The Stronger Marriage Podcast with Trey & Lea: Recent Episodes
Trey & Lea Morgan
Welcome to Trey & Lea's Podcast on marriage and family topics. Trey and Lea have been married over 30 years. They have a large following on social media, and conduct their "Stronger Marriage" and “Stronger Families” workshops all over the United States. They get to talk to thousands of couples yearly about healthy marriages and families. They are the authors of the book "10 WAYS TO A STRONGER MARRIAGE" available on Amazon and at Barnes & Noble. You can learn more about Trey & Lea from their webpage: https://strongermarriageworkshops.com/Welcome/
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We try to take a few minutes every day to just talk.
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We share a _________________ app on our phones.
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Before we fall asleep each night we usually say, "What does your day look like tomorrow (or for the rest of the week)?"
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We try to go to bed together every night.
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We share ________________ with one another.
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We are big believers in "scheduling sex."
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Want to be a great spouse? Here's 7 ways that will help.
Credit the idea to the Freemans.
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IN this podcast we talk about 8 ways your cell phone hurts your marriage and 8 ways your cell phone can bless your marriage.
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1. Praise him. Speak life into him.
2. Flirt with him.
3. Pray for him.
4. Do something with him he likes to do.
5. Respect him.
6. Make the first move sexually.
7. Protect him and your marriage. Boundaries.
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1. Unexpected surprises.
2. Take an interest in her interests.
3. Do a chore for her or serve her.
4. Listen to her.
5. Encourage her and thank her.
6. Pray for her.
7. Protect her and your marriage. Boundaries.
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Come clean ... shoot straight ... no more lies.
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Take complete responsibility ... don’t blame.
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Completely end things with the other person.
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Be remorseful and apologetic.
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Listen with empathy.
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Ask for forgiveness.
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Be transparent. Don’t hide things. Be where you say you will be. Regularly check in. Text back or call back immediately if possible.
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Answer questions. (if they want to know. You don’t have to know, you might not like what you learn.)
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You can’t just say “let’s start over” because that won’t solve any of the problems or heal the emotional issues. Death – Get over it.
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Be patient as your spouse heals. IF YOU’VE BEEN UNFAITHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE, YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT DICTATE HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE THEM TO HEAL. BUT YOU CAN HELP THE PROCESS BY BEING AN OPEN BOOK TO THEM FROM HERE ONWARD.
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Be around and available.
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Make them feel like they are #1 again.
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Refresh your marriage. Counseling ... workshop. ETC
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NEVER cheat again.
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Here's a link to our Amazon Storefront: https://www.amazon.com/shop/stronger_marriages
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Looking back over the past 36 years of marriage we realize there are some things we've done well, and some things we've done poorly. Today we share those with you.
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- What are some ways to balance being both a husband and father?
- What are three things you’ve learned from 36 years of marriage?
- What is something your wife does that makes you feel loved?
- What would be your dream trip or vacation?
- If you were to give the husbands out there a couple of tips on how to love their wives, what would they be?
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- What are some ways to balance being both a mother and a wife?
- What are three things you’ve learned from 36 years of marriage?
- What is something your husband does that makes you feel loved?
- What would be your dream trip or vacation?
- If you were to give the husbands out there a couple of tips on how to love their wives, what would they be?
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We will be doing part 2 ... "5 Things Husbands want their wives to know about sex."
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Don't let any of these sneaky things work their way into your marriage.
1. Letting the ___________________ die
2. Letting the romance _________________
3. ___________________ each other on purpose
4. Letting issues grow by not dealing with them
5. Taking your spouse for granted
6. Not making time for your marriage
7. S_____________________________
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Today we're talking oneness ... two people becoming one flesh, and what that looks like.
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Here's are ways we connect ...
1. Going for a walk.
2. P______________ together.
3. Having a deep conversation (ask one another questions)
4. Touching (holding hands, hugging, cuddling)
5. Sharing memes, tagging one another on social media.
6. Playing a G__________________ together.
7. C_______________________ together.
8. Spending time together doing something you both enjoy.
9. Be vulnerable about the future, dreams, and plans.
10. D_____________________________
11. Trying new things together.
12. S________________________________ one another.
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Today we are talking Married Sex facts and info that will bless your marriage.
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Micro-cheating
This type of cheating involves developing inappropriate and intimate connections outside your relationship.
Micro-cheating is subtle and doesn’t involve physical intimacy. But the lies, secrecy, and betrayal that come with micro-cheating can destroy a relationship.
1. Secretly messaging someone
2. Meeting with someone without your partner knowing
3. Being emotionally attached to someone that’s not your spouse
4. Saying things like “if I weren’t married.”
5. Maintaining contact with your _____________________
6. ___________________ joking
7. Creating a dating profile
8. Trying to impress someone you have a crush on (Dressing up for them)
9. Coming off as single when you aren’t
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Sending someone photos of yourself
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Having secret ____________________________-
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Discussing your intimate desire with someone who isn’t your spouse
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Following inappropriate accounts on social media
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___________________ with someone that’s not your spouse in person or by text
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How to tell Your Marriage is a Priority in your life?
1. It’s in the budget.
2. It’s on your schedule.
3. In your __________________.
4. In your prayers.
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10 COMMANDMENTS FOR MARRIED COUPLES ON SOCIAL MEDIA
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DON’T SPEND MORE TIME ON SOCIAL MEDIA THAN YOU SHOULD.
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NEVER HIDE THINGS FROM YOUR SPOUSE ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
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SHARE YOUR PASSWORDS WITH YOUR SPOUSE.
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NEVER EVER BEFRIEND ANYONE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX YOUR SPOUSE IS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH.
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UNFRIEND ANYONE WHO CROSSES NORMAL BOUNDARIES.
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POST PICTURES.
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DON’T BE AFRAID TO PROCLAIM YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR SPOUSE ON SOCAL MEDIA.
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NEVER USE YOUR STATUS OR POST TO COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE.
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THINK BEFORE YOU TYPE.
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NO MATTER HOW MANY FRIENDS AND FOLLOWERS YOU HAVE on social media, remember that your #1 friend should be your spouse.
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Things that could be killing your sex life …
- Feeling unappreciated
- Not being pursued outside the bedroom. (Not feeling pursued or desired.)
- Not talking about sex
- Stress
- Menopause
- Medications (beta blockers, birth control, antidepressants, blood pressure meds)
- Depression
- Tiredness
- Not feeling pursued or desired.
- Busyness
- Getting stuck in a rut
- Poor health and poor hygiene
- ED and low Testosterone
- Porn
- Not feeling emotionally safe
- Letting your children sleep in your bed every night
- Physical limitations
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Sometimes "I love you" sounds exactly like ... "I love you."
But other times, it sounds like...
- Be careful.
- Text me when you get there.
- I was just thinking of you.
- Remember that time we.....?
- I miss you.
- Love spending time with you.
- Can I do something to help?
- I'll be right there.
- I'm worried about you.
- I'm listening.
- Yes, I have time.
- I saw this and thought of you.
- I know this is your favorite.
- I want to hear all about it.
- Keeps mouth shut.
- I'm so thankful for you.
- I'll always love you, no matter what.
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1. Have a relationship with God.
2. Love God before your ___________________.
3. Pray for one another.
4. ____________________ together
5. Go to Church together
6. Read the Bible together.
7. Be reminded you’re married to one of God’s kids
8. Serve others (and one another) together
9. _____________________ one another.
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- Focus on God more.
- Build your F__________________
- Date more.
- Improve _____________________
- Praise and Encourage more.
- Be more Open and Honest.
- Get _________________________
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10 WAYS TO PUT SOME SPARK BACK IN YOUR MARRIAGE:
- Go to _____________ at the same time.
- Start __________________ together.
- Be intentional about holding hands everyday.
- Make _____________________ something you give freely.
- Focus more on what your spouse does right than what your spouse does wrong.
- Give each other a 7 seconds ___________ as soon as you see each other after work.
- Say "I love you" every morning & every evening.
- Be ________________ about being sexually intimate.
- Check in on one another everyday and ask, "How are you?" or "How was your day?"
- Be __________________ to be _________________ with your spouse.
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Step 1 – Plan or schedule a meeting with your spouse. Agree on a time with your spouse.
Step 2 – Lead with your _________________ for making your marriage better.
Step 3 – Focus on one issue at a time. The one that is most important to you.
Step 4 – Don’t beat around the bush.
Step 5 - Don’t come across in a __________________________.
Step 6 – Talk about _________________________.
Step 7 – Don’t expect things to _________________________ right away.
Step 8 - Praise the Progress
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Most wives want to be pursued other than just sexually. If that is the only time they feel pursued, you’re doing it wrong.
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Surprise her! This doesn’t have to be something major, but women love all types of surprises, anything from a special note or card to a specially planned date night.
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Plan some quality time with her and let her know in advance. Project at the house she’s been wanting your help on.
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Plan a date night and you make all the plans. Think of things that she would like to do or things you like doing together.
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Tell her how you feel about her. Compliment her. You can never compliment her too much. You can do this in person, via text, over the phone, or even email. Just giving a genuine compliment goes a long way. Tell her often that you love her or that you miss her.
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Text her when you are thinking about her. Just a “Hey, hun, was just thinking about you and wanted to check in and see how your day’s going!” is a sweet way to let her know you care.
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Hug her. Kiss her. Wrap your arms around her. And even do it in public–she wants to know that she’s your woman and you’re not afraid to let other people know. Non-sexual touching.
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Pursue her mind ... REALLY listen to her. conversation ... about things she likes.
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Pray for her.
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Learn her love language.
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How to pursue your husband
1. Brag on him.
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Do something with him that he likes to do. It makes him feel important.
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Initiate sex. Wear something sexy bed.
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Pray for him.
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Flirt with him.
- Dress up for him.
- Make him a priority over job, kids, hobbies, friends, family ... everything but God.
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Put a filter over your mouth. You don’t have to say everything you think. Focus on what he does right ... overlook some things you could be critical about.
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Learn his love language.
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1. Because the busyness of your lives has weakened the priority of your
marriage.
2. Because you’ve gotten a little bored or too comfortable
3. Because your kids want your marriage to succeed.
It allows you to reconnect ...
- sexually,
- emotionally,
- physically,
- conversationally.
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What are the 5 Love Languages in a marriage?
- Words of Affirmation. Verbally affirming to your partner how much you love and care for them is the marriage Love Language ...
- Acts of Service. ...
- Affection. ...
- Quality Time. ...
- Gifts.
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We get so many questions about married sex, what it is and what it isn't. In this episode we want to touch on some VERY healthy things that will bless your married sex life.
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YOU SHARING RESPONSIBILITIES:
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YOU DATING:
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YOU BEING AFFECTIONATE:
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YOU PRAISING ONE ANOTHER:
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YOU ARGUING IN A HEALTHY WAY:
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YOU PRACTICING WHAT YOU PREACH:
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YOU MAKING GOD A PRIORITY:
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No one enters marriage thinking they will have an affair, yet how do so many slide into infidelity so easily? 93% of affairs begin with a simple friendship.
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We are currently navigating a storm (tough time) in our marriage, and here are some goals of ours.
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- Admiration
- He wants you to initiate sex more often.
- He wants you to stuff with him that he likes to do.
- He wants you to dress up for him.
- He wants frequent reminders that he's a good dad.
- He wants a little free time.
- He wants to feel appreciated.
- He wants you to be his lover not his mother.
- He wants to see your body.
- He wants to be your hero.
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1. To Feel Loved and Appreciated
2. To Be Understand
3. To talk to me & give me your attention
4. For you to plan the date night
5. Affection
6. Help with Daily Tasks (chores, kids, etc)
7. For you to take care of your body
8. For you to Protect me.
9. To be included sexually
10. To go have some fun together.
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Today we share with you some of our victories and some of our failures. AND let you know how you can learn from our mistakes.
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Is debt killing your marriage? It can! We struggled with it bad early in our marriage, and here are some things we did to get it under control.
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1. You’re not stressing over your body.
2. You’re not afraid to talk about sex.
3. When you’re willing to step out of your comfort zone a bit.
4. You sometimes you schedule it to make it happen.
5. You like it.
6. You take turns initiating (agreed frequency).
7. You feel like it’s a joy and not a chore.
8. You’re willing to try new things together.
9. You feel good or connected after sex.
10. You seek help when you need it (or continuing education).
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Up for some fun? We give all the details on our podcast, but here's a teaser ...
Show your spouse the list below and allow them to pick 5 things from the list. When they pick 5, you gladly do those 5 things over the next five days. Then, you pick your five favorites, and they can do those things for you.
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Cook their favorite meal.
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Have something delivered to them at their work or home.
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Initiate sex.
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Allow them to pick out something sexy they want you to wear.
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Pray for your marriage every day for the next 5 days.
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Write them a love note telling them at least 5 things you love about them.
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Send them several sexy or sweet text messages.
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Go on a walk together.
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Do a chore for them that they don’t like to do (their choice).
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Buy them a surprise.
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Take them on a date.
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Give them a back rub with no strings attached.
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Spend the day flirting with them.
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Snuggle on the couch together and watch the movie of their choice.
Up for the challenge?
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We mentioned an awesome lingerie place called Mentionables. Here is the link: https://shopmentionables.com/
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Here is a great checklist of things to find out "are we in a healthy marriage?" Maybe a few things you need to work on. Healthy marriages bless you, your children and your grandchildren.
- Healthy marriages don't throw around the "D" word.
- Healthy marriages don't hide things from one another.
- Healthy marriages have one another's ___________________.
- Healthy marriages forgive quickly.
- Healthy marriages control their ____________________.
- Healthy marriages cut off any ____________ or any _______________ that threatens their marriage.
- Healthy marriages see their spouse's ______________ as important as their ________________.
- Healthy marriages are comfortable discussing ___________________________ things.
- Healthy marriages seek ways to spend time together.
- Healthy marriages have meaningful _________________________.
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Sorry for all the coughing ... we're both getting over head colds.
- P______________ together.
- Have fun together.
- Don't stop D________________.
- Talk
- Do M_________________ work together.
- S___________________ your spouse.
- Be romantic.
- Go on a trip together.
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We answer your questions this week on the Stronger Marriage Podcast
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How can we get the romance back into our marriage?
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How do you get your spouse to see his family connection is too close?
3. I cheated and hate what I did. How can I help my marriage to heal?
4. Advice for a spouse wanting to stay and work on a marriage when the other one doesn’t?
5. What’s the first question you’d ask a couple who came to you and said they were thinking about getting a divorce?
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Best and worst marriage advice you’ve heard?
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How can I learn to accept that my wife has much less intimate desire than me?
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One of the most powerful things you have in your home that promotes relationships, family growth and healthy relationships is the family dinner table. YET ... more and more family are not using it. Join us this week as we look at the REASONS to keep eating around the family table.
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Protect your intimacy in your marriage and don't let ANY of these things sneak in and kill you sex life.
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- How to learn to say no.
- Keep it simple.
- Depend on the village.
- Seek joy.
- Take care of yourself.
- Don't sweat the small stuff.
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Here are the 10 needs we discussed in no particular order. Work through them with your spouse...
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____ Sexual Fulfillment
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____ Affection
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____ Financial Support
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____ Domestic Support
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____Recreational Companionship
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____Conversation
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____ Openness and Honesty
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____ Family Commitment
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____ Attractiveness of Spouse
10. ____ Admiration
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In this episode we cover ...
- How do I know I married the right person?
- Are soulmates real?
- Is there one person for every person in the world?
- Singles: 2 things you need to know before getting married.
- Can I fall out of love?
- Is love a feeling or an action?
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7 Things That Are OUT OF BOUNDS in Marriage
1. Hurting your spouse on purpose.
2. Withholding sex (or any other need) as punishment.
3. Talking bad about your spouse to other people.
4. _________________ your spouse.
5. Allowing other people to _______________________ about your spouse.
6. Keeping secrets from your spouse.
7. ______________________________ at your spouse.
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There is SO much debate over this question ... here's our thoughts. Our answer may surprise you.
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5 things for husbands and 5 things for wives.
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- Make sex M _______________ S________________.
- Say "yes" more than you say "no."
- Try ______________ things.
- Be sexually ________________________.
- Both initiate often.
- ________________ nice for your spouse.
- __________________ only after your spouse
- Don't obsess about how you _______________.
- Flirt.
- Be naked with _____________________.
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Today we are challenging you to take the 5-Day Marriage Makeover Challenge with us. This will BLESS your marriage. Here's some hints to what you'll find here ...
FOR THE NEXT 5 DAYS DO THESE 5 THINGS ...
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Zero Criticism for the Next 5 Days.
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Spend 20-30 minutes in Conversation Each Day for the Next 5 Days
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Be ___________________ Each Day for the Next 5 Days.
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____________________ Together Everyday for the Next 5 Days.
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Send Your Spouse a Sweet Text (or write them a sweet note) Each Day for the Next 5 Days.
You got this. Let us know if you did the challenge with us ...
TreyMorgan@msn.com
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Healthy marriages include dating. It's so important to your marriage it should have been included in your wedding vows.
When you regularly date your spouse you're telling them that they are a priority in your life.
Many couples stop going on dates once they get married and then wonder what happened to that original love they had for one another.
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1. Stop correcting your spouse in public.
2. Stop putting your marriage on auto pilot.
3. Stop treating your spouse like they are a child.
4. Stop think your spouse should know what you need.
5. Stop pretending like everything is fine.
6. Stop purposely getting under your spouse’s skin.
7. Stop being critical of your spouse to others.
8. Stop making your spouse the butt of your jokes.
9. Stop checking out people who aren’t your spouse.
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10 great phrases you should be saying in your marriage.
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This was such a fun episode. Flirting 101. May you never stop flirting in your marriage.
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1. Stop lying and strive for honesty.
2. COMPLETELY STOP watching porn and stay away from anything that draws you towards it.
3. Take complete responsibility for your mistakes.
4. Answer questions.
5. Be patient as your partner rebuilds trust.
6. Be Open.
7. Make your partner feel #1 again.
8. Take the opportunity to refresh your relationship.
9. Consider a break from intimacy to restore the spark.
10. NEVER do this again.
Consider getting a marriage book to read with your spouse. Start trying to strengthen your marriage again. https://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Your-Marriage-Devotional-Proverbs/dp/B08NWTCVKQ Watch these videos by Terry Crews: https://www.youtube.com/user/terrycrewsfans There are seven videos called Dirty Little Secret (part 1 – 7)
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- Don't wait until their is a problem.
- Find accountability.
- Find online accountability.
- Set boundaries with your cell phones.
- Remove the things that tempt you.
- Guard your eyes and mind.
- Be sexually generous in your marriage.
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Did you know more people log on to porn sites everyday than they do Netflix, Twitter and Amazon ... combined?
**Porn is NOT harmless!
- Porn breaks trust in marriage.
- Porn keeps you from being intimate.
- Porn causes self-esteem issues with both spouses.
- Porn is selfish and lazy.
- Porn causes performance problems in your sexlife.
- Porn causes dissatisfaction in marriage.
- Porn causes marital infidelity to go up 300%.
- Porn is linked to depression, stress and anxiety.
- Porn alters your brain.
- Porn is demeaning.
Many of the statistics quoted in this podcast can be found here: https://www.thedatingdivas.com/pornography-affects-marriage/**
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- How temptation works in marriage.
- How to avoid unfaithfulness in your marriage.
- 4 ways to defend your marriage against temptation.
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You fell in love because you communicated ... and you'll remain in love for the same reason.
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What a fun episode .... here are 7 Ways to Show the World You are Proud of your SPOUSE.
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Whoever said "Love means not having to say your sorry," is probably divorced today. There are no perfect marriages, so apologizing is a part of marriage ... and so is forgiving.
Today we talk how to apologize and how to forgive ... in marriage. We hope you enjoy.
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We're talking 8 really bad marriage myths in this episode. Things you've probably been told that are false. Don't believe them.
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Don’t fall into the rut of being so busy that you collapse in bed from exhaustion every night. Also, don’t spend every night just sitting in your chair until you fall asleep. Instead, spend a couple of nights a week nurturing your relationship. Here are 10 ideas we talk about in this episode:
- Turn it off to turn it on.
- Pick out a movie night.
- Talk about what?
- Lock that door.
- It starts in the kitchen with FOOD.
- Take it outside.
- Make it a massage night.
- Pick out a game.
- Take a bath.
- Be romantic.
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Sex can be one of the greatest things in your marriage when it’s going well ... at the same time, it can be one of the most frustrating things when things aren’t clicking.
Topics covered on this episode ...
- Reasons for a sexless marriage.
- In many marriages wives have a higher sex drive than their husband.
- How to meet in the middle on frequency.
- How to better communicate your sexual needs.
- Benefits in your marriage of a healthy sex life.
Link to Sexless Marriage Episode: https://www.buzzsprout.com/842692/7831312
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Things discussed in this episode...
5 Compliments to 1 Criticism drops the divorce rate to 12%.
But what if my personality tends to be negative, shouldn't they love me for who I am?
- Close your mouth -
- Focus on the positives not negatives -
- Start a gratitude journal.
- Don't take negativity too personal.
- Don't be hypersensitive to a negative spouse.
Personality Plus Book Mentioned: https://www.amazon.com/Personality-Plus-Understand-Understanding-Yourself/dp/080075445X
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Feel like you are drifting apart? Need to reconnect? Here are 5 Things we discuss in detail that you can do to RECONNECT with your spouse.
- Fall Back into Friendship.
- Reconnect Intellectually by talking.
- Give your spouse daily affirmations and compliments.
- Reconnect Sexually.
- Connect Spiritually.
Date Night Questions from Point 2:
- What is your favorite memory of dating me?
- What is one of your favorite features of me?
- What is one of your favorite sexual memories of ours?
- What is something I do for you that you really like?
- What did you want to be when you grew up?
- What all do you remember about our first date?
- Which of your parents are you most like?
- Which of our kids are most like you?
- What’s my best physical feature?
- What do you like most that I do in bed?
- What’s your favorite time of day to be intimate?
- Do you like kissing or hugging more?
- When did you know you really liked me?
- What do you think we need to work on in our marriage?
- If you got sick, do you think I would be there to care for you?
- When did you know you wanted to kiss me?
- What’s your favorite non-sex activity that we do together?
- As a child, did you trust both of your parents?
- What is your favorite thing I ever did for a special occasion for you?
- Where have you always wanted to travel?
- What was your favorite class in HS?
- Who was your first crush?
Here's the link to Recreational Enjoyment Inventory lists: https://www.marriagebuilders.com/recreational-enjoyment-inventory.htm
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No one enters marriage thinking they will have an affair, yet how do so many slide into infidelity so easily? 93% of affairs begin with a simple friendship.
If you have locked your spouse out of your phone to hide messages you're sending to someone of the opposite sex, or if you're deleting those texts so your spouse won't find them ... you're not headed towards cheating ... you're already there.
A healthy marriage is a marriage that doesn’t hide things from one another. Honesty is the main foundations of having a great marriage.
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Daily Marriage Check List:
1. Kiss good morning.
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Text each other throughout the day.
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Do something _______________.
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Have uninterrupted conversation.
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__________________ together.
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Laugh together
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Make some __________________.
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_____________ on _______________together.
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Kiss goodnight
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Go to bed at the same time.
Repeat tomorrow.
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Are phones intimacy killers or a relational blessing? The answer is both.
It is important to study the role that cell phones have in our marriage and how we can make sure they provide an effective, supportive role in our marriage.
Here are some DO's and some DON'Ts on using cellphones in your marriage.
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- Always remember you are on the same team.
- Seek first to understand, and THEN to be understood.
- Don't get ______________________.
- _______________________ and ____________________ are essential.
- Seek help when you come to an impasse.
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All marriages ups and downs ... and conflicts.
The absence of conflict is not a sign of a healthy marriage, but a sign that both partners have disengaged from working on their differences.
How you handle this makes or breaks your marriage.
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Part two ... last week's was "How to be Your Wife's Best Friend" ...
Friendship is one of the keys to a strong marriage and as a wife there are things you can do to be your husband's best friend. LIKE ...
- Do things with him he likes to do.
- Be his __________________________.
- Be his biggest cheerleader.
- ________________________ for him.
- Don't constantly be annoyed by him.
- Be __________________________ to him.
- Laugh at his jokes.
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- Give her your time.
- Be interested in what she's interested in.
- Talk to her.
- Be T_______________________
- Be loyal.
- L_____________ a H_______________ hand
- E________________ and A________________ her
- Appreciated your marriage and friendship.
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Things covered in this podcast ...
- What is considered a sexless marriage?
- How often should a married couple be having sex?
- Why sex is important in marriage?
- What if I'm too tired?
- What if there has been infidelity?
- What if my spouse isn't meeting my needs sexually?
- Why porn is a HUGE contributor to a sexless marriage.
- What if there are healthy issues?
- My spouse NEVER initiates.
- Co-sleeping with children.
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Valentine's Day is a GREAT time to rekindle romance in your marriage.
Be intentional about nurturing your marriage.
There are traditional and non-traditional ways to celebrate Valentine's Day. Here are some of our ideas ...
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Don't overlook these amazing marriage tips no one is talking about. We cover them in detail ... and explain them.
- No matter what it is you’re doing, always let your spouse know they are welcome to be a part of it. Include your spouse by asking them if they want to go ... even though you know they might not. Don’t just assume they know that they are welcome to go, ask them.
- Spend time together without your kids.
- Go to bed at the same time.
- Don’t stop making an effort to _________ your spouse.
- Learn your spouse's _____________ and then strive to meet them.
- Watch for unobvious threats .
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- Thank God for your Marriage & Family
- Ask God to Bless yours Spouse and you as a Spouse
- Ask God to give you _______________ as Parents.
- Pray for your Children.
- Pray for your _______________ together as Husband and Wife.
- Ask God to Protect your Family
- Ask God to help you not be critical.
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TIME TO GET NAKED in your marriage ... Did you know in Genesis 2:25, it says, "Adam and Eve were both naked and they felt no shame."
That word "NAKED" means "UNCOVERED," ... and uncovered means more than just naked, it means they were totally "bare" with one another .... there was nothing hidden from one another. God created marriage where you are to be "uncovered" with one another. Nothing hidden ... no secrets. No secret friendships, text messages, Facebook friends, etc.
When someone tells us, "My spouse won't let me see their cellphone," it tells us that their spouse is doing something they shouldn't. Don't hide things from your spouse ... not purchases, friendships, cellphones, passwords, etc. The healthiest marriages are open, honest and keep NO secrets. Have a marriage that is "uncovered." That's how God created it.
Interestingly enough ... if you know the story, after Adam and Eve sinned they immediately "covered" themselves with fig leaves. In marriage, when sin enters, nakedness leaves. Protect your trust and your nakedness in your marriage.
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I few years ago I spent a little time with a man that was a millionaire. I think he was the first millionaire I’d ever met. I'll admit I was a bit in awe of him when I found out how much money he had. He told me about his plane, his multiple houses and other things that had me in awe.
He said something to me that I'll never forget. His words literally rocked my world and made me rethink everything that I thought was important. His words still made me have chills. You want to know what he said? Listen to this podcast.
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10 NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
1. SPEND MORE TIME TOGETHER. Make a commitment to spend more time together this year. One of the best things you can do is commit to a weekly date night with your spouse. This may take you sitting down together with your spouse and planning out your schedule.
2. BRAG ON YOUR SPOUSE REGULARLY. Any old lame critic can pick out someone’s faults; instead focus on pointing out your spouse’s strengths.
3. BE MORE SEXUAL. Touch, flirt, hug and have sex together. Make your marriage sizzle, and as one author put it, “A married couple’s sex-life is a great measuring stick of how their relationship is doing.” A healthy sex-life most often equals a healthy marriage.
4. PRAY TOGETHER. Men, this is where you MUST step up and be a man. Take the lead on this and do it. Your wife will love you for it.
5. DON'T BE HISTORICAL. Fight fair. Don’t bring up past hurts and things you’ve already forgiven your spouse of.
6. CHECK IN. It’s respectful to check with your spouse and let them know where you are, what you are doing and when you might be home.
7. HAVE ONE MEAL A DAY TOGETHER. Turn off the electronics and just visit with your spouse and your children.
8. DON'T GO TO BED ANGRY WITH ONE ANOTHER. Simple enough.
9. FORGIVE. The key to being successful in real estate is location, location, location. The key to being successful in marriage is forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness. Marriage is made up of two imperfect faulty people. We make mistakes … so learn to forgive.
10. DATE. Date night should be a regular weekly activity if it's not already. We hear couples say all the time, "We had so much fun when we were dating," and we always reply, "Why have you stopped?" Date ... it's fuel for your marriage.
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- How do you overcome an affair in marriage?
- Once trust is broken, can it be reestablished?
- Do you just forget and move on?
- What role does God play in reconnecting?
All these things you'll hear address on this week's podcast episode, where you will meet Chris & Tracey. You are going to want to hear their amazing marriage story! They met in 1988, got married ... divorced ... and then remarried. They survived an affair to build a great marriage. Their marriage story will inspire you. Take time to give it a listen today.
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10 Ways To Deal With A One Sided Marriage!
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It's Thanksgiving week. Let's spend a few minutes being Thankful for marriage. Here's our list. AND #18 sure caught Lea off guard. 😜LOL
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- Flirting with someone other than your spouse.
- Confiding in the opposite sex.
- Spending time alone with someone else.
- Talking negatively about your spouse.
- Chatting on the internet with someone of the opposite sex.
- Dressing to attract the attention of someone other than your spouse.
- Texting someone of the opposite sex.
- Not being a willing sexual partner with your spouse.
- Putting your parents, friends or children before your spouse.
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1. YOU SHOULDN’T BE YOUR SPOUSE’S BEST FRIEND:
2. ABSENCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER:
3. MARRIAGE IS EASY IF YOU JUST FIND THE RIGHT PERSON:
4. YOUR KIDS SHOULD ALWAYS COME FIRST:
5. WHEN THE SPARK IS GONE, THE MARRIAGE IS OVER:
6. IGNORE PROBLEMS AND THEY’LL EVENTUALLY GO AWAY:
7. YOUR SPOUSE WILL KNOW YOUR NEEDS WITHOUT HAVING TO TELL THEM:
8. IF YOU HAVE PROBLEMS OR CONFLICT, YOU HAVE A BAD MARRIAGE:
9. GOD WANTS YOU TO BE HAPPY:
10. GET MARRIAGE ADVICE FROM SOMEONE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX:
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1. Brag on me please.
2. I wish you'd initiate sex more often. I don't like to beg.
3. Come do some stuff with me that I like to do.
4. Dress up for me please.
5. Remind me often that I’m a good dad.
6. I'd like a little free time.
7. Appreciate me.
8. Please don’t mother me.
9. I love your body and would like to see it more often.
10. Let me be your hero.
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1. To Feel Loved and appreciated
2. Try to understand me
3. Talk to me & give me your attention
4. Plan the date night
5. Affection
6. Help with Daily Tasks (chores, kids, etc)
7. Take care of your body
8. I love it when you protect me.
9. Don’t be selfish sexually
10. Let’s go have some fun.
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Talking a fun and "spicy" topic today in marriage. EVERY marriage should be doing this.
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It's so important for you to tell your marriage story. Seriously. Your kids need to hear your story. You need to hear your own marriage story, and it's just important to tell your story. Your marriage story may be a great one. It may be a fairytale. Your story may have lots of peaks and valleys, or your story may feel more like a nightmare at this time. Don't give up. You're still writing your story.
Today we share our story ... and remind you why it's important to tell your story.
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Here's our 10 Tips
- Be patient.
- P___________ before the marriage.
- N________________ you marriage.
- Educate yourself.
- Put yourself in your kids _____________
- ALWAYS ... ALWAYS .... do this!
- Be specific.
- D________________ your kids.
- Be _____________ to the EX, but have clear ________________
- ______________ God for __________________
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QUESTIONS COVERED:
- We've been married a year and my husband is struggling to be intimate. Help?
- How can we have an active sex life AND small children at the same time?
- My husband is an introvert & I am an extrovert, HELP?
- What are your thoughts on friends who cause issues between a husband and wife?
- How many times do you recommend having sex per week?
- I'd like to spice things up sexually with my husband, but how?
- What ways do you recommend in praying together as husband and wife?
- As a wife, how do I get more "want of sex" into my system?
- Help, we are stressed due to money, work and children, etc. What do we do?
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“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times ... always with the same person.”
Why many times ... through each stage of marriage. Almost everyone has three marriages in their lifetime. The smart ones learn to adjust and do so with the same person.
WHAT ARE THE THREE STAGES WE’RE TALKING ABOUT?
- Honeymoon (BEFORE KIDS)
- Kids
- Empty nest
In this episode we talk ...
- Do's and Don'ts of each stage.
- Why it's important to model marriage for your kids.
- Scheduling sex.
- Your marriage suffers when you are only mom and dad, and never "husband and wife."
- Not feeling guilty when you leave your kids to take a trip for a weekend.
- The importance of regular check-ins.
- How to rediscovering your spouse.
- This biggest no-no of empty nest.
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There is NO place in marriage for:
o Screaming ...
o Yelling...
o Name calling...
o Cursing ...
o Throwing things ...
o Saying unkind things...
Angry outbursts and losing control ... cause you to lost the love of your spouse, lose the respect of your spouse and children. Short tempers are a marriage killer.
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5 LOVE LANGUAGES in Marriage:
We're talking the "5 Love Languages" of marriage. If you haven't taken the FREE - 3 minute quiz (Link below) in a while to find out your love language, now would be a great time to do it, before listening to this week's episode. Also, get your spouse to do it.
It's really hard to speak your spouse's love language if you don't know what it is.
Here are the 5 Love Languages:
1 - words of affirmation
2 - quality time
3 - receiving gifts
4 - acts of service
5 - physical touch
Love can be expressed and received in all 5 Love Languages. However, if you don't speak a person's primary love language, that person will not feel loved, even though you may be speaking the other four. IF we are to develop an intimate relationship with our spouse, we need to know each other's desires. If you wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.
- Trey's love language is Praise
- Lea's is Acts of Service.
What is yours and your spouse's?
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/couples-quiz/
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Many couples seem to lose their spark when they stop working on their marriage. How do I know if I'm in a marriage with a roommate or soulmate? AND How do I get my soulmate back if we've become roommates. Here's some of the things we cover ...
ROOMMATES:
Roommates don't eat meal together.
Roommates have no face to face communication.
Roommates have very little sex, or sex without intimacy.
Roommates know things need fixed, but never do anything to fix them.
SOULMATES:
Soulmates love doing things together.
Soulmates grow spiritually together.
Soulmates are one another's biggest fans.
Soulmates have intimacy that is a joy not a chore.
HOW TO REGAIN OR REMAIN SOULMATES?
DO THESE 5 THINGS.
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10 Tips for Making Things Better. Things we cover this episode ...
- You must do SOMETHING, to expect it to get better.
- The #1 thing you must do to make things better.
- Remember THIS about your spouse.
- Do the things you did when you fell in love.
- The answer isn't upgrading your spouse.
- Seek help by doing these three things.
- DANGER, do not do this ... when it comes to someone you talk to.
- Communicate daily.
- Pray together.
- The best time to work on your marriage is THIS time.
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Today we cover ...
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How much time should you be spending on social media?
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Hiding things from your spouse on social media.
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Should I share my password with my spouse?
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Being friends with an EX or old boy/girl friends.
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3 things you should NEVER do on Social Media.
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2 Things you MUST do on Social Media if you are married.
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Some things we covered in this podcast ...
- ALWAYS put your spouse first.
- Set boundaries.
- Play fair when it comes to holidays and special events.
- Be a team.
- Keep an open mind.
- NEVER betray your spouse to your parents.
- Strive to live at peace.
- DO be the bad cop when needed.
- How to be the best in-laws EVER!
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Some things we covered ...
- Understanding your spouse's emotional needs.
- Why it's essential to communicate.
- The "10 Minute" Rule
- Be a good listener
- Touch
- Be grateful
- Be intimate
- Make time for one another
The joy of rediscovering one another.
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Today we cover ...
- Don't be single in public.
- Flirting with people you're not married to.
- Letting the world know you're married on social media.
- Wearing your wedding ring.
- Putting your spouse before your family and friends.
- Not playing "hard to get" with your spouse.
- Being cautious about complimenting the opposite sex.
- Wearing your wedding ring.
- Checking in.
- Being proud of your spouse in public.
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We discuss the following ...
- Come clean ... shoot straight ... no more lies.
- Take complete responsibility ... don’t blame.
- Completely end things with the other person.
- Be remorseful and apologetic.
- Listen with empathy.
- Ask for forgiveness.
- Be transparent. Don’t hide things. Be where you say you will be. Regularly check in. Text back or call back immediately if possible.
- Answer questions they want to know.
- Don't say, "Why can't we just start over?," or "Can't you just get over it?"
- Be patient as your spouse heals. IF YOU’VE BEEN UNFAITHFUL TO YOUR SPOUSE, YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT DICTATE HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE THEM TO HEAL.
- Be around and available.
- Make them feel like they are #1 again.
- Refresh your marriage. Counseling ... workshop. ETC
- NEVER cheat again. If you get a second chance, feel very blessed ... rarely is there ever an opportunity for a third chance.
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Questions Covered on this episode ...
- How often should we be having sex?
- What if my spouse isn't interested in sex?
- Why does sex matter?
- Why God created sex?
- Is Oral Sex okay?
- What if I'm in a sexless marriage?
- What causes a sexless marriage?
- AND ... that's probably enough. :)
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- __________ your spouse regularly.
- Stop watching ___________.
- Share common interests.
- Be ____________________.
- Have regular sex.
- Meet one another's needs.
- _________ to one another.
- Stop comparing.
- Establishing healthy _________________.
- ______________ your vulnerabilities.
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5 Books we Mentioned...
His Needs Her Needs - Dr Williard Harley
Love Busters - Dr Williard Harley
5 Love Languages - Dr Gary Chapman
Sheet Music - Dr Kevin Leman
Personality Plus for Couples - Florence Littaur
10 Ways to a Stronger Marriage - Trey & Lea Morgan
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1. Give him lots of _____________
2. Do _____________ with him that he likes to do.
3. ____________ with him.
4. Be the __________ to ____________ sex.
5. Tell him what you _________, don't make him guess.
6. Choose to be your husband’s lover, not his __________.
7. Pray for him.
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7 Things WIVES Would Love From Their Husbands
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Make _____________________ a priority.
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________________ little things about her.
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Hold her hand.
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Do one of her daily ______________ for her.
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Make _________________ for her.
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_____________________ for her.
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_________ her daily that she's ____________.
Music does not belong to us.
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7 SIMPLE WAYS TO RUIN YOUR CHILDREN
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- LIE FOR YOUR KIDS.
- DON'T GIVE THEM ANY RULES.
- AUTOMATICALLY THINK EVERYONE IS OUT TO GET YOUR CHILD WHEN THEY GET IN TROUBLE.
- DON’T DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN.
- PULL STRINGS TO GET YOUR CHILDREN OUT OF TROUBLE.
- BE INCONSISTENT.
- GIVE YOUR KIDS EVERYTHING THEY WANT.
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One of the "Top 5 Reasons" for divorce in America is money problems.
- 32% of American Families don’t have a savings account or emergency fund.
- The average income is about 61k
- The average amount of debt that is carried is 137k
- On average, each household with a credit card carries $8,398 in credit card debt.
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Here are the books we referenced ...
Florence Littauer - personality plus couples
https://www.amazon.com/Personality-Plus-Couples-Understanding-Yourself-ebook/dp/B007108UFE/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=florence+littauer+personality+plus+couples&qid=1586130071&sr=8-2
And ... 10 Ways To A Stronger Marriage
https://www.amazon.com/Ways-Stronger-Marriage-Trey-Morgan/dp/1702369862/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1586130144&sr=8-2
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Ready to laugh ??? Enjoy!
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How to survive being locked in the house with your spouse. Making good things from bad times.
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"I'm Fine!" probably means she's not fine. "We should do something this weekend," probably means she'd like you to plan a date night out.
This was a FUN episode inspired by the book, "Lists to Love by."
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What do your kids need to see in your marriage that will bless them? Here's a list of 8 things.
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- Being in a Stalemate
- Criticism
- Anger
- Dishonesty
- Purposely Getting Under Your Spouse's Skin
- Being too Independent
CLICK HERE for the Love Buster's book link we mentioned
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https://thestrongermarriagebook.com/home/
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Things covered today ...
- My spouse is hiding things on their cell phone from me.
- Is it cheating when my spouse is deleting text messages from someone of the opposite sex, so my I can't see them?
- Emotional and physical cheating.
- Rules for friendships with the opposite sex.
- Is it true that 95% of all affairs start with just friendships?
- Can a marriage survive with keeping secrets from one another?
- How to survive an affair or once trust has been broken.
- 10 Ways to Rebuild trust once it's been broken.
TheStrongerMarriageBook.com
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HUSBANDS:
- Romance should start before bedtime.
- Pursue her in places other than the bedroom.
- Don't make sex all about you.
- Hygiene is important.
- Intimacy is more than just sex.
WIVES:
- It's more fun when you enjoy it too.
- Be confident.
- Don't obsess about the way you look.
- Be willing to initiate.
- Sex is much more than physical for your husband.
LINKS: Frisky Friday Box https://www.friskyfridaybox.com/
LINKS: Book "Sheet Music" Dr Kevin Leman
LINKS: TheStrongerMarriageBook.com
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Marriage does not kill romance, laziness does. Don't become so comfortable in your marriage that you start living as roommates ... instead work hard to continue to be soulmates.
Romance is essential for a healthy marriage. Here's some "romantic ideas ..."
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Date once a week.
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Hold Hands a lot.
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Go on a walk together.
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Do unexpected little things for one another.
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Watch a movie on the couch together.
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Flirt with one another.
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Write a sweet note, card, letter or text.
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Take a weekend getaway.
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Ask your spouse, "What is romantic to you.
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Touch ... a lot ... and be intimate.
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TheStrongerMarriagePodcast.com
and
TheStrongerMarriageBook.com
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Today we're talking marriage myths. Things like ...
1 - If you ignore your problems, they just go away.
2 - Great marriages just happen, they don't take work.
3 - My marriage will always be perfect.
4 - The grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
5 - Absence make the heart grow fonder.
and more....
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