Sometimes the communication dynamics that we grew up with are so familiar to us that we don't recognize how unhealthy they are. One of these dynamics is what I call "should-ing." You can tell that you're "should-ing" on someone when you've already thought of several reasons why this person "should" believe or behave the way that you do before you start a conversation with them.

If you feel like you might be “should-ing” on people when you’re trying to resolve something that’s bugging you and you’d like some help untangling that dynamic, you can get my help here with a free 30-minute session.