Hello. Hey, man. Here again, kinship code. Coming to you from downtown Brisbane, Queensland, Australia today, I'm talking about mindsets. The biggest thing to keep you strong, healthy and well, look forward to catching up very soon.

[00:00:30] Hello. Hope you're all keeping well and safe in these times of uncertainty, in these times of fear. In these times of. Yeah. It's just it just got real, hasn't it? Life has just got real.

[00:00:46] And we're finding ourselves in a well being forced into a different and certainly a changing world. Certainly how luff as we knew it, as we know it, not just for ourselves, but even for al our ancestors, all our people that went before us, except for the people who were probably around in pandemics a hundred years ago. And and certainly from my research, I've found out that we've actually had pandemics every hundred years to the last pandemic was in nineteen eight 1920. The previous pandemic to that was in 1820. And even previous to that was 17 20. So pandemics seem to have this cycle of every hundred years. It's interesting, but I've had a very good reference point. My reference point is Google and I think we all venture on Google. And I found that this comes, like I said, every hundred years. But certainly it sort of changes the way we think. We're growing up in a world and even our kids now. And it's interesting to see our young people now held, they will respond.

[00:02:09] In the next 20, 30 years, living with this pandemic.

[00:02:17] And it's interesting and you know, and the catch phrase they use, we're all in it together. Well, we all are. You cannot. You can't hide. You can't hide. You can try and hide.

[00:02:33] But certainly, I think in terms of the way how the world ticks, especially in 2020, the year 2020. Yeah, unfortunately any pandemics has a global reach and it can set up a whole range of indicators for people. When I say indicators.

[00:02:57] It's about how people respond. How do you respond to this threat? Keeping in mind the very basics. Of safety, of health promotion, safety promotion. Of acceptance. Even your own prejudices.

[00:03:20] On our notice in the media recently, you know, and I like to call it, they're talking about a witch hunt. And you know where this thing come from. Did it come out of, you know, what part of the world? I'm not even going to mention that because it's not my place. What I'm saying is that what we've been given now, it's interesting, it's a great scenario in terms of what I need to speak to people today about. On this episode, the mindset.

[00:03:50] It's about how do you create a mindset? Given the hurdles, given the barriers, given what's been served in front of you. Do you look at why it's here? Do we move through it or B?

[00:04:09] Do I look back and say, all right, who caused this mess? I got I've gotta find someone to blame. Someone has to take responsibility. Someone has to take responsibility for me.

[00:04:22] Someone has to take responsibility for putting this in the first place. All you can do. Another alternate way of thinking is how do I respond in the best way I can to survive? How can I respond to the best way to survive and see this thing through?

[00:04:47] I think I've spoken before about my background, all I have my parents to the deceased now that it's been passed, I've been passed away now for nearly 20 odd years now. My mother and father. They live in this country when they weren't even allowed to to leave from one end of the village. On Thursday Island to the other side of the island, with that written permission, they were subject to so much.

[00:05:19] What's the word? Oppression. But they did not hang around to blame. Get angry. Whatever it was. They just applied themselves to face what was in front of them and get through it.

[00:05:38] And I am just so blessed. I'm not pie knowledge to my mum and dad forgiving me.

[00:05:45] They did. I've been not giving me. I've inherited it. They haven't given it to me. There's a difference between giving an inherit. When you give someone something like. The person doesn't earn it, you give it, you give it away. There it is. You can have it. I've done all the work. You get it. But when you inherit something, you inherit. And I'm speaking about the human capacity. The human capacity of inheriting the virtues, the virtues, the beautiful virtues that can actually contribute to your life and those virtues I've gained from my parents is a mindset of taking the forward step and not stepping back and blaming.

[00:06:34] Now, my parents taught me that I whatever's in front of you move forward. And they didn't sit in front of me with a whiteboard or a blackboard and say, Well, Cayman. When you come up with obstacles, you've got to look back and you've got to I got what? How do I get out of it? Don't look back and say. And blind people don't look back and say, okay, well, who caused it? Where do I go now? I said, look forward. Look forward and create your own solutions. Now, that didn't sit down and do that in front of a lecture taught situation in front of a teaching type situation. They did that through their own walk and talk and practise. As a young child, we learn these behaviours. We learn these behaviours to then become who we are in our trajectory of our life. And sure, my mother grew up institutionalized. She feared governments, she feared authority. She feed. Just feel it being walking down the street. I remember my brother and I walking with her down the street and because we were indigenous peoples, we weren't allowed to certain parts of the town. And like sheep, she didn't know where we could walk, we couldn't walk, and she'd say to my brother, Anoma, all the brother George, she say, I look down, look down, done, look up, look down. She said to us, try to be invisible. Try to be invisible.

[00:08:16] So we did that. But even that we did that, I saw the fear in my mother's eyes. But what I learned out of that was that it didn't stop her contributing and going forward. Interesting concept. Interesting concept. She could have easily stopped and gone and law in the room and cried herself to sleep.

[00:08:41] And we would watch their mother crying and saying, oh, you know, what can we do?

[00:08:45] Pull back on me. She didn't. She was at bay. She had courage and will not talk about courage. Courage. You can't have courage without fear. She had fear, but she was still my ball.

[00:09:00] She was still my ball. She was moving. You take Phil with you, and that's and looking back now in my life, I have inherited. That beautiful, beautiful human virtue that I grew up with from my parents. I am so grateful for that way of thinking of that creation of a mindset. And interesting now in this pandemic situation where we are.

[00:09:36] The parents and their children now who being homeschooled in my and my sincere thoughts, I'll tell you what, my kids are grown up adults and I don't have to homeschool. And I've heard homeschooling. It's a drag. And I'm using a plot where I've been. It's been called something else. But I won't use those words here. But. Your it's actually had the parents, the adults, the significant role models of our young people now.

[00:10:03] How do you respond? What is your mindset? What is your mindset now? And whether you've got kids or your kids have grown up or you haven't got kids? The bottom line is, what is your mindset at?

[00:10:18] Do you wake up because when you wake up, the defining moment for yourself is, is probably that first two or three minutes. You're either gonna have a joyful day. You're either going to have a sad day. You are going to have a magic day. Or you can have an amazing day. You get the kinship car. That's if you're getting my drift. That's what this whole thing's about. You create your mindset.

[00:10:54] The whatever so you can all look at. Three people look out the window and they see one tree and there's three birds in it.

[00:11:05] One person, one of the three person looks at, sees a tree, the three birds and says, oh, okay, okay, I've gotta to pay my rent. Oh, God, I got it. You know, good to see with my piease gone in.

[00:11:18] So even though they're visibly saying that trade hit the mindset he's already caught up in, I call it the what about people call it the white noise. I love what life is like. And that's normal. That is normal.

[00:11:32] The second person looks out the window, sees the tree and the three birds and guys are not help my Cosmo pop them, but their dogs, birds, my poo on it.

[00:11:44] The third person looks out and says, what a wonderful world, what a beautiful world.

[12:00] The mindset, how you view the world. I don't know about you, but, you know, we come in with nothing. We go out with nuffink, what we do in between. It's up to you. Now in a kinship kind of thinking. You can create.

[00:12:21] A whole lifestyle. That suits where you want to be. And one of the other subjects I'll talk in the next in the next couple upcoming podcast, is that the freedom? Freedom. I like to think while I'm sorry, I'll rephrase that I apply in my life. Freedom is a state of mind. Is a state of mind. Freedom is a state of mind. So you can be picked up, dropped off.

[00:13:05] And it's a bet. What your state of mind is. I my, my. I want to talk about my late wife, Judy.

[00:13:14] She she had a she had a mental health condition. And interesting.

[00:13:20] It was interesting living with her because that she was the person who looked at with those three birds and with those three birds on that train saying, woops, they're going to poo on my car.

[00:13:34] I'm the person who would look at and say, oh, what a wonderful world. I'm conflicted.

[00:13:42] Just on that. Oh, my, oh, my light wife, I love her daily. I miss her every day, and that's that's God's truth. I've known her, we've been I've known her for 36 years. I'm 55, so I've known her for 36 years, married to her for 25 years. I buried her. I miss her every day. And with my parents, my mother and father, I acknowledge her as my other great teacher. My other great teacher and he was interesting because I at that time and looking reflection, looking back, I could see how mindsets.

[00:14:22] How that creates happiness, sadness, joy. So with this pandemic situation, it's about how what monster you apply, what lens are you putting on?

[00:14:39] And look, I said my parents, they were like my parents were amazing people, I've got to say that. Because there's a story I want to share with you. I, um, I used to work in a town called Mount Isao, which is in north Queensland. My youngest daughter Bianca Christy was born there in 1998 and he was about about 1998 when I was flying up to a place called Mornington are now a place called Doomadgee. It's an Aboriginal community up in the Cape, the Gulf of Carpentaria in Queensland, Australia. For all the people outside of Australia or even in Australia, probably haven't heard of Doomadgee. Doomadgee is quite a significant place for me. Doomadgee is where I learned my craft as a community development practitioner, but also worked on my my human spirit to help other people in their development of the human spirit.

[00:15:37] But back to my story, I was flying we were flying at 12000 feet because always to fly in these twin prop prop planes. That's a hard thing to say. Twin prop planes and aerial flying.

[00:15:53] My colleague was she. Her name was Vivian. She was. She fell asleep. She someone had a slip, I thought. Oh, look. Vivian, have a sleep. And we were up and I saw the best part of what I did, I always looked at the console, part out of fear, part out of curiosity. Flying in these little, little planes. And I saw that we had 12000 feet. Excuse me. And I looked at that and I thought, look, I went 12000 feet and you wouldn't believe it. The. Both propellers started to splutter.

[00:16:29] At 12000 feet, they just went. And they were slowly stopping at 12000 feet. My colleague Vivian was still asleep. Myself, and there was only about eight or 10 of us on the plane. And myself and some others and I heard there's a young lady behind me while I was young. So a young person like me, we're on the plane. And she started I could see her starting to get upset. I could see her start to stop crying because even though and this is this is this is the truth, even though it was a matter of seconds. Your life that, you know, they say your life flashes before you. It is so true. Your family, everybody just flashes before you. And then the fear. The gut-wrenching fear, because we then started to glide. The motors were actually stopped and we started to glide. And it was only a matter of seconds. Seconds. And as we have sliding down. The fear turned I I look back, am I? I'm actually quite proud of myself. 12000 th8 powerless. Going to crash, Vivien's still asleep. I didn't have the heart to Heiko, I didn't. The plane was going down. And then I said to myself, Right. You are going to survive on care. And this is God's truth. This is the first time, to be honest, I'm sharing this emotional flight as we were going down. My mindset kicked in and says, I don't care what it takes. You are going to survive. And it could be adrenaline. And because of my belief system, my faith, it was probably my God, but I had the fight in me. I wasn't gonna just die in that plane. I was gonna do everything in me to survive. And then the pilot panicked. And this is only I'm telling this story now, I'm sort of. It's probably this story's gone longer than the actual episode of when it actually happened. But the pilot panicked and he is looking out for and that made it worse. But I was resolute. I'm going to survive. Whatever it takes.

[00:19:11] And then he found a button, he pressed it, and then the motors gently mine that the plane relaunched, best of back up.

[00:19:21] There was a combined saw IO.

[00:19:26] And the biggest saw come from the pilot. That was funny. He was more scared than all of us because I believe that pilot on that day. He had our lives in his hand. But he found the button. There was an ale. There was an air bubble in the fuel line. He found the reserve tank while he worked at whatever it was. Matter of seconds. But from that, I can just thank my parents. Forgiving me because I know if they ever come up with that situation again, it will intellectually pale in comparison to other situations because I and I I've got what it takes to survive and the majority of you people listening. I reckon you've got to. In fact, we've all got it. It's about developing your kinship code, your innate spirit, your human spirit. To be brave and faithful. Because when are brave and faithful, nothing is impossible. So ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, grandpas and grandmothers all around the world listening in. In conclusion, all I have to say is never, ever, ever give up. And whatever you're feeling, if you're feeling down, if you're depressed, all that clinical depression. Cannot tell you. Hang on, hang on.

[00:21:02] The sun will come up, brought out one day. The birds will sing. Three birds in that tree. Three little birds on my doorstep. Bob Marley says, big loss. Every little thing's gonna be all right. Stay safe. Love your work, people. Catch you next time. Kai, man out. Peace.

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