"Coping on the Couch with Courtney and Brian": Recent Episodes
Brian Mulhern
Courtney Kelley is a licensed clinical therapist. Brian Mulhern is a seasoned/experienced mental health patient. Their mission is to break down therapy-related concerns, reluctance and stigmas, via providing outlooks and experiences from both sides of the equation.
We miss this as much as you do. It was so much fun getting the band back together. But sometimes, real life gets in the way. Never say never. When our initial run ended in August of 2001, we thought that was it, forever. But then? This happened. Stay tuned! As for this episode? Brian's Van Halen party trick. Streaming service frustration. Why is radio dying and how do we all still not understand COVID?
The guys are still working out the kinks a few weeks into the show. This one kicked off late thanks to a phone call Jaxon received from his son Kai's school regarding an "incident." That morphed into Kai attempting to explain what happened, along with a conversation about how much that world has changed since back when Jax & Pharmy were kids. How radio has similarly "devolved" is what followed. Concerts, venues, their FNX days. Competitors. A viral/Portnoy "One Bite Pizza" review was discussed. Philly cheesesteak protocol. Cholesterol med "superpowers." Reports of another COVID surge and how everything these days has become a political football. Their own experiences with COVID. "Radio listener expectations." The diarrhea plane. Nightmare flight experiences. How much fun the new show has been and the amount of insane time spent listening by their audience.
Unfortunately, this edition represents the end of our run here for "Coping on the Couch with Courtney and Brian." Our hearts are both heavy, and grateful. To anyone who took the time to give us a listen, our appreciation and gratitude literally know no bounds. As to the "whys" behind this difficult decision, the details are contained within the episode itself. We wish you, and your mental health, nothing but the best, as we deliver our heartfelt farewell, and a most sincere thank you.
Unfortunately, this edition represents the end of our run here for "Coping on the Couch with Courtney and Brian." Our hearts are both heavy, and grateful. To anyone who took the time to give us a listen, our appreciation and gratitude literally know no bounds. As to the "whys" behind this difficult decision, the details are contained within the episode itself. We wish you, and your mental health, nothing but the best, as we deliver our heartfelt farewell, and a most sincere thank you.
"Don't sweat the small stuff." It's an excellent piece of advice which has been kicking around now for decades. But what is "the small stuff" exactly? How much can it vary from person to person, and what are some of the best ways to identify, and treat it, in therapy and/or elsewhere?
In what is for the most part a post-pandemic, and very politically-charged/polarized world, many people are continually struggling to find their mental health footing. Over the last couple of weeks especially, Brian has been one of them. How is he attempting to adjust on the fly, and if you just so happen to feel precisely the same way, what should you be doing?
Ben DeCastro is in this week for the vacationing Brian. In general, our brains are hard-wired for protection, self-doubt, and insecurity. At our core, we tend to be risk-averse, and more often than not, that can stunt and prevent us from growing personally, professionally, and emotionally. What are some of the best ways to work around this, and overcome whatever may be keeping us from potentially becoming the best possible version of ourselves?
What with inflation taking a toll on all of us, and coming off of an insanely volatile week on Wall Street, many are being forced to cut financial corners in areas which can be of a major concern...therapy, being one of them. A recent article revealed that the average out of pocket cost for that is $178 per month. If you've had to make that painful move yourself, what are some potential/alternative options?
What with inflation taking a toll on all of us, and coming off of an insanely volatile week on Wall Street, many are being forced to cut financial corners in areas which can be of a major concern...therapy, being one of them. A recent article revealed that the average out of pocket cost for that is $178 per month. If you've had to make that painful move yourself, what are some potential/alternative options?
How often in life do you put yourself "first"? So much else typically requires our attention -- family, career, "adulting." That having been said, does "taking care of you" tend to go by the wayside? And how much more difficult do all of those other obligations become when not making yourself a priority inevitably begins to take its toll?
Ben DeCastro is in this week for the vacationing Courtney Kelley. For those who may not know, career-wise, Ben is a jack of many trades. His jobs are varied, and his hours are all over the map. And while that can at times be overwhelming and stressful for him, it can also be complicated for both his wife and daughter. For others who may hate their jobs, many spend an awful lot of time doing them to be that unhappy. What are some ways to navigate around it all, in the hopes of bringing your life balance?
In a social media world where society at large constantly seems to be all up in everyone else's business, what about focusing more on yourself? How much drama is created through the practice of judging others? And given those tendencies, is it any wonder that intolerance is on the rise, while compassion and understanding are both clearly on the decline?
As the old saying goes, "K.I.S.S.: keep it simple, stupid." When it comes to our increasingly busy and complicated lives, that can often appear to be easier said than done. So, what's the best way to address, and attack, this approach?
According to a recent article, more than half of Americans feel as if they're in imminent danger at least once a day -- even in their own homes. What are some of the most common triggers, and how can one hope to "face those fears", head-on?
Schizophrenia. Delusions. Psychosis. Dementia. Paranoia. Obsessions with conspiracy theories. Not only can the line between perception and reality become blurred for those who are enduring these experiences. The same can hold true for the people who love and care about them. Managing it on either end can be exhausting and complicated. It also presents its own set of challenges for a mental health therapist.
It was a bit surprising to realize that it took 110 episodes for panic attacks to be covered. What are potential triggers? Once one begins, how should it be addressed? If a loved one is stricken, how can you help? Can they be hereditary? Is there a link between those, and night terrors? What role can therapy, and/or meds, play in treating these episodes?
Ben DeCastro joined Courtney Kelley for the vacationing Brian Mulhern. As the average American feels relaxed for only 40-minutes per day, how can one use self-care to (hopefully) do much better than that?
There's much more to age than the standard physical/chronological number. New studies show that "how young you feel" likely has a much higher impact on your overall mental health, as opposed to what your birth certificate says. As such, what steps can be taken to help you "feel younger," and be better?
Divisive judicial rulings. Political turmoil. School shootings. Economic strife. Inflation. A pandemic. In some ways, we're all in this together. Yet in others, we're most definitely not. All of it can take an emotional toll. What are some of the best ways to handle it? Find some tips, here.
For as much as there are no guarantees in life, the same holds true in therapy. At times, a satisfied patient may become blindsided to learn that their therapist of choice is moving onto another opportunity without them. This news can be devastating for anyone already dealing with mental health challenges, and just as difficult for the therapist involved, as well. How can both parties best navigate their way through this potentially untenable situation?
There's a big difference between risky behavior, and taking risks which can be both beneficial, and healthy. What is "therapeutic risk-taking," and how can it best be identified?
Regret typically carries with it such a negative connotation. A book entitled "The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward," by Daniel H. Pink, suggests otherwise.
How can a mental health discussion be had in regard to the senseless tragedy which occurred in Uvalde, Texas earlier this week, when it feels as if there are no words? Courtney and Brian give it their very best effort, here.
How difficult is it to realize when it's you, who is in fact, being your own worst enemy? When can what appears to be perfectly reasonable (if not admirable) behavior serve as a detriment to your overall mental health? And once identified, what can be done to stop it?
Where and how you get your mental health information is a consideration which should never be taken lightly...especially in the online universe. How do you know if a source is reputable? What is "clickbait," versus what isn't? How misleading do headlines tend to be, and how much independent research should you actually be doing without the assistance of a mental health professional? An update on the Naomi Judd situation also follows.
For their milestone 100th podcast episode, Courtney and Brian discuss this week's heartbreaking passing of Naomi Judd. Many may ask how someone who seemingly had everything going for her could possibly be capable of taking her own life. Were there noticable signs leading up to said tragedy, and for what in those areas should we all be looking? Like many other illnesses, mental challenges can also go into remission, and just as easily (and devastatingly), make an unexpected return.
While most of us attempt to present an outward appearance of confidence, competence and contentment in virtually all areas of our everyday lives, perhaps how we perceive ourselves internally doesn't necessarily match that narrative. Be it from a career perspective, or even in our interpersonal relationships, insecurity and self-doubt can take hold to an extent that may leave us feeling like frauds. How much of that uncertainty is too much, and what can be done to manage it?
Ben DeCastro was in for Courtney, to discuss a controversial podcast featuring BIll Maher and Bella Thorne. Maher challenged Thorne in regard to her struggles with anxiety, by asking how people from her generation could possibly be anxious. The Boomer/Gen Z disconnect immediately became evident, and served as yet another example of how fractured and divided our society has become. How does our overall mental health suffer from that, and what preventitive steps can be taken to fix it?
Tax Day. Gas prices. Cost of living. Inflation. Stock market swings. Financial stress is as prominent as it's been in decades. And for all too many of us, it takes an emotional toll. Marriages affected. Retirements delayed. Credit scores decimated. What can therapy do to help? "Invest" some time in this discussion for those answers (and more).
"Go with your gut." "Sit with it for a little while." Which of the two is the more healthy approach? Or, perhaps is it neither? Go with your gut, and sit with this episode, for some much-needed clarity.
What occurred at "The Academy Awards" served as a textbook example of sensitivities having been tested. A joke perceived to be insensitive struck emotional nerves, which subsequently resulted in ill-advised, and impulsive reactions. What roles did ego, "wokeness," technology, culture, socials, and hypocrisy all play in what eventually transpired? And how can such behavior be managed, and treated, through mental health therapy?
Opening oneself up to therapy is an enormous first step. Benefiting from said commitment is another huge accomplishment. But taking what you've learned in the hopes of helping others just may be the most satisfying result of all.
'Tis the season for not only spring cleaning your place of residence, but also your mental health. What should be on that checklist? Courtney and Brian share their thoughts.
March Madness is in the offing. NFL WR Calvin Ridley is serving a one-year suspension for betting on games. And as it's Problem Gambling Awareness Month, what better time is there to explore this ever-growing epidemic which is only becoming more accessible with each passing day?
A prominent U.S. journalist recently wrote a book describing how she "hates" her husband, but has no plans to divorce him. And while "hate" is an awfully strong word, what it really speaks to is how no marriage is perfect...not even close. Even within the strongest of unions, there are days where dislike and annoyance far overshadow affection and love, and that can actually be quite healthy. But when is it not? Here's how to tell the difference.
How and when does a complicated friendship cross the line into becoming toxic? In what ways can and should that be addressed/approached? And at what point is walking away the healthiest thing for you? Off of an appearance by therapist Karina Aybar-Jacobs on "The Today Show" (revolving around this very topic), Courtney and Brian weigh in with their own thoughts.
Much has been made in regard to Kanye West's very public displays of behavior involving the relationship between his ex-wife, Kim Kardashian, and her boyfriend, Pete Davidson. How much of that could be related to mental illness, given all of the speculation as to Ye's history with both bipolar, and borderline personality disorder? And should either issue impact your life in any way, how can they most effectively be addressed?
Loneliness has become somewhat of a pandemic epidemic. And while Valentine's Day is quite often a celebration for those who are lucky enough to be in love, for the countless others who aren't, it can also be absolute torture. Even if you do find yourself in a relationship, should it be dysfunctional, that struggle can also be real. Either way, Courtney and Brian are here to help.
In a week featuring (what may have been) two celebrity suicides, it feels appropriate to examine this very difficult topic. We explore the role of Internet trolls as a part of this equation, the motivation of such bullying (some of which you may find to be surprising), and the accountability element to it all.
For as important as it is to know who you are as an individual, the benefits of interacting, and associating, with like-minded people can similarly work wonders for your overall mental health -- be it from a religious, political, cultural, traumatic, or even sports fandom perspective. It can often provide you with a sense of belonging/tribalism. But when could it also become somewhat unproductive? This is one of Brian's favorite episodes ever. Here's hoping it'll become one of yours, too.
Regarding a recent article entitled, "Covert Narcissism," in what other areas may various mental health issues be difficult to detect? Are those gray areas solely unclear to those who are externally affected by said behavior, or can the person who possesses them also be in the dark? How much of the latter could be related to subconscious denial? And how often is the person who is prone these traits intentionally attempting to hide them from others in their circle?
"If only (BLANK) would happen, I'd finally be happy." As the old adage goes, "Be careful what you wish for." But even more importantly, don't waste too much time and energy on things you can't control. Easier said than done? It doesn't have to be. Find out how, here.
With age, comes wisdom...but that's not all. There's also the weight of increased responsibility, unwanted physiological changes, the inevitable loss of older loved ones/heroes, and with that, a heightened awareness of one's own mortality. And for as much as all of that can be to process, therapeutically, there are methods/coping mechanisms which can help. Several of those are examined, here.
Part two/our year end episode, covering the article which inspired the "Therapeutic Expectations" edition of the podcast, examining everything from our tendency to avoid what's damaging us most, being dishonest with yourself, and why the heck Courtney and Brian haven't been in the same room for most of the last week!
A year ago at this time, a sense of relief emerged as we were all preparing to finally put 2020 in the rearview. Hope, on the back of a newly-released vaccine, and a New Year in the offing, sprang eternal -- in spite of the news of a developing variant. As 2021 progressed, things seemed to turn a corner...only to seemingly, and sharply, regress yet again. It's an emotional roller coaster which could potentially prove to be challenging for anyone. Here are some thoughts on how to cope.
The biggest factor which typically scares people away from therapy is invalid/preconceived notions. And those can be all over the map. So, wherein lies the truth? Get the perspective of both therapist, and patient, in this episode.
What is "revenge bedtime procrastination," and how detrimental can it be to overall mental health? How important is sleep, from both a physical and emotional perspective, and what are some of the best ways to ensure that you get it?
What can be the most joyous time of the year for some, can also be one of the most emotionally painful for others. Finding a balance between the two camps (along with everyone else in between), is key -- especially as so many of us come together for the holidays.
Society will tell you that having children has the ability to be among the greatest experiences you'll ever encounter. And while that can be true, new research finds that it can also be terrible for quality of life, making "happiness" complicated at times. How do you prevent this from becoming an issue with your significant other, which could potentially harm your relationship? What adjustments need to be made to help all parents cope? Learn that, and more, here.
On the heels of the tragedy involving young lives lost at the Astroworld Festival featuring Travis Scott, Courtney and Brian explore ways in which coping with grief on that level are best, and typically, approached/processed.
More often than not, pessimism gets a bad rap. But a recent study suggests it's far more ingrained in all of us than most self-proclaimed optimists may be willing to admit. And yet, that's not necessarily a bad thing. How so? Find out here.
The opioid epidemic has long been a problem, which terrifyingly just may be becoming more prevalent than ever. Should you find yourself within the grips of addiction, or if you love someone who is, this edition is an absolute must listen.
Much has been made in regard to Dave Chappelle's latest Netflix comedy special, along with the uproar it has caused within the LGBTQ+ community. In a world where outrage, divsion, and polarization all only seem to continue to be on the rise, how can each and every one of us do better to try and find some semblance of middle ground, civility, and understanding?
The Gabby Petito and Brian Laundrie story has captivated the nation, but what lessons can be learned? From victims of domestic violence, to their abusers, to concerned loved ones at a loss as to how or what they can do to help, therapy can ideally play a role for all involved in the hopes of presenting both assistance, and solutions.
When it comes to your career, how do you feel when the time comes to negotiate money? Do you relish the opportunity, or instead dread it like nobody's business? If it's the latter, what does that say in regard to how you feel about yourself? And what are some ways in which you can potentially work on improving that, along with your self-confidence, overall?
The hype surrounding Tom Brady's Foxborough return to do battle wth the Patriots is at a fever pitch. So too can sports fandom be, in general. When does an obsession with sports become unhealthy? Gambling addiction serves as one example, but there can be much more to it than that.
Solid romantic partnerships can work wonders for the mental and emotional well-being of both parties. Yet unhealthy relationships can potentially do more harm than good. What are the keys to maintaining a healthy relationship? And over an extended period of time, what does it take to keep that romantic spark alive?
Grief can have so many layers, and come in so many forms, that even when the belief is it has fully been processed, unexpected triggers may prove otherwise. How is Brian dealing with his mom's death, 1-year later? All of these elements are in play, and discussed, in this week's episode.
Ben DeCastro is in for a vacationing Brian this week, as he and Courtney discuss a very common problem in these complicated times: feeling overwhelmed. How has the pandemic heightened, and further complicated issues which may have been far more manageable otherwise, and what are some of the best approaches to work around all of this?
Nothing can alleviate tension, or provide at least temporary relief from any mental health issue like a good laugh. It can also have a very effective place in the therapeutic process. But as with all things, there are both limits, and potential pitfalls in play. Learn the "hows," "whens," and "whys," in those regards, here.
"A good life doesn't have to be happy, or even meaningful." That's the claim of a recent article which is up for discussion in this week's episode. If that is indeed the case, of what does a good life consist in the absence of happiness, or meaning? Listen here for potential alternatives.
When asked, Courtney says the issue most presented to her from the therapy couch is how much "drama" is impacting a client's health and well-being. And while drama can indeed come both unpredictably, and from most anyplace, to what degree could it possibly be coming from within oneself?
This week, it's a different type of podcast. Courtney and Brian simulate what it's like to sit in on an actual therapy session. Using a previously untreated aspect of Brian's mental health, you get the unique oppotunity to eavesdrop as the two of them take an unrehearsed approach at reducing therapy-related anxiety, while also hoping to eliminate any stigmas associated with it.
How can failure be a good thing? In what ways is it your friend, as opposed to your foe? And how can success become much more complicated, and difficult to navigate, without it?
Many would say it's been a good week for mental health, given the awareness raised by the Simone Biles situation in Tokyo. But in what areas could that message possibly (and unintentionally) become blurred, distorted, or misread? And how should that all be addressed?
Negative connotations are often associated with both envy and jealousy, but that isn't necessarily the case in every instance. Where and when can they actually be productive? And how can they be either "malicious," or "benign?" That can apply at the workplace, within initimate relationships, as well as among family, and friends. Learn how, here.
In a world of Instagram models, filters and Photoshop, unrealistic expectations as to how we "should" look are most certainly on the rise. The younger you are, the more likely it is to be what you've always known. While the older among us may be going to unhealthy extremes in an attempt to fight the aging process. Where is the line between acceptability, and counterproductivity? Find out here.
Ben DeCastro fills in for the vacationing Brian this week, and let's just say the timing couldn't be better, as this discussion is right in his wheelhouse! Attention deficit and hyperactivity disorders are both common, and manageable. As with many personality issues, it can be used in productive, and not so productive ways. When should medication be introduced (if at all), and what role can therapy play?
Anger, like any emotion, isn't always bad or unproductive. But there is a line which can make it so. Where does that lie? What needs to be done to get a handle on it? And how should it be addressed if you find yourself on the receiving end of it? Courtney and Brian explore all of that, and more.
Just as depression can be debilitating, anxiety may very well be the straw stirring that unhealthy cocktail. Eliminate either one or both, and the sky is suddenly the limit on the path to well-being. What are the steps? How much work will it take? Where do those solutions lie? 40 million Americans need these answers. If you're one of them, please be sure to listen.
What is a narcissist? How many different forms of them are there? Who in your life could be one? Are you exhibiting any of those tendencies? And in what ways can it be treated, or managed? Find out here.
While most often associated with career pursuits, burnout can come in many forms. Pandemic-induced lockdowns represent one example, but it can also apply to relationships, and many other daily routines. How can its symptoms be best idenitified, and what are the most effective solutions?
Whether it's conciously or subconsciously done, some people just can't seem to get out of their own way -- be it in the form of poor relationship decisions, an underlying fear of career success, or one's overall happiness and well-being. What are some of the signs and behavior patterns, and how can each be addressed through therapy?
Social anxiety is essentially Brian's Kryptonite. He and Courtney examine not only its symptoms, warning signs and origins, but also how it can be treated and managed, along with what friends/loved ones can also do to help.
How often do relationships survive infidelity? What warning signs require attention in advance? Can preemptive steps be taken to reduce the risk? And how effective can couples therapy be in the aftermath, regarding issues of trust, guilt, shame, anger, blame and grief?
"You have to love yourself before you can love someone else." Maybe yes, maybe no. But one approach is undoubtedly far healthier than the other. How does one identify low self-esteem, and once it has been, what's the most effective way to tackle the problem?
Perhaps the only thing worse than the profound sense of loneliness gripping 2/3rds of Americans ever since the pandemic began, is the reluctance of more than half of them to talk about it. Courtney and Brian discuss all of that (and more), here.
Does every responsibility on your plate carry with it an extreme sense of urgency? Are you constantly trying to stay ahead of multiple tasks, with even the smallest of interruptions putting your anxiety into overdrive? If so, all of this may be causing even more problems than the obligations themselves. How can that be managed? Find out here.
Trauma can come in many forms, some of which may surprise you. Recognizing the signs is step number one -- whether that comes from within yourself, or if you suspect it to be an issue for someone you love. How to address and treat it from there is critical. All of that (and more) is covered this week.
We've discussed both toxic negativity and positivity in the past, but what about toxic productivity? Having an enormous work ethic can be a plus to a degree. But when it crosses a particular line, is it perhaps being used to mask or avoid other issues you may be experiencing? There's much in the way of layers for Courtney and Brian to explore here -- including how it may pertain to some of their own unhealthy behaviors.
Unsurprisingly, alcohol intake has been on the increase throughout the pandemic. How much is too much when it comes to said coping mechanisms? If you develop a problem, what's the best course of action to take? And if someone in your life is struggling, how should it be handled on your end?
There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to depression and anxiety. Some people make mountains out of molehills, while others may make molehills out of mountains. What forms can be both healthy and/or unhealthy, and how is all of it best managed?
You'd like to think the prospect of getting out from under quarantines and lockdowns would be nothing but a good thing. But then again, you might be wrong. The likelihood of the "old normal" becoming the "new normal" again could be jarring to some. And how might changed perspectives since this all began also potentially contribute?
Brian calls it "The Greatest American Hero" effect (Google a description of the old TV show, if need be)! You're presented with tools to do things you never dreamed possible, but if you can't stick to the instruction manual (or even find it, for that matter), none of it will do you any good. Learn here how to be patient, find focus, and stay the course.
There are a million reasons people will give NOT to participate in therapy. And when a loved one tells you she or he simply can't afford to do so, is it possible to have any solutions for that? Find those answers here.
Making a major life move deserves much in the way of reflection in even the best of times. Doing so while in a time of crisis (like say, a pandemic), may perhaps require an even closer look. What is at the root of your decision, and how do you know if it truly is the best thing for you? Courtney and Brian both provide some guidance here.
One of the biggest keys to overall mental health is focusing on, and existing in, the present. But there may be a little bit more to that than meets the eye. How so, you ask? Howard Stern and Jerry Seinfeld just might hold all the answers. Give us a listen to see what we mean.
Few will disagree that the last year-plus has taken a toll on all of us. But are our kids inadvertently getting the message that their generation is experiencing the most trying era in all of world history? How much empathy is too much? What can we do to empower them out of feeling victimized, and into proactively working their way through this?
Just in time for Valentine's Day, let's talk arguin' couples! Disagreements aren't always a bad thing. They can actually be quite healthy. How can we apply learning to "fight the right way" at home in other areas of our everyday life -- like say, on social media, in politics, or within the toxicity of an ever-increasing cancel culture? Put up your proverbial dukes, and open up both of your ears for some answers.
"It's only a pet," or, "You can always get another dog," may often insensitively minimize what can be a truly traumatic experience for most. What are the best ways to prepare for, and eventually process, the loss of a furry family member? Is professional help commonly a necessary means to achieving this end? And is it healthy or unhealthy to forever dismiss pet ownership as a means of avoiding such pain?
The effects of the pandemic on mental health therapy have proven to be significant. The in-person experience has primarily been replaced with video-conferencing and phone-based telehealth appointments. What are the advantages and disadvantages of these dynamics? Has it discouraged or encouraged new patient activity at a time when many might very well need it most? And will it forever change the game as to how all of this will be conducted in the future?
The past year has seen much in the way of changes. What have you done from a mental health perspective, if anything, to adjust? Routines seemingly provide much in the way of comfort and safety. But taking the same approach to life in the here and now, as perhaps you were pre-pandemic, most likely hasn't been the best thing for you. Some changes can be good. And as it pertains to any challenge that might come your way, necessary.
For as important as therapy is, it's not always easy. And when things get especially difficult, the worst thing a patient can do is abandon ship. There are typically 3 options at that juncture -- fight, flight or freeze. We examine each, and lay out how to best work through them all at that critical time.
Coming off of a tumultuous week of politically-charged social unrest, how much do you allow for current events, and news coverage overall, to affect you? How much attention paid is too much? What constitutes reality v. partisan propaganda, ratings-driven agendas, and spin? To what degree are you unnecessarily obsessing over matters of which you have no control? And are you contributing in some way to any of it via your own participation in, and behavior on, social media?
Depression comes in many forms, and when it isn't chronic, it may be trickier for a potential patient to recognize, and/or acknowledge. 2020, above all others, may very well have been the year of "situational depression." That can be brought on via the loss one's livelihood, relationship issues, the death of a loved one, loneliness, cabin fever, financial struggles, or any combination thereof. What signs indicate a need for therapy, and perhaps even medication? Find out here.
It serves as both our goal, and mission statement: eliminating stigmas associated with therapy, in the hopes of convincing reluctant participants into taking that first step. What can you do should you wish to accomplish the same with someone you love? Find those answers here.
2020 has been a year like no other, and many can't wait to hit the reset button for a fresh start in 2021. Given said uncharted territory, in what healthy ways how, and should, New Year's resolutions be viewed and approached differently, as such?
While certain holiday songs may declare the season to be, "the best time of the year," for a certain segment of society, it can feel like the absolute worst. Complicating matters further for those who are struggling is how alone they often feel in their anxiety, stress and sadness. What can they do to pull themselves out of it, and how should loved ones who are unable to fathom this viewpoint find ways to perhaps be more understanding, nurturing and sympathetic?
Friendship circles tend to decrease in size over time. From youth through adulthood, quality eventually overtakes quantity. Popularity, wanting to be liked, and what others think typically mean less with age. How much do those with whom you associate impact overall happiness and mental well-being? From family, to coworkers, romantic partners, and pals, what amount of effort is enough before it becomes appropriate to periodically cut bait? Find out, here.
Life is a constant battle of processing good vs bad, reality vs denial, all through the filters of both optimism and pessimism. Perhaps the most challenging aspect of said evolution relates to mortality -- not only to that of our own, but also for those of whom we love dearly. How is that best not only confronted and balanced, but also/ultimately, accepted?
How imperfect is the pursuit of perfection? Is aspiring to, or settling on being average necessarily a bad thing? Can true greatness be achieved by those who don't necessarily/incessantly give it their all? Find out that (and more), here.
In a week that has practically been all about ego (via a polarized nation at each other's throats over the ultimate power position), how can any (or all) of this be used for both good and evil? And what valuable lessons can be learned on that front from the likes of Garry Shandling?
Can working hard, doing your best, and accomplishing much actually serve as a detriment in life? How might being a good person, treating others with respect, and living well periodically come back to bite you? And should any of this be true, what can one do to combat it? Both sides of the therapeutic spectrum join forces to weigh in on this one.
For as much as we want full control over our lives and destiny, reality is constantly getting in the way. And if 2020 hasn't already proven that to us all, then perhaps nothing else will. Sometimes, it's other people who can also get that grip on our peace of mind and well-being. What are the healthiest ways to work around said outside forces?
Before a patient can fix oneself, character flaws must be both recognized and acknowledged. Perspective on and perception of one's strengths and weaknesses can very often be a difficult first step. But not every perceived negative is specifically/only that. How can a therapist most effectively shine a light on all of this, and what work needs to be done by both parties to manage it all?
From a mental health perspective, 2020 is the year of, "One thing after another." A single major challenge can be debilitating enough on its own. But as others continue to add up, shutting down/checking out can disturbingly become all too easy. What can a patient do to maintain hope and stay motivated? And how can a therapist be of assistance in that process?
As referenced in part 1, Brian's emotionally raw tribute to his mom, less than 36-hours after witnessing his mother's gut-wrenching/COVID-related passing.
Brian's 3-week absence from the podcast is due to the tragic passing of his beautiful mom, Barbara -- a heartbreaking victim of COVID-19. It was an experience further complicated by his father's own battle with the pandemic, planning her memorial around all of that, a COVID scare of his own, and preexisting dysfunction which only became exacerbated by it all. How did therapy get him through it? What role did Courtney play? And how can others learn from said experience? This is an episode not to be missed.
Ben DeCastro, pinch-hitting for Brian one more time! Empathy is key, not only in everyday life, but particularly in the world of a professional therapist. What is the most effective way for them, and the rest of us, to practice and apply it, when it's needed most?
Ben is in for Brian for the foreseeable future. And sometimes, it's all about changing your brain to cope with what the world is dealing from a madness perspective -- especially during a pandemic.
Ben DeCastro fills in for Brian this week, as he and Courtney discuss the pitfalls of crisis fatigue (and its effects on all of us), with the pandemic now hitting the 6-month mark.
"Rock bottom" from a depression perspective can perhaps best be described in one word: "hopelessness." Said headspace is potentially a very dangerous place to be. Taking that first step into a therapist's office may represent a flicker of hope. What must a mental health professional do to fan that flame, and how willing of a participant must a patient be to keep that fire burning?
In the world of therapy, forgiveness can be as tricky and complicated an area as just about anything else. How important is it from a mental health perspective, and what about it to tends to trip patients up for as much as it seemingly does? Perhaps more so than in any other episode, the "outlook gap" between therapist and patient is most definitely in full force between Courtney and Brian.
"Old school therapy" often held firm to the belief that patients shouldn't involve themselves in the process until they were truly ready to make changes. But many contemporary professionals will tell you otherwise. How effective are motivational tools when it comes to a reluctant participant? And should a therapist ever work harder than his/her client? Courtney and Brian discuss it all.
Productive therapy doesn't just have to come from professionals. Friends and family can similarly work together, and be there for each other. The tools accrued on a therapist's couch are best utilized when applied to and shared with those closest to us. With Courtney on vacation, non-professionals Brian, and special guest Ben DeCastro, hash it all of it out together.
In many ways, the focus on therapy typically revolves around what is (or isn't) accomplished at a session in the office. But the reality is, most of a patient's successes (or failures) primarily occur outside of that door. Extracurricular assignments, and the degree to which they are applied in everyday life, can sometimes make all the difference in the world. And if a patient isn't a willing participant, it can complicate matters.
Like any healthy relationship, trust, rapport and good communication are key -- not only in everyday life, but also behind the closed door of a therapist's office. What should both patients and therapists be looking for on this front, and at what point is it perhaps best to pull the plug and part ways?
Therapists often run into a tendency of some patients who at the end of an appointment make a significant and abrupt revelation with their hand on the doorknob. What drives this behavior, how counterproductive can it potentially be, and in what ways should a mental health professional handle and manage such behavior?
Progress in therapy can impact relationship dynamics in ways which could be met with resistance from others. Such changes aren't always welcome. For patients who struggle with this, what can a therapist do to help manage said situation?
Ben DeCastro is in for the vacationing Brian this week. #notmissedatall
The discussion du jour between Courtney and Ben revolves around in person therapy v. telehealth (due to social distancing), along with the reality of patients potentially bumping into therapists out in the real world as restrictions are lifted. How should that be addressed/handled?
In an age of instant gratification and short attention spans, patients often enter therapy seeking a quick fix -- when in reality, that journey can often be a much longer one. Is there a middle ground? And if so, where is it/how can a therapist assist in getting said client in question there?
The job of being a therapist presents challenges even under the "best" of circumstances. So how much more complicated does it become when a patient is less than honest? Brian discusses instances in which he's been evasive while on the patient's couch. Courtney explains how she attempts to work around such obstacles from the therapy chair.
Patients often enter a therapist's office with a particular agenda. Therapists know full well that it all likely runs much deeper than that. Getting in touch with said disparity comes from the work both parties do together in the hopes of discovering the bigger picture/root issue. Brian does his own deep dive on how he similarly, and eventually, had to get himself "unstuck."
Whether intentional, unintentional, or subconscious, the deflection and protection of feelings/not wanting to be judged can be so detrimental to the therapy process -- and that just doesn't hold true for the patient. See where both Brian and Courtney are coming from there in episode 3.
Prospective patients can come up with a thousand reasons/excuses as to why they should avoid therapy. Once there, that fear often morphs into losing one's personality, productivity and creativity to the process (and/or medications). Get the perspectives of both a seasoned mental health pro, and an experienced patient, here.
Professional patient Brian kicks off our very first episode with his observation/theories as to why so much early therapy revolves around one's childhood. Professional therapist Courtney responds with some thoughts of her own.
The title of this episode says it all. And if you've listened to us to any degree, it's not to be missed.
Every generation leaves some sort of legacy behind. Certain examples deserve nothing but chest-puffing bragging rights, of which, all involved should be proud. Others? Not so much. In what ways did you and your contemporaries deliver there in spades, and on the flip side, acknowledge some of the other areas that have since caused all of you to deservedly bow your heads in shame.
What with COVID-19 having robbed many Gen Z'ers of scholastic-based sports career conclusions, proms, and graduations, should all of that serve primarily as an excuse to mourn, or more of a potential opportunity to build character? All ends of that spectrum are explored by both Brian and Maddie here.
Is getting laughs, without at least offending someone, becoming increasingly complicated/difficult these days? Where is "the line" as it relates to political correctness, and how does said location differ amongst varying generations? Brian and Maddie submit the Gen X and Millennial perspectives, while also exploring the others.
Most episodes highlight generational differences. This one examines areas of similarity. How are we best able to bond with those both older, and younger? Do those commonalities run deeper than expected? Find the answers to those questions here.
A new article highlights the behavioral tendencies, attitudes and differences amongst all generations, as attempts to flatten the COVID-19 curve continue to persist. Who is taking it most seriously? Who's more prone to believe it's a media-driven conspiracy theory? Which grouping has earned the reputation of pushing the limits of risk? Brian and Maddie deliver that data, along with their thoughts.
In this COVID-19 world, is there a line when it comes to younger generations using blinged out face coverings as a borderline fashion accessory, along with the companies who are profiting off of them? And is it appropriate from a mental health perspective to make light of something so serious, or is it more of an exercise in tone deafness?
Brian and Maddie both have very strong opinions about the hit Netflix series, "Tiger King (Murder, Mayhem and Madness)" -- both of which may surprise you. How are those outlooks shaped by their generational gap, and does when and how you were brought up generally influence why you either love it or hate it?
According to Dr. Sanjay Gupta, research shows that respecting your elders is good for overall health. When it comes to both those older and younger than you, is your overriding outlook one of reverence, disdain, tolerance or indifference? And what specifically shapes, and/or drives, those attitudes?
Did the "latch key kid" upbringing experienced by so many Gen Xers best prepare them for coronavirus quarantine? A recent article claims said Boomer parenting method inadvertently handed them that "win." But what about younger generations who only seem to need a device and half decent Wi-Fi to be happy? Join Brian and Maddie as they dive deep.
Are Millennials "Generation Helpless"? A new survey finds that less than 25% would say they have good DIY skills, with some admitting they've waited 3 weeks before asking someone else to change a dead light bulb for them! Does self reliance decrease overall from generation to generation? And if so, why?
Does the coronavirus/COVID-19 emotionally impact varying generations and genders in different ways? How does your own age/femininity/masculinity (or other) influence said outlook? Maddie returns from her own illness battle to break down all of it with Brian.