Welcome to Kinship Code. Well, I'll be talking about developing and conditioning the human spirit towards a mindset to live routine habits of practise to reignite, recharge and refocus human capacity for stronger self-belief, self-respect, love, esteem and self-worth. Hi, I'm Kman, man. I'm here for the next few minutes, just chat to you about kinship code that came in. You might be scientia. Who's who's this came in? Well, I'm a bit like Spider-Man and Superman. You know, there's a theme happening there. Can you can you get it? Yeah, I think he can.

[00:00:41] And I'm gonna be talking about the human capacity for self-belief, self-respect, self-love, self-esteem and self-worth. And how appropriate at this time of COVID-19, where we are finding ourselves in a different world. It's as if the world someone just walked up to the world, the globe and gone. I don't like what I'm seeing, what's happening in this world. Let's just pull the plug. Let's just recall a cloud calibrate what's happening in the world. So someone's just pulled the plug. Boom, it's gone. Mike, drop, finish. We're finding ourselves in a new jungle, people. A new jungle. And one of the biggest things that I've seen happening. And not only seen happening I've experienced myself is fear. Now, in terms of your self-belief, yourself with fear. He's gonna be a major disruptor. But I'm here to tell you, in the kinship code, we develop a code that you can actually embrace fear. Fear can be a good thing. Fear can be a positive thing. The opposite of fear is positivity. Being positive about your life. And while we're locked down in this situation of COVA 19, we're all in this together. You hear the media talk about it all the time. We are sharing this space. And then for myself and I think for yourself as well. You're spending a lot of time at home, your home and your little sanctuary. And we've somehow we've now developed an idea, a concept of jumping off the treadmill, the treadmill that has been telling us how to live our lives, how beautiful we are, how perfect we are. And we spend our time on that treadmill trying to chase the impossible dream. For me, the current situation of sitting down at home and working in, we spend a fortune on working out, working at a physical sense of who we are physically. So the world can see us as beautiful. Well, guess what, guys and girls, we're in a different ballgame now. We can now sit at home. And I'm telling you right now, we can work in working to start finding your self-respect, work into start finding yourself worth. We rely and we give away the power of self to the mighty, mighty media. The media, whether it be social media, print media and the big media, the television media with shows such as Math's Survivor, all these shows, all these beautiful people go, we get addicted to we forget about everything else. And we live an artificial life that has come to a grinding halt. We are now faced of getting up in the morning, going to brush our teeth and looking in the mirror and really self reflecting on who we are, where we come from. I see Kiva's 19 as a disruptor. It's actually walked up to that conveyor belt or that treadmill and someone's pulled the plug. And guess what? You've just stopped and gone. Eyecye. What do I do now? Well, I'm telling you guys and girls get to know yourself because we've been giving away our power for too long. The Western world, the commercial world has been telling us what we need to do to survive in this world. We've been living artificially. The mighty dollar has governed how we live our life. We have given our power away, our own self, beauty and the word I'd like to introduce. It's a beautiful thing. Every one of us has got it. It's called love. And when you put that in context of yourself, it's called self love. For too long, we've been governed by external love. What other people think of us. We build up walls that says there's them and there's us. And then there's me. Me. Look at me. Because when you get up in the morning and you gotta brush your teeth like I was chatting to you before you look in the mirror and it's just you and you go, okay. What are other people doing? One of the other beautiful people doing. But because he got up and because God has given you the energy, the breath, the lungs, the life to live another day, you've just qualified to be beautiful. But that beautiful is taken away by the external, and then external is governed by what society governs. Is the power, the status quo? They tell us what's beautiful. They sell us what's right. They tell us what to buy, what to listen to. By giving us, we give our power away. We jump on that treadmill and we're just pedalling for the impossible dream. We're forever looking for that impossible dream. But now with Kiva 19, guess what? As I said before, someone's pulled the plug on us and we're finding is going. What do I do now? Well, there's also fear. The positive part of fear is you get the courage to still do what you do. Now, the opposite of fear is not courage. Courage is the vehicle between fear and where you need to get to courage is just the vehicle. It's just the wheels. The mobility, it's not the opposite of fear. Fear is you still have the fear. Courage is still being mobile, still moving with fear in your gut. With that fear in your gut, you keep moving. You take that with you. So with that in mind. In this time of the world slowing down. I don't know about you. I'm now 55. I'm 56. In December, the sheer 20:20 and height aren't. Now with time has gone. Time is flying by. But we're now in the 70s when I grew up in the 60s. Even 24 hours was still 24 hours. Our concept of time hadn't changed now. Sorry, the concept has changed. But the actual minutes, the seconds themselves haven't changed. We've just been taught. We've just been programmed. We've just been running on that treadmill to make the time appear quicker. Now, with this current covered situation, 19 year old high marks like we've all slowed down and even mother, I've heard Mother Earth is now healing for the first time in a long time. They can see the tops of the mountains in Nepal. We are now seeing Mother Earth healing herself. And all due respect to the families who've lost loved ones.

[00:07:34] It's a very sad situation. We must learn from this individually. It starts with us to quote Mahatma Gandhi. We be the change we want to see in the world. When you're sitting at home listening this podcast, you're thinking, what can I do? What can I do to change the world? You can do a lot. You have more power than you give yourself credit for your own self-belief yourself. Love, self-respect, self-worth can contribute to a bigger, better world. And bigger doesn't mean richer. Bigger means more love. For instance, at my house, I've got to know my neighbours, my neighbours a lot better. Their kids now some sort of a scary looking chap. If you haven't seen me, I'm scary looking. The kids, they're toddlers, but they get frightened of me. But because I've seen them every day, because they have now transferred their playground to the front of their carport, I see them every day. And I've developed a relationship, a deeper relationship with with my neighbours. And that's a positive to come out of this. Just the same as fear, because fear is a good thing.

[00:08:46] Fear can get you on the track to reinvent yourself. I was just chatting to a friend, are now doing a podcast and I was thinking about it. But now with my business, it has to be part of the way I do think so. The fear of doing it. The fear of succeeding or failure. Whatever you want to put it down to that phase been removed because I have to do it.

[00:09:10] The fear is still there. And I said to my colleague, who's helped me put this together. I'm nervous. But guess what? I'm nervous. I've got fear. But I'm still going to have a go. That's what you have to tell yourself. That's having self-belief, self-respect, self-love, self-esteem and self-worth. Because we have been giving our own personal power away. And that's not on purpose. Every one of us. We are being programmed. We've lost our self. We've moved away from the village to a more broader commercial setting. When you get back to self, you get back to relationships with others. And that is a positive and fear in itself is a positive.

[00:09:53] I've come to my stage in my life and I'm fifty. I'm fifty five years of age. Fear has driven me to achieve things which my parents who were there. Torres Strait Island people. And they're the first nations people of Australia. And when that when I was born, they were under the Aborigines Protection Act. They didn't have rights. We were actually not classified as as citizens. We were classified under an act to have to return. Protected to govern our very lives. So I grew up in a life in my early life. Early childhood of fear and anxiety. And from that fear and anxiety show fear.

[00:10:33] We've all experienced fear. We all experience anxiousness. But I've decided that I must still keep moving ahead. And it's about having self-belief, self-respect, self-love, self-esteem and self-worth. And the biggest big daddy of them all or the big mama, don't be gender specific. The biggest source of that is love. Now, love, everybody's got love. And closely beside that, love is a thing called empathy and kindness. Kindness comes with that. People say, well, you know, kindness should be you know, they say, oh, it's a random act. That's how far we've come away from the village, caring relationships where kindness is now just a random act. How sad is that? Kindness is random, I think. I think to be honest, kindness should be routine. Kindness should be part of the lifestyle we live. Kindness isn't something that just occurs out of the blue. Kindness is about waking up soon as your eyes open. You have empathy for kindness, and that's developing a routine habit of practise to reignite, recharge and refocus the human capacity. Because for far too long, that capacity has not been functioning. We've all been dancing to a tune that says You're not good enough. You are not worthy. All these things that rob you of yourself capacity for worth and we'll follow it. We will follow it. And people might say bubblehead. How do you know? What do you know? I work on this thing every day, every minute, every second of my breathing life when I'm awake.

[00:12:21] As you know, I've come from a background where my parents told me never to look a white man in the eye. My parents told me if I was the naughty boy, the authorities would come and remove me away from them. So I had fear. I went to school with fear. But my human capacity through being supported by people around me to support me, to get to a place to be stronger. And that's another valuable lesson I've learned, is that we need the positive people in our lives around us to boy and boy us up. We don't need people around you that will pull you down. But I'll continue the narrative that says that you are not worthy because you are worthy. You need to talk to people who will lift and pump up your tyres. People who tell you, yes, you up perfect the way you are. And that, my friends, that is developing a mindset of self love. Once you develop this love of self, you can authentically love others until you develop that level of self love. Your love is only a partial capacity when you develop a full blown mobile, moving upwards and not downward love.

[00:13:44] You can be authentically more value and loving to the ones who care you care about most. That's your family, your friends, people close to you at the present moment. We are not running at full capacity. In my introduction, we need to. I did talk about developing and conditioning the human spirit towards a mindset that takes discipline. You need to have a discipline to do that.

[00:14:13] And folks, now we're in this lock down and we've jumped off the Ferris wheel or the treadmill or the production line, whatever you call society that we've been running a hundred miles per hour.

[00:14:24] We can now stop and then recalibrate our mindset into routine habits. So from discipline you work in, like I said, we can all work out and get these bulging biceps six packs. Perfect. Looks good. But if you haven't got the self love capacity, full capacity operating on the inside, you're not complete self love is the biggest source of energy.

[00:14:51] So you develop a mindset so that when someone does have a go at you and say, oh, you know, you're not all that. Let me tell you, it does hurt when people tell you or or marginalize you or ostracize you or push you aside or say you you know, your negatives things, the bad do. It does hurt.

[00:15:12] But when you develop a mindset to find that wound, you're still going to hurt. You find that wound and you reach in and you. And you rip it out and ripping it out or just being hurtful, but you identify it. I kind of had to rip this thing out. You rip it out. Boom. Hokkaido Herft Blue Wall. But then you'll release it. You release. Release the hurt. And then you'll continually to start reinvigorating your mindset. Art practise this for a few years now. And show on social media in the streets. I still get negativity and it does impact on you. You do feel it, but your response time to that is unbelievable. Because once you develop a mindset. So you got to like I said in my beginning, continually developing and conditioning your human spirit. We've all got one. If you haven't got one, you're not listening to me or you haven't got the potential to listen to me. So it's towards a mindset to live routine habits. But it takes discipline to do that in this lockdown situation. We can develop a discipline to the point where it just becomes like brushing your teeth. So our routine habits of practise, practicing these things to reignite, recharge and refocus your human capacity. As I said earlier, our human capacity has moved from village mentality to capitalism and telling me it's about how much money you can give someone else who's in a higher, higher position, in a higher building on a high mountain and you're working your butt off. It's about returning it. And one of the positives out of this cove 19 is and I've read this online, is that we are getting to a point where we are returning to a village mentality by getting to know my night, my neighbor's kids who now recognise me and run over for a chat and wave goodbye to me up. To be honest, that's my PI day. That was today. That was this morning. That's made my day. I don't get that rushing around trying to meet deadlines and all that. Don't get me wrong, this won't feed you. We still have to go do our shopping. But if we develop a mindset, a mindset towards those lovely virtues of self belief, Madonna, one of my favourite singers of all time. But Donna said self when she talks to young girls, she says self-belief is the only protection. You have self-belief. You had that, too. Self-respect, self-esteem, self-worth and the big daddy self-love. Once you have that as part of your armoury, you can then discover what you can be. Because at the moment, to be honest, I think people are being conditioned to be mediocre. We're conditioned to be factory workers because that's just the way the world set up to be factory work and nothing wrong with factory workers that please don't take this as an offence. All I'm saying is that if someone wants to break out of that bubble that contains people. But it's the fear. It's the fear of doing it. And that, my friends, is where fear can be a good thing. Thank you for listening. Keep safe social distance. Always peace.

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