Principle of POLARITY brings you information pertinent to addressing the major issues prevalent in today's society. We motivate you to begin this work through a holistic approach to changing yourself."
"Any idea, plan, or purpose may be placed in the mind through repetition of thought." Napoleon Hill
These 17 principles are;
Going the Extra Mile,
Reference
Napoleon Hill's 17 Principles of Personal Achievement (success.com)
"Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm." -- Winston Churchill
Reference
https://www.instructionaldesign.org/theories/attribution-theory/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdyseQ1qbak
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRS4Uro6/
“To realize one's destiny is a person's only obligation.”
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
A shadow mission is an authentic mission that has been derailed, often in imperceptible ways. Part of what makes the shadow mission so tempting is that it’s usually so closely related to our gifts and passions. It’s not 180 degrees off track; it is just 10 degrees off track.
A mission , in its most basic form, is a strongly felt aim, ambition, or calling.
“Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes and for your failures. You can’t go blaming others or being jealous. Seeing somebody else’s success as your failure is a cancerous way to live.” – Kevin Bacon
Reference
Code of Chivalry (medieval-life-and-times.info)
https://www.invaluable.com/blog/history-of-the-bushido-code/
https://www.wikihow.com/Follow-a-Personal-Code#:~:text=A%20personal%20code%20is%20the,to%20adhere%20to%20your%20code.
Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person. Gloria Steinem
Reference
https://www.joinonelove.org/signs-healthy-relationship/
“Believe in yourself and have faith in your abilities! Without humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.” – Norman Vincent Peale
Some things we may commonly do that may create this disconnect
Overthinking
Shoulds
Prejudices & Unconscious Bias
A loved one’s or authority figure’s needs/wants/opinion/advice
When you badly want something
Previous trauma
Reference
https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/yes-trust-gut-heres/
“Focus on your goals, not your fear.
Focus like a laser beam on your goals.”
― Roy T. Bennett,The Light in the Heart
Reference
https://www.themuse.com/advice/take-it-from-someone-who-hates-productivity-hacksthe-pomodoro-technique-actually-works
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNBmG24djoY
“I suppose it is tempting, if the only tool you have is a hammer, to treat everything as if it were a nail.”
― Abraham Maslow,
1.Assemble a team
2.Define the problem
3.Ask the first why
4.Ask why four more times
5.Know when to stop
6.Address root cause
7.Monitor your measures
Suffering becomes beautiful when anyone bears great calamities with cheerfulness, not through insensibility but through greatness of mind. –Aristotle-
Reference
https://science.sciencemag.org/content/360/6396/1465
You are constantly creating your own reality. Your reality is built out of your thoughts, so remember how much power you have. What you think you become, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you create. -Not stated-
“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.”
― Steve Maraboli-
Ways to foster resilience
Prioritize relationships. Connecting with empathetic and understanding people can remind you that you’re not alone in the midst of difficulties
Resource
https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience
Growth is uncomfortable; you have to embrace the discomfort if you want to expand. -Jonathan Majors-
“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.”
Albert Einstein
Reference
The original Cherokee story of two wolves — Nicole Poell Psy.D. (drnicolepoell.com)
Be brave. Take risks. Nothing can substitute experience. Paulo Coelho
From the bottom of the hierarchy upwards, the needs are:
physiological (food, water ,clothing rest),
https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html
A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying. -B. F. Skinner-
“The greatest and most unfortunate betrayal is when we betray ourselves. Being able to adhere to our commitments begins with self-respect.” — Gary Ryan Blair
Five ways keeping your word can improve your life
You will develop a higher level of self-trust
“It is time for you to look inward, and begin asking yourself the big questions. Who are you? And what do you want?”
“It's all in the mind.” ― George Harrison
Reference
https://www.vibrantcoaching.com/blog/think-possibilities
“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.”
-G. Michael Hopf-
“No plan of operations extends with certainty beyond the first encounter with the enemy's main strength.” Moltke the Elder
"Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans." -John Lennon
Reference
https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/making-assumptions.htm#:~:text=When%20you%20make%20an%20assumption,assuming%20things%20to%20be%20facts.
Success isn't always about greatness. It's about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come. Dwayne Johnson
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people's thinking." -Steve Jobs
Think As You Like But Behave Like Others. If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. Law # 38
When you live your life with an appreciation of coincidences and their meanings, you connect with the underlying field of infinite possibilities.-Deepak Chopra-
"Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, and others make it happen." — Unknown
5 Situations to Stand Up for What you Believe In (possibilitychange.com)
“...Even hope may seem but futile,
When with troubles you're beset,
But remember you are facing
Just what other men have met.
You may fail, but fall still fighting;
Don't give up, whate'er you do;
Eyes front, head high to the finish.
See it through!” Edgar Guest
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. -Winston Churchill-
A conversation between two friends who have experienced a similar journey through life. Family, Experiences, and a hunger to find our truth are just a few of our similarities.
"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one." - C.S. Lewis
"We don't rise to the level of our expectations; we fall to the level of our training." Archilochus
Whenever You Find Yourself Doubting How Far You Can Go, Just Remember How Far You Have Come. Remember Everything You Have Faced, All The Battles You Have Won, And All The Fears You Have Overcome. -Anonymous-
"The Man Who Thinks He Can" Walter D. Wintle
If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don't;
If you'd like to win, but think you can't,
It's almost a cinch you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost,
For out in the word we find
Success begins with a fellow's will,
It's all in the state of mind.
If you think you're outcasted, you are;
You've got to think high to rise.
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.
Life is divided into three terms - that which was, which is, and which will be. Let us learn from the past to profit by the present, and from the present, to live better in the future.
William Wordsworth
The tiny seed knew that in order to grow, it needed to be dropped in dirt, covered in darkness, struggle to reach the light.”
Sandra Kring
https://www.bing.com/search?q=the+deaf+frog&form=ANNTH1&refig=1d2c2cdb3e8e471bb614eb4a39662060&sp=1&qs=AS&pq=the+deaf+f&sk=PRES1&sc=8-10&cvid=1d2c2cdb3e8e471bb614eb4a39662060
Lessons learned
You have a choice to use the negativity as a motivator or as negative energy
Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.-Albert Einstein-
Reference
Truth is the property of no individual but is the treasure of all men. Ralph Waldo Emerson
“It is not that I'm so smart. But I stay with the questions much longer.”― Albert Einstein
Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you
A noble purpose inspires sacrifice, stimulates innovation and encourages perseverance. Gary Hamel
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” ―Ralph Waldo Emerson
Reference
https://drstanhyman.com/top-10-barriers-to-self-growth/
“The giant pine tree grows from a tiny sprout. The journey of a thousand miles starts from beneath your feet.”
– Lao Tzu
Reference
12 essential lessons Nature can teach us. - WONDERFUL WILD
The only limit to your impact is your imagination and commitment. -Tony Robbins-
1)Take away the choice. When we’re only half committed, we keep the door open for other options.
2)Do it with your entire being. Going through the motions doesn’t count.
3)Remember your deeper Why. You’re probably not taking your commitments seriously because you’ve forgotten why it’s so important.
4)If you aren’t fully doing it, ask what’s holding you back. Notice if you’re not really upholding your commitment, or if you’re only going through the motions.
5)Add commitments only slowly.
6)Get out of commitments you aren’t going to uphold. Most of us are overcommitted
References
https://zenhabits.net/commit/
“Both optimists and pessimists contribute to our society. The optimist invents the airplane and the pessimist the parachute.”
– Gil Stern
The Matrix is everywhere. It is all around us. It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth. A prison for your mind. -MORPHEUS-
Blue Pill or Red Pill - The Matrix (2/9) Movie CLIP (1999) HD - YouTube
“Our food should be our medicine and our medicine should be our food. “ – Hippocrates
References
https://www.uab.edu/news/youcanuse/item/7415-eating-for-wellness-can-a-change-in-diet-improve-your-health
https://www.everydayhealth.com/diet-nutrition/importance-healthy-eating-habits/
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322268#the-next-generation
“The visible success you achieve is the result of what you have done inside you” - Sunday Adelaja-
Resources
https://www.kadampanewyork.org/buddhistbeliefs?gclid=Cj0KCQiAyJOBBhDCARIsAJG2h5f2w88LJrbqPSXocj0Vx0vlggH2UuPj3YB36uy27RhIo6utWbY0jscaAtrMEALw_wcB
https://www.kadampanewyork.org/fournobletruths?gclid=Cj0KCQiAyJOBBhDCARIsAJG2h5cUz7yfYm_R8fDF9NGJB8i7eLX2K6NNIhCMmTzvBaVRcW1T7qkO_PcaAoX5EALw_wcB
https://tricycle.org/magazine/mind-mirror/
https://www.google.com/search?q=The+matrix+and+philosophy&sxsrf=ALeKk015mCsMGODi_q28U_H41K6Vsmyw4Q:1613099046009&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj5wv-cruPuAhWQzlkKHc1TDdsQ_AUoAnoECBoQBA&biw=1600&bih=789
“A mind that has no conflict, is not alive.”
― Abhijit Naskar
Reference
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-cognitive-dissonance-2795012
Taking constructive criticism from others is required to get to the next level. -Wendy Starland- Practice that Pause
“There’s no need to be perfect to inspire others. Let people get inspired by how you deal with your imperfections.” Anonymous
"Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Reference
Five Types of Ecological Relationships (seattlepi.com)
https://medium.com/countdown-education/6-types-of-symbiotic-relationships-explained-with-examples-2042042fff49
"May your choices reflect your hopes not your fears." -Nelson Mandela-
7 Decisions
The buck stops here , I will seek wisdom , I am a person of action, I have a decided heart , Today I will choose to be happy ,I will greet today with a forgiving spirit, I will persist without exception
Reference
The Traveler's Gift - SCLiterature (weebly.com)
“You can't always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.” -Wayne Dyer
Reference
https://www.stress.org/daily-life
“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.”
― Albert Einstein
caterpillar- concerned with " I " largely controlled by impulses and urges .( survival mode )
cocoon- the acquisition and utilization of discipline, for shifts to the long game, rationale starts to develop ( toddler into teenage years )
butterfly-achieved by gaining knowledge. Consciousness as well as awareness are raised ( Adulthood )
References
“ New Visions For Black Men “ by Na’Im AKBAR PH.D.
No Arms, No Legs, No Worries! - YouTube
“Keep away from those who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you believe that you too can become great.” - Mark Twain
Reference
https://www.elasticmind.ca/innerpreneur/index.php/2017/05/04/the-power-of-relationships/
“You are never given a dream without also being given the power to make it come true. You will have to work for it, however.” Richard Bach
“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.”
― Roy T. Bennett,
“Please realize that every complaint is an affirmation of something you think you don’t want in your life. Every time you get angry, you’re affirming that you want more anger in your life. Every time you feel like a victim, you’re affirming that you want to continue to feel like a victim. If you feel that Life isn’t giving you what you want in your world, then it’s certain that you will never have the goodies that Life gives to others-that is, until you change the way you think and talk.”
“Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” – Henry Ford
“What the caterpillar calls the end, the master calls a butterfly” Richard Bach
The top three traits I believe a student should possess is a desire to learn, to be teachable, and Resilience
“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.”
Albert Einstein
George Bernard Shaw said: "Youth is wasted on the young.
Reference
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAMUEflmWe0
Life is a habit. Or rather life is a succession of habits. -Samuel Beckett
4 stages of habit formation
Noticing
Reference
"The Billionaire Algorithm" | (it will change your future!) - YouTube
"Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you." Dr.Seuss
Quote by Marianne Williamson
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.
“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” Zig Ziglar
The Four D’s to manage time ( decision matrix )
Do,
10 tips to help master your time
Reference
https://www.lucidchart.com/blog/time-management-at-work
“Wise men speak because they have something to say; Fools because they have to say something.”
-Plato-
The Five C's of Effective Communications
Clear-Clear communication always has a clear purpose
Some tips to be a better communicator
“Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus.”
Alexander Graham Bell
References
7 Steps to Mastering the Art of Focus - Lamajo Wellness
“Success is where preparation and opportunity meet.” -Bobby Unser-
(6 ways to stay ready)
References
6 Tips To Prepare Us For Future Opportunities (lifehack.org)
“Happiness is a quality of the soul…not a function of one’s material circumstances.”
– Aristotle
“Knowledge isn’t power until it is applied.” Dale Carnegie
6 ways to help you apply what you have learned ( self development focused)
Recognize the payoff in doing what you usually do.
Reference
The Knowledge Trap. The trouble with “Knowledge Is Power” | by Thomas Oppong | Personal Growth | Medium
6 Tips to Help You Apply What You've Learned (tinybuddha.com)
Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.-Francis of Assisi
The difficult we do immediately; the impossible takes a little longer.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
– Eleanor Roosevelt
7 ways to be more confident
Push through self-limiting beliefs.
References
https://www.mindtools.com/selfconf.html
https://positivepsychology.com/self-confidence/
https://www.success.com/7-mental-hacks-to-be-more-confident-in-yourself/
Everything is in flux: everything changes; the body changes, the soul changes. We are capable of extraordinary self-transmutation and internal self-transformation. - Clive Barker
Some helpful ways to practice energy transmutation
Be grateful
Reference
https://thewakeupexperience.eu/15-tips-become-master-alchemist-transmute-energies/
https://www.thelawofattraction.com/law-attraction-learning-move-emotional-scale/
It's better to look ahead and prepare, than to look back and regret. Jackie Joyner-Kersee
Reference:https://www.aarp.org/health/healthy-living/info-03-2012/how-to-overcome-regrets-protect-health.html
Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.
- Peter Marshall-
Resources
https://www.forbes.com/sites/stevenberglas/2012/01/10/seven-ways-to-cope-with-indecision/?sh=77b73f5e4d17
“Adaptability is being able to adjust to any situation at any given time.” John Wooden
“A personal journal is an ideal environment in which to become. It is a perfect place for you to think, feel, discover, expand, remember, and dream.”Brad Wilcox
Reference
https://lifehacker.com/why-you-should-keep-a-journal-and-how-to-start-yours-1547057185
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
― Lao Tzu
“You were born to persistently change your negative conditions instead of being changed by them.”- Edmond Mbiaka
Bill Gates once said “Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.”
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ”
― Simone Weil
Jocko 4 Laws of combat
1) Cover and Move
2) Simple
3) Prioritize and Execute
4) Decentralized Command.
“When you know who you truly are, the need to compare yourself to others would become highly unnecessary.”Edmond Mbiaka
Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying the basic fundamentals. Jim Rohn
“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication” Leonardo Da Vinci’s
“Sometimes it’s the journey that teaches you a lot about your destination.” – Drake
6 key points from the Alchemist
https://fullylived.com/takeaways-from-the-alchemist/#:~:text=6%20Key%20Takeaways%20From%20%E2%80%9CThe%20Alchemist%E2%80%9D%201%20Follow,%E2%80%93%20It%20Is%20Written.%20...%20More%20items...%20
Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world. – Albert Einstein
https://medium.com/@dennisojogho/imagination-is-more-important-than-knowledge-ed91f866bf52
“Intentional living is the art of making our own choices before others' choices make us.”
― Richie Norton
(https://www.success.com/13-things-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/
You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions your take.” Jack Canfield
“If you say you can or you can’t you are right either way.” –Henry Ford
Resources
https://www.healthline.com/health/positive-self-talk
https://www.lifehack.org/504756/self-talk-determines-your-success-15-tips
“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.”
― Bill Gates
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2452315117300140
The concept of time through comparing budist philosophy to scientific thought
There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.
– Douglas H. Everett
“The hardest battle you will ever have to fight is between who you are now and who you want to be.” Anonymous
The Man Who Thinks He can
by Walter D. Wintle
If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think you dare not, you don’t.
If you’d like to win, but think you can’t
It’s almost a cinch that you won’t
If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost,
For out in the world we find
Success begins with a fellow’s will;
It’s all in the state of mind.
If you think you’re outclassed, you are.
You’ve got to think high to rise.
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man;
But sooner or later the man who wins
Is the one who thinks he can.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5o4KxEhVmE
I think therefore I am René Descartes
For more information on the subject please visit https://www.mindful.org/mind-vs-brain/
Faith is the strength by which a shattered world shall emerge into the light.
Helen Keller
https://www.qcc.cuny.edu/socialsciences/ppecorino/phil_of_religion_text/chapter_10_definition/Faith-Hope.htm
“The separation of talent and skill is one of the greatest misunderstood concepts for people who are trying to excel, who have dreams, who want to do things. Talent you have naturally. Skill is only developed by hours and hours and hours of beating on your craft." - Will Smith”
“Whatever techniques you practice, realize that the message of the heart becomes clearer when the mind is quiet. And in order to truly quiet the mind, we need to bring the head into alignment with the heart.” — Doc Childre, HeartMath Institute
https://www.calmwithyoga.com/get-more-mental-clarity-emotional-stability-well-being-by-activating-heart-coherence/
https://alleviant.com/12-benefits-of-brain-heart-coherence/
https://www.heartmath.org/articles-of-the-heart/the-math-of-heartmath/coherence/
https://positivepsychology.com/benefits-goal-setting/
“Compound interest is the 8th wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it; he who doesn’t, pays it.”Albert Einstein
Ref:https://stephenguise.com/your-choices-today-compound-for-life/
"If you hear a voice within you say 'you cannot paint,' then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced." -Vincent Van Gogh
Five key behaviors that optimize your brain for discovery:
4 Rules of Combat
1) Cover and Move
2) Simple
3) Prioritize and Execute
4) Decentralized Command
Given to us by Jocko Willink
"Gender is in everything; everything has its Masculine and Feminine
Principles Gender; manifests on all planes." — The Kybalion.
Find more about identifying what energy you are operating in @ https://goop.com/wellness/spirituality/balancing-your-feminine-and-masculine-energies/
Everything flows out and in; everything has its tides;
all things rise and fall; the pendulum-swing manifests
in everything; the measure of the swing to the right,
is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm
compensates"--The Kybalion.
The Principle of Polarity embodies the idea that everything is dual, everything has two poles, and everything has its opposite. All manifested things have two sides, two aspects, or two poles.
The whole point of these " Vs " podcasts is to inspire us to be more critical in evaluating our emotions.
similar but very different emotions in this podcast we dive deeper into what each really means.
“Happiness consists more in conveniences of pleasure that occur everyday than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom.”
– Benjamin Franklin
Please refer to these helpful links in reference to more information
https://www.psychalive.org/self-worth/
https://www.psychalive.org/4-steps-to-conquer-your-inner-critic/
Just like every month we are obligated to pay rent, every day we have an obligation to put in hard works directed towards accomplishing our goals.
“We know what we are, but not what we may be” William Shakespeare
And apologies, my youngest daughter was having a tantrum while i was recording #DADLIFE
Keys to effective listening: because at the end of the day we all just want to be heard .................
Reflective Listening
Paraphrasing
active listening
Silence
body language
The battlefield of life is fought first and foremost in the mind ......Knowing this our mental health should have priority in our lives.
This recording in no way shape form or fashion reflects the ideology of the organization in which I am currently employed, however due to the nature of current event , and experiences, I feel the need to motivate the initiation of very hard conversations that we still haven't discussed both as a community and a nation. This is my contribution because “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” — Dr Martin Luther King Jr
We can't always stand on the shore of life wondering what lies beyond the waves. Sometimes we just have to jump in and go for it.
Motivation is a subset of passion. Your WHY creates your PASSION which in turn MOTIVATES you.
Success is about laying that first brick as perfectly as possible. Self mastery is that first brick.
The difference between the life you have now and the life that you want is only a couple of inches. Today's reference " Eat That Frog " by Brian Tracy.