I am, I am. Powerful words determines and defines your being, your human character and behaviour. I'll be talking about. I am in this next podcast listening. Hello and welcome back. Man here again, kinship code. Someone asks me once, what is kinship code? Kinship code is about how you can get the best out of you, how you can be functioning at a really high level and capacity.

Now I want to talk about how the words we use can determine who we are. You might find that a little interesting and a bit difficult to digest at this point in time because in my first podcast I talked about how we give away our power instead of saying I am. We use the term all. That's what you think of me. And if you can recall, I've just said, oh, oh, that's what you think of me. And when we start believing that term, it starts shaping our behaviour. But it also influences our brain. Our brain is then programmed to pick up and to behave in that manner. And if those terms or if someone gives you a label that gives you hurt, that makes you feel not worthy, you will actually harbour that in your soul, in your spirit. And unfortunately, the world is shaped that we are now giving away our power to others to determine who we are. I'm going to share with you in this podcast how I used to have that mindset. But the healing mindset for me was helping me overcome what other people thought of me. It took me from a place of shame to a place of shameless. And I'm not talking about doing something that embarrasses you in front of people. I'm talking about you doing what you feel is right. Doing the right thing by you. It's it's also about standing up to a thing called peer pressure. Peer pressure is a nasty word. I believe peer pressure is the word that gets you to follow others and peer pressure can get you in a lot of trouble. He can get very expensive. It can actually make you very unhappy. So in this podcast, I'm going to talk about how to unleash who you are in the most powerful way you can, because everybody's got the ability to do that. I will teach you. Oh, not teach you. I will show you old demonstrate to you how the use of two words can be the most powerful thing that you can do with your life. I can also explain how two words can also be the most damaging things to your life. And those two words. I am whatever you put beside the word I am. You become, for instance, when people ask me now, how are you going? K man. I say I am amazing. And people look at me and go, wow, that's fantastic. Wow. And with that little exchange, two things happen. The listener gets excited for me. Someone is actually telling me they're amazing because your emotions, what you feel in your gut. And they call the gut. Our second bryne of just given this person who's asked me how I'm feeling, a really good feeling by saying I am amazing. And then they get something out of that, because every time you get a goose bump, my mental, you feel good research, then this is fully researched. The researchers research says that you will actually rebuild your red blood cells, your red blood cells real, then reinvigorate, but also reproduce. Because that feeling that you get in terms of the what they call the goosebump moments, the human triumph moments, those moments where you go, aha, I get it. Now when I share that with that person to get to that moment, when I say that to myself and I might be feeling the best, I might not be feeling I could be tyred I could be feeling a little bit depressed because I just bought an ice cream and I went to lick the ice cream and the ice cream fell off the car and fell on the gutter. And I couldn't have my ice cream something bad. But I'm not going to say to that person all I am feeling bad because he will share that. Oh, you're feeling bad. But when you use the term I I am amazing or I am great. That sends a message to the other person. I non-tangible an energy, a vibe, a vibe. That vibe will resonate and cling to that person's cells and help them grow in this sense of the human spirit. But like I've said, this is actually researched, a guy called Dr. Andrew Newberg, a neuroscientist at the Thomas Jefferson University. And Mark, Robert Waldman, a communications expert, collaborated on a book in 2016. And that book is called Speak with Love How Your Words Can Restructure your Brain. Words can change your brain. It's been research. I've seen the growth of the brain cells, but more importantly of the red blood cells that function in every parts of our body. In it, they write, quote, A single word has the power to influence the expression and growth of genes. The human genes G and E s the genes. So I am is not just a mental spiritual strength anchor. It has been proven by academics that it is also physically enhancing to yourself. For instance, I I've got I've got two girls. My youngest girl lives with me. She's just she'd move that. She's moved back in with me and which is about 17 eyes to walk around the kitchen and say things. And she looked at me one day and she says, Dad, you love yourself. And I did think about that for about three minutes. And I thought, yeah, I do, I do. And she looked at me. She went, oh, yeah, I do. I did know what I was talking about back then. But I know because I knew that I was saying positive things about myself now, because in this society we're we are taught we are programmed to get that positive exchange from someone else. They validate who we are. They validate our value. They value that validate our self-worth. But my powerful, powerful energy, the most powerful source of love comes from your own gut, comes from you. You actually put that out there. So when people say to me, how are you? I just say, I'm amazing. And like I said, when I remember that I did months ago, I walked into a cafe in West End in Brisbane and there was two people serving me. I'd got to know them over the period of time. And they both said to me, hey, man, how are you get today? And I said, I'm great. I'm amazing. They both looked at me when I heard what? How did you do that? I just said, I just said it. And then I said, how are you both going? And one one of the girls you can go to, though I'm not too good. Too good today. I'm not good. I said, well, it's interesting. I said, because your day will be a not too good day because you don't have a good day. You have to create a good day. I didn't tell her that like that. I just said you start using the term. I am amazing when people ask you how you are today. She said, I'll give it a try and know what of the law. This is God's truth. I went outside to the courtyard to set my work to wife about an hour and a half on my laptop during my other work. She came in to bring me, ordered a second round of coffee. She brought the coffee and she said to me, K man, it it worked. I'm feeling really, really good by just sign. I am amazing. Well, actually, she said I'm great. And when she's saying right, she was not feeling great. But just the very thing of saying it, because when you talk to yourself, somebody is always listening. And you know who that person is. It's you. And when you talk to others, you talk to yourself when you're on mine. If you're just before your head hits the pillow at night to go to sleep, your brain's talking to your self, your listening, you're listening and you're registering. Just imagine creating a kinship kind of self love of telling yourself it doesn't matter what you look like. It doesn't matter what you look like. If you look in the mirror and you see love, there is nothing more powerful. You can have the most powerful atomic weaponry. But to actually develop a mindset of self love, self love. And there's another virtue, which I will talk about in other another episode of this podcast. Another session of this. Now, another episode is forgiveness. But for the moment, I want to talk about being kind and loving to yourself. I am. Sportspeople do this very well. Boxers. Anthony Mundine used to do it. Muhammad Ali used to do it. Other people, they talk themselves up, sports people. When you see a sports person, an elite sports. Or someone who just plays soccer on a social weekend on a Tuesday night, not physically. You get yourself in shape. But like the great Wayne Bennett from the Brisbane Broncos. Sorry now. He's now gone to the Rabbitohs. Better get it right for you, Brisbane Broncos supporters and Rabbitohs supporters. He actually said that when he looks for a young kid with potential, he says the skill level is only 10 percent. He wants 90 percent of mental toughness. He wants to know when you're physically exhausted, when you're physically have nothing left in, your lungs are burning, your legs are led. He wants to know that you have the mind set, the mind, the mentality to keep those legs going on from Townsville in Queensland. So. Ah, but I live in Brisbane and I'm a big fan of North Queensland Cowboys, but I'm also a big fan of the of the Queensland State of Origin. And I'veseen Origin gone to a Queensland have been written off. And they just come back and you can tell the plies. What separates good players and great players is that physically you can still do the same training you got you'd put in 20 hours a week training. But then when no one's watching, those great players start doing things other training on themselves. But they also start working their mindset to the point where physically that might have nothing left, but they run on pure, pure human spirit. A good case is when the when the Marines, the mighty Marines are Queenslanders started there. I think it was the eight to 10 straight series win in origin. It started in 2006 in that third game and it was one game of pace. And whoever won the third game would win the series. While Queensland hadn't won series for four while three years, I think in that third game they were just belting each other. Got to the point there were three or four minutes left and both sides were exhausted and the New South Wales were on their 20 yard line up from their try line. And and the halfback at the time was Brett Hodgson, who used to play for Hutchinson, who used to play for the West Tigers. He looked around and he picked up the ball, looked around to see someone running one of the forwards from the New South Wales players coming. He turned around, but no one was coming. But he'd got the ball and he just threw it back anyway. He didn't care. He'd want the ball. They were old. Everyone was exhausted. They both were exhausted. But there was one player who moved that one player had number six on his back. That one player was Darren LOCKYER, the Queensland and Australian captain. Somehow LOCKYER had found something that no one else found. He found the energy to keep running, to be mobile. And that wasn't from the training track. That is when I've spoken to Darren LOCKYER and Johnathan Thurston. I spoke with them by separately about how they prepare. They say it's about working in, working in and part of working in is working on the words you used to talk about yourself, how you perform as a person, how you how great you are. I say all the time, I do it all the time because people are naiomi now that I say to them, I am the man on the man. And people laugh as a You are the man. Poovie. But guess what? I'm getting more out of that than anybody's getting because I'm developing myself and I've learnt that from people who excelled at sport. So what do you say to yourself? Matters when you're kind to yourself and loving to yourself? It matters. It contributes to who you are in the kinship. Kydd being kind to yourself. Kinship. Where I come from and also with the Aboriginal community, which I have with children who are Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander. Looking at the Aboriginal culture, they're the oldest living culture. They were building. They were surviving forty thousand years before they even started putting pyramids up in Egypt. The Australian Aboriginal First Nations culture, they came from a place of kinship. The kinship was to look after themselves, to tell them that they were worthy, to tell them they are worthy to look after others. Their job was to look after themselves, to look after others so that they could sustain life kinship code. I'm trying to explore all these concepts of how we can become better at what we do, and it's more about giving than receiving. So as episodes come in the next few few weeks, I'm looking forward to it sharing more of kinship code. And then together we can all build a mindset, a more caring, sharing mindset. But most importantly, it's about looking after ourselves because we've been robbed of that. The commercial. World. It's actually called a consumerism world. It's making sure that we don't care about ourselves, that we we actually give that Paraguay to others to determine our self-worth. We can spend more money on products. We can spend more and more money on diets, we can spend more money on hair colouring, we can spend more money on this and that to look better and feel better. Whereas if you're feeling good about yourself, those there's the secondary needs. And if you want to put a colour on your head, that's great. If you want to go on a diet, that's great. But first and foremost, building. Building an inner fortitude of being proud of who you are loving, who you are. It's not the easy task. And I'm going to close off now. But one of the tascam to leave with you all is something that I learned today. That is when no one's watching. When you were in the evening or early morning looking to that bathroom mirror, when you're brushing your teeth, look in the mirror. And when you finish brushing your teeth, wash it, look at yourself and actually say to yourself, I am worthy, because when I did it the first time, I couldn't do it. I couldn't finish the sentence. I had to look away. And then I got to a stage where I could say, I love myself. Looking in your own eyes, there's no one there to judge you. You do it. And it's surprising how many people can't do it. I'd say up to eight to nine have people out of 10 can't do that. But when you get to a point where you can, you will just unleash the biggest energy you can, because I've done it. But I tell you what, I will leave you with this. In closing of this podcast and I've enjoyed it happy. I've enjoyed it, too, because I've had a ball, but only live you. This is that it takes discipline, discipline to do it and keep doing it. And no matter how much it hurts and pains, discipline, discipline, discipline, and it gets a point after being disciplined. It becomes habit. And when it becomes habit, you keep doing it. And guess what? It becomes routine slash lifestyle. It is not something you do. You think about. It's like brushing your teeth. You just have to do it. And that's part of developing kinship code. Looking forward to it. Take a piece.

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