Ernest 

I swear, gentleman, thinking like a victim is a weakness and therefore an illness all men should avoid. 

The life of author Ernest Hemingway continues to intrigue people. His protagonists seemed to simply exist in the best way that they knew how; dealing with loss, the fear of loss, or its aftermath particularly after experiencing violence or the death of someone. 

In the short-story In Another Country the character called the Major noted that a man mustn’t affix himself to something that he can lose.

Some men pare their life down to the basics; only to things they believe they have some control over; they don’t want to lose something because they were tricked or duped, or worse injured or killed from a lack of foresight; like his character Jake Barnes, 

Hemingway believed that the best a man could ever do, although he was beaten, was believe that he wasn’t defeated. 

What man ever chooses to be a victim? Is that not better than to throw yourself onto a fire to the mad gods and hope the sacrifice of your life influences them to create better men of the future? Today, do all that you can to work through mistakes and any feeling of loss, shame or embarrassment. Read In Another Country by Ernest Hemingway. 

Today, take ownership and responsibility for your own needs and wants. 
Focus on helping others, when able.  
Stop blaming people.  
Practice being grateful.