Your hosts, Aleeza and Rabbi disagree with the phrasing of the question, as they believe that once someone gets married, their partner becomes their soulmate. However, they acknowledge that some people may struggle with letting go of certain non-negotiables when searching for a partner. They suggest that at least 70% of the things a person wants in a partner should align with their values and fears, including how the person triggers them or irritates them. Have caution against settling for someone who is less than what a person wants, but acknowledge that people must learn to accept some irritating habits in their partners. The key to finding one's soulmate is to have clarity and choose a partner who aligns with one's values and who one can accept and tolerate over time.Check out the video version of this show at https://www.youtube.com/@aleezabenshalom/videosDo you want expert advice on your dating and relationship questions? Head over to www.matchmakersmatchmakers.org to submit your queries and it might get featured in a future show. For more dating wisdom and advice, download a free copy of Aleeza's book, ‘Get Real, Get Married’ at our website www.MatchmakerMatchmaker.org