Building Faith: Recent Episodes

Kris Reece Ministries

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

Demonic Spirits Behind the “Christian” Covert Narcissist

How can someone quote Scripture, appear humble, and claim Christ, yet consistently leave you feeling confused, drained, and questioning yourself?

In this episode, we expose four destructive spiritual patterns often operating behind a covert narcissist: control, deception, manipulation, and pride. You'll learn why these individuals can be so difficult to recognize, how spiritual language is sometimes used to create confusion, and what Scripture says about discerning truth through fruit rather than appearances.

If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that sounded godly on the surface but left you feeling spiritually and emotionally unsettled, this episode will help you identify the pattern, protect your peace, and walk in greater clarity and discernment.

Watch next:
👉 3 Signs God Is Breaking the Trauma Bond with a Narcissist

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👉 Narcissist Survival Guide

👉 5 Signs God Is About To Judge The Narcissist Who Hurt You - Kris Reece

👉 Narcissist Survival Guide

THIS Is How God Will Vindicate You When They Smear You

Have you been painted as the villain while someone else spreads half-truths, twisted narratives, or outright lies? If so, you're not alone.

In this episode, we explore how God responds to smear campaigns and why His silence is often part of a much bigger process. Through the story of Joseph, you'll discover the three phases of biblical vindication: exposure, separation of truth from illusion, and ultimate elevation. You'll learn why chasing every accusation rarely brings peace, and how God works behind the scenes to reveal truth in His timing.

If you're exhausted from defending yourself and wondering when God will step in, this episode will help you trust His process and find freedom from the need to control the narrative.

Watch next:
👉 Never Explain Yourself to a Narcissist and What God Says to Do Instead

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👉 Narcissist Survival Guide

This 7 Second Test Exposes the Wolf in Your Church

Not every wolf in sheep's clothing looks dangerous. Many appear helpful, spiritual, and deeply involved in church life. Yet beneath the surface, they may be spreading division, manipulating relationships, and controlling narratives while hiding behind a mask of godliness.

In this episode, you'll discover three key signs of a church wolf, why these individuals often go undetected, and a simple seven-second test that can expose what is really happening. Most importantly, you'll learn how to respond with wisdom, discernment, and biblical truth without getting pulled into the drama.

If you've ever wondered whether someone is operating in manipulation, gossip, or division within your church community, this episode will help you recognize the pattern and bring it into the light.

Watch next:
👉 5 Signs God Is About To Judge The Narcissist Who Hurt You - Kris Reece

Get your free resource here:
👉 Narcissist Survival Guide

3 Signs God Is Exposing the Narcissist’s Enabler

God does not just expose the narcissist. He also reveals the people protecting, enabling, or excusing the behavior.

In this episode, we uncover three signs that someone may be acting as a narcissist’s enabler. Whether they benefit from the relationship, use spiritual language to silence you, or have been shaped by dysfunction themselves, these individuals often create just as much confusion as the narcissist.

You will learn how to recognize these patterns, stop feeding unhealthy systems, find safe support, and trust God to reveal the truth in His timing.

If you have ever felt more hurt by the people who refused to believe you than by the narcissist themselves, this episode will help you understand why and show you how to move forward with wisdom and discernment.

Watch next:
👉 How will God Judge a Narcissist When He’s Had Enough

Get your free resource here:
👉 Narcissist Survival Guide

God Is Exposing the Narcissist No One Talks About

What if the most dangerous narcissist in your life does not fit the typical mold?

In this episode, we uncover a hidden pattern of narcissism that turns every conversation into a competition. Instead of resolution, there is constant challenge, subtle accusation, and spiritualized conflict that leaves you feeling confused, exhausted, and somehow at fault.

You will learn how to recognize this antagonistic pattern, why it is especially deceptive in Christian environments, and how to respond with clarity, boundaries, and biblical discernment.

If you have ever felt like every conversation turns into a courtroom where you are defending yourself, this will help you see what is really happening and what to do next.

Watch next:
👉 https://krisreece.com/2026/04/02/narcissistic-relationship-pattern-why-you-always-end-up-apologizing/

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👉 https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

God Is Revealing the Hidden Cost of Being Honest with a Narcissist

Have you ever been honest in a conversation, only to walk away confused, drained, and questioning yourself?

In this episode, we uncover why honesty stops working in toxic relationships and the hidden cost it can carry. From being pulled into codependency, to carrying emotional weight that is not yours, to slowly abandoning parts of yourself, this pattern is far more than miscommunication.

If you have found yourself over-explaining, feeling misunderstood, or wondering why telling the truth always seems to backfire, this will help you understand what is really happening and how to respond with clarity and wisdom.

Watch next:
https://krisreece.com/2025/12/11/3-signs-god-is-breaking-the-trauma-bond-with-a-narcissist/

Get deeper support here:
https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

7 Clues to Spot a “Christian” Manipulator

Manipulators do not announce themselves. They leave clues.

In this episode, we uncover seven key patterns that reveal when you are not just dealing with a difficult person, but someone using subtle control, even through spiritual language. From shifting blame and using guilt, to twisting Scripture and avoiding accountability, these behaviors are designed to confuse you and keep you off balance.

If you have ever walked away from a conversation feeling like the problem, questioning your reality, or trying to keep up with constantly changing rules, this will help you recognize what is really happening and protect yourself with clarity and discernment.

Watch next:
https://krisreece.com/2025/04/11/how-bible-verses-on-controlling-emotions-help-you-outsmart-manipulators/

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https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

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God Is Revealing the Demonic Pattern Behind the Silent Treatment

The silent treatment is not just silence. It is a strategy.

In this episode, we uncover the six-stage pattern behind it, from shame and defensiveness to escalation, blame, breakdown, and finally emotional cutoff. What feels like miscommunication is often a predictable system designed to regain control and keep you off balance.

You will learn how to recognize the pattern in real time, stop reinforcing it, and respond with clarity, strength, and biblical wisdom.

If you have ever found yourself overthinking, reaching out to restore peace, or feeling like you somehow became the problem, this will help you see what is really happening and how to break free.

Watch next: 3 Signs God Is Trying to Remove Someone From Your Life

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https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

This Test Exposes a Christian Manipulator

Sometimes the most dangerous manipulation sounds loving… even Biblical.

That is why so many people get pulled into toxic dynamics without realizing it. What feels like connection, empathy, and spiritual alignment may actually be something far more calculated.

In this episode, we uncover how Christian manipulators operate beneath the surface and walk through a simple test that can expose the dynamic almost instantly.

You’ll learn:
• Why manipulation often feels like a normal conversation at first
• How subtle “roles” get assigned without you realizing it
• The 3 key phases of manipulation: connection, confusion, and control
• How your words, emotions, and reactions get used as leverage
• Why you may feel destabilized, unsure, and disconnected from your own discernment

Most importantly, we break down the 5-second test that reveals everything.

When you stop explaining, stop defending, and simply stay silent, the script breaks. What happens next will tell you whether you are in a healthy relationship… or someone else’s performance.

This episode will help you recognize the difference between true Christian character and performative spirituality, so you can step out of confusion and back into clarity.

If you’ve been questioning yourself, over-explaining, or trying to make sense of a relationship that never quite adds up, this will give you the language and discernment you’ve been missing.

Next Episode:
How God Exposes Spiritual Narcissism: The 3 Predictable Phases That Follow
https://krisreece.com/2026/02/26/how-god-exposes-spiritual-narcissism-the-3-predictable-phases-that-follow/

Free Resource:
Narcissist Survival Guide: https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

The Demonic Pattern Behind Emotional Abuse (Most Christians Miss This)

Why does emotional abuse feel so confusing and hard to break free from? It is not random. There is a pattern behind it, and Scripture already reveals it.

In this episode, we uncover the three-step pattern of emotional abuse: distortion of truth, erosion of identity, and eventual destruction. What looks like miscommunication or immaturity may actually be something designed to keep you confused and off balance.

You will learn how to recognize this pattern, break agreement with the lies, and begin reclaiming your God-given identity with clarity and confidence.

If you have felt like you are losing your voice, your peace, or your sense of self in a relationship, this will help you understand why and show you what to do next.

Next episode: Biblical Justice: What God Will Do With the Narcissist When He’s Had Enough

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Never Explain Yourself to a Narcissist: God Says Do This Instead

Have you ever tried to calmly explain yourself, only to have your words twisted, used against you, and thrown back in your face?

What feels mature, what feels Godly, and what feels like “clearing things up” may actually be the very thing giving them leverage.

In this episode, we break down why explaining yourself to a narcissist always backfires and reveal the hidden dynamic at play. You are not having a conversation… you are stepping into a courtroom where you are the defendant, and the verdict has already been decided.

You’ll learn:
• Why your words get reframed and used against you
• How the focus shifts from their behavior to your character
• Why even silence can be twisted into guilt
• The spiritual pattern behind this cycle of confusion and control

Most importantly, we’ll walk through what God actually says to do instead.

Scripture does not call you to endless explanation, self-defense, or emotional exhaustion. It calls you to discernment, wisdom, and at times, complete disengagement.

If you’ve been stuck trying to prove your heart, clarify your intentions, or finally be understood, this episode will help you step out of the courtroom and into truth.

Next Episode:
Biblical Justice: What God Will Do With the Narcissist When He’s Had Enough

Free Resource:
Narcissist Survival Guide: https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

The Real Reason You Betray Your Own Boundaries

Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I just agree to that when I knew better?” Breaking your own boundaries isn’t usually about weakness or lack of willpower.

In this episode, we uncover what’s really happening in the moment you cave. Often, it’s not a conscious choice—it’s a nervous system response shaped by past experiences where conflict, disappointment, or rejection felt unsafe. When pressure rises, your body may default to compliance even when your mind knows the boundary is right.

You’ll learn why insight alone doesn’t fix the pattern, how shame keeps the cycle going, and practical ways to retrain your responses so you can hold boundaries without becoming cold or defensive—all while staying rooted in biblical truth.

Watch the next episode: https://krisreece.com/2024/06/28/5-clues-to-spot-a-narcissist-christian/

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5 Signs You’ve Lost Yourself in a Toxic Relationship

Have you ever looked at your life and thought, I don’t even recognize myself anymore?

In this episode, we uncover five powerful signs that you may have slowly lost yourself in a toxic relationship—from constantly monitoring your words to avoid conflict, to feeling confused about who you are and what you truly want. When identity gets shaped by survival instead of conviction, confusion and emotional exhaustion often follow.

You’ll also learn how to distinguish normal relationship compromise from unhealthy dynamics—and how Scripture points us back to the identity God gave us from the beginning.

If you want to learn how to recognize unsafe dynamics before they distort your identity, watch the next episode:
https://krisreece.com/2025/12/18/spiritual-manipulation-in-christian-relationships-6-subtle-warning-signs/

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God Says Stop Helping That Toxic Person. Do This Instead.

Have you ever noticed how toxic people can leave a trail of broken relationships behind them and still believe everyone else was the problem?

In this episode, we unpack why toxic people often lack self-reflection, why blame always gets shifted outward, and how these destructive patterns quietly repeat across relationships and even generations. You’ll also learn why trying harder to explain, reason, or help rarely changes the dynamic.

Scripture reminds us that we are not called to manage someone else’s lack of repentance. Instead, we are called to recognize the fruit in someone’s life and guard our hearts.

If you want to learn how to spot manipulation hiding behind spiritual language, watch the next episode: 5 Clues to Spot a Narcissist Christian - Kris Reece

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Why Every Hard Conversation Ends with You Apologizing

Have you ever noticed that every difficult conversation ends the same way? Nothing gets resolved, the original issue disappears, and somehow you end up apologizing.

In this episode, we unpack the hidden dynamic behind that frustrating pattern. You’ll learn why emotionally immature people often deflect hard conversations, how shame and pride fuel these interactions, and why accountability keeps slipping out of reach no matter how calm or careful you try to be.

Once you see the two forces driving these conversations, you’ll stop blaming yourself for dynamics you were never meant to fix—and begin recognizing when you’re not even playing the same game.

If you want to learn the one behavior that makes you far more difficult to manipulate, watch the next episode: How Bible Verses on Controlling Emotions Help You Outsmart Manipulators

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Renew Your Mind Online Course

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👉 Conquering Codependency Biblically Online Course

https://krisreece.com/conquering-codependency/

👉 FREE Narcissist Survival Guide

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The Demonic Strategy Sabotaging You (Even If You Think You’ve Healed)

You can leave a toxic relationship and still live inside the survival decisions you made to endure it. That’s why some people pray, forgive, set boundaries—and yet still feel blocked, guarded, or unable to fully trust again.

In this episode, we expose a hidden spiritual strategy that quietly sabotages healing: inner vows. These are silent promises made in pain to protect yourself—promises that feel wise but actually keep fear, control, and self-reliance in place. You’ll learn how self-protection can masquerade as maturity, why Scripture warns against vows made in fear, and how these agreements become spiritual strongholds that block intimacy with God and others.

We break down four common inner vows, how to recognize if you’re living from one, and how to pray to break them so true healing—not just survival—can begin.

👉 Watch next: 4 Signs God Is Exposing the Narcissist and Setting You Free
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4signsexposingnarcissist

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Freedom doesn’t come from surviving.
It comes from surrender.

God Says: Get These 6 People Out of Your Life — NOW

What if the guilt you feel about setting boundaries isn’t from God at all? Many believers stay trapped in relationships God never asked them to carry, believing discomfort automatically equals obedience. Scripture tells a very different story.

In this episode, we walk through six types of people the Bible explicitly warns us to avoid, why ignoring these warnings slowly erodes your peace and discernment, and how to know when God is truly saying, “Let go.” Using 2 Timothy 3:1–5, we break these warnings into three clear categories—the self-centered, the relationally destructive, and the spiritually counterfeit—so you can recognize danger without fear, guilt, or self-justification.

This isn’t about cutting people off out of pain or bitterness. It’s about obedience, clarity, and protecting what God entrusted to you. When Scripture settles the question, guilt loses its power.

👉 Watch next: Trauma Bond Recovery – Breaking Free and Finding True Peace
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TraumaBondRecovery

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You don’t need permission to obey God.
You just need clarity.

When God Exposes the Covert Narcissist, Expect This Reaction

Living with a covert narcissist can feel confusing, exhausting, and disorienting - but when God exposes what’s hidden, the fallout that follows isn’t random. It’s predictable.

In this episode, we unpack the biblical pattern that unfolds when God brings truth into the light. Using a storm-system analogy, you’ll learn why the narcissist’s reaction escalates in clear phases, why things often feel worse before they get better, and how what looks like chaos is actually confirmation that God is moving.

We walk through the three key phases God allows:

Truth coming into the open
Control being disrupted
Separation and fruit being revealed

You’ll also understand why covert narcissists panic when illusion breaks, how victimhood and blame intensify, and why separation - emotional, relational, or practical—is often unavoidable when truth replaces manipulation.

This episode isn’t about attacking or exposing - it’s about discernment, protection, and peace. When you recognize the pattern, you can stop questioning yourself and start trusting what God is showing you.

👉 Next episode: 5 Clues to Spot a Christian Narcissist
https://krisreece.com/recognizing-christian-narcissism

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7 Lies the Church Taught You About How Jesus Handled Narcissists

If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting boundaries, saying no, or protecting your peace, it may not be conviction - it may be mis-teaching. In this episode, we expose seven common lies many Christians were taught about how Jesus handled narcissistic, controlling, or deceitful people - and why those teachings quietly keep believers stuck in guilt, exhaustion, and self-abandonment.

Using Scripture and cultural context, we unpack what Jesus actually modeled: truth without appeasement, love with boundaries, forgiveness without forced reconciliation, and discernment over religious pressure. From “turn the other cheek” to “submit no matter what,” you’ll learn how these verses are often misused - and how Jesus Himself confronted manipulation, walked away from danger, and protected His mission without sinning.

This episode will help you release false guilt, reclaim biblical clarity, and follow Christ without sacrificing your God-given boundaries.

👉 Watch next: How to identify a ‘Christian’ narcissist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U_yVi6MX1Is

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Breaking the Narcissist’s Grip – A Christian’s Guide to Cutting the Strings of Manipulation, Setting Boundaries That Stick, and Reclaiming Your Life from Takers
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5 Signs God Is About to Judge the Narcissist Who Hurt You

Have you ever watched a manipulator twist reality so convincingly that you wondered when God would finally expose the truth? They may look untouchable for a season - but Scripture shows us that God’s justice is never absent, only unfolding.

In this episode, we unpack the biblical pattern behind manipulation through the story of Jezebel - not as a gendered label, but as a spiritual pattern still active today in relationships, families, workplaces, and even churches. You’ll learn the four movements of God’s justice, why His timing feels delayed, and what it actually means when God says, “Enough.”

More importantly, we address where many believers go wrong - stepping into battles God never assigned—and how stepping back with wisdom, boundaries, and discernment allows God’s justice to move with precision.

This episode isn’t about revenge. It’s about restoration - God repairing what was damaged, uprooting confusion, healing your identity, and giving you peace the manipulator can no longer touch.

👉 Watch next: 5 signs God is telling you it’s time to walk away from a toxic person
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtVufAaibso

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📘 FREE Narcissist Survival Guide

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The Hidden Demonic Pattern Behind Narcissists That Most Christians Miss

There’s a spirit that attaches itself to narcissism—subtle, deceptive, and often undetected even by mature believers. In this episode, KR exposes the spirit of Jezebel, showing how it operates under the guise of charm, spiritual insight, and care, quietly undermining your peace, discernment, and identity.

You’ll learn:

How this spirit hides in plain sight, presenting as “wise,” protective, or spiritually gifted
The 7 key traits that reveal its influence:
1. Charm – disarming you and gaining emotional access
2. False Prophet Persona – using spiritual language to gain authority
3. Influence Hunter – seeking control through position, not connection
4. Emotional Whiplash – destabilizing your emotions to weaken discernment
5. The Untouchable One – avoiding accountability and weaponizing offense
6. Anointing Assassin – targeting the strong, the gifted, and the called
7. Shadow Operator – isolating you to increase control and deception
How Jezebel’s tactics mirror narcissistic patterns, making it hard to spot until significant damage is done
Practical strategies to protect your spiritual and emotional well-being
Why God allows exposure to clarify, protect, and ultimately bring freedom

This episode is essential for anyone navigating relationships where subtle manipulation, spiritual deception, or narcissistic influence is at play. KR guides you through recognizing these patterns before they take root, reclaiming your peace, and guarding your discernment.

Resources & Free Gifts:

Grab the FREE Narcissist Survival Guide: https://krisreece.com/narcissist-surv
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Watch next episode: 4 Signs God is Breaking the Narcissist's Demonic Hold on You: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5rFe_q4AOcc

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Stop Letting the Narcissist Control Your Mind — In 4 Simple Steps

You left the toxic relationship… or at least set firm boundaries. You got some peace back… or so you thought.

Before long, old conversations replay in your head, anxiety pops up for no reason, and you feel like they’re still living rent-free in your mind. You’re not weak or crazy — your brain was trained to stay on high alert.

In this video, I break the cycle. You’ll learn why toxic people still occupy your thoughts, and how to reclaim your mind with 4 biblical steps:

1️⃣ Reveal — Identify the thoughts and lies they left behind.
2️⃣ Repair — Replace their words with God’s truth.
3️⃣ Redecorate — Fill your mind with peace, Scripture, and presence.
4️⃣ Reclaim — Invite God to dwell and protect your thoughts.

Stop living reactively and start thinking clearly again. Your mind is God’s temple — it’s time to take back control.

Watch next: 3 Biblical Secrets to Stop Falling for Manipulative Guilt Traps

Breaking the Narcissists Grip - A Christians Guide to Cutting the Strings of Manipulation, Setting Boundaries That Stick and Reclaiming Your Life from Takers

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Have you ever caught yourself reacting in ways you swore you never would—snapping, withdrawing, guilt-tripping, or wanting others to feel your pain? After a toxic or narcissistic relationship, it’s easy to believe the dysfunction stayed with them. But sometimes, the relationship ends… and the patterns don’t.

In this episode, we unpack six toxic habits people unknowingly pick up from prolonged exposure to narcissistic behavior—and how to identify and dismantle them before they take root. Healing isn’t just about recognizing what they did to you; it’s about asking the harder question: Did any of it get on me too?

If you’re ready for deeper freedom, this conversation may be uncomfortable - but it’s where real transformation begins.

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6 Clues to Spot an Unsafe “Christian” — Before You Get Hurt

Have you ever trusted someone just because they seemed safe… only to realize later they were quietly draining your peace, joy, or confidence?
Many people who wound us don’t look toxic at first glance—some even wear a Christian label. But behind the smiles and Scripture quotes can hide patterns that God never intended for your life.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the 6 subtle but undeniable clues that reveal when someone is not a safe Christian to let close to your heart.
We’ll talk about:
• The friend who only shows up for one side of your life
• The quiet scorekeeper who makes you feel indebted
• The validation-seeker who drains your emotional energy
• Hidden jealousy disguised as support
• The person who can’t admit their mistakes
• And the guilt-tripping behaviors that twist your boundaries

These patterns are easy to miss—especially when the person appears kind, spiritual, or “means well.” But once you learn how to recognize these clues, you’ll never have to say “I didn’t see it coming” again.

This episode will help you protect your peace, your spiritual growth, and the garden God is cultivating in your life.

And when you’re ready, don’t miss the next episode where I show you the hidden habit that keeps attracting unsafe relationships into your life—and how to break it for good.

Watch next: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LIpu5qUQ-NE&t=2s

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3 Biblical Secrets to Stop Falling for Manipulative Guilt Traps ✨

Have you ever walked away from a conversation replaying everything you could’ve, should’ve, would’ve said… if only you realized they were trying to manipulate you? 🤦‍♀️
If you're tired of decoding what people “really mean,” and you want a godly, calm, clear way to shut down manipulative guilt without sounding harsh or feeling guilty — this episode is for you. 🙌

Today, you’ll learn:
• How to recognize subtle guilt-inducing language 😒
• The biblical mindset that frees you from emotional traps 📖
• And the simple test that exposes manipulation and stops it in its tracks 💥

Inside this episode, you’ll hear:

Secret #1: Not Every Cry for Relief Is Your Assignment 🚫🧳
Discover why some people aren’t looking for help — they’re looking for someone to enable them. Learn the difference between relief and rehab, and why rescuing manipulators keeps you stuck while blocking God’s work in them.

Secret #2: You Are Not the Interpreter of Hints — God Requires Honesty, Not Mind Reading 🧠❌
Jesus said, “Let your yes be yes and your no be no.”
Learn how manipulative people use hints, passive-aggressive comments, and guilt to force you into emotional labor God never assigned you.

Secret #3: You Are Not Called to Keep Everyone Comfortable 🙅‍♀️🕊️
Biblical peacemaking isn’t people-pleasing. It’s speaking truth, setting boundaries, and letting God handle the fallout. You’ll see how emotional firefighters (that’s you!) end up drained — and how to step out of that cycle.

And then…
You’ll learn the OK Test — the most effective, biblical way to shut down guilt-tripping, passive-aggressive, manipulative comments instantly. 🔥
No rescuing. No explaining. No fixing. Just a calm, firm “OK.”

This episode will empower you to walk in spiritual confidence, emotional clarity, and peace — without falling into manipulation or guilt ever again. ✨

👉 Watch next: How to spot a narcissist before they wreck your life
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LIpu5qUQ-NE&t=2s

🎧 3 Signs God Is Telling You to Walk Away from That Toxic Person

Have you ever begged God for a sign—wondering if you should keep praying for that toxic relationship, or finally let go? Sometimes, the hardest thing isn’t holding on…it’s recognizing when God is whispering, “It’s time to walk away.”

In this episode, we’ll unpack three powerful spiritual signs that God may be giving you permission to release what’s harming your soul. If you’re torn between faith and freedom and craving real clarity—not just another pep talk—this is for you.

🌿 What you’ll learn:

The spiritual clues most Christians miss when relationships turn toxic
How to tell the difference between a test and a true warning from God—so you don’t carry false guilt
What real faith looks like when letting go is actually the bravest, most obedient step

Using a simple garden analogy, we’ll explore how God prunes relationships not to punish, but to protect the harvest He’s growing in you—your peace, calling, and fruitfulness.

You’ll walk away with the clarity (and spiritual permission) you’ve been praying for.

👉 Want to go deeper? Learn how to spot spiritual wolves in sheep’s clothing before they enter your life:
Watch: 5 Clues to Spot a ‘Christian’ Narcissist Before They Wreck Your Life

Download the FREE Narcissist Survival Guide: krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide

Could the enemy have sent a narcissist into your life on purpose? In this livestream, discover five spiritual signs that your toxic relationship is more than just a test.

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🔥 22 Years of Brutal Truth on Narcissists & Demons in Just 60 Minutes | Compilation Episode

What if you could compress over two decades of hard-earned wisdom about narcissists and spiritual warfare into one power-packed hour?

In this special compilation episode, you’ll hear the most eye-opening insights, biblical revelations, and spiritual strategies gathered from 22 years of walking through, studying, and exposing narcissistic abuse and the demonic forces behind it.

Whether you’re in the middle of the storm, freshly out, or helping someone else heal, this episode will give you the clarity, boldness, and spiritual fire to stand firm.

🎧 4 Signs God Is About to Break the Narcissist’s Hold on You

You’ve been praying, fighting, and surviving what feels like a never-ending storm with the narcissist in your life. But here’s the truth: there are clear spiritual signs that God is at work—right now—breaking the enemy’s grip that’s been keeping you trapped.

In this episode, you’ll uncover 4 powerful signs your breakthrough may be closer than you think—even if the narcissist hasn’t changed at all. God really can set you free, and you’ll learn how to recognize when He’s already moving.

🌿 Here’s what you’ll discover:

Why increased attacks can actually mean your breakthrough is near
How God gives supernatural peace even while chaos continues
The moment when spiritual fog lifts and you begin to see manipulation clearly
How remembering your identity in Christ breaks the narcissist’s power over your mind and heart

You’ll also learn the biggest mistake people make when they start noticing these signs—and how to trust God’s timing without rushing ahead of His plan.

💬 Plus, we’ll end with a powerful prayer to help you step into freedom and stand firm against the enemy’s tactics.

👉 Want to go deeper?
Watch the next episode: The Prayer That Stops the Narcissist’s Tactics Dead in Their Tracks

Download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide: krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide

Have you ever left a conversation replaying what you coulda, shoulda, woulda said—only to realize later they were trying to manipulate you? 🤯

If you’re tired of always interpreting what someone “really means,” and wish you had a godly way to handle manipulative guilt trips without sounding harsh—or carrying guilt yourself—this episode is for you.

I’ll show you how to:

Recognize and shut down subtle guilt-inducing language 👀
Apply a simple biblical test that exposes manipulation ⚡
Finally stop carrying emotional loads that were never yours to bear 🙌

🔥 What You’ll Learn:

1️⃣ Secret #1: Not Every Cry for Relief Is Your Assignment

Relief vs. rehab: the difference between helping and enabling 🚫
Galatians 6:2 vs. Galatians 6:5—why not every burden is yours to carry
Manipulators drop emotional messes and expect you to clean them up—but that’s not your God-given role

2️⃣ Secret #2: You Are Not the Interpreter of Hints

How manipulators use sarcasm, sighs, and guilt-laced hints instead of honest words 😒
Jesus’ teaching: “Let your yes be yes and your no be no” (Matthew 5:37)
Why refusing to read minds is actually a spiritual boundary

3️⃣ Secret #3: True Peace ≠ People-Pleasing

The difference between peacekeeping and biblical peacemaking 🙏
Galatians 1:10—living to please God, not people
Why constantly soothing others’ discomfort isn’t kindness, it’s codependency

✨ Bonus: The “OK Test”

The one-word response that shuts down manipulation without over-explaining
Real-life examples:
- “I guess you don’t love me…” → OK
- “I’ll just sit by myself…” → OK
- “That’s fine, I’ll wait outside in the cold…” → OK
Why this isn’t cold—it’s biblical maturity and freedom

How to Spot a Narcissist Before They Wreck Your Life
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LIpu5qUQ-NE

FREE Narcissist Survival Guide
https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

What if every time you think you’re finally safe from a narcissist, they’re actually one step ahead?
In this podcast, I’m going to show you the clear signs they know you're onto them, the sneaky tricks they play to pull you back in and —and give you a new, safer way to avoid falling into their trap.

FREE Narcissist Survival Guide
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Learn how to spot a narcissist before they creep in, and wreck your life!!

The 7 Hidden Signs Your Adult Child Is Toxic ⚠️

What happens when the person showing toxic behavior is your own adult child? In this episode—our most requested yet—we’ll uncover the clear signs your child’s behavior is truly toxic, how you may be unintentionally enabling them, and the undeniable giveaway that you’re being manipulated.

Parent Traps 🪤
We’ll explore the two most common traps parents fall into—the “Rescuers” and the “Deniers”—and why both can keep you stuck in painful, unhealthy cycles.

What You’ll Learn 🧠

Manipulation of Emotions – How toxic adult children twist your love and concern to control you
Playing the Victim – Why nothing is ever their fault
Disrespecting Boundaries – How they guilt-trip or push back against limits
Drama & Conflict – The chaos they create to keep attention on themselves
Sense of Entitlement – How they expect support without reciprocity
Enabling Behaviors – Subtle ways you may be feeding their toxicity

Scripture reminds us in James 3:16: “For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice.” Recognizing these signs is the first step toward freedom.

Learn More 📖
If you’ve ever wondered if there’s more behind their behavior than just poor choices, check out my teaching on the demonic spirits behind narcissism:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7fFjiEKlnI

Free Resource 🎁
Download my Narcissist Survival Guide here:
https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide

Raised by a Narcissist? God Says THIS to YouIf your own mother was the source of pain instead of nurture, you’re not alone. Here’s what you need to know ⬇️

🚩 Signs of a Narcissistic Mother

❌ Lack of empathy — your feelings dismissed or minimized
🎭 Emotional manipulation — guilt-trips, twisting Scripture for control
👎 Constant criticism — nothing is ever “good enough”
🕹️ Control & overbearing behavior — using approval or money as leverage
🌟 Attention-seeking — making everything about her

💔 Lasting Effects on You

Feeling unworthy of love
Guilt & confusion when setting boundaries
Emotional exhaustion & walking on eggshells
Damaged sense of self-worth

🙏 Biblical Steps to Heal & Move Forward

🛡️ Set healthy boundaries – Proverbs 4:23
💗 Forgive – release the burden, let God handle her
🔒 Guard your heart – believe God’s truth about who you are
🌿 Seek God’s approval, not hers – Galatians 1:10
🤍 Accept reality – you can love her, but protect your peace

👉 Want to go deeper? Watch the full message here:
🎥 Raised by a Narcissist? God Says THIS to You

You’ve prayed. You’ve questioned. You’ve replayed the conversations over and over… and something still doesn’t feel right. Maybe they twist your words, get defensive, or always end up looking like the victim.

In this episode, I’m sharing 7 hidden signs God may be exposing a manipulator in your life — the subtle kind that can leave you drained, doubting yourself, and feeling stuck.

We’ll cover:
• Charming but self-centered ✨
• Emotional control tactics 😔
• Fake empathy 🎭
• Quiet devaluing 📉
• False reality & gaslighting 🌀
• Playing dumb/“forgetful” 🙄
• Sweetness that turns into taking advantage 🍯

Step out of the FOG and into the light.

🎧 Watch now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyK6OuYw6eo

This One Behavior Makes You IMPOSSIBLE to Manipulate
Now that you know the signs of a manipulator, be sure to check out this episode next to uncover the ONE behavior that makes you impossible to manipulate.

💔 Married to a Narcissist? This Changes Everything

You’ve read the books, watched the videos — but nothing prepares you for when the narcissist is your husband.
It’s not just harder — it’s spiritually confusing.
If you feel stuck, this episode will help you guard your heart, honor God, and stay strong without losing yourself 🙏

⚠️ 3 Myths Keeping Christian Wives Trapped:

1️⃣ “You’re stuck, deal with it.”
→ God doesn’t ask you to tolerate destruction.

2️⃣ “It’s your job to fix it.”
→ That’s the Holy Spirit’s job, not yours.

3️⃣ “God just wants me happy.”
→ He wants you holy, more than happy.

🛡 2 Spiritual Shifts You Need:

1️⃣ Pray for His Deliverance

Heart of flesh (Ezekiel 36:26)
True repentance (2 Cor. 7:10)
Eyes opened (2 Cor. 4:4)

2️⃣ Stand Against the Spiritual Battle
This is war — not with him, but with the enemy.
(Luke 10:19)

📖 3 Biblical Steps While You Wait:

1️⃣ Set Boundaries — not rebellion, but wisdom.
2️⃣ Ditch Dysfunctional Tools — anchor in God, discern instead of defend.

3️⃣ Rebuild Your Identity — You’re God’s daughter before anyone’s wife.
✨ 2 Cor. 5:17 | 1 Peter 2:9 | Psalm 139:14

🎧 Need clarity on divorce in situations like this? Watch:
👉 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0_-LDf0hLbo

You’re not crazy. Not alone. Not powerless.

🎙️ Podcast Episode: When God Has Enough, He Exposes the Narcissist Like THIS
🔊 Compilation with Kris Reece

🔥 Powerful truths about how God deals with narcissistic behavior
🙏 Encouragement for those who’ve suffered manipulation or emotional abuse
🧠 Insights to help you recognize toxic patterns and find clarity
✝️ Biblical wisdom on God’s timing and justice
💡 Be inspired to walk in freedom and spiritual strength

6 Narcissistic Behaviors That Look Normal — But Are Spiritually Dangerous

You’ve forgiven, kept the peace, and even blamed yourself… but what if the narcissist in your life isn’t just emotionally immature — what if they’re being used by the enemy to wear you down spiritually?

In this episode, we’re exposing 6 spiritually dangerous behaviors that may look normal — even loving — but are actually meant to confuse, control, and keep you stuck in guilt.

🛑 These are not just emotional issues. They’re demonic traps in disguise.

We’ll cover:

Religious Manipulation — When Scripture is twisted to guilt and control you
Emotional Divination — Why walking on eggshells is a spiritual red flag
Emotional Manipulation — How control hides behind “love” and sacrifice
Triangulation — When they stir up conflict and keep you stuck in confusion
Word Curses — The spiritual weight of identity-shaping lies
Silent Treatment / Withholding — The toxic power of punishment disguised as peace

⚔️ Plus: Learn how to break free using biblical truth and spiritual authority.

👉 If you’ve been suffering under this abuse, watch this next:
What God Will Do to the Narcissist When He’s Had Enough
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEcJlNR3N4Y

🎁 Grab your Free Narcissist Survival Guide:
https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

The One Thing That Makes a Narcissist Instantly Lose Control Over You

They seemed calm… even charming — until you did this one thing.
Suddenly, the mask slipped. The manipulation lost its grip.
Why? Because you stopped playing their game.

In this episode, we’re uncovering the one simple but spiritually powerful shift that makes a narcissist instantly lose control over you. It’s not yelling. It’s not ghosting. It’s a quiet refusal to engage in their tactics — and it breaks their emotional and spiritual hold.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

• The emotional “strings” narcissists use to control you
• Why over-explaining, defending, and reacting gives them power
• How to stop feeding the cycle with emotional regulation
• What real, unapologetic boundaries look like — and why they work
• Letting go of false hope and walking in truth
• How anchoring your identity in Christ dismantles their influence

This isn’t just about behavior change — it’s about spiritual warfare.
And when you take back your peace, your clarity, and your God-given authority… their power breaks instantly.

📖 Proverbs 10:19 | Proverbs 29:11 | Ephesians 5:11 | Galatians 1:10

👉 Watch the full episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVD1IWLaRTg
👉 Get the FREE Narcissist Survival Guide: https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

82% of Christians Fall Into This Demonic Trap With Toxic People

Ever stayed quiet to “keep the peace”?
Forgiven without real repentance?
Stayed in a toxic relationship thinking it was “Christlike”?

👉 You could be caught in a spiritual trap, one that feels godly but keeps you bound.

5 Common Spiritual Traps:

1️⃣ Confusing Restoration with Reconciliation

Jesus restored Peter after repentance (John 21:15–17).
Forgiveness is required — reconciliation is not.
📖 Luke 17:3
👉 Don’t confuse release with return.

2️⃣ Mistaking Passivity for Patience

Saying “I’m waiting on God” can actually be fear in disguise.
Jesus confronted sin and set boundaries.
📖 Ephesians 4:15
👉 Patience waits in truth. Passivity avoids in fear.

3️⃣ People-Pleasing Disguised as Humility

Wanting to “seem Christlike” may actually be approval addiction.
📖 Galatians 1:10
👉 Real humility is faithful, not fearful of rejection.

4️⃣ Trying to Be Someone’s Savior

Helping can turn into rescuing — and drag you down.
📖 Mark 6:11
👉 You’re not the Holy Spirit. Only Jesus saves.

5️⃣ Letting Guilt Override Discernment

Guilt says “stay” when God says “go.”
📖 Proverbs 3:21
👉 Let the Spirit, not guilt, guide your decisions.

🎯 Next Step:
Watch: The 1 Behavior That Makes You Impossible to Manipulate
👉 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CyK6OuYw6eo

🎁 Free Guide:
Narcissist Survival Guide — https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

🎁 Don’t forget to download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide here:
https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

👉 Don’t miss this episode: 4 Undeniable Signs Narcissists are Influenced by Demons https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IUQcvrR0XXY

You’re not imagining it. The exhaustion. The weight gain. The brain fog. When you're in a toxic or narcissistic relationship, the emotional strain doesn’t just affect your mind—it shows up in your body. 😔💥

In this powerful episode, Kris breaks down 6 surprising physical symptoms that often appear when you're under chronic emotional stress — and how your body might be trying to warn you. From sleep struggles and gut issues to inflammation and frequent illness, you’ll learn how to discern the difference between “just stress” and something deeper.

🧠💔 This is more than a health issue. It’s a spiritual battle. And healing starts when you begin listening to the body God gave you — and anchor yourself in His truth.

💡 In this episode:
• Why brain fog, breakouts, and bloating could be signs of emotional overload
• How toxic people affect your hormones, sleep, and immune system
• What the Bible says about crushed spirits and physical health
• First steps to reclaim your peace — and protect your health

📖 "A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." — Proverbs 17:22

🎁 Don’t forget to download your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide here:
https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

👉 And if you’ve ever wondered what God does when narcissists go too far… don’t miss this episode:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEcJlNR3N4Y

You’re not just dealing with a difficult person... you’re facing a weaponized tool in a spiritual war. ⚔️

Every lie. Every manipulation. Every accusation.
It’s not random — and it’s not harmless.

In this episode, Kris exposes how narcissists, through pride, rebellion, and deception, become vessels of demonic influence — spiritual assassins sent to destroy peace, relationships, and purpose. This isn’t just psychology — this is spiritual warfare, and it’s time to see it for what it is.

🚨 Here’s what you’ll learn:

How narcissists become open doors to demonic influence
5 spiritual tactics they use to cause destruction
Biblical truths behind their behavior
How to guard your heart, protect your spirit, and reclaim your peace

👁️ You’ll walk away with clarity, spiritual discernment, and the tools to stop fighting the wrong battle — and start standing in victory through Christ.

🛡️ You’re not fighting a personality. You’re facing powers — and God has already equipped you to overcome.

🎁 Grab your FREE Narcissist Survival Guide
Packed with tools to help you stay spiritually grounded and emotionally protected:
👉 https://krisreece.com/narcissist-survival-guide/

▶️ Watch next: What God Always Does to the Narcissist
👉 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tEcJlNR3N4Y

Never Call Out a Narcissist… Unless You’re Prepared for This

You finally gather the courage to confront the narcissist, hoping for change or at least clarity. Instead? You’re met with an emotional explosion, word-twisting, and endless blame-shifting—leaving you questioning if you’re the problem.

You’re not crazy, and you’re not alone. This episode unpacks why calling out a narcissist almost always backfires and how to protect yourself emotionally, spiritually, and even legally if you do.

👉 We’ll explore:

The explosive narcissistic rage and how even a gentle confrontation can turn into a battlefield
The shame boomerang—how your words get twisted, leaving you feeling like the villain
The pre-decided verdict—why you’re always guilty in their eyes, no matter how calmly you speak
The image management mode—how narcissists flip the script and rebrand themselves as the wounded hero

Throughout, you’ll discover scriptural insights and practical wisdom for dealing with this spiritual and emotional warfare.

🎭 Key Scriptures:

Proverbs 15:1 — “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Romans 12:18 — “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Proverbs 17:15 — “Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent—both are detestable to the Lord.”
Proverbs 26:4 — “Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him.”
Isaiah 5:20 — “Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness…”

🔚 The Hard Truth
Real relationship requires honesty, humility, and mutuality—things a narcissist can’t offer. If you’re not prepared for the backlash, confronting them might cost you more than it’s worth.

👉 Next Steps:
🎥 Watch the next episode: 5 spiritual clues to help you discern if you’re dealing with a narcissist who’s using faith as a mask. Watch it here.📥 Grab your FREE 📥 💌Narcissist Survival Guide—packed with tools to help you stay grounded, clear, and spiritually protected. Get it here.

🎧 Tune in, and let’s walk through this together.

Have you ever wondered what happens when a narcissist targets a Christian?

You’ve likely been hurt, manipulated, and maybe even discarded, and now you're left wondering, "Are they just going to get away with it?

That's why in this episode, I'm going to walk you through the 3 phases that every narcissist goes through when they have the audacity to attack one of God's children....What God is going to do to intervene AND what you can do to ensure that His justice is served in a timely manner.

I assure you, they will not be able to handle what comes next....

❤️ Watch this episode next to find out What God Will Do After a Narcissistic Relationship.

📘 FREE Narcissist Survival Guide—your toolbox for discernment, boundaries, and healing. Get it here.

🎙️ This 5-Second Test Exposes the Christian Covert Narcissist (Especially Women)

Spotting a narcissist isn’t always easy.
Spotting a covert narcissist? Even harder.
Spotting a Christian female narcissist? That’s spiritual warfare in disguise.

She may be soft-spoken, prayerful, and sweet—but beneath the surface is manipulation, confusion, and emotional control.

In this episode, Kris Reece reveals how to identify her fast—without guilt, shame, or second-guessing yourself.

🔎 Here are 9 traits to watch for:

Performed Humility – She brags about being broken but always ends up on top.
Weaponized Victimhood – She controls through quiet sorrow and plays the victim.
Emotional Manipulation – She guilt-trips and passive-aggresses her way into power.
Image-Conscious Christianity – Holy in public, hurtful in private.
Emotional Triangulation – She doesn’t confront—you hear about it through others.
Covert Competition – Envy disguised as spiritual discernment.
Punishment by Silence – Emotional control through quiet withdrawal.
Spiritual Superiority – Uses “God told me…” to dominate spiritually.
Holy Gaslighting – Twists your boundaries, discernment, and memories.

🎯 Want to learn the 3 signs God is trying to remove someone from your life?
Watch next: Click here

📘 FREE Narcissist Survival Guide—your toolbox for discernment, boundaries, and healing. Get it here.

When a narcissist loses control over you, they don’t walk away—they escalate. Their goal has never been love, it’s always been control. Here are 3 common tactics they use and how to protect yourself:

1️⃣ They Play the Victim
They twist the story to make you feel guilty, using emotional manipulation and even extreme claims to pull you back in. (Proverbs 26:24–26)
Protect yourself: Hold your boundaries. Don’t fall for guilt trips or over-explain.

2️⃣ They Smear Your Name
Through lies and twisted stories, they try to isolate you by turning others against you.
Protect yourself: Let silence and your actions speak louder than gossip.

3️⃣ They Try to Provoke You
They push your buttons to trigger a reaction they can then weaponize. (Proverbs 26:4)
Protect yourself: Don’t engage. Stay calm and emotionally grounded.

These tactics are only part of the narcissist’s playbook. The best defense? Stand firm in your truth and boundaries.

🔥 Next Steps:
📺 Watch This: If Jesus Handled Narcissists Like This – So Should You
📖 Download Your Free Narcissist Survival Guide: Get It Here

You set boundaries hoping for peace… but instead, it got messy 😬. Ever been there? In this episode, we’re getting real about the unexpected resistance that comes when you start honoring your limits 🚫. Boundaries are biblical ✝️—but that doesn’t mean they’re always easy.

Here are 5 hard truths to expect when you start walking in this kind of growth:

You're going to feel guilty even when you're doing the right thing 😔
You will be misunderstood (even by other Christians) 🙃
People won't applaud you (they'll resent you) 👏❌
They'll claim you changed (and not for the better) 🔄😒
Boundaries may cost you relationships (but they'll save your sanity) 💔🧠

If you’ve been questioning your decision to set boundaries—or feeling isolated because of it—this conversation is for you 💬. Let’s walk through it together, with grace, truth, and spiritual clarity ✨.

👉 For your FREE narcissist guide, click HERE.

🎙 3 Desperate Tactics Narcissists Use When You Stop Playing Their Game

When a narcissist realizes they no longer have control over you, they panic—not out of love, but out of a deep need for power. Like a gambler who suddenly starts losing, they escalate and become desperate. In this episode, we’ll uncover 3 common tactics narcissists use when they lose control—and how you can protect yourself.

🔹 1. They Play the Victim
They twist the narrative to make you feel guilty. Expect phrases like “You’ve changed” or “After all I did for you…”—even threats or extreme claims to manipulate your emotions.

🔹 2. They Smear Your Name
Narcissists launch smear campaigns to damage your reputation, isolate you, and pressure you into returning to the relationship.

🔹 3. They Try to Provoke You
They push your buttons to get a reaction, then use that reaction against you. This is a trap—don’t fall for it.

📖 Proverbs 26:24-26 & 26:4 remind us to be wise to deception and avoid engaging with manipulative fools.

💡 Protect yourself: Stick to your boundaries, resist the guilt trips, and let your actions speak for themselves.

🔥 Next Steps:
📺 Watch Next: If Jesus Handled Narcissists Like This – So Should You
📖 Download: Your Free Narcissist Survival Guide

Is God Removing Toxic People from Your Life? 5 Signs to Watch For

Are you questioning whether God is removing someone toxic from your life? This episode breaks down the spiritual and emotional signs to watch for and offers biblical encouragement for moving forward.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

🔍 The #1 sign God is revealing someone’s true character
⚠️ How to recognize patterns of manipulation and emotional control
🚩 Why their behavior may suddenly escalate
🔓 What it means when God removes your “rose-colored glasses”
📖 The biblical example of Saul and David’s unraveling relationship

What to do next:

✋ Stop justifying toxic behavior
🙏 Pray for clarity and confirmation
🛑 Prepare emotionally and spiritually for separation
💔 Understand that letting go can be an act of divine protection

Biblical Insight:

“For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest…” — Luke 8:17

🔥 Next Steps:
📺 Watch This: Powerful Prayers That Stop the Narcissist Dead in Their Tracks
📖 Download Your Free Narcissist Survival Guide: Get It Here

🎙 Podcast Title: 3 Mistakes That Keep You Emotionally Drained

In this episode, we’re unpacking three powerful mistakes that can quietly drain your emotional, spiritual, and mental health—especially in relationships where you’re doing all the work.

🔹 Mistake 1: Emotional Over-Functioning
It’s like paddling a two-person canoe alone. You’re rowing hard, exhausted—and doing the work of staying connected for both of you. It might feel selfless, but it becomes a slow burn.
💡 God never called you to carry someone else’s emotional responsibility. Even Jesus let people walk away.

🔹 Mistake 2: Mistaking Compliance for Connection
Survival mode is not connection. And it’s definitely not the kind of peace Christ offers. Over time, this behavior convinces you that your silence is what’s holding the relationship together.
💡 But peace that requires your silence isn't peace at all—it's fear wearing a mask.

🔹 Mistake 3: Believing That Your Love Will Heal Them
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23)
Knowing the difference between love and peacekeeping is essential.
💡 You are not their savior, redeemer, or fixer. Protecting your emotional, mental, and spiritual health is not selfish—it’s wise stewardship.

✨ This episode will help you identify the hidden patterns that keep you stuck and give you permission to choose peace, clarity, and wholeness.

🙌 Want to know how to handle narcissists the way Jesus did?
🔥 Next Steps:
📖 Download Your Free Narcissist Survival Guide: Get It Here

This One Behavior Makes You Impossible to Manipulate

Imagine walking through a pitch-black room, filled with hidden traps. You’re stumbling, unsure of your next step. But then—someone flips on the light. Suddenly, you see everything clearly. The confusion ends. The danger loses its grip.

Manipulators thrive in darkness—confusion, doubt, and emotional chaos are their playground. But when you develop discernment, it’s like flipping on that light. You begin to see people’s true motives, not just with your eyes, but with spiritual clarity.

What Is Discernment?

Discernment isn’t just a gut feeling—it’s clarity. It’s the ability to see beyond appearances and recognize what’s really going on beneath the surface. Biblically, it's a gift from God (Hebrews 5:14) that helps you separate truth from lies, care from control.

Discernment allows you to:

Recognize manipulation, even when it’s subtle.
Trust what God reveals over what someone says.
Understand motives, not just messages.

Think of it as a spiritual lie detector—one that exposes deception before it takes hold.

Why Manipulators Lose Power When You Have Discernment

They Can’t Confuse You Anymore
You stop second-guessing yourself and clearly see through:
- Gaslighting
- Guilt trips
- Half-truths
They Lose Control Over Your Emotions
Discernment helps you respond with wisdom, not reactivity. Without access to your emotions, manipulators lose their grip.
They Get Exposed
Manipulators hide in confusion—but clarity shines a light they can’t escape.

The Catch: Discernment Requires Emotional Stability

Discernment is powerful, but without emotional stability, it won’t protect you. Emotional instability makes you vulnerable—even when you see the truth. For example:

Craving love can blind you to toxic patterns.
Loyalty to “family at all costs” can keep you in dysfunction.
Fear of conflict can make you over-apologize and backtrack.

Build Emotional Resilience in 3 Steps

Detach from the Need for Approval
Let go of needing to be liked—it's your greatest defense.
Stop Explaining Yourself
Manipulators don’t need more info—they want control. Silence disarms them.
Master the Power of the Pause
Don’t react. Pause. Breathe. Respond in strength, not fear.

When you combine discernment with emotional stability, manipulation loses its power. In the next episode, we’ll explore what to do when manipulators escalate—even after you’ve reclaimed your clarity and peace.

🔥 Next Steps:
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A Demonic Attitude is Not Just a Bad Mood

Not all bad attitudes are just personality flaws—some are deeply rooted in deception, control, and manipulation. In this episode, we uncover four demonic traits often seen in narcissistic behavior:

1️⃣ Deception & Manipulation (John 8:44) – Twisting reality to control and confuse.

2️⃣ Control & Domination (2 Corinthians 11:14-15) – Using emotional blackmail and fear to gain power.

3️⃣ Blame-Shifting & Accusation (Revelation 12:10) – Never taking responsibility and making you feel guilty.

4️⃣ Hypocrisy & False Righteousness (Matthew 23:27-28) – Hiding behind a facade of goodness while living in contradiction.

These behaviors are designed to weaken and control, but God exposes deception so we can step into truth. Once you see the truth, you can never unsee it.

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Have you been pleading with God to change that toxic person in your life, only to feel more frustrated and stuck? What if the real transformation God is working on is within you? In this episode, we’ll dive into:

Why relationships are the enemy’s favorite battlefield
What God may be refining in you through the struggle
The power of forgiveness, patience, humility, and trust
How Joseph’s story offers a blueprint for breakthrough

This isn’t punishment — it’s preparation. If you’re ready to stop feeling powerless and start walking in God’s purpose, this could change everything.

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Do you ever feel like you're constantly trying to keep others happy, even at your own expense? People-pleasing may seem like kindness, but when it comes from a place of fear or obligation, it can become a tool for manipulation — especially for narcissists. They sense when they can control you by making you feel responsible for their happiness.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the signs of people-pleasing and how to reclaim your power:

You feel overwhelming guilt when saying no.
You change your opinions to avoid conflict.
You take on problems that aren’t yours to fix.
You apologize even when it’s not your fault.
You fear disappointing others, even at your own expense.

If any of these resonate with you, know that you’re not alone — and you don’t have to stay stuck in this pattern. It’s possible to be a kind, caring person without being controlled. We’ll cover three powerful shifts to help you break free:

Shift your mindset: Stop seeing people-pleasing as a virtue.
Stop apologizing for things that aren’t your fault.
Set boundaries and stand firm.

Setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, and guilt may creep in. But remember — guilt is not from God. You have the right to protect your peace.

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Why does breaking a trauma bond feel so painful? You’d think that freedom would feel… free. That you’d walk away from the narcissist and instantly feel lighter, happier, and at peace. But instead, you’re feeling lost, confused, maybe even grieving a relationship that you know was toxic.
The truth? This pain doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means God is working. He’s not just setting you free; He’s breaking the chains that kept you bound in the first place.
In today’s podcast, we’re uncovering 3 undeniable signs that God is breaking the trauma bond—even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. We’ll also talk about what true freedom from a narcissist actually looks like, so you can stop second-guessing yourself and getting sucked back into a never ending toxic cycle.

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8 Demonic Ways Narcissists Mess with Your Mind

Ever feel like something is off in your relationship—like a hidden danger lurking beneath the surface? Narcissists use subtle yet devastating tactics to manipulate and control, leaving you disoriented and trapped.

🔥 Gaslighting: Making you doubt your reality.
🎭 Emotional Manipulation: Using guilt and fear to control you.
🚪 Isolation: Cutting you off from support systems.
🔄 Mixed Messages: Keeping you confused and dependent.
⚠️ False Accusations: Shifting blame onto you.
💔 Love-Bombing & Devaluation: Creating an emotional rollercoaster.
🚫 No Accountability: Dodging responsibility at all costs.
😨 Fear & Intimidation: Keeping you walking on eggshells.

A Spiritual Battle for Your Mind

Narcissists target your mind because the enemy knows that everything begins there. If they can create confusion, self-doubt, and spiritual disconnection, they’ve succeeded in controlling you.

But here’s the good news: You don’t have to stay stuck. Recognize these tactics for what they are—tools of the enemy—and arm yourself with the truth of God’s Word.

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If the Devil Can’t Get to You, He’ll Send a Narcissist—6 Tactics He Uses to Destroy You

Why This Battle Feels Different

You’ve locked every door, secured every window, and set every alarm—but what do you do when Judas is already inside the house?
This isn’t just a difficult relationship; it’s a spiritual attack.
The enemy knows your weak points, and when he can’t reach you directly, he’ll send someone who already has the keys—a narcissist.
The tactics they use aren’t just harmful; they’re designed to steal, kill, and destroy.

6 Demonic Tactics the Enemy Uses Through the Narcissist

🔥 Confusion and Doubt

Gaslighting, twisting truth, and making you second-guess yourself.
You over-explain, over-apologize, and start believing if you “fix” yourself, things will get better.
Truth: God is not a God of confusion but of peace (1 Corinthians 14:33).

💔 Emotional Wounds

They trigger past betrayals, insecurities, and pain, keeping you focused on hurt rather than healing.
Truth: God heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3).

🌿 Bitterness and Resentment

They hurt you repeatedly, making unforgiveness feel justified.
But bitterness doesn’t trap them—it traps you.
Truth: Let go of all bitterness and forgive as Christ forgave you (Ephesians 4:31-32).

⚔️ Spiritual Confusion

They plant doubts: If God is for you, why are you still stuck here?
They twist scripture and use faith to manipulate.
Truth: Ask God for wisdom, and He will give it generously (James 1:5).

🚪 Isolation

They cut you off from friends, family, and support systems.
They smear your reputation, making it hard for others to believe your reality.
Truth: God will strengthen and uphold you (Isaiah 41:10).

🎯 Distraction from Purpose

They keep you entangled in chaos, draining your energy and burying your God-given gifts.
Truth: The enemy comes to steal, kill, and destroy—but Jesus came to give life abundantly (John 10:10).

How to Break Free

✅ Pray – This is your greatest weapon. Ask God for strength, discernment, and protection. Exodus 14:14: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”
✅ Set Boundaries – Protect your heart, mind, and spirit from their influence.
✅ Trust God’s Justice – Let go of revenge and control. God sees everything and will act in His perfect timing.

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The "Nice" Narcissist: How They Fool You

Why They’re So Hard to Spot

They appear charming, polite, and agreeable—making them seem like the last person who could be toxic.
Their public persona is drastically different from who they are behind closed doors.
They make you feel safe, lighthearted, and cared for—until they don’t.
The truth? Nice doesn’t mean good—it doesn’t mean they’re godly, loyal, or trustworthy.

The Deceptive Traits of the “Nice” Narcissist

Selective Helpfulness
- Their help seems genuine at first but later feels conditional—designed to keep you dependent.
- Instead of empowering you, their “help” leaves you feeling emotionally drained and indebted.
- They use kindness strategically—to be seen as the “good one” while keeping you reliant on them.
Performative Empathy
- They know how to act empathetic—using the right words and body language to seem caring.
- Their empathy is a performance, not genuine. They mimic emotions like an actor memorizing lines.
- This creates a trauma bond—you keep waiting for the “real” them to show up, but they never do.
Strategic Support
- They encourage you only when it serves their agenda.
- Once your growth threatens their control, their support fades—or turns into subtle sabotage.
- They make passive-aggressive comments like:
  - “Don’t forget who helped you get here.”
  - “Must be nice to have time for that while I’m doing everything else.”
- Their support was never about you—it was about maintaining power and control.
Shallow Connection
- They make you feel seen and understood at first, but their connection is always transactional.
- They mirror your emotions and interests to create an illusion of intimacy.
- But when you try to deepen the connection, they withdraw, deflect, or change the subject.
- This keeps you chasing a connection they’re incapable of giving.

Why It’s So Hard to Walk Away

The “nice” narcissist genuinely believes they are a loving, caring person.
Their charm disarms you, their kindness hooks you, and their support keeps you reliant.
They manipulate not with overt cruelty, but with subtle control.

How to Break Free

✅ Trust your discernment—If their kindness leaves you feeling confused or trapped, it’s a red flag.
✅ Set boundaries—Protect your emotional and mental space.
✅ Seek godly counsel—Turn to Scripture and trusted advisors for wisdom.
✅ Invest in transformational relationships—Choose people who show up consistently and genuinely.

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Have you ever felt like you're the only adult in your relationship? No matter how much love or patience you pour in, they just don’t seem capable of handling life maturely.

Maybe you’ve asked yourself:
👉 Why do they act this way?
👉 Is this narcissism? Or something else?

Emotional immaturity can look a lot like narcissism, leaving you confused and questioning what you're really dealing with. But here’s the good news—God is revealing their immaturity to help you respond wisely, without losing your peace, faith, or even the relationship.

Emotional Immaturity: A Child in an Adult’s Body

Dealing with an emotionally immature person is like reasoning with a child who hasn’t learned how to handle life’s challenges. They react impulsively—lashing out, shutting down, or blaming others—because they lack the tools to process emotions healthily.

While narcissists manipulate intentionally, emotionally immature people often aren’t trying to hurt you—they're just stuck in survival mode. And that distinction makes all the difference in how you should respond.

8 Signs of Emotional Immaturity

1. Blaming Others

They treat responsibility like a hot potato—constantly passing it off to someone else. Instead of owning mistakes, they say things like:
🗣 “If you hadn’t nagged me, I wouldn’t have forgotten.”

📖 Galatians 6:5 — “For each one should carry their own load.”

✅ How to Respond: Hold them accountable without taking the blame.

2. Emotional Rollercoasters

Their mood swings are exhausting—small issues turn into major crises, leaving you bracing for the next high or low.

📖 Proverbs 29:11 — "A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back."

✅ How to Respond: Stay grounded. Don’t absorb their emotions as your own.

3. Defensiveness

Every conversation feels like walking through a minefield. Even gentle feedback triggers excuses, counterattacks, or denial.

📖 Proverbs 10:17 — "Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life, but he who rejects reproof leads others astray."

✅ How to Respond: Keep discussions solution-focused, not blame-focused.

4. Victim Mentality

They see themselves as the perpetual victim, blaming others instead of taking responsibility.

📖 Matthew 7:3 — "Why do you see the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye?"

✅ How to Respond: Don’t get pulled into their narrative. Encourage self-reflection.

5. Silent Treatment (Stonewalling)

They shut down or withdraw when conflict arises, leaving issues unresolved.

✅ How to Respond: Don’t chase them. Address the issue when they’re ready to talk.

6. Impulsivity

Their emotions drive their decisions, often leading to reckless actions or regret.

📖 Proverbs 13:16 — "The prudent act with knowledge, but fools expose their folly."

✅ How to Respond: Encourage thoughtful decision-making with gentle questions.

7. Selfishness

The relationship revolves around their needs, leaving little room for mutual care.

📖 Philippians 2:3-4 — "Do nothing from selfish ambition… but in humility count others more significant than yourselves."

✅ How to Respond: Set boundaries that balance give and take.

8. Manipulation

They use guilt trips or victim-pla

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Have you ever wondered what happens when a narcissist targets a Christian? You’ve likely been hurt, manipulated, and maybe even discarded, and now you're left wondering, "Are they just going to get away with it?" My friend, stick with me, because in this post, I'm going to walk you through the three phases that every narcissist goes through when they have the audacity to attack one of God's children. We’ll cover what God is going to do to intervene and what YOU can do to ensure His justice is served in a timely manner. I assure you, they will not be able to handle what comes next….

There are three phases you can count on every time when dealing with a narcissist. These phases aren’t just predictable—they’re inevitable. But just as sure as the narcissist’s destruction comes, so does God’s intervention, and ultimately, His justice.

Narcissists are master manipulators and deceivers, agents of chaos who thrive on sowing confusion and destruction. It’s no surprise that their main targets are often Christians. Why? Because the loving, compassionate, and forgiving nature of a Christian makes it easy for a narcissist to exploit. But it goes deeper than that—they are being used by Satan to distract, derail, and discourage you from stepping into the fullness of what God has for your life.

So, stop being surprised that you’re a target. But don’t be afraid, because your weapons are far greater than theirs—if you know how to use them. We’ll get to that soon.

Phase 1: Narcissistic Destruction

First, understand that the narcissist's plan always follows the same pattern. Phase one? They zero in on their target. Whether their goal is your destruction or simply their personal gain, the strategy is identical—they present themselves as everything you’ve ever wanted. The ideal parent, the perfect partner—the answer to your prayers.

This is all designed to weaken your defenses, and it works. You let your guard down, you let them in. Sure, you see red flags, but you convince yourself it’s just a mistake or something you can work through together. And they’ll certainly give you that impression.

But soon enough, the mask begins to slip. They can’t keep up the façade and inconsistencies start to show. You start questioning their behaviors, their motives, and that’s when things shift. Suddenly, you’re either hit with an overwhelming dose of love-bombing, or they play the victim. Both tactics are meant to cloud your vision—to distract you from the real issues.

And isn’t that exactly how Satan operates? Everything is a carefully crafted illusion—beautiful at first, but dark and destructive beneath the surface. By the time you see the truth, you’re entangled in the web of confusion, manipulation, gaslighting, and invalidation.

Here is where you begin questioning your own sanity, doubting your worth. You start feeling guilty for how you reacted to their emotional abuse, ashamed of behaviors you’re not proud of, and left wondering if you’re the problem.

It’s like being caught in a tornado—everything seems calm at first, but once you’re in the center of the storm, the destruction becomes clear. Narcissists twist your mind, emotions, and sense of self-worth, leaving a path of destruction that is both internal and external.

But remember, the narcissist cannot maintain their illusion forever. Eventually, the storm takes its toll. Their love-bombing fades, the manipulation intensifies, and the gaslighting becomes unbearable. You’re left feeling trapped, confused, and powerless. They don’t just want to break your heart—they want to break your spirit.

Phase 2: God’s Intervention

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Have you ever caught yourself wondering, "I think they’re toxic... but maybe not?" You know you don’t always like how you feel around them. Maybe some of their actions have been downright hurtful, but you’re still unsure if they truly qualify as “toxic.”

These days, the word toxic gets thrown around almost as much as narcissist. It’s tempting to slap a label on someone whose behavior feels off, but before you jump to conclusions, let’s dig a little deeper.

In this post, we’ll uncover the unmistakable signs of a truly toxic person, explore whether their behaviors stem from toxicity or struggles, and examine traits that mimic toxicity but come from entirely different roots.

Let’s Start with an Analogy: Relationships Are Like Shoes

Think of relationships like shoes.

Some shoes are a perfect fit—they support and comfort you, allowing you to walk confidently no matter where life takes you. Then, there are shoes that just don’t fit—no matter how much you try to break them in. They pinch, rub, and leave blisters.

It’s easy to label these shoes as “bad,” but are they really? Or are they just the wrong fit for your foot—or maybe even the wrong shoe for the occasion?

Some shoes are your go-to favorites—you reach for them instinctively because they always deliver. Others sit in the back of your closet, gathering dust. You like them in theory, but every time you try them on, you’re reminded why you never wear them. And then, there are the shoes so painful, you wouldn’t wish them on anyone.

Relationships are much the same. Some people “fit” your life perfectly. Others might be a mismatch—okay in certain contexts but not for the long haul. And then, there are the truly toxic relationships that cause harm no matter how you look at them.

So, how do we know the difference?

Universally Toxic Traits We Can All Agree On

There are just some traits everyone can agree are toxic—like a pair of shoes that might look pretty but leave you limping after a short time.

If someone exhibits the following behaviors, it’s not subjective; they’re harmful to everyone:

Verbal abuse
Manipulation
Chronic lying
Secrecy
Selfishness
Chronic negativity
Dismissiveness
Vindictiveness
Disrespect
Explosive anger
Exploitative behaviors

Even the Bible, in 1 Timothy 3, tells us to avoid people with such traits. These behaviors infect relationships, creating destruction and pain.

Why Do We Stay in Toxic Relationships?

If these traits are so clearly harmful, why do so many of us stay? Why don’t we run?

The answer might be more complicated than it seems.

Sometimes, we see something else within these individuals that makes us question our perception. Or, we might mistake certain behaviors as toxic when they’re actually coming from unresolved pain or struggles rather than an inherently toxic nature.

What’s Really Going On Beneath the Surface?

Before we label someone as toxic, we have to ask: What’s going on beneath the surface? Theirs—and yours.

Everyone comes into relationships with “defaults”—cultural norms, personality traits, past experiences, and wounds. For example, assertiveness might feel like confidence to one person but aggression to someone who’s been bullied. Sarcasm might feel playful to some but cutting to others.

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Have you ever found yourself crying out to God, asking, “Why are You letting this person get away with everything they’ve done to me?” If so, you’re not alone. It’s one of the hardest questions to wrestle with, especially when the pain feels so overwhelming.

But here’s the good news: God sees everything, and He is a God of justice. In this post, we’re diving into practical and powerful ways to pray both for and against the narcissist in your life. Yes, that’s biblical—and we’ll explore why. By the end, you’ll feel equipped to approach God with prayers that align with His will, releasing the weight of your hurt and trusting Him to move on your behalf.

Life with a Narcissist Feels Like Chaos

Whether the narcissist in your life is a spouse, parent, friend, or colleague, one thing is certain: life with them is an unstable, emotional rollercoaster. Their lies, manipulation, and betrayal can leave you furious, broken, and unsure how to pray.

But take heart—God’s Word provides both clarity and direction. Romans 12:19 says, “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.’” This promise reminds us that God will handle justice in His perfect way and timing.

Praying for Justice: Trusting God’s Reckoning

Imagine standing by the ocean, looking out over calm waters. On the surface, everything seems peaceful, but beneath, a strong current tugs at you. That’s what dealing with a narcissist feels like—their manipulation pulls you into confusion and frustration. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to fight this current alone.

One powerful prayer is to ask for God’s reckoning. This means asking Him to expose lies, reveal hidden motives, and bring consequences in His way. It’s not about revenge but about trusting God to bring light into the darkness.

Psalm 28:3-4 says:
“Do not drag me off with the wicked, with the workers of evil, who speak peace with their neighbors while evil is in their hearts. Give to them according to their work and according to the evil of their deeds.”

This scripture reminds us that God sees deception and will repay accordingly. Similarly, Galatians 6:7-8 tells us, “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” The narcissist may appear to “get away with it” for now, but no one escapes God’s justice.

Praying for Reproof: Exposing Darkness

Imagine someone who walks unchecked, leaving chaos everywhere they go. Their harmful behavior seems to have no consequences. How do you respond? By praying for God’s reproof—a holy unveiling of their actions. This type of prayer asks God to shine a light so bright that their behavior can no longer stay hidden.

In 1 Corinthians 5:5, Paul commands the Corinthian church to hand a man over to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, “so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord.” This severe action wasn’t out of hatred but out of love—a way to bring the man to repentance. Similarly, when we pray for reproof, we’re asking God to expose harmful behaviors with the ultimate goal of restoration.

Praying for Recompense: Trusting God to Restore

Have you ever felt like the narcissist stole everything from you—your peace, confidence, time, or future? It’s easy to wonder if you’ll ever get back what’s been lost. But the Bible speaks of recompense, a divine repayment not just for what was taken but often in double measure.

Hebrews 10:30 says, “Vengeance is mine; I will repay,” says the Lord. And Joel 2:25 promises, “I will restore to you the years that the swarmin

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Is There a Darker Side Behind Narcissistic Behavior?

Have you ever wondered if there’s more to a narcissist’s behavior than just personality flaws? What if the manipulation, emotional chaos, and control tactics aren’t just psychological but something much darker? In this article, we’re going to explore four signs that a narcissist may actually be under the influence of demonic forces. By the end, you’ll have a clearer understanding of what might be driving their behavior—and more importantly, you’ll learn how to protect yourself.

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If you’ve spent any time around a narcissist, you’re probably all too familiar with the emotional, psychological, and even spiritual damage they can cause. Narcissists bring chaos wherever they go—yet somehow always make you feel like you’re to blame. And while you’re left picking up the pieces, they continue their pattern of self-centered destruction. But here’s the truth: treating narcissistic behavior without addressing the spiritual root is like trying to cut weeds without pulling out their roots—they always grow back stronger.

In many cases, the narcissistic behaviors you see on the surface are just symptoms, but there’s a hidden root system underground, where spiritual forces are at work. When you address only the visible signs, you’re left wondering why the toxic behavior keeps coming back. Let’s go deeper and uncover four clear signs that the narcissist’s behavior may be influenced by something beyond psychology.

1. Manipulation and Deception

Imagine sitting across from the narcissist, trying to have a simple conversation. At first, everything seems calm, but soon, the story begins to twist. They subtly twist your words, make you question your own memory, and before you know it, you’re apologizing for something they did. It feels like stepping into a maze—just when you think you’ve found a way out, they move the walls again with gaslighting, denial, or victim-playing.

This level of manipulation goes beyond basic dishonesty. It’s an elaborate smokescreen meant to keep you confused, disoriented, and trapped. Isaiah 14:12-15 describes Lucifer’s fall due to his pride and desire for control—qualities that narcissists exhibit as well. Their manipulation serves to draw you away from reality, just as Satan seeks to deceive and divide.

Consider also John 8:44, which describes Satan as the “father of lies.” Narcissists, too, are experts at manipulating truth, and this doesn’t come from mere personality; it may be a demonic strategy. Once a person gives in to constant manipulation, they may unknowingly open a door for spiritual influence. This is where deception takes root, leaving both the narcissist and those around them in a web of lies.

1 Timothy 4:1 warns us, "The Spirit clearly says that in later times some will abandon the faith and follow deceiving spirits and things taught by demons." If you notice a pattern of gaslighting, twisting the truth, or rewriting history, there may be something darker at work behind the scenes.

2. Spiritual Blindness and a Hardened Heart

Have you ever looked into the eyes of a narcissist during an argument and felt like you were talking to a wall? You explain, you present the facts, but there’s no understanding—just a blank stare or even cold indifference. It’s as if they’re blocked from seeing the truth.

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If you’ve been in or just left a relationship with a narcissist, you know how distressing and

destabilizing it can be.

Constantly questioning yourself, struggling to defend against their vicious, victim-like lies—it’s enough to make anyone furious.

The temptation to seek justice on your own terms is real. You want to call them out, tell them off, and dismantle every lie they’ve told. Anything to get revenge for the harm they’ve caused.

But HOLD ON.

What if I told you that there’s a way to achieve far greater justice than you ever could on your own—and that it would actually bring you peace?

Stay with me.

In this post, we’re going to talk about why taking revenge isn’t the answer—and what God wants you to do instead.

Trust me, their downfall is coming, and you’ll have a front-row seat to witness God’s justice.

I recently went through a narcissistic attack from someone who was spiteful, vindictive, and deceitful.

The lies, manipulation, and malice were worse than ever before. And for the first time, I was the direct target of their abuse.

I’ll admit, my flesh rose up. I wanted to tell them off, expose their lies, and undo the damage they caused.

But something in my spirit told me to hold on—to ask, What would God want me to do?

As I cried out to God for strength, I heard Him speak clearly to my heart: Put your armor on. Therein lies your strength.

It stopped me in my tracks.

In that moment, I pictured Jesus standing in front of me, shielding me from the enemy’s attacks. I saw this powerful shield protecting me from every dart the enemy threw, while the Lord held back the forces of darkness. It brought me to tears.

Then I was reminded of Ephesians 6:12: “For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.”

The Real Enemy Behind Narcissistic Abuse

Narcissists are often used as agents of the enemy, though they likely don’t even realize it. They’re sent to trigger and trip us up, causing us to react in the flesh.

Now, I’m not excusing their behavior—they are still responsible for their actions. But their willingness to hurt others makes them a tool for evil.

So, what do we do?

Should we just give up, roll over, and let them walk all over us?

Absolutely not.

We prepare for battle. This is spiritual warfare.

Spiritual warfare is the fight to believe God’s truth over the enemy’s lies.

When dealing with a narcissist, you’re battling deception.

The enemy attacks through lies, and one of his favorite portals is toxic people—those who come in like sheep but are really wolves.

They deceive you about who they are, implanting lies that become strongholds in your mind.

The Armor of God: Your Protection Against Narcissistic Manipulation

The Bible tells us to put on the full armor of God so we can stand firm against the enemy’s schemes (Ephesians 6:10-13). Each piece of armor was designed to protect us in battles like this.

The Belt of Truth – This exposes the lies of the narcissist. It grounds us in God’s truth, helping us see through their manipulations.
The Body Armor of Righteousness – This protects our hearts. When we live in righteousness, we guard ourselves from reacting out of hurt or manipulation.
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Have you ever wondered why toxic people always seem to find their way into your life, no matter how hard you try to avoid them? You set boundaries, keep your distance, and yet, somehow, you still attract narcissists and manipulators. Maybe you’ve even started questioning if it’s something about you that’s pulling these people in.

You're not alone. The truth is, there are certain traits that narcissists find irresistible—and chances are, you don’t even realize you have them.

In this episode, I’m going to break down what those traits are, why you specifically have been targeted by toxic people, and most importantly, what you can do to stop attracting them and start repelling them.

Finding yourself repeatedly in relationships with narcissists can feel like being stuck in an emotional maze. Just when you think you’ve found a way out, you somehow end up right back where you started. It’s exhausting, and it can leave you wondering, “Why does this keep happening to me?”

There are several reasons this pattern might repeat, and they often involve a mix of personal history, emotional dynamics, and the traits that narcissists find irresistible.

Let’s break down the first trait:

1. Past Trauma or Unresolved Childhood Issues

If you grew up in an environment where emotional manipulation, neglect, or narcissistic behavior was common—whether from a parent, caregiver, or family member—you might unknowingly seek out similar dynamics in adulthood.

These patterns can feel “normal” or even comfortable because they are what you’ve always known, even if they’re harmful.

When your early experiences involve emotionally unavailable or manipulative caregivers, it conditions you to tolerate these behaviors, creating a blind spot for red flags.
Narcissists can sense this tolerance and are naturally drawn to it because they know it makes it easier for them to enter your life and exert control. It’s like subconsciously choosing the same story over and over, thinking this time it might end differently, but the narrative stays the same.

So, if childhood trauma can condition you to overlook toxic behaviors, what about those traits that are inherently good?

2. Empathy and Compassion

Imagine this:

You’re the person everyone comes to with their problems because you have a big heart and always know the right thing to say.

You’re like the lifeboat in a storm, always ready to rescue others from their emotional struggles.

But what happens when the person in the storm doesn’t want to be saved—they just want to keep pulling you under?

That’s exactly what happens with narcissists.

They see your empathy as a resource they can drain.

They cling to you when they’re going under, again and again.

It’s like you’re a well, always willing to give, but they never stop to think about whether the well might run dry.

Your empathy might be a double-edged sword. Imagine you’re a sponge—able to absorb the feelings and needs of those around you.

While this makes you a nurturing, caring person, it also makes you a perfect match for a narcissist, who is like a leaky faucet.

They drip constant emotional needs and manipulation, and instead of addressing the root of their dysfunction, they expect you to soak it all up, leaving you drained.

But what happens when something even more desperate enters the mix?

3. Low Self-Esteem or Codependency

Imagine you’re trying to hold onto something fragile, like a glass vase.

You know it’s delicate, so you grip it tightly, afraid that if you let go even a little, it might shatter.

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Do you ever wish you had a device that could spot a narcissist before they wreak havoc in your life?

Kind of like a blue light revealing hidden stains ?

Well, what if I told you there is a quick and easy way to do just that – no, unfortunately, not with a radar detector but rather with a simple question that can expose a narcissist in less than 5 seconds.

In this edition, I’ll reveal the key question you need to ask, the exact reaction to watch for, and what steps to take once you spot it.

First, let's understand the motive of a narcissist – yes, even ones that call themselves 'Christians' – and why you've been such an easy target for them.

You see, you are likely a caring, empathetic, giving person who enjoys being of value in a relationship.

By contrast, narcissists are fragile, self-centered, egotistical, envious exploiters. Their focus is not on pleasing you or even growing the relationship; it's all about self-protection and self-preservation. If it doesn’t serve them, benefit them, or support them, they’re not interested.

Shift the Dynamic

Instead of focusing on what to say to get them to change, let's focus on what to say to reveal them. Ready?

We're going to talk about three scenarios that expose the narcissist every time – IF you know what to look for.

Scenario #1: When You Need to Set a Boundary

Narcissists can’t stand being told "No." They honestly believe they are entitled to unrestricted access and control over you. If you’ve given it to them before, that’s just more justification for their entitlement. Boundaries threaten their sense of superiority and need for admiration. It's like telling a child "No"; they can't see beyond their self-centered, immature view of the world that just wants what they want when they want it.

But there is one key difference between a narcissist and a child, and it's a scary one. Unlike a child, a narcissist knows how they come across, they know what is socially acceptable and unacceptable. That's why they have to find manipulative ways to get their needs met. If you have ever met a charming or conniving narcissist, you know how easy it is to be fooled by their façade.

Next time you need to set limits, avoid overexplaining, avoid justifying, and simply say, "I can't agree to that" or "I'm not okay with that." A healthy person will respond with something like, "Oh, OK. No problem." and move on. But a narcissist will continue to press and pry with manipulative questions designed to guilt you into giving them what they want.

Here’s the key: no matter what question they ask or what statement they make, simply hold your ground with the same response. When they continue to press, ask this question: "It seems that you're only focused on your needs and not mine. Is that intentional?"

Count backward from five in your head, say nothing, and watch their reaction. Don’t defend yourself, don’t formulate what you're going to say next; just be still. A narcissist will respond with any one (or all) of the following:

Rage: "How dare you accuse me! You’re the selfish one. I was just asking..."
Victimhood: "This is the thanks I get for trying to work with you. I don’t know what I did to deserve such abusive treatment."
Insistence: They might initially agree but then come back later trying to find a "solution" for you to give them what they want.

What’s missing is genuine care and regard for how you feel. The only concern is their image and your perception of them.

Scenario #2: When You Challenge Their Lie

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Ever wonder where God is when you're up against a narcissist's nasty, toxic behavior?

Whether your battle has been going on for 10 weeks or 10 years, narcissists always wreak havoc in the lives of their victims. What’s worse is that they seem to get away with everything:

No punishments
No consequences
No justice
Not even so much as a slap on the wrist

This can leave you wondering if they will ever be held accountable for their actions.

Five Things God Always Does to a Narcissist

That’s why in today’s episode, we’re going to dive into the five things God ALWAYS does to a narcissist. Once these five truths are revealed, you will never again doubt God's righteous justice.

So before you start thinking they might get away with what they've done to you, stick with me. Not only will I show you how God ensures justice is served, but I'll also provide you with one practical step to restore your faith and see that justice is done in a timely manner.

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So, let’s dive into the 5 things God ALWAYS does to a narcissist.

This can best be demonstrated through gardening. Gardening is a process that, when done right, yields beautiful results. However, the process may not always make sense, especially to the inexperienced. But whether you have prize-winning begonias or can’t tell a weed from a flower, this breakdown will cultivate your trust and certainty in God's righteous justice.

In gardening, there’s a process to go from an overgrown, ugly garden to a beautiful, flourishing one. Sometimes that process doesn’t seem to make sense, especially if you’re like me and don’t know the first thing about gardening.

Step 1: He Leaves the Narcissist to Themselves

The first step may seem to happen all on its own, but remember, nothing falls outside of God’s purview. In the case of the garden, it’s overgrown, and the weeds seem to have gotten out of control. An outsider looking in might wonder, "How could someone let this happen?" But God, in His infinite wisdom, will leave a narcissist to themselves. In other words, He’s going to allow those weeds to grow.

This is where it feels the most frustrating, the most unjust, like God doesn’t care about you and He’s just like some spaced-out parent letting this little brat get away with murder. But the truth is, this is the most crucial phase. Without this phase, it makes the steps to come less just. He will let them wreck relationships, burn bridges, and do whatever it takes to bring them to rock bottom.

Romans 1:24 reminds us of what God did to those who didn’t want to follow Him and instead followed after their own sinful, selfish desires: "Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another." This may seem like God has forgotten what they’ve done to you, but hang with me because He actually has a plan. This is also the phase where you have to recognize whether your actions towards them are truly loving or entirely enabling.

Romans 1:24 said, God handed them over... in other words, He didn’t try to change them, He didn’t stop them, He didn’t just ‘love’ on them. He let them be to themselves. That’s why it isn’t always the most loving thing to tolerate their toxic behavior.

Step 2: Provides an Opportunity for Repentance

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Have you ever wondered why narcissists never seem to face the consequences for their actions?

It seems like they just skate through life using, abusing, and manipulating people without so much as a slap on the wrist. What if I told you that God actually has a plan for dealing with narcissists—even your narcissist? And it doesn’t involve you getting stuck in the mud with them.

That’s why today, I want to share with you the biblical proof that God has a strategy to handle these problematic people. By the end of our time together, you’ll clearly see how His plan will bring you the peace you desire and the justice they deserve.

Before we dive into the scripture that will forever change how you see God's justice, I want you to come with me while I get my laundry done. No, I’m not multitasking on you. I’m actually here to share that God’s justice works a lot like this washing machine.

You see, if you’re like me, your laundry is a mixture of dirty, not-so-dirty, and downright disgusting clothes. We throw them all together in one big bin, turn it on, and then check on it every three minutes...

Of course not. We walk away and let it do its thing. That is my hope today, that you will just let God do His thing. In other words, let God be God.

So, while we’re waiting, we can go back, grab a cup of tea, and chat.

The Scripture That Will Forever Change How You See God's Justice

It’s found in the book of Psalms, chapter 37. Shall we start in verse 1?

Psalm 37:1-2

"Do not fret because of those who are evil or be envious of those who do wrong; for like the grass they will soon wither, like green plants they will soon die away."

We could park there for half a day, but let’s keep going.

They will soon fade—proof that the Lord is sovereign and knows what He’s doing. Proof that the Lord will not allow this to go on forever, even when it doesn’t look like it. You may be asking, "Lord, where are you? Do you not see what this person is doing to me? Do you not see how they hurt me?"

It’s easy to fret and be envious—not envious as in wanting what they have—but struggling because they don’t seem to struggle the way you do. You want it to stop. You want a healthy, loving relationship. But my friend, that ship has sailed. So now the focus is justice (and if you’re being honest, vengeance). Maybe you don’t need to see harm come to this person, but you are tired of there seeming to be no consequences in their life.

Every little move they make becomes your focus: every sin against you, every lie they tell, every self-centered, manipulative move. You keep adding it to the bank of bitterness. Before you know it, you’ve taken the enemy’s bait, and he has you right where he wants you.

I know, I’ve been there. You pray for two minutes for this person, then go on for two hours about what they’ve done. The thoughts rail in your mind for hours and days until it’s all you can think about. That’s why you think the solution is to just get away from this person. But I’m telling you there is another solution.

The Solution to Seeing Justice Served and Regaining Your Peace

It doesn’t involve selling your soul and forfeiting your peace to do it. So what are you supposed to do? Is it possible that God just wants us to sit back and do nothing?

Psalm 37:3

"Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture.

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NO.

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Have you ever felt like someone in your life is constantly dragging you down, leaving you mentally and emotionally drained? You can’t quite put your finger on it, but you hate feeling this way about them. Yet, you can’t deny that this person just isn’t good for you. If you’re battling these conflicting feelings, you’re not alone – and you might be dealing with it right now.

So you might be wondering… if these demonic individuals can appear so ‘normal’ while causing so much chaos, how can you possibly identify them?

Look, we all know to walk away from toxic people and party animals, but what about those who deceive you into thinking they’re positive? The real issue with these individuals is that their positivity only shines when it comes to negative things. They only encourage you and seem happy with you when you partake in their destructive behaviors. Misery loves company, after all.

The Story of Troy:

But first, it’s crucial to understand HOW these demonic forces infiltrate your life.

Let’s take a lesson from the legendary city of Troy. Renowned for its impenetrable walls, Troy fell victim to a cunning Greek plan after a long siege. The Greeks constructed a massive wooden horse, hid a select group of warriors inside, and pretended to abandon the siege, leaving the horse as a deceptive gift. The Trojans, believing they had won, brought the horse into their fortified city.

When night fell, the hidden Greek soldiers emerged, opened the gates for the rest of their troops, and completely conquered Troy from within.

THIS is EXACTLY how Satan operates. His mission is to kill, steal, and destroy. Before you think, “Oh, I don’t give in to Satan,” be careful; you might be giving in to one of his ‘gifts.’

If the devil can’t get to you directly, he’ll send a narcissist.

That’s why so many Christians are being fooled by these wolves in sheep’s clothing, applying a Pollyanna mentality and getting slaughtered. And this isn’t a five-minute mistake; the repercussions can last years – even a lifetime.

So you may be wondering, if these demonic people look ‘normal’ and can wreak that much havoc, how can you identify them?

Here are the signs to spot and walk away from toxic people!

Sign #1: Encourages You to Sin

We all sin and fall short of the glory of God, but godly people will call you out to bring you to repentance and restoration.

People sent by the devil, however, will actually encourage you in bad behaviors. And it’s subtle.

We know to avoid negative people, but what about those who fool you into believing they’re positive? The problem is, they’re only positive about the negative. They only encourage and are happy with you when you join them in their destructive behaviors.

That’s because sinners love company. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.'”

These devil-sent ambassadors only celebrate when you do something wrong, with encouragement like “Good for you, I’m proud of you!” after you just drank too much or told off your boss.

They might say, “It’s normal… it’s only natural… wouldn’t God want you to be happy? YOLO.”

If you resist, they’ll attack you with sayings like, “You’re such a self-righteous stick in the mud… always a buzzkill.”

These people often appear as charismatic, fun-loving individuals, seeming like everything you’ve been praying for, but in reality, they’re on a mission to drag you down with them.

Sign #2: Manipulation and Control

This sign is likely one you’ve endured on countless occasions, and not only ignored but blamed yourself for. It’s because their twisted motives are cunning and hard to spot.

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Have you ever been so fed up with a narcissist's behavior that you just wanted to call them out, tell them off, and expose their lies? Hold on!

Before you take that leap, you need to know something crucial. What if I told you that calling out a narcissist will backfire in ways you never imagined? In this blog, we’re diving deep into why confronting them is a bad idea, what they’re likely to do in response, and the surprising alternative God has for you.

But first, I want to share a story about Brenda. Brenda came to me years ago, overwhelmed by the realization that not only was her mother manipulative, but her 32-year-old daughter exhibited severe narcissistic traits. For years, Brenda believed her mother’s lies, thinking she was damaged and disrespectful. She took on the responsibility of trying to make her daughter more respectful and appreciative, never realizing the true nature of their behaviors.

When Brenda finally understood what was really happening, she was ready to confront both her mother and her daughter. With her daughter, she wanted to share what she had learned about narcissism, hoping to open her eyes and stop the abuse. But with her mother, Brenda was done. She was fed up with the lies and the blame that she had suffered her entire life. She saw through her mother's manipulative, gaslighting tactics and was determined to let her know she was onto her.

“She’ll have no choice but to stop once she knows I’m onto her,” Brenda told me confidently. “Brenda, are you sure about that?” I asked. “Yes, why wouldn’t I be? Now I know, and she needs to know that I know,” she insisted.

Despite my advice to proceed cautiously, Brenda confronted both her mother and her daughter. She was loving but firm, ready to set the boundaries she had rehearsed in her mind for a week. But then, something unexpected happened. Both discussions spiraled into a toxic quagmire, leaving Brenda drained, confused, and feeling out of control.

“What went wrong?” she asked me, bewildered. “I was loving with my daughter and firm with my mother. What happened? It’s like it backfired on me.”

I kept my mouth shut with the thought "I tried to warn you" lingering in my mind. Brenda’s situation is, unfortunately, all too common.

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You've likely reached a point where you finally have a name for what you've been experiencing. You finally understand that their behavior is just as destructive as you sensed it was. You're done beating yourself up and you're ready to call it out. You're ready to call out the lies, the inconsistencies, the exaggerations, the half-truths, the manipulations... You're done holding it in. If there's any hope for them to change, if there's any hope to keep your sanity, you feel you have to say something.

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Do you feel like the magical connection you once had with the narcissist now feels more like a death grip?

You, my friend, have likely fallen prey to the narcissist’s deceptive new-age belief that is making Christians everywhere vulnerable to manipulative people— that there is a pre-destined soulmate out there who will complete you.

I want to share with you why this new-age belief that you once thought was romantic and biblical is actuallyleading you down a path you may never recover from.

I also want to share with you the shocking reasons why the narcissist NEEDS you to believe this, plus how to recover if you've already fallen into this trap.

To do that, I want to tell you about Eli.

Eli was a talented potter who lived in a quaint village nestled at the edge of a lush forest. Eli was known all over the world for his exquisite pottery, each piece more beautiful than the last. However, Eli had a secret: he claimed a mystical clay from the forest was the source of his pottery’s beauty.

He spoke of a legend, a tale of "The Perfect Clay," a material so pure and adaptable that only the most deserving artisans, destined by the stars, could find and use it.

Intrigued by the promise of creating pottery as beautiful as Eli's, many villagers ventured into the forest, hoping to be the chosen ones to find "The Perfect Clay." Eli encouraged them, saying that only those with a true potter's soul, bound by destiny to the craft, would succeed. Yet, the forest was vast and the search endless. Many villagers became so obsessed with finding the mythical clay that they neglected their own craft, waiting for a destiny that never materialized.

Meanwhile, back in the village, Eli continued to produce his pottery, not from mystical clay, but from the same earth as everyone else.

His true talent lay in his skill and dedication, honed over years of practice—NOT in a magical ingredient. The villagers, lost in the pursuit of an illusory perfection, failed to realize that the beauty of pottery—and indeed, life—lies in the passion and effort, not some magical formula.

Your narcissist is likely just like Eli, but instead of the perfect pottery, they're in search of the perfect partner.

In fact, this new-age belief that there is a perfect, predestined partner is likely what wooed you in the beginning but is now leaving you feeling inadequate and constantly striving for their approval.

Yes, narcissists believe in soulmates.And I'm going to share why.But I also want to share why you shouldn't.

Soulmates are based on thebelief that you are 'complete' once you find that ONE perfect person created just for you.

Believing that there's that one ideal individual that was created to complete you may sound romantic in movies, but it flies in the face of Colossians 2:10 that says, “You are complete in Christ.”

So, my friend, if there is no cosmic connection in the universe that is pulling you toward another person and if the work of the cross is already finished for you, why do narcissists need to believe in soulmates?

Let's break down three primary reasons.

Reason #1: It guarantees lasting admiration

Narcissists are addicted to admiration, much like a plant basking in the sun's rays. It's a need.

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Have you ever read the NTV Bible?

No I'm not referring to the KJV, NIV, or my all time favorite--the ESV.

I'm talking about the NTV--the narcissist twisted version. The one where they take God's truth and distort it beyond recognition to suit their narrative. The one that leaves you feeling dazed and confused.

In any version of the bible, you will find the inerrant truth of God's word. But what happens if you're being fed a distorted version?

If you've been living with a narcissist who loves to quote scripture to you, you've like been fed the NTV--the narcissist version of the truth.

So which one do you believe?

My hope is to help you stop the manipulation.

That’s why I’m going to breakdown the four scriptures narcissists just can’t resist twisting, their main motivator when using these scriptures, and the foolproof benchmark to ensure you are never manipulated again by misused scripture.

The narcissist’s misuse of scripture is like a chef twisting a classic pasta recipe into some distorted version for their own gain.

Maybe instead of the regular ingredients, he decides to add a few extra that he's got lying around, a few that are about to expire, and maybe even an idea that he'd like to try—at your expense. And I'm not talking about complementary ingredients. I'm talking about ingredients that don't belong and completely distort the dish. Like peanut butter in lasagna.

The foundational elements are there but the finished dish is distorted beyond recognition. It's no longer appetizing. It’s food, but it's not what it was intended to be. In fact, it's repulsive.

The same is true for the narcissist’s use of scripture. They don’t use scripture for it’s intended purpose but rather to serve their own selfish agenda, leaving those who are feeding off of their mess, confused and malnourished.

So why do narcissists twist scripture?

The truth is, they can't resist. Scripture is a weapon for them to use against you. Satan did it to Jesus in the wilderness when he twisted three scriptures to try and get him to back off from his ultimate mission—the cross.

While the Word of God is a powerful weapon, much like that recipe, the narcissist turns that weapon into a weapon of manipulative destruction.

In fact there are four driving forces behind the narcissists craving for scripture:

Get you to do something for them
Get you to stop doing something to them
Get you to believe their lies
Get you to assume the blame

It really is that simple.

Their motive has always been and likely will always be self-focus—self-protection and self-preservation.

They actually don’t care if you’re following biblical principles. They don’t care if you’re honoring God in who you are and what you do. They only care how your actions impact them.

Scripture is only used to their benefit NOT yours.

In other words, trusting a narcissist to use scripture properly is likely hiring a wolf to guard the sheep.

So what are the scriptures that they LOVE to manipulate you with?

Twisted scripture #1

I know you've heard this one before. You've likely had it thrown in your face every time you raise an issue. It's tossed about every single time they don't want to face the consequences for their actions.&n

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Does it seem like the narcissist in your life just skates by and gets away with their manipulative, destructive behavior, almost like they're somehow immune to justice?

Today, I want to give you the clarity you're craving about why God's justice might seem a little slow, and EXACTLY how God deals with issues of pride, manipulation, and deceit.

My friend, stick with me, because by the end of our time today, your wavering faith WILL be strengthened.

There's a character in the bible that always reminds me of God's justice. Perhaps you know her from the books of 1 and 2 Kings. She was a Phoenician princess who was the wife of Ahab, king of Israel. And her name was Jezebel.

Jezebel was a spiteful, wicked, manipulative, malicious woman who presented as charming and attractive, and who at times played victim.

Sound like anyone you know?

Narcissists are notorious for putting on the performance of being everything you need. But beneath the surface, they are self-centered, immature, entitled brats who will stop at nothing to get what they want.

Jezebel was infamously known for promoting the worship of Baal, a Canaanite deity, in Israel, directly opposing the worship of God. She was also famous for her role in the persecution of the prophets of God, including the murder of Naboth, simply because her husband wanted his vineyard.

In our lives, she's the mother who seems to get away with her constant abuse. She's the woman at the office who has the boss fooled into thinking she’s a team player.

But SHE doesn't need to be a SHE.

This Jezebel behavior is no respecter of genders. In fact, there are some predictable patterns that I want you to start looking out for--patterns you might otherwise miss if you're focused on the fear and frustration.

For starters: God will not tolerate idolatry and falsehood.

Jezebel's promotion of Baal worship and her attempts to suppress the worship of God represent the pinnacle of how the narcissist operates.

Like Jezebel, narcissists create false images and exalt themselves at the expense of others

God hates idol worship. Let's go back to Exodus 20. It says, ’You shall have no other gods before me.’

The narcissist’s carved image is their mirror, because narcissists worship themselves. They exalt themselves and anything they desire above God.

Don't be fooled my friend, they're not content with just worshipping themselves. They need YOU to worship them too.

Do you ever wonder why things always go south when you raise an issue or express a concern or a dislike about them? Their ego is as fragile as that mirror.

And just like God warned the people of Israel in Deuteronomy 6 not to follow other gods, just like He also sent warnings to Jezebel, He will also send warnings to the narcissist.

You can always expect God to be merciful and give us chance after chance.

In His next phase, God will send warnings.

Jezebel’s fate didn’t have to end the way it did.

Narcissists (and all of us for that matter) are given chance after chance, warning after warning to turn from our ways.

How many times did God have to tug on your heart before you answered the call?

If we heed those warnings, it can lead to repentance and restoration.

If we ignore them, we head for destruction, full steam ahead.

And that's exactly what He did for Jezebel. Elijah and other prophets were sent to stand up to her

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Being in a marriage with a narcissist can leave you feeling like you've got only two choices: resign yourself to a life of misery or pack your bags and leave.

Before you make a decision that will change your life forever, I want to talk to you about three categories to consider when contemplating a divorce from a narcissistic spouse.

With a multitude of twisted scriptures, it can be difficult to determine the most biblical action for your situation. So by the end of our time together, my hope is that you will have greater peace in understanding God's will for your situation, and that you will have an answer the question that I get asked more than any other question--will God let me leave my narcissistic spouse?

To do that we need to address three categories: the justified, the baseless, and the plausible.

The first category is going to be the most important to dive into but be careful not to automatically assume that you fall into this category, as most don't.

Category #1: the Justified

These are the people who have a justifiable reason to leave the marriage.

The first justification is found in Matthew 19:9 where it states that we shouldn't divorce except in cases of infidelity. So, the first justified reason is when there is betrayal in the marriage.

Infidelity is a justification for divorce. You’re not in the wrong. You’re not sinning against God. You’re free to leave. You don’t have to, but you’re free to.

Within the church, that's where you'll find that justification stops—no infidelity, no recourse. But infidelity isn't the only time where God allows for divorce.

The next is abandonment.1 Corinthians 7:15 states, But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you[b] to peace.

Yet another reason is neglect or abuse. Narcissistic relationships are defined by the selfishness of one partner at the expense of the other. So instead of using scriptures like "God hates divorce" as a weapon, perhaps we should acknowledge how much God hates abuse. In fact, that scripture "God hates divorce" was written because the men were abusing their roles and discarding their wives at will.

So let's talk about this justification of abuse. Abuse can be defined as extreme danger or harm; physically, mentally or emotionally.

To tell a victim of abuse that he/she needs to stay and suffer further abuse is further victimizing the innocent.

Some may say that "no divorce" is a hard and fast rule in scripture. And I agree that it should not be abused, but we also find in scripture where there are many cases where the 'rules' are broken:

· Jesus talking to the woman at the well

· Healing on the sabbath

· David eating the showbread

· Instructing Ezekiel to eat unclean food

We even see Abigail going behind her husband Nebal’s back because of his destructive behavior, all to save life.

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Are you tired of falling victim to the emotional and psychological manipulation of a narcissist?

Do you worry that long-term exposure to this devil-sent individual will negatively impact your faith?

Narcissists are self-centered, egotistical, fragile individuals who only care about meeting their own need—often at your expense.

They are excellent at playing mind games to gain the upper hand and get what they want in relationships.

They don’t see you as an individual with feelings. They see you as a pawn for their purpose and they don’t care how their behavior impacts you. In fact, it doesn’t even occur to them.

They are demonically inspired and often dangerous.

1 Peter 5:8 reminds us that the devil prowls around like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour. I would argue that if we need to be alert to the devil, we also need to be alert to the people he’s using.

Let’s take a look at the demonic mind games they’ll use to manipulate you.

Demonic mind game #1: The blame game

It's easy to forget, but narcissists are very fragile individuals.

You may have fallen for their false facade but behind that phony exterior is an empty shallow parasite who needs to feed off of you for validation. When that validation dries up and you try to have a healthy relationship with healthy confrontation, you will see a wounded soul. And this is where it goes from broken to bad.

Narcissists can skillfully play the victim to garner sympathy and shift blame. They may exaggerate or entirely fabricate situations where they appear to be the innocent party, diverting attention from their own harmful actions.

Whether referring to past “failures” or current problems, narcissists will rarely accept responsibility for their actions. They’ll blame all the relationship issues on you. They never feel like anything is their fault. They’ll even make things up, so that you’ll be the one to fix their mess, all while they play the victim.

This behavior dates back to the beginning of time when God called out Adam for eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. What did he say? “The woman YOU gave made me do it.”

Now, I’m not saying that Adam was a narcissist, but you see how cunning the devil was right from the start.

Demonic mind game #2: The trigger game

Do you ever wonder how the narcissist seems to know ALL of your pain points? That’s because they studied you like a book.

Not with the intent to truly get to know you, but for the sheer purpose of gathering information for the future. That’s why they work so hard with love bombing to win you over, break down your guard, and get you vulnerable.

This can really throw you for a loop, especially if you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist who doesn’t seem to care or listen, but suddenly when you’re arguing or they’re trying to get their way, they seem to have amazing recall. Every mistake you’ve made, every little thing you’ve said can and will be used against you.

Demonic mind game #3: The coercion game

If narcissists don’t get what they want from you, they will use various forms of manipulation, guilt, shame, and triangulation all to get you to feel bad about yourself, second guess your boundaries, and ultimately give them what they want.

If you think the narcissist only uses coercion with big ticket items, think again. This tactic is their go-to with EVERYTHING, which is why narcissists can be so exhausting to be in relationship with.

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Have you ever wondered WHY that person isn’t respecting your boundaries?

Perhaps you think you need to find a better way to communicate or maybe you believe there are just some people who are boundary-proof.

That’s why today, I want to dive into the ONE mistake that will cause your boundaries to fail every time AND what you can do to fix it.

This particular mistake reminds me of the time my friend Meredith asked me to come with her to the car dealer to negotiate a price on a car.

You see, this was the car she'd always wanted. She dreamed about it for years and she was finally able to afford it. Sort of.

It was still a little out of her price range but she was so close that she couldn't take wait any longer. She knew how much I've saved on car purchases over the years, so she asked if I would join her. Happy to help her avoid over-paying, I said yes. Then I told her I have a few questions and there are a few rules. The biggest question was, are you flexible on colors and options? And the rules were this:

Let me do all the talking.
Don't get excited about the car.
Follow my lead, even if you disagree.

DEAL! She was so excited to drive off the lot with her shiny new sports car.

We headed into the dealer. Gabe greeted us on the lot. And from the moment Meredith sat in that driver’s seat, I knew we were going to have an issue. She was so giddy that the salesperson looked like a kid who just scored the biggest lollipop. He knew he already had her, and I know I had my work cut out for me.

When we finally sat down at Gabe's desk, the issue went from bad to worse.

Gabe laid out the price and I pushed back. Out of the corner of my eye I could see Meredith was getting squirmy. Each time Gabe went to speak to his manager to get approval for what I was asking, Meredith needed to be talked off the ledge.

“Let’s not push so hard,” she’d say. “What if he changes his mind?”

“Changes his mind about what? Selling you a car? I don't think so.” But Meredith was terrified her dream car could slip right through her fingers.

So when Gabe came back with his final offer--which I found to be completely unacceptable, especially given that sales were down and there were four of the exact same model on the lot--I knew it was time to say “Thank you Gabe, but no thank you.” Just as I was about to open my mouth, Meredith jumped out of her seat and said, “I'll take it.”

I pushed myself away from Gabe's desk and knew my time here was done. There was nothing more I could do to help Meredith get the best price possible on her dream car.

Truth be told, Gabe could have charged her double and I think she would have found a way to pay.

You might be wondering, Kris, what does this have to do with boundaries? Everything. In fact, the one mistake that’s keeping you stuck with people who don't respect your boundaries is the SAME mistake Meredith made—the inability to walk away.

Now, I'm not saying that you have to walk away from a relationship to get what you want (that's just manipulative). But I am saying that if you can't go without whatever they're offering you, your boundaries won't stick.

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Why is it that some Christians are able to move on from toxic relationships while others stay stuck in their hurt feelings?

Maybe you've suffered so long, you don't even know what happiness feels like anymore.

Before you go thinking that God's forgotten you (or worse, getting angry at Him), I want to break down for you three very powerful reasons why this hurt may be lingering more than you'd like,

AND the prayer that could change EVERYTHING.

To do that I need to remind you what happens when you touch a hot iron. You may cringe at the thought because you know how much it hurts. But how do you know it hurts? Well if you're as stubborn and stupid as me, it's likely because you HAVE touched one of these at some point in your life. (Despite how many times your mamma told you not to.) And once you did, the pain was excruciating. Maybe you even needed to go to the hospital. And I'm going to take a wild guess and you never did that again.

The same is true for toxic relationships. We enter into them, ignoring the red flags, and then we slide right into the sizzle.

For what godly reason would this happen? There are actually three of them.

Reason #1: God wants to make sure you learn

What do you think would happen if God just took those feelings away, erased them from your memory, wiped them from your emotional hard drive? You'd enter into a toxic relationship again, because you'd have no memory of how painful it was.

So yes, God will allow these feelings to linger to teach you. I'm not saying that what that person did to you was OK, or even excusable. But ignoring this valuable insight is like being offered a ride in a luxury SUV but choosing a piggyback ride instead.

Reason #2: You’re trying to stay in the driver’s seat

Even with these valuable lessons learned, missing what I’m about to share could cause you—as it would most Christians—to backslide during a difficult time.

If you're like me, you use your GPS for everything, even when you know exactly where to go and how to get there.

And again, if you're anything like me, if your GPS tells you to go a way that differs from where YOU think you should go, you ignore it. (I told you I wasn't smart.)

And what happens? More often then not you're stopped by a traffic jam or worse. That's because the GPS knows the roadblocks and delays you can run into.

Your hurt feelings are the roadblocks and God is your GPS.

God doesn't always remove the roadblocks because they actually serve His purpose. Just like his purpose for the Israelites in the Red Sea and the wilderness wasn't to harm them but rather draw them closer to HIM.

Could it be that God wants to be your guiding light on this journey of healing? My friend, don't miss an amazing relationship opportunity because you're upset that he's not teleporting you to your next destination.

Reason #3: God wants you for His purpose

You may be saying, “Kris, that's great. I've learned my lesson and I've made my way back to God. But what's the point in keeping me in pain for so long?”

That question can best be answered by Sam’s example. Sam was a trainer I hired when I had my old personal training business.

Sam was highly educated. She graduated at the top of her class in biomechanics and she could tell you about anything that had to do with anatomy, from the function of the hip flexors in relation to the knee upon deceleration to the distal insertion point of the femur.

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What if I told you that everything you thought about forgiveness was wrong? That in seven short minutes I will help you understand why these people still set you off--even years after you've walked away and forgiven them?

I'm going to answer the question that's been haunting you once and for all—“Have I truly forgiven?”—and overcome the biggest forgiveness myth holding back Christians today.

It all comes down to bookmarks.

I want you to think of your life as a book, and each significant trauma or experience as a different chapter. When someone hurts you, it's like placing a bookmark in that particular chapter. You can believe that you’ve forgiven and then move on. However, the bookmarks still remain in the book.

Even as you continue living your life, those bookmarks make it easy to flip back to the painful chapters. This act of inadvertently returning to these chapters can make you feel as though you haven't truly moved on or forgiven, even though you’ve tried to close the chapter.

There are three reasons why it’s so easy to flip back to those bookmarks.

Reason #1: Unresolved trauma

Many bookmarks were created by a traumatic experience—one that you've tried to push aside, but it still needs to be dealt with.

You may be thinking, “Yeah but that was 20 years ago. I should be able to let it go by now.”

But letting something go is not the same as resolving it.

We often think avoidance is the best option (and don't get me wrong, in some cases it is).

But if there's stuff going on inside of you—well, everywhere you go, there you are. That’s why an old memory, an unexpected phone call, or a harsh comment can all elicit an outsized reaction.

Resolving that trauma is like removing the bookmark.

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My hope is that you will get the healing that you need to work through the pain of the past and in doing so, you get to remove the bookmarks.

But unresolved trauma is only part of the reason that you're getting triggered long after you've forgiven.

Reason #2: Unresolved trust

If you're not creating NEW bookmarks, it almost feels like there's nothing worthy in your story.

So when you get triggered, you will automatically default to the old bookmarks. When your anger kicks in, when someone tries to manipulate you, when you hear about how the other person is slandering you, yet again you may not have anything new to refer to. In other words, you have unresolved trust.

You know you can't trust your trauma any longer, but what can you trust? If you do not cre

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Why is it that some Christians are able to move on from toxic relationships while others stay stuck in their hurt feelings?

Maybe you've suffered so long, you don't even know what happiness feels like anymore.

Before you go thinking that God's forgotten you (or worse, getting angry at Him), I want to break down for you three very powerful reasons why this hurt may be lingering more than you'd like,

AND the prayer that could change EVERYTHING.

To do that I need to remind you what happens when you touch a hot iron. You may cringe at the thought because you know how much it hurts. But how do you know it hurts? Well if you're as stubborn and stupid as me, it's likely because you HAVE touched one of these at some point in your life. (Despite how many times your mamma told you not to.) And once you did, the pain was excruciating. Maybe you even needed to go to the hospital. And I'm going to take a wild guess and you never did that again.

The same is true for toxic relationships. We enter into them, ignoring the red flags, and then we slide right into the sizzle.

For what godly reason would this happen? There are actually three of them.

Reason #1: God wants to make sure you learn

What do you think would happen if God just took those feelings away, erased them from your memory, wiped them from your emotional hard drive? You'd enter into a toxic relationship again, because you'd have no memory of how painful it was.

So yes, God will allow these feelings to linger to teach you. I'm not saying that what that person did to you was OK, or even excusable. But ignoring this valuable insight is like being offered a ride in a luxury SUV but choosing a piggyback ride instead.

Reason #2: You’re trying to stay in the driver’s seat

Even with these valuable lessons learned, missing what I’m about to share could cause you—as it would most Christians—to backslide during a difficult time.

If you're like me, you use your GPS for everything, even when you know exactly where to go and how to get there.

And again, if you're anything like me, if your GPS tells you to go a way that differs from where YOU think you should go, you ignore it. (I told you I wasn't smart.)

And what happens? More often then not you're stopped by a traffic jam or worse. That's because the GPS knows the roadblocks and delays you can run into.

Your hurt feelings are the roadblocks and God is your GPS.

God doesn't always remove the roadblocks because they actually serve His purpose. Just like his purpose for the Israelites in the Red Sea and the wilderness wasn't to harm them but rather draw them closer to HIM.

Could it be that God wants to be your guiding light on this journey of healing? My friend, don't miss an amazing relationship opportunity because you're upset that he's not teleporting you to your next destination.

Reason #3: God wants you for His purpose

You may be saying, “Kris, that's great. I've learned my lesson and I've made my way back to God. But what's the point in keeping me in pain for so long?”

That question can best be answered by Sam’s example. Sam was a trainer I hired when I had my old personal training business.

Sam was highly educated. She graduated at the top of her class in biomechanics and she could tell you about anything that had to do with anatomy, from the function of the hip flexors in relation to the knee upon deceleration to the distal insertion point of the femur.

There was only one problem: Sam had zero life experience. She couldn't relate to our client

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So you’ve finally put your foot down. Maybe you’ve kicked the narcissist to the curb or cut ties with toxic family members. After much prayer and soul searching, you’re ready to move on.

But before you can cue the confetti, you get the message, “I’ve changed.”

Could this be the turnaround you’ve been praying for? Or just another tool in their manipulation toolbox?

That confusion is why I want to talk to you today about the three powerful clues that will show you that this person has actually changed, as well as the ONE thing that guarantees they haven’t.

I think of relationships with toxic people like a garden that was once beautiful and vibrant with so much potential, but that is now completely wilted and shriveled.

Some people would walk past this garden and think nothing of it. Either they don’t recognize the garden is dying, or worse, they just don’t care.

But run-down gardens don’t happen by accident. They’re a result of neglect and maybe even abuse.

The hurt you experience in relationships doesn’t happen by accident, either.

Clue #1: Recognition

If your relationship is like a garden where all the plants are either dying or dead, both parties need to recognize that (a) there’s a problem, and (b) that each person has contributed to the problem.

Typically, people who have sinned against you won’t recognize their role in creating the problem. And if you try to point out the ways they have contributed, you will most likely be accused of nagging and holding on to the past, when all you are seeking is acknowledgment of the actions that brought this beautiful garden to this awful place.

If you have been in a relationship with a toxic gardener, you need to hear them own their contributions. Don’t settle for mere recognition that the relationship is withering on the vine.

When recognition is present, it's like turning on a light in a dark room. It might be a mess but at least you can see where you’re going and what needs to be done.

Clue #2: Repentance

Clue #2 is what so many of us long for, beg for, and argue over.

My client, Crystal made the mistake of demanding it from her mother who would belittle her in front of others but call it ‘mothering.’ Crystal was 56. She didn’t need ‘mothering.’ She needed her mother to say the words she so longed to hear. And they weren’t “I love you.” They were the words “I’m sorry.”

But Crystal’s mother didn’t even recognize that was she was doing was wrong. Instead, she justified her behavior and even blamed Crystal for ‘making’ her behave this way because she not obeying her mother.

But clue #2 is more than just hearing those two magic words. It’s about repentance.

What's the difference?

Do you remember when you were a kid and you’d get into a fight with another student at school and the principal would take you both into the office, make you shake hands, say you’re sorry and make up?

Yeah, that’s not repentance.

Words of apology alone hold no more power than someone claiming they believe in God but don’t live a life that follows Him.

Repentance is a deep regret over the pain you’ve caused and the extreme effort to turn in the other direction.

It’s not, “sorry,” “I’m sorry,” “I’m sorry, if only you…,” or “I’m sorry YOU,” or any other deflecting, devaluing statement that's meant to sound like and apology.

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You've done your research. And you now believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that you're dealing with a narcissist.

You know it.

They know it.

They know you know.

Now what?

Today, I want to dive deep into the pathetically predictable pattern you can expect to see when God exposes a narcissist. This pattern will prove to you once and for all that it's not all in your head AND give you the clarity need to answer the question: do I stay or do I go?

To start, we need to clarify once and for all that it doesn't matter who the potential narcissist may be—parent, pastor, partner, sibling, coworker, or friend—God WILL expose the narcissist.

No matter who your narcissist is, it's likely you spent years being confused by the mixed messages, the lies, the manipulation, and don't even get me started on the gaslighting! Or perhaps you've had so many twisted bible scriptures thrown at you that you've become a pro at dodging them. But God in his faithfulness has brought you out of confusion and into clarity.

it's like the blinders have been removed.

You're no longer fooled by the craziness and you see with crystal clarity that this person only cares about themself. And then you can expect THIS.

Confusion comes a knockin’ all over again.

Because now they know you know. They'll never verbally admit it, but they know the tide has turned, and the jig is up.Unless they have someone else to fall back on, get ready my friend--it's about to get more toxic.

Narcissists are very observant people, especially of anything that concerns them.

Once they sense that you’re hip to their tricks, they get flustered, nasty, defensive, or avoidant. It's these initial reactions that you need to focus on, as you're going to need to refer back to this later in the final phase of their reaction. (Which is what we'll get to shortly.)

After this initial toxic reaction, you can then expect to see a slightly different narcissist.

Phase 1: They will employ any effort necessary to get things back to ‘normal.’

This phase is a little easier to detect as they will go to whatever behavior has worked in the past. If intimidation had a high success rate, they will come in strong with that. If guilt was the go to, you'll get an extra dose.

Whatever has worked in the past, expect an amped up version of that.

But hold firm, my friend—the ride has just begun.

Enter Phase 2: Threats, insults, rage—anything to trigger you, so that YOU react.

They do this so they can now look at your toxic reaction and say, “See, you're the problem. If you were more patient, kind, understanding, and weren't so nasty, critical and controlling.”

In their mind, they feel better because you've just proven (to them of course) that your toxic reaction means you're the problem.

But you're not phased. Nonsense like that would have killed you in the past, but not now.

Get ready for phase 3.

I have to warn you. THIS is where it gets confusing. THIS is where they get you to let your guard down and bring your hope up.

Stick with me.

When the go-to tactics don't work, when the entrapment fails, THEN comes the apology.

At this point, you're likely wondering, Maybe they've changed? What if they finally get it?

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Moms are supposed to be supportive and nurturing, but what happens when the very woman who should be your number-one fan is your greatest adversary?

If you're like most people, you slip into a confusing, guilt-ridden mess. That's why in today's episode, you’re going to learn 10 signs that your mother is a narcissist. These are the signs that every single one of my students has experienced but just couldn't make sense of.

Please note that Christianity isn’t about just slapping a love label on someone and ignoring the damage they cause. Nor is our time together meant to be a mom-bashing episode. Rather, you want to allow God to bring to light what the enemy is trying to keep in darkness so that you can have an accurate assessment of your situation AND honor God in your interactions.

So let’s dive into 10 signs (and I'm really curious to hear what you think about number 10!).

Sign #1: She sees you as an extension of her

Imagine how someone would feel if they weren't allowed to have their own identity, and weren't able to make their own choices without upsetting someone. Such treatment leads to a codependent, performance-driven mess.

Yet narcissistic mothers often live through their children. Maybe mom always wanted to be the popular one, so she pushed you to always look ‘pretty.’ Or, she didn't finish college, so now you had to go to a prestigious school so SHE could have bragging rights.

Most of us moms like to be proud of our children’s choices, but narcissistic moms take this to a toxic level. If you're a reflection of her, the result is that you must make choices based upon HER preferences.

Sign #2: She’s critical

Not all critical people are narcissists but all narcissists are critical. She likely has something to say about everyone and everything, and in doing so, positions herself as superior.

This criticism can be overt—outwardly judging someone (or you) for their choices—or it can be passive aggressive—making comments about someone else in an attempt to get the message to you.

Ironically, if you have a criticism or complaint about your mother, you will likely be met with a toxic overreaction, as you are now creating a crack in her fragile facade.

Sign #3: She has toxic reactions

Look, we all can over react or react poorly from time to time. But for narcissistic mothers, radioactivity is their MO. You can likely predict that she will have a defensive, stonewalling, victim-like reaction if you attempt to bring anything to her attention.

Narcissistic mothers cannot and will not look at themselves. So if you challenge her delusion, her response will be nuclear.

NOTHING is ever her fault and if you try to argue otherwise you will get met with a victim and martyr act.

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Tired of feeling like people just take advantage of your good nature?

Perhaps you loan money that never gets repaid, you get stuck baking for another fundraiser, or you drive out of your way to help a sister who never returns the favor. You basically put your life on hold for others, and it’s getting old.

That’s why, today I want to warn you about the five signs that scream “Walk all over me.”

Sign #1: You say yes out of guilt

Do you find yourself saying yes when you’d prefer to say no? Perhaps you even kick it up a notch and disguise your guilt behind acting like a cheerful giver.

Don’t be fooled my friend. True cheerfulness doesn’t come from an exterior smile, but rather from an interior attitude.

If you’re constantly saying yes and later regretting it, then it’s likely you’ve set yourself to be taken advantage of by others.

Oh, I’m not saying they’re not to blame for overstepping, but if someone is taking advantage of your good nature and you don’t stop it, there likely won’t be an end in sight.

You might do well to get some help over why you struggle with guilt, why you fall for their outlandish stories of desperation, and why their approval is more important than your peace.

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Sign #2: You avoid confrontation

Do you consider yourself a peacekeeper? Perhaps your motto is ‘peace at all cost.’

What if I told that there’s a difference between being a peacekeeper and a peacemaker?

The difference is, one is biblical, the other is not.

Peacemakers have peace ruling within their hearts.

Peacekeepers usually have fear, anxiety and resentment ruling within them.

Peacemakers are active.

Peacekeepers, on the other hand, are passive—and sometimes passive aggressive. They often go along to get along. They stay quiet so as not to disturb the peace even when a disturbance may be needed.

Peacemakers are honest about their feelings and circumstances and will even expose lies so that the wounds can begin to heal.

Peacekeepers on the other hand are often in denial about feelings and circumstances.

Peacemakers look for harmony through reconciliation.

Peacekeepers look for harmony through avoidance.

Sign #3: You apologize—all the time

Is ‘I’m sorry’ your go-to response?

While we’re called to repent of our wrongdoing, saying ‘I’m sorry’ just to keep others from experiencing bad feelings isn’t repentance, it’s enablement. AND it can make you a target for toxic people.

Keep your apologies for when you’ve truly done something wrong. Don’t apologize to manage someone’s emotions and make them feel better.

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Sign #4: You go with the flow<

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Toxic thinking can be like a game of pinball. It seems manageable—maybe even fun at first—but add a stress here, an old wound there, and before you know it, your mind is completely out of control.

At any moment of any day, your mind can be triggered by old wounds, Satan’s demons, bad habits, or just something someone said, and the next thing you know, your mind is reeling out of control.

It can feel like hundreds of pinballs are all dropping into the machine at once and you can’t figure out which one to hit first.

THIS is what your thoughts can look like in an unrenewed mind.

Whether your toxic thoughts are negative, fearful, anxious, or angry, how you deal with them can be the difference between a quiet game of solitaire or a chaotic game of pinball.

It’s been said that we get bombarded by more than 50,000 thoughts a day. But there’s a difference between those thoughts that give you life and the thoughts that are sucking the life right out of you.

It’s my hope to help you say goodbye to fear and hello to faith. Goodbye to chaos and hello to calm. Goodbye to confusion and hello to clarity… okay, you get the picture.

So let’s dive into the four steps that will help you get control of those thoughts before they take control of you.

Step #1: Reveal

In this step, you’re actually not going to focus on the pinball, but rather the trigger.

You want to better understand WHY you’re reacting to certain people, thoughts and situations.

You see, it’s tempting and easy to blame others for triggering us, thereby making it their fault and their responsibility for controlling YOUR thoughts and emotions.

When the truth is, you can’t trigger something that isn’t there. To stick with the pinball analogy, if there’s no ball, there’s nothing to set into motion.

This is where you’ll want to deal with the stuff lying beneath the surface—the past hurts, old wounds, neglected traumas, unfulfilled dreams, and insecurities. These are all things that make it so much easier for you to get triggered.

Your job is not to control the triggers around you. It’s to deal with what's going on inside of you. So allow God to REVEAL what He needs to reveal.

Step #2: Refocus

You can throw your hands up in the air and blame everything in your life on the out-of-control balls, or you can apply the principle found in 2 Corinthians 10:5: “We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ.”

My friend, don’t let your thoughts run free like a bully on a playground. It is your mind—it’s your job to direct it.

When my mind is going in a wrong direction, I am proactive in giving what God is revealing over to Him. This doesn’t mean that I just ignore something and pretend it’s not there. But it does mean that we are to be intentional about the focus of our own thoughts.

Step #3: Rethink it

Once you’ve captured that thought, stop and ask yourself: Is this thought helpful or harmful to my mental and sp

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Tired of feeling like a doormat, like you attract people who just take from you with no regard or concern for your wellbeing?

Christians are often encouraged to give until it hurts. “Let people take advantage of you,” “Forbear under abuse,” that’s what Jesus would want us to do, right?

WRONG.

There’s some serious scripture twisting and misinterpretation going on when we believe that God created us to be a doormat for others.

Yes, we are to love and forgive and forbear—but it’s time to untwist some misconceived scriptures about what it means to set limits with others.

That’s why I want to show you the five signs that God is trying to show you it’s time to stop letting people walk all over you and start setting boundaries.

Sign #1: You’re afraid to set limits with others

It’s not uncommon for people pleasers to see limits as unloving. Add to that the uncomfortable feelings that you’re left with that you’re letting someone down, and it’s enough to make even a border patrol agent step back in fear.

The truth is, your inability to set limits with others will not result in the reciprocation you long for.

I know you’re waiting for them to return the good deed, but it’s not going to happen.

Setting limits is less about the “how” and more about the “what”. After all, you already know how to say no. Go ahead, try it. Just say the word “no” for me right now.

See, it’s not how, it’s what that’s the hard part, but we’ll talk about that in a few.

Sign #2: You feel responsible for other people’s thoughts and feelings

I understand that it feels loving to think and feel for others. But when consideration crosses into codependency, you have an unhealthy relationship dynamic.

Feeling responsible for others’ feelings takes the responsibility off of them and puts it onto you. And guess what kind of people this trait attracts? Takers!

There are plenty of irresponsible, lazy, immature people out there who would be more than happy to offload their personal responsibility onto you.

And if you see it as ‘loving’ to take that responsibility from them, you will be loaded down like a pack mule until you’re swayback.

And then wonder why you’re so tired and no one appreciates you.

Sign #3: You fail to make clear agreements

It may seem nice on the surface to always defer to another person for their input, but it makes it difficult to actually be in a healthy, interdependent relationship with someone who can’t make their own decisions.

God gave you unique desires, thoughts, perspectives, and preferences, all of which should contribute to a wonderful relationship dynamic.

The problem comes in when the other person doesn’t value what you bring to the table. Instead of letting that knock you back, let it be an indication of the potential problem in the relationship.

Just remember—having a problem in your relationship doesn’t mean that you ARE the problem.

Sign #4: You have no time for God

If I had a nickel for every time a people pleaser has defended why they don’t have time for God by saying they are too busy doing HIS work by serving others, I’d be a very rich woman.

Yes, we are called to serve others, but not at the expense of what God has entrusted you to steward. That includes your time, talent, and treasures.

Blaming others for taking your time doesn’t take you off the hook. It puts you on the hook for setting better boundaries.

It’s true that life can get busy and there

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While you’re focusing on how to protect yourself from a narcissist’s manipulative schemes,

the enemy is laser focused on YOU. He’s using backdoor attempts to infiltrate YOUR life.

And while it’s tempting to blame the narcissist—after all, THEY are the Trojan horse—the truth is that 1 Peter 5:8 reminds us that we are to “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

In fact, there are seven different demonic doors that can be opened in your life as a result of a narcissistic. Let’s take a look at each one so you can learn how to slam them shut in the mighty name of Jesus.

Door #1: Confusion

The most common quality narcissists develop within their victims is confusion.

Your desire to resolve conflict and grow in your relationship is met instead with an onslaught of underhanded accusations and backhanded belittlements. It’s enough to leave you bewildered, wondering how they’re just not understanding what you’re saying.

Here’s the truth: they don’t understand because they don’t care. You’re confusing their fake, self-serving interactions with a genuine interest in the relationship.

My friend, God is not the author of confusion. Believe His promises and respond promptly to His commands and confusion will loosen its grip on you.

Door #2: Suspicion

When someone you should be able to trust betrays you, it hits to the core. It leads you to think, If I can’t trust my parent or partner, who can I trust? You begin to view others through the lens of suspicion.

I get it. You’ve been hurt. But I want to encourage you to not allow the enemy to use a spirit of suspicion to destroy any future relationships.

That doesn’t mean you override your God-given discernment and trust everyone—that would be foolish. Rather, allow God to show you who you can and can’t trust by leaning on Him and waiting to see what fruit they produce.

Door # 3: Identity Crisis

Whether it’s listening to their damaging words or spending all of your focus on meeting their needs, being in a narcissistic relationships is an invitation to live below your potential.

Over the years I’ve encountered many narcissistic survivors who say, I don’t even know who I am. If you’re not grounded in Christ, being involved with a narcissist can wreak havoc on your self-esteem.

The solution: turn your focus to who God says you are—despite what the narcissist says. Immerse yourself in scriptures like Psalm 139:13-16 and Ephesians 2:10 until God’s word begins to drown out the narcissistic lies.

Don’t fool yourself though, this will be a battle, as the enemy will want to pull you back into that old toxic thinking. Keep fighting, my friend.

Door #3 definitely opens the door to #4.

Door #4: Codependency

Codependency is an unhealthy attachment to others, and a reliance on others to get your needs met. It’s like you can’t be OK unless they’re OK with you.

In codependent relationships, you rely on each other instead of God. As romantic as it sounds in movies, it’s destructive in healthy relationships.

Satan is a master at getting you to look to others for your needs and then calling it ‘love.’ Codepdendents are classic mood monitors. They pride themselves on ‘feeling’ others’ feelings.

This is not a super power, this is a demonic distortion of what healthy interdependent relationships should look like.

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After years of dealing with a toxic person, you’re finally free--free from the mental and emotional bondage of trying to live up to their narcissistic expectations.

Yet you may be wondering why you don’t feel as blissful as you thought you would.

That’s why today, I want to walk you through the three steps that God will bring you through after a narcissistic relationship. It doesn’t matter if it was a parent, partner, pastor, or friend, these three detox steps will help you recognize when God is at work in your life or when the enemy is still looking to keep you down.

Before you consider heading back to Egypt, stick with me, my friend. After our time together you’ll be better equipped to take back your life.

Here’s what you can expect God to do in the next 12 months and beyond:

Step #1: He will REVEAL

In the months following the relationship detox, God will begin to pull back the veil and you’ll start to see where you went wrong—things you tolerated, actions you mistook as love, immature or ungodly ways you dealt with matters, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. In other words, God's going to start showing you YOUR part.

Luke 12:2 tells us: “Nothing is covered up that will not be revealed, or hidden that will not be known.”

This doesn’t meant you’re to blame or the other person wasn’t a problem. But IF you will allow him, God will begin to do a transforming work within YOU, breaking you free of old mindsets and habits.

That work is going to begin with revealing your weaknesses and blind spots. He may highlight your codependency, your insatiable need for approval, or your fear of confrontation. While the other person doesn’t get a pass, it’s imperative that you recognize your part in this dynamic.

You were drawn to this person for a reason. Let God reveal that.

They were drawn to you for a reason. Let God reveal that.

You struggled with boundaries for a reason. Let God reveal that.

You have hurts you need to address before bringing them into another relationship. Let God reveal that.

Here’s the great news. In this phase, He will also begin to show you who He created you to be.

No longer are you living under the shadow of someone else’s expectations and opinions. Now you can just be yourself. But you may not know who you are. Let God reveal that.

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But it doesn’t end there. Once these areas of identity and triggers are revealed, God will move you into step 2

Step #2: He will DEAL

In this next phase, God will help you to deal with your past pains and problems. He is faithful to walk with you through the process of dealing with the collateral damage of whatever He is revealing.

Maybe your husband left you with fractured identity, or your parent infected you with a disease to please. Whatever it is, this is not the time to shift blame. It is time to allow our Lord to do His transforming work within you.

Allow Him to teach you the things you need to learn.

Allow Him to renew your mind to his truth.

Allow Him to walk with you as you pull up the root of bitterness and break free from the demonic influence designed to keep you in bondage.

I love to meditate on Psalm 23:4; Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod a

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Do you ever wonder why your relationships start out great but then turn into a confusing, one-sided mess that leaves you scratching your head and wondering Why do I ALWAYS attract these people?

Maybe you even feel torn between the desire to see it through and the urge to run for the hills.

Today, I’m going to explain in detail why your greatest life strength is likely your worst relationship weakness AND give you the three steps needed to stop being taken advantage of by these parasitic, freeloaders.

Understanding this one problem will help you recognize why your relationships aren’t as mutually beneficial as you’d hoped.

So what is it?

It’s being solution-oriented, better known as problem-solving.

You may be thinking, Kris, that’s a great quality to have. How could it possibly cause such a problem?

I get it. As a solution-oriented person myself, I don’t like to waste time blaming others or wallowing in self-pity. If you’re anything like me, you don’t crumble under pressure—you get things done!

And that is an amazing quality that many people will be drawn to. Including toxic, dependent, leeching, narcissists.

Are you seeing the problem?

While problem solving is an amazing quality, hen it comes to relationships, your ‘solution’ focus can actually BE the problem.

You have a God-given gift of knowing what to do in each situation. And you likely derive joy in helping others solve their problems. But that’s where the true problem comes in—when you find yourself solving the same problems for the same people, and that incredible strength that you once felt so good about now has made you feel used.

Your relationships aren’t mutually beneficial, and it’s draining the life out of you.

Your solution-seeking gift is attracting nothing but problem-oriented people like a magnet.

Why? Because, the dynamic works perfectly together. Solution-oriented people don’t feel alive unless they are solving problems, so it makes sense that they would be drawn to people who need help.

And of course the problem-oriented person would be attracted to the solution-seeking person because well, they need solutions.

But the bigger problem is they only want your solutions in theory. They have no interest in using your divine wisdom to pull themselves out of the rut—they expect you to do that. They have no interest in being responsible for their own success—they’ll rely on you for that.

And because it’s impossible for you to play that role for long, ultimately you are seen as the problem. Yett because solutions are what you do best, you stay in the trenches until 5, 10, or 20 years go by and you’ve wasted your precious gift on someone who squandered it.

At this point, you’re probably wondering if you’ve got to squash your solution superpower. The answer is, absolutely not! We need you problem solvers.

But if you do want to flourish in mutually beneficial relationships, you are going to want to harness that strength of yours.

Here’s how:

Assess the problem: If you’ve determined that the people in your life have a problem for every solution, it may be time to stop casting your pearls before pigs (Matthew 7:6).
Assess the person. Your solution super power may be ready to aid every needy victim who manipulates you for help but before you offer your gift, examine the fruit. If it’s someone you’ve had history with and they’ve shown no fruit from previous solutions

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Who grows more in life--the person who never has anything go wrong and has the loveliest of relationships, or the person who had to overcome adversity and challenges?

If you said the overcomer, you’re right.

Understanding why God may have you in a narcissistic relationship can be challenging. But does so has the potential to bring more growth and strength than you could imagine.

We’ll explore the four reasons why God may have you in a narcissistic relationship. By the end of our time together, you will no longer think God has forgotten you.

Just as a caveat, remember, every situation is unique. This video aims to provide insight, not to justify unhealthy relationships.

Reason #1: To grow you

There are a lot of life skills many adults lack through no fault of their own. Many of our parents did the best they could, but too many of us are never taught the critical skills that help us advance in life. I’m not talking about balancing a checkbook. (Does anybody do that anymore?) Or fixing a leaky pipe. I’m talking more soft skills, such as how to deal with rejection, what to say when someone insults you, how to discern good from evil, how to emotionally regulate ourselves, and the list goes on.

Just because you didn’t learn those skills then, doesn’t mean you can't learn them now.

You likely developed survival skills out of fear-based self-protection. That is NOT how God wants you to live your life. It’s likely that God is saying, “Stop pretending you’re emotionally and spiritually grown up and let me grow you.”

More important is learning how to lean on and trust in the Lord with all your heart.

I love to hang on to the precious words found in Phil 1:6: “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”

He will never stop growing you, and narcissistic relationships can be a fertile ground for growth

Reason #2: To discipline you

You may be thinking, Wait, I'm the victim here. Why does God need to discipline ME?

I have spoken to very few people who did not see signs that this person they were entering into a relationship with was troubled.

You may not have known exactly what you were dealing with, but you didn’t need a label to know that you shouldn’t have moved forward, whether it was a romantic relationship, a friend, or a pastor.

Often times we find ourselves in a toxic relationship because of a dysfunctional need within ourselves that we don’t want to admit—unless of course we’re talking about a parental relationship. While you certainly did not choose your parents, you may still be the type to keep a toxic door open because you want or need something. For example—staying in a toxic relationship with a parent even after you’re an adult for financial support.

While God's correction is never comfortable, it’s helpful to remember Hebrews 12:7: “It is for discipline that you have to endure. God is treating you as sons. For what son is there whom his father does not discipline?”

Reason #3: To humble you

The enemy’s plan in narcissistic relationships is to get you focused on the hurts and offenses so much that you unknowingly develop narcissistic traits of your own. God will use them to humble you.

Deuteronomy 8:2 reminds us of the Israelites journey when it says: “And you shall remember the whole way that the Lord your God has led you these forty years in the wilderness, that he might humble you, testing you to k

As a people pleaser, you’re likely kind, compassionate, and caring.

You like to put people at ease.

You often go along to get along

You likely avoid conflict at all cost.

You assume the best of others, even when they’ve shown you their worst.

And you often say yes, even when you should say no.

People pleasers are just overall ‘nice’ people. And 'nice' certainly sounds like a 'nice' way to be. But ‘nice’ means that you’re pleasant and agreeable, even the expense of your own values and identity.

Still sound ‘nice?’

If you see yourself as a people pleaser, I want to share with you 9 people-pleasing traits that are not as nice as you think and the 5 steps to stop people-pleasing and start God-pleasing.

I want you to imagine for a moment that you are a Jenga game. The goal of the Jenga game is to build a tower by removing pieces from the bottom and adding them to the top without the entire tower falling down.

Every time you put the needs of others above your own, you remove a piece of the tower.

Every time you:

· change yourself to keep others happy

· betray your values to fit in

· allow someone to trample your boundaries in order to be liked by them

· agree even when you disagree

· apologize for something you didn’t do wrong

· take the blame when it’s not yours

· or enable bad behavior in order to keep the peace,

it’s a bit like removing a small piece of yourself. You compromise the foundation of who you are.

Each individual compromise feels like no big deal. After all, it’s keeping the peace, right?

But here’s the problem: little by little you chip away at yourself and give little pieces of yourself away to someone else until there are so many gaps that you don’t even recognize who you are. Or worse, it all comes crumbling down.

So when it’s important that you show up in life as you, you don’t know how, because you don't know who you are anymore. You’re not sure who you are outside of the approval and validation of others. You’re not even sure what matters most to you because you’ve spent so much of your life putting others first, seeking their validation and ignoring your own needs.

That’s why you’re struggling to live a life of purpose—because you’ve put your purpose in other people’s hands.

And these people that you’re trying to please so much, don’t even find this quality attractive. All they see is a broken, fragile person they can likely take advantage of.

So, my question for you is this: Is this the dependent place you want to live from?

Before things come tumbling down completely, there is a way forward.

If you are willing to follow the 5 steps I’ve outlined below, God will begin to rebuild these fragmented pieces of your personality, one by one, until you are healed and whole.

Step 1: Recognize

Recognize people pleasing for what it truly is—a self-serving, idolatrous, even manipulative way of life. I realize this is painful to hear, but pretending that you’re doing this for others simply isn’t being honest. People pleasers strive to please others because they are trying to please themselves. You must acknowledge that underlying ‘give to get’ motive.

Step 2: Repent

It’s hard to imagine having to repent of being 'nice.' But remember that 'niceness' is driven by an internal motivation for approval and validation, OUTSIDE of God. Every time you say yes to others and no to God, you confirm your allegiance to meeting your need, and not leaving it to God.

Step 3: ResolveNow is the time to decide whom you'll s

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It was 2012. I was growing in my faith like many Christians, slow and steady. But something happened in December of that year that led me to make a decision that caused my faith to skyrocket. It was one of THE most difficult times of my life.

Today, I’m going to share with you the one simple change I made to strengthen my faith, and then I’m going to tear apart some common misconceptions when it comes to trusting God and what I could have done better.

What was going on in my life that made trusting God so challenging?

I’d been an entrepreneur most of my life. For the most part, things went well, until they didn’t.

Business wasn’t what it used to be. I was newly married. It was smack in the middle of a recession. My savings were drained. My income was down to 1/3 of what I used to make. My wonderful new husband was severely underemployed, and on top of that, he had an ex-wife who loved going to court for sport. The strain of step parenting, preparing my daughter for college, and having a mid-life shift in a tiny two-bedroom townhome was enough to drive anyone to find solace in a cookie jar.

Needless to say, life was NOT what I hoped it would be at this stage of my life.

And suddenly God tells me it’s time to move on.

Move on? Gladly. Whacha got for me Lord? A shiny new business opportunity? I’ll take whatever new beginnings you have for me, Lord. Move me along.

I sensed in my spirit God telling me to move on into ministry.

If silence had a sound, this would be deafening. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

Lord, didn’t you hear me. I’m struggling here.

Of course He heard me, but I wasn’t hearing him. I didn’t want to believe that leaving a love of business would turn into a life in ministry.

How did I respond?

Truthfully, my heart was all in, but my head was hesitant. I was the breadwinner of the family and business was all I’d ever known. But now, God was not only asking me to close the business but also to go back to school, meaning I would lose income AND add expenses.

I’m no math wiz but this wasn’t adding up.

So I vacillated, I negotiated, and I contemplated. The more I did, the worse it got. God wasn’t looking for my understanding. He was looking for my trust.

So what did I do?

I panicked. The truth is, I was used to trusting in myself. I’d done it for years. But now, I had no idea what life was going to look like, I had no idea where our next mortgage payment would come from. Nothing made sense and the worst part is, I had no control over anything.

I had a choice to make. Would I continue to rely on my own resources, or would I trust Him?

What I realized at that moment, is that I hadn’t trusted God as much as I thought I did (as evidenced by my panic).

So I made ONE change.

I chose to hang up any preconceived notions about what God should do for me and when. And I decided that I was just going to trust Him. Day by day, moment by moment, I put my trust in Him to work it all out.

Sounds so simple, but simple and easy aren’t the same. There are some common misconceptions about what true trust in the Lord looks like.

Misconception #1: Faith is a feeling.

We can all feel good when we hear an encouraging worship song or when we’re blessed in our circumstances, but if that same faith turns to fear the minute that your circumstances change, your trust wasn’t really where you thought it was.

If you’re the type that responds by saying, “Oh, it’s only natural to react th

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You want to live a life of purpose. You long to feel fulfilled in what you do. And of course, your ultimate desire is to hear those wonderful words, “Well done, my good and faithful servant.”

But why is it that some Christians try everything to find their calling and still feel purposeless, while others seem to just fall into it and flourish?

I’ve noticed patterns that cause Christians to find significance in life without selling their soul.

And sadly they’re the things that most Christians are doing wrong.

So today, I want to share with you the 4 purpose-wreaking mistakes to avoid at all cost, and how to fix them if you are making them so you can stop fretting and start stepping into the calling God has for you.

Mistake #1: Holding on

Did you know that one of the most common ways to trap a monkey is to place a banana in a cage? The monkey grabs hold of that banana and won’t let go, meaning he can’t pull his hand out of the trap. If he would simply let go, he could easily slip his hand out and be free.

That’s how Christians behave when they aren’t fully submitted to the Lord.
Are you holding onto something that is keeping you from living your God-given purpose? Maybe it’s money, fear, or prestige. Whatever it is, God is asking for it to be completely surrendered, so that He can have His way.

If you find yourself fretting and frustrated, it’s likely because you’re holding onto something and not trusting His sovereignty.

Mistake #2: Trying to be something you’re not

This is one that I believe is a BIG problem in the body of Christ. And sadly I have fallen victim to it as well. In fact, I wasted 11 months of my life purpose in trying to be something that others convinced me was beneficial.

My journey to purpose started with a desire to help God’s people grow in faith, but I had no idea how to express it. The problem came when I tried to model myself after others. In other words, I was trying to be someone that I wasn’t.

I let others convince me that soft and sweet was the way to be, that taking the safe road was the way to reach more people, that I needed to be liked, and so on.

I was all over the place.

The truth is, I’m not really sweet, definitely not soft, I hate playing it safe, and it’s way too much work to be anyone other than myself!

But I thought it was a good idea to take the well meaning but dead wrong advice of others instead of consulting with my manufacturer (as in, God).

All that time I spent struggling and striving to be something else when all I really needed to do was to operate in my God-given temperament and flow in my God-given gifts.

I want to encourage you to stay in your lane. It will be the only way you can finish your race.

Mistake #3: Mistaking career for purpose

When I first stepped out as a Christian coach, my heart’s desire was to help others discover their God-given purpose. But in session after session, I would meet with people who were bent on finding the right career choice. And because I wanted to see them happy and successful (and not frustrated with me), I ended up walking that road with them.

Many of the clients I worked with did find alternative careers but it didn’t mean that they were living a life of purpose.

Since those initial encounters I’ve recognized that there really are two types of Christians: those who long to find purpose, and those who believe career equates to purpose.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with being in a career you love, but it doesn’t mean you’re living your life p

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Most professionals agree that narcissists can’t change.

I don’t believe that’s true. I believe narcissists can change.

Today, I want to share with you why I disagree, the three caveats of narcissism, and the guidelines that will help you determine if your narcissist is redeemable.

This isn’t based upon statistical information or popular psychology, but rather my own opinion and experience.

I’ve seen a lot of narcissists in my day.

I’ve experienced first-hand personally and professionally the damage that a narcissist can do to your physical, emotional, mental, and even your spiritual health. In many cases, there can be lifelong side effects.

For me to make such a bold contradictory statement, let me break down, informal levels of narcissists, and help you determine if your narcissist is redeemable, or beyond hope.

3 (Informal) Types of Narcissists: Ignorant, Arrogant, and Malignant

The ignorant narcissist is typically unaware of their destructive behaviors. They are likely emotionally immature and have not been taught properly.

This doesn’t excuse their behavior, but there’s some hope here, with a big ‘if’ attached (and we’ll get to the if in a moment.) Think of these ignorant narcissists as children.

The arrogant is another level up. This narcissist recognizes their wrongdoing, yet continues to make decisions that only work in their favor.

Arrogant isn’t limited to the overt narcissist. Arrogant simply describes the lack of care that a person has regarding their actions.

This narcissist likely knows exactly what they’re doing and doesn’t care unless it impacts them. More on that in a moment.

The malignant narcissist is the most troublesome of all. This narcissist is solidified in their beliefs that life is all about them and they will trample anyone in their way and they don’t care who it impacts. These people are highly abusive and derive pleasure from hurting others.

They will stop at nothing to lie and manipulate to get what they want.

While many people in narcissistic relationships jump to the assumption that their narcissist is malignant, please understand that this is a very, very small percentage of the narcissists out there.

Now that we’ve broken the levels of narcissism down, let’s look at how likely your narcissist is to change.

There’s hope IF…

· Their life is impacted in a negative way.

· There’s a risk that they’ll lose something that’s important to them. For example, your love, time, affection, money, companionship, etc.

· They are an ignorant or arrogant narcissist.

Remember, narcisissts are very self-centered individuals. They only care what’s in it for them.

This is where your boundaries can prove helpful.

They will often fall in line, albeit reluctantly, if there is a great risk of loss for them.

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Have you ever been told that “Love conquers all,” or “All you need is love”?

While these make for great song lyrics, they also make for great gaslighting weapons designed to make you believe that it’s your responsibility transform a narcissist.

These ideas may make you think if you can just love like Jesus, everything will be great. The gaslighting will stop, they’ll value you as a person, and they’ll finally realize all the wrong they’ve done to you.

This, my friend, is wishful thinking.

That’s why I want to talk to you about why your love can’t change a narcissist, and share something that can.

I was prompted to think about loving the narcissist after a message came through on one of my videos on YouTube. This viewer wrote (I shortened it for the sake of time):

“Have you ever wondered if your videos may cause people to divide, rather than seek to love others? We serve a loving God that desires us to love Him most and love others as ourself (Mark 12:30-31).

God knows the full story. He tells us to talk to the other person. He tells us to love, forgive, seek peace, do not lean on YOUR own understanding. How much better place this world would be if we could seek to stop labeling others and looking for fault, and figuring out ways to be on guard against people all the time. How much happier we would be if we did things God's way!”

I was going to respond to the message but realized that there’s so much to unpack here and it’s likely something that you’re struggling with too. You’re either asking similar questions or you’re struggling with people like who twist God’s scripture to bring shame to an already painful situation.

There’s much that I disagree with in this message, but for the sake of time, I want to focus on this idea of ‘love’.

Many people, especially Christians, are under the misconception that it’s our job to love unconditionally.

But there’s even much debate among scholars as to whether God’s love is truly unconditional.

Some will say that God’s love IS unconditional, as displayed in John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”

While His love is unconditional, His acceptance and rewards are not.

Others say God’s love is conditional because His love cannot contradict his goodness and holiness. But in his love, he provided a solution--the finished work of the cross--and all we need to do is repent to be in right relationship with Him. (Maybe with a few consequences to pay, but in with God nonetheless.)

Regardless of which side of the fence you fall on, what many are interpreting as ‘love’ is actually tolerance and enablement of sin, no repentance required.

So, if your love communicates tolerance to a narcissist, why would they change?

The truth is, the narcissist interprets your love as foolishness. They’re not thankful for it. They expect it.

Much like a sinner who hears the “God loves you so much” message and thinks, “OK, cool, I’m good then,” so does the narcissist feel in the face of your love.

Perhaps it’s time to reject the notion that you’re somehow a bad Christian if you don’t endure narcissistic abuse, and embrace the wise words of Proverbs 22:3: “The prudent sees danger and hides himself, but the simple go on and suffer for it.”

After all,

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As Christians, we hear so many messages about loving others and forgiving and forbearing. While these are wonderful, Christlike commands that we should obey, do they apply to all people, all the time?

I’m not advocating for malicious, cruel treatment of anyone, but you can run into a problem when you forbear under people who God specifically instructs us to avoid.

In fact, there are several types of people that scripture tell us to avoid at all cost.

Not transform.

Not reform.

Not conform to.

But stay away from.

Let’s break down the five types of people God wants you to avoid at all costs.

Type #1: Bad influences

Do not be deceived. “Bad company ruins good morals.” (1 Corinthians 15:33)

God doesn’t say you can’t spend time with non-believers. Otherwise, how could you witness to the lost?

But you must be extra careful to ensure that you are the influencer, not the influence.

That guardrail you think you have in place to protect against your friend’s bigotry or your coworker’s criticism can easily fall to the point that you can’t tell the difference between what they think and what you think.

Remember the famous quote from Dan Pena: “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future.”

Type #2: False teachers

1 John 4:1 reminds us, “Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world.”

And 2 John 1:10 follows up with, “If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not take them into your house or welcome them.”

In today’s world of tolerance, we often write off demonically inspired behavior as just “different.”

But scripture is clear when it says that not everyone in this world has good intentions.

Your job is not to reform a wolf into a sheep—it’s to simply avoid them.

Type #3: Divisive people

One of the most damaging sins to the body of Christ are gossipers. Since most people love a piece of juicy gossip, you can become party to this destructive sin with just a little curiosity.

Be careful of people who want the 411 so they can better pray. They are really gossipers in disguise.

Also beware of:

· people who pretend to be happy for you but are secretly envious

· people who ‘just tell it like it is’ but are really looking for a good argument

· people who come across wounded but are so easily offended

These people and many more only have one goal in mind, even if they don’t realize it—to sow division.

Titus 3:9-11 is crystal clear when it commands:

"But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. 10 As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, 11 knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned.”

Type #4: Christians who profess but don’t confess

This is a pervasive problem in the church today. Christians who attend church but live a worldly life. These people profess to follow God, but don’t confess their sins before God.

With the Holy Spirit in you, you may sin but you won’t be happy doing it. It will be a battle.

If a Christian is continually living a life of unrepentant sin, I question if they are a true Christian at all

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Every relationship will have its ups and downs—not just romantic relationships, but any person you’re trying to have a healthy, godly connection with. How can you tell when your relationship is dysfunctional or downright destructive?

Hopefully you know that issues such as abuse, infidelity, substance abuse, and being secretive are examples of toxic behavior.

But what about the less obvious examples—the ones you just can’t put your finger on?

Today I want to talk to you about 8 relationship red flags that no Christian should ignore in ANY relationship.

Before we dive in, I just want to say that there is a difference between troubled and toxic.

Troubles can play out in a difference of opinions, personalities, and even a difference in values. Troubled people can have difficulty regulating their emotions and are likely to struggle with past and current triggers and suffer from emotional immaturity.

While toxic people can have many of these same struggles, it doesn’t end there.

While we do want to extend the same grace to troubled people that God extends to us, we also want to discern if we’re trying to treat a wolf as a sheep.

Red Flag #1: Manipulation

If you’ve forgive me, you’d back off
If you leave, I’ll hurt myself
I don’t know why you don’t just trust me

When a person is manipulative, they only have one thing on their mind--how can I get my needs met? It’s self-serving but sly.

Manipulation can take the form of guilt, anger, passive aggression and scripture twisting.

If someone responds with rage when you question them, they are trying to manipulate you into backing down.

The same is true for passive aggression. Behind the mask, passive aggressive people are extremely manipulative. They pretend to be one thing while scheming to change your behavior to suit their agenda.

Their intent is to deceive you. And if you catch them in their lie, they will often deflect from their true motive by saying things like, I was only joking.

Red Flag #2: Walking on Eggshells

It’s not just what you said, it’s how you said it. Now I’m upset. Thanks a lot.
Why do you have to breathe so loudly? You know it bothers me.

In healthy relationships behaviors and communication are easy to navigate (for the most part).

In eggshell relationships you take considerable care to avoid upsetting the other person. This often creates a dynamic of codependency as you’re constantly watching for how this person feels so you can navigate without upsetting them. It’s tense.

People that make you walk on eggshells are controlling. They target your mental and emotional well-being in an effort to subdue you.

If you’re constantly scared to bring something up, or if you’re always trying to formulate what you want to say and how to say it, and are constantly met with gaslighting, blaming, or utter disregard, my friend, you have crossed a serious red flag.

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Red Flag #3: Control

I do it because I love you
After all I’ve done for you, this is the least you could do for me

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Quitting is a natural part of life that gets a bad rap.

For example, what would it be like if you stayed at your first job? Or if you married the first person you had a crush on?

There are many instances when quitting is the right thing to do.

So, how do you know when to stay and when to walk away?

Sometimes it’s obvious, like when you’re being pressured to do ungodly things and it’s clear you shouldn't be in relationship with people like that. But what do you do in those less obvious situations? How do you know when God is giving you the grace to endure under a trial, and when He’s telling you to give up on someone?

Sign #1: They treat you poorly

Being treated poorly doesn’t mean that others are not giving you what you want or even disagreeing with you, but rather that they are disregarding you as a person. This can be done through ridicule, gaslighting, manipulation, taking advantage, contempt, disregard, indifference and stonewalling, just to name a few.

The end result is an utter lack of respect for you regardless of what their words say.

Their words may say “I’m sorry,” but their actions prove that there’s been no true repentance.

When the relationship brings more pain than joy, it’s time to reevaluate it. Staying in a disrespectful and abusive situation can lead to further abuse and codependency and even trauma bonding, as your happiness remains wrapped up in their emotions and behaviors.

It may help to remember the wise words of Proverbs 19:19: “A man of great wrath will pay the penalty, for if you deliver him, you will only have to do it again.”

So ask yourself. Am I being a burden bearer, or a sin enabler?

Sign #2: They bring out the worst in you

Are you constantly triggered by their guilt-inducing comments? Do you find yourself always arguing?

While we are all responsible for our own behavior and I would encourage you to get help for the areas that may be triggering for you, there are just some people whom you don’t do well with.

Maybe you find yourself catering to their dysfunctions or kowtowing to their every emotion. This is not how God calls us to be in relationship and it’s certainly not one that will likely glorify Him.

Remember 1 Corinthians 15:33: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”

If you find yourself unable to maintain healthy boundaries with this person, I suggest that you treat this relationship like any other temptation that God would want you to flee from.

Do they cause you to slip into slander? Fall into falsehood? Stumble into sin? God calls us to be sober-minded and self-controlled. If both of these areas are in jeopardy, consider taking a break in the relationship and getting help with a good Christian counselor.

In Eph 6, God tells us to put on the whole armor of God so that we can withstand evil. But does this mean that we should intentionally walk into evil? Of course not.

Just as we are called to strengthen our immune system to withstand the germs and viruses that look to attack us, it doesn’t mean you need to lick a petri dish. You shouldn’t invite yourself into evil, tempting relationships. Stay away when needed.

Sign #3: You’re codependent

In a nutshell, codependency says, “If you’re OK, I’m OK. If you’re not OK, I’m not OK. So I need you to be OK so I can be OK.” In some cases, it needs the other person to change so you can feel OK.

My friend, this is not OK. That anxiety within you needs to be addressed.

While on the outside, the relationship may seem loving and each perfect for

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There was no way anyone could convince me that crystals are for Christians. NO WAY!

I was the type who would walk into a business and see crystals and automatically think, This is ridiculous—you criticize me for following Jesus, but you’re rubbing rocks. Who’s the fool here?

Crystals are said to healing powers and if you’re anything like me, you think, Hogwash. Jesus is the only healer. And then avoid crystals at all cost.

And then one day, someone sent me an amethyst crystal. It was part of a marketing plan to draw attention to their shop, but what drew my attention as I was placing it in the garbage was the beauty of this piece—the detail, the color, the uniqueness. It was stunning!

But there’s no way on God’s green earth that I’m going to have a crystal in my home. Who knows what kind of demons this brings with it.

But I’ll be honest, I couldn’t bring myself to throw this beautiful stone away.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that some silly stone, no matter how pretty was going to trump God’s truth. But, it did get me thinking. I’ve certainly been wrong in the past (don’t tell my husband), so it is possible that I’m wrong about crystals.

So I dove deep into God’s word to see what He had to say about crystals, and my thoughts were transformed.

I read scripture after scripture that talked about crystals and gemstones in the bible and their significance. Rubies appear in Proverbs 8:11, sapphires in Lamentations 4:7, and topaz in Job 28:19.

Even the breastplate worn by the Levitical high priest contained twelve stones, each engraved with the name of a tribe of Israel:

“The first row was carnelian, chrysolite and beryl; the second row was turquoise, lapis lazuli and emerald; the third row was jacinth, agate and amethyst; the fourth row was topaz, onyx and jasper. They were mounted in gold filigree settings.” -- Exodus 39:10-13

The river flowing from the heavenly throne is described in Revelation 22:1 “as clear as crystal.”

The area before the throne is described in Revelation 4:6 as something like “a sea of glass, clear as crystal” and in Ezekiel 1:22 it says “Over the heads of the living creatures there was kthe likeness of an expanse, shining like awe-inspiring lcrystal, spread out above their heads.”

Awe-inspiring!

And that’s when I made the connection. I wasn’t drawn to this tiny crystal because I was struggling with believing New Age nonsense. I was truly awe-inspired by it’s beauty.

But here’s what I didn’t find. Nowhere in scripture did the Bible mention any mystical properties to crystals. So all of that pseudoscience that claims crystals have healing properties or can align or stimulate your body’s chakras are rubbish.

Crystals also don’t hold any power to ward off bad energy or bring good energy. They don’t emanate good vibrations and they certainly don’t attract wealth or kindle romance. They are simply beautiful pieces of God’s creation. Just like my diamond ring, my crystal vase, or my marble tabletop.

They can bring beauty to my home and outfit but they hold no powers. For a Christian to think otherwise will bring rebuke.

You see, the Bible warns strongly against engaging in anything related to superstition or the occult and declares the practice detestable. It’s witchcraft and idolatry, plain and&

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Don’t know what to say when that toxic person gaslights you yet again?

Do you stress that all that hard work and rehearsing will only leave you feeling speechless when the time comes? Or worse—reacting in a way that’s nearly as toxic?

That’s why I want to give you the steps to knowing exactly what to say when someone blatantly lies to your face. They can help you keep your peace and walk away from that interaction feeling rather pleased with yourself.

One caveat: This is not a one-size-fits-all script. However, the steps you’re about to learn can be applied to whatever the gaslighter throws at you. Also, this isn’t just a ‘say this, not that’ type of article. We’re going to dive deep. Because I’m concerned more about your mental, emotional, and spiritual health, than I am about just giving you a predetermined script.

Gaslighting is a common form of manipulation that occurs when one person tries to control and deceive another. This form of ‘witchcraft’ can take place in any relationship—parent, partner, pastor, coworker, or friend. It can even be your hairstylist who tells you you’re seeing things, or your doctor who dismisses your symptoms.

Whoever is doing it, gaslighting can be incredibly distressing as its intent is to cause you to question your own reality.

Many people who realize they are being gaslit often jump to unsustainable solutions like crumbling under victimhood or calling the other person out. And that’s not always wrong. (Well, the victimhood is.) But calling someone out is maybe not the best strategy. And the reason why is simple.

Knowing what to say to each and every scenario a gaslighter throws at you can be daunting.

It can feel almost impossible to know how to respond in those moments and not spend the next three days beating yourself up over what you shoulda, coulda, and woulda said.

Knowing what to say and how to say is like expecting to start climbing a ladder on the fourth step, without taking steps 1, 2 and 3. Unless you’re a cat or a ninja, you’re likely to struggle to jump all the way up there. And that could be a big reason why you get flustered when the narcissist hurls another invalidating insult your way. It’s difficult to ask yourself to do something you aren’t fully prepared and trained to do.

The steps that we’re about to take are going to build a confidence ladder that will help you make your way to the top without tripping over your own two feet.

Step 1: Determine whether it’s truly gaslighting.

The term gaslighting has become so over used and abused. The truth is, not every denial and difference of opinion is gaslighting. Not everyone that calls you out is gaslighting you.

But if you’re on high alert for being gaslit, you can see flames where there are none. Sometimes you’re simply dealing with an emotionally immature person who needs to learn how to better finesse their words.

Granted neither one is easy to deal with, however, it does determine how you respond.

Step #2: Identify your triggers

Yes, we’re starting with you, not them. Why? Identifying YOUR triggers helps you get to the core of the issue. I know I know…the gaslighter is the problem, but in case you haven’t noticed, they’re not changing.

What can change is YOU! And the truth is, there’s truth behind their lies and that’s why it’s hitting you so hard.

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It’s a terrible frustration of mine—true God fearing people who are like sheep led to the slaughter simply because they’re believing false teachings.

I recently did a video about the four false teachings I used to believe until I came to my senses. Just a few days after the video launched, I saw this book by Allen Parr, called Misled: 7 Lies That Distort the Gospel. I had to get my hands on it.

I wanted to see for myself if Allen was grounded in scripture or just another false teacher with false teachings. And what I found surprised me.

For starters, Allen is a bible teacher with a massive following on YouTube who is controversial. In fact, several people boldly call him a heretic. So, I had to see for myself.

Before I dive into what I liked and what I didn’t like, I want to say that I wanted to go into this book with eyes wide open. I don’t expect to agree with every teacher on everything. As long as we stand together on the essentials, I can call you brother.

You may be saying, what do you mean by ‘essentials’?

The death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ is an essential. If we don’t agree on this, well…

But there are non-essentials, such as speaking in tongues, Christians having demons, modern music or traditional, being slain in the spirit—things like that. These non-essentials are not supposed to cause division in the body of Christ, yet they still do. For proof, jump into the comments section of any one of my YouTube videos and inevitably there will be some negative comment coming from someone who claims to be a Christ follower.

I’ve had enough exposure to Allen to confidently say that I can call him brother—but can I recommend his book?

In the name of full transparency, I’ve had conversations with Allen and he’s even been a guest on my YouTube channel. And while we don’t align perfectly on every issue, we do on most, and certainly on the essentials.

So, I got myself the audio and kindle version of Misled and I dove right in. And what I found surprised me. I had a feeling it was going to be good. What I didn’t expect was how much I actually enjoyed it.

Allen went straight to the point, right out of the gate—I love that. I personally have a hard time reading fluffy stories loaded down with adjectives and superlatives and descriptions that take two pages to get the point across. I’m a direct kind of gal and this book grabbed me from the start.

Now, I’m not saying that it was at all didactic or statistical—not at all. The first story Allen opened with actually shocked me and I was almost in tears. As I continued to listen, he broke down each false teaching one by one with a depth that I didn’t expect.

So, I want to take a moment to talk about what I liked and what I didn’t like and if I would recommend that you read this book.

What I liked:

First off, it was an easy read. I gobbled this book up in two bike rides and a paint job. But I didn’t expect to have to stop a few times just to take some notes. I like when an author gives me cause for pause.
Allen gave a good biblical defense to each of the false teachings he exposed. I see too many people let scripture take a back seat to their experiences.
He not only called out false teachings, but also some of the teachers that promote it. Some of these teachers need to be exposed as their teachings are gaining ground among carnal, immature Christians who can be easily swayed, especially if he/she doesn’t check scripture for himself. We need to know who these false teachers are and the sly nuances they use to distort the gospel of Jesus Christ. He didn’t danc

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Here’s a question I get asked often: “Am I the toxic one?”

And while in some cases that question is prompted from years of gaslighting, other times, it’s because you’re sensing that you may not be as innocent as you think.

One of my favorite scriptures reminds us, “For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. For each will have to bear his own load.” (Galatians 6:3-5)

The truth is, many toxic relationships have more than one person contributing. There’s a tango taking place and it’s making for one very ugly dance.

There’s a difference between struggling with things in relationship and being a bad person.

Look, we all have things to work on. But there’s also a fine line between broken and bad.

So how do you know how big of a part you’re playing in the toxic tango?

Here are 16 questions you can ask to see if you are contributing to the problem more than you think.

Question #1

Do I recognize the areas I need to work on and seek help? Or do I quickly defend myself and maybe even blame others?

It can be tempting to defend and deflect but that will only serve to deteriorate the relationship.

Question #2

Do I take action to correct my problem areas? Or do I justify my behavior, especially if it’s triggered by the other person?

Question #3

Do I go to the Lord for godly counsel when my emotions are a mess? Or do I rely upon others to make me feel better (validated, confident, happy, understood, etc.).

If your hope is more in people than God, you will put more pressure on a relationship than it can handle.

Question #4

Do I assume responsibility for my actions and reactions? Or do I think, If they would just change?

Relying upon the actions of others for your wellbeing is treading on very thin codependent ice.

Question #6

Do I speak the truth in love and allow room for any outcome? Or do I get upset when people don’t take my advice or suggestions?

If you’re unable to communicate with love and truth, it’s likely that you’re expressing yourself in a passive aggressive manner.

Question #7

Do I communicate with directness and clarity? Or do I expect others to read my mind?

God expects us to say what we mean and mean what we say, but indirect behavior can be another form of passive aggression. The result sometimes can be outbursts, withdrawing, stonewalling, or avoiding, all of which are manipulation.

Question #8

Do I handle anger in a healthy and godly way? Or do I have regular angry outbursts that I blame others for?

Your response is your responsibility. And while anger is a God-given emotion, it’s not appropriate to express it in a destructive manner. Yes, someone’s actions can trigger anger within you, but it’s up to you how that anger will be handled. Remember, you can’t pull out you what’s not already in you.

Question #9

Do I handle rejection, disagreements and disappointment with grace, or do I fall apart?

Automatic reactions, like crying, angry outbursts, and passive aggressive comments, are typically a sign of someone who has not mastered their emotions. So when disappointment and disagreements take place, whatever is repressed often bubbles to the surface.

Question #10

Do I accept constructive criticism and complaints well? Or do I need others to tell me what I want to hear?

Truth tellers are often a threat to a toxic person’s self-delusion. I

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Do you ever feel like you’ve got a bullseye on your back? Like the kingdom of darkness got together for a meeting and decided to focus all of their attention on YOU?

There are times when it seems like the enemy’s attacks are relentless, but did you know that there are times when he finds it most advantageous to strike against you?

In fact, there are 4 occasions that he will strike nearly EVERY TIME!

Occasion #1: Sin

Sin is an open door for Satan and his demons to have full access to your life. While that may not be your desire or intention, Isaiah 59:2 reminds us that our sin separates us from God.

When it comes to the enemy’s attacks, there are legal and illegal entries. Illegal entries are where Satan overstepped his bounds and you can go to God and ask for deliverance and restitution.

Legal entry, on the other hand, happens when you gave permission—whether you wanted to or not. And sin is a legal entry point.

Sin however, isn’t limited to big ticket items like adultery and murder. According to scripture, ALL sin is an open door for Satan. That’s why, the longer you sin, the harder it is to get him to back off.

So how do you slam the door?

The good news is that God gave us an easy way to kick Satan to the curb. This doesn’t mean that he won’t stop trying to influence you (more on this later), but it does mean that you can close the door to his infiltration.

You can slam the door to Satan through repentance. 1 John 1:9 says if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

When you confess you sins and turn from them, you give Satan his eviction notice

Occasion #2: Breakthrough is Coming

Right at the beginning of Jesus’ public ministry, Satan attacked Jesus in the wilderness.

And when Jesus had been baptized, just as He came up from the water, suddenly the heavens were opened to Him and He saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on Him. And a voice from heaven said, "This is My Son, the Beloved, with whom I am well pleased." Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the desert to be tempted by the Devil. (Matthew 3:16,17;4:1)

Jesus took every one of Satan’s temptations and knocked them out of the park. Not just because he was Jesus, but because of his desire to please the Father and fulfill his purpose.

If we keep our eyes fixed on pleasing Him and fulfilling our purpose, we too can resist whatever Satan throws at us.

How you respond to demonic attacks during these critical times can be the difference between breakthrough and another trip around the mountain.

Occasion #3: Temptation

Satan will never stop trying to attack you. It’s what he does. So praying that he stops is not a prayer that will get answered. And playing the victim because he’s tempting you doesn’t take you off the hook.

Instead, you can pray that you don’t fall into that temptation. Your job is to RESIST the devil’s temptations.

Remember 1 Corinthians 10:13—no temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and He will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation He will also provide the way of escape, so that you may be able to endure it.

Temptation comes in many forms, from desires to difficult people. Your job is to RESIST. Not rationalize. Not justify. RESIST.

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You’re too sensitive.

I never said that!

YOU’RE the one with the problem.

Why do you make everything such a big deal?

If you’ve ever had these words spoken to you, you, my friend, may have been gaslit.

Gaslighting is the withholding of information or pretending that you don’t understand what someone else is talking about in an attempt to get that person to question their reality and good judgment. It the evil attempt to distort another person’s reality through lies and manipulation, and a desperate attempt for self-preservation.

Gaslighters project their issues onto you to divert attention away from their dysfunction or wrongdoing, and they don’t care who they harm along the way.

They will even go so far as to deny something has taken place even in the face of concrete evidence.

But gaslighting doesn’t typically end there. In fact, I have never seen gaslighting as a stand-alone behavior. It’s commonly accompanied by things like infidelity, narcissism, stealing, gossiping, and smear campaigns, just to name a few.

While the term gaslighting does not appear in the bible, a word that mirrors it certainly does: manipulation.

That’s because gaslighting IS manipulation. And the bible certainly has a lot to say about manipulation. From watching out for false teachers, to avoiding evil doers, God does NOT tolerate a lying tongue.

At its core, manipulation is a form of lying. When someone speaks falsely with the purpose of deception, they are being manipulative. Satan himself is the master manipulator.

There are several examples of emotional abuse in scripture, including Abigail at the hand of her fool of a husband in 1 Samuel 25 and Samson at the hand of the alluring Delilah, just to name a few.

So, let’s look to scripture to shine light on what a healthy relationship should look like in comparison and in doing so provide Biblical proof that gaslighting is emotional abuse.

The famous love passage in 1 Corinthians 13 makes it clear that emotional abuse is wrong. The apostle Paul describes the actions of real love.

First, he says love is patient and kind (1 Corinthians 13:4), but gaslighting is neither patient nor kind. Rather, it’s quick to flare up and deflect.

Love “keeps no record of wrongs” (verse 5), but gaslighting is all about pointing out how another person is wrong and has wronged you.

Love is not rude or selfish or prideful or irritable or resentful, but as with all emotional abuse, gaslighting is self-preservation.

Love “always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” (verse 7). Emotional abusers only look to protect themselves.

As you can see, if you are not aware of the tactics used by these wolves in sheep’s clothing, you can easily become a target for their emotional abuse.

So, does “love” require you to bear with these emotional abusers? I don’t believe so.

To continue to endure under such toxic behavior gives permission and acceptance to the abuser that their behavior is tolerated. God finds that behavior despicable, and so should we.

You may be thinking: "But they could change because of my love."

To that I say, yes, they can change, but enabling the current circumstances all in the name of love will not bring about change—it will only keep the door open for further abuse.

In addition, there may be degrees of codependency within you that needs to be addressed.

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Some of the teachings that are coming out of some churches today are just off. And some are down right ridiculous—mixing worldviews and new age teachings to make some convoluted mix of what we call progressive Christianity. And I’m embarrassed to say I not only believed some of this stuff, I TAUGHT IT. God forgive me.

Since scripture instructs us to not neglect gathering together, how do you find a church that is faithful to the text and doesn’t just tickle your ears?

May I suggest that you apply the Berean principle. Acts 17:11 lays that out for us.

The Berean Jews were of more noble character than those in Thessalonica, for they received the message with great eagerness and examined the Scriptures every day to see if what Paul said was true.

So let’s be like the Bereans and examine some of these false (but common) teachings floating around a church near you.

False teaching #1: Manifesting

There is a new age teaching out there that basically says what you speak, envision, and think will come to pass, also known as the law of attraction.

The idea that Christians can name it and claim it or ‘speak’ something into existence is not only nonsense, it’s witchcraft.

From vision boards to decreeing and declaring, many Christians have tried to take the sovereign will of God into their own hands.

Those who follow the “decree and declare” formula make such statements as “I decree and declare that I am healed,” or “I decree and declare my family will be wealthy.”

Humbly asking God for things in prayer is replaced by decreeing those things to happen, and then calling it faith.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for watching the words of my mouth and boldly declaring God’s truth, but the power to speak things into existence is referred to Romans 4:17.

As it is written: “I have made you a father of many nations.”[a] He is our father in the sight of God, in whom He believed—the God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not.

Did you catch that? It says GOD calls things that were not—NOT us.

Instead, look for teachers who encourage you to keep your life surrendered to the sovereign will of God. And stick to making your decrees according to biblical truth and not personal preference.

False teaching #2: Emotionalism

Emotionalism isn’t so much taught as it is assumed. Stirring the emotions of the crowd is often mistaken for a ‘powerful’ move of God.

Emotionalism in the church is a reaction based upon feeling. It’s often very expressive, but devoid of true worship.

I’m not saying that everyone who has expressive moments are simply responding emotionally, but many are.

True worship is not just a surface reaction to a strong drumbeat or lyrics to a cool new song.

True worship is a reverence for a holy God and it is a direct response to our awe and wonder of His majesty.

There’s nothing wrong with great music and a beautiful atmosphere. But God doesn’t need us to conjure up a false move of the holy spirit. He’s plenty powerful to reach every hurting heart and sorry sinner.

False teaching #3: Me-ology

Are you a part of a church that makes the Bible all about you?

Yes, there should be proper application of biblical truth to your life, but that’s only a small portion.

In many ‘Me-ology’ churches, it’s all about ME. My decision, my battles, my experience, my truth—it’s all about me.

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If you’re like many well-meaning Christians who choose to stay with a narcissist, you can’t quiet that nagging question—how do I love this person without letting their toxic behavior get to me?

Another common thought is, I’m barely done forgiving them for their last offense and here come three more.

The underlying question is, How do I love them without losing myself?!

To love a toxic person without losing yourself, there are three traps that you’ll need to avoid.

Trap #1: Empathy. In general, empathy is a wonderful, Christ-like quality. But when you have empathy for a narcissist, the receiver only hears another opportunity to take advantage of you. (Even if they don’t say that out loud.)

The real trap of having empathy for a narcissist is the false belief that you can heal them.

Trap #2: Codependency. Codependency is an unhealthy--almost addictive--attachment to another person. It is the devil’s counterfeit for interdependency. When codependency is thriving, you can’t be ok unless the other person is OK with you.

The underlying trap of codependency is a quiet belief that you can change them.

Trap #3: Hope. All things are possible with God. But the problem doesn’t lie with God, it lies with the narcissist’s choices. And until they stop choosing demonic behavior and repent, there isn’t much hope.

Proverbs 13:12 reminds us, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.”

So, if you’re hoping that today will be a good day but then getting rocked when it’s not, it’s likely that your hope doesn’t have substance.

The trap of hope is the belief that it will be worth the wait.

Now that you know where the landmines are and how to avoid them, let’s apply the three key principles to loving a narcissist without losing yourself:

Accept who they are, and how they are.

I can almost here you now, “Kris, how can you tell me to accept such terrible behavior? That’s like saying, ‘That’s ok, just walk all over me!’”

That’s not what I’m saying. Acceptance doesn’t mean agreement. It doesn’t even mean tolerance. It simply means that you recognize who they are and how they are and give up the responsibility, or the hope, of trying to change them.

Maya Angelou once said, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” It’s time to hang up the hope that today will be a ‘good day” and then getting bent out of shape when their lies, manipulation, self pity, anger, condescension, and blaming behavior ruins the day.

In other words, stop being shocked when their behavior is narcissistic.

Simply determine what your boundaries will be and stand firm to protect yourself. For example, if you usually drive to parties together but you’re constantly getting into arguments over his road rage, drive yourself, grab an Uber, or don’t go at all.

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Practice emotional guarding.

Proverbs 4:23 says, “Above all else guard your heart for out of it flows the wellsprings of life.”

Unless you enjoy intense emotional rollercoasters that leave you exhilarated one minute and vomiting the next, you will have to emotionally—and maybe physically—detach from this person.

This means that you no longer own their behaviors and emotions.

I realize that this may feel cold but that’s where avoiding the trap of codependency comes in.

You’ve likely been trained to take on more than you should in a relationship, all in the name of love.

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I didn’t even realize he was a narcissist until after we were divorced.

I felt like a fool for not seeing it, embarrassed because it took me that long to put a label on it.

But the truth is, it didn’t need a label. I knew something was wrong six days after we returned from our honeymoon.

I stood at the kitchen counter opening the mail. As I scanned the unusually high cable bill, I saw one pornographic movie after another. It felt like someone just sucked all of the air out of the room. He was sitting right there and saw my face. I was never one to cower in fear, so I pounced like a puma.

I challenged him, and his response was the beginning of what I could see was a dream turned nightmare.

He said, “Well, since you didn’t put out, what did you expect me to do?””

Amazing how it was MY FAULT. Don’t think for a second that I assumed that responsibility.

Still, I didn’t know what to do. It was early enough to bail, but I stayed. I decided to be a loving, understanding wife who wins her husband to Christ.

But two months in, he came to me and said, “You know that whole church thing we’ve been doing? You can go, but I just don’t think it’s for me anymore.”

Again, I felt bamboozled. He fooled me into thinking he had come to Christ and wanted a Christian marriage.

Needless to say, the marriage was strained at that point. I realized that his man wanted to be married in title only.

It started to dawn on me that he was proud to brag to his colleagues about his young wife, but he lived his life like he was a bachelor.

At the beginning of our marriage, he said he would like to wait three years before we had kids.

Three years came and he said, “I never said that. I said, after three years we could talk about it and see if that’s what we want. And I’ve thought about it and I just don’t think that’s something ‘we’ want.”

I may not have known then that he was a narcissist, but after this, there was no doubt that he was a lying, self centered control freak that was using me for everything.

That’s when I entered phase two of the marriage, which was, “God get me out of here.”

Love was not driving this ship anymore. I confess—I hated him. I hated who he was and what he had done to my dreams. And worst of all, I hated that the beautiful Christian marriage I had longed for turned out to be a scam.

Once he knew that I was on to him, it went from bad to worse.

There was no way I was staying in that toxic house with that lying manipulator. I prayed, “God I love you, but I’m not staying here another minute. Do what you have to do to me, but I’m out.”

Then a counselor I was working with calmed me down and said, “Are you willing to trust God to either change him or deliver you?”

I was definitely praying that God would change him, but the thought of deliverance had never occurred to me. A sudden peace came over me, knowing that it wasn’t my responsibility to change him and I wasn’t trapped. I could trust God to be God.

Then I entered phase three: “God I’ll trust you.”

I’ve made more impulsive decisions to try to take the bull by the horns than I care to admit. Although now there was a little voice in me that kept saying “trust me,” my flesh had it’s running shoes on.

I knew my decision would be a pivotal moment in my walk with God. “Am I going to keep doing things my way? Or will I follow Him, even though I have NO idea what this will look like?”

I won’t lie, my prayers were more for my deliverance than it was for God to change my husband. But the more I trusted God with whatever the outcome would be, the more I grew in maturity.

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I recently had to cut someone out of my life and just before I hit that send button, I realized,

THIS IS SO CONFUSING!

I vacillated between thinking, Maybe it’s me and No, I’m positive I’ve done all I could.

And between, Maybe I didn’t give them enough chances and I can’t keep doing this.

Days turned into weeks until five months later, I was no closer to setting boundaries and more confused than ever.

The stress of keeping this person in my life was hitting me big time but the thought of setting boundaries made me feel like a terrible person. It was driving me mad.

And then it hit me—I wasn’t taking my own advice.

I confess, I thought maybe my situation was different. I battled with feeling like I had to live up to a higher ‘grace’ standard.

I kept trying to find alternate solutions that always ended in disaster because I was ignoring the 3 signs that God wants this person OUT of my life.

It reminded me of April 1988. I had worked so hard to grow my hair long and it was finally grazing my mid back. I was so happy. But there was a problem—my hair was fried. It was so dry and brittle from all of the perms and bleaching (don’t judge me) that even though it was long, it didn’t look good.

But my thought was, “It’s better than nothing, right?” Wrong!

Maybe you didn’t rock the ridiculous hair styles of the 80s, but I know you’re battling with the same confusion regarding the toxic person in your life, so I’m going to show you those three signs, as well as the one thing that will get in your way if you don’t address it.

So let’s dive into the three signs that God is trying to remove someone from your life. But before we do, I want you to understand that in order to gain the clarity and confidence to walk away from a toxic relationship and stay away from dangerous pitfalls, you’re going to need wisdom and trust.

Yes, trust that the healthy shorter hair will look much better than long stringy hair, but also trust that God is with you and wants to guide you.

There is one thing that can hold you back from hearing the voice of God. And that is clutter.

Not the kind of clutter that falls on you when you open your closet. I’m talking about the clutter in your mind.

All those shoulds and shouldn’ts will keep you trapped.

Saying things like, “Oh, I really shouldn’t be feeling this way,” or, “She’s my mother, she should be treating me with respect,” or, “He’s my friend, he shouldn’t be talking behind my back.”

Getting caught in the toxic thought pattern of what someone else should or shouldn’t be doing puts you on an emotional rollercoaster with the other person at the controls.

So let’s dive into the three signs that God is trying to remove someone from your life.

Sign #1: They’re poisoning your garden.

I’m not much of a gardener. In fact, I have two black thumbs.

The other day I pointed out to my husband that we have this plant growing out of nowhere in our backyard. After all, it was green, it had leaves. It looked like a plant to me. But when I touched it, it didn’t feel like any plant I’d want to be around.

In fact, it wasn’t a plant, it was a weed. A giant, prickly weed. The problem with leaving this plant to proliferate is that they will eventually choke out everything good in my garden. And you’ll be tempted to blame the weeds, but it’s your job to pull them up.

The same is true with toxic people in your life. When someone in your life looks and acts healthy and normal one minute but you’re constantly getting pricked by them, it’s likely a sign that God is trying to show you that this person isn’t who you want them to be.

Letting them grow in your garden, isn’t going to make them into a beautiful plant, it will just infect the good.&

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Have you ever tried to speak to someone who spoke a different language than you?

Maybe you’re really patient at first but the more you realize that it’s not helping, the more frustrated you get.

You likely start talking s-l-o-w-e-r. Maybe you even start yelling, as if a higher decibel is going to change the fact that they can’t understand you.

The same is true for a narcissist who doesn’t interpret things the same way you do. Yes, they may speak the language. But what you say and what they hear are two completely different things.

The truth is, no amount of repeating, yelling, or rehashing that is going to change what they hear. I know you want to treat others with love, patience, and kindness. But something just feels off—like they’re not getting it.

That’s because they don’t. They have a language all their own and if what you say doesn’t match what they want to hear, you’re going to get frustrated and confused because they don’t really say what they mean or mean what they. That means what you say is up for interpretation too.

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You: You really hurt me when you said we would save money but then you took it out
of our account without talking to me. Why did you do that?

Narcissist: You’re trying to control me. Why are you doing this to me?

This is their way of playing the victim

You: But you said that you wouldn’t touch the money without talking to me first.

Narcissist: Are you calling me a liar? Are you calling me a liar? Great, you’re calling me a liar.

This is their way of deflecting the issue at hand, and playing the victim.

You: I don’t want to argue with you.

Narcissist: Of course you don’t. That’s because you know you’ll lose.

Narcissists love to intimidate you.

You: Are you going to put the money back so we can stay on track to get out of debt?

Narcissist: After all the times you spent money and I didn’t say anything, I can’t believe you’re giving me a hard time about this. Maybe I shouldn’t forgive you.

The narcissist is always looking to take the focus off of their wrongdoing and turn it back on you.

You: But I only spent money on necessary things for the house and kids. You took $10,000.

Narcissist: If you weren’t so tight with the purse strings, I wouldn’t have had to go behind your back to take the money. It’s your fault.

Blame is the narcissist’s favorite game. Nothing is ever their fault.

You: I would like to try and resolve this. It’s not just about the money. I’m having trouble trusting you.

Narcissist: No you’re not. You’re just complicating things. Why can’t you just leave well enough alone?

Narcissists will always deny your reality. This is called gaslighting.

You: Let’s try to move past this. I forgive you.

Narcissist: It’s about time. Enough of this nonsense. Now we can get back to the way things were.

They love to exploit your good nature

You: I’m still upset about this and would like to talk about it.

Narcissist: Since you’re upset with me, I’m going to give you the silent treatment to make you feel so uncomfortable that you come graveling back to me.

This is their way of manipulating people

You: I’ll love you no matter what but I re

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Maybe you’ve just discovered that your manipulative friend isn’t as sweet as she pretends to be. Or the guilt your mother has been laying on you isn’t your biblical burden to bear.

You’re probably here because you realize that ‘no’ needs to become a more regular part of your vocabulary.

After all, every relationship—whether with a parent, pastor, partner, coworker, or friend—needs boundaries. They are what makes relationships healthy.

Boundaries are limits we set with others to protect our relationships and ourselves. They’re guidelines that we communicate to others regarding how we want to be treated.

Maybe you’ve just realized that you need to say no to certain people, or perhaps you’ve been avoiding setting limits for a while and it’s finally catching up with you.

What do you say we make today the day you learn to speak your NO in love?

In today’s episode we’re going to talk about 3 key principles and the 2 boundary barriers you’ll need to avoid if you want to set guiltless boundaries.

Let’s dive in.

Principle #1: Know thyself

Have you ever been given the advice to just be yourself?

Great advice, but what do you do if you don’t know who you are?

If you don’t know who you are and what you want, someone else will gladly define that for you.

To set rock-solid boundaries, you need a rock-solid identity. This may be the hardest step of all because many of us have formed our identities based upon the needs and expectations of others.

But you, my friend are a unique creation. You were fearfully and wonderfully made by the Creator of the Universe (Psalm 139:14).

So how do you get to know you? There are 3 key areas I want you to identify.

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What are your preferences? This includes your likes, dislikes, passions, annoyances, dreams and values. These are what make you different. (Yes, it’s OK to differ from others.)
What are your needs? You can’t expect others to meet your needs until you know your needs, as mind reading is not a spiritual gift.

Establishing boundaries and getting to know yourself can feel selfish first. But you won’t be able to set healthy boundaries until you discover where the other person ends and you begin.

Principle #2: Own your stuff

Most rookies to boundaries usually arrive at the desire to declare their ‘no’ after a long time of abuse. While I have no doubt that people have taken advantage of you, putting yourself in the role of victim can feel like it absolves you of responsibility when the truth is, you had a part to play.

Now would be the time to examine what part you played in the toxic tango.

Ask yourself, ‘Was there something I was getting from the relationship that I was unwilling to give up if needed? Did I believe that my behavior could change theirs? Why did I surrender my values for their approval?’

Next you’ll want to own your feelings. Examining what’s in your heart is going to be crucial if you truly want to speak the truth in love.

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There is a type of narcissist that is the worst of them all—the type of person Jesus warned of when he said beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing (Matthew 7:15).

This narcissist sneaks in undetected and infects your life in ways you couldn’t even imagine.

When we think of the grandaddy of all narcissists, we usually think of the highly abusive, malignant narcissist. But it doesn’t take a discerning eye to spot this narcissist from a mile away.

The narcissist I’m talking about today, flies under the radar and even comes across to many as sweet, caring, easy going, and nice. But beneath that erroneous exterior, you're dealing with a self-centered, egotistical, self-righteous, entitled brat.

You may be saying, Kris that sounds a lot like the covert narcissist. Andd you’d be right, but there’s a tiny element that you’re missing.

This isn’t just the convert naricsisst, this is the ‘Christian’ covert narcissist.

This is the narcissist that knows all the right words to say. They’ve learned the lingo—maybe they even learned it from you—but they are anything but true followers of Jesus. In fact, many of them are wolves in sheep’s clothing.

So in today’s video I want to give you insight into their behavior and help you to follow the biblical mandate found in Proverbs 4:23: “Above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.”

So let’s talk about 8 contradicting characteristics of the Christian covert narcissist.

Contradiction #1: Sweet on the outside, shallow on this inside

Two opposing flavors may work well for candy bars, but not for healthy relationships.

The Christian covert comes across like she/he cares, but it’s a facade, and an overly exaggerated one at that. They have to ‘sell’ you because they know that if you lift up the hood, you’ll see there’s no depth. A few minutes of genuine conversation and you’ll see you can’t swim in those shallow waters. But if you are the type to hang out on the shoreline, you may not spot this person easily.

Contradiction #2: Uses vulnerability to manipulate

Have you ever had compassion for someone, only to later to feel bamboozled? You can’t quite put your finger on it, but something about your care for them made you feel uneasy. Maybe they cried the financial blues when it came time to pay the bill, but you found out later that they really didn’t need you to take them out to dinner.

Or maybe they convince you do something for them that you later learn they could have and should have done for themselves. Covert Christian narcissists love to play the victim in need.

Contradiction #3: Nice, but not kind

‘Nice’ by definition means pleasant and agreeable—two characteristics that can easily be faked. Nice is shallow, while kind is self sacrificing.

The Christian covert narcissist is not genuine. That’s why they erect a ‘nice’ image. Because they care more about how they appear than how they really are.

Contradiction #4: Quotes scripture, but is biblically illiterate

Christian covert narcissists know enough scripture to be dangerous. If they lie and twist their words and yours, why wouldn’t they do it to God’s Word?

Be sure to know God’s truth for yourself, as one of the enemy’s favorite tactics is to confuse you with lies that are founded and grounded in SOME truth. That’s what makes this narcissist so dangerous, they know enough of God’s truth to twist it.

Contradiction #5: Says one thing, but does another

The Christian covert narcissist takes hypocrisy to new heights. I hate to imagine how many people they’ve turned off to Christ with their two-

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When you think of love and care, the first person that will likely come to mind is Jesus. After all, he gave his life so that you and I could be reconciled with God and spend eternity in His presence. If that’s not love, I don’t know what is.

And if you’re like most Christians, your desire is to BE more like Jesus. And yet, when you look at Jesus’ life and how he interacted with others, there are times that might make you scratch your head and think, “Jesus, that wasn’t very loving.”

But that’s because what we think is love often isn’t love at all—it’s codependency.

Codependency is the need to be needed. Someone who is codependent is driven by the need to please others—often at the expense of one’s own values.

This is not to be mistaken for the bible concept of Interdependency, which is a mutual responsibility to others with whom you share a common set of principles.

Even though codependency displays itself as caring, giving, and self-sacrificing, at the core, it’s very self-centered, destructive, and dishonest. That’s because codependency’s focus is to serve others in order to get your needs met.

So today, I wanted to break down a few interactions that Jesus had with some key people in scripture and show how much different that interaction would have looked IF Jesus had struggled with the dysfunction of codependency.

(Please note, it’s not my intention to be irreverent. Rather, it’s to bring awareness to our lack of insight into true biblical love.

Interaction #1: Judas

We all know about Judas’ notorious betrayal of Jesus. Judas stole money from the ministry treasury and he told the chief priests and elders where Jesus was for a meager 30 pieces of silver.

I think we could say that the life of Judas was marked by selfish, manipulative, deceitful ambition.

Codependent Jesus would have begged Judas to change by trying to make him feel guilty. He would have told Judas just how much he was hurting him. And in his pleadings, he would have been enabling Judas’ behavior for fear of losing a disciple.

But our Jesus knew exactly what Judas was doing, and he allowed him enough rope to hang himself (literally). We may view that as uncaring and unloving—after all, Jesus could have prevented it. But at what point does prevention cross into control?

Jesus will let us walk down whatever road we choose. May that be a lesson for us when we think it’s our job to change someone’s behavior and choices, all in the name of ‘love.’ Jesus never tried to manage others’ behavior, and neither should we.

Interaction #2: Mary, Mother of Jesus

Many of us are thankful for all that our mothers have done in our lives. And while there is a natural bond that can occur within families, many people take this connection a bit too far. With the pervasiveness of mottos like ‘blood is thicker than water,’ and ‘family trumps all,’ it’s no wonder many people feel disloyal if they are not at their family’s beck and call.

In Matthew 12:46-50 Jesus was speaking to the crowd in typical Jesus fashion. “While he was still speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him. But he replied to the man who told him, “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?” And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers!For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”

Our Jesus knew what his purpose on this earth was.

Codependent Jesus would have dropped everything because his family needed him. He would have pushed his purpose aside, believing that he owed it

The Demonic Spirits Driving Narcissists

Why do narcissists mess with your mind so much?

It’s because YOUR mind is Satan’s number one target. If he can get in your head, he can infect every other area of your life. And he starts by using the people closest to you.

A narcissist is someone who has demonic spirits driving their destructive behavior. These spirits tempt the narcissist with a false sense of hope, strength, and control.

Because the narcissist has a deep sense of shame that they desperately try to avoid and cover up, they become easy targets for wicked spirits to have their way.

The demonic goal is not only to destroy the life of those they infect, but also the lives of those connected to the narcissist. People they couldn’t otherwise get to are now easy prey for demons as the narcissist becomes their Trojan horse.

Their goal? To make you feel like you’re going crazy and get so consumed in the narcissistic behavior, that you have no time or energy to focus on God and His purpose for your life.

Demons will use narcissists to:

Jam up your receiving signal from God.
Keep you on an exhausting emotional rollercoaster.
Trap you in a toxic mental spiral.
Deceive you into believe that as a Christian, you’re responsible for improving this relationship.

So, to better arm you, let’s talk about eight of the common demonic spirits that operate behind narcissists, and how to overcome them.

Spirit of witchcraft

If you think witchcraft is limited to voodoo and black magic, think again. Behind witchcraft is rebellion and manipulation. Narcissists are master manipulators. And remember the words of 1 Samuel 15:23: “For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry.” Many will even refer to this as a Jezebel spirit.

Spirit of envy

Envy is a resentful dissatisfaction over what another person has. Its quiet cousin is covetousness. And scripture is clear—thou shall not covet. But narcissists always feel entitled to what they don’t have. Satan is the prince of envy.

envy may be the head demon, but there are many demons operate under the spirit of envy, like murder, revenge, spite, anger, strife, hatred, cruelty, divisions, envy and competition, just to name a few

Spirit of confusion

There’s just something sinister about confusion. It’s a weapon that the enemy uses to unleash his attack through mental and emotional distraction and disorientation. Confusion is designed to paralyze you with overwhelm and cause you to question the Word of God and your own sanity. This is a realm that narcissists love to play in, as it takes the focus off of their diabolical behavior.

Spirit of condemnation

Since deflection is the name of the game with a narcissist, it’s no wonder that the spirit of condemnation is right there to encourage hateful accusations designed to find fault in their victims. Their aim is to create a sense of hopelessness within you through constant criticism and blame shifting.

Spirit of control

Controlling people don’t have anyone’s best interest in mind except their own. They will seek to control the narrative, their image, and YOU, and will use mental and emotional tricks to get you to do their bidding.

Angry, bitter, traumatized people are targets for narcissists since their emotions can be so easily manipulated.

This spirit of control is also often referred to as a Jezebel spirit.

Spirit of deception

Narcissists are addicted to lying. With their word shifting, truth avoiding, hollow flattery, a narcissist’s only ambition is to exaggerate themselves and diminish you.

These spirits of deception open the door to other evil spirits, such as religious bondages, superstitions, false prophecy, accusations, gossip, slander and false teachings and of course, confusion.

The narcissist is the bullhorn for S

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Behind the Mask: What 24 Narcissists Had to Say About You

Narcissists have a superficial and alluring charm that draws you in to their web. They say everything you want to hear, but over time the cracks in their mask start to show.

Maybe after years of inconsistent behavior that didn’t match their words, you’re left wondering if it’s ALL been a facade.

Well, you don’t have to wonder any longer. I set out to get to the bottom of what they really think, and what I found surprised me. They all said the same thing. I mean they all used the same exact words. That’s right. All 24 narcissists that I spoke to said the same exact thing about their victims. And today I want to share that with you in hopes of bringing you a little clarity to your confusion.

(I spoke to both male and female narcissists, so I am going to use he/she interchangeably. The statements are reflective of both genders.)

So buckle up. Here’s what the narcissist had to say about you.

· What the F--- is wrong with her? Forgive my use of foul language here, but I wanted to bring you the exact picture of what they say. They don’t mince words, nor do they see their part in the problem. Even the ones that did still honestly believe that their bad behavior is justified, but yours is inexcusable.

· He/she doesn't get me This is usually after you’ve discovered their bologna and don’t worship them anymore.

· He/she wasn't supportive. Again, when you're not supporting them in whatever cockamamie endeavor they dream up, you're the bad guy. They truly believe that you should support (aka agree with) them in every way.

· She’s just a b——. He’s just a jerk/a—. Again, my apologies for the language but narcissists are children that resort to name-calling when things don’t go their way.

· He/she clearly doesn't care to understand what I'm dealing with. Narcissists always have excuses for why they aren’t succeeding, why they didn’t get something finished, or why they didn’t keep their word. And if they actually have a legitimate issue--like a health issue--that issue will be used every single time you try to challenge their lies and behavior.

· Whatever! he/she isn’t/wasn’t worth my time. Since the narcissist has no desire to work on a relationship, they will write you off faster than you can swat a mosquito in the summer. They love to talk trash about people who don’t play along with their inflated ego and will often use put-downs to garnish pity from others. They like to position themselves as the saint who put up with your abusive behavior. They can’t just walk away—they have to go down with a blaze of glorious victimhood.

· What can I do to get him/her back? After all of the name-slinging and trash-talking, every single narcissist asked how they

could get their partner back, especially if they were rejected and discarded. They often pretend that they don’t care, but the rejection is killing them and their one purpose is to get you back to regain control in the relationship—that’s it. They don’t care to change. They don’t feel bad about how they behaved. They only care that it had a negative outcome on them. That’s why they want you back—to regain control of the narrative. YOU don’t get the final say. Not in their world.

· Why do I always pick the crazy ones? This statement is meant to position themselves as the one who is always wronged.

· After all I did for him/her, this is how he/she treats me? Narcissists truly believe that you owe them. In their mind, they are self-sacrificing and you’re the beneficiary who owes them.

· He/she has trust issues. They’re just too sensitive. Narcissists can’t validate your feelings because it would force them to face their contribution to the problem. Instead it’s all directed on

The Dark Side of Therapy: Avoid These 6 Counselor Types

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Counselors have become like hairstylists—everyone's got one.

Just a few years ago, it was more taboo to need a counselor, whereas today, it’s often the topic of many dinner conversations. And that’s good. Mental and emotional health are crucial for emotional intelligence. But many well meaning people have landed themselves with counselors that could be doing more harm than good.

Of course there are the obvious unethical, illegal, or immoral behaviors of therapists that need to be avoided, but there are other more subtle signs that you’ve got yourself a bad counselor.

1: The Boundary Stomper

An intimate relationship can be formed between counselor and counselee, especially when the counselee is vulnerable. This can put an unhealthy counselor in a position to cross boundaries that shouldn't ethically be crossed. But they also cross much more subtle ones by getting just a little too involved with your life or taking advantage of the relationship.

I knew of a counselor one time who reached out to her clients soon-to-be-ex-husband to guilt him into giving her more alimony.

Other examples of poor boundaries are:

· cutting sessions short or running them longer than expected

· charging you more or even less than agreed

· canceling appointments regularly on short notice

· trying to have a relationship with you outside of counseling—for example, starting a business, hiring you to perform a service, or even a friendship.

2: The Rent-A-Friend

Listening is an important part of the therapeutic process--a certain amount of advice and guidance (especially in the way of directive questioning ) is needed to help you come to new levels of understanding, revelation, and behavioral/belief change.

But the rent a friend is all about ‘talk therapy.’ In other words, you do all the talking--and that’s it.

Yes, sometimes we need a listening ear, but simply rehashing poor thought patterns and frustrations aren’t going to bring lasting change.

3: The Authoritarian

While professional input is vital to help you shift your perspective and reframe things that you’ve been viewing the wrong way, the authoritarian takes it to a whole other level.

These are the counselors who don’t let you get a word in edgewise. They also have a quiet undercurrent of criticism and judgment that is designed to intimidate you.

This therapist will often make the sessions all about themselves.

4: The Sweetheart

Compassion is a vital part of the healing process. It may be the only empathy and validation someone receives in their life.

But the sweetheart takes this to a destructive level by not holding you accountable for your part and challenging you in self-improvement.

No one is perfect and we all have a part to play in our relationships and healing. And even if you were victimized, it’s imperative that your counselor not coddle you, but rather challenge you to grow through your circumstances.

5: The ‘Non-Christian’ Christian Counselor

Christian counseling is in high demand and good ones are hard to find.

True Bible-believing counselors that seek to live according to the word of God are a scarcity. And that’s what you’re looking for in a ‘Christian’ counselor.

Many have weaseled their way into the Christian

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Can a Narcissist Be a Christian?

You’ve heard of an oxymoron, right? An oxymoron is a self-contradicting word or group of words, like ‘jumbo shrimp,’ ‘awfully good,’ and ‘only choice.’

If you were just learning the language, some of these figures of speech would confuse you, and rightfully so.

The same is true for an interaction with a person who calls themselves a Christian but displays polar opposite qualities. It’s like an oxymoron--it just doesn’t make sense.

But who are we to judge whether someone is a Christian or not? After all, we don’t truly know their heart.

It can make you wonder, who are they really and how am I supposed to treat them?

That’s why in today’s episode, we will unpack the question--can narcissists be Christians?

My hope is that after today, you will never be fooled again.

So let’s dive in and first examine, what is a narcissist?

A narcissist is someone who has an overinflated sense of themselves and is extremely self-involved to the degree that it makes them ignore the needs of those around them—even those they claim to love.

Here are some of their defining traits:

Self-centered
Egotistical
Arrogant
Self-righteous
Phony
Manipulative
Lying
Disregarding of others
Lacking empathy
Difficulty with intimacy
Entitled
Playing the victim
High need for adoration

A Christian is someone who has received Jesus as their Lord and Savior. They are as the name implies--“a follower of Christ.” You can recognize them by their:

Adherence to biblical principles
Death to their own desires
Heart for others
Surrender to God’s will
Willingness to pick up their cross and follow Jesus no matter the cost.

So it makes sense that when you put these two words together—narcissist and Christian—they seem to form an oxymoron.

And this is where you may feel like you’re losing your mind. Maybe you’re confused by the fact that they call themselves Christians. Or maybe you’ve seen them answer an altar call or go to church more than you. Perhaps they even know scripture—when it suits their agenda.

The problem is, narcissists usually know enough to be dangerous. But their desire to give up what pleases them is non-existent.

You see narcissists treat a relationship with God like any other relationship—it’s transactional. And worse, it’s a one-sided transaction.

Many narcissists WILL accept Jesus as the Savior, but will not live a life for him. And that’s why so much effort goes into maintaining their Christian façade—because it’s all about image for them.

One of the narcissist’s qualities is a lack of empathy, but just because narcissists lack empathy, it doesn’t mean they lack ALL emotions. In fact, many will come to Christ through an emotional altar call—perhaps the fear of losing someone, or the desire to obtain someone. In some cases, because they believe it puts them in a favorable light. I’ve known several narcissists who became ‘Christians’ simply for the business connections.

One of the things they love the most about a relationship with God is they think that a quick ‘I’m sorry’ wipes away all their sins with God, and so it should with you too. So yeah, that part of repentance works well for them.

They want all the benefits. But they don’t want to pay the price.

Just like a relationship with you. They want what they want from you but they’re not willing to invest. They will paint the picture and create the image of a good husband or a sweet w

5 Toxic Movies God Wants You to Stop Romanticizing

Who formed your idea of love? If you’re like many, it wasn’t God, it wasn’t your parents, it wasn’t even the person you fell in love with. No, it was something much more distorted and toxic.

It was the movies.

For as long as films have been in existence, they have continued to pervert and disfigure the truth meaning of loving relationships.

That’s why in today’s episode, I want to talk to you about the 5 toxic movies that God wants you to stop romanticizing, NOW.

Pop culture affects our views of love and relationships more than we’d like to admit. Even ones that we know are ungodly can even shape our desires and expectations in destructive ways… if we’re not careful.

Entertainment is not as passive as we’d like to believe. Think of the word….ENTERtainment. When we sit down to a movie, TV show, video game or any other piece of content, we are allowing those images, stories, and ideas to ENTER into our soul.

Think of how much easier you laugh at jokes at a comedy club….that’s because the environment has been set.

So when you sit down to a romantic movie, you’re likely doing so with an open mind to receive all the thoughts and feelings associated with this movie.

And based upon those feelings, you build your belief system. How many times have you heard someone describe a man or woman of their dreams and this person only exists inside of a movie?

That’s because our view of reality is skewed.

They say that more men struggle with pornography than women, but I don’t believe that. Even if women aren’t dealing with the same type of porn as men, their version can be found in the form of romantic movies and fantasy novels--films that give you the warm and fuzzies (romantic feelings) but are riddled with codependency and toxicity.

That’s why in today’s episode, I want to talk to you about 5 toxic movies that God wants you to stop romanticizing.

But before we do, let’s lay the groundwork by talking about the myths that these ‘romantic’ movies portray.

These myths include:

If it’s true love, you’ll forgive and forget
You can’t help who you fall in love with
Love and addiction are one in the same
Miscommunication is normal and makes for a more romantic relationship
You need the other person to make you whole
Love conquers all (there is truth in that but not in the way we romanticize love.
We all have a ‘soulmate’
Being chased is romantic.
Constant fighting means we have passion.
If I miss you, we must be meant to be together.
And lastly - the payoff. Here’s where we believe that sticking with someone no matter what will have a big payoff, such as maybe hearing the words “you were too good for me” on their death bed

Let’s dive into the 5 toxic movies God wants you to stop romanticizing:

A Star Is Born

Lady Gaga and Bradley Cooper took the world by storm in the latest retelling of A Star is Born, but we can’t ignore the dangerous message it sends: that women should stay in abusive relationships. Ally continues to make excuses and sacrifices for Jackson because she feels like she owes him for her success. No matter how lightly she treads on those eggshells, or how much she loves him, she can't save him from his demons. Instead of celebrating Ally's achievements, Jackson spirals further into addiction and depression. There isn't a happy ending to this tale, yet filmgoers were captivated by this “love story.”

This movie is riddled with breathtaking levels of codependency.

It’s a story about doing what feels right and not overthinking. The truth is, Ally would have done well to N

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Have you been saved by grace but still feel like you’re living in a chokehold?

In Galatians 5:1–15, the apostle Paul discusses the nature of freedom in Christ, beginning with an admonition to “stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.”

Paul contends that Jesus Christ came to set believers free. But did you know that it’s your job to stay free?

I’m not talking about your salvation, I’m talking about your freedom.

In John 11, we see the story of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead. He had been dead and buried for four days when Jesus came and called in a loud voice, “Lazarus, come out!” And Lazarus came up from the dead.

What a miracle! Lazarus was dead and now he was alive.

But there was still a small matter to tend to--the grave clothes.

So Jesus said, “Take off the grave clothes and let him go.”

So even though Lazarus was alive, he was still bound up in grave clothes. The miracle of raising him from the dead would have been enough to knock anyone’s socks off, BUT what kind of life would it have been still bound up in his burial garments?

So, when Jesus comes to set us free, I’ve heard it referred to as happening in three stages: dead, delivered, and dangerous.

Lazarus was dead. Many people who come to Christ are content to be saved from their old dead life.

But few go to the next phase—deliverance, or breaking free from the old clothes that bound you up. Could you imagine if Lazarus said, “Thanks for raising me from the dead Jesus, but that’s good. I’ll take it from here. Don’t touch my grave clothes, don’t try and change my old mindset. Let me hold on to this sin (it’s just tiny vice)….I mean, after all, I’ve been through, I deserve to be happy.” If he had, He’d be considered saved and set free but not delivered. In other words he'd still be in bondage.

But because he allowed Jesus to strip him of his grave clothes, he was now free to become dangerous. His personal testimony was so powerful that it transformed countless lives for Christ. It was so dangerous, they set out to kill him….

Dangerous are those Christians who can’t keep their testimony to themselves. They run free to save others. They don’t follow trends. And they certainly aren’t swayed by the toxic opinions of others.

These dangerous Christians are more concerned with their character than their comfort. They’re more concerned with being biblically correct, then culturally correct. In other words, they’re dangerous.

So how do you live free? How do you take your salvation and become dangerous?

You first have to begin to recognize why you’re still in bondage.

Number 1: Sin

Sin is a power that enslaves. From Adam and Eve’s first sin, we have since been born into it. But just because we don’t have a choice about living in a sin-filled world, it doesn’t mean we don’t have a choice as to what we do with it. We are called to no longer be slaves to sin but slaves to righteousness.

More cycles could be broken if we just dealt with the main issue at hand: sin.

Don’t freak out when sin comes knocking on your door. As a Christian, you will always be under attack. But 1 Corinthians 10:13 reminds us that the temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, He will show you a way out so that you can endure.

And here’s the even better news. Jesus br

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God’s Calling on Your Life Will Be Revealed in These 3 Ways

Have you ever wondered what you were created to do?

Ephesians 2:10 reminds us, “For we are all God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.”

But you can miss your calling if you’re hung up on the ‘how-tos’ and the opinions of others. God will rarely use a megaphone to declare your purpose to the world, nor will we be likely to have a burning bush moment like Moses.

But, we can glean direction from the life of many of God’s people, and just like these mighty men, your calling could be revealed in one of these 3 ways.

Number 1: Joshua

Joshua was POSITIONED.

Moses was the chosen leader of the people of Israel and for years Joshua was his faithful servant. After the death of Moses, Joshua was called to continue in Moses’ mission. Despite his fear, Joshua was not commanded to ‘be’ Moses, but rather to follow in his footsteps. The Lord spoke to Joshua clearly, appointing him to be the one who would lead the Israelites into the promised land. He was commanded “To be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9).

Under Moses’ leadership, Joshua was positioned perfectly to fulfill his purpose.

If you are wondering when your time will come, perhaps it would help to remember that the leader you’re serving may be who God uses to position you to step into your calling.

Purpose is never revealed in isolation. God is not interested in rogue agents. He expects you to grow and develop AND be accountable.

So if you are resistant to leadership over you, if you struggle with a spirit of rebellion, it’s time to submit--first to God, then to the people He places in your life. They could be God’s Moses for you.

Number 2: Moses

Moses was PRODDED.

I think we can all agree that Moses had an incredible calling from God. The purpose of delivering God’s people from slavery and take them into the promised land is an awe-inspiring goal. Yet, it’s not one Moses ever prayed for.

Nor did he feel equipped to fulfill the call. And HE had the burning bush moment that we all long for.

What’s up with that Moses? Was there something wrong with him?

No, the truth is, there’s something wrong with US. Our thinking, anyway.

Fulfilling God’s purpose is not about US. It’s not about your desires, your platform, or YOUR image. It’s about God.

And when you step back and put yourself in Moses’ shoes, you strip away the ego, the grandiosity, the victim mentality, the entitlement, and you start to see God for who He truly is--NOT your genie in a bottle, but the all-powerful, all-knowing, sovereign God of the Universe.

The God who created us for HIS purpose, not ours.

Moses resisted God’s call with retorts like, “I’m not an eloquent speaker” (Exodus 4:10) and, “There has to be someone else you could send” (Exodus 4:13).Yet even though Moses felt ill equipped—and in many ways, he was—with God at the helm, all things are possible. After some prodding, Moses conceded to his call.

Is God trying to convince you of your call? You would do well to have a few people in your life who can encourage you to step out in what you believe God is calling you to do. After all, iron sharpens iron (Proverbs 27:17).

Number 3: Paul

Paul was PULLED.

Paul was pulled away from his life of arrogance and ignorance and placed into God’s perfect will.

Few people have a stronger personality than the Apostle Paul. Prior to his conversion, Paul (then Saul) wa

There’s just something refreshing about a new year. It's a brand new opportunity to wipe the slate clean and get a reset. A chance to stop feeling like a loser from missing the mark last year and opportunity and a do-over for this year. Well, hey, my friend. My name is Kris Reece. I want to welcome you back to another edition of the Building Faith Podcast. Where it is my hope to bring you Biblical solutions to life's tough challenges. So, if you are being blessed by our time together, would you do me a favor and go ahead and hit that like and subscribe button so you don't miss a thing.

So, each January 1 we hit the reset button, and we try again. Now, I love resets, I love new opportunities, I love new seasons, but I hate repeats. I don't like repeating myself, and I hate going around the same mountain. And after a while the views can get a little boring and monotonous, and you don't feel very accomplished. So today, I want to help you to make 2023 the year that you change your view. The year that you actually achieve your goals, so you can aspire to new ones. From losing weight to getting out of debt to spending more time with your family and with God, we all love to take the new year as a new season to set out to, maybe be a better person. But a dream without a plan is just to wish. So, today I want to take you through, four surefire steps to help you nail your goals every single time.

And, these are the same four steps that I apply to everything that I wish to accomplish.

Number one, clarify. Look, this seems to be an obvious one, but many miss this. If you can't properly clarify your goals, how are you going to know when you hit them? So, get clear on the goals and the dreams that you have and start by writing them down. There is something powerful that happens when you take it from your head to your hand. Vividly describing your goals is strongly associated with goal success. It actually increases memory retention.

Now, you may be saying to me, “Kris, believe me. I'm not going to forget that I need to lose 20 pounds.” But, writing those goals down doesn't just help you remember. It makes your mind more efficient in finding the solution to that goal. And, this is not to be confused with the bogus Law-of-Attraction teaching. Proverbs 21:5 reminds us that the plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance, but everyone who is hasty comes only to poverty.

When you write down your goals, your wishlist becomes your to-do list. So, start writing and don't worry about the details just yet. Don't dismiss your goals as unachievable just yet. Just get them down on paper and then take the next step.

Are you struggling with the pain of your past? Maybe someone betrayed you and you just can’t make sense of it. Or perhaps you’re still in the midst of a toxic situation and losing hope for a way out. Or maybe you’re wondering why God isn’t using you. You love Him and long to do His will, only to find yourself always sitting on the sidelines

Over the years in my counseling and ministry there has been one thing that has held people back more than anything.

More than a lack of resources. More than even dysfunctional family dynamics.

That one thing is BITTERNESS.

Before you go clicking away and saying, Pss, I know that and that’s not what I struggle with, allow me the grace to challenge you a moment.

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Bitterness is extremely difficult to see to the naked eye (especially your own eye) as it hides behind layers of pain, pretending and justification,

In other words bitterness is deceptive. And the worst part about deception is that you don’t know you’re being deceived.

So I want to challenge your heart today. If you want to be used by God, if you want God’s love to flow through you, then stay with me….

If you’re wondering why some promises haven’t come to pass in your life, it could be that you’re hanging on a wish, not a promise.

Maybe some well-meaning Christians wanted to encourage you and told you that God would grant your every desire….but they are misrepresenting God and leading you astray.

So to keep you from experiencing unnecessary disappointment and frustration, let’s talk about five things that God NEVER promised.

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God often speaks through dreams. Job 33:14 says, "for God, does speak now one way, now another though no one perceives it in a dream and a vision of the night when deep sleep falls upon people as they slumber in their beds, so he may speak in their ears and terrify them with warnings to turn them from wrongdoing and keep them from pride, to preserve them, from the pit, their lives from perishing by the sword."

Dreams are an active part of everyone's life. It's not just limited to believers. However, the difference for the believer is that they can have greater access to the interpretation, through number one, the Holy Spirit. Joseph said to the baker and the cupbearer in Genesis 40:8, "Do not interpretations belong to God?" We could have every dream book in the world, but without the help of the Holy Spirit, we will fail in our interpretation.

And number two, we have the word. The Bible is our handbook for life. It is God's love letter to us. It is also rich with symbolism and metaphors that God uses to communicate with his people, and the colors are no different. Throughout scripture, color has been used to symbolize many things from rainbows to silver bowls, and now there are many colors in our world and I believe that we're going to see even more in heaven. And just like all other, symbols, all the meanings of color can have a positive, negative, or personal meaning, depending on the context of the dream.

So let's talk today about some common dream colors, and their possible meaning, remember colors, like other symbols can have a positive or a negative meaning it all connects to the context of the dream.

Red. - Red is a capturing color. It is often used to warn us of danger, and in the Bible, it represents the blood of Jesus, in the positive red can represent wisdom, anointing power, and new birth in the negative, it can represent anger and war.

Blue. - Blue is often a common color. Just look up at the sky and you'll see. In the positive blue can represent revelation and communion. But in the negative, it can represent depression and anxiety.

Yellow. - Yellow can be seen as a form of gold, which is representative of the purification process. In the positive yellow represents hope. But in the negative, it can represent fear and intellectual pride.

Green. - Green is a mixture of both blue and yellow. And is often a symbol of growth and life in the positive. It does represent growth prosperity and unconscious. In the negative, it can represent envy, jealousy, and pride.

Purple. - Purple is often associated with the color of royalty, especially in biblical times when very expensive to make purple garments. In the positive, it represents royalty, authority, and wealth, but in the negative, it can represent false authority or corruption of wealth.

Orange. - Orange can be associated with the fire of God. In the positive, orange can represent perseverance and change, but in the negative, it is often a sign of stubbornness.

White. - White is often associated with purity as in the bride of Christ. In the positive, white, represent righteousness and holiness, but in the negative, it can represent a religious spirit or disease.

Gold. - Gold often represents the glory of God. And in the positive, it represents purity, glory, and holiness, but in the negative, it can represent idolatry and defilemen

In this episode, we're talking about 10 common symbols that show up in your dreams.

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Did you know that God can speak to you in dreams? He did it on numerous occasions in both the Old and the New Testament. While some dreams are direct and clear in their meaning, most leave us scratching our heads wondering, “what was that?”. Today, we are talking about 10 common dream symbols and their possible meanings. God often uses symbols and metaphors to communicate with us. Some symbols in the bible include a lamb, a dove, and rainbow rocks. Before we get into these symbols and what their meaning is, I want to remind you that leaning on the meaning of symbols too much can lead you astray instead of towards God. The most important thing to keep in mind is the context. Symbols can have a positive or negative meaning and can come from God, Satan or your soul, so focus on the context when looking at the symbols.

Let’s dive into the 10 symbols and meanings.

Bathroom Dreams

This often indicates a cleansing and this could be a cleansing of sin or simply from the filth that comes on us. Be sure to recall the condition of the bathroom. Was it dirty? Or was it refreshingly clean? Dirty bathrooms can indicate sickness or disease. And also, pay attention to where the bathroom was. What building was it in?

Being Naked

Being partially naked or fully naked represents a level of vulnerability. So, think of the context. Were you comfortable being exposed or were you embarrassed? Were you on stage in front of thousands of people or just one? Asking these questions will really help you decipher what is going on. This could be a warning from God to clean up an area of your life before He exposes it.

People

This is one element that we most often misinterpret. We often assume that this person is real and can’t even believe that the dream is about this person. Most often, dreams are about you. These people can be literal or a representation. They could represent a position, the meaning of their name, or even how you feel about them in real life. The same can be true about dreaming about people that you don’t know. Faceless people often hold a spiritual meaning. Sometimes, they can be Angelic, Demonic, or even the Holy Spirit.

Weapons

A weapon represents an attack or even spiritual warfare. Look for the size and power of the weapon, and also, if it was being used against you.

Vehicles

Vehicles can represent work or ministry. These vehicles can vary from bicycles, spaceships, or anything else. The bigger the vehicle, the bigger the impact. Also, recall who was driving the vehicle.

Water

Water can frequently represent a move of the Holy Spirit. Again, it depends on the context of the dream. Rain can be a spiritual blessing.

Hallways

Hallways frequently represent times of transition. So, when you're in the hallway, look for things like light, darkness, turns, and doorways.

Doors

Doors in a dream can represent opportunity, new beginnings or secrecy. So ask yourself, “is the door wide open, is the door closed, is it locked”? Was it big or small? Are you unfamiliar with where it leads? It could be a door to your past.

Money

Money can represent a gain or loss of favor.

Ex Partner or Person From Your Past

This can indicate that you are slipping back into old patterns. Don't worry. It's not likely God telling you that you're going to be back with this person.

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In today's episode, we're talking about the signs that you're emotionally dependent on people and not God.

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Is your need for love and affection insatiable? Do you suffer distress when someone physically or emotionally withdraws from you? You could be struggling with emotional dependency. Today’s blog will be talking about the signs that you are emotionally dependent on people.

Emotional dependency is when the ongoing presence or nurturing of another is believed necessary for your personal security. It's when your happiness is based upon someone else or the relationship's success. We can even mistake the feelings of emotional dependency for love. When there is a secure attachment developed in childhood, we are better equipped to have healthy relationships with others and with God, but in the cases of insecure attachments, the struggle is often exhibited through performance. When your worth hinges on others, you can easily slip into emotional dependency. Emotional dependency can be on just about anybody; anyone that you put in the place of God. This dependency can become an emotional crutch for you, but God calls us to be in a relationship and calls us to have healthy interdependence on others.

Let’s go over the 18 signs that you are emotionally dependent on people.

Security. Do you struggle with your worth and identity?
Attention-Seeking. Do you get jealous? If you are not the focus of their attention?
Unsure of Yourself. Do you frequently? Doubt yourself, your desires, your goals, your decisions?
Unable to Be Alone. Do you struggle to enjoy frequent quality alone time without this person?
Need For Approval.
Tolerating Toxic Behavior.
Indecisiveness. Do you have trouble making even the smallest decisions, usually out of a fear of displeasing the other person?
Low Self-Esteem and Self-Worth. Do you question your identity in Christ?
Critical of Self and Others.
Frequently Anxious. Do you often feel physical or emotional? Anguish? Are you unable to relax?
Jealousy and Trust Issues.
Fearful. Are your actions driven by fear, fear of rejection, confrontation, or loss?
Self Punishing. Do you beat yourself up when your needs aren't met?
Plays the Victim.
Poor Communication.
Constant Need for Reassurance. Are you frequently checking in with the other person to be sure that they're okay so that you can feel okay?
Manipulative. Do you often feel the need to control others? This is more often in a passive manner, through guilt.
Overthinking.

Anyone can struggle with these traits from time to time, but an emotionally dependent or needy person will display these traits with much more frequency than on occasion. It's not hard to fall into the emotional dependency trap. There is no one my friend that could possibly meet your needs for love and approval. God wants to be your all in all. Will you let him?

There are some serious dangers remaining in an emotionally dependent state. It makes you prone to manipulation, blocks your ability to hear from God, and you may not reach your full potential in life. God is our source, and people are a resource.

Remember, all things are possible with God.

Thank you for reading and until next time friends.

Having trouble getting out of your own head? In today's episode, we talk about how to believe God's Word over your thoughts

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If you’re anything like me, you get hit with a half-dozen destructive thoughts, all before getting out of bed. Every day we have a battle going on in our minds. We are bombarded with thoughts that either give us life, suck the life right out of us, and thoughts that contradict God’s truth. Not only can they wear us down, but they also cause us to make choices based on our feelings and it now becomes a mindset. These thoughts can actually keep you from living an Abundant Life. The Bible often speaks of putting off wrong thoughts and actions and then putting on Godly actions and thoughts.

**Let’s talk about the steps that you can take to believe God’s Word over yours.

Step One | Receive God’s Word**

Jesus in the wilderness in Matthew 4, responded to each of Satan’s temptations with the word of God. He responded with the scripture that applied to the direction that he knew his mind should be taking. You need to be in God’s Word! You can’t pull out of you, what isn’t deposited in you.

Step Two | Replace the Lie

Some thoughts are easier to detect than others. The thoughts that simmer beneath the surface can be just as destructive as the temptations that seek to destroy you. One of the main reasons that Christians have difficulty renewing their mind is because they don’t recognize the lies in their minds. They don’t recognize them as lies and these lies and half-truths have been present for so long that they actually feel like truth. Corinthians 10:5 reminds us to “take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ.” If you’re not sure, seek the scriptures and ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the lies in your life. According to Psalm 139: 23, “Search me God and know my heart. Test me and know my anxious thoughts.”

Step Three | Repent

Proverbs 28:19 tells us that “whoever conceals their sin does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” Thinking thoughts that are contrary to the truth are sinful. The Bible considers sins of the mind the same as any other sin. It doesn’t matter what the cause of your thought was. Your response is your responsibility.

Step Four | Resist

God has made it simple when he tells us in James 4:7, “Submit yourself to God, resist the devil and he will flee.” You can repeat steps one, two, and three and live in victory. I hope that you will join me in the words of the Apostle Paul, when he says, “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me and the life, which I now live in the flesh. I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me, receive God’s word, replace the lies, and resist the enemy.” That’s how you begin to believe God’s Word, over your thoughts, and live in mental victory.

If you are struggling with a victim mentality, I want to encourage you to jump on over to our previous blog post on How to Overcome a Victim Mentality in Christ. Look out for our next blog post. Remember all things are possible with God.

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As always we are answering a question from our community and today's question asks "Is it ok for Christians to go to Psychics?
Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

In today's episode my friend LaShawn and I answer a question from our community. "What do I do when God isn't doing anything?
Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

This episode is in response to a question from our community on how to regain your identity after leaving a toxic relationship

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

In this episode we answer a question from our community about the struggles that a strong choleric woman will have in being a submissive wife to a passive husband.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

This episode answers the question from our community in response to a recent YouTube video on the Signs God is Showing You Someone is a Narcissist.
and the question we answer is "What to do if your husband is the narcissist?"

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

Is it wrong for us to vent about our problems? That's the question we answer in this episode.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

In this episode we answer the question from a community member, "How do i guard my heart?"

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

In this episode we answer the question from a listener who asks if her insecurity will always be a thorn in her side no matter how much she tries.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

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In this episode we talk about 6 ideas to get your message for the Kingdom out into the world.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

In today's episode we answer the question, "Are Soul Ties Biblical?"
Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries is a podcast to provide biblical solutions to life's tough challenges.

In today's episode we talk about what to do when toxic people use scripture against you.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

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Senior Pastor of Transformation Church
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Successfully counseled and coached countless people helping them move from personal and professional struggle to success
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Speaker who empowers people to find their Divine purpose and transform the world through their life
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Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Dwight spent over 15 years as a Family Law Mediator working alongside families in complex situations and high-conflict family owned businesses. He worked with these families through power struggles to resolve conflict and move toward peaceful resolutions. This work included serving two years as an affiliate member of the Florida Bar on the committee protecting the needs of children in complicated divorces.

He is a senior trainer in community crisis management credentialed by the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation and University of Maryland which has allowed him to help rebuild stability after national disasters like the Columbine and Parkland School Shootings, Hurricane Katrina, the Orlando Pulse Terrorist Attack and the devastation in New York City after

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Sarah Geringer is a Christian author, blogger, speaker and artist. Wife and mother of three. Lover of flowers, dark chocolate, and hot tea. Represented by Michelle Lazurek of WordWise Media Services. Published with Leafwood Publishers.

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Founder of the Spark Christian Podcast Conference, Founder of The Rocket Podcast Community and host of the By His Grace podcast show. Misty inspires through her leadership, speaking, and mastermind groups. She currently serves as the Houston Connect Leader for Christian Women In Media. Misty is the author of The Struggle is Real: But So is God Bible Study. and Spark Podcast Planner 2020.

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Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

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Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

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Building Faith Podcast from Kris Reece Ministries a podcast to bring biblically based messages and lessons on how to apply God's word into your everyday life.

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