it comes to serving in relationships. You can find yourself spending countless years and investing everything of yourself in hopes of the relationship turning into more only to be disappointed because the outcome didn't meet the expectation.
Is there a strategic way of solidifying a marriage? How does one balance showing up in the courtship phase without sacrificing so much of themselves?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Shonda B. White, author of the book "Don't Be A Wife To A Boyfriend: 10 Lessons I Learned When I was Single" as she discusses her book, healing, self-love and how it change her approach to relationships.
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The narrative that you're attached to mentally is the foundation in how you feel about yourself, your life and others. From that narrative, a manifestation occurs based upon the story in which we believe.
When you physically detach from a relationship, it doesn't automatically remove yourself emotionally and mentally from that experience. Leaving it all behind involves creating a new story that will birth a new vision.
Join me on this week's podcast as I share how I was stuck in my story, my personal experience and developing a new foundation for myself.
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Divorce is a huge interruption in a person's life. There' so much behind the scenes that needs to unfold that many don't know nor see. From the finances, kids, family and creating a new normal, this can become overwhelming leaving someone feeling hopeless about what's to come. How does one move on from this chapter? How can a person recover from feeling hopelessness to developing an energy of optimism?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Mechelle Luster (Hope After Divorce), as she discusses her marriage that ended after 11 months, forgiveness, self-love and living life again.
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Feeling rejected from a relationship can often leave a person to question themselves. They often wonder:
- Why wasn’t I enough?
- What’s wrong with me?
- What could I have done differently?
- What does the other person have that I don’t?
When you constantly live in this mental & emotional space, overtime it controls you. It consumes you so much that it takes authority over you.
There’s no doubt that rejection is R-E-A-L and having those feelings are normal BUT what’s not normal is to cling to that feeling and make that an authority over yourself and your life.
On this week’s podcast, join me as I discuss three things to help you overcome from feeling rejected into becoming reinvented!
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In relationships we all have made mistakes. We've all done something that we may not necessarily be proud of or don't even want to admit. However, what's most important from making those mistakes, is to learn from them.
From clients, to our followers, and email subscribers, we get a lot of information as well as commonalities in many of them. We decided to take a few of those similar situations and discuss the common mistakes that we've seen.
In this episode, join me as I give four relationship mistakes that are often made.
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Phrases & Thoughts such as:
“I don’t trust no one!”
“No one is to be trusted!”
“There are no loyal people nowadays”
“If I open myself up again, I will get hurt”
Are surface responses with much deeper meanings that deprive a person of real connection, being vulnerable and living authentically.
When someone has experienced broken trust from their past, it can easily rob them of their present and/or future relationships.
- You desire something real but hesitant on being authentic.
- You crave deep connection but withdraw from being vulnerable.
How does a person trust again after trust has been broken?
In this episode, join me as I give three things that you must learn to start regaining trust again.
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Somewhere, somehow it’s been glorified that dealing with a high level of constant pain in a relationship must be taken for the “real love” to follow . Unfortunately this seems to happen quite often than it should not realizing that this is now a habit and not just “how things should be”
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss what this is called, examples of relationship dynamics that involves this and three key decisions that a person must do if they find themselves in this cycle.
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Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share their story, their journey and how their lives have been since working together.
Today, Shunte Jones, a previous client of mine who I worked with back in April 2019 will be our guest for today. Please join us as she discusses co-dependency, mending relationships, and the importance of recreating a new way of living and being after exiting out of a l long-term relationship.
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Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share their story, their journey and how their lives have been since working together.
Today, Tee Chapman, a previous client of mine who I worked with back in July 2020 will be our guest for today. Please join us as she discusses on & off relationships, the confidence and what it took to walk away for good, and how important it was to maintain boundaries when co-parenting.
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Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share their story, their journey and how their lives have been since working together.
Today, Renee Jackson, a previous client of mine who I worked with back in February 2018 will be our guest for today. Please join us as she discusses being diagnosed with depression and the impact it had on her mentally while navigating the divorce process.
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Over the next four weeks, we're doing a "T.H.R.I.V.E series" where previous clients who have been through my 12-week program, are joining me to share their story, their journey and how their lives have been since working together.
Today, Maliha Ahmed, a previous client of mine who I worked with back in July 2020 will be our guest for today. Please join us as she discusses what being "asleep" in her marriage meant for her and what was needed to move from autopilot to awareness in order to move into a new chapter of her life.
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On today's episode I decided to do a Q & A from a question that I received on IG. The individual who reached out to me is having trouble dealing with the situation of her ex and the "other woman".....she wants to know how to handle it all in the midst of her healing.
Even though this topic is sensitive, it's also a topic that needs to be addressed. Why? because it happens and in order to move from it, there are specific things a person needs to do in order to move forward
Join me on this week's podcast as I give four things that you need to do on how to intentionally handle this in order to heal forward.
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May is Mental Health Awareness Month and to bring a level of insight around this topic, this episode discuss your relationships and mental health.
Why are both relevant? Because the quality of your relationship have an overall influence and impact on your mental health.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I have a conversation with Transformational Coach, Bree Gordon as she opens up about her dysfunctional relationship of 10 years and how she was on the verge of having a mental breakdown as well as tangible advice that you can do to reclaim your life back.
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Studies show that 60% of second time marriages end in divorce. So the million dollar question is: "Why?" From emotional residue from the 1st marriage, to blending a family, the speed at which a person recouples, to even unhealthy traits of the individual...the reasons are different.
How do you take that leap again? Is it worth giving marriage another shot? Are questions that many want answers to.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Relationship Development Specialist Glenn P. Brooks Jr, as he discuss his first marriage, his current marriage of 22 years, blending families and wisdom on taking ownership and getting help as a man to heal and move forward.
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Studies show that a father's involvement is linked to better outcomes on a child's well-being. From cognitive development, education achievement, self-esteem and pro-social behavior. Culture & Society seems to place little importance on the role of fathers however, it's vital to not discount the significance of their role whether they're in the home or outside of the home.
Even though there are many different family structures, a father's influence is critical. Their parenting style balances the style of the mother's which results in the child having the tools necessary to be happier kids and responsible adults.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Shon Hart, founder & CEO of "Involved Dad" as well will be discussing the importance of a father's healing and emotional health and how it benefits his relationship with his child(ren) and mom.
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Contrary to what many think, divorce is hard on both men and women. It's often believed that it's easier for men but studies show that divorce is an experience that men have more trouble coping with.
Men have their battles too! From their identity, their hurt, their finances and their kids. It's important to get an understanding and perspective from men to see how the dissolution of their relationship impacts them as well.
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Jamel Jackson as we dive deep into this topic to discuss his personal journey with divorce as well as tools that men can use to apply in their own lives to get through this process.
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Healing is an area that seems to not get enough positive attention towards men. When this happens, men are left to suppress every emotion, every feeling and every thought internally with no safe space to express and deal with their pain.
Studies show that women are more likely to get the help they need than men, so where does that leave men?
On this week's podcast episode, join me as I talk with Marriage and Family Therapist Joseph Wilson (MMFT) as we have this discussion on emotional healing and the challenges that men encounter, the importance of their mental health, and simple BUT effective tools that men can do to get the help they need!
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When a relationship ends, it could cause you to question yourself in ways that impacts who you are. You may wonder:
- Am I good enough?
- Am I pretty enough?
- What's wrong with me?
- What do I have to offer?
These questions can often leave you to forget your personal power which also prohibits you to fully step into your womanhood and all that it has to offer. There's no question that as women, we have come a long way, however as life happens and unfolds in ways that you weren't prepared for, you may feel stuck and powerless to your life and what's ahead.
A vital part of moving forward is to embrace your womanhood fully and unapologetically! In this episode, join me as I discuss four things you must do to start embracing your womanhood.
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For many "being single" appears to be some kind of disease that nobody wants to catch....
Chances are when you've been in a relationship for a long time, "being single" seems unfamiliar therefore not truly enjoying it for what it has to offer. When you find yourself being bothered by your relationship status of being single, it can steer you into choosing a relationship that doesn't compliment you.
Does this mean that you shouldn't desire a relationship? No, because enjoying your singleness doesn't mean you should not want a relationship. Enjoying your singleness is more about loving yourself to enjoy a relationship when it comes.
In this episode, join me as I discuss three things you need to know when being single bothers you.
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What happens when one person wants to exit out of the relationship and the other one doesn't?
Even though the logical solution is to respect the other person's decision, it's not always the easiest conclusion to come to when you're the person who wants to work it out.
When you're in this cycle of wanting to make the relationship work while the other one doesn't, you're only keeping yourself in a space of denial, shock and the inability to accept that this has happened so you can continue on with your life.
In this episode, join me as I discuss what you need to do when you're the person who doesn't want the relationship to be over.
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It's 2021 & the New Year tends to bring new changes even in the area of relationships & marriages. They're couples who decide to not carry on the relationship/marriage into the New Year. So what does this mean? It means that an interruption has taken place in your life no matter who decides to make the decision to leave. It means that it may hurt to see that this relationship is no longer one anymore. If you've invest many resources such as time, energy, money and love into this relationship, it could also mean tons of emotions that are hard to cope with.
What I see many do is overlook the fact that this does changes things. To pick up and move forward as if nothing never happened is not a good idea. So what should you do?
In this episode, join me as I discuss one important step you must do once the relationship is over.
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Sometimes when you're only focused on the external attributes of a person, you overlook the intangible assets that are vital to go through life successfully.
This doesn't imply that attraction and/or the ability to financially take care of themselves aren't important, however, it's important to also take inventory of the internal foundation this person is standing on as well.
Many skip the fact, that while keeping a solid relationship, there will be hardships that you will have to encounter together and if the external attributes are the ONLY things you're basing your relationship off of, then your foundation will not be resilient enough to whether the storms of life.
There was a video that went viral with image consultant Kevin Samuels and a lady who wanted a "6 figure man". While there were many comments and opinions on this clip, I decided to give mine on this episode. Join me this week as I wanted to have a conversation on another perspective of this clip.
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When couples split, the parenting dynamic shifts.
Those dynamics can be:
- Coparenting
- Parallel Parent
- OR one parent can have the majority of the custody and responsibility
Sayings such as "I'm going to just solely focus on my kids" can easily bring a neglect of yourself
Beliefs of constant doubt, fear, and tons of excuses can also leave you in a place of stagnation.
Contrary to what many think....You don't have to "struggle" because you're a "single mom"
This week, guest "Single Parenting Expert" Kaywanda Lamb will be discussing how to thrive and win as a single parent.
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This year for some may not be considered "The most wonderful time of the year" especially when your relationship has ended. The detachments from someone is simply more than just you and your former partner. It's the extended families, the traditions you've shared, splitting custody between the parents, or even seeing your ex already in another relationship.
It can be a lot to take in and trust me I've been there.
This week's podcast, I decided to take an previous recording that gives 3 ways to help you get through this season during this time and look forward to embracing a new season of your life.
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Here's the bottom line: There are just certain "types" of relationships that you need to avoid entertaining.
When you're entertaining someone, it impacts the quality of your life as well as your direction. When you're giving someone access to you, you're giving them time, energy, and other resources and those are things that you should never be casual about.
The majority of the stories I hear are very similar and one of those similarities are the kind of relationships many continuously entertain believing that the outcome will be different and I'm here to tell you that it won't and it never will be.
In this week's podcast, join me as I discuss 5 kind of relationships that you need to avoid entertaining altogether!
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Seeing your ex move on quickly after your relationship can leave questions. You may wonder:
- How could they move on so soon?
- Did they value the relationship?
- Were they already dealing with this person?
It may seem like them moving on so soon is an indicator that they didn't care when in fact that is merely the case.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss 3 reasons on why your ex moved on so quickly and what you need to do for yourself!
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To go back to something that you've walked away from needs to be carefully considered..
You're often told to "work things out" but why? What would that look like? And what would you really be returning to?
Deciding to return back to an old relationship cannot be for surfaced reasons, because everyone around you thinks you should or because you're lonely.
On this week's podcast, join me as I discuss 4 reasons on why you shouldn't go back!
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Being your own hero involves showing up for yourself by being committed to what you say you want for your life! It's easy to look at someone to save you and the truth is, that isn't anyone else's responsibility but your own.
This year has been a challenge for us all and feelings of defeat, feeling powerless and losing hope can arise.
I was so inspired by actor Chadwick Boseman and his ability to be his own hero despite of his battle with colon cancer before he passed. This shows the definition of a person who became the hero of their own story.
On this week's podcast, I wanted to give some inspiration on being your own hero of your story as well as 5 things that you will need to start that path!
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Simply put...there are just certain things that you must stop doing when you want to move on with your life from a relationship...
Anyone can physically exit out of a relationship but if you're still attached mentally and emotionally you remain just as stagnant.
Moving forward after a relationship does need to be intentional no matter how difficult and challenging it may seem
Join me this week as I go over four things you need to stop doing when it comes to your ex and your past relationship.
Helpful Podcast Episodes
- Episode 22 "Sweet Revenge"
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I get asked this a lot "Tonya, why didn't they see my value?", "What's wrong with me?"
That question will keep you in an endless loop to find an answer, question yourself, and believe that they're inability to see your worth makes you unworthy....
Before you know it, you're connecting the way you view yourself based on the success of the relationship..
We can come up a million reasons as to why someone is unable to recognize the value you have however, It's important to understand what you need to know for yourself when you're asking yourself this particular question.
Join me this week as I go over 3 things you need to know when you find yourself in this mental and emotional space.
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Your ex isn't your competition.
What does this mean? It means that whatever they choose to do or don't do shouldn't determine what you need to do for yourself.
If they decided to jump into another relationship quickly does that mean you should? Because they choose to not take a designated season to work within does that mean you shouldn't?
Contrary to what many believe, your ex isn't and shouldn't be as relevant when moving forward. It's important to focus on who's relevant and that is yourself and what is required from you to live an intentional life going forward.
Join me this week as I discuss this is more detail as well as 3 things to keep in mind as you move forward.
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Not understanding why a relationship ended can bring feelings of rejection, stagnation and one’s own personal attempt to figure it out only to be mentally & emotionally flooded.
When desiring closure, you may have heard the statement “Find your own closure” OR “No one can give you closure but yourself”. Chances are this level of advice may come from a good place but this isn’t the advice that many need at that moment.
Proper guidance is necessary to help develop that closure that you may have not received from your past relationship.
This week is a past recording I did on Facebook called “Seeking The Proper Closure”, this will give you reasons why some choose to not give closure as well as 3 things that you can do to establish a level of closure from this previous relationship.
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Divorces and breakups can leave residue of inadequacy, lack and confidence and even the mindset of believing that your worth as a woman has diminished.
Tying your worth to a relationship will always leave you in limbo on your worth as an individual.
Your "Queen" isn't based upon past or current circumstances, it's based on the fact that as a woman, you were already given the gift of being a Queen. However, there are many women who has either forgotten this or never realized it.
This week, my guest Bishop RC Blakes of Blakes Ministries will be discussing his movement "Queenology" and why this is the prescription that is needed for a women to tap into her own inner queen despite of her history as well as principles that you can apply to start owning your crown.
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When couples split, there is also a "legal" side of things that needs to be handled from assets, liabilities, child support, custody and/or spousal support.
Having a team during this process may involve having an attorney to help assist.
This week, my guest Family Law Attorney Andrea Harvey of "Harvey Law Office" of Chicago, Illinois joined me to answer some general family law questions on what to expect in court. From getting your paperwork in order to even how it's important to be as cordial and cooperative when appearing in court.
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When someone mentions to me that they've been angry for years, the truth is that anger doesn't last that long.
Anger is a feeling that is short lived and if someone is calling it anger years, months and decades later, that is considered more to becoming "bitter",
Maybe that is a word that isn't as acceptable to name however, when you can't call it for what it is then it remains.
Join me this week as I discuss the difference between bitterness and anger, its characteristics, what causes bitterness and 3 different ways to cure bitterness.
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Marriage Repair
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"Getting Even" often sounds sweet right? Especially when you want someone to pay for what you think should be their karma.
However, we fail to see that in the event of wanting to see someone get what we believe they deserve, we often spend tons of time and energy on them that we're unable to focus on what's ahead for our own lives.
Real vengeance comes in doing what will elevate you and not minimize you!
Join me this week as I discuss 3 things you need to place your focus on if you want the real payback…
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As speaker Eric Thomas says "If you're going to go through pain, then get an reward from it"
Many often let their pain become a ceiling where it keeps them stagnant and content with being uncomfortably comfortable.
They lose vision beyond where they are due to the unexpected circumstances only to remain a victim and not becoming victor.
However, it's in those challenging times that your pain births power in you that you never believed was there and purpose you thought you never had.
This week, my guest Jasmyne Reynolds aka "Black Fitness Mommy" discusses how she went from getting through the pain of her 2nd pregnancy alone and not making enough money to a full time entrepreneur, fitness expert as well as meeting her soulmate.
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Trust is defined as "firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something". When this trust seems to be broken thoughts of fear, isolation, and even self-sabotage can take place. However, underneath those thoughts of trust issues is also another layer for deep connection.
Here's a truth: "You can never experience real connection and intimate relationships when you don’t lead from a place of building a trust"
This doesn't mean to blindly trust people neither does it mean to not guard your heart, but are you making your heart so guarded where you disguise it as protection to never establish real connection? Do you think that this is a "safe" practice to protect yourself from being hurt? Join me this week as I discuss 3 reasons on why you could have trust issues as well as 3 practical things you can do to improve and work through these issues.
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It only takes a mental shift to begin a new chapter.
We can often believe that what has taken place in our lives is the final chapter not realizing that it was only a season. That "fixed" mindset creates stagnation, develops fear and the inability to see what's ahead.
Ending the relationship is not the "End all be all" for your life. As a matter of fact, it can be the beginning of something even greater. This week, my guest and previous client Marquita Rias will share her relationship story on how changing the narrative changed her life.
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Did you know that 1 in 5 people will have a mental illness in their lifetime? It's also stated that everyone who faces challenges in life, their mental health will be impacted.
Losing your marriage or long term relationship causes feelings such as depression, anxiety, fear, anger, confusion and resentment. These feelings can often become a permanent residency to your mental health and wellbeing.
Join me on this podcast as I discuss 7 practical things you can do to improve your mental health
Helpful Podcast Episodes:
- Episode 4 - Grieve Your Relationship
- Episode 14 - Don't Forget to Forgive You
- Episode 15 - Mental & Emotional Health Is Your Self-Care w/Tiffany Bellamy
- Episode 17 - Using Journaling As A Healing Tool w/Renee Ross
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From social media posts to even texting, we have all used writing to express ourselves in some way.
Did you know that journaling is an effective self-care technique for your emotional health? It gives you the chance start putting those feelings down on paper instead of ignoring them. It manages the stress, depression, anxiety and boosts your overall mood.
Our world teaches us to "keep things moving" with no dealings of any kind. We're told to move on but we're not dealing with what we're attempting to move on from. With less than $2 and 20 minutes 3 times a week, you can start expressing your real feelings on paper by facing them and not running from them. This week my guest, Journal Strategist - Renee Ross will join us to discuss her story on how journaling has helped her as a single mom and when she lost her father, reasons on why you should journal, how your social media is a journal (something that many don't see), and ways you can start your journey of journaling today.
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There's this misconception that when the relationship is over, all feelings are gone when that's hardly even the case. This can cause a person to believe that missing them is a sign to return back to a relationship that they may need to stay away from. The truth is you will miss them and you may still love them because that's a part of the healing process however that doesn't mean you should go back to them. Join me this week to discuss 3 things to consider when you find yourself thinking that you should go back or your find yourself consumed with thoughts of missing them and you still being in love with them.
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Self care is often encouraged as "treat yourself and you'll feel better". Now make no mistake there is nothing wrong with an "indulge" but we don't want to confuse that as the only source of care.
Our "Real" care is sometimes overlooked due to not confronting those things that we need to face. But what happens when they don't get addressed? Do we really put the "past" behind or is it often traveled with us?
Ending a relationship is not about just walking away from the person, it's more about your mental and emotional health moving forward. My guest, Psychologist, Dr. Tiffany Bellamy will join us this week to give ma more detailed understanding of what care is, the long term ramifications when it's overlooked as well as things you can do in this season to make your mental and emotional health a priority.
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There's a lot of talk in these streets about forgiving other people which is true but I don't think we emphasize enough the importance of genuine self forgiveness. Those emotions of embarrassment, guilt, shame, failure, fear and anger can only be release when you decided to practice forgiving yourself.
Are you still in bondage because you haven't given yourself a "get out of jail" card? Have you ever thought about canceling your debt and giving yourself a do over? Nothing comes from being hard on yourself when you treat your relationship that didn't work like an everlasting punishment. Join me this week about what happens when you don't forgive yourself and two things you can do today to start making self forgiveness a practice.
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When relationships end, finances shift. One of the biggest challenges I hear from women is the fear of not being able to manage and/or pay off current debt. Here's the truth, you don't have to struggle after your relationship is over. There are plenty of ways to bring in income especially off doing side hustles!
My guest, Valencia Morton aka "Side Hustle Queen", who is also a wealth strategist, blogger, author and speaker, will be on to discuss on how paid off 43K in three years post divorce. She will also discuss simple things you can do now to start your financial free journey.
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Running from your problems is a race that you will never win.
In this season of the coronavirus pandemic, it's causing everyone to pause and slow down. From events being cancelled, schools closing, people telecommuting, to even bars and restaurants being closed, being able to "occupy" your time has become limited.
Even though this current situation has adjusted the way we're handling our day to day, it's also an adjustment for those who constantly stay "busy" to avoid their realities. When you keep going around the problems that keep appearing in your life, you will never give yourself a change to find a solution. It's during this time, where it's important to take advantage of this moment and face what you've never confronted. Join me this week as I have a conversation on the importance of facing problems.
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Divorce can bring a lot of stress and trigger a lot of emotions which causes you to frantic and lose control. The reality is, divorce is a process that takes time to get through. There's the emotional, financial, as well as mental side of things that must be processed at different times. Fear of the unknown scares you and you don't feel like you have the information to move forward. The truth is, nothing changes overnight. Even though you may cannot change what is currently happening as soon as you would like to, being prepared and proactive will put you further ahead than reacting and panicking. Join Tonya Carter this week as she discusses five different ways on how to reduce stress during your divorce process.
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Can you believe that the fear of having something better scares people? Yes, getting and having something better is a fear for many. It's almost as if living in misery has become so normalized that anything else seems abnormal. Divorce or even a relationship that has ended can create thoughts of fear, rejection, uncertainty and failure. These kind of thoughts can keep you in a season of your life that could last for months, years, decades or even a lifetime. Operating from a place of fear puts limits on so many possibilities for you! It creates a mediocre life that you never wanted only to wish you would’ve lived a more fearless life later. Tune in on this week's topic "Why many fear what they want?"
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March is Women’s History Month and as I think about all the women who’ve made an impact in the world and even in our homes and families, it only indicates the tenacity and boldness that we have always had. The reason why we love the women who have been an influence in our lives was not because they had a “problem free” life but the ability to become resilient by not running from life challenges. Have you even thought about how phenomenal you are? Or have you been so concerned about what you don't have, what has happened or what you've done? Join Tonya Carter this week as she discusses what could be stopping you from celebrating yourself.
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Any change is challenging, especially the change that you haven't quite prepared for. Rebuilding your life after a departure from a divorce or relationship can almost seems too much to bear. This brings anxiety, frustration, anger and even avoiding the necessary daily duties that is required to rebuild a new life. How does a person handle this while keeping themselves sane? How can a person continue to move forward despite of all the things that need to be done? Join Tonya Carter as she discusses 3 tips that will help you when starting over seems to be too much!
Enrollment is NOW open for my 12 week masterclass! Click here to schedule a discovery call with me: https://tonyacarter.as.me/claritycall
Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn
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Here's the reality: Many will judge you.....When you're doing well and even if you're at your bottom! Knowing that you are enough no matter what season you're in is essential if moving forward is your goal! Every voice will not speak of wisdom, love and necessary correction to move forward. Some voices will be of judgement and criticism. Those voices can overpower the necessary steps you need to take to move forward.Join Tonya Carter as she discusses what you need to know and understand about yourself in order to make this a season of your life and not a lifetime punishment.
Enrollment is NOW open for my 12 week masterclass! Click here to schedule a discovery call with me: https://tonyacarter.as.me/claritycall
Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn
Download your Free 7 Core Affirmation Guide here: http://bit.ly/affirmationguide
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Valentine's Day can be one of many reminders of what you're currently going through. From the endless marketing, the constant Valentine's Day posts on social media to even seeing other couples enjoying themselves out, a weekend getaway and/or getting engaged. Looking at this day in a certain lens creates depression and feelings of failure. Should someone really feel this way because of one day? Have we forgotten the meaning of love? Is love only determined by your relationship status? Join Tonya Carter as she discusses five ways to handle Valentine's Day and the days ahead!
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Do you ever wonder will this pain from the relationship ending be over? Will the crying, hurt, anger and frustration ever end? Recovering from a relationship is very similar to recovery from a physical injury but what must be done to recover from this hurt? Join Divorce Coach Tonya Carter as she discusses the ONE major factor to start your relationship recovery journey.
Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn
Download your Free 7 Core Affirmation Guide here: http://bit.ly/affirmationguide
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For more information about me, visit my website at https://www.tonyacarter.com
Ending a relationship is equivalent to losing a loved one. If moving forward is the end goal then how is that possible when you're not facing your feelings? Society teaches us to be strong and mask any potential emotion that shows vulnerability. Join Divorce Coach Tonya Carter as she discusses what you need to do properly to handle your emotions so that you can thrive.
Order my book: "Divorce Your Story: A Woman's Guide to Heal & Thrive After Divorce" - http://www.divorceyourstorybook.com. Also available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2QPWoCn
Download your Free 7 Core Affirmation Guide here: http://bit.ly/affirmationguide
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For more information about me, visit my website at https://www.tonyacarter.com
Getting through the legal part of divorce is half the battle but what about the “life after” process? How can someone start putting their life back together from this experience? How does a person start? What is required to intentionally travel a road that will lead them to live a thriving life? Join Divorce Coach, Tonya Carter on this episode as she shares three different things that you must do to get your life back on track.
Download your Free 7 Core Affirmation Guide here: http://bit.ly/affirmationguide
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For more information about me, visit my website at https://www.tonyacarter.com
Did you know that January is the month where the most divorces occur? Crazy right? You could be a person who is going through the process, already done or contemplating on it. However, any choice that is made, we must be intentional. Join me as I discuss how the beginning of the year was groundbreaking for me when I got my divorce but also what I failed to do.
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Host, Tonya Carter welcomes you to her new project to help women thrive post their divorce or breakup. This is a brief introduction of the podcast and why it was created.