The Sangha discuss the apparent allure and function of self-pity and how we can give it up to find success in the breath. #anxiety #fear #selfpity

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00:00:00 Self-pity is not a route to happiness; truth vs. pattern recognition; waking up to unwholesome thoughts 00:27:17 Rules and resistance to change; exaggeration; separating from unwholesome thoughts 00:31:20 What’s the point; giving up; relinquishing to success; taking a deep breath 00:52:21 Practice when you remember to do it; resistance and live scripts 00:56:33 Success is immediately available; long-term goals and pity parties 01:04:50 Changing focus; being distracted from distractions by the breath 01:08:29 Positive reframing of situations; noticing the success; remember, remember, remember 01:18:09 Just thoughts; using discrimination; suññata; meaninglessness 01:24:57 Practice enjoying being alive by taking a deep breath; wisdom, not commiseration 01:30:45 It’s not important 01:33:13 Open Sangha Foundation; community and friendship